The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings/

TAC Gatherings

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243: Holiday Series: Healing and Repairing Relationships Dec 31, 2020

Show notes

We're all human and we all make mistakes. Unfortunately, sometimes those mistakes hurt people we love and can even create distance or damage in our most important relationships.

When a relationship is suffering, there's nothing we want more than to heal and restore it, but many of us don't know where to begin. We might have our own feelings of guilt and shame to overcome or believe the other person never wants to see or talk to us again.

But as long as we are alive, there is hope of change! Relationships can and do heal all the time, and you have the power to repair the damage done and move forward in an even stronger relationship than before.

In this episode, I'm giving you eight simple steps for healing and transforming the relationships in your life. In it, I give the example of one of my clients who was working to repair her relationship with her kids, but the advice here applies to EVERY relationship...spouse, friend, family, coworker, you name it!

Listen to discover:

Eight steps to healing a broken relationship
How to start the process of repairing the relationship if there's been a disconnect
What a true apology looks like
How to change the relationship through actions instead of words
How to forgive yourself — the most important step no matter what happens in the relationship

If you're living on this planet, chances are you've hurt someone and want to know how to make it right. Tune in to discover a practical step-by-step guide to begin the process of healing...for yourself and others!

"If someone is willing to repair a relationship and put the time and effort into repairing the relationship, I always have hope." - Michelle Chalfant

"Forgiveness allows us to get unstuck and to move on for ourselves. It's freedom!" - Michelle Chalfant

"There is great power in accepting what is...if you are not accepting where things are, you are in resistance of truth." - Michelle Chalfant

"When you stay with just today in the present, this is where all things can change...including, and most importantly, your perception of yourself." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

The Adult Chair Gatherings

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings

The Self Series

theadultchair.com/self

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

242: Holiday Series: Raising Kids from The Adult Chair Dec 24, 2020

Show notes

"Help! I think I've ruined my kids' lives!"

I can't tell you how many times I've heard this from clients, listeners and even my own inner critic. No one gets a trial run at parenting, which leads to a lot of self-doubt among parents. We're all learning as we go, and it's easy to wonder if we're doing it right or if we should just go ahead and start a therapy fund for our kids to work through the issues we created.

Well, this episode is here to help you put your fears to rest and help you become the healthiest (NOT perfect) parent you can be. I'm breaking down my seven tips for healthy parenting from your Adult Chair (hint: they're more about you than your kids) and hopefully providing a little reassurance that you're normal and no, you haven't ruined your kids lives (wait until you hear the not-so-proud parenting moments I share!).

Listen to discover:

What a parent's job actually is
Seven steps to become a healthy parent
Why there's no such thing as perfect
Finding compassion for yourself and your kids
How to handle it when your kids trigger you
Setting boundaries and how to respond when your child makes a mistake

Whether you feel like you've screwed up or you're just starting out and trying to get it right, I promise that it's never too late. When YOU become healthy and live in your Adult Chair, your kids will see it modeled and become healthy too. Check out this episode to get simple, practical tips you can put into action to change the way you parent today.

"Humans learn from experience far more than they learn from words." - Michelle Chalfant

"Our job as parents or caregivers of these beautiful little beings is to be guard rails for them...kids are supposed to make mistakes while in the loving protection of your home." - Michelle Chalfant

"You can't change something without owning where you are and accepting it." - Michelle Chalfant

"Boundaries help our kids feel safe." - Michelle Chalfant

"Don't keep your kid on a one-way expressway. Let them be who they came here to become." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

The Adult Chair Gatherings

The Adult Chair Membership (December = "I Forgive" Month)

Dr. Shefali (Conscious Parenting)

https://drshefali.com/

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/14days

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

241: Ending Anxiety and Becoming Empowered Dec 13, 2020

Show notes

Who is ready to get rid of the anxiety of 2020 and move into a more empowered 2021? I know I am! Anxiety is something all of us have felt during this crazy and difficult year. Maybe for you it's a familiar feeling that has been turned up to full blast or maybe you're finding yourself battling with anxiety for the first time in your life. It can feel consuming and hard to break out of.

But you have more power than you realize...power to transform your anxiety and move forward into a more healthy, peaceful and balanced life no matter what is going on around you. In The Adult Chair, we define anxiety as "the physical manifestation of unfelt emotions." Thoughts create emotions, emotions get pent up inside the body and then these (often unconscious) emotions rattle the nervous system. We have to get to the root of this for anxiety to change!

In this episode, I'm giving you two simple steps and five tools to do just that. These will show you how to work through your emotions, calm anxiety and walk into a more empowered future.

Listen to discover:

What really causes anxiety
The two quick and easy steps you can take to begin calming your anxiety now
Five free tools you can use at home to eliminate anxiety
How to feel empowered during and after anxiety

During the episode, I walk you through a mindfulness exercise so you can actually begin calming your nervous system and lowering your anxiety WHILE you listen! That resource is at minute mark 10:28-13:34 so you can go back and find it anytime you need it.

I hope this episode gives you straightforward action steps that you can take to get rid of anxiety and live with more freedom and a sense of power in your life!

"Becoming really, truly aware of what anxiety is is step #1 to really getting into your power." - Michelle Chalfant

"The ego says, 'Do more and you'll feel better.' But it doesn't work. It's an illusion." - Michelle Chalfant

"When we sit and just think and think and think about what's going with us, it's a treadmill. It doesn't solve anything." - Michelle Chalfant

"Taking action is what brings our power in." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

14 Days of FREE Journaling Prompts

The Adult Chair Membership (December = "I Forgive" Month)

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://www.accessconsciousness.com/

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

240: Expanding Consciousness with Dr. Dain Heer Dec 10, 2020

Show notes

What if you had far more say over your life than you realized? What if you could create the reality you want...just by changing your perspective?

As we learn more about energy and consciousness, one thing is becoming clear: our biggest limitations are the ones we put on ourselves, and with awareness, so many possibilities open up to us!

In this episode, I interview the fascinating Dr. Dain Heer about expanding consciousness and creating our reality. A practitioner of a method called Access Consciousness, Dr. Dain shares his incredible story of going from feeling unhappy and wanting to die to experiencing unbelievable peace in his life using the tools and techniques of the Access Consciousness model.

Listen to discover:

How to change the default mode network of the brain
How to shift the electromagnetic signals of negativity and judgment (and how this changes everything!)
How to clear emotions and beliefs you picked up from others
Simple tools and techniques to remove limitations
How to view this season in the world as a chance to become better

This episode ends with Dr. Dain leading us through an Access Consciousness process and let me tell you, it was powerful! I hope this episode helps open your mind and shift your perspective to see the possibilities all around — and most importantly, within — you.

"Not only do I have a level of peace that's growing in my life, but when it wants to go away, I've got a way of changing it." - Dr. Dain Heer

"98% of your thoughts, feelings and emotions are things you're picking up from other people." - Dr. Dain Heer

"Your point of view creates your reality." - Dr. Dain Heer

"Everything is energy. We've got to pay attention to our thoughts and our feelings and our emotions and our beliefs." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

Dr. Dain Heer Website

https://drdainheer.com/

Access Consciousness Website

The Clearing Statement Website

http://theclearingstatement.com/

The Adult Chair Gatherings

https://theadultchair.com/tacgatherings

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

239: Guilt from The Adult Chair Dec 03, 2020

Show notes

It can be really tough to talk about guilt. No one wants to focus on a mistake they've made, and it can be especially hard to own and admit when we've done something wrong if we're wracked with shame and beating up on ourselves.

But guilt can be a very healthy emotion when it comes from The Adult Chair — when it's a path to healing rather than self-shaming. In this episode, I walk through the ways guilt serves us and how it can be a tool to let us know when we need to repair relationships. I'm also breaking down how you can tell when guilt is irrational or unnecessary and how to release guilt once you've made amends.

Listen to discover:

The difference between shame and guilt
When guilt is healthy and when it is unhealthy
Steps for working through guilt
How to (truly) apologize and repair a relationship
How to stop ruminating on guilt and move forward
Recognizing false guilt

I see so many people who struggle with unhealthy guilt, whether they feel guilty for something they didn't do or can't forgive themselves when they've done something wrong...especially during the holidays and this pandemic. Guilt should never be all-consuming like this...and it doesn't have to be when you:

Own it
Apologize
Take action and
Let it go from your healthy Adult Chair

"There's a big difference between guilt and shame. People often fall into shame and label it as guilt." - Michelle Chalfant

"It's a choice to continue to beat up on self." - Michelle Chalfant

"It's ok if other people are upset and disappointed if you're making a choice to protect yourself and your family." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

StoryWorth

Storyworth.com/adult

$10 off your first purchase

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

238: Holiday Series: 5 Steps to Peace Nov 26, 2020

Show notes

I believe you can find peace no matter where you are in life, and I believe that because I have lived it! I spent the first part of my life living with anxiety and depression every day, and now I wake up most days in a state of peace...one that I would have never thought possible during my days of anxiety.

And while there isn't a magic pill to find peace, the good news is that we have a choice and can take small steps every day to live in greater peace. Today, I want to share my step-by-step guide to cultivating peace with you — the exact practices I use to stay in peace in my life. These steps are practical, quick and easy to practice, but they make ALL the difference.

Listen to discover:

How the ego responds to emotions (and why that creates problems for us!)
How our stories and assumptions get us out of balance
How to honor and truly feel your emotions
Why you are the only one who can take care of you
The five steps you can do today to find greater peace

Here are the five steps I share in the episode. Listen to find out exactly how to practice these, starting today!

Slow down.
Put your feet on the floor and ground.
Breathe (slowly).
Check in with yourself (body and emotions).
Journal to process what you are feeling.

Happiness is fleeting, but peace is a state of being that we can choose and sustain. I hope these five steps give you the tools you need to stay in peace and balance in any season of life.

"One of the things that we do when we have an emotion that's rising up inside of us is we speed up. Because what's happening is the ego is trying to solve the "problem," which is the emotion that we're having." - Michelle Chalfant

"When we sit in our healthy Adult Chair, we know emotions are not a bad thing. They are a beautiful gift." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

Care/Of

Takecareof.com

Use code ADULT50 for 50% off your first order

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/podcasts/153-binge-eating-with-jessi-jean/

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

237: Healthy & Balanced Eating During the Holidays with Jessi Jean Nov 19, 2020

Show notes

Food is such a beautiful part of life. It's a way of connecting with others and bringing enjoyment to your life. Unfortunately, we live in a world that makes it difficult to have a healthy relationship with food. We are met with the pressure to look a certain way, a lack of education about how to truly nourish our bodies and mixed messages that encourage both excess and deprivation — neither of which are healthy!

The holidays take this struggle with food and body image to the next level. We might miss out on a celebration or connection with our family because we're filled with guilt and fear around food or we might lose control and later regret the way we lost sight of our goals for ourselves. It's a frustrating cycle that takes all the fun out of this beautiful season!

So, in preparation for this season of feasting and celebration, I'm bringing back the lovely Jessi Jean, who is an eating psychology coach and such a grounding voice on how to have a healthy relationship with food. In this episode, Jessi talks about what a healthy relationship with food looks like, how to check in to make sure you have a balanced relationship with food and strategies for keeping that balance throughout the holidays (good news: pie is still on the menu!).

Listen to discover:

The importance of your mindset going into a holiday food scene and how to prep your mind
Tangible strategies for feeling in control of your eating (while still celebrating!)
Her "future pacing" hack for eating intentionally at the holidays
How to respond to a "food pusher" and how to pull yourself out of a binge
Questions to ask to check in on your relationship with food

As Jessi says in this episode, it's not what you do with food that's the problem; it's how you feel about it. The important thing is to stay in touch with what's important to you, tune into all your senses and truly enjoy the experience of the holidays!

"We can't control what our loved ones are going to say. We can't control what they are going to do. But we can control our reaction and our response." - Jessi Jean

"Practice being unapologetic in your decisions with food." - Jessi Jean

"You teach people how to respect you by the way that you respect yourself." - Jessi Jean

"When you take something away, there's the thinking that there's a lack and that triggers something inside us." - Michelle Chalfant

"Anything we do that is guilt and shame and fear-based...we take a good thing and make it toxic." - Jessi Jean

Resources

Episode #153: Binge Eating with Jessi Jean

Jessi Jean Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/jessijeannn

Jessi Jean The Dear Body Podcast

https://risewithmeco.com/podcast/

Jessi Jean Food Freedom Program

https://risewithmeco.com/

30-Day Journaling Challenge

https://theadultchair.com/30days/

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification

https://theadultchair.com/30days/

Stay Connected

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/michelle.chalfant

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MichelleChalfantFanPage/

The Adult Chair Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

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EPISODE CREDITS:

If you like this podcast and are thinking of creating your own, consider talking to my producer, Danny Ozment.

Find out more at https://emeraldcitypro.com

236: How to Stay in Your Adult Chair During the Holidays Nov 12, 2020

Show notes

The holidays are almost upon us...and if holidays didn't already come with stressful situations, now we get to navigate the holidays in 2020! A contentious election with families split across political lines, delicately balancing celebrations with COVID-19 concerns and the general stress of this year have the potential to add chaos to an already busy time of year.

But with The Adult Chair, you have the tools you need to stay calm, centered and balanced even in the middle of the holidays. No one can steal your joy or your power unless you let them, so in this episode, I'm giving you three essential steps to staying in your Adult Chair...all the way from the time the Thanksgiving turkey is carved until the clock strikes midnight on New Year's.

Listen to discover:

3 steps to staying healthy during the holiday season
How to refuel and recharge even on busy days
The power of acceptance in dealing with difficult people or situations
The difference between acceptance and agreement
The importance of boundaries

The key to having a healthy holiday season is to not lose yourself among the demands of others. This is why most of us struggle at the holidays — there is so much competing for our attention (plus, old, unhealthy patterns that we get pulled back into) that we lose connection with ourselves and we feel stressed, frazzled and lost.

So, this year, if you only remember one thing, focus on staying connected to yourself. Remember who you are, and you can have a really lovely holiday season.

"The moment that we lose our emotional balance and slip into story and assumption, we have lost our joy and our power and our happiness." - Michelle Chalfant

"Have hope that [someone] might change some day, but drop your expectation of them to change." - Michelle Chalfant

"The moment we can accept someone fully, the triggering becomes far less." - Michelle Chalfant

Resources

30-Day Journaling Challenge

The Adult Chair Membership (November Theme: Boundaries)

More Adult Chair

The Adult Chair Website

The Adult Chair Membership

The Adult Chair Workshop

The Adult Chair Coaching Certification