The ADHD Parenting Podcast

Latest Episodes:

17. Top 10 Tips For A Successful School Year Aug 28, 2024

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Ryan and Michael discuss their top tips for a successful school year for children with ADHD. They cover the importance of not tainting the parent-child relationship over homework, the benefits of enlisting supporters, and the significance of letting children communicate with their teachers independently. They also touch on the impact of written agendas, setting limits on Chromebook usage, and the value of realistic IEP goals. The guys emphasize the need for a good relationship with teachers and offer insights on navigating school challenges.

Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube

[00:00:00] Start

[00:02:08] Do not toxify homework relationship.

[00:04:09] Homework strategies for ADHD children.

[00:08:17] Kids' Homework Communication with Teachers.

[00:11:47] Learned helplessness and self-advocacy.

[00:15:03] Importance of school activities.

[00:17:43] Therapy oversaturation in children.

[00:19:41] Kids are anti-fragile.

[00:22:08] Incorporating agendas for homework.

[00:26:02] Managing homework distractions.

[00:29:27] Teacher training challenges.

[00:32:20] Executive functioning challenges in schools.

[00:36:53] Unstructured play at school.

[00:39:16] Non-sporty kids and alternative activities.

[00:42:29] Maintaining positive teacher relationships.

[00:45:36] ADHD kids and accountability.

[00:48:57] Resiliency and dealing with challenges.

[00:50:47] Negative teacher talk repercussions.

[12:45:22] Mental health conditions.⁠⁠⁠

16. Diagnoses, Labels, and Classifications with Dr. Katie Davis Aug 14, 2024

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The ADHD Guys welcome their very first guest on the podcast, Dr. Katie Davis, to discuss the difference between diagnoses, labels, and educational classifications. They get into the confusion surrounding these terms and explore the impact of social media on parenting kids with ADHD.

Find Katie @ www.drkatiedavis.com and her Substack

Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠

[00:00:00] Start

[00:01:49] Substack and maternity leave project.

[00:04:28] Difference between diagnosis and label.

[00:09:50] Educational Classifications and Stigma.

[00:14:10] Misdiagnosis and treatment implications.

[00:15:29] Social media pressure on parents.

[00:19:55] Labels and confusion in diagnosis.

[00:24:51] Sensory processing disorder label.

[00:29:29] Oppositional Defiance Disorder in ADHD.

[00:31:29] ADHD as a evolving spectrum.

[00:36:42] Self-diagnosing through online communities.

[00:39:07] Benefits of authoritative parenting.

[00:41:57] ADHD resources and services.

15. Concerning Trends on Neurodiverse Parenting Social Media Jul 31, 2024

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In this episode, Ryan and Michael dive into concerning trends in parenting social media, uncovering misinformation and pseudoscience that may be impacting families. They discuss topics like the rise of ADHD influencers, the dangers of self-diagnosing, and the controversial idea that screens help kids self-regulate.

[00:00:00] Start

[00:02:40] Self-diagnosing social contagion of PDA.

[00:06:20] Pathological Demand Avoidance.

[00:07:20] Self-diagnosing children with PDA.

[00:10:50] Fear mongering in parenting.

[00:16:20] Planned Ignoring for Better Behavior.

[00:17:20] Sensory-seeking behaviors in children.

[00:21:56] Misunderstandings about ADHD.

[00:24:17] Neurodiverse affirming.

[00:30:04] Lived experience vs. education.

[00:31:53] Kids do well if they can.

[00:36:50] Parental authority and discipline.

[00:37:43] Warped social relationships and parenting.⁠⁠⁠

14. The Three Areas of Executive Functioning - Home, School, Social Jul 17, 2024

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In this episode of the ADHD Guys podcast, hosts Ryan and Michael discuss the three zones of executive functioning: home, school, and social. They challenge the traditional view of executive functioning, exploring the internal skills that are often overlooked. Listen to uncover the secrets behind successful executive function development and the impact on a child's overall success.

Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠

[00:00:00] Start

[00:02:35] Academic executive function skills.

[00:05:50] Academic challenges in ADHD.

[00:07:55] Writing struggles in students with ADHD.

[00:10:16] Supporting oral storytelling for kids.

[00:14:28] Cognitive flexibility.

[00:19:16] Time management in ADHD.

[00:22:13] Social executive functioning.

[00:25:05] Perspective taking in social skills.

[00:28:36] Social executive functioning and awareness.

[00:31:59] Executive function coaching without parents.

[00:34:43] Improving behavior at home.

[00:36:25] ADHD educational content.

13. Learned Helplessness And ADHD Kids Jul 03, 2024

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In this episode, Ryan and Michael take on the complex topic of learned helplessness in children with ADHD. They explore how this behavior is developed, the impact it has on a child's independence and self-esteem, and the dangers of enabling it.

Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠

[00:00:00] Start

[00:01:24] Learned helplessness in kids with ADHD.

[00:03:48] Learned helplessness in children.

[00:08:18] Helping Kids with Learned Helplessness.

[00:11:22] Parental involvement in education.

[00:14:41] Importance of authoritative parenting.

[00:17:41] Learned helplessness in education.

[00:21:31] Enable independence with visual timelines.

[00:24:54] Emotional manipulation.

[00:27:27] Importance of self-confidence in parenting.

[00:29:48] Learned helplessness in social media.

12. How ADHD Kids Use "Noise" & How To Respond Jun 19, 2024

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Join Ryan and Mike as they talk about children's use of "noise", exploring how kids with ADHD often resort to complaining and negative talk to avoid tasks. They discuss the fine line between validating feelings and reinforcing negative behavior, touching on the importance of not giving attention to noise. How can parents navigate emotional manipulation and help their children develop resiliency? Tune in to discover the proactive strategies parents can employ to empower their children and foster growth.

Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠

[00:00:00] Start

[00:00:15] The use of noise.

[00:06:15] Overcoming negativity in sports.

[00:08:29] Overcoming child's resistance to change.

[00:11:43] Noise leading to emotional manipulation.

[00:13:26] Kids and emotional manipulation.

[00:19:21] Emotional dysregulation in parenting.

[00:22:09] Brain voice vs. brain coach.

[00:24:47] Negative effects of talk therapy.

[00:29:20] Kids and anxiety resilience.

[00:32:35] Fishy for the negatives.

[00:33:57] Holding high standards for clients.

11. Answering Listeners' Questions (#1) Jun 05, 2024

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Join Ryan & Mike for the first mailbag episode where they directly answer YOUR questions! This round they explore topics such as managing inattentiveness in social settings, handling lying behaviors, and addressing aggression towards siblings. Are screens impacting behavior? How can parents navigate grumpy phases effectively? And what does it truly mean to be neurodiversity affirming? Tune in to uncover their strategies and perspectives on these crucial issues!

Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠

[00:00:00] Start

[00:02:35] Social successes in ADHD teens.

[00:04:39] Social executive functioning tied into one.

[00:09:07] Screen time struggles and control.

[00:11:14] Unplugging screens for behavioral improvement.

[00:14:44] Controlling screen time for kids.

[00:19:07] Dealing with constant lying.

[00:22:35] Dealing with children's lies.

[00:26:35] Armchair therapist role.

[00:29:32] Dealing with aggressive behavior.

[00:33:17] ADHD and neurodiversity affirming.

[00:36:00] Independence and life skills.

[00:40:30] Neurodiversity-affirming approach.

[00:42:37] Emotional support stuffed animals.

[00:45:14] The importance of social acceptance.

[00:48:35] ADHD resources and support.

10. Social Perspective Taking May 22, 2024

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In this episode, Ryan and Michael delve into the intricate world of social perspective taking, uncovering the crucial role it plays in social interactions. They explore the misunderstood concept of social executive functioning, shedding light on why perspective taking is a foundational skill.

Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠

[00:00:00] Start

[00:01:41] Social executive functioning skills.

[00:06:11] Social attention-seeking behaviors.

[00:09:08] Social executive functioning ADHD.

[00:11:12] Lack of social perspective taking.

[00:15:37] The importance of varied experiences.

[00:17:27] Boys need real friendships.

[00:21:04] Social perspective taking.

[00:23:56] Lack of perspective in adulthood.

[00:28:32] Lack of empathy and perspective taking.

[00:32:38] The effectiveness of social skills groups.

[00:35:15] Social skills groups for ADHD.

[00:37:52] Teaching perspective taking strategies.

[00:41:42] Teaching social competency.

[00:45:07] Social perspective taking.

[00:46:34] General informational and educational purposes.

9. Step into Parental Authority to Manage ADHD Behaviors May 08, 2024

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Stop trying to partner with your kids in parenting! In this episode, Ryan and Michael delve into the concept of authoritative parenting, challenging the idea of children masking their true selves due to ADHD. They explore the importance of pushing children out of their comfort zones and discuss practical strategies for effective parenting. What are the three key parenting rules shared by a pediatric emergency doctor? How can parents model emotional regulation for their children?

Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠

[00:00:00] Start
[00:01:51] Children's role in parenting.
[00:06:16] Pushing children out of comfort.
[00:09:06] Boys and therapy resistance.
[00:11:00] Resilience and Anti-Fragility.
[00:15:54] Parenting challenges and decisions.
[00:19:18] Building self-confidence in children.
[00:21:33] Varied experiences for child development.
[00:25:41] Strategies for handling child's resistance.
[00:28:47] Clutch and cringe video segment.
[00:32:27] The negative impact of masking.
[00:36:32] ADHD masking on social media.
[00:38:08] Parenting rules and discipline.

8. ADHD Kids, Social Skills & Social Executive Functioning Apr 24, 2024

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In this episode, hosts Ryan and Michael delve into the intricate world of social executive functioning skills in children with ADHD. They explore the difference between social skills and social executive function skills, highlighting the challenges faced by kids with ADHD in social interactions. With a focus on perspective taking and cognitive flexibility, the hosts provide insights into how parents can support their children in navigating social situations. Tune in to discover the crucial role of front-loading information and the impact of social relationships on long-term success.

Find Mike @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.grownowadhd.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find Ryan @ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.adhddude.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠

00:00:00 Intro

00:01:22 Social executive function skills.

00:03:27 Differences between ADHD and autism.

00:07:15 Disorder of self-awareness in ADHD.

00:10:41 Difficulty with perspective taking.

00:15:01 Social challenges in ADHD.

00:18:38 Social executive functioning challenges.

00:22:19 Social executive function challenges.

00:24:18 Social impact of ADHD behaviors.

00:26:14 Male youth development.