The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

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The Adult Chair Website

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The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

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Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

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He helps thought leaders, influencers, executives, HR professionals, recruiters, lawyers, realtors, bloggers, coaches, and authors create, launch, and produce podcasts that grow their business and impact the world.

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233: I'm Codependent. Now What? Oct 22, 2020

Show notes

"Codependency." You finally have a word to describe why you've been feeling so overwhelmed and drained your whole life. And while I'm not the biggest fan of labels, sometimes having a term to describe your experience can be the thing that makes all the pieces fall into place and the light bulb go off.

But having a "label" is only the first step. That's why one of the biggest questions I get asked, especially around codependency, is "So, what do I do about it?"

Codependency is something I understand extremely well, because it was a constant companion for the first half of my life. I know how painful it can be and the feelings of regret that can arise when you discover you're codependent. But I also know codependency doesn't have to be the end of the story. You CAN change this pattern in your life, and in this episode, I'm telling you exactly how to do that.

Listen to discover:

What codependency is
Signs of codependency
What do next to start getting healthy
5 practical steps to transform codependency

You didn't choose codependency, but starting today, you can choose to end it! Instead of feeling regret for time lost, look at today as the first day of the rest of your life. I'm here to help you take that next step into health and freedom!

"If you're human, you have things to work on. Healthy people work on their stuff." - Michelle Chalfant

"Nobody throws us in the victim chair. We choose it." - Michelle Chalfant

"You have to take care of you and your life. It's no one else's job." - Michelle Chalfant

"There's a fine line between being really caring and codependent, and when you're codependent, you can't see that line." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

30-Day Journaling Challenge

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

The Adult Chair Private Facebook Group

Green Chef

www.greenchef.com/adult80

$80 off your first box + free shipping

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/179/

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

232: Overcoming Relationship PTSD Oct 15, 2020

Show notes

We all know a bad relationship can wreak havoc on our lives, from our self-esteem to our goals and dreams. But most of us don't know that the effects of a bad relationship can linger long after the breakup. Yes, relationship PTSD is a real thing!

PTSD (or post-traumatic stress disorder) is not just reserved for the traumas of war or the "big" obvious traumas. Anyone can suffer from PTSD, and if you have lived in a toxic or abusive relationship for any amount of time, you might find yourself suffering from fear, stress or hypervigilance in relationships even after you've "moved on."

On today's show, I'm bringing back my friend, Tracy, who has shared in past episodes about her marriage with a narcissist, the process of leaving that relationship and beginning to date again. As she began exploring new relationships, she caught herself unconsciously bracing for the worst or expecting new partners to act like her ex. She had no idea she had PTSD until she and I talked about what was going on — and today, she is bravely and vulnerably sharing her experience to help shed light on this important topic.

Listen to discover:

The difference between "little t" trauma and "big T" trauma and why both can create PTSD
What PTSD is
The signs of relationship PTSD
The role of the body in healing PTSD
Practical tools and tips to overcome PTSD

Not only does Tracy help us understand what relationship PTSD is and how it can show up in our lives, but she also shares her journey of healing and what she has used to make AMAZING and fast progress in overcoming PTSD. This episode is packed with tools from The Adult Chair that will help you heal stored trauma and move forward into a brighter and happier relationship future.

"When you have fear about a past event that has already happened, that's the biggest sign to me." - Tracy

"With trauma we're stuck in the past, and the body doesn't understand that we've moved forward in time." - Michelle Chalfant

"Instead of being who we really are, we become that person who walks on eggshells to not upset them and we lose ourselves." - Michelle Chalfant

"I had to be ok with myself outside of that relationship." - Tracy

"The right person will wait for you." - Michelle

Resources

Episode #179: I'm in a Relationship with a Narcissist

Episode #199: Dating from The Adult Chair

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/199/

I'm Ok Course

https://courses.theadultchair.com/offers/CnJRzrVL/checkout

30-Day Journaling Challenge

The Adult Chair Membership

https://theadultchair.com/innerchild/

Inner Child Resource

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://www.anxietyslayer.com/

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

231: Practical Ways to Slay Anxiety with Shann Vander Leek Oct 08, 2020

Show notes

It's hard to find words for the times we are living in today. Interesting, scary, stressful, angry, strange...it feels like one minute we can have it together and the next be hijacked by anxiety. There is so much coming at us, so much to navigate and so much to sort through as we try to figure out what is true and what is not. It's A LOT for any body and brain.

Though our minds are easily distracted and swayed, the good news is that we CAN live in peace and balance even in uncertain times...and we all have a choice in the matter.

In this episode, I chat with Shann Vander Leek, host of the Anxiety Slayer podcast and an expert on how to calm anxiety no matter what is going on. She explains why we're all feeling so anxious right now and gives us hands-on steps to stop anxiety in its tracks...everything from music to getting outside to a simple gratitude practice.

Listen to discover:

Practical ways to combat anxiety even in times of uncertainty
How to get grounded quickly
How to move energy in the body
The power of "Joy Spotting"
Powerful tools like high vibe music, supplements and small daily practices that lead to big changes

Whether you're feeling anxious from the collective events of the world or walking through a tough situation in your personal life, these practices are quick, easy and free and here to help you get back to peace...from within.

"It's really best to take things day by day and hour by hour to stay as calm as you can during these uncertain times." - Shann Vander Leek

"The faster the mind goes, the more out our body we are and the more anxious we are." - Michelle Chalfant

"You cannot be joyful if you're in judgment." - Shann Vander Leek

"Every single thing to help us with anxiety is an internal job. It's about a choice that we have to make." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

Anxiety Slayer

EFT Resource

https://www.anxietyslayer.com/eft

Joy Spotting Gift

https://transformationgoddess.com/joy-spotting-gift/

Episode #142: All Things Anxiety with Shann Vander Leek

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/142-all-things-anxiety-with-shann-vander-leek/

Coffee Jazz YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bNQ9q1dUxUU

Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer (book)

https://www.amazon.com/Braiding-Sweetgrass-Indigenous-Scientific-Knowledge/dp/1571313567

The Magnesium Miracle by Carolyn Dean (book)

https://www.amazon.com/Magnesium-Miracle-Revised-Updated/dp/034549458X

The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston

https://theadultchair.com/charleston/

30-Day Journaling Challenge

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/charleston/

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

230: Cutting Through Depression Oct 01, 2020

Show notes

From the outside — and to herself — Tonya looked like she had it all together...until one day, all the "spinning plates" fell and she collapsed. That moment led Tonya to a therapist's office where she was diagnosed with depression and anxiety that had been simmering under the surface unnoticed for years. She found herself battling suicidal thoughts with stress manifesting in her body in many different ways.

Determined to not let it be the end of her story, Tonya began searching for a quick way to transform her depression on her own. She prayed for a "knife" that could quickly cut through her depression and was led to The Adult Chair podcast, which allowed her to completely transform in a matter of months. In this episode, Tonya shares her inspirational story of how she used the tools in The Adult Chair to completely shift her outlook on life and get healthy FAST (and for free!).

Listen to discover:

How Tonya cut through depression in less than a year
The tools that were most effective in working through depression
The importance of self-talk and shifting skewed thought patterns
Her journey of knowing who she is and learning to love herself

Today, Tonya is happy, healthy and on her way to becoming an Adult Chair Certified Coach. I'm so excited to see the way she helps others transform through her own experience of walking through and transforming depression and anxiety.

"The Adult Chair was my knife to cut through layers and layers of trauma." - Tonya

"One of the biggest things is to be a story buster. Something happens and we interpret it negatively, and that leads to anxiety." - Michelle Chalfant

"Accepting it doesn't mean you like it or you're never wanting change. Acceptance releases us from pushing against." - Michelle Chalfant

"The same walls we use to protect our image are the same ones that imprison us in our pain." - Tonya

Resources

The Adult Chair Workshop - Charleston

30-Day Journaling Challenge

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

229: End Self-Sabotage Sep 24, 2020

Show notes

Do you ever catch yourself setting a goal…and then doing the exact opposite?

Maybe it's deciding to get in shape…and then reaching for the chocolate cake.

Maybe it's getting into a healthy relationship…and then cheating on your partner.

We can be our own worst enemy sometimes, sabotaging ourselves and our goals. But like anything else, self-sabotage is just a part of us… and it's actually an easy one to transform!

In this episode, I'm breaking down how to get into your Adult Chair and find your self-sabotaging parts. I share a client example from one of my sessions and walk you through a process to help you find your own self-sabotaging parts so you can end it for good!!

Listen to discover:

What self-sabotage is
Why we might self-sabotage
How to look at self-sabotage through the lens of each Chair
How to use parts work to stop self-sabotage (using a client example)

I really believe you can live the life you dream of when you find and shift the subconscious parts that keep you from feeling whole and complete. That's the power of this work...for self-sabotage or any other part!

"The Adult decisions are solid, grounded, they are coming from this present place and they are clear." - Michelle Chalfant

"What we want to do, regardless of what is going on in your life, is we want to get in touch with the part that is disturbing or disrupting our goal." - Michelle Chalfant

"The goal is to bring your Adult Chair more present in your life. You're grounding more of those parts when you can merge them back into your Adult self." - Michelle Chalfant

"You really can live the life you want instead of a life run by the old subconscious programs in your Adolescent Chair. Reach for the connection to these parts, and you can transform self-sabotage and anything else that's in the way of you feeling whole and complete." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

http://www.takecareof.com

The Adult Chair Closed Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

Care/Of

Use code ADULT50 for 50% off your first order

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://apolloneuro.com/adultchair

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

228: Breakthrough Treatments for Anxiety, Depression and Stress with Dr. David Rabin Sep 17, 2020

Show notes

Buckle your seat belts, because our guest today is today is about to take you on a trip deep into the human mind — and help you understand how to naturally treat everything from depression to ADHD.

I first heard about Dr. David Rabin when my husband gave me an Apollo Neuro, a wearable sensory device that Dr. Rabin invented to naturally calm the nervous system. After digging more into his work, I knew I had to invite Dr. Rabin on the show — and wow, he might be the most genius person I've ever talked to!

Dr. David Rabin is a neuroscientist and psychiatrist who specializes in treating anxiety, depression, stress, PTSD and trauma using traditional and alternative methods like the Apollo Neuro and therapeutic psychedelics, which are showing breakthrough results in clinical trials around the country.

With a deep understanding of how the mind works, Dr. Rabin breaks down ideas like consciousness, the subconscious mind, trauma and the stress response in an easy-to-understand way. He helps us understand WHY our minds function like they do and gives us simple techniques for change — both medicinal and non-medicinal.

Listen to discover:

Breakthrough medicines for depression, anxiety and more that are currently going through clinical trials
Common misconceptions around psychedelic medicines
What "default mode" is and how to change your neural pathways (even without psychedelics)
The fastest non-psychedelic way to rewire the brain
The impact of chronic stress on the body (and how stress recovery works)
The revolutionary Apollo Neuro sensory device changing the game for stress, ADHD and more

Science today is SO exciting to me. These breakthrough, natural treatments are rooted in a deep understanding of neuroscience and human consciousness and have so much potential for healing. Dr. Rabin is a WEALTH of knowledge, and I hope you enjoy learning from him as much as I did!

"The real meaning of the term [psychedelic] is 'mind manifesting.'" - Dr. David Rabin

"It makes all of that content that's stored beneath our awareness all of the sudden accessible. We can start to look at that content in an unbiased, non-judgmental way and recognize that this is all part of us that we're ignoring or leaving behind in the background." - Dr. David Rabin

"The process of self-healing is to accept and love and be grateful for all the parts of ourselves, even and especially the parts that we've been told are not acceptable or not welcome." - Dr. David Rabin

"We have the ability to make ourselves sick by changing the way we describe ourselves and the way we think about ourselves and the way we think about our lives. Similarly, we have an equal ability to make ourselves or help ourselves heal by changing the way we think about ourselves as agents of healing." - Dr. David Rabin

Resources

Apollo Neuro (15% for Adult Chair fans!)

Dr. David Rabin Website

https://www.drdave.io/

Dr. David Rabin Twitter

https://twitter.com/daverabin

Dr. David Rabin Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/drdavidrabin/

Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies (MAPS)

https://maps.org/

ProjectCBD

https://www.projectcbd.org/

Ketamine Psychotherapy Associates

https://ketaminepsychotherapyassociates.com/

The Third Wave

https://thethirdwave.co/

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

227: The Benefits of a Meditation Practice with Sharon Salzberg Sep 10, 2020

Show notes

In 1974 when Sharon Salzberg discovered meditation, there were no meditation apps, mainstream teachers, corporate retreats or scientific studies backing the practice like we have today. Largely considered a Buddhist practice, meditation was relegated to Eastern thought and spiritual gurus. But for Sharon, who grew up in the hustle and bustle of New York City and went through a number of traumatic experiences as a child, it was a lifesaver — a tool that showed her she could take ownership of her life and transform her own suffering.

After studying in India for several years, Sharon became a meditation teacher and one of the first people to bring meditation into the mainstream, demystifying the practice with her secular and modern approach. I have followed her for years, and I am THRILLED to feature her in this episode — one that is so packed full of wisdom from this master teacher.

In this episode, Sharon shares what meditation is and what it isn't and the many wonderful things meditation can cultivate in our lives, including self-compassion, healthy ways to process pain, the ability to fall and get back up again and a profound connection with ourselves and others. She also helps to break down how to get started meditating and why everyone should be doing it.

Listen to discover:

The heart of the practice, which might surprise you
How meditation is a life exercise and skills training
Why there is no failing in meditation
The difference between a mindfulness practice and a loving kindness meditation
What causes suffering
Navigating uncertainty, fear and anger during these challenging times
And SOO much more!

Whether you've meditated for years or are considering starting, I know you will love the countless nuggets of wisdom in this episode. And if you're on the fence, I encourage you to take Sharon's advice and just try it! Don't give up after 10 minutes or look just at the practice time itself, but instead look at your life and how differently you respond to yourself, your relationships and life's challenges. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised!

"We're not trying to blank out or drop parts of our experience. We're cultivating the ability to be with our experience differently. We don't have to take every thought to heart. We don't have to follow every thought into action. We don't have to hold onto an emotion as if it's the only thing we will ever feel." - Sharon Salzberg

"It's the practice of letting go and being able to begin again." - Sharon Salzberg

"We don't all share the same degree of pain. But we all share vulnerability." - Sharon Salzberg

"You're not supposed to stop your thoughts; you're supposed to witness." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

Sharon Salzberg Website

Sharon Salzberg Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/SharonSalzberg/

Sharon Salzberg Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/sharonsalzberg/

Real Change (New Book)

https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/realchange/

Real Happiness (Sharon Salzberg Book)

https://www.amazon.com/Real-Happiness-Meditation-28-Day-Program/dp/0761159258

Faith (Sharon Salzberg Book)

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00AG0BRCE/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i3

Inner Child Resource (contains 2 free meditations)

https://theadultchair.com/innerchild

Free Meditations

https://theadultchair.com/meditations/

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/self

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

226: Healing and Repairing Relationships Sep 03, 2020

Show notes

We're all human and we all make mistakes. Unfortunately, sometimes those mistakes hurt people we love and can even create distance or damage in our most important relationships.

When a relationship is suffering, there's nothing we want more than to heal and restore it, but many of us don't know where to begin. We might have our own feelings of guilt and shame to overcome or believe the other person never wants to see or talk to us again.

But as long as we are alive, there is hope of change! Relationships can and do heal all the time, and you have the power to repair the damage done and move forward in an even stronger relationship than before.

In this episode, I'm giving you eight simple steps for healing and transforming the relationships in your life. In it, I give the example of one of my clients who was working to repair her relationship with her kids, but the advice here applies to EVERY relationship...spouse, friend, family, coworker, you name it!

Listen to discover:

Eight steps to healing a broken relationship
How to start the process of repairing the relationship if there's been a disconnect
What a true apology looks like
How to change the relationship through actions instead of words
How to forgive yourself — the most important step no matter what happens in the relationship

If you're living on this planet, chances are you've hurt someone and want to know how to make it right. Tune in to discover a practical step-by-step guide to begin the process of healing...for yourself and others!

"If someone is willing to repair a relationship and put the time and effort into repairing the relationship, I always have hope." - Michelle Chalfant

"Forgiveness allows us to get unstuck and to move on for ourselves. It's freedom!" - Michelle Chalfant

"There is great power in accepting what is...if you are not accepting where things are, you are in resistance of truth." - Michelle Chalfant

"When you stay with just today in the present, this is where all things can change...including, and most importantly, your perception of yourself." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

The Self Series

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

225: Raising Kids from The Adult Chair Aug 27, 2020

Show notes

"Help! I think I've ruined my kids' lives!"

I can't tell you how many times I've heard this from clients, listeners and even my own inner critic. No one gets a trial run at parenting, which leads to a lot of self-doubt among parents. We're all learning as we go, and it's easy to wonder if we're doing it right or if we should just go ahead and start a therapy fund for our kids to work through the issues we created.

Well, this episode is here to help you put your fears to rest and help you become the healthiest (NOT perfect) parent you can be. I'm breaking down my seven tips for healthy parenting from your Adult Chair (hint: they're more about you than your kids) and hopefully providing a little reassurance that you're normal and no, you haven't ruined your kids lives (wait until you hear the not-so-proud parenting moments I share!).

Listen to discover:

What a parent's job actually is
Seven steps to become a healthy parent
Why there's no such thing as perfect
Finding compassion for yourself and your kids
How to handle it when your kids trigger you
Setting boundaries and how to respond when your child makes a mistake

Whether you feel like you've screwed up or you're just starting out and trying to get it right, I promise that it's never too late. When YOU become healthy and live in your Adult Chair, your kids will see it modeled and become healthy too. Check out this episode to get simple, practical tips you can put into action to change the way you parent today.

"Humans learn from experience far more than they learn from words." - Michelle Chalfant

"Our job as parents or caregivers of these beautiful little beings is to be guard rails for them...kids are supposed to make mistakes while in the loving protection of your home." - Michelle Chalfant

"You can't change something without owning where you are and accepting it." - Michelle Chalfant

"Boundaries help our kids feel safe." - Michelle Chalfant

"Don't keep your kid on a one-way expressway. Let them be who they came here to become." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

The Adult Chair Membership (August Theme: Acceptance)

Dr. Shefali (Conscious Parenting)

https://drshefali.com/

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website