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What is the Cost of Not Loving Yourself? Feb 02, 2024

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What is the Cost of Not Loving Yourself? on Talks with Dr Shafer. I read something today that posed the question, how much has loving them cost you? My immediate response internally was to reframe that question, to turn it around and ask, How much has not loving yourself cost you? Because, at the heart of it, it wasn’t loving someone else that cost us something. Love is truly free. Love is not predicated on it’s being returned. It is something you gift, without any control over what happens after you feel it or you share it. But when we love, when we share our time and energy, when we open ourselves up and become vulnerable, for that to be a healthy and nourishing endeavor, we must always be simultaneously loving ourselves, and staying true to ourselves. Holding our values, our morals up high, and honoring them, no matter what external forces surround us. It is when, in the pursuit of love or connection, that we set aside our love for ourselves, that we abandon ourselves, that love can cost us. Not because we loved someone else, but because we stopped intentionally treating ourselves in a loving way. I can’t bring the love I seek, if the relationship I model with myself is one of disrespect of my core beliefs and values.

Rewriting our Traumatic Memories, on Talks with Dr Shafer Jan 30, 2024

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Hi everyone, and welcome to Talks with Dr Shafer. I am a mom, a physician, a board certified Neurologist, a musician, publisher, and creator, on a quest to help others through storytelling. I believe in creating safe spaces to share our stories so that we can heal and grow and support one another, and create an environment where there is no need for shame, but rather a focus on meeting life’s challenges with a focus on the possibilities ahead. This is why I am so excited reading about research in the field of Neuroscience that is confirming what has been believed in the field of Psychology as well, with regards to traumatic memories. Research done at Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai and Yale University, published in Nature Neuroscience November 30, 2023, utilizing imaging studies such as functional MRI and study participants own, real life memories, is showing that in people with PTSD, memories of traumatic events are being accessed in different parts of the brain from memories that are simply sad ones and not traumatic, and that areas of the brain that are associated with our feelings of self are being accessed when the traumatic memories are accessed, rather than the typical location for memories. Is it possible to restore those traumatic memories, minus the negative ideas of self, where they belong where we typically encode our long term memories, in a region of the brain called the hippocampus? And in doing so, can we alleviate the distressing characteristics of recall of traumatic memories, compared to those of sad or other memories stored in the typical fashion in our brains?

What You Deserve, on Talks with Dr Shafer Jan 22, 2024

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From an early age, we absorb all sorts of external ideas about what we are and what we deserve. Dr Shafer discusses acknowledging our limiting beliefs, coming back to ourselves and realizing that we do deserve to be authentic and to be happy. @talkswithdrshafer Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse @LittleHouseofDreamsEntertainment. All Rights Reserved.

Short Talks with Dr Shafer: Vulnerability Jan 10, 2024

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In cooperation with We Don’t Tell Our Stories (www.wedonttellourstories), this week Dr Shafer discusses the gifts of vulnerability and how our most beautiful memories and beloved stories contain our vulnerable moments, which connect and bond us. #talkswithdrshafer #wedonttellourstories #vulnerability #growthmindset #lifecoach #empowerment

Worth More Dead Than Alive, on Short Talks with Dr Shafer Jan 10, 2024

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On Short Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer discusses how it is necessary to take note of whether you are worth more dead or alive to certain people in your life, and act accordingly to the honest assessment of that, for your fulfillment and safety. #talkswithdrshafer #empowerment #worthmoredeadthanalive #lifecoach #growthmindset #chooseyourtable #wedonttellourstories #grow

Short talks on Talks with Dr Shafer: Habits Jan 04, 2024

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If there was one thing I could make more time for in the typical medical evaluation, it would be getting to know a patient’s habits, goals, and beliefs, so that the goals and treatment plans were truly aligned with the patient’s needs and expectations. Modern medicine does not often allow for such a deep dive. Doing the work of understanding your goals, beliefs, values and habits ahead of a visit with your doctor can help make sure that you show up prepared to make a treatment plan that honors you and meets your needs.

Triggered Jan 02, 2024

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Join us for this week’s podcast with Dr Shafer, who discusses dealing with triggers with CPTSD, and a surprising breakthrough. This week’s episode is in support of We Don’t Tell Our Stories, an online community where survivors can connect ina safe, welcoming community in support of growth and healing through storytelling and community. #talkswithdrshafer #wedonttellourstories #triggers www.wedonttellourstories.com

Name it, Claim it, Reframe it Jan 02, 2024

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Short Talks with Dr Shafer: Name it, Claim it, and Reframe it. Dr Shafer discusses a real-life example of how we can apply Name it, Claim it, Reframe it in practice to lead to growth. #talkswithdrshafer

Hypervigilence in Trauma and Neurological Challenges with Dr Shafer Jan 02, 2024

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Hypervigilence: trauma & other neurological challenges change how we interact with our environment. Listen to your instincts and prioritize your safety, just as you must listen to what your body is telling you about your environment to maintain your balance. #talkswithdrshafer #wedonttellourstories #domesticviolenceawareness💜 #domesticabuseawareness

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