Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Latest Episodes:

Singles Series: Redefining Spiritual Leadership (Meet Brittany) Aug 27, 2026

Today we’re closing out our Singles Series with Brittany from deep east Texas! One of my favorite parts of getting to know Brittany was learning about her heart for God’s word and memorizing scripture, ever since she was young. We talk about the power that God’s word has had on her life and how it’s informed so much of who she is and how she chooses to live, and how growing up in a large family shaped the way she sees life, her leadership abilities, and her communication skills. It’s a conversation about faith, family, spiritual leadership, unexpected heartbreak – and personal growth – and I know you’ll be inspired by Brittany, and want to get to know her! Single guys, reach out to Brittany and say hello on Instagram or via email.

**A quick note: While we’re excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

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Relationship Skills - Pre-Order Now!

Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you

in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation

in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself

in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflic

in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant

Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts!

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of nine books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances...

Singles Series: I'm in a YES Season (Meet Paaton) Aug 25, 2026

Today I'm chatting with Paaton from South Dakota, who's in a season where she's taking a personal challenge of saying YES to as many things as she can – to unexpected dates, to new friendships, to pickleball and burn bootcamp, to new friends, to adventure, to trying new things, and everything in between. She's in a season of transition, but she's leaning into the lessons of this season and trying to steward it well. You'll love this conversation and getting to know Paaton Karel, so follow up with her and connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paaton

**A quick note: While we're excited to introduce you to the singles featured in this series, their appearance on the podcast should not be considered an endorsement or recommendation. We have not conducted background checks or extensive screening, so if you choose to connect with someone featured here, please do so thoughtfully and at your own discretion.

Singles Series: In Vegas But Not of Vegas (Meet Rob) Aug 18, 2026

Today I'm chatting with Rob, a single man from Las Vegas, who is here to let you know that the Vegas stereotype is not always what you expect. He's an entrepreneur that moved to Vegas a few years ago, and has stayed there to pursue his career and invest in his community there. He's passionate about health and wholeness - spiritually, emotionally, and physically, and he really believes that real love does exist. He wants to keep growing in every area of his life. His dating journey has been discouraging thus far, but he believes that he will find love and have a family someday. Ladies, take a minute to start a conversation with Rob by connecting with him on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/itsrobanderson

Singles Series: The “Not My Husband” List (Meet Leah) Aug 11, 2026

Today on the podcast I’m introducing you to Leah from Arizona, an amazing single woman whose life has taken an unexpected turn as a health and wellness influencer over the past few years. Leah went on a health journey of losing over 200lbs naturally and started sharing about her health journey on social media – which quickly gained attention. She’s in a season of stepping into all the things God has for her - and hopes and prays that this journey will include a husband one day as well. We also spent some time talking through her “not my husband list” – the list of things that she considers a major turn off in the world of online dating…she wants to know if her list is reasonable, or unreasonable! It’s important for us to know our NEEDS vs our PREFERENCES when it comes to dating, and this conversation will challenge you to take a second look at your list as well. You’re going to love this conversation as well as Leah Mancuso, so reach out to her and make a connection! Email: leahhopehealth@gmail.com

Singles Series: From Heartbreak to Healing (Meet Malachi) Aug 04, 2026

The Singles Series continues with Malachi from Texas, who processes the journey of carrying past pain into relationships, and how it just bleeds into the next relationship, and the next one – if you don’t take the time to heal. In trying to run from his pain, he prolonged it and caused more pain along the way that led him down a path of addiction. But the past few years have ushered him into a season of intentional healing, facing the past, and healing from his past trauma as well as his past mistakes. He’s desiring to do relationships in a way that honors God, and he’s committed to staying faithful to the calling God has on his life for ministry. Not only that, but now he leads a freedom ministry, helping others get set free as well. He’s moved from heartbreak into healing, and he’s praying for a woman who can walk with him along that journey. Ladies, give Malachi a shout out and introduce yourself by contacting him at:

Email: Malachi.av.burden@gmail.com

or Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/malachiburden_

Singles Series: I Love My People (Meet Lauren) Jul 28, 2026

The Singles Series continues with Lauren from Indiana, who is learning to make the most of singleness, while she trusts God with her hopes for marriage. She just finished her degree to become a counselor, and she has a deep love and compassion for people. Not only that, but she’s in a season of really enjoying her people – a strong community of friends that she’s built around herself to do life with. We talk about how she’s built community, and the importance role community, friendship, and intentional relationships has in her life. Then I process with her why a lack of community as a single person would actually be a red flag, as she’s looking for someone to date and match her life and values. This is a really inspiring conversation if you’re single, to encourage you to make sure you’re really making the most of life. Gentleman, reach out and connect with Lauren Creek by starting a conversation with her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/llcreek or Email: laurenc0629@gmail.com

Singles Series: Embracing Hard Conversations (Meet Devon) Jul 21, 2026

The Singles Series continues with Devon from Florida, who has learned the value of leaning into the hard conversations instead of avoiding them. Devon is pastor, coach, and single dad who has intentionally embarked on his personal healing journey, increasing in his emotional awareness, his conflict and communication, and his desire for authenticity. His past relationship history showed him his tendency to hide from hard conversations, and with the help of God and good counseling, he’s taking the opposite approach in this season of life, which is to embrace the hard conversations with the people he cares about. We talk about how conflict can lead to deeper intimacy, why it’s important to master relationship skills in dating, and what he’s looking for in a woman. Single ladies, if you love Jesus, dimples, and hoop earrings (you’ll have to listen to get that joke), send Devon Daniel a message and start a conversation:

Instagram: Instagram.com/Devon_Daniel

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/devon.d.daniel/

Email: devon.daniel8282@gmail.com

Singles Series: I’m Learning Myself (Meet Amanda) Jul 14, 2026

The Summer Lovin’ Singles Series continues today with Amanda from Florida! Amanda is in a season of “learning herself”. Her relationship with Jesus has been the solid rock of her life, and now she’s learning to discover the intricacies of her personality and who God made her to be. Growing up in a family with eight siblings, she’s embracing the beauty of discovering her true identity in Christ as an independent adult. She’s balancing ministry, creativity, fitness, and fun in this beautiful season of life that she’s working hard to savor, until God brings the right man into her life. You will love getting to know Amanda as much as I did, and you’ll be inspired to discover yourself through our conversation. Single Christian guys, drop her a line and start a conversation with Amanda Gonzalez on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandapsalmist

Singles Series: Faith Over Everything (Meet Pedro) Jul 07, 2026

It’s time for Summer Lovin’! I’m so excited for the conversations we’ll be having over the next few months with both singles and married couples about the realities of navigating relationships well. Today begins our Singles Series where I’ll be introducing you to a few Christian singles! Today I am talking to Pedro from Colorado, who is trying to navigate dating in a way that honors Christ. In this episode, Pedro shares his journey of faith, healing, and discovering healthy relationships rooted in God's love. We explore how different faith backgrounds influence our walk with God, the importance of boundaries, and the seasons of relationship growth. Give this conversation a listen, and ladies, connect with Pedro Lopez at:

Email: plopez5711@gmail.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lopez_805970

Is This Burnout or Menopause? Jun 30, 2026

Exhaustion. Fatigue. Lack of Motivation. Apathy. Overwhelm. How do you know if you’re burnt out – or if you’re just dealing with hormones? Because we know that sometimes the two can feel like the same thing! Today I’m joined by Gina, who is calling in to process whether she’s burnt out from a demanding career in full time ministry over many years without a break, or because she’s in the middle of menopause? Which one is it, and how do you know the difference? And then – what do you do about it? We process how to differentiate between the two, as well as some of the overlaps between the two – and then we end with some practical advice, suggestions, and next steps for her as she commits to getting her body back to baseline and learning to care for her soul. Listen to this entire episode, and share with someone you know who might be in the thick of it right now! And then pick up a copy of the life-changing message of Soul Care and learn what it means to bring your body back to baseline and care for your soul!

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

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DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com.

My Parents Show No Interest In Me Jun 23, 2026

What do you do when you’re in a relationship with parents – who don’t seem to be interested in a relationship with you? What do you do if they seem avoidant, distant, or uninterested? Do you continue to engage and interact, or do you back away? Today on Talk To Me, I’m joined by Debra from Canada who is wondering how to best navigate a relationship with parents that comes with pain, hurt, disappointment, and frustration. This conversation is a meaningful one for anyone who seems to have a complicated or complex relationship with their parents or their in-laws – how do you “honor” your parents when they make it very difficult? Listen to the entire episode today, and then go deeper with how to interact and engage with people by learning 31 skills that will make all your relationships stronger, by grabbing a copy of People Skills – because your relationships are only as strong as your skills!

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

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I Don’t Know What’s Next For Me Jun 16, 2026

What do you do when you’re in the middle of a season of transition – but you have no idea what’s coming up next? When you feel like you’re in the middle of point A and point B, in the middle of the waiting, the unknown? What are some tangible things we can put into place in a season of transition, to keep ourselves from doubting and from fear? Today on the show, Ross calls in to Talk To Me about this time of transition, where he feels called to move forward from his current role in ministry – while not knowing for sure what’s next. If you are waiting right now – whether it’s waiting on a job, waiting on a spouse, waiting for healing, or waiting for next steps – this episode will encourage you and equip you with the mindset you need as you wait. Here’s what you need to know while you wait. Tune in to this entire conversation and then go deeper during your season of waiting by grabbing a copy of Soul Care, and learn what it means to care for your soul while you wait.

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!

Facing My Own Prison with Jermaine Wilson Jun 09, 2026

Where is God in the middle of our pain and brokenness? Where is God in our trauma and tragedy? That’s a real question that Jermaine Wilson had to face as a young man in his 20s – facing years in prison, and months in complete isolation. Jermaine’s avoidance of his pain, led him down a life of more pain – facing prison at the age of 15. He spent over seven years in prison, much of that in complete isolation – where he was FORCED to face his pain in a way many will never have to. Where is God in the middle of our pain? Where is God when we cry out to him in our lowest moments? Does He even hear us? Does He even care? Jermaine’s story of pain and wrestling with God will challenge you, and it will bring you to tears to see the hand of God in the middle of some serious and heart-wrenching pain. You will see God show up in ways you couldn’t have imagined – and it will give you hope in your own pain. Jermaine’s story is a reminder of the pain and brokenness that’s happening every day behind closed doors – and a powerful look at the church INSIDE and what God is doing even in the most darkest places.

Friends, this on-air counseling session is especially meaningful to my heart – because my family and I are spending the weekend serving with Prison Fellowship at their Angel Tree Sports Camp, and getting a front row seat into what God is doing in some of the most difficult pain people are enduring. Consider learning more about Prison Fellowship and supporting their incredible, life-changing ministry HERE.

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My Adult Child Went No Contact Jun 02, 2026

Today on the show I’m joined by Angie, who’s greiving the fact that her adult daughter went “no contact” recently, withdrawing from family activities and isolating her daughter from seeing her grandma. Angie is grieving both the loss of her relationship with her daughter as well as her granddaughter, and wondering if there is anything she can do to move toward reconciliation and connection. I talk her through the building blocks of a safe relationship,what she can and what she can’t do, and what it means for her to work on creating a space of safety and security for her adult daughter and their relationship with one another, even through their differences. According to Angie, their differing political views have kept her daughter away, so we spend some time talking about navigating the difficult territory when there is a stark contrast of views and perspectives between two people, whether politically, theologically, or otherwise. This episode is more important in this generation and culture than it ever has been before, so take the time to listen, process, and learn alongside Angie. To go deeper in your relationships with others, grab a copy of People Skills and learn the skills you need to strengthen your relationships.

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

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I Have Major Anger Issues May 26, 2026

Today on the show I’m joined by Melissa who is calling in to get help dealing with her anger issues. She’s noticing that her anger outbursts are getting less controlled, and has noticed losing her temper in the car as well as in public – at the bank, for example. She’s not sure where these patterns of anger have come from, and she feels like she’s tried everything to try and break free from her anger with no success. We process what her anger means, what emotions it represents, and then we look for trigger patterns to trace what may be the underlying root of her anger issues. We make some serious progress in this session, as I help her track the underlying issue that’s been holding her back. If you struggle with anger, listen to this episode and start putting the pieces together in your own life so that you can respond to the signal of anger instead of simply reacting to it. Listen to this episode, and then go deeper on your own journey of healing by connecting with one of our faith-forward counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network!

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Vulnerability Means You Go First with Tim Ross May 19, 2026

Sensitive Content Disclaimer: The following conversation includes sensitive information, covering themes of abuse.
Today on the show I am joined by my friend Tim Ross for an on-air counseling session as we process the concept of vulnerability in relationships. What does it mean to be vulnerable? I guide him through the analogy of seeing vulnerability like a pool – equipped with both a shallow end and a deep end. Vulnerability means to go first, to take that first jump, and to invite people to the deep end of your life, and share authentically. He opens up about the moment that changed everything for him, where he decided that he will never keep a secret again, and his journey toward being open and honest in every part of his life. We process through both the benefits and the risks of vulnerability, how to find friends who are willing to go there, and why being open and honest is not a gender thing – it’s an invitation to all. This episode is filled with lessons to learn and things to process about your own life, and what holds you back from sharing authentically. Don’t miss this on-air session, and then go deeper with your relationships by grabbing a copy of People Skills.

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

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Healing My Mother Wounds with Kirby Kelly May 12, 2026

Today on the show I am joined by Kirby Kelly for an on-air counseling session, as we process her past trauma of growing up with alcoholic parents. In this emotional conversation, Kirby opens up specifically about her complex relationship with her mother, who continued to relapse into addiction to alcohol until she passed away unexpectedly in 2023. Kirby is now expecting her first baby girl, and a new layer of trauma and mother wounds has made its way to the surface of her life. She is dealing with a layer of new emotions as she grieves for the mother she never had, and also grieves the fact that her mom will not be here with her during this vulnerable season of her life as she herself becomes a new mom. We process the concept of God showing up to her as a good father, but what it means to ask him to fill in the gaps of our mother wounds as well. This episode is SO powerful, vulnerable, and emotional – and is so necessary for anyone who can relate to experiencing the trauma of mother wounds. Go deeper in healing from the trauma of your past, with my book Are You Really OK?

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Looking for Love in the Wrong Places with Christian Bevere May 05, 2026

Today I have an on-air session with Christian Bevere, as we processed some of the mistakes she made during her dating days, including dating from places of insecurity, as well as the unrealistic expectations she placed on what dating was “supposed to” look like or feel like in that season of life. We then talk through how unrealistic expectations continue to play out, if we’re not careful, even in marriage. We unpack how family dynamics and Christian culture can influence our perspectives on dating and relationships for both the good and bad, and how there can almost be a “desperation” for relationships, that lead us to looking for love in the wrong places. If this episode resonates with you, check out True Love Dates to learn more about becoming healthy standing alone, and attracting and engaging in healthy relationships.

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The Stress of the Sandwich Generation with Joel Muddamalle Apr 28, 2026

The stress of the sandwich generation is real, but extremely underestimated. People don’t talk about it enough. How do you navigate the burdens and blessings of caring for young children, as well as caring for your aging parents…all at once? How do you navigate that stress while you’re also trying to run a household, keep a marriage intact, provide for your family, keep your job, and manage your mental and emotional health all the while? Theologian Joel Muddamalle sits down with me to process the stress he’s dealing with in this season of life, caring for his aging parents and the many needs that come with that, all while managing a household and young children of his own. If you’re dealing with the blessings and burdens of being the sandwich generation – this episode will encourage you and give you some practical suggestions of how to manage this season well, set healthy boundaries, and care for yourself in the process – so that caring for others doesn’t end up destroying you. If you enjoyed this episode, you need to check out Soul Care and learn how to prevent burnout, and care for your own soul as you care for others.

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

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My Spouse Is Addicted to Their Phone Apr 21, 2026

Today’s caller, Ron from California, is wondering what to do about cell phone addiction, especially as it relates to your marriage and relationships. How do you handle the issue of cell phone addiction before it has a negative impact on a marriage? What are some practical ways you can bring this area to the attention of your spouse, or other loved ones who struggle with being on their phone too much without getting into an argument? To help me answer this question, I’m joined by Larinda, one of the DFCN counselors, and together we unpack the neurological and relational impacts of cell phone addiction, as well as some really practical and gentle ways you can begin bringing up the conversation and making changes in your family and in your marriage with regard to screen time addiction. If you or someone you know is distracted by their screens more often than not (and let’s get real – we ALL need to work on this) this episode is for you! Dig deeper into navigating friendships, triggers, conflict, rupture and repair by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold. Go deeper with the 60 minute RESET from screens and social media seminar HERE.

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When a Friendship Ends Without Warning with Alex Seeley Apr 14, 2026

What do you do when a long-term friendship suddenly comes to an end? How do you deal with the pain of rejection, misunderstanding, and even abandonment in close relationships — especially when you didn’t see it coming. Today on the podcast, Pastor and Author Alex Seeley opens up about a recent rupture of a close friendship that left her feeling misunderstood and abandoned. In our on-air session, we talk about healthy ways vs unhealthy ways to deal with the sudden loss of a friendship, how to know what's yours to own vs. what’s not yours to own, and where to go from here. If you’ve dealt with the loss of a friendship, this episode will be life-giving and encouraging, and it will give you loads of practical next steps as you heal and decide whether or not you can move toward repair. Dig deeper into navigating friendships, triggers, conflict, rupture and repair by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.

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People Skills Don’t Come Naturally To Me with Kendall Mariah Apr 07, 2026

What happens when you don’t fit into the social norms? What happens when the social skills that are “supposed to” feel “easy”, feel like an incredibly difficult challenge? This is a glimpse of what it’s like to live with neurodivergence, and a diagnosis that impacts your social skills, such as ADHD or Autism. Today on the show Kendall Mariah, Instagram influencer and content creator, opens up to me about the burden and struggles of living with social challenges in a relational world. She never felt like she was “normal” growing up, and she couldn’t figure out why friendships were so hard for her. It’s been a long journey for her, and one that’s not finished yet, but she’s learned how to steward her differences and see the blessings in her diagnosis – and you will too. If you or someone you know struggles with being “different” or having some type of neurodevergence, this episode is for you!

Learn more and go deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.

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How Do I Deal with Difficult or Toxic People? With Gary Thomas Mar 31, 2026

Today I’m joined by my friend and co-author of one of my books, Gary Thomas. He’s opening up about many different times in his life when he’s either felt misunderstood, slandered, or dealt with toxic interactions (some even from childhood) – and how he’s learned to respond as a person who typically leans toward peace and repair. We talk about how to set proper boundaries in relationships with different people, depending on their level of safety and health. Dig deeper into dealing with difficult people and setting healthy boundaries, by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.

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I Keep Getting Hurt By Friends Mar 24, 2026

What do you do when you keep hitting a wall trying to go deeper in friendship? Today, I’m joined by Nicole who is feeling hurt by the cycle of trying to go deeper with friends, but finding herself at a dead end. She’s feeling discouraged and wondering if it’s even possible to connect with people on the level that she’s desiring for friendship. I challenge her to dig deeper into some of her personal fears and triggers that might lie underneath the surface, particularly regarding rejection wounds, and then I give her practical steps for what to do next when you want to go deeper in friendship. If you’re struggling to find the right fit in friendships, you have to listen to this episode! We cover this and more, in today’s episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper into going deeper in your friendships and connections by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.

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Dealing with Church Trauma Mar 17, 2026

Today on the show, Kevin calls in to talk to me about dealing with church hurt and trauma. He’s a licensed counselor himself, and finds himself counseling people through church trauma issues on a regular basis. He wants to know how to best serve those who are struggling with this kind of trauma. He’s worked through his personal journey of church trauma, but as a counselor at a local church, he wants to find better tools to help those who are in the thick of it. If you find yourself walking through church trauma, this conversation will offer encouragement and next steps. Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.

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How Do I Feel Secure Standing Alone? Mar 10, 2026

Rachel calls in to the hotline today to Talk To Me about her struggles with feeling secure standing alone. After the loss of her husband, she realized she’d never really dealt with abandonment wounds from the past, and is having a really hard time feeling secure in her singleness. How can a person begin to develop that confidence, and even enjoy being alone? Is it wrong to have a desire for a relationship, and how do you know if your desire for connection is healthy or unhealthy? We cover this and more, in today’s episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.

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Do I Have Friendship Triggers? Mar 03, 2026

Can friendship bring up old wounds? Today Royneka calls in to the hotline to chat about a friendship that seems to be triggering her. How can she tell if the triggers mean she should step away from this friendship, or if the triggers are revealing something in her that needs to be healed? We unpack friendship triggers, how to deal with them, and when to confront them or step away. Knowing your triggers is an important people skill, and we talk through it in this episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.

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I’m Done Being Passive Feb 24, 2026

Today I’m joined by Michelle, who has been on a journey of saying no to passivity. Being the oldest child in the family, she has had a tendency to become more accommodating than she should. This pattern has followed her into her adulthood and developed into passivity. We talk about 3 important mindset shifts that have to happen in order to see assertiveness as the best way to take care of yourself and others. In order for relationships to be healthy, they have to be balanced! Assertiveness is an important people skill, and we talk through it on this episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.

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How Do I Trust Again? Feb 17, 2026

We are so excited to celebrate the official launch of my new book People Skills today! People Skills offers 31 transformational social skills that will strengthen your interpersonal relationships, increase your influence, and help you create meaningful interactions. Rooted in Scripture and informed by science and psychology, this roadmap offers practical lessons on empathy, clear communication, listening, body language, conflict resolution, attachment styles, and more.

As we continue this People Skills series on the show, I’m joined today by Anthony, who called in to Talk To Me About how to move past the hurt he experienced at his past church. Anthony talks through the church hurt he experienced after serving relentlessly at his last church, and after giving so much yet getting so little in return.

This episode takes an interesting turn when I start to notice this pattern of “giving too much” in Anthony’s life and history…and we start to make some really significant connections. Learning to own your role in a relationship is a really important people skill, and it’s one that we discuss in depth in this important episode of Talk To Me. If you’ve been hurt in relationships, again and again, it’s time to start looking for patterns. This episode will help you learn how. Dig deeper by ordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.

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Dealing with Wounds of Friendship Betrayal Feb 10, 2026

Will called in to Talk To Me about his journey through deep betrayal by his best friend – someone he never imagined would hurt him. How do you walk through this kind of betrayal, when you’ve been completely blindsided? Today, we talk through his story of pain and friendship betrayal, and the number one thing that helped him move into healing: forgiveness. Forgiveness is an important people skill, because it untethers you from the pain that others have caused you – so that you can be free to move forward and not stay stuck. We talk through how to do that, and why it’s necessary in this important episode of Talk To Me! Dig deeper by preordering my new book People Skills anywhere books are sold.

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No One Knew How Bad My Anxiety Was with Shawn Johnson Feb 03, 2026

In one of the most vulnerable conversations of the year, I sat down with Pastor Shawn Johnson and processed the moment that literally almost took his life -- the moment he broke mentally and emotionally. After suffering from intense and continuous panic attacks behind the scenes for many years, one day he could take it no more. Thank God he chose vulnerability in that dark and desperate moment, and reached out for help, because it was vulnerability: letting people in on his darkest moments, that ultimately saved his life. We spend some time talking about the series of events leading up to this dark season in his life, what kept him from opening up before this moment, and how he's keeping track of his mental health and well being today. If you suffer from mental illness, panic attacks, depression or anxiety -- his journey will truly challenge and inspire you to continue moving toward healing, and to learn to let people in.

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I’m a Recovering People Pleaser with Judah Smith Jan 27, 2026

What do you do when your people pleasing tendencies continue to come up again and again? How do you navigate the desire to please people, but ultimately continue to strive to please God? Today, I talk to Judah Smith about his tendencies to care too much about what people think, and the self-serving, self-protecting, selfish nature behind being a person who cares too much about what people think. We unpack the idea that ultimately, the root of people-pleasing is actually selfish -- because it's the desire to be wanted, loved, accepted, and validated -- is actually a desire to meet a deep, unquenchable need in us. If you struggle with people-pleasing, you need to tune in to this one.

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I Feel Offended by God with Alexandra Hoover Jan 20, 2026

It's hard enough to deal with feeling offended by people, but what do you do when you feel offended by God? In this on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, we talk about healthy vs. unhealthy ways to handle offense from people who hurt us deeply, and then we move into healthy ways to deal with feeling offended by God. We talk about important mindset shifts that need to happen, in order for us to be able to deal with our real and significant hurts, disappointment, and pain. How can offense bring us closer to God, rather than push us away from Him? If you've ever felt disappointed by God or by people, this conversation is just what you need

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Giving Too Much in a Relationship with Lysa Terkeurst Jan 13, 2026

We know God's heart is for a healthy marriage, but what happens when life has other plans? Today, I sit down with Lysa Terkeurst and unpack the series of events and discoveries leading up to the letting go of her marriage. She shares what she's learned along the way about boundaries, and her tendency to do more than her fair share of work in a relationship. We get to the root of the why, and what made her susceptible to this type of relational dynamic -- and ultimately, how she found healing in spite of it all.

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I Just Want To Be Accepted with Max Lucado Jan 06, 2026

"I've always just wanted to be accepted". I think many of us can relate to that sentiment. Max Lucado certainly could. Much of his life was spent feeling "on the outside" and wanting to be accepted, which led to a series of unhealthy behaviors just to try and find acceptance. Today, he vulnerably unpacks where this belief system started in his childhood, how it led him down a very unhealthy path, and how it still creeps into his life, even though he's been walking with Jesus for so many years. This is one of my favorite on-air sessions, with one of my favorite people. I know it will challenge and change you.

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I Thought Boundaries Were Selfish with Bianca Olthoff Dec 30, 2025

We’re spending the last few weeks of 2025 reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes!

Why do so many Christians struggle with boundaries?

We are taught that boundaries are wrong, sinful, or selfish — and that we should always say YES and be ready to sacrifice and serve at a moment’s notice.

But is this really the way of Jesus? Or could this lead us down a path of emotional burnout, codependency, and unhealthy relationships?

Today, we have an on-air counseling session with my friend, Bianca Olthoff. Bianca has been on the podcast before, processing pain from the past (listen here if you missed it!) but today we dive into the topic of BOUNDARIES and learning to protect your heart and calling.

Bianca shares how she lived so many years with low to no boundaries, and the damage that caused in her life and in her relationships. We talk about her childhood, and how the concept of low boundaries began to take root in her life…and followed her into adulthood.

If boundaries have been a weakness for you, you HAVE TO make time to listen to this episode from start to finish! Setting healthy boundaries is the Jesus way.

Find out how!

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Jesus Saved Me From Porn with Joshua Broome Dec 23, 2025

We talk about the struggles of life working in the adult industry, and the road that led him there for many years. Josh opens up about his absent relationship with his father, and how that impacted him in ways he didn’t even realize. We talk about the forming of identity and value, and the many things that can get in the way of believing the truth about who we are. It’s a powerful conversation about letting go of shame, and dealing with the pain of the past. If there is anything in your past that still haunts you today, I know his counseling session will inspire and challenge you to deal with your past and be freed from your past. Tune in now!

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Letting Go of Self-Sufficiency with Demi Leigh Tebow Dec 15, 2025

We're spending the last few weeks of 2025 reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes! We often talk about letting go of the negative labels that people have put on us... but what about the positive ones? What happens when our entire identity is built on the success we achieve in this world... And then we have to lay it all down? Today on the podcast, I have an on-air counseling session with Demi Leigh Tebow, as she opens up about the struggle and depression she felt laying down the crown of Miss Universe... and realizing how much her identity was found in unreliable things. We trace this "self sufficiency" back to her childhood, and unpack some of the patterns that led her to that difficult place ... and the lessons she has learned and continues to learn in placing her identity in Christ alone. There is no label bad enough or great enough worth holding onto ... except what Jesus says. This conversation was so good, and I know you are going to love it as well. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Childhood Wounds: On-Air Counseling Session with Matt Chandler Dec 08, 2025

We're spending the last few weeks of 2025 reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes! It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Matt Chandler. Pastor Matt is the senior pastor of the Village Church, and his mental health came to a head recently as he faced a concerning emotional block in his life and feelings of burnout that started to impact everything. It took an intentional shift to face his childhood wounds to begin the process of healing. Pastor Matt Chandler shares is story with us today of facing his childhood wounds. I loved his honesty and no-filter demeanor in this conversation. It was truly one of my favorite conversations and I know it will inspire you as well. I know this on-air session with him will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? Order Are You Really Ok? Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Overcoming People Pleasing with Candace Cameron Bure Dec 01, 2025

We're spending the last few weeks of 2025 reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes! Today I am joined by Candace Cameron Bure for an on-air counseling session where we process her people-pleasing tendencies, where they come from, the work she has to do in order to fight off her people-pleasing nature, and what God has been teaching her in the process. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My Radical Transformation From Darkness with Cristina Baker Nov 24, 2025

Trigger warning: This podcast discusses themes of abuse and suicidal ideation. Please use caution in considering those listening around you, as well as your own personal triggers. Cristina Baker joins me on the podcast today to share about her radical transformation from living in a world of pleasure and pain and darkness, to radically meeting Jesus. From abuse, to neglect, to living in chaos - her life was filled with significant and serious pain and suffering even from a young age. She talked about being "pulled toward the darkness" to deal with her pain, and how that darkness literally almost took her life. She was drawn to a dark lifestyle, and was headed down a path of destruction - until Jesus stepped in the most radical way. Her story will inspire and encourage you to keep praying for anyone in your life who is living in darkness. If God can do it in her life, He can do it for theirs. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Healing from Abuse with Anne Beiler (Auntie Anne) Nov 17, 2025

Trigger warning: This podcast discusses themes of abuse and suicidal ideation. Please use caution in considering those listening around you, as well as your own personal triggers. Today on the podcast, I have a powerful conversation with Anne Beiler, who spent years of her life keeping secrets that were never meant to be kept. You may recognize her name from the famous Auntie Anne's pretzels (the best pretzels on earth, by the way!). We spent time unpacking her dark history of abuse, her struggle with secrecy, and the 7 years of struggling with a secret that she was too afraid to share. Even when she felt like she was at her lowest point, and contemplated taking her life, she got the strength to take the first steps toward healing, by using her voice to speak the truth - to shine a light on the darkness, and invite God into the broken places in her life. May God help us to continue shining truth in the darkest places in our lives, and allow His healing work to begin. Tune in to this important episode. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How To Parent A Perfectionist Child Nov 10, 2025

Today I'm joined by Lindsey, a caller who is wondering how to manage her oldest daughter, who seems to be a perfectionist. Lindsey says she's not unfamiliar with this dynamic, as she used to be a perfectionist herself, and parented that way for many, many years. She's feeling guilt that she's passed that down to her daughter, and wondering how to get her out of the exhausting cycle of perfectionism. Join us for this conversation as we wrap up our Family and Parenting series! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What To Do When My Spouse Isn't Parenting Well Nov 03, 2025

What do you do when one parent isn't parenting well? Or is it that they're just not parenting the way you want them to? Is there a difference? Today I'm joined by Wenet, a caller who is struggling with her husband's parenting style, and feeling frustrated with their differences. We talk through this concept in detail, and I give her some key advice on how to manage their different parenting styles and personalities. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does My Son Play Too Many Video Games? Oct 27, 2025

How much is too much when it comes to screens and video games? Today I am joined by Nicole, a caller who wants to know if her son is playing too many video games, and if she needs to set some more rules and stricter boundaries with video games? We process her son's gaming habits, and then I give her some feedback and advice...which will probably surprise you. If you're a parent in this world navigating these topics...don't miss this episode of our Family and Parenting Series! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Do I Deal With My Kid's Big Emotions? Oct 20, 2025

Today I'm joined by Alexis, a caller who wants to know how to help her kids navigate through their many different emotions. Is there such a thing as "too much" emotional awareness? We talk through this, and I give her one of my most important questions to ask your kids when they're feeling all the feels. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raising Kids Who Love Jesus with the Jeremy and Adie Camp Oct 13, 2025

Today I'm joined by a couple you know and love, Jeremy and Adrienne Camp. Not only do they sing incredibly, but they're incredible parents, and I was so glad to have my friends join me back on the podcast yet again for this Family and Parenting series. We dig into the conversation about how to raise kids who know and love Jesus, and what it looks like to help your kids cultivate a personal relationship with God without becoming legalistic, controlling, or rigid regarding their faith. Don't miss this important topic! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotionally Healthy Families - A Conversation with my Daughter Ella! Oct 06, 2025

In honor of my new children's book, Any Day Emotions, releasing into the world today, I wanted to share this extra special BONUS episode with you. In this episode, I sit down with my eldest child, Ella for her debut conversation (in fact, the first time any of my kids have been on the podcast!) to talk about my new children's book, give you a look into our family dynamics, get a sneak peek at the many different emotions in the Fileta household, and share with you what we do to stay emotionally connected and emotionally healthy. I loved chatting with Ella about these things, and I can't wait to share a little bit of my family with you! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Pre-Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠⁠⁠⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Parenting Advice For Every Age and Stage with Levi and Jennie Lusko Oct 06, 2025

Today, my new children's book Any Day Emotions officially releases into the world! I am so excited to share this book with your family!! To celebrate, today I am joined by two of my favorite friends Levi and Jennie Lusko, pastors of Freshlife Church as we talk about family and parenting. They're in a stage of parenting right now with a child in every age and stage - elementary school, middle school, highschool, college - and one child in heaven. Losing a child tragically and unexpectedly at the tender age of 5 years old has taught the Luskos what it means to hold your kids lightly and not with a tight grip. We talk about the concept of releasing our children, as the theme of their parenting journey through the years, and how it plays out in every stage of parenting. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠⁠⁠Pre-Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠⁠⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No Topic is Off Limits with Gabe and Rebekah Lyons Sep 29, 2025

In celebration of my first children's book, Any Day Emotions, we're focusing on Family and Parenting over the next few weeks! Today I have an on-air session with Gabe and Rebekah, who've been really intentional about creating an environment where no conversation or topic is off limits for their kids. They can come to them with anything. We talk about how to navigate conversations about sex, lust, desire, and other hard topics - and how to create an environment that encourages other conversations that can sometimes feel intimidating for parents and awkward for children. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠⁠Pre-Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Parenting Makes You Better with Ben and Kirsten Watson Sep 22, 2025

In celebration of my first children's book, Any Day Emotions, we're focusing on Family and Parenting over the next few weeks! Today, I'm joined by Ben and Kirsten Watson, parents to 7 kids from ages 6-16 (literally every age and stage!). They talk about the journey of parenting, the themes they have held onto along the way, and how parenting has made them better people. Their unique life of being an NFL family, alongside their strong faith and values, has shown them that the real mission is not the success that happens outside of the house, but the ministry that happens inside the house. I loved this couple so much, and you will too. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: ⁠Pre-Order Any Day Emotions Today!⁠ The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tips to Connect With Your Kids with Chris and Tina Reed Sep 15, 2025

In celebration of my first children's book, Any Day Emotions, we're focusing on Family and Parenting over the next few weeks! I'm inviting some of my favorite people to join me for candid conversations about the ups and downs of the parenting journey. Chris and Tina are two of my favorite friends, and in our on-air session today we talk about the intentionality it takes to stay connected to your kids in different ages and stages. As parents of 3 adult children, they share some of their most important ideas, strategies, and tips for building a bond with your kids...and these people walk the talk. You're going to love them, and this special conversation about connecting with your kids! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Pre-Order Any Day Emotions Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Life is Tough with Tim Timberlake Sep 08, 2025

Tim Timberlake knows tough...because life has been tough for him in many different seasons and stages. In fact, he's in the middle of navigating one of the hardest seasons of his life. In today's on-air session, he opens up about this hard season, and we talk about how he's managing right now, as well as the practical strategies and everyday habits that are helping him battle the mental and emotional struggles of each day. The struggles of life are like resistance training for the soul, and how we lean in makes all the difference. This conversation is so inspiring, and a must-listen for anyone walking through the hardships of life. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How I Lost Over 200 lbs with Leah Hope Health Sep 01, 2025

When it comes to weight loss and physical health, everyone loves a good success story. But what if success in the journey of physical health was found from the inside-out? Today on Talk To Me, I have an on-air counseling session with Leah, one of my "real life" clients, who has found that true healing comes from the inside out. Along the journey of healing mentally and emotionally, she's also lost 250lbs completely naturally. We dive into a conversation about holistic healing, weight loss strategies, trauma work and healing, body image issues, and so much more in this enlightening session with Leah Hope Health. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Do I Heal My Mother Wounds? (with Larinda) Aug 25, 2025

I'm joined by DFCN counselor, Larinda, as we tag-team a question from Lisa from Ohio who asks: I'm an overachiever. I believe it stems from my past and particularly my mother wounds. I never felt "good enough" for my mom, who was a perfectionist. She's no longer alive, but some of these past experiences still impact me today. How do I deal with my deep mother wounds, even though my mom is no longer here? We do a deep dive into her question, and specifically what to do with mother (and/or father wounds) and how to actually begin to heal. Tune in to listen to the counselors process this important question! Book a session with Larinda Horton, M.A., LPC, today! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're Struggling with Physical Boundaries in Dating (with Bri) Aug 18, 2025

Today I'm joined by DFCN counselor, Bri, as we unpack a question all the way from Stephanie from Guatemala, who is struggling to keep physical boundaries in her relationship with her boyfriend. What do you do when you're struggling with sexual temptation, but you want to honor God in your relationship? I know Stephanie isn't alone in this question, because our episode on Physical Boundaries is one of our most downloaded episodes of all time! Tune into this important episode and we'll give you three things to keep in mind as you're trying to maintain these important boundaries in your relationship. Book a session with Bri Franklin, LMHC today! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Featured Podcast Episodes: Physical Boundaries: We're Saving Sex For Marriage How Far is Too Far? Physical Touch Before Marriage Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What If My Trauma DIDN'T Affect Me? (with Sandy) Aug 11, 2025

I'm joined by DFCN counselor, Sandy, as we take an on-air call from Christy from Alabama, who wonders if it's possible for trauma NOT to impact someone's life? Christy has been through significant trauma in her childhood, yet feels like it hasn't really had a negative impact on her life. Is that even possible? We talk with Christy about this important subject and help her get to the bottom of whether or not it's possible for trauma to leave you unscathed. If you've ever wondered about this, tune in to this important on-air session! Book a session with Sandy K. Wilda, M.A., LPC, today! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm Dating But Not Feeling It (with Allison) Aug 04, 2025

Today, I'm joined by DFCN counselor Allison, as we take an on-air call from CJ from Illinois who is struggling with low feelings in his dating relationships. How are you supposed to feel during dating, and what happens if you have "low" to "no feelings" when you're early on in a dating relationship? Do you keep going, or do you stop? How do you know if the problem is with you or with the relationship? We unpack CJ's question with him today on the Ask a Counselor series!! Book a session with Allison Fisher, M.A., LPC today! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Do I Interact with My Emotionally Unavailable Mother? (with Melissa) Jul 28, 2025

Today I'm joined by DFCN counselor Melissa, as we take an on-air call from Adrienne from Florida who asks: How should I navigate a relationship with my mom who doesn't invest/participate in a relationship with me and my sisters and hasn't in a long time. The only time she reaches out is when she needs something. She's not emotionally available with us and if we didn't reach out, we probably wouldn't hear from her at all. I've distanced myself from people who don't meet me halfway. But can I do that with my mom? What do you do when the very person that isn't showing up in a relationship is your own mother? Does setting boundaries mean cutting her out of your life, or is there a better way? We dig deep in this on-air session and help Adrienne understand how to move forward in a complicated relationship with her mother. Don't miss this conversation! Book a session with Melissa Crutchfield, M.A., LPC today! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Freedom from Porn and Lust (with Mason) Jul 21, 2025

Today begins the Ask A Counselor Series! Over the next few weeks I will be joined by counselors from my team as we tag-team questions from callers and listeners all over the country and world! Today, we answer a question from Mark from Washington, wondering how to know the difference between porn addiction and porn struggles, and if it's possible to actually live free once and for all. Tune in to hear the counselors talk about this important subject!! Book a session with Mason P. Phillips, LMFT & Life Coach today! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Porn No More Course and Workbook (Digital Download) The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Healing after Divorce with Toni Collier Jul 14, 2025

Today on the podcast, I'm joined by my friend Toni, in this on-air counseling session focused on the excruciating journey of her marriage coming to an end, and what it looked like to begin healing alone. She opens up about a really meaningful interaction we had, and how God used that conversation to convict her about her consumption of alcohol in the aftermath of her tragedy. We get a front row seat into the journey of healing after the loss of a marriage, and how you have to reveal what needs to be healed, rather than cover it up or numb it. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mid-Life Crisis: On-Air Counseling with Levi Lusko Jul 07, 2025

Today is a really special session with a very special person, because today I sit down with my friend, and my "real life client", Levi Lusko. A few years ago, Pastor Levi Lusko went through a devastating season filled with unexpected anxiety, panic attacks, and "spiraling", and it hit him hard. We sat down for a raw, real, honest conversation about that difficult season, and processed his experience and what he learned as he navigated that hard time, including the morning he picked up the phone and called me to let me know he needed help. I am beyond proud of my friend, all that he's learned, and how strong he's become over the past few years. This guy is the real deal, and I couldn't be more honored to have played a small role in his healing journey. If you're struggling in this stage of your life, please don't miss this important session with Levi Lusko. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Emotionally Disconnected Marriage: Gabe and Rebekah Lyons Jun 30, 2025

Today, I sit down for an on-air couples session with my friends Gabe and Rebekah Lyons, as we talk about the strain of feeling emotionally disconnected years into their marriage. What happens when marriage gets worse over the years, and not better? What do you do when you feel something is missing, an emotional disconnect between you and your spouse? Today we go there, and talk about what it meant for them to face the status of their relationship, and begin to connect all over again. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m A Recovering Alcoholic with Ian Cron Jun 23, 2025

Today I'm having an on-air counseling session with Ian Cron. You may have heard of him from his popular enneagram-focused podcast, but today you'll get to know him in a new way. In our conversation, today, we unpack his past history with alcoholism, what led him to that destructive place, as well as his journey to the point of relapse and then ultimate recovery. We also discuss where he is today, and what he's doing to stay healthy and free from the grip of alcohol in his life. It's a conversation filled with incredible insight and hard-fought wisdom. If you or someone you know has ever struggled with substance use, abuse, or addiction- this conversation is such a powerful, eye-opening conversation. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On-Air Counseling Session with Jinger Dugger Vuolo Jun 16, 2025

I'm having an on-air counseling session with Jinger Duggar, a member of the reality TV show family, the Duggars, whose show chronicled the everyday life of this conservative family of 19 children. She talks about growing up in a strict religious upbringing, how it impacted her life, her faith in God, and her people-pleasing tendencies. We talk about the extent of people pleasing she struggled with, and the combination of nature/nurture that shaped her life...and what it has looked like to begin to "undo" that process in this season of her life. It's a powerful conversation and one you don't want to miss. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm Struggling with My Self-Worth and Inner Critic Jun 09, 2025

Justin called in to Talk To Me, because he's struggling with his self-worth and inner critic. The negative voices are loud, and seem to be controlling his life. He has a hard time tuning them out, and wants to know where they are coming from and what he can do about it. I help him get to the roots of where this strong negative self-worth might be coming from, and how to deal with his inner critic. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Have a Hard Time Saying No Jun 02, 2025

Why is it that some people have a harder time saying no, and setting boundaries than others? Today on the podcast, Ashley calls in to talk to me about her struggle with saying no. She has a really hard time, feels guilty, and ends up feeling drained and depleted. I help her dig into the reasons why she struggles to say no, and what to do about it. If you struggle with boundaries, and saying no - this episode is for you. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Not All On Me with Haven Weits May 26, 2025

Today on Talk To Me, I'm talking with Haven who has struggled in her life to feel and believe the false narrative that it's all on her. She has to do it all. She has to save everyone, help everyone, do everything - be all things to all people. It's all on her. This mindset has caused her to struggle over the years...and she's having to unlearn some of these unhealthy narratives and get to the root of where they came from to begin with. She has to learn that it's NOT all on her. And today, I help her unpack some of these belief systems and begin to change the narrative. You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I Emotionally Healthy? May 19, 2025

Today on Talk To Me, I'm joined by Chris (and his puppy!) who is on a journey to becoming emotionally healthy but needs some direction and help. He wants to take ownership and have insight on his emotional health and he's looking for some practical next steps on what that actually means. How do you define emotional health and how do you begin the journey? I help him unpack this concept and give him some practical steps to becoming emotionally healthy!! If you've ever wondered how to become emotionally healthy, this episode is for you! You can also ⁠⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Don’t Know How To Rest May 12, 2025

Today on Talk To Me, I am joined by Russel, a businessman who doesn't know how to rest. He's starting to feel the symptoms and effects of burnout in his life, but doesn't understand why the act of resting seems so difficult for him. What do you do when you don't know how to rest? I help him get to the bottom of his struggle with rest, and offer him practical next steps to help him get to a healthier place. You can also ⁠⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠⁠, ⁠⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Forgiving The Unforgivable with Davey Blackburn May 05, 2025

Content Sensitivity: This conversation refers to themes of suicide, overdose, and other content that some may find difficult to hear. Please use caution if this may be a trigger for you. Today on Talk To Me, I'm joined by my friend Davey Blackburn. Davey's story made national headlines when his wife was brutally murdered, and he was left to pick up the pieces of his broken life. Where was God in all of this? How do you navigate this level of suffering? And what does it mean to forgive the unforgivable. This raw, honest conversation with Davey on suffering and forgiveness will help you as you navigate your own suffering and pain. You can also ⁠⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠⁠Choosing Marriage⁠⁠, ⁠⁠Are You Really OK?⁠⁠, ⁠⁠RESET⁠⁠, and ⁠⁠Soul Care⁠⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠⁠Talk To Me⁠⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ or at ⁠⁠DebraFileta.com⁠⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Have Anger Issues Apr 28, 2025

Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with Junior who is struggling with his Anger issues...he finds himself quickly getting angry as his default emotional reaction, and he wants to get to the roots of his anger issues, so he can solve this problem once and for all. If you've struggled with anger outbursts or unexpected rage, and you're hoping to try and get some control of it, this episode is for you. We talk about how to deal with anger issues, what anger really represents, and what to do about it. For anyone who struggles with anger issues, you don't want to miss this conversation on Talk To Me. You can also ⁠watch the full episode on YouTube⁠. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the ⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠ and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the ⁠Debra Fileta Counselors Network⁠. She is the bestselling author of eight books including ⁠Choosing Marriage⁠, ⁠Are You Really OK?⁠, ⁠RESET⁠, and ⁠Soul Care⁠. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show ⁠Talk To Me⁠ where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on ⁠Instagram⁠ or at ⁠DebraFileta.com⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is Harder Than I Thought It Would Be with Stephanie May Wilson Apr 22, 2025

Today on the show I talk to Stephanie May Wilson, who after having twins, and moving to another country, is processing the fact that life has been harder than she expected it to be...and she's struggling. What do you do when life feels harder than you expected, and you start to question yourself? Is it supposed to be this hard? And is it this hard for others? What do you do when your personal inadequacies start to creep in, and how do you overcome them? This powerful conversation is for anyone who feels like life is hard. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She is the bestselling author of eight books including Choosing Marriage, Are You Really OK?, RESET, and Soul Care. Debra is the host of the popular podcast and nationally syndicated radio show Talk To Me where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions with notable pastors and leaders. You may also recognize her voice from her appearances on national television and radio, including Better Together, The Kirk Cameron Show, Focus on the Family, The 700 Club, and many others. She reaches millions of people each year with the message of mental, emotional, and relational health. Connect with her on Instagram or at DebraFileta.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When is it Time to Take Medication for Depression & Anxiety? Apr 15, 2025

Content Sensitivity: This conversation refers to themes of suicide, overdose, and other content that some may find difficult to hear. Please use caution if this may be a trigger for you. Today on the show I talk to Daniel, who is asking how he should know when it's time to consider depression medication. As Christians, we believe in prayer, we believe that God can heal us, and we believe that He is able to heal...so when do we make the choice to take medication to help us with our mental health struggles? What are the signs and symptoms to know it's time to consider the help of medicine? This is SUCH AN IMPORTANT conversation for the church at large...and for anyone who is battling depression and anxiety. Tune into this episode on when to take medication for depression and anxiety. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Say Yes When I Should Say No Apr 08, 2025

Today on the show, Alison talks to me about the fact that she finds herself saying "YES" to the needs and requests of others, when she really should be saying no, because she doesn't have the bandwidth or capacity to do it, and she finds herself bitter, burnout, and resentful. Why does she have this pattern and where does it come from? Today on Talk To Me, we dig deep and find out where this pattern started and the answer will surprise you as much it surprised her because it goes way back, farther than she ever expected. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What Do I Do With These Hard Emotions? with Annie Downs Apr 01, 2025

On this episode I have an on-air counseling session with Annie F. Downs who talks to me about a difficult season she faced after facing a breakup followed by the devastating loss of her nephew followed by physical health struggles all in the same time-period, dealing with grief upon grief upon grief. We talk about all the difficult feelings that come up during hard seasons when we're feeling overwhelmed, and what on earth we're supposed to do with all the hard feelings...especially for people who have a tendency to run from the hard feelings, or to numb the hard feelings. If you're walking through any sort of heartbreak or grief or pain right now, this episode is for you. We will get through this together. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Attracted To Emotionally Unavailable Men Mar 25, 2025

What happens when you seem drawn to the same type of person, but that "type" is someone who is emotionally unavailable? Why are certain people drawn to these types of unhealthy cycles of relationships, and how do you break the cycle? Today I talk to Erica, who is tired of emotionally unavailable men, and wanting to understand her role in attracting these types of relationships. Listen into this powerful conversation! You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Healing From a Relationship I Made Up in My Mind Mar 18, 2025

Is it possible to get attached to a relationship you made up in your mind? Today Denise calls in to talk to me, because she's struggling to let go of a relationship that she has been imagining in her mind, and wanting to embrace reality. After many years of casually interacting with someone that she has feelings for, she's ready to let it go and move forward into a realistic perspective of their relationship. But she needs help...so listen along to this interesting conversation! You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Second Guessing the Break Up Mar 11, 2025

Katie comes to talk to me today about a breakup that she's second guessing. We processed why she broke up with him, and then talk through some of her regrets. What happens when you look back and realize you might have made a mistake in breaking up? Where do you go from there? How do you know whether or not it was the right decision? This episode is powerful for anyone who can relate to second-guessing yourself after a breakup. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Struggling with Singleness with Anthony O'Neal Mar 04, 2025

Today I'm joined by entrepreneur Anthony O'Neal, for this on-air counseling session where we process his feelings and desires as a successful, single, bachelor. He's building his life, his business, and his world...but he has no one to share it with, which takes a toll on him emotionally. We talk about what to do with the desires, how he's handling singleness, and so much more. It's a powerful conversation so make sure to tune in! You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

She Keeps Triggering Me with Brooke and Wiley Feb 25, 2025

On this episode of Couples Therapy I talk with Brooke and Wiley, who are struggling with his over-reactive triggers to simple questions. Wiley is tired of her questions, but Brooke feels like she can't ask anything without it turning into a fight, and she's not sure how to deal with it. We turn the tables on Wiley and help him identify why this might be the case, and how to begin identifying the root cause of his triggers. It's a powerful conversation of learning to go back and heal the past, in order to heal the present. If you get triggered by the same thing again and again, this conversation is one you don't want to miss. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: $15.00 - A Couple's Guide to Building Emotional Intimacy Through Weekly Conversations. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're In a Stressful Season with Jimmy and Irene Rollins Feb 18, 2025

On this episode of Couples Therapy, I sit down with my friends and pastors Irene and Jimmy Rollins who are in a seriously stressful season of life right now, which is starting to impact their marriage. The build-up of stress has caused new tensions, and without the old unhealthy coping skills of addiction to default to - they're having to pave a new path this time around. We talk through the stress they're facing, and how they can actually help one another - by learning what it truly means to help themselves. It's an eye-opening conversation for married couples about the possibility of developing codependency in marriage, and an important reminder about how continuing to focus on individual healing will always overflow into marriage. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: $15.00 - A Couple's Guide to Building Emotional Intimacy Through Weekly Conversations. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Do We Keep Having the SAME Fight? Feb 11, 2025

Have you ever wondered, "Why do we keep having the same fight?" Today on Talk To Me, I have an on-air Couples Therapy session with Jeff and Michelle who don't understand why, after all of their years in marriage ministry and helping other couples, they can't seem to help themselves. They keep having the same fight over and over again (and you'll be surprised when you find out what it's about). I help them get to the roots of the reason why, and give them a plan to move forward. It's a really important session to listen to if you're struggling with the same cycle of conflict over and over again. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Newlywed Struggles with Kait and JJ Tomlin Feb 04, 2025

Couples Therapy is BACK!!! And I am so excited about the couples we have joining us for the month of February for the Couples Therapy Series. So what's the newlywed stage really like for Instagram Relationship influencers Kait and JJ Tomlin? Today in this on-air session, I dig deep with Kait and JJ and talk through some of the newlywed struggles and hardships that have come in these early years of marriage and getting used to one another. We talk about the bad habits, conflict, and situations they've struggled with, and how it's been harder than they expected. But then we offer some strategies and steps to moving forward into creating the marriage they want to have. It's an important episode for those of you in the early years of marriage or who one day hope to be! And for those of you who are feeling stuck and need a little encouragement. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Reset from Body Shame Jan 28, 2025

Today we talk to Susie who has struggled with body shame for many years, and is trying to break free. Body shame can impact people of all ages and stages of life, and for Susie, it's been holding her back in many areas. She's looking for a RESET in how she views herself and freedom from self-critique and self-hatred. I help her unpack where her body shame began, and give her steps to take in order to move toward freedom in this area of her life. If you've ever struggled with body shame, this episode will help you and challenge you to do things differently! Extras: 31-Day Reset Journey: Start 2025 with a 31-Day RESET! Get ready to change your life from the inside out! This is your year to RESET!!! Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET from Too Much Screen Time Jan 21, 2025

Today on Talk to Me I am joined by Kelsey who is struggling with scrolling. She doesn't know why she defaults to scrolling on her phone when she wants to, and often needs to, do something different. We go deeper and unpack the WHY underneath her behaviors, and find that her screen time is actually a signal of something else going on underneath the surface. If you've ever struggled with too much screen time, this episode will help give you perspective and challenge you to do it differently! Extras: 31-Day Reset Journey: Start 2025 with a 31-Day RESET! Get ready to change your life from the inside out! This is your year to RESET!!! Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Reset from Unhealthy Relationships Jan 14, 2025

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having an on-air session with Felix, who wants to reset from unhealthy relationships. Felix has had a history of unhealthy relationships both before coming to Jesus, as well as after - and he wants to get to the bottom of how to do it differently. We unpack Felix's story, and trace it back to some old beliefs that he's been holding onto from childhood - that are coming up in his relationships today. You're going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well. Extras: 31-Day Reset Journey: Start 2025 with a 31-Day RESET! Get ready to change your life from the inside out! This is your year to RESET!!! Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Reset from Worst Case Scenario Thinking Jan 07, 2025

Baggage in Our Marriage with Dave & Ann Wilson Dec 31, 2024

Today on the podcast, I have a couples counseling session with two of my favorite people... Dave and Ann Wilson! I met them when I was invited to be on their program, family life today, and I immediately fell in love with their authenticity. I knew they would be a perfect fit for couples counseling session to dig into some of the hard things from their past and how their past has impacted their marriage relationship over the years. Their relationship didn't start healthy, in fact - it was rather dysfunctional- and they really had to learn the hard way. You are going to love this open, honest conversation with them about their marriage... and where they are today. Extras: 31-Day Reset Journey: Start 2025 with a 31-Day RESET! Get ready to change your life from the inside out! This is your year to RESET!!! Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Can’t I Ask For What I Need? Dec 24, 2024

Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren't. Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels. She's seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs...until it's become problematic. We unpack some of the relationships where she struggles the most, and then I ask her some questions to help her get to the root of WHY - so she can begin making changes! If you have a hard time sharing your needs, listening to this conversation will get you processing your own story and give you some steps you can take to begin making changes in this really important area of your life!! Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do I Have Dad Wounds? with Jonathan Pokluda Dec 17, 2024

Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!! In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here). In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history- and how it might be impacting what he does in the present. Today on the podcast, we jump into part two of the conversation and I ask him a few questions to consider from his past, and specifically his relationship with his dad and how that may have shaped his beliefs. Does he have father wounds that he needs to deal with? What could that look like? How may have his relationship with his father shaped his beliefs and motivations? No matter what type of past we come from, it's important for us to look back and assess exactly how our past has influenced & shaped our beliefs and our identity. Tune in to my conversation with JP Pokluda! Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I Healed Enough To Date? Dec 10, 2024

Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, "How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?" After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he's wondering how to know when he has healed... And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce? I answer him by explaining that it's a complicated question, because everyone's situation is so different... But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed. What's that one thing you ask? That's why you've got to tune into this podcast episode, I think it will help you change your perspective no matter what type of relationship you are trying to heal from in your past. We are talking about healing from past relationships today on Talk To Me! Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rejection Wounds with Alexandra Hoover Dec 03, 2024

How do you handle rejection? Worse yet, how do you handle rejection from people you hoped to be able to trust? How do you recover from feeling unwanted or unneeded? How do you keep it from becoming part of your beliefs and identity? This week on the podcast I have a powerful on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, and we start putting together the pieces of the puzzle of what caused her to have a vulnerability towards rejection. I help her identify where this came from, and how it might be impacting other parts of her life and ministry. It's a powerful and emotional conversation, and I believe it will really challenge and bless you in your personal life as well as in your ministry. Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trusting God vs. Taking Control Nov 26, 2024

Today on the podcast, I talk with Faith from Georgia! She's 37 and single so she really wants to know how to know when you are trusting God with your dating life - versus when you are taking control of the situation yourself. Do you have to sit back and wait for things to happen, or can you take initiative? And what if you are a woman, where does that leave you in the equation of making a dating relationship happen - considering some people think it's wrong for a woman to take an initiative. We talked about what waiting on God actually means and what it doesn't mean... And how to be proactive with your love life in the meantime!! It's an episode every single who is wanting to date should listen to!!!! Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Avoiding Burnout in Ministry with Tim Timberlake Nov 19, 2024

Is it possible to serve God and stay filled all at the same time? We know for a fact Jesus did it. But why is it that so many struggle to keep the "balance?" What does avoiding burnout look like for everyday pastors and leaders who are juggling family and ministry and life obligations? How do you even make time to fill up? Today I have a conversation with Pastor Tim Timberlake, who so graciously wrote the foreword for Soul Care, and we discuss what avoiding burnout looks like practically in his life today as a husband, father, and senior pastor of Celebration Church. We talk about how he prioritizes resting his body as well as his time with Jesus. You're not going to want to miss this FINAL episode of the Soul Care series. Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rest - Kayla from Oklahoma Nov 12, 2024

Rest isn't a luxury, it's a necessity. Even Jesus, who was by nature God, yet also fully man -- took the time to REST. But so many Christians struggle to believe that it's okay to slow down, pace yourself, and rest - in a culture that encourages and affirms hustle, grind, and a fast-pace. In this on-air session, I talk to Kayla about the importance of rest and we unpack her struggle to live it out in her life, as well as help her get to the roots of her why. If you struggle to rest, this episode is for you. Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tune In - Lindsi from Kentucky Nov 05, 2024

Today I am joined by Lindsi who called in to discuss her tendency to ignore or repress her emotions - until they suddenly and forcefully come up to the surface of her life. She feels like her emotions take over at that point, and she doesn't know how to control them. She gets set off by the smallest things, ends up engaging in conflict - and she is desperately trying to figure out how to navigate this unwanted cycle. We talk about the rhythm of TUNE IN and how important it is to understand and practice in order for us to engage in SOUL CARE. Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

People Pleasers - Candace Cameron Bure Oct 28, 2024

So much of how we feel and what we do, is influenced by what's going on underneath the surface of our lives. This is why we have to take the time to "tune in". We're tackling the rhythm of TUNE IN and today I am joined by Candace Cameron Bure for an on-air counseling session where we process her people-pleasing tendencies, where they come from, the work she has to do in order to fight off her people-pleasing nature, and what God has been teaching her in the process. Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Savor Life Oct 21, 2024

Do you find that it's hard to be present? Why do so many of us get stuck on the fears of the future, discontent in the here and now, or regrets from the past? Or what about the devices that we have living in our pockets, tempting us to scroll, and click, and watch - wasting our everyday moments? Today, I have an on-air session with Chris where we talk about his personal struggle to stay present, battle discontent, and enjoy the life he's been given today. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Savoring Through Suffering Oct 15, 2024

Today on talk to me, I have an on-air counseling session with the one and only Ann Voskamp. We talk about the importance of savoring life through the gift of gratitude. And then we talk about how to actually go about savoring life when you are a season of suffering and it feels really hard to savor. If you are struggling with gratitude, being present, and wanting to do a better job savoring life.... This episode is going to bless you and encourage you to savor. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Theology of SELF-CARE with Joel Muddamalle Oct 08, 2024

Is self-care biblical? So many Christians are held back from the message of practicing SOUL CARE because of misbeliefs about the theology of self-care and soul-care. They have been taught that the Christian way is "self neglect". In this special episode, I am joined by my new friend, theologian Joel Mudamalle, as we differentiate between soul care and self-care, as well as unpack some verses that help us make sense of the importance of caring for ourselves and why it matters. Tune in to this important episode on the theology of self-care! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm Awful at Boundaries in Ministry Oct 01, 2024

What happens when you are on the line of burnout on a regular basis? Today's caller, Liz from California, feels like she's constantly straddling the line of burnout. She has a really hard time with boundaries, especially with ministry. She feels like she's taught to "trust the Lord" and push through, but not actually replenish herself. She's watching people in ministry burn out left and right, and no one is teaching her a better way to do it. She's even seen her own leaders filled with stress and fatigue - but it doesn't look or feel healthy, and she doesn't believe that is "trusting the Lord". So where do you go when you're bad at boundaries and no one has taught you any better? How do you even set boundaries in ministry when there is so much to do? We talk through all of this in today's conversation. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Thought Boundaries Were Selfish - PROTECT with Bianca Olthoff Sep 23, 2024

Why do so many Christians struggle with boundaries? We are taught that boundaries are wrong, sinful, or selfish - and that we should always say YES and be ready to sacrifice and serve at a moment's notice. But is this really the way of Jesus? Or could this lead us down a path of emotional burnout, codependency, and unhealthy relationships? Today, we continue this Soul Care series with an on-air counseling session with my friend, Bianca Olthoff. Bianca has been on the podcast before, processing pain from the past (listen here if you missed it!) but today we dive into the topic of BOUNDARIES and learning to protect your heart and calling. Bianca shares how she lived so many years with low to no boundaries, and the damage that caused in her life and in her relationships. We talk about her childhood, and how the concept of low boundaries began to take root in her life...and followed her into adulthood. It's probably my favorite conversation on the Soul Care series so far, and I know it will challenge and change you!! If boundaries have been a weakness for you, you HAVE TO make time to listen to this episode from start to finish! Setting healthy boundaries is the Jesus way. Find out how! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do I Even Need Friends? Sep 17, 2024

How many friends do we actually need? And does the desire to connect change through different seasons of life, or is it a sign that something is wrong? Today as we continue the Soul Care series, I have Cindy from South Africa joining me on the hotline to talk about her recent journey with friendships, and her decreasing desire to connect with people. We process whether or not this is healthy, where it might be coming from, and how she should respond to these feelings. It's a really good conversation if you've ever wondered what friendship in adulthood should actually look and feel like. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Had Followers but Not Friends - CONNECT with Carlos Whitaker Sep 10, 2024

Isn't it amazing how we can feel so disconnected, when our culture is more "connected" than ever before through social media? Today as we continue the Soul Care series, I have an on-air counseling session with Carlos Whitaker, and we dive into his feelings of disconnect from his friends and family, ironically, during the rise of his online connections on social media. He had a lot of "followers" on social media, but not many real "friends". We talk about the roots that got him to that point in life, and unpack some things from his childhood that influenced his difficulty connecting in real life. And then we process what he's been doing to learn to connect in relationships in healthy and life-giving ways. It's such a meaningful and insightful conversation, so make sure you tune in! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Full do You Feel? + Soul Care Special Reading with Debra Fileta! Sep 02, 2024

It's book launch day for my new book Soul Care!! And I couldn't be more excited to share this message with you. It's a message about avoiding burnout, and staying filled. It looks at the 6 essential rhythms that Jesus practiced to care for his soul, and how we can do the same. I have no doubt it's a message that will change your life like it changed mine. I have been anticipating this day for so long, and it's finally here!! So, today on Talk To Me, I not only share my heart about Soul Care with you, but I also read you the first chapter myself with some fun extra side-notes as I read! I can't wait for you to get your hands on this book, and tell me what you think!! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can You Take Caring For Your Body Too Far? Aug 27, 2024

Is there such a thing as going TOO FAR with caring for our body? Though the church culture can be silent about caring for our body, the world seems to make too much of it. How do you know when you've taken it too far and then what do you do about it? Today on the podcast I have an on-air session with Emily who feels like she tends to go TOO FAR when it comes to fitness and exercise, and wants to know how to find the right balance of Soul Care as it relates to nourishing her body. I help her find the source of the "lack of balance" (it's pretty interesting!) and figure out what to do next today on Talk To Me! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Pre-Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written seven books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, RESET, and Soul Care. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why I Neglected My Body with Jasmine Mays Aug 20, 2024

We continue our Soul Care Series today starting with the rhythm of NOURISH. The functioning of our bodies impacts every other part of who we are, but it's one of the most neglected messages in the church. Today I have an on-air counseling session with fitness influencer Jasmine Mays, as we dig into her own story of learning to nourish her body after growing up in a world where she actually abused her body, without realizing it, by the way she was treating it. We talk about the impact of trauma on how we care for ourselves (or neglect ourselves) and it gets deep fast. But this conversation is so healing and life changing, and an essential part to Soul Care. Nourishing our body leads us to nourishing our souls. Give it a listen today on Talk To Me! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Pre-Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Am I Always So Burnt Out? Aug 12, 2024

Why do some people have a tendency to feel more burnt out than others? Why is it so hard to break cycles of feeling depleted and drained? Why is it so hard for some people to say no, to set boundaries, and to care for their souls? Today on the podcast, we start our brand new SOUL CARE SERIES to answer all these questions and dig into some of these important topics in anticipation of my new book! My first conversation is with Cyndi from New York who is struggling with burnout...and doesn't know why she keeps repeating patterns that she knows aren't healthy. She goes, goes, goes at work until she feels totally drained - and feels like her family gets her leftovers. The most important question is WHY....before we can practice healthy rhythms to care for our soul we have to get to the root of why we don't to begin with. I help her unpack this in this really important conversation today on Talk To Me. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Soul Care: Pre-Order Soul Care Today! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Letting Go of Self-Sufficiency with Demi-Leigh Tebow Aug 06, 2024

We often talk about letting go of the negative labels that people have put on us... but what about the positive ones? What happens when our entire identity is built on the success we achieve in this world... And then we have to lay it all down? Today on the podcast, I have an on-air counseling session with Demi Leigh Tebow, as she opens up about the struggle and depression she felt laying down the crown of Miss universe... and realizing how much her identity was found in unreliable things. We trace this "self sufficiency" back to her childhood, and unpack some of the patterns that led her to that difficult place ... and the lessons she has learned and continues to learn in placing her identity in Christ alone. There is no label bad enough or great enough worth holding onto ... except what Jesus says. This conversation was so good, and I know you are going to love it as well. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Leaving the Adult Industry with Brittni De La Mora Jul 31, 2024

How do you go from the adult industry to ministry? What are the family dynamics, identity issues, and past trauma that go into someone entering the adult industry- and then how do you find your way out? Today on the podcast, I have a vulnerable on air counseling session with Brittni De La Mora - as we talk about her transition into the adult industry, and then her transition out of it. We talk about the darkness and pain in the adult world, and how Jesus changed everything for her.... And then she opens up about what her life, marriage and family looks like today with some of her history behind her. I have loved getting to know her and I know you are going to enjoy this counseling session so much!! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Do I Find Community In A New Place? Jul 23, 2024

Making friends can feel hard, and finding community can feel even harder.... Today on the podcast, I talk to Stephanie who recently moved to a new place and is looking for ways to connect with others and form community. We often talk about the benefits of community, but we don't always discuss how to practically create that type of environment. If this is something you have been wanting to do, take a listen to this on-air session because it will challenge you and help you take some next steps in community. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Ministry is REALLY Hard with Matt Brown Jul 16, 2024

We don't often consider the toll that full time ministry takes on pastors and leaders in the church. The role of leading people spiritually also comes at a cost - and often times that cost can be great! Today on the podcast I process this with Pastor Matt Brown, and specifically what to do when Ministry life is really hard. In our on-air counseling session, we talk about what it feels like to have your life and family under a microscope, to feel judged by bystanders, and to be rejected by people you love... as well as how to respond in healthy ways to these really hard life moments. If you or someone you know is in ministry this conversation is so important! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dealing with Heartbreak After Heartbreak with Jeanine Amapola Ward Jul 09, 2024

Heartbreak after heartbreak... you might know what it feels like to have your heart broken into a million pieces. You might know what it feels like to have your heart broken by someone you thought you would be with forever. How do you come out the other side of heartbreak? How do you believe that God has good things in store for your life and for your relationships when all you feel is pain, rejection, and insecurity? What can you do to get through heartbreak and come out the other side hoping and believing for love? Today, I have an on-air counseling session with Jeanine Ampola Ward... as we process her painful story and unpack some of the deep hurts of heartbreak... and what her life looks like today. If you've ever struggled with heartbreak, don't miss this episode! It will challenge you and encourage you! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Need Help with Dating Decisions! Jul 01, 2024

Are you struggling with decisions in your dating life? Today on the podcast, I talk with Carolina, and help her navigate some questions she has regarding dating and dating relationships. She specifically wants to know how you make decisions based on your faith and what God wants for your dating life, versus making decisions based on your emotions and how you feel... and is there a difference between those two things? Is it anxiety, or is it God? Is it infatuation, or the Holy Spirit? We process through all of this and dig a little deeper today on the Podcast!! if you are making decisions in your dating life, don't miss this episode! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rejection Wounds with Alexandra Hoover Jun 24, 2024

How do you handle rejection? Worse yet, how do you handle rejection from people you hoped to be able to trust? How do you recover from feeling unwanted or unneeded? How do you keep it from becoming part of your beliefs and identity? This week on the podcast I have a powerful on-air session with Alexandra Hoover, and we start putting together the pieces of the puzzle of what caused her to have a vulnerability towards rejection. I help her identify where this came from, and how it might be impacting other parts of her life and ministry. It's a powerful and emotional conversation, and I believe it will really challenge and bless you in your personal life as well as in your ministry. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When You Feel Like You Don't Fit In with Brian Tome Jun 17, 2024

What do you do when you feel like you don't fit in? What do you do when you don't even feel like you belong in your own family? How can you take that feeling that you don't belong, and turn it into something good... Something healthy... Something purposeful and meaningful? This is exactly the subject we dive into today in this on-air counseling session with Brian Tome. He felt out of place in his own life- and for good reason. We talk about some of his hurts from the past, and how they impacted & informed his calling in the present. Let me just tell you, this man is a character... And it was a joy to chat with him and process some of these things out loud. Let me know what you think of this conversation!! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Do You Date After Loss? Jun 10, 2024

How do you date after the deep loss of a marriage? Is it possible to love again? Today I talk with Diane who is a widow that is trying to heal her heart after the death of her husband. She's having a hard time navigating the dating world now that she's single in her 60s, yet hasn't dated since her 20s!! We talk about her grief, how to heal, and when to know you're ready to date! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Baggage in Our Marriage with Dave & Ann Wilson Jun 03, 2024

Today on the podcast, I have a couples counseling session with two of my favorite people... Dave and Ann Wilson! I met them when I was invited to be on their program, family life today, and I immediately fell in love with their authenticity. I knew they would be a perfect fit for couples counseling session to dig into some of the hard things from their past and how their past has impacted their marriage relationship over the years. Their relationship didn't start healthy, in fact - it was rather dysfunctional- and they really had to learn the hard way. You are going to love this open, honest conversation with them about their marriage... and where they are today. Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Can’t I Ask For What I Need? May 27, 2024

Are you good at sharing your needs with others? Most people aren't. Today on the podcast, Erin from Texas called in to talk to me about the fact that she has a really hard time opening up with others and being vulnerable about what she really needs and how she feels. She's seen patterns in her life of putting others first and staying silent about her own needs...until it's become problematic. We unpack some of the relationships where she struggles the most, and then I ask her some questions to help her get to the root of WHY - so she can begin making changes! If you have a hard time sharing your needs, listening to this conversation will get you processing your own story and give you some steps you can take to begin making changes in this really important area of your life!! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do I Have Dad Wounds? with Jonathan Pokluda May 20, 2024

Today on the podcast, I have a favorite friend back on for a SECOND on-air session, JP Pokluda!! In our initial conversation, JP and I talk through some of his challenges with having too much on his plate and moving into a season of burnout (listen to the conversation here). In that conversation, I asked if he had ever dug into his past history- and how it might be impacting what he does in the present. Today on the podcast, we jump into part two of the conversation and I ask him a few questions to consider from his past, and specifically his relationship with his dad and how that may have shaped his beliefs. Does he have father wounds that he needs to deal with? What could that look like? How may have his relationship with his father shaped his beliefs and motivations? No matter what type of past we come from, it's important for us to look back and assess exactly how our past has influenced & shaped our beliefs and our identity. Tune in to my conversation with JP Pokluda! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Old Trauma Spills Into New Relationships May 13, 2024

Today on the podcast, I chat with Rebecca from Tennessee! She's wanting to know how to deal with past trauma, and especially how to keep it from spilling into present relationships! Relationships are like a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses.... And as much as they reveal past woundings, they also invite us to heal! When people get close enough, we can start to feel some of that relationship trauma coming back up - but that is also the best opportunity to begin the work of healing. We talk through what that looks like and exactly how to do it in today's episode! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When There Seems To Be No Hope with Katherine Wolf May 06, 2024

Today on the podcast, I am talking to the amazing Katherine Wolf. In her 20s, after the birth of her first child, Katherine experienced a devastating massive stroke that left her paralyzed and turned her life completely upside down. In this on-air counseling session, we talk through this horrific season in her life and what it means to look for hope when there seems to be no hope. We talk about medical trauma, and how she has processed these things moving forward. We talk about her childhood, and how God was preparing her for suffering, even from a young age. It is one of the most encouraging episodes, so go give it a listen! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trusting God vs. Taking Control Apr 29, 2024

Today on the podcast, I talk with Faith from Georgia! She's 37 and single so she really wants to know how to know when you are trusting God with your dating life - versus when you are taking control of the situation yourself. Do you have to sit back and wait for things to happen, or can you take initiative? And what if you are a woman, where does that leave you in the equation of making a dating relationship happen - considering some people think it's wrong for a woman to take an initiative. We talked about what waiting on God actually means and what it doesn't mean... And how to be proactive with your love life in the meantime!! It's an episode every single who is wanting to date should listen to!!!! - Connect with Faith on Instagram: @ugafaith09 Tune in now! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Struggling With Singleness: A Conversation with Mandisa Apr 25, 2024

In honor of my good friend - Mandisa, and to honor her life and legacy, I am re-airing this powerful episode on singleness. Do you feel like you're struggling with singleness? Struggling with singleness does not make you strange, or crazy, or lacking in faith. It makes you human. If you are struggling with singleness, this episode is for you. Tune in now! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Single With Married Friends & Struggling Apr 22, 2024

Today on the podcast, I talk with Lauryn, who is struggling with navigating friendships in this season of singleness. She's single, but all her friends are married... and she can sometimes feel a bit out of place. She feels as though some of her relationships are becoming unbalanced and she called in looking for some advice. We dug a little deeper into her relationship history, and found out that unbalanced relationships aren't as new as she thought they were ... they are just a little more prominent in this season. I encouraged her to take ownership of her role in relationships, addressing and communicating her needs... and learning to bring balance to her relationships. The most interesting thing about our conversation is what it revealed about her (tune in to find out!) I think this is an important conversation for everyone to listen to, especially if you've ever felt the lack of balance in your closest friendships. Tune in now! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why Do Some Traumas Take Longer To Heal Than Others? Apr 15, 2024

Today on Talk To Me, I am joined by Alexis. Her question is, "why do some traumas take longer to heal than others?" Whether you are a trauma survivor, a mental health professional, or someone who is interested in learning more about this important topic, this podcast is for you! Are you ready to talk to me? Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I Healed Enough To Date? Apr 08, 2024

Today on Talk To Me hotline, I talk to Andrew from Texas! His question is, "How do you know you are healed after a past relationship?" After a 16 year marriage ended in divorce, he's wondering how to know when he has healed... And even more specifically, when is it time to consider dating again after divorce? I answer him by explaining that it's a complicated question, because everyone's situation is so different... But if I narrow it down to one thing that I believe differentiates those who are healed from those who are unhealed. What's that one thing you ask? That's why you've got to tune into this podcast episode, I think it will help you change your perspective no matter what type of relationship you are trying to heal from in your past. We are talking about healing from past relationships today on Talk To Me! Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m An Emotional Over-Reactor Apr 01, 2024

Today I talk to Ann from Maryland, who struggles with emotionally overreacting. Due to some prior hurts and past relationships, she finds herself triggered by situations that probably have more to do with her past than they do with her present. She's having a hard time not overreacting in situations of conflict, and wants to figure out why as well as how to react and respond appropriately. She is afraid to push people away due to her emotional reactions, and she called into the hotline to get some help! I help her navigate some of these triggers, and learn to react in emotionally healthy ways instead... It's a really insightful conversation! If you've ever felt triggered in conflict, you need to listen to this episode! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Have Emotional Safety in Marriage Mar 25, 2024

Today on the podcast I talk with Benjamin from Washington. Benjamin is navigating his life post divorce... wanting to find an emotionally safe environment for himself moving forward and wondering how to do that. We spend a lot of time talking about the fact that emotional safety isn't something that you necessarily "find" as much as it is something you have to create with intentionality. I help him get to the root of some of his emotional needs, and why it took him so long to identify those needs. We chat about our own role in cultivating emotional safety, and what that looks like in a practical way in our relationships. If you want to create an emotionally healthy relationship, this episode will encourage you! Tune in to this powerful conversation! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anxiety in Dating Mar 18, 2024

Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with a woman who is struggling with some underlying anxiety about dating! She's having a hard time figuring out if the fears she's having are legitimate or not! Do I have anxiety because this dating relationship isn't the right fit or do I have anxiety because I'm just scared? And how do you know the difference? Today we talk about facing your fears, recognizing false alarms, important mindset shifts, and dealing with underlying anxiety in dating! Tune in to this powerful conversation today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I Over My Divorce? Mar 11, 2024

Am I over my divorce? Today on Talk To Me, I have a conversation with Jerrod who is wondering if he's actually moved on from the pain of his divorce. He's battling feelings of regret from the decisions he's made in his past, and feeling unable to move forward. In this emotional conversation, we unpack some of the things that he did to contribute to his marriage falling apart...including his personal sexual struggles- and then I give him steps that he can begin to take to move forward into healing. Tune in to this powerful conversation today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My Unhealthy Marriage Mar 04, 2024

Today I chat with Rebekah from Florida about how to navigate an unhealthy marriage, especially when you have children, who you are trying to raise in a healthy way! The most interesting part about my conversation with Rebekah is that by the time I was able to get to her question, things had already began to shift in her life!!! She started consuming my podcast and my books, and realized that a huge portion to creating a healthy marriage was learning how to get healthy standing alone... And she got started on her own journey of healing!! Honestly, I was so inspired and encouraged by my conversation with her... And it's a testament to the fact that when you begin to do the personal work in your life, things begin to shift in your life!!! You are not going to believe her story!! It brought tears to my eyes. For anyone who is in the middle of an unhealthy or difficult marriage, I believe this conversation will give you hope and the perspective you need to take the next steps - even if your spouse is not willing to do the same. Tune in today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Have Trust Issues: Dealing with Mental Illness & Repeated Infidelity (with Amanda and Tim) Feb 26, 2024

What happens when mental health struggles impact your relationship? On this final of couples therapy, I'm joined by Amanda and Tim. Tim has found himself struggling with trust issues, because of the difficult journey they have been on over the past few years. Amanda has struggled with infidelity in their relationship, but underneath the surface of it all she had been battling bipolar disorder. The ups and downs of their relationship have correlated to her mental health, and they have found themselves struggling to know how to move forward. this conversation is so important, because too many people failed to address the underlying mental health issues that may be having a significant impact on a relationship!! In order for the marriage to heal, the mental illness has to be healed and addressed. Today we talked through what that looks like... and steps for them moving forward. Tune into this important couples therapy session!!! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m Addicted to Affairs (with Tim and Kathy Bush) Feb 19, 2024

On today's episode of couples therapy, I talk with Tim and Kathy Bush! This couple has been through so many hard things yet has come out the other side.... From addiction to affairs to control and trauma, and everything in between, it's truly a miracle that they are together today and have a message to share. It's amazing how little we often know about marriage going into it. But like I always say, marriage is a mirror to our wounds and weaknesses... It exposes everything. But it also invites us into healing!! This couple has definitely proved that to be true. So sit back and listen to their unbelievable story!! And then ask yourself, what needs to be healed in your life and in your relationships? Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: Upcoming Events: 02/24/24 - Choosing Marriage Event, Lancaster, PA (Register Here) The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is It Boundaries? Or Is It Control? (with Cristy and Nick) Feb 13, 2024

Today we continue our MOST POPULAR series of the podcast - COUPLES THERAPY!!! I've invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories. The conversations are raw, real, and authentic...for a look into marriage you've never had before. Today's couple is struggling with boundaries with the opposite sex! After overcoming an affair, they find themselves navigating what is OK and not OK in their marriage. She's feeling insecure and jealous, and he's feeling misunderstood and controlled... And in this episode, I help them unpack their needs, fears, and struggles as they come head to head with their differences. I can't wait for you to hear this powerful episode! Tune in today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Porn Problems (with Dave and Ashley Willis) Feb 05, 2024

Today we begin the MOST POPULAR series of the podcast - COUPLES THERAPY!!! Over the next four weeks, I've invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories. The conversations are raw, real, and authentic...for a look into marriage you've never had before. Today's couple is Dave and Ashley Willis! You may recognize their name from their ministry and work at XO marriage. Today, Dave and Ashley get real about a really difficult season they navigated in their marriage including stress, porn addiction, and deceit. But I know they are not alone. I hear from so many of you that are battling porn problems in your marriage right now, and it's an epidemic we have to face head on! Their journey of healing has not stopped, and God has used their healing to impact so many other couples... I know you will be blessed by this on air session! I can't wait for you to hear this powerful episode! Tune in today! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I Blame Myself (with Faith Eury Cho) Jan 29, 2024

Today I have an on air session with Faith Eury Cho. Faith and I talk about a difficult season she went through when everything was falling apart and it seemed like she had no one to blame but herself. We talk through the concept of self-blame, where it comes from, and how we can begin to take ownership of what's ours to own vs. what's not! In this one-air counseling session we talk through the details of her childhood, her Korean-American upbringing, increasing our expectations of God, and learning to let others own what belongs to them. We process why it's so easy for her to take more blame and responsibility on her shoulders than she deserves. Listen to this powerful session with Faith, and as you do, ask yourself where you might need to "shift" some of the responsibility and ownership in your life in healthy ways. Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Admitting I Needed Help (with Havilah Cunningham) Jan 22, 2024

Today I have an on air session with Havilah Cunnington. Havilah and I talk through the crisis that happens when people of faith go through a significant mental illness! Having come from a church background where mental illness was denied or simply seen as an attack from the enemy - the solutions that were given to her were to pray more and confess more. But what happens when those solutions don't work? What happens when you are plagued by depression and anxiety? In this one-air counseling session we talk through the details of the darkest season she walked through in her life... And how she got out the other side. We affirm the importance of Jesus plus therapy and medication as needed. Listen to this powerful session with Havilah, and as you do, ask yourself where you might need to take next steps in your own healing journey. Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Enmeshed with My Unhealthy Mother (with Anh Lin) Jan 15, 2024

Today I have an on-air session with Anh Lin (@girlandtheworld). Anh opens up about her dysfunctional relationship with her mother, navigating through the hardships of enmeshment and codependency. What do you do when you feel like you are the only one who can care for your family, but you come from a dysfunctional family? How do you navigate the toxicity in a culture where boundaries and limits are frowned upon? Listen in on this heart felt counseling session with Anh - and as you do, ask yourself what role you have in your own family dynamics. Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From Porn Star to Child of God (with Joshua Broome) Jan 08, 2024

Today on Talk To Me, I'm having an on-air counseling session with Joshua Broome, a former male porn star. We talk about the struggles of life working the adult industry, and the road that led him there for many years. Josh opens up about his absent relationship with his father, and how that impacted him in ways he didn't even realize. we talk about the forming of identity and value, and the many things that can get in the way of believing the truth about who we are. It's a powerful conversation about letting go of shame, and dealing with the pain of the past. if there is anything in your past that still haunts you today, I know his counseling session will inspire and challenge you to deal with your past and be freed from your past. Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dealing with the Pressure (with Madison Prewett Troutt) Jan 02, 2024

I'm so excited to kick off the New Year with this episode of Talk To Me with Madison Prewett Troutt. In this on-air counseling session, Madison talks to me about the massive amount of pressure she faced being on national TV show called The Bachelor, but we also trace that feeling of pressure back to old feelings and experiences that have followed her the majority of her life. We talk through how to break free of the pressure, of people pleasing, and learning to get to the bottom of the unhealthy beliefs that keep us feeling under pressure. It's a powerful counseling session to tune into, especially for anyone who has ever struggled with feelings of insecurity, people pleasing tendencies, or feeling like you never measure up. Tune in now! Additional Ways To Listen: iHEART RADIO Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast Extras: The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (formerly the Love + Relationships Podcast) where she facilitates on-air authentic counseling-style sessions. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast (Trailer) Dec 27, 2023

I am excited to start 2024 with a bang! Thanks to your love and support, the podcast has grown into something that I never could have imagined and together we've been able to reach millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Thank you so much for being a part of our journey! On January 1st, The Love + Relationships Podcast is getting a little makeover to reach even more people with our message of hope! The show will be renamed, Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast. The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air authentic counseling-style sessions where we talk about how people are really doing and give my guests and callers the opportunity to talk to me as a licensed professional counselor. Each of these episodes is meant to show you that we are all on a journey of healing-mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally, together. So if you're ready... Let's talk. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tips For The First Years of Marriage: Porn, Honesty, and Forgiveness Dec 25, 2023

When today's question came in on the Love + Relationships Hotline asking about tips and tricks to managing the early years of marriage, I had to get my friends Ryan and Selena Frederick to join me in tag-teaming this one. Ryan and Selena run an amazing ministry called Fierce Marriage, and they are passionate about honoring God through the ministry of marriage. Today we talk through what it looks like to get through those early years of marriage and come out stronger on the other side. They open their heart in talking about confession, vulnerability, and intimacy in marriage through all areas of their life, and we spend some time talking about how they dealt with the intruder of pornography in their relationship. This episode will encourage and inspire you in your current marriage, and help you dream about your future marriage. Tune in to today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Wife = Happy Life (and other bad relationship advice) Dec 19, 2023

We're continuing our Marriage series with the bad relationship advice that says, "A happy wife makes a happy life". I can't even tell you how many times I've heard this bad relationship advice. It's advice that has been used as one of the most common approaches in relationships. But why is this bad relationship advice, and what advice is actually BETTER when it comes to how we approach marriage? Happy Wife Makes A Happy Life? This short, 5-minute episode will offer you a counter perspective to this common advice, and challenge you to see things differently when it comes to marriage and relationships. In this short episode, we cover: Why this is bad advice. Talk about how this advice encourages passivity. What happens when we follow this advice and why it forms one-sided relationships. How to approach marriage from a healthier perspective. Learning to adapt a mutual model in marriage. The BETTER formula to apply instead of Happy Wife = Happy Life I hope this episode encourages you and challenges you to say no to this bad relationship advice! Tune in to today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Married Couples Need A Weekly Date Night Out (and other bad relationship advice) Dec 11, 2023

"You need to go on a weekly date night outside of the house every single week to keep your marriage strong...." I remember the first time I ever heard that phrase. My husband and I were married with an infant and a toddler at the time, born only 20 short months apart, trying to survive the madness of parenting young children. I was staying at home with the kids 6 out of the 7 days a week and also working desperately to complete my very first book, and John was halfway through his extremely busy medical residency. Needless to say, we were short on cash, short on energy, and short on time. As much as I wanted to have "one date night out a week", to be completely honest with you, it was nearly impossible. Trying to find a babysitter we trusted, find time in his crazy schedule, and then fork out the minimum $100 dollars to cover dinner and a sitter just seemed way out of our "weekly" budget. Heck, I was trying to simply stay under $100/week for groceries, much less a date night. So when I heard those words coming from a trusted leader at the time, my heart kinda sank. We're doomed, I thought to myself. Over the next few years, I've actually heard that phrase many-a-time in sermons, books (not mine!), and even in one-on-one conversations. On one hand, I absolutely agree that couples need focused time carved out in their week for one another. But on the other hand, the traditional thought of a "date night out" can really amount to a lot of pressure. Especially when you're in the stage of having young children. If you want my personal opinion, the idea that you HAVE to go out every single week in order to keep your marriage strong is actually a harmful idea. The expectation for fancy date nights out, fine dining and dancing, or whatever it is you put on your list, is not only impossible (and unwise) for some people's budgets, but doesn't always work out in the daily grind of life (finding a sitter, collaborating schedules, etc). And trying to meet unrealistic expectations can leave one or both partners feeling disappointed, bitter, and discouraged in their marriage. DATE NIGHT IN NOT DATE NIGHT OUT Healthy marriages don't hinge on going out, but on going IN. Connecting with one another on a deep and meaningful way. In today's episode I'm going to tell you what it means to "go in" in your relationship. Also, after you listen to this episode, make sure to tune in to 10 Date Night In Ideas....hopefully they inspire you to take the time to go in with your relationship! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from...

Marriage Should Make You Happy (and other bad relationship advice) with Gary Thomas Dec 04, 2023

Marriage should make you happy. That's the relationship advice we hear all the time. But is it even true? How much weight do we need to put on our happiness? What is the secret ingredient to creating happiness in marriage? Does happiness create a good marriage, or does a good marriage create happiness? And what happens when you're not happy? Is it even realistic to say we're going to be happy all the time in marriage? We need to take the time to evaluate this relationship advice, and make sure we're questioning it and seeing it for what it's worth. Marriage Should Make You Happy - or Should It? Today, my friend, pastor, and bestselling author of Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas, helps me tackle this important bad relationship advice, because it's advice that's hurting many marriages. We're going to take a look at both scripture and psychology and get to the root of this bad relationship advice, and offer you a BETTER perspective - a perspective that helps us look at holiness before we look at happiness. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time = Love: A Conversation with My Husband (Part 3) Nov 27, 2023

Time is everything. In fact, it's one of the most valuable things you have to give to the people around you...because it's the only thing you can never get back. The past two episodes, we've been talking about how we protect our marriage. We started with talking about our emotions in episode 264, our interactions in episode 265, and today we're talking about our time. Time is your most valuable commodity. But with the lures of social media, iPhones in every pocket, a dozen texts and emails to answer, and a stream of Netflix at your fingertips, it's easy for your time to get away from you. But if you're not careful, you can find that your time is going to the inanimate - instead of the intimate. TIME MATTERS One of the survey results I write about in Choosing Marriage, has to do with the amount of married people who report spending their time on separate hobbies and interests. There's a lot of time getting lost on things that don't really matter, and it's having serious impact on our marriages. In this episode, we talk through some of the things we do in our marriage and how we prioritize our time for one another, because if you're not intentional - it just won't happen. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Boundaries With The Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband (Part 2) Nov 20, 2023

Boundaries with the opposite sex may not be something we're comfortable talking about, but it's a necessary conversation. It's easy to say we should have boundaries in a marriage, but then actually talking through the specifics of what those boundaries look like is something most couples don't actually sit down to do. A few years ago in the media, a political leader who talked about his boundaries with the opposite sex sparked a fury of heated conversations around the country. In fact, an article about this very topic on my blog sparked some additional controversy as well. It's clear this is a topic people don't always agree on. So what's too much when it comes to boundaries, and what is not enough? Boundaries With the Opposite Sex What does it practically look like to protect your marriage by setting boundaries, specifically with your interactions with the opposite sex? Last week on the Love + Relationships Podcast we talked through the boundaries we set with our emotions, and today on the podcast we're talking through the boundaries we set up with our interactions. The conversation you're about to hear is about the things WE have chosen to do for our marriage. You may agree with some of it, and you may not...but let's start by having the conversation, and getting comfortable talking through it. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional Connection in Marriage: A Conversation With My Husband (Part 1) Nov 14, 2023

How do you protect your marriage? What do you and your husband do to keep your marriage strong? What's your secret sauce to marriage? Are there things you do to keep connected in your marriage? Today on the podcast, we're starting a new Marriage Series by discussing a topic that's close to our hearts: How to PROTECT your marriage. PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE Specifically, we're talking about the three intruders that are known to get in the way of a healthy marriage. These intruders are quiet, and sly, and sneaky - but if you aren't careful, you'll find them starting to creep in and separate your hearts and your lives from one another. Join John and me, and get a front-row look into our relationship and the things we do to be DELIBERATE and INTENTIONAL about protecting our love and drawing closer to one another. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Perspective and Mindset Nov 06, 2023

Q: In today's episode, we're addressing a question that was sent in by one of our listeners. The listener is seeking advice on how to maintain a positive perspective despite the difficulties they're experiencing. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Bewindi Jackson, LCSW, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. Bewindi offers Christ-Centered counseling through cognitive behavioral therapy, solution-focused therapy, and motivational interviewing techniques to help individuals achieve positive change. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! BEWINDI JACKSON, LCSW- Bewindi Jackson is a licensed clinical social worker and is a part of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. Bewindi offers Christ-centered counseling through cognitive behavioral therapy, solution-focused therapy, and motivational interviewing techniques to help individuals achieve positive change. Book a session with Bewindi today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Identity Oct 30, 2023

Q: Today, we're tackling a question from a listener who acknowledges that they have negative beliefs about themselves that come from childhood and is asking where to go from that. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Larinda Horton, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. Larinda is a licensed professional counselor with over ten years of experience in therapy and 20+ years in ministry. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! LARINDA HORTON, M.A., LPC- Larinda Horton, is a licensed professional counselor with over ten years of experience in therapy and 20+ years in ministry. She is a woman who loves Jesus and out of this love desires to help bring a sense of hope and freedom to all she works with. A passionate therapist, mentor, and speaker Larinda enjoys combining her passions for mental health and ministry as an invitation into a deeper relationship with Jesus while developing healthier mindsets. She has an extensive history in providing therapy for all age groups and working with multiple diagnoses, providing spiritual guidance and mentorship, and providing teaching on mental health and spiritual topics. Her education includes a B.A. in Bible and Leadership Education, M.A. in Professional Counseling, and two years of courses towards a Ph.D. in Professional Counseling. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Conflict in Marriage Oct 24, 2023

Q: Today, we're tackling a question from a couple who is struggling with constant conflict and seeking guidance on how to navigate this season in their relationship. To help us answer this question, we are excited to welcome Allison Fisher, M.A., LPC, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. Allison Fisher is a licensed professional counselor with over a decade of experience in the counseling field and nearly two decades of experience in ministry. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! ALLISON FISHER, M.A., LPC - Allison's areas of specialty are marriage and family relationships, trauma, depression and anxiety, grief and loss, and spiritual hurt. She utilizes practical and evidence-based clinical interventions integrated with a Christ-centered perspective in her counseling approach. Allison holds a M.A. in Professional Counseling from Liberty University. She and her husband have been married for 23 years, and live in Alabama, where they have raised their two sons. Her family has recently gained a daughter, through their oldest son's marriage. She is currently navigating life with her husband and their adult children. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Boundaries Oct 17, 2023

Q: Today, we're tackling a question from a listener who wants to establish healthy boundaries around unhealthy people in their life. We are excited to welcome Danielle Day, MSSW, LCSW, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, to help us answer this question on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. Dani is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and has a Master's of Science in Social Work (MSSW) from Abilene Christian University. She also dually majored in counseling and criminal justice in her undergraduate school, Grace College and Theological Seminary. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! DANIELLE DAY, MSSW, LCSW - Dani is passionate about helping you gain the skills and knowledge you need to get unstuck. Some of the areas that Dani helps individuals address include boundaries, core beliefs, communication, healthy ways to manage emotions, overseas living, forgiveness and more. Dani is a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and has a Master's of Science in Social Work (MSSW) from Abilene Christian University. She also dually majored in counseling and criminal justice in her undergraduate school, Grace College and Theological Seminary. She has experience working in a wide variety of settings, but most recently has been worked with women requesting Bible-based Christian counseling. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Myth of The One Oct 09, 2023

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who asks if there is really one person out there for you to marry. In this episode, we are talking about The Myth of The One. We are thrilled to welcome John Perez, LMFT, a Debra Fileta Counselors Network counselor, to help us answer this question on today's episode of our "Ask a Counselor" podcast series. John has been providing counseling for over 12 years. He is working with individuals and couples to foster change and heal past wounds. John has a bachelor's degree in pastoral counseling and a master's degree in marriage and family therapy from a Christian seminary. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! JOHN PEREZ, LMFT - If you are looking to change and help heal past wounds. You found the right person to join you in your healing journey. You can expect to feel heard and supported. John has been providing counseling for over 12 years. Working with individuals and couples to foster change and heal past wounds. John has his bachelors degree in pastoral counseling and his masters degree in marriage and family therapy from a Christian seminary. John invites the Holy Spirit to his counseling work and uses an integrative approach from different psychology models. John is bilingual (Spanish/English) DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Clutter and Hoarding Oct 02, 2023

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who asks how they can do a better job decluttering their home so that they can best take care of their mental health. To best answer that question, we are being joined by Julie Lundy, EdS, NCC, LPC, a counselor from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, for today's episode of our podcast series, "Ask a Counselor". Julie encourages her clients to adopt an attitude of openness and curiosity toward their experience and spiritual journey with the aim of helping to develop greater self-compassion and self-acceptance. Both of which are important for emotional health and life satisfaction. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! JULIE LUNDY is a Licensed Professional Counselor who focuses on helping build an authentic, trusting, and connected relationship with her clients as they work toward their coaching goals. She encourages clients to adopt an attitude of openness and curiosity toward their experience and spiritual journey with the aim of helping to develop greater self-compassion and self-acceptance. Both of which are important for emotional health and life satisfaction. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Imposter Syndrome Sep 25, 2023

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener that brings up another wonderful question! Our caller today is interested in learning more about The Imposter Syndrome. She's curious to know what it is, what it means for her, and how to define it. To best answer that question, we are being joined by Lesly Moreno, LCAT, ATR-BC, a counselor from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network, for today's episode of our podcast series, "Ask a Counselor". Lesly Moreno is a bilingual (Spanish/English) creative arts therapist. She is passionate about providing clients psychoeducation about mental health and is honored to create a safe space for others to process life's demands, stressors, and trauma. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! Lesly Moreno, LCAT, ATR-BC is a bilingual (Spanish/English) creative arts therapist. She is passionate about providing clients psychoeducation about mental health, and honored to create a safe space for others to process life's demands, stressors, trauma and even celebrate milestones. She is also passionate about trauma informed care. Her strengths as a therapist include being an active listener, providing unconditional positive care, empathy, compassion, gentleness, resourcefulness. She loves to guide and lead orders to help them discover who God has created them to be and be their encouragement as they achieve their social emotional health goals. As a first generational Hispanic professional, she has a keen interest in advocating for migrant families and helping them navigate life transitions in a new world. Lesly believes in the power of a safe space that helps cultivate healthy singles in order for our communities to have healthy families, which lead to healthy churches and a healthy world. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Understanding Attachment Styles Sep 18, 2023

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener that brings up a great question! What on earth is attachment style? What is it, why does it matter, and how does it affect our lives? We are being joined by Melissa Crutchfield, M.A., LPC, one of the counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network for today's episode of our podcast series "Ask a Counselor". Melissa has worked for eleven years with individuals from a variety of countries and cultures around the world. She encourages people to grow emotionally, spiritually, and relationally by discovering how their unique story has formed them into the person they are today. Tune in now for today's discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! MELISSA CRUTCHFIELD, M.A., LPC has worked in the "people business" for eleven years with individuals from a variety of countries and cultures around the world. She encourages people to grow emotionally, spiritually, and relationally by discovering how their unique story has formed them into the person they are today. Melissa has a passion for helping individuals step into the freedom and fullness of who they were made to be. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Friendships As An Adult Sep 11, 2023

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who asks how we can maintain friendships as an adult. In this episode, we will be discussing some helpful tips on how to navigate the challenges of friendships during this season of our lives, and ways to foster healthier relationships with our friends. We are joined by Jennifer Hinkle-Stanley, MS MHP, one of the counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network for today's episode of our podcast series "Ask a Counselor". Jennifer is currently pursuing her doctorate in Pastoral Counseling and Community Care. She has experience in community mental health, crisis, suicide assessment, home health, and has been in private practice since July 2019. Tune in now for today's hope-filled discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! JENNIFER HINKLE-STANLEY, MS MHP Jennifer Hinkle-Stanley has been married for 24 years, and has 3 teenage daughters as well as a granddaughter. She has worked in Missouri, Kansas, and now Pennsylvania. Her husband is in full time ministry and together they lead the Freedom ministry in their church. Jennifer is currently pursuing her doctorate in Pastoral Counseling and Community Care.She has experience in community mental health, crisis and suicide assessment, home health, and has been in private practice since July 2019. She is the co-founder of Busted Biscuits, a program teaching women to be in healthy relationships with one another through in person group sessions and podcast. Her desire is to promote healing and growth within her sessions, helping each individual to find their identity and purpose, while also healing their relationships. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dysfunctional Family: Is There Hope for Me to Have a Future Healthy Family? Sep 04, 2023

Q: Today, we're answering a question from a listener who says she comes from a dysfunctional family. They ask, can you have a healthy family despite coming from a dysfunctional one? We'll discover that answer in today's episode of our podcast series "Ask a Counselor". Our special guest is Bri Franklin, M.A., LMHC, one of the amazing counselors at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. Bri will leave you feeling empowered and full of hope for the future as we discuss how to cultivate hope for a future healthy family. Tune in now for today's hope-filled discussion! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! BRI FRANKLIN is proud to be able to integrate a faith perspective with research-based mental health practices. She offers a tailor-made approach to each of her clients. She graduated from a nationally-ranked, top ten graduate counseling program focusing on Marriage, Couple, and Family Therapy with a certification in Mental Health Counseling. She is Level 1 Gottman Method Couples Therapy trained. Bri has led counseling groups on topics of grief, anxiety, trauma, creative arts, and healthy relationships at a college counseling center. She is an Associate Certified Coach, certified by the International Coaching Federation and works as an Adult ADHD Executive Functioning Coach in addition to her role as a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She has taken seminary courses on biblical and theological foundations. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Enjoying Singleness vs. Wanting Marriage Aug 31, 2023

Is it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage? Today's caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you're experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in control your life? Is it possible to enjoy singleness AND want marriage simultaneously? Enjoying Singleness We're talking through this important topic today....so if you feel like you're having a hard time striking a balance between these two different places, this episode is for you!!!! Tune in to today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

8 Ways To Pray For Love (Even Before You Have A Relationship) Aug 29, 2023

How do you pray for love? And what if you don't even have one yet? Should you still pray for love even before you have a relationship? If I knew the effect that my future relationships would have on my life, I would have been praying for love since pre-school. Prayer is the act by which we hand over our needs to the One who actually has the power to impact those needs. So how do you pray for love? Where do you even begin? Whether you're praying for your future spouse, or future dating relationship, I want to offer you some really specific ways to pray for love. 8 Ways To Pray For Love Today on the podcast, we're talking about eight ways to pray for love, even before you have a romantic relationships! There are prayers, powerful, specific, prayers that will impact your heart! I know this episode will encourage you, and remind you of the importance of praying for your love life long before you have one. So check out today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn eight ways to pray for your love life. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you're going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It's a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How To Guard Your Heart Without Being Too Guarded Aug 24, 2023

"Guard your heart". That's pretty much sums up the relationship advice you get when you ask someone within the Christian culture for dating advice. But what does it mean to guard your heart, and how do you guard your heart without appearing too guarded? How To Guard Your Heart Guarding your heart really comes down to protecting your heart...because your heart is the most important part of who you are, and so it's worth protecting. We've got to learn to protect our heart by setting spiritual, physical, and emotional boundaries. Today we're talking through some of those steps, and what it looks like to practically guard your heart from getting attached to someone prematurely. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast to find out how to guard your heart! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon Upcoming Events: 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! TONIGHT, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Faith & Romance: Attracted to a Non-Christian Aug 21, 2023

Have you ever found yourself attracted to a non Christian? Someone who is living out a different belief system, or isn't spiritually in tune with where you're at with your faith? What do you do when you find yourself drawn to someone with whom you are spiritually out of sync? How much does faith matter in the context of a healthy relationship? Attracted To a Non Christian Today's episode answers a question from Sarah from Boston who is wondering what to do when you're attracted to someone who is not a Christian. How do you proceed with the friendship, or the relationship, without compromising your own faith? As a professional counselor who also happens to be a Christian, I've seen the role that faith plays in my personal relationship with my husband. But more so, the research backs it up....so let's have this conversation about faith and romance! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon Upcoming Events: 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks. Aug 18, 2023

What does it look like to pursue biblical dating? You might be surprised to know. Being a Christian who also happens to be a Licensed Professional Counselor, I'm often asked to speak about the topic of biblical dating. How does a person date in a biblical way? What does the bible actually say about dating? How can a Christian manage the world of dating with a God-honoring perspective? Which concepts of dating can you take from the "world" and which should you take from the bible? I wrote my book, True Love Dates, because I wanted to tackle some of these important questions and bring to light how we can apply the concepts from the bible to approach toward dating, in a way that's spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically healthy. On the podcast, the question came up yet again: How do you pursue biblical dating? Interestingly enough, the answer might surprise you. BIBLICAL DATING ISN'T WHAT YOU THINK Interestingly enough, if we look through the pages of the bible, biblical dating is non-existent. People didn't "date" in the Middle East, and in fact, dating is still a brand new concept even today. In today's episode of the podcast, I talk through why biblical dating isn't actually what we think - and probably not what we want. Yet with the reminder that God's word is filled with concepts and principles that we can apply to dating right here and right now. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon Upcoming Events: 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Single in my 30s- How To Hold On To Hope Aug 14, 2023

What do you do when you find yourself single in your 30s - your mid 30s, in fact - with no prospect of love in sight? "I never imagined I'd be single in my 30s". Today's caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself single at an age she never imagined. I'm not gonna lie, there are so many times when our life turns out different than we expected. Whether it's with singleness, marriage, fertility issues, illness, jobs, or so many other ways that life can dissapoint. And in this world, there aren't always answers as to why that is, but there are certainly truths we can hold on to, promises we can cling to, and lies we can make sure we're demolishing as we move toward the desires God has placed in our heart. Single in my 30s If you find yourself single in your 30s, I hope and pray this episode offers you some practical encouragement and needed affirmation to keep moving forward. Tune into today's episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Check out the Breaking Free From the Lies of Singleness Course, and receive 25% off at checkout using code: PODCAST. For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST Upcoming Events: 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date Aug 10, 2023

Heart break doesn't have to be the norm...if you know what to avoid, that is. In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, we turn the tables on Tuesday's popular episode, 10 Guys You Shouldn't Date by introducing you to the 10 Women You Shouldn't Date. Avoiding Heart Break These 10 ladies will string you on...drag you down...and break your heart. But it doesn't have to be that way, because you can learn what to look for. Each of them possesses certain traits that we're going to throw in the red flag category, and teach you exactly what to be on the lookout for. Learn how to recognize these types of women and quickly move on. Tune into today's episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST Upcoming Events: 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How Can I Avoid Dating The Bad Boys? Aug 07, 2023

Q: Hey Debra! I have a pattern of dating the bad boys. How do I recognize the type of guy I should date, from the type of guy I shouldn't date? When it comes to dating relationships, there is definitely such a thing as red flags in a relationship. The problem is, depending on our level of health and awareness - we can often either ignore the red flags or make excuses for them all together. The reasons so many people find themselves drawn to toxic relationships is complex, and one that I would encourage you to read about more in this article called "Why You Always Date Jerks". But make no mistake about it - these bad boys can be recognized from a distance - and the healthier you are, the more quickly and easily you'll be able to recognize a bad boy when he comes along. Dating The Bad Boys: What To Look For But in this episode - we're not talking about the WHY....we're talking about the WHAT. What are the traits that help us recognize when a guy is not good for us? In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, I'm talking you through a list of 10 guys that you need to avoid like the plague if you start noticing these qualities in your relationship. Because what you see in dating, you'll see multiplied times 100 in marriage....the good, the bad, and the ugly. Tune in and subscribe by clicking below! And be sure to tune in next week when we talk about the 10 Girls You Shouldn't Date! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST Upcoming Events: 30's Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we're offering another Single's Mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of "speed dating" but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you'll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot's are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE. 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I Going To Be Single Forever? Trusting God With The Unknowns Aug 03, 2023

Does God want me to be single forever? How do I know whether or not I have the "gift" of singleness? How do I hold on to hope when the future seems so unknown and so unclear? So many people are struggling with these questions as they look ahead at an unknown future and wonder whether or not God has marriage in their horizon. Am I Going To Be Single Forever? There are so many things in life where we just don't know what God has planned. But there are some truths and promises that can keep you grounded and hopeful while you wait. This episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast is an important one and one that is really close to my heart with all the waiting I have done in my life - and the waiting I continue to do in so many other areas of my life. I hope and pray that this episode will leave you encouraged as we collectively learn to trust God with the unknowns in life. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Ready to make some changes in your love life? Check out this 21 Day Course - 21 Days To Jump Start Your Love Life! Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out the episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren't Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of "Finding The One". Upcoming Events: 30's Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we're offering another Single's Mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of "speed dating" but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you'll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot's are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE. 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Struggling With Singleness: A Conversation with Mandisa Jul 31, 2023

Do you feel like you're struggling with singleness? I know that the struggle can be heightened during this season of life, especially with all that's going on in the nation in light of Covid 19. Social distancing, quarantine, sheltering in place can make you feel even more lonely and disconnected than ever before. But struggling with singleness does not make you strange, or crazy, or lacking in faith. It makes you human. I got a question from a listener asking for tips and advice on how to deal with loneliness and anxiety during this time, and I brought my good friend - the one and only Mandisa, to help me tackle this question! Mandisa is a an incredible woman of God on the journey of singleness...and I know that having her help me address and answer this question will bless you beyond belief! So tune in to today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: FROM TODAY'S EPISODE: ORDER DEBRA'S BOOK! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Upcoming Events: 30's Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we're offering another Single's Mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of "speed dating" but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you'll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot's are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE. 40's Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. Click HERE to learn more! Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can A Woman Make The First Move? Jul 28, 2023

Can a woman make the first move in a relationship? This is a question that's always on my radar, because I know it's going to come in about every single Q&A session I have - and let's be honest, it's a rather controversial topic. Truth be told, the answer to this question has changed over the years with the changing of culture and opinions and norms. But it's a topic that's holding a lot of women back and it's about time we had this conversation on the podcast. Who Should Make The First Move? For many years, the majority of people would have answered no to this question, saying that a woman shouldn't make the first move in a relationship. Some people said it wasn't their preference for a woman to initiate a relationship. Others said it wasn't biblical. Still today, 35% of readers that I polled on the blog believe that it's not okay for a woman to initiate a relationship. But I respectfully disagree. There are four reasons why I think it's totally okay for a woman to make the first move in a relationship, and today on this episode of the podcast, I'm going to break it down with why I think it's perfectly okay for a woman to take initiative and make a move. With a few exceptions that I'm going to cover, as well as a few things to be on the lookout for that signify a healthy relationship. Whether you're a male or female, you don't want to miss Episode 018 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Click here to read an outline of the Top 10 Relationship Killers. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out the episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren't Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of "Finding The One". Upcoming Events: Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! TONIGHT, (July 28th, 2023) at 8:00 pm EST, I am hosting a special 30's Single's Night Out, and on Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. 30's Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we're offering another single's mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of "speed dating" but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you'll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot's are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE. Learn More About Singles Summer Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional...

You Don’t Have To Like Being Single: 10 Ways To Survive Singleness Jul 25, 2023

You don't have to like being single. Yes, even you, Christian person. It's okay to struggle with being single! It really is. I'm giving you - reading this post - permission to go ahead and feel those feelings. And in this episode, I'm going to tell you exactly why. On this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast, I'm talking to a young woman who is struggling with singleness. She's just not feeling content. How can you survive singleness in a world that seems to revolve around marriage? How can you keep from getting discouraged when you're not in a relationship but want to be? What do you do when you find yourself living in a season of waiting...and waiting...and waiting? What do you do when it seems like the people who AREN'T doing it God's way are being "blessed", and you feel like you're trying to follow God's leading and you're feeling like life just isn't working out for you? What can you do while you're waiting? Let's have this conversation, friends. Being Single Doesn't Have To Be Time To Kill After our chat, I'm going to talk you through some of the TOP 10 ways to use this time of singleness in your life as a time of preparation, rather than just a time you're wishing away. Being single doesn't have to ruin your life...in fact, it shouldn't. So we're going to discuss the things my married friends WISHED they would have done during their time of singleness, and I think it's important to talk through some of this stuff. Because it's so easy to look at what God is NOT doing, instead of what He IS doing (CLICK TO TWEET IT!). We've got to learn to adjust our perspective on being single. You don't have to like being single - but you do have to learn how to NOT LET SINGLENESS hold you back!! Singleness might be a struggle for you, but don't let it be a stronghold that paralyzes you from living! We're talking through this delicate topic today, and I hope you'll stick around and join us, because you're going to love this candid conversation on today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about Sex Drive and The Single Life: Controlling Your Desires Before They Control You Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Check out these articles: 7 LIES THAT ARE KEEPING YOU SINGLE or 3 THINGS MARRIED PEOPLE SHOULD STOP SAYING TO SINGLES Upcoming Events: Singles Night Out: You do not have to journey through singleness alone! On Friday, July 28th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I am hosting a special 30's Single's Night Out, and on Friday, August 25th, 2023 at 8:00 pm EST, I will be hosting a 40's Singles Night Out. Both of these events will be hosted on Zoom! These nights are going to be filled with fun, fellowship, giveaways, and encouragement. 30's Singles Mixers: TrueLoveDates.com is thrilled to announce that we're offering another single's mixer! On August 13, 2023 from 8pm-10pm EST for ages 30-40. This event will have the feel of "speed dating" but in a group setting and in the comfort of your own home thanks to online technology and Zoom!! During the night, you'll get to hear from and interact with each person in the group using audio and video technology. Spot's are limited to 20 singles (10 men / 10 women) so submit your application today! You can learn more about applying to this mixer HERE. Learn More About Singles Summer Books: Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing...

Walking Away From Toxic Relationships: With Gary Thomas Jul 17, 2023

Today we're talking toxic relationships both in dating and in marriage. Q: When it comes to general relationships, how do you know when a relationship is worth working on, and how do you know when it's time to walk away? A: When it is time to walk away from an unhealthy relationship? That's a question we're diving in to today. Christians tend to really struggle with the idea of walking away from relationships, even when they get to a place where they're harmful or even dangerous. I'm joined by my friend and bestselling author, Gary Thomas, to tag-team this question today because he just finished writing all about toxic relationships, and it's a conversation we need to bring to the surface. Toxic Relationships In today's episode we're covering: Why is it actually biblical for us to walk away from toxic relationships? What are some key motivators to remember when it comes to making the choice to walk away from a toxic relationship? How do we recognize a relationship that's hurting us? How to handle toxic relationships in dating as well as in marriage. And so much more! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Top 10 Relationship Killers. Small Things That Cause Big Problems. Is There Such A Thing As "The One"? And Why My Husband And I Disagree. MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Reality Check of Marriage (with Addie and Jeremy Camp) Jul 11, 2023

Q: We're struggling through the reality check of marriage. It's not always as easy as we imagined it to be. Do you have any tips or advice for us? I often talk about the differences between our expectations of marriage , vs. the reality of what marriage. But today, I'm excited to tag team this question about the reality check of marriage with my friends Jeremy and Addie Camp. Jeremy Camp and Addie are so real and raw about their own marriage, the struggles they've been through, and the victories they've had. In this episode we talk about the reality check of marriage in their own lives, as well as practical things they do to keep their connection strong and nurture their relationship. It's packed with encouragement and practical advice, and I know it will encourage you whether you're married or one day hoping to be. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Debra Fileta Counselors Network: Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Check out Jeremy and Adrienne's book: In Unison For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned: Grief, Loss & Remarriage w/ Daniel and Brittany Price Brooker Jul 03, 2023

Have you ever been through a hard time in your life where you thought to yourself, "This is not what I wanted my life to look like. This is NOT what I expected." What happens when life doesn't turn out how you planned? How do you navigate those hard times of hopelessness and discouragement, when you feel stuck in a life that you never expected. Maybe your hard time is that you just went through the heartbreaking loss of a failed or broken relationship. Maybe you're single, and your hard time is that you thought FOR SURE you'd be married by now, but find that instead, you're struggling with loneliness and discouragement. Maybe your hard time right now is walking through grief, or loss, or illness...and you find yourself asking why. Today's guests went through their own difficult journey of asking why. After the tragic untimely deaths of their respective spouses, Brittany Price and Daniel Brooker each found themselves as a young widow/widower - dealing with their own individual journey's of grief, and pain, and heartache, and loss...a loss that ultimately brought them together in remarriage. This is an incredible story of two broken hearts, who never let go of Hope. Their story encouraged me during one of my darkest times and I know it will encourage you. When Life Doesn't Turn Out How You Planned In this special episode we cover: The details of their journey of grief and loss and the heartbreaking experience of losing their first loves. (I about lost it, hearing their stories you guys!) Their honest and candid truths about the hardest part of remarriage and blending families. Their best advice for anyone who is considering remarriage. Some incredible encouragement for ANYONE who is dealing with a hard time in life. How the past can be paralyzing, and the importance of taking steps to move forward in healing. Learning to shift your perspective from WHY to WHAT as a way to deal with grief and loss. The importance of gratitude in the midst of suffering. Why mentorship is a critical part of the healthy life. Learning to trust God and cling to His Word in the midst of hard times. Remembering God's faithfulness and goodness through it all - and how he can redeem every story and every situation. Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Bring the tissues. Grab your notebook, and get ready to write down the nuggets of truth from this inspiring and challenging episode. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Connect with Brittany and Daniel on Instagram @BrittanyPriceBrooker and @DanielOBrooker. Brittany was so sweet to give a shout out to my book, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me. I'm so grateful to hear how it's encouraged her on this journey of marriage, and I pray it will encourage your heart as well as you learn to give out of your overflow. Pick up a copy for you or someone you know who needs some perspective and encouragement on what it looks like to choose marriage on a daily basis, and why it's worth it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Birth Order & Your Love Life: How Birth Order Impacts Your Relationships Jun 26, 2023

Q: "Hey Debra, I'd love to hear your thoughts about if and how birth order impacts a relationship". A: Are you the oldest child, middle child, or the baby of your family? Believe it or not, how you answer that question will actually have a significant impact on the type of person you turn out to be - as well as how you do relationships. Your birth order can have a significant impact on your love life, so it's important to understand the dynamics that are at play. In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, I'm joined by two of my friends and leading marriage voices in the country, Dave and Ashley Willis from Marriage Today. Together, Dave, Ashley and I talk through what we know about birth order - why it's an actual thing, and how we've seen it impact relationships. In this episode, we talk through: Birth Order Episode: We cover the characteristics of a first born child (or only child), including strengths and weaknesses. The three of us talk through characteristics of a middle child, including strengths and weaknesses. We discuss characteristics of a the baby of the family, including strengths and weaknesses. What it's like to be a first born married to a first born (Interesting to note, everyone on this episode is a first born!) A hilarious story of how the Willis' totally played into the middle child stereotype with their middle child. Some interesting look at an informal survey I took revealing the birth order we tend to be attracted to in relationships. How to deal with opposite characteristics of birth order in relationships, because this is an issue that often comes up. The caveats that need to be addressed when discussing birth order. Tune in today for a super fun and informative episode, so I hope you'll take the time to tune in to our conversation and find out the strengths and weaknesses of YOUR specific birth order - and how it might be impacting your closest relationships. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Dave and Ashley Willis have become some of America's most trusted teachers on marriage. Their books, blogs, videos and speaking events reach millions of couples worldwide. They are part of the team at XO Marriage and MarriageToday, which is the largest marriage-focused ministry in the USA. Dave and Ashley have four young sons and live near Dallas, Texas. For another incredible resource check out Dr. Lehman's book: The Birth Order Book, and get an in-depth look at the intricacies of birth order. For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA- Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, or Love In Every Season. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team...

Communication In Marriage: How To Stop The Drift (with Dr. Kim Kimberling) Jun 19, 2023

When you think about communication in marriage, what comes to mind? When I was gathering data for my book, Choosing Marriage, I asked singles to tell me how much time they thought married couples spend in quality communication each week. Then, I surveyed married couples asking them how much time they spend in quality communication each week...and the different answers that came in were almost laughable (I tell you all about the stats it in this episode and why married couples aren't actually talking!) There was such a drastic difference between what singles thought communication in marriage looked like, vs. what married people actually reported communication in marriage to be. But there are so many things that get in the way of communication in marriage. Life. Jobs. Kids. If we're not constantly trying to move together in marriage, we'll find ourselves moving apart. MARRIAGE COUNSELORS TALKING ABOUT REAL COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE In today's episode, I'm joined by my dear friend and marriage counselor, Dr. Kim Kimberling. We cover some of these issues that can come up with communication and connection in marriage. We talk about our own respective marriages, some of the challenges and successes we face when it comes to communication in marriage. We talk about child-centric homes, why they're dangerous to marriage, and what to do about it. How to set some boundaries with your kids so you can enrich your marriage. We talk about some steps you can take to build your marriage or restore it when you're feeling off-track. Why most married couples aren't spending enough time together, and how to make it happen. We talk about the importance of the first 10-minutes of contact with your spouse. We talk about who should initiate communication and why it matters. We also share some ways we stay connected to our spouses and some practices that you can apply to your marriage to stay connected....and so much more! This episode is so full of amazing conversation and insight. You're going to love it! Whether you're single, or married, or somewhere in between - take the time to tune into today's episode. Resources Mentioned on the Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Be sure to connect with today's guest, Dr. Kim Kimberling and all his encouraging marriage resources at AwesomeMarriage.com. And be sure to check out his new book, 14 Keys To Lasting Love: How To Have The Marriage You've Always Wanted Learn more about communication by checking out this article: You Have Walls, And They're Keeping People Out. The Truth About Communication in Marriage. BOOKS BY DEBRA- Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, or Love In Every Season. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET from Worst Case Scenario Thinking (an on-air session with Roosevelt) Jun 12, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe it's your relationship with food. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ Today's conversation is for anyone who struggles with negative or worst case scenario thinking. This type of thought process is usually rooted in something deeper - and this insightful conversation with Roosevelt will help you get to the roots in your own life. I'm believing this conversation will not only open your eyes, but help you begin to break free from these types of thoughts. Tune in today! _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life. Purchase your copy TODAY anywhere books are sold! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET from a Hopeless Marriage (with Out of the Dust Music) Jun 06, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ Today we talk to a couple with a remarkable story. After years of functioning in an unhealthy marriage, they reached the lowest point... and ultimately got a divorce. During that period of time, things begin to change and shift. And as God healed them on an individual level... They were eventually reunited again in marriage. Their story is powerful, and a testament to God can do when we trust him with our individual healing. If you are struggling in relationships today... The best thing you can do is get yourself healthy, standing alone. Take some time to listen to this incredible story... and be inspired to reset in your own life. RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET from Trauma (with Toni Collier) May 29, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ Today I am talking with Toni Collier about resetting from trauma! If we don't address it, the trauma from our past will end up making its way into our present. We find ourselves living out of a place of pain, rather than a place of power. Tony has some serious trauma history that ended up ultimately destroying her life from a broken marriage, to addiction, and everything in between. Today we walk through the journey of healing with her, reminding you that healing as possible for you as well!!! If there is any level of trauma in your life, this episode will encourage and inspire you. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET from Insecurity (an on-air session with Nanette) May 22, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe it's your relationship with food. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ Insecurity is one of those things a lot of people battle, but it's some thing we rarely discuss out loud. Today I am talking with Nanette, a woman who has struggled with deep insecurity for much of her life. In our conversation today we trace back the roots of where her insecurity began, why it's continued into her adulthood, and then I give her practical suggestions to walk in freedom and confidence today. If you've ever struggled with insecurity or question your value and worth... This episode is for you. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season,Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET from Negative Thinking (with Christine Caine) May 16, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In this weeks episode, I had an incredible conversation with my friend and mentor Christine Caine. We talk about the subtle influence of negative thinking, tracing it back to the roots of the past. Christine shares some of her story and her tendencies to struggle with negative thinking, as well as how she has learned to overcome those things and live in God's truth. It's a Powerful episode that will help you reset from negative thinking. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET from Grief (an on-air session with Sabrina) May 09, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe it's your relationship with food. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ Today I'm talking with Sabrina about resetting from grief... Sabrina and her husband have gone through loss after loss in the form of miscarriage, but through our conversation today she realized that the way she has been grieving, has actually brought more heartache into their lives. We can't make grief go away, but how we respond to grief will make or break our lives. If you have ever felt stuck in grief, whether grief of things lost, dreams that have never come into fruition, or the loss of a loved one... This episode will challenge and encourage you. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life. Purchase your copy TODAY anywhere books are sold! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET from Bad Marriage Advice (with the Lusko’s) May 02, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having an important conversation with Levi and Jennie Lusko about resetting from bad marriage advice. Throughout life, couples, hear a lot of advice, and it can be hard to sort through which is the good advice and which is the bad advice so today we are processing through some of those things, and how to change your overall mindset about marriage in order to thrive in your relationship. Whether you've been married for one month or for years, It's time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today's important episode! _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET from Negative Thinking (an on-air session with Josh) Apr 25, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe it's your relationship with food. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having a conversation with a man named Josh who is really struggling with his negative thinking. He is constantly feeling down and depressed about himself and his situation. I take the time to dig a little deeper, and help him identify that there may be some significant things going on underneath the surface that are impacting his thought life. Tune in to this important conversation about negative thinking. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET From Porn (a conversation with Matt and Sathiya) Apr 18, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ As a Professional Counselor, I spend a significant amount of time counseling men and women (porn is not just a "male" problem) who are struggling with the use of pornography and porn addiction. The use of pornography is having a detrimental impact on so many individuals and damaging many relationships. It's time to RESET! In today's episode, I'm having a conversation with Matt and Sathiya-two men who have found freedom from porn. Tune into today's important episode about how to RESET from porn, how to get to the roots of the underlying feelings and beliefs that keep you stuck to porn, and how to finally break free. Learn more about hitting the RESET button in this area of your life in my new book, Reset! Or check out my Porn No More Course and Workbook. Matt Cline is the founder and director of Restored Ministries, focused on leading men and women out of sexual bondage and into a life of freedom and impact. Matt is a leading speaker and coach in Canada on the topic of sexual brokenness and has seen countless lives radically changed all around the world. You can learn more about Restored Ministries at www.restoredministries.ca Sathiya Sam is a coach and speaker that helps men live with confidence and integrity. A recovered addict himself, Sathiya is the creator of DeepClean - a research-based and Bible-backed system for overcoming porn addiction and author of The Last Relapse. This work has helped everyone from college students to medical doctors regain control of their lives and walk in greater levels of freedom. Based out of Toronto, Canada, Sathiya is happily married and a die-hard basketball fan. Listen to Sathiya's podcast, Unleash The Man Within www.unleashthemanwithin.com _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches...

RESET from Toxic Optimism Apr 11, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, we're talking about something you probably haven't thought about before. Did you know there's such a thing as being TOO POSITIVE? It's called toxic optimism. Toxic Optimism is when we use "positivity" or Christian platitudes to bypass difficult feelings rather than allow ourselves to face and feel the difficult things. But what we're actually doing is burying the trauma, the grief, and the pain - instead of dealing with it. And ironically, when we bury it, we end up prolonging the pain because the best way to preserve something is to bury it. Today I'm talking with Courtney, who struggles with this very thing. Her whole life she's tried to be "tough, and positive" and make all the right choices in hopes of pleasing God and the people around her...but she's at a place where all that is on the backburner because she's feeling really burnt out. We talk through this today, in a raw and honest conversation about her toxic optimism, where it began, and how she uses it to keep from actually dealing and healing. It's an eye opening conversation with her, and I think it will be for you as well. It's time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today's important episode about toxic optimism. And learn more about toxic optimism in my new book Reset! _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET from Addiction (with Irene Rollins) Apr 03, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having an important conversation with Irene Rollins, pastor's wife and ministry leader, about her secret battle with alcoholism behind closed doors. Irene battled with addiction for six years before everything came to a head. Her story is eye-opening, because it reminds you of the dangers of hiding and escaping from pain instead of dealing with it. This conversation is so honest and necessary for any of us who might have some things in our life that are moving towards addictions. Whether it's screen time, gaming, pornography, alcohol or a substance...addiction is subtle until it's serious. It's time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. Tune into today's important episode! _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET My Relationship with Food (on-air session with Erin) Mar 28, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe it's your relationship with food. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having an on-air session with Erin, who wants to change her relationship with food. Erin is a newlywed who has gained a lot of weight over the past few years, and finds herself defaulting to eating and particularly eating out and indulging in unhealthy foods. She wants to get to the bottom of why she struggles with this, so she can begin breaking this cycle and choosing to be physically healthy. You're going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET Your View of God (with Alex Seely) Mar 20, 2023

Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having an important conversation with Alex Seely, co-pastor of The Belonging Co. Have you ever wanted to reset your view of God? Today we're talking to Alex about the negative view of God that she previously carried and how her past trauma and difficult experiences impacted the way she viewed God for many years - but also how she was able to RESET in this area of her life. So many times we transfer our experiences with others onto our expectations of God. We unpack some of her past, and the steps she took in order to heal, grow, and transform her view of God to what it is today...and what a journey!!! It's such a powerful and healing conversation for anyone who has been hurt by the people of God - and will really challenge you to consider your own beliefs about God - and WHY. It's time to RESET these different areas of our lives and heal from the inside-out. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET!! Exclusive BOOK LAUNCH Bonus Episode with Debra Mar 14, 2023

It's BOOK LAUNCH DAY!! In this exclusive bonus episode, I'm sharing my heart behind my new book RESET, as well as some of my personal favorite parts of the book. I'm talking you through the concept and idea behind the book, some unexpected twists and turns along the way, and why real change can only happen from the "inside-out". This is an episode you're going to listen to, and also want to share with someone in your life in need of a RESET!! It's not every day you get TWO episodes of the podcast in one day - so enjoy this bonus episode where I share my heart and story with you...and then I say a special prayer for YOU at the end. I love you all, and I am so thankful for your love and support. But most of all, I am so expectant of what God is going to do through this new message - in your life!!! We're ready for a RESET!!! (Check out my Instagram page today @DebraFileta to follow along on the book launch day celebrations!) RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

RESET from Unhealthy Relationships (on-air Session with Felix) Mar 13, 2023

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! ___ In today's episode, I'm having an on-air session with Felix, who wants to reset from unhealthy relationships. Felix has had a history of unhealthy relationships both before coming to Jesus, as well as after - and he wants to get to the bottom of how to do it differently. We unpack Felix's story, and trace it back to some old beliefs that he's been holding onto from childhood - that are coming up in his relationships today. You're going to love this conversation, and I really believe it will challenge you to begin to get to the root of your default beliefs as well. _______ RESET: Powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life is officially available TODAY anywhere books are sold!!! Grab a copy for you and someone you love and let's begin to DO IT DIFFERENTLY. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Time for RESET! (Audiobook Sneak Peek!) Mar 06, 2023

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Is there something in your life you want to change? I sure hope so, because healthy people are always on the trajectory of learning, and growing, and healing. Maybe it's your negative thinking that's keeping you stuck. Maybe you find your emotions are overwhelming you with fear, hopelessness, shame, anxiety, or depression. Maybe you're struggling in your relationship with God. Maybe you're stuck in a pattern of unhealthy relationships. Maybe it's behaviors that are sabotaging your life like an addiction or unhealthy habits. It could be your attitude, your mindset, or your perspective on life that needs to shift. Whatever it is - in order for change to happen, it has to start from the inside out. My new book RESET is all about getting healthy from the inside out. It's a book of 31 practices that will guide you into the process of healing, by giving you practical steps that will transform your life with changes that last. In honor of my new book, over the next few weeks, we're diving into different areas of your life that might be in need of a RESET. We'll be talking through everything from unhealthy thinking, to your relationship with God, to your marriage, trauma history, body image, boundaries, and everything in between. We're going on a journey of resetting from our default mode, and learning to do it differently! As the first episode in our RESET series, I wanted to do something a little special today on the podcast. I had the joy of reading this book on audio myself, and so I wanted to share with you the first few pages of the book so you could hear it first right here before anyone else on the podcast! So sit back and take a listen to RESET: powerful habits to own your thoughts, understand your feelings, and change your life. _______ RESET comes out in just one short week on March 14th! Right now, if you pre-order RESET you'll be entered to win a $1,500 package of 10 sessions with our counselors network, and get a FREE ticket to our live online seminar called RESETTING FROM unhealthy habits! Just go to DebraFileta.com/RESET to grab your copy and enter your information to get all these preorder bonuses! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written six books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK?, Married Sex, and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don’t Take It Out On Me. Couples Therapy with Abigail and Daniel. Feb 28, 2023

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Today's on-air couples therapy session is with Abigail and Daniel, a couple who is trying to balance their every day needs, as well as the needs of their 18 month old first child - and not take out their stress and emotions on one another!! Which is unfortunately how the pattern has been going so far. It's the fourth and final episode of our February Couples Therapy Series and know you're going to love this conversation, and likely relate to it in many ways! But is their conflict just about their needs in the here and now? Or is it a little deeper. You know what I'm going to say - it's always deeper than what's happening right here and right now!! I want to help this couple get to the roots, and help them recognize what it looks like to be deliberate about not taking out our feelings, hurts, and struggles on our spouse. And what to do instead with all those real and important needs and emotions. Tune in to today's episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCAST - iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Childhood Wounds. Couples Therapy with Nikki and Russel. Part 2 Feb 21, 2023

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Today we're digging into part two and childhood wounds, with our second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST...Nikki and Russel. They are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Today we're digging into some of the things from their past that are making their way into their present. Because our childhood wounds end up coming back up in our grown-up relationships if we don't take the time to heal. Today we're going on a journey to their childhoods, and helping them see how they are acting out on some of those roles even today as adults in their marriage. It's a powerful episode, watching them learn, and connect, and have empathy for one another in a way they didn't before. We all have childhood wounds that will come up in how we interact in our marriage. I hope you'll listen and learn from this courageous couple. Tune in to today's episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Disconnected Marriage. Couples Therapy with Nikki and Russel. Part 1 Feb 13, 2023

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey I want to introduce you to the second couple in our COUPLES THERAPY PODCAST...Nikki and Russel are a young couple who are feeling disconnected emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Coming into marriage, they had some different expectations - and hadn't talked in depth about what to expect. Their false expectations, specifically around sex and marriage, came from the church and purity culture. When they got into marriage and things didn't match what they expected - they didn't know what to do. Their wedding night didn't go as planned, and they have been truly struggling every since. And so, they've avoided intimacy every since - physically, emotionally, and even spiritually. In today's episode they reveal a big secret they've never shared with anyone...and now they are here, trying again, wanting to heal and see if there's a way to reconnect in their marriage on every level and deal with the big secret. Tune in to today's episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast because we have some great things coming up! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My Needs, Your Needs. Couples Therapy with Ben and Mary Feb 07, 2023

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey Today we begin the MOST POPULAR series of the podcast - COUPLES THERAPY!!! Over the next four weeks, I've invited couples to join me on the podcast for ON-AIR couples therapy sessions, where we pull back the curtain on marriage, and talk through the hard things in order to get to the other side! You will love this series, and you will be inspired by these courageous couples and their stories. The conversations are raw, real, and authentic...for a look into marriage you've never had before. Today's couple is Ben and Mary. Between the demands of his job, and the demands of family - this couple finds themselves feeling disconnected and looking for ways to connect again before it's too late. We talk about barriers to their emotional connection - and it get's DEEP. I can't wait for you to hear this incredible and inspiring episode!!! Tune in to today's episode of Couples Therapy on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023 including on-air COUPLES THERAPY which starts next week!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get YOUR marriage to a better place!! The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Physical Health: Eat, Sleep, Move – Repeat Jan 30, 2023

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey We are on the fifth of a five-week series about CHECKING IN and asking...Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we're taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health - and learning how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can't fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. This podcast series "Checking In" will help you come up with a plan for how we're going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven't yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you'll find out that you're not as healthy as you think you are - and it's time to do something about it. Today we're talking about physical health - oftentimes can go to extremes in either fixating so much on our bodies/and our relationship with food and exercise - or neglecting it all together. Today we're talking about a few different aspects of physical health and checking in to see how we're doing in this area, because the body-mind connection is so real and so powerful. Tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023 including on-air COUPLES THERAPY which starts next week!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mental Health: It’s Not a Character Issue, It’s a Chemistry Issue Jan 23, 2023

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey I think it's so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we're REALLY doing. We are on the fourth of a five-week of CHECKING IN...Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we're taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health - and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can't fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. This podcast series "Checking In" will help you come up with a plan for how we're going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven't yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you'll find out that you're not as healthy as you think you are - and it's time to do something about it. Today we're talking about the importance of checking in with our mental health and the different components that impact our mental health, including our life, events and stressors, past trauma, and physical chemistry. Just because you're a Christian, doesn't mean you are immune to the struggles of depression, anxiety, and mental health. In this episode, we will talk about mental health, and the best ways to treat mental health struggles. Tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? ,Married Sex and RESET. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spiritual Health: Taking Our Hurts Out on God Jan 17, 2023

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey I think it's so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we're REALLY doing. We are on the third of a five-week of CHECKING IN...Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we're taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health - and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can't fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. This podcast series "Checking In" will help you come up with a plan for how we're going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven't yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you'll find out that you're not as healthy as you think you are - and it's time to do something about it. Today we're talking about spiritual health - oftentimes we transfer the hurts of our past onto our beliefs and expectations about God. Tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional Health: Don’t Assume You Have It Jan 10, 2023

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey I think it's so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we're REALLY doing. We are on the second of a five-week of CHECKING IN...Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we're taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health - and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can't fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. This podcast series "Checking In" will help you come up with a plan for how we're going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven't yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you'll find out that you're not as healthy as you think you are - and it's time to do something about it. Today we're talking about emotional health and getting to the root of some of the pressure that is going on underneath the surface that ends up, impacting our lives. In this episode, I talk about the volcano analogy of how there is all this pressure and stress building underneath the surface that has to find a way out! Tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You’re Not As Healthy As You Think You Are Jan 03, 2023

Please click HERE to fill out our listener survey It's the beginning of a New Year! And at the start of every year, I think it's so important that we take the time to do a check in and ask ourselves how we're REALLY doing. Are You Really OK? Over the month of January, we're taking the time to check in on our emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical health - and learn how they all work together. Healing is holistic, and we can't fixate on one aspect of health all while neglecting the others. Join us on this five-week journey of CHECKING IN...and coming up with a plan for how we're going to thrive and get healthy this coming year. If you haven't yet, grab yourself a copy of my book Are You Really OK? and read along with us as we go through these four important areas of health! And maybe you'll find out that you're not as healthy as you think you are - and it's time to do something about it. Today we're talking about the Better Than Average Effect, a social experiment that shows us we often have a tendency to think that we're doing better than we actually are, and how to have a more accurate view of ourselves. Tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The One-Sided Relationship Dec 26, 2022

Have you ever found yourself in one-sided relationship where you are doing ALL the work? Where you are giving, and giving, and giving - and getting little to nothing in return? Why do you find yourself one-way relationships again, and again, and again? The simple answer is this: You attract the type of relationship you think you deserve. (Tweet it!) So how do you change that narrative? How do you start believing that you're worth more? How do you block out the lies that tell you you're not capable, able, deserving, or worthy? Why am I always in a one-sided relationship? On today's episode, I talk to a woman who is struggling with one way relationships in every aspect of her life: from dating, to friendship. She finds that she is in a pattern of putting in all the effort, but getting nothing back in return. I also talk through the three types of relationships you need to have in your life, because learning to recognize which type of relationship you are in will let you know whether or not it's time to WALK AWAY from a one sided relationship. Friends - this episode is SO JAM PACKED WITH AMAZING INFORMATION!!! Give this episode a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because you always attract the type of relationship you believe you deserve! (Tweet it) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today's show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in this podcast episode on the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Learn to let go of the labels in Section 1 of, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Read some more about How To Deal With One Way Relationships in this TLD Article! Let go of the labels and cling to God's truth about who you are in Christ. The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage,True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Top 10 Relationship Killers: Small Things That Cause Big Damage Dec 19, 2022

These 10 relationships killers may seem small, but they're deadly (if you ignore them). These things can slowly creep in and hurt our relationship. Big marriage problems don't start big. They start with the little things that we neglect and ignore, that culminate into bigger things. That's why it's important for us to start recognizing these relationship killers - little things that can cause big damage - long before they start to impact your marriage. Whether you're single, dating, or marriage - there is something for you to take away from this episode because many of these things either impact you today, or will impact you in the future. So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Junk Food Relationships: Convenient but not Healthy Dec 12, 2022

We're talking junk food relationships. Relationships that are easy to get, but end up hurting you more than helping you. Q: Why do I always end up in relationships that are convenient but not good for me? That's essentially the question from today's caller on the hotline. She finds herself in relationships with guys who live nearby, but aren't good for her. She's wanting to break the cycle of convenience and pursue something different. Just because a relationship is convenient, doesn't mean it's healthy. We talk about the concept of "junk food relationships" - and how some things are convenient and easy, but not necessarily healthy. We help get to the roots of some of the real reasons she's going to these type of relationships, and how to do something different. It's such a great conversation, and you might just be able to see a little of yourself in her story and situation. So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Questions You’ve Always Wanted To Ask The Opposite Sex [Singles Panel Part 3] Dec 05, 2022

Do you have questions you've always wanted to ask the opposite sex? When it comes to dating in this generation, it's inevitable to find yourself wondering what the opposite sex is thinking! And you're not alone. It can be really hard to read/understand the opposite sex at times, especially with all of the underlying assumptions we bring to the table about the opposite sex. Today on the podcast, we give our singles a chance to ask the opposite sex questions they've always wondered, and never asked! Our singles are back in Part 3 of our SINGLES PANEL SERIES. We're getting into the minds of Christian singles from across the country, asking them all about the dating scene, the single life, and everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex but never wanted to ask over the next three episodes. Today we're opening up the lines of communication, and giving the singles a chance to ask each other questions on their mind about the opposite sex, how they think, their underlying motivations, and everything in between. It's a really fun conversation, addressing issues we may have otherwise not had the chance to address. I can't wait for you to hear this episode, and get to know our singles panel! So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! Be sure to follow and subscribe to the podcast - because we have some great things coming up in 2023!! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. GET TO KNOW OUR SINGLES PANEL Michael Szapkiw: Nashville, TN @michaelszapkiw (Instagram) @crownofstrength (Instagram) https://CrownOfStrength.com Michael Szapkiw says he's just a real guy who wants to love God, love people and fight for those who need it. Lover of outdoor adventures, world and domestic travel, trying all the foods, fitness, and good health, Michael is always ready to share a good laugh, encouragement, or the latest in digital marketing. Visit CrownOfStrength.com for his latest podcast and content to encourage you on your Christian journey. Andrew Kelley: Lancaster, PA Instagram: @andrewtkelley I am from Waynesville, NC, and I moved to Pennsylvania almost 10 years ago. I work as a music director in Lancaster, PA at a church Hove with a team I love! I'm passionate about seeing Jesus' church built, and strengthened, and I've loved that He's allowed me to be a part of that through this season of my life. Joshua Barucky: Cleveland, Ohio Instagram: @joshua8646 I'm like if a tree trunk came alive, developed an offbeat sense of humor, and started serving God. When I'm not serving or developing my start-up, you'll find me traveling, staying active, or chasing my cat around the house. Breauna Nichole: Dallas, TX @breaunanichole I'm excited...

Where are the Singles? Places To Meet Christian Singles. [Singles Panel Part 2] Nov 28, 2022

Where on earth can you meet Christian singles these days? Today we talk about great places - and not so great places - to meet Christian singles. Our singles are back in Part 2 of our SINGLES PANEL SERIES. We're getting into the minds of Christian singles from across the country, asking them all about the dating scene, the single life, and everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex but never wanted to ask over the next three episodes. Today we're talking about practical places to meet Christian singles, what has worked, and what hasn't worked. Our singles share their experiences of meeting people in today's dating scene. I can't wait for you to hear this episode, and get to know our singles panel! So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. GET TO KNOW OUR SINGLES PANEL Michael Szapkiw: Nashville, TN @michaelszapkiw (Instagram) @crownofstrength (Instagram) https://CrownOfStrength.com Michael Szapkiw says he's just a real guy who wants to love God, love people and fight for those who need it. Lover of outdoor adventures, world and domestic travel, trying all the foods, fitness, and good health, Michael is always ready to share a good laugh, encouragement, or the latest in digital marketing. Visit CrownOfStrength.com for his latest podcast and content to encourage you on your Christian journey. Andrew Kelley: Lancaster, PA Instagram: @andrewtkelley I am from Waynesville, NC, and I moved to Pennsylvania almost 10 years ago. I work as a music director in Lancaster, PA at a church Hove with a team I love! I'm passionate about seeing Jesus' church built, and strengthened, and I've loved that He's allowed me to be a part of that through this season of my life. Joshua Barucky: Cleveland, Ohio Instagram: @joshua8646 I'm like if a tree trunk came alive, developed an offbeat sense of humor, and started serving God. When I'm not serving or developing my start-up, you'll find me traveling, staying active, or chasing my cat around the house. Breauna Nichole: Dallas, TX @breaunanichole I'm excited about what's to come! I'm putting in the work now to ripple into my family and rewrite what it looks like to be whole spiritually, emotionally and generously serve and give and reach others. Sandra Romero: Bradenton, Florida Instagram @color.bliss.designs Sandra is enjoying one of the best stages of her life as a single mother. For Sandra, the trauma of an unwanted divorce in the hands of Jesus, has resulted in true surrender to God, healing of past wounds, restored hope, self awareness and new dreams for the future. She believes in actively partnering with God in the pursuit of...

What’s Your Dating Mentality? What You Think Effects How You Date [Singles Panel Part 1] Nov 21, 2022

What is your dating mentality? Because what you think effects how you date. Because your mentality is so important when it comes to dating. It's really mind over matter. Your thought life impacts your dating life. And sometimes, the thoughts are much more subtle than you realize. I'm so excited to talk more about your dating mentality...and even more excited to have a panel of SINGLES (scroll down to meet them!) joining me for the next few episodes of the podcast in our SINGLES PANEL SERIES. We're getting into the minds of Christian singles from across the country, asking them all about the dating scene, the single life, and everything you wanted to know about the opposite sex but never wanted to ask over the next three episodes. Today we're talking about how your MENTALITY impacts how and who you date. It's a mindset that you bring in with you to dating, and the health of your mindset determines the health of your dating life. I can't wait for you to hear this episode, and get to know our singles panel! So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. GET TO KNOW OUR SINGLES PANEL Michael Szapkiw: Nashville, TN @michaelszapkiw (Instagram) @crownofstrength (Instagram) https://CrownOfStrength.com Michael Szapkiw says he's just a real guy who wants to love God, love people and fight for those who need it. Lover of outdoor adventures, world and domestic travel, trying all the foods, fitness, and good health, Michael is always ready to share a good laugh, encouragement, or the latest in digital marketing. Visit CrownOfStrength.com for his latest podcast and content to encourage you on your Christian journey. Andrew Kelley: Lancaster, PA Instagram: @andrewtkelley I am from Waynesville, NC, and I moved to Pennsylvania almost 10 years ago. I work as a music director in Lancaster, PA at a church Hove with a team I love! I'm passionate about seeing Jesus' church built, and strengthened, and I've loved that He's allowed me to be a part of that through this season of my life. Joshua Barucky: Cleveland, Ohio Instagram: @joshua8646 I'm like if a tree trunk came alive, developed an offbeat sense of humor, and started serving God. When I'm not serving or developing my start-up, you'll find me traveling, staying active, or chasing my cat around the house. Breauna Nichole: Dallas, TX @breaunanichole I'm excited about what's to come! I'm putting in the work now to ripple into my family and rewrite what it looks like to be whole spiritually, emotionally and generously serve and give and reach others. Sandra Romero: Bradenton, Florida Instagram @color.bliss.designs Sandra is enjoying one of the...

Breaking Free From Porn Nov 14, 2022

Q: I have been caught in a cycle of using porn on again off again for most of my life. I'm truly wanting to break free of this struggle. What advice to you have for me, to help me break free? We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from Mike from Colorado, who wants to break free from his struggle with pornography. Porn is everywhere, and the roots of why some people struggle with porn more than others run deep. Because porn use and sexual struggles are a reflection of something deeper - our need for connection. Our sexual struggles are often a reflection of a deeper need to connect in healthy ways. A deeper need to connect with God, self, and others. Today, I tag-team this question with Tony Hasaballa (BOOK A SESSION WITH Tony). Tony is a pre-licensed counselor on our team, who is passionate about helping men and women heal from the struggle with both porn and/or sexual addictions. Tony talks about how sexual addictions are really an intimacy disorder, and we talk about what it means to get to the deeper issues that fuel our unhealthy and harmful behaviors. It's such an important episode. So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Signs You Need to Deal With Your Trauma Nov 07, 2022

Q: I have a history of trauma from my past, but I never realized how much I do today stems from what I've been through in the past until I started reading Are You Really OK? What are some sings that I have unprocessed trauma from the past I need to deal with? We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from Ann from Pennsylvania, who wants to know the signs and symptoms that she may have unprocessed trauma in her past that she needs to deal with. In other words, what are some signs you need to DEAL WITH YOUR TRAUMA. It's amazing how many people believe that their "personality" or struggles or the way they do things is just who they are - rather than seeing the impacts from the experiences of their past. What you do in your PRESENT is often a result of what you experienced in your PAST. Today, I tag-team this question with Sandy Wilda (BOOK A SESSION WITH Sandy). Sandy is a trauma specialist, and today she and I talk through the the impacts of trauma, how it can effect your life in the present, some signs that you have unprocessed trauma, as well as how to actually heal from your past. Sandy is an incredible counselor, and I'm so looking forward to you getting to know her today as we talk about signs you need to deal with your trauma. So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Biggest Mistakes Couples Make In Conflict Oct 31, 2022

Q: What are some of the biggest mistakes couples make in conflict? We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from a woman who wants to know the mistakes we make when it comes to conflict. Conflict in a relationship is inevitable - so how do you deal with it in a healthy way? What are some signs you're not handling it well? What are some steps to take in the right direction instead? You learn how to manage conflict by default - meaning, you do what you've seen done in the past, usually from your family of origin. But sometimes the way it's been modeled isn't the healthy way. Today, I tag-team this question with Brad Aldrich (BOOK A SESSION WITH Brad). Brad and I talk through a few mistakes we see people make in conflict, and then offer you practical advice on what to do instead!! Even if you're not in a romantic or marriage relationship, this is information you need to know because conflict comes up in all our relationships. And you have to know how to handle it and recognize the mistakes couples make in conflict. So tune in to today's episode on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Do I Let Go of “What Ifs” From Past Relationships? Oct 24, 2022

Q: How do I let go of "what if's" from my past relationships so I can move forward into future ones? We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from a woman who wants to know how to let go of the ruminating about the past - the what ifs. What if it would have been different? What if I said something, did something, tried something different? What if things would have worked out? The list of what ifs is never ending. So how do we deal with them? How can we be set free to move forward? Today, I tag-team this question with Anna Pavlov (BOOK A SESSION WITH Anna). Anna and I get to the root of some of the unhealthy underlying thinking that comes with what ifs, teach you how to recognize it, and then what to do about it as well as what to think INSTEAD. So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Relationship Blind Spots: How To See What You’re Not Seeing Oct 17, 2022

Q: We're thinking about getting married and want to make sure our relationship is as healthy as it can be. How do we identify relationship blind spots that we might have? We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from Lindsey, who's wondering how to recognize relationship blind spots as they're looking toward getting married. Today, I tag-team this question with Dr. Christina Salama (BOOK A SESSION WITH Dr. Christina), one of the amazing counselors on my team! Dr. Christina is passionate about marriage, and helping people assess the blind spots and problem spots that will inevitably come up in relationships. Together we talk about some important topics that often get missed, and some practical ways you can identify and work through relationship blind spots. This episode is so important for those who are dating and married. So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A Couple in Crisis Oct 10, 2022

Q: Right now our marriage feels hopeless. What encouragement would you give to a couple in Crisis? - Andy from Florida We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from Andy, who's wondering what hope and encouragement we would give for a couple in crisis. Today, I tag-team this question with Larinda Horton (BOOK A SESSION WITH LARINDA), one of the amazing counselors on my team! Larinda is a wife and mother of four, and is very passionate about helping couples get their marriage to a healthy place. Together we talk about our approach to helping couples heal, recognizing a couple in crisis, and helping them by dealing with both the things in the present as well as the wounds from the past. We give some practical steps of what it looks like to get yourself and then your marriage to a healthy place, and I end the podcast with 12 signs your marriage needs attention!! This episode is so important for couples in all seasons! So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Do I Get Over Rejection? Oct 03, 2022

Q: How do I get over rejection and lacking the confidence to try again? - Joey from Texas We're taking all your questions on our new ASK A COUNSELOR series!! We're doing this series because I wanted to introduce you to the Counselors from the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get to know them the way I'm getting to know them! Today's question comes from Joey, who wants to know how to get over rejection especially when it stings. It's hard to face rejection whether it be in dating or even in friendship. It can cause you to question and doubt what you believe about yourself and impact your motivation to move forward. Today, I tag-team this question with Bri Franklin (BOOK A SESSION WITH BRI), one of the amazing counselors on my team! Together we talk about how rejection hurts, but the important ways we need to approach it in order to be able to move forward with confidence rather than allow it to mess with our heads. You can get over rejection in a healthy way!! We'll show you how. This episode is so good! So tune in on the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1 Most Downloaded: Don’t Always Believe Your Feelings- Emotional Health Sep 26, 2022

We're spending the last few reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #1. This episode was the most popular episode of the year and it comes from a four-part series we did about getting healthy from the inside out called the Are You Really OK? Book Series! where I tackled the four areas of health including emotional, spiritual, mental, and physical. In today's episode we're talking about the three parts to emotional health, and why sometimes your New Year's Resolutions end up falling flat by the end of January. Because so much of why we do what we do stems deeper than our behaviors - and goes down to the roots of our emotional and mental health. This series is going to be so important, and we want everyone to tune in!! If you haven't yet grabbed your copy of Are You Really OK? Book and started reading through it, there's no better time to start than now!!! It will help guide you through Emotional Health, as well as all the other areas. Don't wait another day to start getting healthy from the inside out. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#2 Most Downloaded: Couples Therapy with Justin and Tracy Sep 19, 2022

Emotional health. What is it, and how do you know if you're emotionally healthy? We're spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #2. This episode was the most popular episode from the COUPLES THERAPY series we did in February, on-air counseling with couples from across the country. Today's couple, Justin and Tracy, have been married for 11 years and have two children. They find themselves stuck in an unhealthy pattern - she feels like he's always pulling away, he feels like she's always putting him down. It got so bad, at one point she was considering divorce. In this powerful conversation, we're going to unpack the dynamic they're struggling with in their marriage, get to the roots of why, and find solutions to help them move forward. But more than that, we're going to help them find hope! I hope this session inspires and encourages you to do the work in your own life and relationship. Let me know!! Leave a review on your podcast app, and let us know how you're enjoying this podcast and this series. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#3 Most Downloaded: Sex Tips and Tricks for Newlyweds (or Not-So-Newlyweds) Sep 12, 2022

Q: My wife and I are newlyweds, and right now sex is a little bit of a struggle and seems forced. Any advice or suggestions? We're spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #3. Friends - we're talking about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a newlywed couple looking for advice and sex tips to overcome some of the struggles of being a new-to-sex. But the advice we give them today doesn't just apply to newlywed sex! If sex has been a little bit of a struggle lately, then this episode is for you. We talk about the #1 tip to making sex better for both parties, some obstacles that come up as newlyweds and beyond, as well as some other sex tips and tricks along the way!!! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#4 Most Downloaded: Just Not That Into You – 10 Signs Sep 05, 2022

Q: How do you know if someone is as interested in you as you are in them? Or what if you're in a relationship and you're just not feeling it? We're spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #4: "You should never have to convince someone that you're worth loving." That's exactly what I told the caller, Scott, on today's episode of the show. After getting burned by a lady he's been getting to know, he finds himself wondering how on earth is a person supposed to read the opposite sex and find out whether or not someone is interested? Are there signs to be on the lookout for? Why, yes...yes there are. 10 different signs to be exact. But here's the key: you have to be willing to recognize them, and then accept them. And I'm going to talk through all this and more in today's interesting show!! If you've ever been in a relationship where you wondered whether or not they felt the same way about you as you felt about them (whether dating or even in marriage) - then this episode is for you. Give this short episode (25 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because you should never have to convince someone that you're worth investing in (tweet it). Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#5 Most Downloaded: Compatibility – How To Know If You’re A Good Match Aug 29, 2022

Q: How do you know if you're compatible with someone? We're spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #5. Compatibility is key to a healthy relationship. Just because you're a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian - doesn't mean you're going to be a good match when it comes to being in a relationship. Compatibility is a huge piece to the puzzle of relationships, and it's one that often get's ignored or overshadowed in the conversation of what makes a healthy relationships. When it comes to understanding compatibility in a relationship, there are certain things that have to "fit together" well, just like putting a puzzle together. This isn't about finding an exact replica of yourself, it's about finding someone who is going to be a good match for your life. In order to find a good match, you've got to know your shape, and your colors. Compatibility Looks Like... There are certain big picture topics where it's important to make sure you have compatibility when you're in a relationship. Today on the podcast, we're talking through those topics! You can also dig deeper into accountability in my book, Love In Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Body Image: Learning to Love It Aug 22, 2022

Q: With all the pressure our culture puts on body image, being "Instagram ready" and picture perfect at all times, how can we resist the urge to fixate too much on our physical appearance and stay body positive in a world that's constantly critiquing our appearance? This is a conversation WE NEED TO HAVE. Today on the podcast we're talking about body image! Our listener question said it best - how can we resist the urge to fixate and remain body positive in world that's dragging us the other way? Whether you're a male or female, this is a topic that impacts you because appearance is constantly made to be the forefront in our culture. Today I'm joined by Jess Connolly, who wants to help men and women find freedom and stay body positive with no filters!!! It's such an important and inspiring conversation - and most of all, it's a necessary one because body image is such a foundational topic. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! ***If you need help with body image issues, or struggling to have a healthy relationship with food - connect with a counselor from our Counselors Network and book a session with one of them to get started on your journey of healing!!** __________ FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Physical Health: How to Keep Your Body Strong! Aug 15, 2022

Q: How can we take better care of our physical health and in what ways does that impact our mental and emotional health? Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking about physical health!! It's a topic that's overemphasized in culture, but underemphasized in the church. But caring for your physical health overflows into other parts of your life including your mental and emotional world! My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Katie Anne Church! Katie is a Figure World Champion and a coach, and she's been on both sides of the physical health spectrum - from a season of obsessing over her body, to now being in a healthy place of honoring God with her body. Today we talk through the top ways to keep your body healthy and strong, and it's a conversation that inspired and challenged me personally. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work of getting healthy from the inside out? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Enneagram and Relationships Aug 08, 2022

Q: What are the right ways, and wrong ways to use the Enneagram? And how can we use it to strengthen our relationships? - Rachel from PA Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking about the Enneagram! You may have heard about the Enneagram before, or this could be your first glimpse - but either way, this conversation is really enlightening! My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Pastor Matt Brown! Pastor Matt is a huge enneagram fan, and believes that this tool impacted his life and his church in meaningful ways, and helped him put into words a deeper understanding of his own personality and motivations! Today we talk through the pros and cons of the Enneagram, and how we can use it to better our relationships! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work for yourself? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Christians, Anxiety, and OCD Behaviors Aug 01, 2022

Q: I've never struggled with anxiety before the past few years...when I googled it, I realized I might even have some traits of OCD. Any advice on how to nagivate this and take some next steps? Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking about anxiety and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Jon Seidl! Anxiety and OCD don't discriminate...and Jon is a Christian who has been walking the journey of dealing with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) for many years. We talk about his personal experience recognizing and dealing with OCD, where he is today, and how he finds peace and rest even within his diagnosis. If you have any experience with clinical anxiety or even OCD, I truly think this episode and Jon's story will resonate with you no matter where you're at. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work for yourself? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dealing with Your Past Jul 25, 2022

How do you deal with your past? Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about dealing with your past. Today's caller wants to know how to appropriately look back at her past and deal with some of the past baggage that she's carrying today. My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Mary Marantz! Mary has had to take some time to do some work, reflection, and understanding of her own past...and we talk through the importance of looking back in order to move forward. Because sometimes you have to go backwards in order to go forwards. If you have any baggage, family dysfunction, emotional wounds, or past trauma - I think this episode will challenge and encourage you to begin to do the work! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stop Freaking Out About Dating Jul 18, 2022

Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about DATING. Jay from Maryland wants to know why he's got so many worries and doubts about dating. He doesn't want to marry the wrong person, so he freaks. My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Dave Marvin! Dave pastors a huge gathering of young adults in Dallas called The Porch, and he loves the topic of dating because it seems to be on everybody's mind!! Today Dave and I talk through some of the worry, anxiety, and fears around dating and encourage you to stop freaking out about it! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Want deep dive into some of my BEST DATING ADVICE? Click below and grab my book True Love Dates. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Avoiding Burnout (w/co-host Christy Wright) Jul 11, 2022

Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about BURNOUT. Our question comes from a woman who is wondering how to balance ministry, and life, and work, and family and everything else we have going on without burning out!! There are so many expectations on our shoulders. Is it even possible to "do it all"? And if so, what does that even look like? My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Christy Wright. Christy is a working mom (Ramsey Solutions), and she's also had to learn how to navigate busy seasons all while caring for others, and caring for herself. Together, we talk you through some tips, tricks, and anecdotes to avoiding burnout!! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Attachment Styles: With Krispin Mayfield Jul 04, 2022

Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about attachment styles - how they impact your relationship with others, as well as your relationship with God. I'm joined by Licensed Counselor and author Krispin Mayfield who just wrote a book all about Attachment. The way you handle your emotions, interact with others, and your ability to connect all comes down to something called your attachment style, that was shaped in early childhood. It's a really important concept to understand if you're hoping to pursue healthy relationships. I think this episode is going to open your eyes to how you view your relationships with others, as well as your relationship to God. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Afraid to Feel: On-Air Counseling with Mike Todd Jun 27, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is Pastor Mike Todd. Pastor Mike is the lead pastor of Transformation Church. Today he opens up about one of the darkest seasons in his life, battling depression and anger after his son was diagnosed with autism. Under the weight of the stress and pain, he felt like something inside of him broke. And when it did, out came a flood of feelings that had been buried under the surface for many, many years. He talks about how he had spent so many years of his life "capping" his feelings- seeing them as obstacles rather than assets. We trace this belief back to his childhood, and spend some time processing his past experiences that led him to years of numbing his emotions. And then we talk about his road to healing. This conversation is truly unique and eye opening. If you have ever struggled with feeling like you "don't know what you feel" or "don't have strong feelings" - you need to tune into this conversation with pastor Mike Todd today. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way July 1st!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Codependent Relationships: On-Air Counseling with Toni Collier Jun 20, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is Toni Collier. Toni and her husband Sam are pastors of a thriving church in Atlanta, Georgia. Today Toni opens up about her history of codependent relationships, finding herself in a toxic relationship at a very young age. She talks about getting to the root of her need to be a "caregiver" that started in the trauma of her childhood, being the primary caregiver for her ailing mother - although she wasn't really aware of all of these roots until until age 24 when it all began to manifest in her life. She carried the pain of her past for many years, which led her into alcohol abuse, and toxic behavior, and codependent relationships - until she stopped to face the pain and abuse from her past. This conversation with Toni is SO SO powerful and healing, for any of you who have the roots of a "caregiver" and are feeling burnout and stuck in a cycle of codependent relationships- this conversation is one you must listen to. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way July 1st!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Overcoming Childhood Trauma: On-Air Counseling with Lisa Bevere Jun 13, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Lisa Bevere. Lisa is an international speaker, author, and co-founder of Messenger International. She's a powerhouse of a woman, and I'm so grateful to call her my friend. In our session today, Lisa talks through a tumultuous and difficult relationship with her mother, where she endured abuse and navigating their dysfunctional relationship. But childhood trauma doesn't stay in childhood, and Lisa's trauma followed her into the actions and decisions she would make as a young woman - and even into marriage. Lisa's story is one that many of you can relate to, a story of brokenness and pain from childhood. But what many of you don't realize is that the past doesn't just stay in the past. And if you don't deal with the past, it will impact your present as well. I love her candor, her passion, and her heart to learn - and I know you'll love this conversation with Lisa Bevere. She's a very special woman and a dear friend of mine! Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Hole of Depression: On-Air Counseling with Louie Giglio Jun 07, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Louie Giglio. Louie is a well-known pastor of Passion City Church and founder of the popular Passion Conference - who found himself at a point of "complete wipe out". He found himself in the hole of depression - something that he was never aware of before. He woke up in the middle of the night thinking this would be the last night of his life. The overflow of the stressors in his life took him out of commission for 4 months, causing a physical and mental breakdown. Louie had to really come to terms with what was happening in his body and mind, and learn what it means to take care of himself from the inside-out. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Claustrophobia: On-Air Counseling with Rebekah Lyons May 30, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Rebekah Lyons. Rebekah talks about a season of life in which experienced debilitating panic attacks and claustrophobia. Entering into a season of massive change, she expected the transition to be difficult - but she didn't expect it to impact her the way it did. We talk through growing and healing through this hard season, how she navigated change, dealt with some of the past roots, and found healing from a season of acknowledging that she was NOT OKAY. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From National TV To a Psychiatric Hospital: On-Air Counseling with Sheila Walsh May 24, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Sheila Walsh. She opens up about the moment that broke her, while filming on national television - she realized she was not okay. All the pain and hurt and wounds from her past got to the point where she could ignore them no longer. She broke down on national television, and couldn't stop crying. She knew she was not okay, and it was finally time to face it. That day she was admitted to a psychiatric unit and the journey of healing began for the first time. "I'd known for some time that there was something wrong, but I didn't know what it was...an overwhelming weight of sadness." This no-filter conversation talks us through her journey of healing from national TV to her 30 day stent at the psychiatric unit. Her story is going to challenge you to come to terms with how you're really doing - right here and right now, and begin to face it. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Letting Myself Feel The Pain: On-Air Counseling Session with Bianca Olthoff May 16, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Bianca Olthoff. Bianca is a pastor, teacher, and church planter who has been in ministry for many years. She's come to a point where she realized that she's not okay - right here and right now in this season. There has been so much change in the past two years since the pandemic started, and she's realizing that the pain of the past few years is something she needs to face. "I think that the present has been a really hard season for me...and I need to make space for the sad." Today we talk through the hard things of the past few years, and how they've all compounded leaving her at a place where she has to acknowledge the hard things, feel the hard things, and grieve the hard things. Maybe you can relate. Maybe you find yourself running, distracting, ignoring the pain - rather than dealing with it. If so, this episode is for you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Bianca on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional Sprains: On-Air Counseling with Anthony Evans May 09, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Anthony Evans. Anthony is a worship pastor and gospel music producer from Dallas, TX. He's the son of Tony Evans, and the brother of national speaker Priscilla Shirer- and comes from a ministry oriented family. Which directly ties into our conversation today. We talk through the pressure that comes from being a prominent person in ministry, and how that has impacted his life. We talk about the emotional "sprains" that he's faced over the past few years, and specifically, the emotional pains he's feeling right now in life - and how hard it's been to heal under a spotlight of ministry. "I'm currently not okay, and my job is to present that I'm okay," he says honestly.... This no-filter conversation is going to challenge you to come to terms with how you're really doing - right here and right now, and begin to face it. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & ZocDoc DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rebuilding After Trauma: On-Air Counseling with Jonathan Pitts May 02, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Jonathan Pitts. Jonathan is the executive pastor at Church of the City in Franklin, TN. Today Jonathan opens up about the trauma of losing his 38-year-old wife suddenly and unexpectedly. He talks about his journey today, and the things he's learned along the way. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Jonathan Pitts on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Debilitating Panic Attacks: On-Air Counseling Session with Jeremy Camp Apr 25, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Jeremy Camp. Jeremy is an incredibly talented singer/songwriter. You've probably heard his songs on the radio, or even tuned into the movie he released two years ago called "I Still Believe" chronicling the heart wrenching journey of losing his first wife to cancer. But today, Jeremy opens up to talk about the crippling anxiety he faced while on a ministry trip. His anxiety in the present was actually rooted in past experiences, and we process that today on-air. His story is powerful and painful, yet filled with hope and healing. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Jeremy Camp on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trapped In Grief: On-Air Counseling with Levi Lusko Apr 19, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Levi Lusko. Levi is the pastor of Fresh Life Church in Montana, along with his wife Jennie. Levi opens up and shares about the dark time of grief, after tragically losing their 5 year old daughter. He talks about the power of grief, how it leads to depression and anxiety, and the way it ravages your heart, soul, mind and strength. He gives us a glimpse into this dark season, as well as others as he opens up about his personal journey with mental and emotional health. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? I know this on-air session with Christine will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Levi Lusko on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rejection, Loss, and Abandonment: On-Air Counseling Session with Christine Caine Apr 11, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with my dear friend Christine Caine. Christine is a Jesus-loving, passionate, international speaker and author. Along with her husband, she's the founder of A21, an anti-human trafficking campaign that's saving lives across the globe. Christine opens up and shares about a dark time of rejection and pain that lasted almost two years....so dark, she wasn't sure if she wanted to make it to the other side. This season of loss, grief, and abandonment stretched her behind her wildest imagination. It impacted her body, her sleep, and her peace. Her story is going to open your eyes to the challenges so many people go through without our awareness. But it will give you hope in your own dark time. I know this on-air session with Christine will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Christine Caine on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: ZocDoc & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Childhood Wounds: On-Air Counseling Session with Matt Chandler Apr 04, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Matt Chandler. Pastor Matt is the senior pastor of the Village Church, and his mental health came to a head recently as he faced an concerning emotional block in his life and feelings of burnout that started to impact everything. It took an intentional shift to face his childhood wounds to begin the process of healing. Pastor Matt Chandler shares is story with us today of facing his childhood wounds. I loved his honesty and no-filter demeanor in this conversation. It was truly one of my favorite conversations and I know it will inspire you as well. I know this on-air session with him will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Pastor Matt Chandler on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: ZocDoc & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Suicide in the Church: On-Air Counseling Session with Kayla Stoecklein Mar 28, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. *Trigger warning* For those of you who have struggled with one or more suicide attempts, suicidal ideations, thoughts, or intentions - the content in today's podcast may be difficult to hear. Please listen with caution and be sure you have the support of a professional counselor.* Today's session is with Kayla Stoecklein. Kayla and her family went through a horrific season of darkness, when her husband Andrew - an incredible pastor and leader of a mega-church, died by suicide in 2018. Kayla talks us through Andrew's difficult journey with mental illness and suicide, as well as her own journey in the process - as a spouse of someone with a mental illness. She has an important message to share, reminding us of the great need to understand mental health issues- because it's truly life or death. I know this on-air session with him will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Kayla Stoecklein on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anti-Depressants and Prayer: On-Air Counseling Session with Natalie Grant Mar 21, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session with Natalie Grant is SO hopeful. A top Christian female vocalist, she has been through her own journey with anxiety and panic in the most unexpected places. She hit her low point in her depression, where she literally couldn't get up to shower or care for herself and needed the people in her life to carry her through. Her story will remind you that you are not alone, that you don't have to be okay, and that there is room for Jesus, therapy AND medication in your life. All of the above. I know this on-air session will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Natalie Grant on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anxiety Overload: On-Air Counseling Session with JP Pokluda Mar 14, 2022

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. We're opening this series by re-airing episodes from Season 1, beginning with one of my favorite leaders....Pastor JP Pokluda. One thing that really sticks out to me about JP is his blunt and point-blank approach to life. For him, nothing is off limits to talk about. And nothing to dark for Jesus to shine his light. And this conversation is no different. I know this on-air session with him will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and enjoy this vulnerable conversation with Pastor "JP" on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series on the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Culture Clash: Couples Therapy with Carlos and Ashley Mar 07, 2022

This week we're wrapping up a series we started in February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for on-air counseling sessions. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple is Carlos and Ashley. After a lighting fast dating and engagement, they're finding themselves stuck in the area of expectations and norms in marriage. They come from very different cultural backgrounds, and now their differences are coming to a head. Carlos comes to marriage with certain expectations of gender roles in marriage, and Ashley comes from the exact opposite perspective. Will they be able to get on the same page, even with their different views? How does their past, childhood, and culture impact what they think and believe about marriage? How do you sort through what's right and what's wrong? What does it look like to create a NEW culture in their marriage, rather than try to replicate the old? Today we unpack all of that!!! If you've ever struggled with difference in your expectations or cultural norms, you'll want to tune into this couple's therapy session. And friends - this series has been such a huge hit! My podcast was in the top 100 of ALL religion and spirituality podcasts last week, so thank you for listening, sharing, and leaving your review because it helps get the word out about this important series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. Also mentioned on the couple's therapy episodes: The Married Sex Conference! Use Code Debra15 for 15% off and sign up for the conference today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Triggers Are Everywhere: Couples Therapy with Ben and Kelsey (Part 3) Feb 28, 2022

We're in the middle a series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple, Ben and Kelsey, have been married for almost 9 years. They're finding themselves stuck in the area of sexual intimacy, but could there be more going on underneath the surface? In our counseling sessions, Kelsey has revealed that she has a past history of abuse from childhood. She also shared that she's had two emotional affairs that have really set them back in their marriage. Today we unpack the concept of triggers - in the fact that Ben identifies both of them to be "trigger-avoidant" people. We talk through a new way to look at triggers, that not only helped them but I believe it will challenge you as well. I know many of you will relate to this couple, and the fact that sometimes what's going on in TODAY is really a reflection of hurts that happened in the PAST that haven't been fully dealt with. We have to get to the roots if we want true freedom. So tune into this final part of my sessions with Ben and Kelsey. And friends - this series has been such a huge hit so far. My podcast was in the top 100 of ALL religion and spirituality podcasts last week, so thank you for listening, sharing, and leaving your review because it helps get the word out about this important series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens and ZocDoc Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. Also mentioned on today's episode: The Married Sex Conference! Use Code Debra15 for 15% off and sign up for the conference today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Emotional Affairs: Couples Therapy with Ben and Kelsey (Part 2) Feb 21, 2022

We're in the middle a series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple, Ben and Kelsey, have been married for almost 9 years. They're finding themselves stuck in the area of sexual intimacy, but could there be more going on underneath the surface? In our counseling sessions, Kelsey reveals that she has a past history of abuse from childhood. She also shares that she's had two emotional affairs that have really set them back in their marriage. They both deeply love the Lord and one another - so how is it that they got to this place? Is there hope for their marriage moving forward? What does it look like to get to the roots of what might be going on in their marriage? That's what we're going to talk about today. I know many of you will relate to this couple, and the fact that sometimes what's going on in TODAY is really a reflection of hurts that happened in the PAST that haven't been fully dealt with. We have to get to the roots if we want true freedom. And friends - this series has been such a huge hit so far. My podcast was in the top 100 of ALL religion and spirituality podcasts last week, so thank you for listening, sharing, and leaving your review because it helps get the word out about this important series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens and GetFaithful Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. Also mentioned on today's episode: The Married Sex Conference! Use Code Debra15 for 15% off and sign up for the conference today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Couples Therapy with Ben and Kelsey: Infidelity and Intimacy Feb 14, 2022

We're in the middle a four part series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple, Ben and Kelsey, have been married for almost 9 years. They're finding themselves stuck in the area of sexual intimacy, but could there be more going on underneath the surface? In our counseling sessions, Kelsey reveals that she has a past history of abuse from childhood. She also shares that she's had two emotional affairs that have really set them back in their marriage. They both deeply love the Lord and one another - so how is it that they got to this place? Is there hope for their marriage moving forward? What does it look like to get to the roots of what might be going on in their marriage? That's what we're going to talk about today. I know many of you will relate to this couple, and the fact that sometimes what's going on in TODAY is really a reflection of hurts that happened in the PAST that haven't been fully dealt with. We have to get to the roots if we want true freedom. And friends - this series has been such a huge hit so far. My podcast was in the top 100 of ALL religion and spirituality podcasts last week, so thank you for listening, sharing, and leaving your review because it helps get the word out about this important series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens and Abide Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. And sign up for our FREE EVENT: The Married Sex Book Club on February 16th! Also mentioned on today's episode: The Married Sex Conference! Use Code Debra15 and sign up for the conference today! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Couples Therapy with Eric and Ashley: Dealing with Sexual Baggage Feb 07, 2022

We're in the middle a four part series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple, Eric and Ashley, have been married for almost 2 years. But they're both feeling like something is blocking their intimacy. As we dove into their situation, Eric identified that he feels like his sexual past is getting in the way of their ability to connect both emotionally and physically in the present. He has a significant sexual history, and when he became a Christian he thought his sexual past was gone for good...until it started coming back up in his new marriage. He's haunted by his sexual past, and in need of hope to break free. I know many of you can relate to Eric's journey - and I know this episode is going to inspire, challenge, and encourage you to deal with some of those hard things in your own life! Let me know what you think of this couples therapy series by leaving a review on your podcast app! And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: American Blossom Linens and Abide Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out these Bestselling books mentioned today. And sign up for our FREE EVENT: The Married Sex Book Club on February 16th! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Couples Therapy with Justin and Tracy: Wounds from the Past Jan 31, 2022

We're starting a four part series through the month of February called Couples Therapy! I've invited four courageous couples to join me on the podcast for an on-air counseling session. We're going behind the curtain of marriage, and giving you a sneak peek of all the things married couples are actually going through behind the scenes. Because marriage takes work, and it's important to understand that - but it's also important to have the tools you need to do that work, and the hope you need to see that it's always worth it in the end. Today's couple, Justin and Tracy, have been married for 11 years and have two children. They find themselves stuck in an unhealthy pattern - she feels like he's always pulling away, he feels like she's always putting him down. It got so bad, at one point she was considering divorce. In this powerful conversation, we're going to unpack the dynamic they're struggling with in their marriage, get to the roots of why, and find solutions to help them move forward. But more than that, we're going to help them find hope! I hope this session inspires and encourages you to do the work in your own life and relationship. Let me know!! Leave a review on your podcast app, and let us know how you're enjoying this podcast and this series. And now, tune in this powerful episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Zoc Doc and Abide Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Body, Burnout, and Boundaries: Physical Health Jan 24, 2022

Are you physically healthy? Before you quickly answer, let me remind you that Physical health is not what you think. In my book Are You Really OK? I walk you through aspects of physical health: nutrition, diet, exercise, and how to set boundaries and avoid burnout. In today's episode, we're doing a deep dive into one of those areas - and I think it's going to challenge your perspective on physical health. We're in the middle of a four-part series where I'm asking YOU to answer the question: Are you really ok? We're talking through emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health week by week- because there's no better way to start the new year than by stopping to really take inventory of how you're doing! At the end of the series, I'm hosting a ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! It will be a two-hour zoom meeting where I'll be taking all your questions, hearing your stories, and helping you process the things you're learning in the book. To join the book club, all you need to do is listen to this four-part series, buy a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to reading through it, and then sign up for our FREE BOOK CLUB January 26th!! I can't wait to connect with you face to face and talk through all these things. But for now, tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & American Blossom Linens Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How’s Your Spiritual Health? (It’s not what you think) Jan 17, 2022

Are you spiritually healthy? Before you quickly answer, let me remind you that Spiritual health is not what you think. In my book Are You Really OK? I walk you through three aspects of spiritual health: what you believe about God, what you believe about yourself, and what you can find out about your spiritual health from assessing your relationship with others. In today's episode, we're doing a deep dive into one of those areas - and I think it's going to challenge your perspective on spiritual health. Because it has much less to do with what you're doing, and so much more to do with what you believe about God. We're in the middle of a four-part series where I'm asking YOU to answer the question: Are you really ok? We're talking through emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical health week by week- because there's no better way to start the new year than by stopping to really take inventory of how you're doing! At the end of the series, I'm hosting a ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! It will be a two-hour zoom meeting where I'll be taking all your questions, hearing your stories, and helping you process the things you're learning in the book. To join the book club, all you need to do is listen to this four-part series, buy a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to reading through it, and then sign up for our FREE BOOK CLUB January 26th!! I can't wait to connect with you face to face and talk through all these things. But for now, tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & American Blossom Linens Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thought Change = Life Change: Mental Health Jan 10, 2022

Mental health involves three areas: Your thought life, your past experiences, your chemical makeup. In my book Are You Really OK? I discuss each of those in detail! But today we're zooming in on your thought life, and how your thoughts impact your life. We're in the middle of a four-part series on emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical health - because there's no better way to start the new year than by stopping to really take inventory of how you're doing! At the end of the series, I'm hosting a ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! It will be a two-hour zoom meeting where I'll be taking all your questions, hearing your stories, and helping you process the things you're learning in the book. To join the book club, all you need to do is listen to this four-part series, buy a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to reading through it, and then sign up for our FREE BOOK CLUB January 26th!! I can't wait to connect with you face to face and talk through all these things. But for now, tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: American Blossom Linens & GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don’t Always Believe Your Feelings: Emotional Health Jan 03, 2022

Emotional health. What is it? And how do you know if you are emotionally healthy? Before we jump into 2022....we're going to take some time to stop and get healthy from the inside out. Today we're starting a four part Are You Really OK? Series about getting healthy from the inside out. We're focusing on emotional health, mental health, spiritual health, and physical health and helping you do a quick assessment of your own health and how to take next steps! Emotional Health In today's episode we're talking about the three parts to emotional health, and why sometimes your New Year's Resolutions end up falling flat by the end of January. Because so much of why we do what we do stems deeper than our behaviors - and goes down to the roots of our emotional and mental health. This series is going to be so important, and we want everyone to tune in!! So at the end of this four-part series, we're offering a FREE ARE YOU REALLY OK? BOOK CLUB!!! All you have to do to join the book club is listen to the four parts, order a copy of Are You Really OK? and commit to working through it! Then, grab a ticket to join our Book Club on January 26th where I'll be taking your questions and hearing your personal stories and processing the book together with you! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: American Blossom Linens & GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just Not That Into You: 10 Signs To Look For Dec 27, 2021

"You should never have to convince someone that you're worth loving." (Tweet it!) That's exactly what I told the caller on today's episode of the show. After getting burned by a lady he's been getting to know, he finds himself wondering how on earth is a person supposed to read the opposite sex and find out whether or not someone is interested? Are there signs to be on the lookout for? Why, yes...yes there are. 10 different signs to be exact. But here's the key: you have to be willing to recognize them, and then accept them. And I'm going to talk through all this and more in today's interesting show!! If you've ever been in a relationship where you wondered whether or not they felt the same way about you as you felt about them (whether dating or even in marriage) - then this episode is for you. Give this short episode (25 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because you should never have to convince someone that you're worth investing in (tweet it). Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned: 10 Signs He/She Is Not That Into You Does He Like Me? 7 Clues He's Interested Does She Like Me? 7 Clues She's Interested Learn how to attract and keep a healthy dating relationships in True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Find out choices you can make today, to build a better marriage for tomorrow in Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Secrets to Good Communication: The Art of Conversation Dec 20, 2021

Good communication isn't something you're born with. It's not even a gender thing. It's something you have to learn (CLICK TO Tweet it!) I was on a talk show where I was talking about the importance of good communication in relationships. The host of the show stopped me to ask, "Debra, do you mean to tell me you expect men to be good communicators?" Why, yes. That is absolutely what I am saying. To be honest, I was really frustrated with that question. Because I rebel against the stereotype that men can't be good communicators. I think it's insulting, and unfair, and sets us up for less than God's best in our relationships. We need to expect more, and teach both our sons and our daughters the importance of healthy communication... It has to be practiced. And even when you're married and in love...you'll still have communication issues to work through. Take me for example: a wife of 11 years, licensed counselor and relationship expert. But just recently my husband and I had one of those "communication mishaps" that we had to work through....(don't worry, I'll tell you aaaaaallllll about it!) because communication is something you have to practice. On this episode, I talk to a young man who is struggling to communicate well, and wants some suggestions on how to get to the next level with expressing himself, especially with his emotions. Because in order to express our feelings, we have to first acknowledge them. Good Communication Skills Are Up For Grabs In this podcast, we talk through some practical steps to good communication, and cover these important topics: Why communicating and expressing emotions isn't a male/female thing. The four levels of communication and why they matter. How our family background and culture can influence our ability to communicate. Some suggestions in learning to acknowledge our emotions and feelings. Why it takes practice to get to a better place with our communication. How to learn good communication even long before you're in a romantic relationship. Learning to recognize the WALLS (barriers to good communication) that you have whether or not you realize it - because they're keeping you from healthy communication. This concept has really changed my life and I write all about it in Choosing Marriage, but today I'm sharing it with you on the show! And of course, a few candid conversations about my relationship with John and some of our most recent communication mishaps! If you want some practical advice to mastering the art of communication, then episode is SO SO SO SO important for you to listen to! Because good communication isn't something you're born with. It's something you have to learn. (TWEET IT!) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question...

Am I Toxic? What If I’m the Unhealthy One in the Relationship Dec 13, 2021

Am I toxic? What if I'm the toxic one in the relationship? Because I think the problem is me. That was the unique question that came into the podcast hotline, and I knew I had to answer it right away. Am I toxic? That's a question people don't often ask. It's not common for someone to identify themselves as the person in need of change in the relationship, and I was so grateful for this man's insight and willingness to listen to advice and consider next steps for change. Am I toxic? As you listen to this insightful conversation, I want you to ask yourself this: Am I toxic in any way, shape, or form? Or what about this: Could you be the one in the relationship in need of change? It's so easy to look at what others need to fix and change, without really looking inward at our own problems, past baggage, unhealthy behaviors, and bad habits. But I want you to ask yourself: could I be the toxic one? Is there anything I need to change in my life? Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Imperfect Foods & GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Compatibility: How to Know if You’re a Good Match Dec 06, 2021

Compatibility is key to a healthy relationship. Just because you're a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian - doesn't mean you're going to be a good match when it comes to being in a relationship. Compatibility is a huge piece to the puzzle of relationships, and it's one that often get's ignored or overshadowed in the conversation of what makes a healthy relationships. When it comes to understanding compatibility in a relationship, there are certain things that have to "fit together" well, just like putting a puzzle together. This isn't about finding an exact replica of yourself, it's about finding someone who is going to be a good match for your life. In order to find a good match, you've got to know your shape, and your colors. Compatibility Looks Like... There are certain big picture topics where it's important to make sure you have compatibility when you're in a relationship. Today on the podcast, we're talking through those topics! You can also dig deeper into accountability in my book, Love In Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oversharing in Relationships: 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon Nov 29, 2021

Have you ever found yourself oversharing in a relationship? You know what I mean, right? I'm talking about those conversations where you find yourself saying WAY too much, WAY too soon? Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, why on earth did I say all that? Or maybe you know someone, someone who you're in a relationship with, who tends to overshare. What is it about oversharing, and why do we do it? How can we draw the line between being authentic, but also not saying way more than we need to? How do we apply this to the world of dating and relationships? Oversharing in Relationships Today's caller is a Melissa - a woman who is struggling with oversharing. She's wondering why she overshares, and how to know when she's shared too much. Specifically, she's dealing with oversharing about her sexual history - finding herself always leading the way with that conversation. On today's episode, she's calling in today to talk through some of the issues this has brought up in her relationships. "Because your sexual history may shape you, but it doesn't define you." 10 Things NOT TO SHARE early on There are a few reasons why people overshare, and specifically when it comes to our past, we need to understand why we overshare, what's important to share, and where we need to tone it down. I talk through some reasons we overshare in this episode, because just like I tell Melissa: "It's not healthy to dive into the deep end of a relationship, before you've walked through the shallow end." So after my conversation with Melissa, I'm talking you through some practicals: 10 things NOT to talk about too soon in a relationship - especially when you're first getting to know someone in a dating relationship (or even in the early stages of a friendship). Who Should I Share With? And lastly, on this episode I'm talking through the three groups of people in your life, how to categorize them, and understand how much to share with each group. Whether you're dating, single, or navigating friendships, tune in to Episode 016 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, to listen to this important conversation about oversharing! Episode Highlights: What does oversharing look like? Why do we overshare in relationships? What are some subjects we should stay away from? When do we share mental health issues? Sexual history? 10 things NOT to talk about early on in a relationship. How to recognize who to share with, and who not to. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Everlywell and GetFaithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trust Issues: Is the Problem You, or Your Relationship? Nov 22, 2021

Q: How do you deal with trust issues, when they seem to come up again and again? In today's show, I talk to Latoya, who finds herself struggling with trust issues with her soon-to-be-husband. Little by little, we find out how her past is influencing the feelings she's having, and I give her practical steps to help her overcome the grip that the past is having on her life. If you've ever struggled with issues from your past having an impact on your present relationships - then this episode is for you. We talk through these trust issues today, and how to identify if the problem is coming from within you - or if the problem points to something happening in the relationship. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Imperfect Foods Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Single In Your 30s: How to Hold on to Hope! Nov 15, 2021

"I never imagined I'd be single in my 30's"... Today's caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself single in her late 30s - something she never imagined. What does it look like to hold on to hope when life's timeline doesn't look like what you expected? No matter what age you are, I believe this favorite episode is going to encourage you to take the next steps. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Everlywell, ABIDE, and Olive + June Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Helping Your Kids Establish a Healthy Identity Nov 08, 2021

Q: Hey Debra, you always say that what you believe about yourself determines the kind of relationships you believe you deserve...how do I help my kids begin to establish a healthy identity? So much of our identity is formed and shaped in our childhood years - and what we do, and say, and teach as parents matters. How do you begin to help your kids see themselves as God sees them? Fight off the cultural lies? Feel confident in who they are? Build a healthy identity? Today, my good friend and amazing podcaster, Jamie Ivey - joins me for this important conversation. Jamie is a mother of four amazing kids, in the thick of their teen years. I loved chatting with her about this concept, and even if you don't have kids, I think this important conversation will get you thinking about your own childhood and the things that shaped your healthy identity along the way. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: ZocDoc & Trade Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Considering Marriage: Majors and Minors (with Pastor Cal) Nov 01, 2021

Q: What is your best advice for a couple considering marriage? Marriage is a big decision. I think we can all agree to that. But what sets apart marriages that succeed from marriages that don't? Today, I'm joined by Pastor Cal, one of the spiritual advisors and coaches from the reality TV show called Married At First Sight. On this show, they literally match up two potential candidates for marriage based on a series of psychological tests - and then they meet and marry on their wedding day. Let me just say, it's a crazy premise - but if nothing else, it's a fascinating look into some of the stages of a relationship: the honeymoon stage, followed by conflict and tension, followed by learning resolution, forgiveness, and reconciliation. Today, we talk a little bit about the show, and then dive into some key areas that make a marriage work, and things to be on the lookout for as you're considering marriage! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Girlfriend Collective & Nutrafol Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Moving Forward After Purity Culture Oct 25, 2021

Q: How can singles restore a healthy view of sex when they've been hurt by purity culture? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in honor of our new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this final episode of this series: The Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a couple a man who wants to know how to restore a healthy view of sex, after he's been hurt by some of the messages from the purity culture. So how do you strike a balance between taking the good - and leaving the harmful when it comes to some of the messages of the purity culture? Gary and I tag-team this question on today's episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Everlywell & Abide FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Order Married Sex Today!! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oral Sex: When One of You Doesn’t Like it. Oct 18, 2021

Q: What do you do when one of you wants oral sex, but the other doesn't like it? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in honor of our new book Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a couple who has different preferences when it comes to oral sex. So how do you strike a balance of differences in sexual preferences when there are two people to respect in the marriage? Especially with a sensitive issue like oral sex. Gary and I tag-team this question on today's episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Trade & ZocDoc FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple's Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Do I Help My Wife Get Turned On? Oct 11, 2021

Q: How do I help my wife get turned on? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a man who wants to do his part in helping his wife get turned on during sex. So how do you arouse your wife and get her turned on? We're covering tips, advice, and suggestions to focusing in on the wife on today's episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Everlywell & ABIDE FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple's Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Quickie Sex or Not-So-Quickie Sex Oct 04, 2021

Quickie Sex or Not So Quickie? That's today's topic! Q: Sometimes I'd enjoy something spontaneous, but my wife prefers to wait until the end of the night so she can unwind. How can we honor each other's preferences? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, in celebration of the new book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (It's officially available TODAY!!!! CLICK HERE TO ORDER!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a man who would like sex to be spontaneous every once in a while with quickie sex, but his wife prefers to wait until the end of the evening so she can wind down (and after the kids are in bed!) and enjoy not-so-quickie sex. So what's the balance of meeting the different needs and preferences that come up with sex? How do you honor each other when you have different desires? Is there any way to meet in the middle? Gary and I tag-team this question and talk about some practical ways to honor your spouse even when you have different preferences between quick and spontaneous sex, vs. scheduled or longer sexual experiences. I also include a couple practical suggestions for those in the life stage of keeping your sex life alive even when you've got little kids at home (...because I can speak from experience!!!) Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: ABIDE & Everlywell FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level? Order Married Sex AVAILABLE Today!!!! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Keeping Sex Fun When You’re Trying to Get Pregnant Sep 27, 2021

Q: Any advice to keeping sex fun when you're trying to get pregnant? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this important question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a couple who is struggling with fertility issues and trying to get pregnant. Sex can often seem like more of a chore, and lose it's fun and excitement when you're trying desperately to get pregnant. The pressure of getting pregnant can oftentimes outweigh the joy of intimacy. So how do you strike a balance, navigate fertility issues, and keep your sex life healthy during those seasons? Gary and I tag-team this question and talk about keeping sex fun when you're trying to get pregnant on today's episode of the Sex Series! So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Trade & ZocDoc FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple's Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is It Wrong to Want to Try Something I’ve Seen in Porn? Sep 20, 2021

Q: Is it wrong to want to try something I've seen in porn, even though I know that porn itself is wrong? Friends - we're talking about sex! And the sex series continues with this courageous question!!! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life (CLICK TO PRE-ORDER TODAY!!!!), we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a man who is curious if it's okay to try something he's seen in porn, even though he knows porn is wrong. Something I've Seen in Porn? This is an important question, because pornography impacts many people and many couples. It's a question a lot of people might be thinking, but aren't asking. That's why we need to talk about it!! This episode is straight-forward, honest, and probably not totally what you expect. So tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Girlfriend Collective & BlueLand FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple's Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sex Tips & Tricks For Newlyweds (or not so Newlyweds) Sep 13, 2021

Today we're talking about sex tips and tricks for Newlyweds (and not so newly weds) Q: My wife and I are newlyweds, and right now sex is a little bit of a struggle and seems forced. Any advice or suggestions? Friends - we're talking about sex! Over the course of the next few weeks, leading up to the book launch of Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide To Reimagining Your Love Life, we're taking all your questions about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a newlywed couple looking for advice and sex tips to overcome some of the struggles of being a new-to-sex. But the advice we give them today doesn't just apply to newlywed sex! If sex has been a little bit of a struggle lately, then this episode is for you. We talk about the #1 tip to making sex better for both parties, some obstacles that come up as newlyweds and beyond, as well as some other sex tips and tricks along the way!!! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Faithful Counseling! Are you ready to take your sex life to the next level! Pre-Order Married Sex Today and Get The Couple's Guide To Talking About Sex, as well as the first few Audiobook Chapters FREE that you can start listening to, TODAY! ATTN MARRIED COUPLES: check out the upcoming Married Sex Online Conference! 25+ seminars about sex, 12 months to stream, plus a FREE copy of our book Married Sex! Register Today!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexless in a Sex-Filled World Sep 06, 2021

We're talking about sex today...but not in the way you expect. This time, we're talking about being sex-less. What do you do when you're single and living in a sex-filled world? How do you save sex for marriage when everything inside of you and around you is telling you otherwise? How do you honor God, and still have a healthy awareness and understanding of your sexual desires? How does the purity culture impact our beliefs about sex for both good and for bad? Today I'm talking with my single friend, Kat Harris, who has been learning about the journey for herself. We're answering this caller question: I'm committed to saving sex for marriage. I do believe it's God's best for my life. But the struggle is real! What tips, advice, or suggestions do you have for me as I'm trying to remain sexless, in a sex-filled world? So, let's talk about sex!! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! (And then, check out this #3 most downloaded episode about Sex Drive and the Single Life as well!) FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Faithful Counseling! Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

NFL & Mental Health w/ Rashad Johnson Aug 31, 2021

What's it like to care for your mental and emotional health in the world of professional sports? In today's podcast, I talk with NFL veteran Rashad Johnson about life in the NFL, and what it looks like to practically care for yourself when the focus tends to be on physical performance. We talk through a hard season he went through, the difficulty of transitioning out of the NFL, and ways he's learned to take care of his mental health along the way - out of necessity. It's a powerful conversation that will challenge you to stop and care for yourself right where you're at. I'm also joined by co-host and fan favorite, Chad Johnson for this amazing conversation. Don't miss it!!! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: BlueLand Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?, and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mind over Matter: Mental Health and The Olympics w/ Trenten Merrill Aug 23, 2021

The topic of mental health and the Olympics really made it's way to the surface recently, as Simone Biles took the media spotlight after she opted out of her Olympic events due to mental health reasons. The word was divided on whether or not she was a hero, and what it really means to struggle with mental health issues. I wanted to dive deeper into this topic, and I invited an incredible guy named Trenten Merrell to join me, and my friend and sports chaplain Chad Johnson, for a conversation about the true mind battle that comes with being an Olympian. Trenten is a Paralympian, who is currently in Tokyo getting ready for his big events. And he knows what it means to have to work through hard things in life and in the world of the Olympics. He took time out of his training to come talk to us, because that's how much this conversation about Mental Health and The Olympics matters. We talked about how mental health either helps or stunts physical performance. We talked about Trenten's experience with losing a leg, the trauma he went through, and how he was able to work through it and come out the other side even stronger. We talked about the fine-tuning that happens physically and mentally as you get ready to perform. We talked about how physical health impacts your actual mental health chemistry. We made so many parallels to the world of training physically and how it relates to training emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. We got an inside peak into what the final weeks of training look like for an Olympian. And so much more! The truths that came out of this conversation were so impactful for me in my personal life - and you'll see what I mean as you listen. You'll be able to apply so much of these lessons to your life whether you're an athlete or not. It is so powerful, and so, so good. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Faithful Counseling Are you ready to get healthy from the inside out? Check out my Bestselling book, Are You Really OK? And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1 Most Downloaded: How Identity Impacts Relationships w/ Christine Caine Aug 16, 2021

What if I told you that your identity is one of the number one things that impacts the quality of your relationships? We're highlighting the top 5 most downloaded podcasts of the past 12 months, and this episode came in at #1! Because what you believe about yourself determines the kind of relationship you believe you deserve. But so many things can get in the way of what we believe about ourselves. Christine Caine knows that first hand. In today's episode, Christine and I talk about the importance of taking inventory of our identity, and what that looks like practically. Identity Matters In today's episode we discuss: How trauma and past experiences can impact our identity. The labels we carry through life that impact our identity. Her personal story of adoption and abuse and how it impacted what she believed about herself. The psychology and theology behind identity and what shapes it. What it looks like to replace the lies about who we are with God's truth. Understanding your identity in Christ. Verses that will shape your identity with truth (see below in the resources) And so much more!! If you've EVER struggled with identity issues, or maybe you're struggling today - I can't express to you how important this episode is. Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Modern Fertility Books by Debra: And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#2 Most Downloaded: Am I Too Picky? with Ben Stuart Aug 09, 2021

Am I too picky? Today's caller is wondering if she's too picky, or if she just has high standards? How can you tell the difference, especially when people are making comments that....maybe....you're too picky. We're highlighting the top 5 most downloaded podcasts of the past 12 months, and this question came in at #2! I invited my friend, Pastor Ben Stuart author of Single, Dating, Engaged, Married, to join me as a co-host for today's episode as we talk through the difference between having high standards, and being too picky. Am I Too Picky? In today's episode we cover: How do I know if I'm being too picky? What non-negotiables should I have on my list? What are the difference between needs and preferences? Majors and minors? What, if anything, does scripture tell us is criteria for a relationship? Are dating apps messing with our heads when it comes to choosing a relationship? Where does attraction fall into this? And so much more! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Books by Debra: And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#3 Most Downloaded: What a Godly Man Wants in a Woman w/Chad Johnson Aug 02, 2021

What does a godly man want in a woman? We're highlighting the top 5 most downloaded podcasts of the past 12 months, and this question came in at #3! My friend Chad and I did a Q&A together, and we answer some of your questions on this episode - and one woman wants to know, what is up with the godly man saying he wants a woman of character, and then chasing after the supermodel woman?? It's a loaded question, friends...but at the same time, it's worth answering. You're not going to want to miss this episode!!! It's loaded with so much. And you don't want to miss Chad's male perspective on this, either. There's a reason this one came in as #3 most downloaded, and that Chad's episodes are 2 out of the top 5 most downloaded. They're so good!!! (In fact, we're bringing him back soon, so stay tuned.) Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Books by Debra: And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#4 Most Downloaded: Should A Woman Initiate? One Man’s Perspective with Chad Johnson Jul 26, 2021

When it comes to dating, should a woman initiate? We're highlighting the top 5 most downloaded podcasts of the past 12 months, and this question came in at #4! You guys know what I think about this topic (it's a non-issue, and it doesn't matter who initiates as long as the relationship is made of give-and-take thereafter), but I decided to ask my friend, Chad Johnson, to give me his male-perspective on the issue in our conversation. Should a Woman Initiate? Let me just warn you, things go down in this podcast - because Chad and I certainly don't agree on everything, and I even call him out on some of his perspectives. We talk about should a woman initiate, what to do about getting ghosted, and so may other great topics. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Books by Debra: And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#5 Most Downloaded: Enjoying Singleness vs. Wanting Marriage Jul 19, 2021

Is it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage? We're highlighting the top 5 most downloaded podcasts of the past 12 months, and this question came in at #5! Today's caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you're experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in control your life? Is it possible to enjoy singleness AND want marriage simultaneously? Enjoying Singleness We're talking through this important topic today....so if you feel like you're having a hard time striking a balance between these two different places, this episode is for you!!!! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO More from Debra: And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Anxiety in High Performance, High Functioning People Jul 12, 2021

If you've been following along, you've heard us have some open and honest conversations about anxiety. But today is a little bit different. Today I'm talking to John Delony from Ramsey Solutions. Dr. Delony is a high-performance, high-achieving man - who found himself in a pit of anxiety that he didn't see coming. Sometimes, people don't recognize anxiety because on the outside they are successful and seem like they have it all together. But underneath the high performance, high functioning life - is a layer of pressure just waiting to come up to the surface. In Are You Really OK? I talk about the emotional pressure like a volcano, and how it's important to get to the pressure before it gets to you. If you're the type of person who is always on the go, trying to achieve, maximize your time, and has a hard time saying no to all the opportunities to get ahead - then this episode is for you. The truth is, even high-performance, high-functioning humans can only handle a certain amount on their plate before it's too much. You have to learn when to recognize you're nearing empty - and do what you can to refuel and recharge as a regular part of your lifestyle. Listen to this conversation with Dr. Delony, today on the podcast! It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically. Are You Really OK? is available NOW!! It's time to ask yourself the hard questions and get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book is HERE!! ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How To Deal With Stress (In 3 Steps) Jul 05, 2021

Raise your hand if you're stressed! Okay, so pretty much everyone. Now how do we deal with stress? We've heard a lot about stress the past year because 2020 was a doozy and we're still reeling from it. But we've got to learn to unpack and face our stress in healthy ways. In today's episode I'm talking you through dealing with stress. I'm sharing three steps to make sure you're handling your stress in a healthy way. If you need to get a good gauge of your stress levels, check out the Holmes-Rahe Scale in my new book, Are You Really OK? and get started on the journey of unpacking your underlying stress. So check out this episode, and let's start dealing with your stress. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically. Are You Really OK? is available NOW!! It's time to ask yourself the hard questions and get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book is HERE!! ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Life Brings You Down: Overcoming Severe Depression with Ben Courson Jun 28, 2021

You'd never guess overcoming severe depression is part of his story. Because I don't know many young men who are full of life and pep and joy like Ben Courson. But this joy has been hard fought for. So hard, that he almost lost the fight. Life has thrown a lot of hardships his way, causing him to struggle with complex post traumatic stress disorder and severe depression. I'm overjoyed to have Ben on the podcast today, the founder and creator of Hope Generation, and a man who has truly used his history and story of overcoming severe depression to breathe hope and life into this generation. In this episode we talk about everything from brain chemistry, to meds, to therapy, to the literal power of prayer neurologically and how Ben used all of these things to bring him back to baseline. Take a moment to listen to his story, and be inspired by his journey of healing. If life has ever thrown some seemingly impossible obstacles and pain your way...this episode is for you. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically. Are You Really OK? is available NOW!! It's time to ask yourself the hard questions and get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book is HERE!! ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Avoiding the Comparison Trap with Jamie Ivey Jun 21, 2021

Comparison is the enemy of contentment...the problem is, with social media, Instagram filters, and TikTok stories - there's nothing easier in 2021 than comparing yourself to others. It's literally a trap that's right at your fingertips. Today I'm answering a listener question about dealing with the comparison trap, with my friend and today's co-host Jamie Ivey. Jamie is the host of the Happy Hour Podcast, and I'm thrilled to have her help me tag-team this question as we share our own journey with comparison, and practical steps we've taken to overcome that trap. When it comes to mental health, so much of it starts with what you allow yourself to think. Comparison is an important area to avoid. Find out how to do that in today's episode. If you've ever struggled with comparison...this episode is for you! It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically. Are You Really OK? is available NOW!! It's time to ask yourself the hard questions and get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book is HERE!! ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Insomnia: How To Get Better Sleep Jun 14, 2021

Insomnia. Sleep struggles. Tossing and turning. Watching the clock go by hour by hour...How do you deal with a lack of sleep when it impacts your overall health emotionally and physically? Today's episode answers a caller who is struggling with his sleep. We'll offer some practical suggestions for what to do, as well as ways to check-in on your sleep hygiene! If you've ever struggled with a lack of sleep...this episode is for you! It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically. Are You Really OK? is available NOW!! It's time to ask yourself the hard questions and get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book is HERE!! ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are You Really OK? My On-Air Session with Jonathan Pitts Jun 07, 2021

Over the past few weeks, I've been having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: are YOU really ok? This series comes in honor of my NEW book, Are You Really OK? challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Jonathan Pitts. Jonathan is the executive pastor at Church of the City in Franklin, TN. Today Jonathan opens up about the trauma of losing his 38-year-old wife suddenly and unexpectedly. He talks about his journey today, and the things he's learned along the way. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Jeremy Camp on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing emotionally and mentally. Are You Really OK? is available NOW!! It's time to ask yourself the hard questions and get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book is HERE!! ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are You Really OK? My On-Air Session with Jeremy Camp May 31, 2021

Over the past few weeks, I've been having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: are YOU really ok? This series comes in honor of my NEW book, Are You Really OK? challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Jeremy Camp. Jeremy is an incredibly talented singer/songwriter. You've probably heard his songs on the radio, or even tuned into the movie he released last year called "I Still Believe" chronicling the heart wrenching journey of losing his first wife to cancer. Today Jeremy opens up to talk about the crippling anxiety he faced while on a ministry trip. His anxiety in the present was actually rooted in past experiences, and we process that today on-air. His story is powerful and painful, yet filled with hope and healing. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Jeremy Camp on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing emotionally and mentally. Are You Really OK? is available NOW!! It's time to ask yourself the hard questions and get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book is HERE!! ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My On-Air Session Levi Lusko May 24, 2021

Over the next few weeks I'm be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: are YOU really ok? This series comes in honor of my NEW book, Are You Really OK? challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Levi Lusko. Levi is the pastor of Fresh Life Church in Montana, along with his wife Jennie. Levi opens up and shares about the dark time of grief, after tragically losing their 5 year old daughter. He talks about the power of grief, how it leads to depression and anxiety, and the way it ravages your heart, soul, mind and strength. He gives us a glimpse into this dark season, as well as others as he opens up about his personal journey with mental and emotional health. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Levi on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing emotionally and mentally. Are You Really OK? is available NOW!! It's time to ask yourself the hard questions and get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book is HERE!! ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are You Really OK? My On-Air Session with Christine Caine May 18, 2021

Over the next few weeks I'm be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: are YOU really ok? This series comes in anticipation of my NEW book, Are You Really OK?, (TODAY IS BOOK RELEASE DAY!!!) challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Christine Caine. Christine is a Jesus-loving, passionate, international speaker and author. Along with her husband, she's the founder of A21, an anti-human trafficking campaign that's saving lives across the globe. Christine opens up and shares about a dark time of rejection and pain that lasted almost two years....so dark, she wasn't sure if she wanted to make it to the other side. Her story is going to open your eyes to the challenges so many people go through without our awareness. But it will give you hope in your own dark time. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Christine on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Are You Really OK? is available TODAY, and when you ORDER TODAY through May 22nd you also get a FREE Journal as well as the ENTIRE FREE AUDIOBOOK!! This incredible deal only lasts through launch week, and we have a limited supply of journals which we WILL SELL OUT, so be sure to claim your bonuses today! Click below to pre-order, then claim your bonuses at: AreYouReallyOK.com It's time to get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book is HERE!! ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are You Really OK? My On-Air Session with Matt Chandler May 10, 2021

Over the next few weeks I'm be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: are YOU really ok? This series comes in anticipation of my upcoming book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Matt Chandler. Pastor Matt is the senior pastor of the Village Church, and his mental health came to a head recently as he faced an concerning emotional block in his life and feelings of burnout that started to impact everything. It took an intentional shift to face his childhood wounds to begin the process of healing. Pastor Matt Chandler shares is story with us today of facing his childhood wounds. I loved his honesty and no-filter demeanor in this conversation. It was truly one of my favorite conversations and I know it will inspire you as well. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Matt Chandler on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Are You Really OK? comes out May 18th, and when you PRE-ORDER TODAY you also get a FREE Journal as well as the ENTIRE FREE AUDIOBOOK!! This incredible deal only lasts through launch week, and we have a limited supply of journals which we WILL SELL OUT, so be sure to claim your bonuses today! Click below to pre-order, then claim your bonuses at: AreYouReallyOK.com It's time to get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are You Really OK? My On-Air Session with Kayla Stoecklein May 04, 2021

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: are YOU really ok? This series comes in anticipation of my upcoming book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Kayla Stoecklein. Kayla's and her family went through a horrific season of darkness, when her husband Andrew - an incredible pastor and leader of a mega-church, died by suicide in 2018. Kayla talks us through Andrew's difficult journey with mental illness, as well as her own journey in the process. She has an important message to share, reminding us of the great need to understand mental health issues- because it's truly life or death. I know this on-air session with him will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Kayla Stoecklein on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Are You Really OK? comes out May 18th, and when you PRE-ORDER TODAY you also get a FREE Journal as well as the ENTIRE FREE AUDIOBOOK!! This incredible deal only lasts through launch week, and we have a limited supply of journals which we WILL SELL OUT, so be sure to claim your bonuses today! Click below to pre-order, then claim your bonuses at: AreYouReallyOK.com It's time to get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are You Really OK? My On-Air Session with Natalie Grant Apr 26, 2021

Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: are YOU really ok? This series comes in anticipation of my upcoming book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session with Natalie Grant is SO hopeful. A top Christian female vocalist, she has been through her own journey with anxiety and panic in the most unexpected places. She hit her low point, and needed the people in her life to carry her through. Her story will remind you that you are not alone, that you don't have to be okay, and that there is room for Jesus, therapy AND medication in your life. All of the above. I know this on-air session will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and enjoy this vulnerable conversation with Natalie Grant on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Are You Really OK? comes out May 18th, and when you PRE-ORDER TODAY you also get a FREE Journal as well as the ENTIRE FREE AUDIOBOOK!! This incredible deal only lasts through launch week, and we have a limited supply of journals which we WILL SELL OUT, so be sure to claim your bonuses today! Click below to pre-order, then claim your bonuses at: AreYouReallyOK.com It's time to get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are You Really OK? My On-Air Counseling Session with JP Pokluda Apr 20, 2021

Over the next 8 weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: are YOU really ok? This series comes in anticipation of my upcoming book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. We're opening this series with one of my favorite leaders....Pastor JP Pokluda. One thing that really sticks out to me about JP is his blunt and point-blank approach to life. For him, nothing is off limits to talk about. And nothing to dark for Jesus to shine his light. And this conversation is no different. I know this on-air session with him will challenge you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and enjoy this vulnerable conversation with Pastor "JP" on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Are You Really OK? comes out May 18th, and when you PRE-ORDER TODAY you also get a FREE Journal as well as the ENTIRE FREE AUDIOBOOK!! This incredible deal only lasts through launch week, and we have a limited supply of journals which we WILL SELL OUT, so be sure to claim your bonuses today! Click below to pre-order, then claim your bonuses at: AreYouReallyOK.com It's time to get real about how you're really doing. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

LISTEN NOW!! Are You Really OK? AUDIOBOOK INTRODUCTION! Apr 12, 2021

We're excited to release the Introduction of the Audiobook Version of Are You Really OK? right here, right now, on the podcast!!! My new book comes out May 18th, and if you PRE-ORDER TODAY you also get a FREE Journal as well as the ENTIRE FREE AUDIOBOOK!! This incredible deal only lasts through launch week, and we have a limited supply of journals which we WILL SELL OUT, so be sure to claim your bonuses today! Click below to pre-order, then claim your bonuses at: AreYouReallyOK.com Then sit back, and enjoy the audiobook of Are You Really OK? in this Season 6 opener of the Love + Relationships Podcast! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Getting Married Young with Dave and Ashley Willis Apr 05, 2021

When is the BEST age to get married? Is it getting married younger or older? I get that question a lot. And if you know me, you know that my answer is this: It's not about your age, it's about your health. But nonetheless, there are pros and cons to getting married young and there are pros and cons to getting married older. So, we'll be talking to two sets of couples who got married at different stages, and hearing both the pros and the cons from their experience. Today I want to introduce you to Dave and Ashley Willis, who met and married in their early 20s. I loved my conversation with them, and I know you will too!! Getting Married Young Don't miss a new episode of the podcast!! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Getting Married Older with Sabrina and Levi Mar 30, 2021

When is the BEST age to get married? Is it getting married older or younger? I get that question a lot. And if you know me, you know that my answer is this: It's not about your age, it's about your health. But nonetheless, there are pros and cons to getting married young and there are pros and cons to getting married older. So for the next two weeks, we'll be talking to two sets of couples who got married at different stages, and hearing both the pros and the cons from their experience. Today I want to introduce you to Sabrina and Levi, a couple who I connected with on Instagram, and who met and married in their mid 30s. I loved my conversation with them, and I know you will too!! Getting Married Older Don't miss a new episode of the podcast!! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Do I Get Over Someone I Was NEVER With? Mar 22, 2021

How do you get over someone you were never with? Isn't it crazy you can get so stuck on someone you were never in a serious relationship with? But it's for real, and it can happen. Our minds and hearts are powerful, and we can create connections with people we were never really connected to, to begin with! Today's caller wants to know how she can get over someone she was never really with. What's the mental work that it takes to get to a healthier place? Are there practical steps? The answer is YES. And we're talking about it on today's episode! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Do You Handle Feedback After a BreakUp? Mar 15, 2021

How do you handle the feedback you get from an ex after a breakup? What do you do with the information they tell you about "why" they broke up with you? How seriously are you supposed to take it? Especially from someone you won't end up marrying? That's exactly what's on Kenneth's mind today when he called into the Love + Relationships hotline. The Breakup Today's episode, we're talking through what to do with that feedback after a breakup - and how to handle it with balance. It's such a good conversation, especially if you've ever gotten feedback after a breakup and are wondering how much weight it should carry in your life!! Don't miss this new episode! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Opposite Sex Friendships: Do I Have Too Many? Mar 08, 2021

Today's question comes from a young man who has too many women in his life - what?! Talk about a problem. He's got more female friends than male friends....maybe some of you can relate? Maybe you have more opposite sex friendships vs. same sex friendships. He's wondering if the amount of ladies he's friends with might end up causing a problem in the end, because none of them seem to fit the pattern of the type of woman he wants to marry. We also take some time to explore family of origin issues, and how that might be at play with your comfort level or lack there of with the opposite sex - so this conversation is an interesting one! Opposite Sex Friendships If you've ever wondered if maybe your comfort or LACK of comfort with opposite sex friendships is rooted in something deeper - than this episode is for you! Don't miss this new episode! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Loving After Hurt Mar 02, 2021

Q: Loving after hurt...is it even possible? How do you love again after you've been really hurt? Today's caller wants to know how he can open his heart to love again after he's been hurt in a past relationship. You may be wondering the same thing. Maybe you're dealing with some residual wounds from a past relationship that let you down, blind-sided you, or broke your heart. How do you open your heart to love again? We're going to give you some practical steps on loving after hurt. Today, my friend- pastor Adam Weber - joins me to discuss what it means to love and trust again after you've been jaded and disappointed in a friendship or in a relationship. Loving After Hurt Don't miss this new episode! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sharing About Your Past: How Much Is Too Much? Feb 22, 2021

When it comes to sharing about your past relationships...how much is too much? Today's question comes from Kristen from Indiana, who wants to know: what is important, or even healthy to share, with a boyfriend/girlfriend or fiancé about your past relationship? I start off by putting the answer to sharing about your past into two different categories, because I think what you share with a boyfriend or girlfriend is going to look different than a fiancé. "The level of sharing in a relationship has to coincide with the level of trust." Don't miss this new episode! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Connect with our sponsor: https://curtsyapp.com/ BOOKS BY DEBRA Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sexting, Sex Appeal, and The Hook-Up Culture Feb 15, 2021

Sexting, Sex Appeal, and The hook up culture. In a culture where women are praised for flaunting their bodies - as women (and men!), how do we balance caring about our appearance, but not catering to a culture that focuses SO much on physical looks and sex appeal? Today's question comes from Maggie from Pennsylvania...and it sparks an entire conversation about sex appeal, sexting, the hook up culture, and so much more. How to handle sexting? What do you do when he/she starts sexting or asking for/sending sexy pictures? What do you say when the conversation starts to get more heated than you're comfortable with? What happens when your physical boundaries start getting crossed in a relationship? Today we're covering sexting, sex appeal, and ALL things hook up culture and I'm thrilled to be tag-teaming this question with Kristen Clark from Girl Defined! Don't miss this new episode! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Connect with our sponsor: shesbirdie.com/love BOOKS BY DEBRA Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Ways To Avoid Valentines Disappointment (For Every Relationship Status) Feb 11, 2021

How do you avoid Valentines Day Disappointment? You know, that terrible let down feeling when the day just doesn't go how you hoped it would to go? It doesn't matter if you're single, dating, or married - because we're all susceptible to disappointment when that day rolls around. People approach Valentines Day with a range of love/hate feelings for this occasion to celebrate love. How To Avoid Valentines Day Disappointment (Don't Do What I DID!!) In today's episode, I want to talk to you about three ways you can avoid Valentines Day disappointment whether you're single, dating, or married. I promise you, these tips are going to help and encourage you to make the absolute most of this week! I'm starting the episode with telling you about my WORST Valentines Day ever, and how I did the exact opposite of the advice I'm about to give you today about Valentines Day disappointment. You live and learn! I can't wait to share this episode with you, and I hope it encourages and instills you with new perspective as you approach Valentines Day this week. PS. ATTENTION ALL SINGLES OUT THERE...I want to invite you to join us February 26th for Singles Night Out!!! Click here or the photo below for details...we only have a few tickets left, so register today! A practical way to avoid Valentines Day disappointment! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Connect with our sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Long Distance Relationships: How Much Is Too Much? Feb 08, 2021

Today's caller is asking a question about long distance relationships. She's trying to get to know her boyfriend, who lives across the country, and she's wondering how much is too much when it comes to getting to know one another, specifically - spending time on the phone talking. Her boyfriend's roommates seem to think they talk "too much" - and she's not so sure. So who is right in this situation? And how do you gauge it? Long Distance Relationships Check out today's conversation about long distance relationships and how much is too much when it comes to spending time talking and getting to know one another! Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Toxic Relationship with Chrystal Evans Hurst Feb 01, 2021

How do you recognize a toxic relationship? What do you do if you find yourself in one? What does it look like if you're dating someone toxic? What about if you're married to someone toxic? Today, I talk with Chrystal Hurst Evans about how to identify a toxic relationship, as well as steps to take to move yourself away from them. Whether single, married, dating, or somewhere in between - there's a lesson for you in this episode! Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Debra's New Book COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season and Are You Really OK?. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Respectful Ways To Turn Someone Down Jan 25, 2021

How do you turn someone down in a respectful way? Today's listener wants to know how to say "no thanks, I'm not interested" - in a way that speaks kindness and respect. We're talking through some healthy and appropriate ways to turn someone down - as well as some things NOT TO DO or say in today's episode of the podcast. Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, Are You Really OK?: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You're Doing, and Why It Matters (2021). COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Long Distance Red Flags Jan 18, 2021

Long distance relationships can be hard to navigate because you don't always get an up close look at the relationship. So, what are some long distance red flags to look for when you're in a long distance relationship? We're digging into this listener's question today on the podcast! Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, Are You Really OK?: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You're Doing, and Why It Matters (2021). COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spiritual Intimacy in Dating: How Much is Too Much? Jan 11, 2021

Spiritual intimacy in a dating relationship is something that often gets overlooked. We set boundaries with regard to our physical connection - but what about our spiritual connection? Today's caller wants to know what it looks like to have healthy boundaries in spiritual intimacy with regard to praying, doing devotions, and having spiritual conversations. Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, Are You Really OK?: Getting Real About Who You Are, How You're Doing, and Why It Matters (2021). COMING MAY 2021!! PRE-ORDER TODAY!! And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Getting Healthy Standing Alone with Michelle Williams Jan 04, 2021

Healthy people = healthy relationships. And getting healthy is what today's episode is all about. If you've been following TrueLoveDates.com, my Instagram or Facebook page, or my podcast for any amount of time, you've likely heard this coin phrase time and time again. If you want healthy relationships this year, you've got to start by becoming healthy standing alone. Today on the podcast, I've got my new friend, Destiny's Child's very own Michelle Williams, sharing her deeply authentic story of her personal struggle with mental health, finally hitting bottom and checking herself into a hospital- and her journey to becoming healthy from the inside out. Getting Healthy This episode will challenge you to really take inventory of how healthy you are, and how it's reflected in your closest relationships. We'll also talk about practical steps to get healthy. Speaking of getting healthy, this is the perfect episode to introduce you to my upcoming brand new book, "Are You Really OK?". I mention it in today's episode, and I wanted to give you a chance to pre-order your copy today!!! My heart for this book is to guide YOU on your own journey of getting healthy - emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically. I can't wait until it's officially released!! Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: Start the New Year by getting healthy!!! Get matched with a licensed counselor who is also a believer in 24 hours, and start your online counseling experience today: https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don’t Let Singleness Stop You From Living Your Life: With Bethany Anne Dec 22, 2020

Some singles are just going for it. They're living their life. They're not waiting around to get married before they start doing the things God has put on their hearts... Bethany is one of those singles who is living her life. Her life and story are not only encouraging, but inspiring. She's adopted 3 children, and is currently fostering a little infant...and her life tells a story of trusting God with her desires for marriage, and living her life in the meantime. I loved my conversation with her, and I know you will too!! Don't let singleness stop you from living your life. Tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON APPLE PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PODCASTS - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: WHAT IF 21 DAYS COULD CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS? REGISTER FOR 21 DAYS TO JUMPSTART YOUR LOVE LIFE (USE CODE LOVE TO RECEIVE YOUR 20% DISCOUNT!) Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Break Up Text Dec 14, 2020

Q: What do you do when you he breaks up with you by text? A: Friends, we are about to dive deep into the break up text. Today's caller got dumped by text, and I have a whole lot to say about it. The social media culture is changing a lot about how we do relationships, but some things just shouldn't be okay. And this is one of them, in my book. If you've ever been on the receiving end of a break up text, or maybe you were the one to send the break up text...here's what you need to know. How Do You Respond To the Break Up Text? You don't want to miss this one...tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: Begin the journey of healing today, by getting matched up to a professional counselor http://getfaithful.com/debra (use this link for 20% off your first month!) Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Porn Kills Relationships (with Jonathan Pokluda) Dec 07, 2020

Have you ever wondered how porn impacts relationships? Porn has become a widespread epidemic in our culture today. And it's reaping havoc on relationships. It messes with your heart, alters your brain brain, and changes how you see the world around you. But it doesn't have to be this way. Today, I can't even tell you how thrilled I am to have Jonathan Pokluda join me to discuss his personal journey: from PORN ADDICT to PASTOR....from being enslaved to a sex and porn addiction, to walking in freedom. Today's episode is a deep-dive into pornography use, sexual addictions, and why there's so much hope for gaining freedom in this area of your life. Porn impacts relationships in a remarkable way, but it doesn't have to be this way. Porn Impacts Relationships In today's episode, we'll cover: The details of JP's story, how deeply immersed he was in porn, and why becoming a Christian didn't fix his addiction. How porn impacts relationships. What porn does to your brain and how you view others. Why you've probably tried and failed to break free. Steps to breaking free from porn for good. And so much more! I loved this episode so much, I pushed it to the very top of our release schedule! You don't want to miss this one...tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: Begin the journey of healing today, by getting matched up to a professional counselor http://getfaithful.com/debra (use this link for 20% off your first month!) Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dealing with Conflict in Relationships (Especially During COVID!!) Nov 30, 2020

2020 has brought a lot of hard things...it's increased pressure and conflict in relationships. Today's caller wants to know what do you do when you find yourself plunged into the season of FALL in a relationship? Fall is the season of conflict and communication - and it seems a lot of people are jumping right into it with all the stress and pressure this year has brought. Conflict in Relationships In this episode we cover: What happens when you feel like you're all of a sudden navigating conflict in a relationship that wasn't there before? How to see conflict as a positive part of the relationship. What are the signs that you're in FALL in a relationship? What does it look like to "do the work" of the season of fall? Recognizing passivity in my conflict style. Recognizing past triggers vs. present problems. And so much more! So tune in to this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below, and leave us your rating and review! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: ISSUU.com/podcast Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

MORE Relationship Questions (Q&A w/ Debra Fileta and Chad Johnson) Nov 23, 2020

Today we're answering all your relationship questions in Part 2 of Q&A with Debra Fileta and Chad Johnson! A few weeks ago on my Instagram Page @TrueLoveDates (let's be IG friends!!!), I asked you to submit any relationship questions you had for us to tackle in a rapid-response Q&A session. SO MANY GOOD QUESTIONS came in! My friend, and one of your favorite co-hosts, Chad Johnson is joining me for Part 2 to answer more of your AMAZING relationship questions from a his/her perspective! So tune in for Part 2 of the Q&A episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! You might even hear YOUR question answered!!! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: Start praying for your future husband. Visit https://www.smaywilsonshop.com/ to get your copy of the Every Single Moment journal, and use code TRUELOVEDATES for 20% off your order. Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your Relationship Questions!! (Q&A w/ Debra Fileta and Chad Johnson) Nov 16, 2020

Today we're answering all your relationship questions! A few weeks ago on my Instagram Page @TrueLoveDates (let's be IG friends!!!), I asked you to submit any relationship questions you had for us to tackle in a rapid-response Q&A session. My friend, and one of your favorite co-hosts, Chad Johnson is joining me today to answer your relationship questions from a his/her perspective! So tune in for Part 1 of the Rapid Response Q&A episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! You might even hear YOUR question answered!!! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: Get started on your journey of healing with a licensed counselor, who is also a believer in Christ!! Online counseling from the comfort of your home! Get matched with a counselor by clicking https://getfaithful.com/debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m Waiting For Sex, and Proud of It. Nov 09, 2020

Today's caller is waiting for sex and proud of it. The only problem: she wants to know WHEN to share that fact that she's waiting for sex with the person she's dating. Especially with today's trend of online dating. Do you come out and tell them you're waiting for sex on the very first date, or do you ease into it? And that's exactly what we're covering on the podcast today! So let's just cut to the chase and talk through this. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: ISSUU.com/podcast Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I Too Picky? (With Ben Stuart) Nov 02, 2020

Am I too picky? Today's caller is wondering if she's too picky, or if she just has high standards? How can you tell the difference, especially when people are making comments that....maybe....you're too picky. I invited my friend, Pastor Ben Stuart author of Single, Dating, Engaged, Married, to join me as a co-host for today's episode as we talk through the difference between having high standards, and being too picky. Am I Too Picky? In today's episode we cover: How do I know if I'm being too picky? What non-negotiables should I have on my list? What are the difference between needs and preferences? Majors and minors? What, if anything, does scripture tell us is criteria for a relationship? Are dating apps messing with our heads when it comes to choosing a relationship? Where does attraction fall into this? And so much more! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: upperroom.org/welcome Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Should You Say I Love You? Oct 26, 2020

When should you say I love you? Today's caller was curious when is an appropriate time to tell someone you love them when you've been in a dating relationship. I know a lot of you have wondered the same thing, and questions in my inbox to prove it! So today we're tackling this important question!!! We're talking through some of the parameters behind When You Should Say I Love You, in today's episode! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsors: upperroom.org/welcome and ISSUU.com/podcast Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m Struggling with My Partner’s Sexual History Oct 19, 2020

What do you do when your partner's sexual history is more extensive than yours? In this episode, I talk to a man who is struggling with his girlfriend's sexual history, and the things she experienced before they met. I was so proud of him for his transparency, because it's something a lot of couples are facing but not many people are discussing. My Partner's Sexual History In this episode we talk though: Some concerns that come up when one person has a more extensive sexual history. Understanding and dealing with the root of these hard emotions. How to deal with the past in a healthy way. Whether or your partner's sexual history is a deal-breaker and how to know. And much more! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsors: upperroom.org/welcome and ISSUU.com/podcast Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Healing After Divorce with Eryn Eddy Oct 12, 2020

When it comes to relationships, one thing we don't talk about enough is healing after divorce. It's a subject people tend to shy away from, and understandably so because there are no cookie-cutter answers. Every story and situation of divorce is so different and unique. But at the end of the day, just like any loss, divorce always includes heartbreak and the need for healing. There are principles and concepts that can be extracted and applied no matter what your specific situation. Healing After Divorce When this question about healing after divorce came into the hotline, I knew I wanted Eryn Eddy to be my co-host for this episode. She's a woman who knows the deep pain of divorce, but more so, she knows what it looks like to pursue healing after deep heartbreak. I'm so impressed by how she has used her pain, and I know this conversation will BLESS YOU SO MUCH if you've been through the pain of divorce. In this episode we cover: Identity and how divorce can impact what we believe and what we DO. Dealing with pain, confusion, and insecurity after divorce. Self-sabotage that can happen after divorce. Working through the stigma and shame that comes in Christian culture. Pursuing healing after divorce. And so much more.... If you are looking for healing after divorce, or know someone who is...Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: upperroom.org/welcome Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Eryn is the founder and CEO of So Worth Loving, a lifestyle clothing brand. Since starting in 2011, she's grown her company to include customers in all fifty states and in thirty countries, and the company is still going strong. She and her work have been featured on CNN and MSNBC, as well as Southern Living and Atlanta Magazine. Eryn is also an author and co-host of a podcast called God Hears Her, and she calls Atlanta home. Connect with her on Instagram. For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I toxic? What If I’m the unhealthy one in the relationship? Oct 05, 2020

Am I toxic? What if I'm the toxic one in the relationship? Because I think the problem is me. That was the unique question that came into the podcast hotline, and I knew I had to answer it right away. Am I toxic? That's a question people don't often ask. It's not common for someone to identify themselves as the person in need of change in the relationship, and I was so grateful for this man's insight and willingness to listen to advice and consider next steps for change. Am I toxic? As you listen to this insightful conversation, I want you to ask yourself this: Am I toxic in any way, shape, or form? Or what about this: Could you be the one in the relationship in need of change? It's so easy to look at what others need to fix and change, without really looking inward at our own problems, past baggage, unhealthy behaviors, and bad habits. But I want you to ask yourself: could I be the toxic one? Is there anything I need to change in my life? Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: upperroom.org/welcome Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Enjoying Singleness vs. Wanting Marriage Sep 28, 2020

Is it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage? Today's caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you're experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in control your life? Is it possible to enjoy singleness AND want marriage simultaneously? Enjoying Singleness We're talking through this important topic today....so if you feel like you're having a hard time striking a balance between these two different places, this episode is for you!!!! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: upperroom.org/welcome Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dealing With Controversial Topics in Dating Sep 21, 2020

There's a lot of controversy these days. From wearing masks, to Covid, to politics, and everything in between. And when there's a lot of controversial topics in life, there tend to be a lot of controversial topics that come up in conversations! What do you do if these topics come up in dating? Should you bring them up, or not? Today's caller wants to know how to handle these conversations and controversial topics in dating. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsor: PerfectlyImperfect.org Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Engaged During Covid with Emma Mae Jenkins Sep 14, 2020

Are you seriously dating someone or even got engaged during Covid? Life looks a little different than we expected right now, with wedding ceremonies, showers, and celebrations and parties cancelled or drastically altered to fit social distancing norms. Today, I talk to my friend Emma Mae, who just got engaged during this crazy season. We talk: Wedding Prep During Covid How she knew he was the one to say YES to What it's like to be engaged during Covid Things they're doing to get their hearts ready for marriage. And so much more! This was such a fun conversation! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with today's sponsors: ModernFertility.com and PerfectlyImperfect.org Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Do You Know You’ve Healed From the Past? Sep 07, 2020

How do you know you've healed from the past? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I'm so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Healed From the Past? We all know the past can be paralyzing. It can wrap it's deadly tentacles around your life and keep you from moving forward. But it doesn't have to. When you deal with the past, you can be freed from the past. Do you have a past relationship history, that you've wondered if you've fully healed from? Today's caller is wondering that same thing, and wants to know how to know she's healed from the past. I'm talking her through three things to keep in mind in taking inventory of whether or not she's healed from the past. Whether your past relationship history includes a break up, divorce, or just some hard things you've been through, give this episode a listen! Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should A Woman Initiate? One Man’s Perspective with Chad Johnson Aug 31, 2020

When it comes to dating, should a woman initiate? You guys know what I think about this topic (it-s a non-issue, and it doesn't matter who initiates as long as the relationship is made of give-and-take thereafter), but I decided to ask my friend, Chad Johnson, to give me his male-perspective on the issue in Part 2 of our conversation. Should a Woman Initiate? Let me just warn you, things go down in this podcast - because Chad and I certainly don't agree on everything, and I even call him out on some of his perspectives. We talk about should a woman initiate, what to do about getting ghosted, and so may other great topics. So tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What a Godly Man Wants in a Woman (With Chad Johnson) Aug 24, 2020

What on earth does a godly man really want in a woman? I mean, do godly men even exist these days?!? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I'm so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Today's caller wants to know, what is up with the godly man saying he wants a woman of character, and then chasing after the supermodel woman?? It's a loaded question, friends...but at the same time, it's worth answering. What A Godly Man Wants Is this mentality true? And if not, why do so many women struggle with this question? Why do so many guys seem to have double standards with what they really want in a woman. So, I invited my friend, Chad Johnson, a single man who says he's not perfect - but loves the Lord, to talk me through exactly what is going on in a man's brain - and what it is that a godly man REALLY want in a woman. Chad and I had so much fun talking in this episode, that I invited him back next week as well. Let me warn you, we don't always agree, but we had a lot of fun chatting along the way. You're going to love this conversation on what a godly man wants...so tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with our Sponsors at https://www.smaywilsonshop.com/ and modernfertility.com.debra Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Want more: Check out this article What Men Really Want In a Woman For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jealousy in a Relationship: Is It Ever Good? Aug 17, 2020

Today's caller wants to know if there's such a thing as good jealousy in a relationship vs. unhealthy jealousy - and if so, how do you know the difference? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I'm so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Dealing With Jealousy in a Relationship If you've ever struggled with jealousy in a relationship, then you don't want to miss this episode because I'm talking through: What jealousy is. Two reasons why you might be feeling it. How to know if there's an underlying problem in the relationship. How to know if the underlying problem is something inside of you. How to deal with jealousy in the relationship. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Connect with our Sponsor at https://www.smaywilsonshop.com/ Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Your Identity Impacts Relationships w/Christine Caine Aug 10, 2020

What if I told you that your identity is one of the number one things that impacts the quality of your relationships? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I'm so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Because what you believe about yourself determines the kind of relationship you believe you deserve. But so many things can get in the way of what we believe about ourselves. Christine Caine knows that first hand. In today's episode, Christine and I talk about the importance of taking inventory of our identity, and what that looks like practically. Identity Matters In today's episode we discuss: How trauma and past experiences can impact our identity. The labels we carry through life that impact our identity. Her personal story of adoption and abuse and how it impacted what she believed about herself. The psychology and theology behind identity and what shapes it. What it looks like to replace the lies about who we are with God's truth. Understanding your identity in Christ. Verses that will shape your identity with truth (see below in the resources) And so much more!! If you've EVER struggled with identity issues, or maybe you're struggling today - I can't express to you how important this episode is. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Scriptures Debra and Christine recommend to build your identity with truth: 2 Corinthians 5:17 Ephesians 2:10 1 Peter 2:8 Genesis 1:27 Romans 8:1 2 Corinthians 5:21 Galatians 2:20 2 Timothy 1:7 Philippians 4:13 Romans 12:2 Ephesians 4:24 Psalm 139:14 Romans 8:37 Jeremiah 1:5 Read 100 More Verses About Identity Christine Caine is an Australian born, Greek blooded, lover of Jesus, activist, author and international speaker. She and her husband, Nick, founded the global anti-human trafficking organization, The A21 Campaign. They also founded Propel Women, an organization designed to activate women to fulfill their God-given passion, purpose, and potential. Christine and Nick make their home in southern California with their daughters, Catherine and Sophia. For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Physical Boundaries: We’re Saving Sex For Marriage Aug 03, 2020

Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I'm so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! The past year of the podcast has brought listeners from all across the country and world, and our very first caller is Terry from Fiji! Terry and his girlfriend are committed to saving sex for marriage, and he wants to know some practical suggestions and tips for physical boundaries. Practical Physical Boundaries In today's episode we'll talk through: Practical ways you can set physical boundaries - some suggestions that actually work! Why acting "overly spiritual" can actually hinder your desire to save sex for marriage. The importance of communicating your boundaries before-hand. How to re-frame your perspective so that you see saving sex for marriage as an investment in the relationship vs. a barrier to the relationship. This is why you're going to love Terry and the conversation we have about physical boundaries and saving sex in this very first episode of Season 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. Tune in this brand new episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Meet our Sponsor: Want kids someday? Modern Fertility will give you insight into how many eggs you have, hormone levels, and any reproductive red flags. The results go in-depth into what every hormone means and you can also talk 1:1 with a fertility nurse to review your results and options for next steps. Get $20 off TODAY by going to: https://modernfertility.com/debra/ Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#1 MOST Downloaded: How Important Is Sexual & Physical Attraction. A Candid Conversation with Christian Men Jul 27, 2020

We've been taking the last few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you've never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #1 most downloaded episode of all time... How much does physical attraction matter in a relationship? What if you know someone is really good for you, but you don't find yourself attracted to them at all? What if there's strong attraction, but qualities and traits missing from what you're looking for? What if you're married, and start struggling with physical attraction in your marriage? Questions about physical attraction are some of the most frequently asked questions I get on my blog. Because physical attraction is, without a doubt, an important part of a relationship. But have we gotten to a point where our expectations of physical attraction in a relationship are unrealistic? My Mind Says Yes - My Body Says No? In today's episode, I'm having a candid chat about physical attraction with two different guys. First, I'm talking with a young man who is trying to understand how important physical attraction should be in his search for love. I find out that his relationship history has a big part to do with his expectations, and you'll find out why when you tune in. After our conversation, I bring on my good friend and prolific relationship author, Gary Thomas. Gary and I dive into some really hot topics about attraction in ways that not many people are talking about, and you're going to love this candid conversation. Physical Attraction 101 In this hot-topic episode, we cover: 2 IMPORTANT Questions you need to ask yourself to know whether or not you've got a healthy understanding of physical attraction. The actual definition of attraction and why it matters that you know it. We discuss the many different levels of attraction and how attraction is multi-faceted. How to prioritize the importance of physical attraction. Understanding your typical "type" and when to be open to other options. Exploring the things that are influencing your perspective of beauty and physical attraction, and how to control those things. Learning whether or not you're living in "the extremes" and whether or not you have healthy expectations. Making sure you have a realistic understanding of who YOU are and your own level of "physical attraction" in the equation of what you're looking for (yep, I said it). The percentage of people who are struggling with attraction in marriage and what to do about it! Three things you can do to increase your attraction to your spouse. I reveal the one thing I was MOST AFRAID to talk about regarding physical attraction in my book Choosing Marriage. The one prayer Gary Thomas prayed in order to continue growing in life long physical attraction toward his wife! Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. You're going to love these candid conversations, so grab your notebook, and get ready to write down the nuggets of truth from this fun, honest, and challenging Episode 009 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks. 10 Girls You Shouldn't Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn't Date: How To...

#2 Most Downloaded: Casual Dating. What’s too casual? Jul 20, 2020

We're taking the next few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you've never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #2..... There's a lot of casual dating going on these days...and it's starting to get confusing. Is it okay to date casually? And if so, is there a limit to how casual you should be when interacting with the opposite sex. Today's question comes from a young woman who is struggling with the latest trend of casual dating where a guy can hang out with as many girls as he wants (or vice versa) in the name of "casual dating". Casual Dating Can't Stay Casual The problem is that people tend to think in two extremes. Either they are way too casual and keep the relationship ambiguous and commitment free for FAR too long, or they're on the other end of the spectrum in which they see dating as a near marriage commitment. They're unwilling to consider anything casual and they expect a relationship to start seriously from the get-go. But BOTH of these mentalities can be harmful, and in this episode of the podcast we talk through the ins and outs of how to do "casual dating" in a healthy way, and the red flags you need to be aware of along the way. I'm going to bring up a few important questions you need to ask yourself if you want to know how to do causal dating well. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 37 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn about causal dating! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks. 10 Girls You Shouldn't Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn't Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#3 Most Downloaded: Sex Drive & Singleness: Controlling Your Lust Before It Controls You Jul 13, 2020

We're taking the next few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you've never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #3..... What do I do with my raging sex drive while I'm single? I get that question a lot. But the problem is: not too many Christians are teaching about this subject. I can't recall when I heard a sermon about sexual struggles on a Sunday morning, can you? But dealing with your sex drive is a problem that singles have to face on a regular basis....one that will ultimately have an impact on their future marriages as well, because learning to "tame the drive" is something you're going to deal with after you're married as well. So I thought it was about time to do an episode about sex drive and singleness. LET'S TALK ABOUT...THE SEX DRIVE When we talk about sex on the podcast, everyone gets excited...no pun intended. So, without further to do, click the links below to listen this insightful (and at times, awkward) conversation, as I answer today's caller who is wondering how on earth can he deal with "the sex drive" - as he puts it - while he waits for marriage. In this episode I cover: Why your sex drive (annoying as it may be at times while you're single) is actually a good thing. Why the sex for marriage sentiment is actually backed up by psychology. The dangerous power of premarital sex. Why your sex drive is actually a symptom of something ELSE going on. The #1 way to stop having shame about your sex drive. How to fuel the spirit and starve the flesh, and what that means for your sex life. Some practical ways to control your sex drive while you're single. Identifying things you are doing that might be growing your sex drive instead of controlling your sex drive. Why learning to control your sex drive is something you'll need after you're married as well. And a whole...lot...more! You're going to love this candid conversation so get ready to for this necessary, honest, and insightful Episode 011 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks. 10 Girls You Shouldn't Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn't Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#4 Most Downloaded: Healthy Dating with Ben Stuart Jul 06, 2020

We're taking the next few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you've never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #4..... [Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Email debra@truelovedates.com with your voice memo question and you might be featured on Season 5!] Q: What does healthy dating look like and what are the key ingredients to a healthy dating relationship? A: Today's question comes from Kim in Ohio, who is wondering what healthy dating actually looks like...is it even a thing? If you know anything about me and this ministry, you know that my main message is that healthy people make healthy relationships. But how do you know that your relationship is healthy? What are some things to be on the lookout for when it comes to your interactions with the opposite sex? Healthy Dating Is A Thing On today's episode, we're talking through this question and the belief that healthy dating is a real thing!! It IS POSSIBLE to date in a way that leaves you with no regrets - even in today's chaotic culture of relationships. Joining me to answer this question today, is Pastor Ben Stuart from Passion City Church in DC and formerly served as the director of BreakAway Ministries. Ben's work with young adults and his heart for this topic made him a perfect candidate to tag-team this question with me today. In this episode, we talk through: Why is dating such a struggle for Christians? How to look at dating in a way that takes the pressure off. The THEME verse that should define the way we do dating. What are some of the key ingredients that make healthy dating a possibility. The three Cs of dating. Why mutual interest and initiation is SO important. Why charm is deceptive... And so much more!!! Don't miss this great conversation! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 42 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks. 10 Girls You Shouldn't Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn't Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys Connect with Ben Stuart on Instagram or check out his book: Single, Dating, Engaged, Married. For more information check out Passion City Church, DC. OTHER BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#5 Most Downloaded: How Far is Too Far? Physical Touch Before Marriage Jun 29, 2020

We're taking the next 5 weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to relisten to this episode, or you've never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #5..... How far is too far when it comes to physical touch before marriage? I'm sure you're not shocked to hear that it's one of the most frequently asked questions I receive at my relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com. How far is too far? On today's mini-episode (18 minutes!) I'm answering just that! In this quick episode, I'm offering some practical, bite-sized advice for anyone who has ever wondered where to draw the line with physical touch before marriage. I'm going to talk you through the 12 stages of physical touch and explain to you when I believe physical touch goes from the green zone, to the yellow zone, to the red zone. If you've ever wondered how far is too far to go physically in a dating relationship, you're going to want to tune in to Episode 014 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, where we talk candidly about all things love, sex, dating, singleness and marriage. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Reality Check of Marriage w/ Addie and Jeremy Camp Jun 22, 2020

Q: We're struggling through the reality check of marriage. It's not always as easy as we imagined it to be. Do you have any tips or advice for us? I often talk about the differences between our expectations of marriage , vs. the reality of what marriage. But today, I'm excited to tag team this question about the reality check of marriage with my friends Jeremy and Addie Camp. Jeremy Camp and Addie are so real and raw about their own marriage, the struggles they've been through, and the victories they've had. In this episode we talk about the reality check of marriage in their own lives, as well as practical things they do to keep their connection strong and nurture their relationship. It's packed with encouragement and practical advice, and I know it will encourage you whether you're married or one day hoping to be. Tune in to Episode 77 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Check out Jeremy and Adrienne's new book: In Unison For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dealing with Anxiety with Ashley Willis Jun 16, 2020

Some of the most prominent people in ministry and leadership are dealing with anxiety, you just don't know about it. The reason is that anxiety doesn't discriminate. It doesn't care about how old you are, what religion you are, or your gender. But unfortunately, not enough people of faith are talking about dealing with anxiety in an open and honest way, and so many people end up struggling alone and in isolation. That's why I'm excited about today's conversation. You guys have heard me talk about my personal journey dealing with anxiety, but today I've invited my friend Ashley Willis, who has walked through her own battle with anxiety. She's so open and honest about her journey, and how she found peace...and I know this episode will encourage you if you've ever struggled with anxiety as well. Tune in to Episode 76 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Check out Ashley Willis' new book: Peace Pirates For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Tips For The First Years of Marriage: Porn, Honesty, and Forgiveness. Jun 10, 2020

When today's question came in on the Love + Relationships Hotline asking about tips and tricks to managing the early years of marriage, I had to get my friends Ryan and Selena Frederick to join me in tag-teaming this one. Ryan and Selena run an amazing ministry called Fierce Marriage, and they are passionate about honoring God through the ministry of marriage. Today we talk through what it looks like to get through those early years of marriage and come out stronger on the other side. They open their heart in talking about confession, vulnerability, and intimacy in marriage through all areas of their life, and we spend some time talking about how they dealt with the intruder of pornography in their relationship. This episode will encourage and inspire you in your current marriage, and help you dream about your future marriage. Tune in to Episode 75 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Check out Ryan and Selena's new book: See Through Marriage. For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fighting to Flourish in Hard Times with Jennie Lusko Jun 01, 2020

Today we're talking about walking through unbelievably hard times. Whether you're walking through hard times right now, with all that's going on in our country, or maybe you're walking through the hard times of heartbreak, or loss, or grief...whatever it is, today's episode is for you. Jennie and Levi Lusko lost their precious little girl, Lenya, suddenly and unexpectedly at the young age of five years old. Today, I talk with Jennie about this heart aching story, and the reality of walking through hard times, and how she personally navigated that time in her life while continuing to hold on to Jesus. Her words are encouraging, and inspiring, and will help you see that flourishing in life doesn't come naturally - it's something we have to FIGHT for. If you've ever walked through hard times, this episode is for you. Tune in to Episode 74 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Check out Jennie's new book: The Fight To Flourish! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hope For Heartbreak (with Ben Courson) May 25, 2020

Today's question is about finding hope after heartbreak. I'm joined by my new friend, Ben Courson, a young pastor and leader who specializes in sharing the message of hope, and who has dealt with his fair share of heartbreak. This conversation with Ben is going to encourage and inspire you as we talk about: Ways to practically deal with heart break and move forward. The concept of soul ties, what we think about it and what you need to know about spiritual and emotional intimacy. How long before you start dating again after a heartbreak. What happens when you think God tells you they are the one and then they end up breaking your heart? How to deal with the pain of when an ex starts dating someone else, and so much more! If you've ever had a broken heart, this episode is for you. Tune in to Episode 73 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Friends! Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Get matched with a counselor within 24 hours!!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! You're going to be so glad you did! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: FROM TODAY'S EPISODE: ORDER DEBRA'S NEWEST BOOK! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Struggling With Singleness: A Conversation with Mandisa May 18, 2020

Do you feel like you're struggling with singleness? I know that the struggle can be heightened during this season of life, especially with all that's going on in the nation in light of Covid 19. Social distancing, quarantine, sheltering in place can make you feel even more lonely and disconnected than ever before. But struggling with singleness does not make you strange, or crazy, or lacking in faith. It makes you human. I got a question from a listener asking for tips and advice on how to deal with loneliness and anxiety during this time, and I brought my good friend - the one and only Mandisa, to help me tackle this question! Mandisa is a an incredible woman of God on the journey of singleness...and I know that having her help me address and answer this question will bless you beyond belief! So tune in to Episode 72 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: FROM TODAY'S EPISODE: ORDER DEBRA'S NEWEST BOOK! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Play Hard To Get (and other bad relationship advice) May 11, 2020

Play hard to get. If you're in the world of dating, or were at some point in your life - you've definitely heard the relationship advice that tells you to play hard to get. Don't look too interested. Don't call for at least 3 days. Make sure they don't know how much you like them. Don't text back right away. But is this relationship advice any good? Play Hard To Get There's a reason why this is common relationship advice. We want to play the game of relationships, and make ourselves feel like we're in control rather than feeling like someone is in control of us. But there are two major problems that the "play hard to get" mentality creates in relationships. Today on the podcast, I'm explaining both of those problems and why this is actually BAD relationship advice, and what you should do instead. Don't be fooled by the play hard to get game...because you're going to end up losing in the end. Tune in to Episode 71 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: FROM TODAY'S EPISODE: ORDER DEBRA'S NEWEST BOOK! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Marriage Should Make You Happy (and other bad relationship advice) with Gary Thomas May 04, 2020

Marriage should make you happy. That's the relationship advice we hear all the time. But is it even true? How much weight do we need to put on our happiness? What is the secret ingredient to creating happiness in marriage? Does happiness create a good marriage, or does a good marriage create happiness? And what happens when you're not happy? Is it even realistic to say we're going to be happy all the time in marriage? We need to take the time to evaluate this relationship advice, and make sure we're questioning it and seeing it for what it's worth. Marriage Should Make You Happy - or Should It? Today, my friend, pastor, and bestselling author of Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas, helps me tackle this important bad relationship advice, because it's advice that's hurting many marriages. We're going to take a look at both scripture and psychology and get to the root of this bad relationship advice, and offer you a BETTER perspective - a perspective that helps us look at holiness before we look at happiness. Tune in to Episode 70 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: FROM TODAY'S EPISODE: ORDER DEBRA'S NEWEST BOOK! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You’ll Just Know When You Meet The Right Person (and other bad relationship advice) Apr 27, 2020

You'll "just know" When You Meet The Right Person...that's what they try and tell you. "You lock eyes, as you glance across the room at each other. And all of a sudden, somehow, you just know." The worst relationship advice I've ever heard comes from the people who tell you you'll just know when you meet the person you're going to marry. It's a cookie cutter formula that can't - and shouldn't - be applied to all relationships. It's caused a lot of confusion along the way, and caused many people to pass up very good relationships because they were expecting some sort of an intense feeling or instant knowledge when the right person came along. You'll Just Know? In today's episode I share my personal experience with this bad relationship advice (because I TOTALLY DID NOT JUST KNOW!!!) and then I offer a counter perspective to help you navigate this important area of your life, because there ARE some important things to look for in looking for love...but it doesn't just happen at first glance. Tune in to Episode 69 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: FROM TODAY'S EPISODE: ORDER DEBRA'S NEWEST BOOK! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Women Should Not Initiate (and other bad relationship advice) Apr 20, 2020

When it comes to relationships, have you ever heard the phrase, "women should not initiate"? This is all too common advice, and unfortunately, it's advice that comes with a lot of controversy as well as negative repercussion. So should women initiate? And what does that look like in dating, as well as in marriage? The bad relationship advice series continues at TrueLoveDates.com by unpacking this relationship advice and why it can actually wreak havoc on your relationship in the long run. Should Women Initiate? I'm joined by my friend and author, Phylicia Masonheimer, as we tag-team this important subject. Both Phylicia and I heard and applied this bad relationship advice that women should not initiate at different points in our lives, and in this episode we each unpack how it impacted our respective marriages, discuss why we think this is bad advice, and then offer you a healthier alternative to relationships. If you're a woman who has ever wondered about a woman initiating in a relationship, or if you're a man who has ever had questions about this topic, you don't want to miss this candid episode that's not only grounded in psychology, but in biblical truth. Tune in to Episode 68 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: More on this subject: Leadership, Submission & Headship with Tim + Anne (podcast) 3 Ways To Show Him You're Interested (article) Can a Woman Make The First Move (podcast) 4 Reasons It's Okay For a Woman to Initiate a Relationship ORDER DEBRA'S NEWEST BOOK today! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Wife = Happy Life (and other bad relationship advice) Apr 13, 2020

We're continuing our bad relationship advice series with the bad relationship advice that says, "A happy wife makes a happy life". I can't even tell you how many times I've heard this bad relationship advice. It's advice that has been used as one of the most common approaches in relationships. But why is this bad relationship advice, and what advice is actually BETTER when it comes to how we approach marriage? Happy Wife Makes A Happy Life? This short, 5-minute episode will offer you a counter perspective to this common advice, and challenge you to see things differently when it comes to marriage and relationships. In this short episode, we cover: Why this is bad advice. Talk about how this advice encourages passivity. What happens when we follow this advice and why it forms one-sided relationships. How to approach marriage from a healthier perspective. Learning to adapt a mutual model in marriage. The BETTER formula to apply instead of Happy Wife = Happy Life I hope this episode encourages you and challenges you to say no to this bad relationship advice! Tune in to Episode 67 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get professional counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! UPCOMING WAYS TO CONNECT AT TrueLoveDates.com: April 17th: FREEDOM FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS GROUP FOR WOMEN April 21st: COMMUNICATION & CONNECTION - AN ONLINE SEMINAR FOR EVERY RELATIONSHIP STATUS April 25th: TLD SINGLES MIXER FOR PEOPLE IN THEIR 20S Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA'S NEWEST BOOK today! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A Single’s Guide To Thriving In Quarantine Apr 10, 2020

I've heard from so many singles over the past few weeks who are struggling and looking for some encouragement as they navigate this time of social distancing and quarantine. So I invited my single friend, Lisa Anderson, to join me as we discuss ways to thrive during this hard time. Lisa is the director of the young adults ministry of Focus on the Family called Boundless, and she is a single woman who I consider as one who is THRIVING in what God has called her to do. In this important episode, we cover: How to deal with the isolation that comes during this time. What to practically do with your unmet need for physical touch. Why accountability is important during this time. How to infuse meaning and purpose during this time. How to get your emotional needs met right now. And so many other amazing tips, advice, and encouragement for singles! If you're single, or know someone who is, I invite you to tune in to this bonus episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast, and ask God to open your heart to what He is doing around you and through you during this time. Tune in to today's episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get professional counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! UPCOMING WAYS TO CONNECT AT TrueLoveDates.com: April 17th: FREEDOM FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS GROUP FOR WOMEN April 21st: COMMUNICATION & CONNECTION - AN ONLINE SEMINAR FOR EVERY RELATIONSHIP STATUS April 25th: TLD SINGLES MIXER FOR PEOPLE IN THEIR 20S Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA'S NEWEST BOOK today! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just Wait on God (and other bad relationship advice) Apr 06, 2020

"You just need to wait on God to bring you a relationship." If you're single, there's a good chance you've heard that advice at some point along the way. The problem is that what it means to "wait on God" often get's misinterpreted into meaning that you should DO NOTHING. Too many singles are on the side of the spectrum of passivity when it comes to their relationships, because they have been taught that waiting on God means you do less and trust God more. In today's episode, I'm unpacking why I think this is "bad advice" and what waiting on God should look and feel like when it comes to our romantic relationships. How do you wait on God, yet still continue to pursue your heart's desire for relationships? Is waiting a God an action, or a place of the heart? That's what we're talking about today!! I love this episode so much, and especially because I'm joined by my friend Kait Warman, an amazing woman with a heart for singles and healthy dating, and who is currently living the single life!! I know this episode will challenge and encourage you, so be sure to tune in! Also, after you listen to this episode, make sure to check out our upcoming singles mixer for people in their 20s! It's an incredible way to connect with eligible singles from the comfort of your own home. I just hosted one for people in their 30s and it was such a huge success. Click the link above to read what everyone said about our time together. Tune in to Episode 66 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA'S NEWEST BOOK today! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Married Couples Need A Weekly Date Night Out (and other bad relationship advice) Mar 31, 2020

Married couples need a weekly date night out...you've heard that advice before, but is it good advice? The answer might surprise you!! We're starting the bad relationship advice series here at TrueLoveDates.com!!! In this series, I'm bringing you all the BAD relationship advice that you've heard over the years, and maybe you even thought it was GOOD advice, but it's advice that's actually harmful and even ruining relationships. The first bad relationship advice we're starting with is so APPLICABLE for today!! I recorded this episode LONG before Corona Quarantine, and here we are, stuck at home, unable to go anywhere even if we WANT TO. Date night out is impossible!! So what do we do? DATE NIGHT IN NOT DATE NIGHT OUT The relationship advice that "couples need a weekly date night out" isn't just unlikely right now, it's impossible. If the health of our marriage hinged on our weekly date nights out, we'd be done for right now....and so would marriages across the country. We can't actually go on a date night out right now anyway, but we can do something even better for our marriage - we can go IN. Healthy marriages don't hinge on going out, but on going IN. Connecting with one another on a deep and meaningful way. In today's episode I'm going to tell you what it means to "go in" in your relationship. Also, after you listen to this episode, make sure to tune in to 10 Date Night In Ideas....hopefully they inspire you to take the time to go in with your relationship! Tune in to Episode 65 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Today's episode came straight out of Love In Every Season! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK today! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Quarantine Ep. 5: Managing Conflict in Close Quarters Mar 26, 2020

There's a higher potential for conflict in relationships when everyone is together all the time. Can I get an amen? I've been hearing from many people who are struggling with the conflict coming up in the relationships during this time of quarantine. "We're gettin' on each other's nerves! Help!" Quarantine Conflict! Today's episode is all about managing conflict. Whether major conflict, or minor conflict - I'm giving you 7 steps you need to remember in every conflict you face, in order to go into it as well as come out of it with a better outcome and a healthier relationship. Tune in to Quarantine Episode #5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Today's episode came straight out of Love In Every Season! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK today! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Quarantine Ep. 4: “Social Distancing” from Toxic People with Gary Thomas Mar 25, 2020

There are toxic people everywhere. In churches, schools, at work, and sometimes right in the middle of your own household. And it's important to understand that fact because relationships have the power to bring life, or death. They have the power to lift you up, or bring you down. Right now in our country, the word "social distancing" is being used very liberally to help set boundaries with our physical space, decreasing our chances of getting the Corona Virus. But what if we were to use this time to take inventory of all our relationships, and which ones we need to continue investing in, as well as which ones we need to set boundaries with? Because one day, the Corona Virus pandemic will slow down, and we will go back to life as usual. We've got to make choices about who we allow into our life and who we don't. So let me remind you: some toxic people are worthy of social distancing, whether we're in quarantine or not. Toxic People Today on the podcast, I'm joined by my friend and pastor/author Gary Thomas. In today's episode we're sharing: What defines a toxic person? What does the bible say about setting boundaries with toxic people? How did Jesus model walking away from toxic people? What are some practical ways we can set boundaries with toxic people? Tune in to Quarantine Episode #4 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you're going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It's a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! Use code LOVE for 20% off any program. Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Quarantine Ep. 3: Hand Washing and Heart Washing Mar 24, 2020

There's been a lot of talk about hand washing lately, as the CDC continually reminds us of the importance of washing our hands during a pandemic. We're a hand washing family, and we always emphasize hand washing whether or not there's a national crisis. But with all the talk about hand washing lately, it's no surprise that as I was reading through the book of Mark recently, the chapter on hand washing stood out to me like never before. Hand + Heart Washing Jesus and his disciplines were confronted by the religious leaders of the time and criticized for their lack of ceremonial hand washing. Jesus' response to those leaders was so powerful, and so applicable to today. So I'm calling today's episode Hand Washing and Heart Washing, and I hope you'll take a minute to tune into this perspective on ways that we can focus in on spiritual cleansing during this time where our tendency is just to focus on physical cleanliness. Tune in to Quarantine Episode #3 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the button below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you're going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It's a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! Use code LOVE for 20% off any program. Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Quarantine Ep 2: 10 Self Care Tips For Mental and Emotional Health (Part 2) Mar 23, 2020

This week on the blog, I released an article called 10 Quarantine Self Care Tips for Mental and Emotional Health, and today on the podcast I'm reviewing and expanding the second part of this 2 part podcast series, covering the last 5 tips in Part 2 of the Self Care Tips, as well as how they've played out in my personal life this week. In this episode I cover: The importance of making time for fun and why it matters in times of crisis. Some ways you can learn and grow during quarantine. How, why and when you should include counseling as part of your journey. The healing power of empathy. And why all the cookie-cutter advice you're getting about what your daily schedule should look like might actually be wrong for you!! So tune in to Listen to Part 1 of Quarantine Self Care Tips For Mental and Emotional Health, Click HERE. Quarantine Self Care Tips 6-10 To tune in to Quarantine Episode #2 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the buton below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you're going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It's a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! Use code LOVE for 20% off any program. Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Quarantine Ep 1: 10 Self Care Tips for Mental and Emotional Health (Part 1) Mar 22, 2020

While we're all on Corona Quarantine right now, and since our world has come to a halt for a period of time, I wanted to adjust the Love and Relationships Podcast this week. Instead of the usual hotline style show, I'm going to be focusing on advice and encouragement to help you navigate this season in the best way possible. This week on the podcast, I released an article called 10 Quarantine Self Care Tips for Mental and Emotional Health, and today on the podcast I'm reviewing and expanding on the first 5 points as well as how they've played out in my personal life this week. So tune in to Quarantine Episode #1 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the show by clicking on the buton below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year! Online professional counseling + Believers in Christ. Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you're going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It's a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! Use code LOVE for 20% off any program. Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Taking a Break In a Relationship: How To Do It Well Mar 16, 2020

Are you thinking about taking a break in a relationship? Is it possible to take a break from a relationship and get back together in a healthy way? Last week on the Love + Relationships podcast we talked about the On Again Off Again Relationship, and what to be on the lookout for in that kind of relationship. Today we're continuing the conversation by talking about taking a break in a relationship, and how to do it in a way that's actually beneficial for both parties. Taking A Break In A Relationship 101 If you're thinking about taking a break in a relationship, there are some things you need to do in order to make sure the break is beneficial and well-used. Like I said in the last episode: You can't just hit the pause button and expect the story to change. You've actually got to change the whole story. Find out how taking a break in a relationship can be done in a healthy way, by tuning in 64 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the podcast below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: MEET OUR SPONSOR: Check out Abide, the #1 Christian meditation app, by going to: abide.co/love and get 25% off your premium subscription! Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you're going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It's a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The On Again Off Again Relationship Mar 10, 2020

What do you do when you find yourself in an on again off again relationship? Do you end it, or do you continue on the roller coaster ride of trying to make things work? Is it worth it to try and take a break in a relationship, and what does it say about the outcome of a relationship if you have to take a break? In today's podcast episode, I'm talking you through what I think about this kind of up and down relationship, and how to navigate through it. If you find yourself in a relationship with someone where you are needing to "take a break" to sort through things and figure things out - than this episode is for you! Taking a Break When it comes to taking a break in a relationship, you have to remember why it is you're taking a break as well as have a plan of what you're trying to resolve. Tune in to today's episode and find out what to do in the on again off again relationship. So check out episode 63 of the Love + Relationships Podcast and subscribe to the podcast below! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: MEET OUR SPONSOR: Check out Abide, the #1 Christian meditation app, by going to: abide.co/love and get 25% off your premium subscription! Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you're going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It's a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

8 Ways To Pray For Love (Even Before You Have a Relationship) Mar 02, 2020

How do you pray for love? And what if you don't even have one yet? Should you still pray for love even before you have a relationship? If I knew the effect that my future relationships would have on my life, I would have been praying for love since pre-school. Prayer is the act by which we hand over our needs to the One who actually has the power to impact those needs. So how do you pray for love? Where do you even begin? Whether you're praying for your future spouse, or future dating relationship, I want to offer you some really specific ways to pray for love. 8 Ways To Pray For Love Today on the podcast, we're talking about eight ways to pray for love, even before you have a romantic relationships! There are prayers, powerful, specific, prayers that will impact your heart! I know this episode will encourage you, and remind you of the importance of praying for your love life long before you have one. So check out episode 62 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn eight ways to pray for your love life. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: MEET OUR SPONSOR: Check out Abide, the #1 Christian meditation app, by going to: abide.co/love and get 25% off your premium subscription! Do you want to commit to Praying For Your Love Life? If so, you're going to love 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Devotional and Prayer Journal. It's a 21 Day Course walking you through 21 days of SPECIFIC and MEANINGFUL prayers for love. Join thousands of other singles who have gone through this course and are committed to praying for love! Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Places To Meet Christian Singles Feb 24, 2020

Are you looking for places to meet Christian singles? Why am I even asking - you must be. Because you're here. Reading this article. And you're in the right place!! At TrueLoveDates.com (the #1 Faith-based relationship advice blog!) I surveyed thousands of people asking them WHERE they were meeting Christian singles...and today I'm sharing the Top 10 places to meet Christian singles. 10 Places To Meet Christian Singles...actually 11 including this: And make sure to listen to the VERY end...because I have a very practical #11 place - an opportunity for you to meet Christian Singles at our upcoming SINGLES MIXERS! You're going to be encouraged by this episode, and reminded that yes, Christian singles DO exists, and there are places to meet Christian singles no matter where you live. So check out episode 61 of the Love + Relationships Podcast all about places to meet Christian singles! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12 Signs Your Marriage Needs Help Feb 17, 2020

Do you ever wonder if your marriage needs help? If so, you're not alone. The natural trajectory of marriage is drift. The pressure and stress of life can slowly begin to pull people away from one another... If you're not careful, things can slowly start to drift in you relationship without you ever realizing it's happening. With a lack of time to connect, crazy schedules, the fast pace of life, financial struggles, the distraction of raising children... There are so many things that can get in the way of a strong connection between two people in marriage. And if we're not careful we can find our marriage in a place we never intended it to be. So how do you recognize if your marriage has drifted to the point where it needs help? And what can you do about it? 12 Sings Your Marriage Needs Help Today we're talking about 12 signs to be on the lookout for, signaling that your marriage is in need of some attention; in need of some help. Take a few minutes to listen to this quick episode, and start taking inventory of whether or not your relationship is in a healthy place. Click below to check out Episode 60 of Love + Relationships and find out if your marriage needs help! SIDENOTE: In case you don't already know this - I offer relationship sessions via Skype every single week. As a licensed counselor, I love setting aside this time to help you focus on your relationship, and make it the best it can be. You can book a session with me at this link. But if you're looking for ongoing counseling to work on your marriage or other mental health issues, consider booking a session with Faithful Counseling, an online counseling opportunity that matches you with a licensed counselor who is ALSO a Christian!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Valentines Day BONUS Episode! DO THIS TODAY! Feb 13, 2020

SURPRISE!!! Bonus Valentines Day podcast episode today!!! It's Valentine's Day, and I just had to release an extra Valentines Day podcast episode for you. This question comes in time and time again...so I decided to tackle it in today's podcast! It's an episode that will mean something to you no matter what your relationship status, and is something I encourage you to take the time to do AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!!!! What is this, you ask? I'm going to keep it a mystery. But go listen to this short bonus episode and start the process of what I say is the KEY TO EVERY HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP!!! Enjoy Bonus Episode 59!! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY Get counseling from the comfort of your own home this year!!! Check out Faithful Counseling at http://getfaithful.com/debra - 10% off your first month!! MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Ways To Avoid Valentines Day Disappointment (No Matter Your Relationship Status) Feb 10, 2020

How do you avoid Valentines Day Disappointment? You know, that terrible let down feeling when the day just doesn't go how you hoped it would to go? That seems to be the question of the hour with Valentines Day looming just around the corner. People approach Valentines Day with a range of love/hate feelings for this occasion to celebrate love. How To Avoid Valentines Day Disappointment (Don't Do What I DID!!) In today's episode, I want to talk to you about three ways you can avoid Valentines Day disappointment whether you're single, dating, or married. I promise you, these tips are going to help and encourage you to make the absolute most of this week! I'm starting the episode with telling you about my WORST Valentines Day ever, and how I did the exact opposite of the advice I'm about to give you today about Valentines Day disappointment. You live and learn! I can't wait to share this episode with you, and I hope it encourages and instills you with new perspective as you approach Valentines Day this week. PS. ATTENTION ALL SINGLES OUT THERE...I want to invite you to join us this Wednesday night for our ONLINE SINGLES EVENT! Click here or the photo below for details...we only have a few tickets left, so register today! A practical way to avoid Valentines Day disappointment! Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to Episode 58 of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY? MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should I Marry Him/Her? 5 Signs You Shouldn’t. Feb 03, 2020

Should I marry him? Today's caller is having some doubts in the relationship she's in. She's not sure if she should just fight through, or if she should just walk away. When do you know that the doubts you're facing are normal doubts, and when do you recognize that there's something going on that might be a signal that you need to walk away from this relationships? In Love In Every Season, I explain that sometimes the problem is in YOU - and sometimes, the problem is in the relationship. It's important not to simply ignore these doubts, but instead see them as a signal that something needs to change. Should I Marry Him/Her? 5 Signs You Shouldn't Get Married In today's episode, we're talking through 5 signs that you need to step back from the relationship, and instead, take some time to deal with what is going on from the inside out. If you find yourself wondering "should I marry him/her?" then this episode is for you. If you're not dating yet, I challenge you to tune in and recognize these signs so that you don't find yourself struggling in this type of situation. Subscribe on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts, and then tune in to Episode 57 of the Love + Relationship Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: Is your relationship Healthy? Find out! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume Winter: The frost of Apathy and How To Deal With It FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY? MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Winter: The Frost of Apathy (and how to deal with it). Jan 27, 2020

We're in the thick of Winter, here in Pennsylvania. And there's a lot we can learn from this season when it comes to relationships. Every season of a relationship comes with important ingredients that can make or break your relationship. If you aren't aware of what the seasons bring, you won't be able to USE them to strengthen your relationship. Today we're talking about the season of Winter. It's the season when things begin to cool off, and emotions begin to die down. It can be a season when people struggle with apathy in their relationship and feel like they're stuck. There's a type of frost that happens in relationships as well, it's the frost of apathy. The Frost of Apathy in a Relationship Winter has some really important aspects that we need. It's a season of comfort and familiarity. It's a season of getting used to the mundane, and making the most of day to day life - because romance isn't just about the grand gestures, it's about the regular moments of life. But sometimes, this comfort can turn into apathy. Winter is a season that you pass through, not stay in. Seasons aren't meant to be stayed in, they're meant to be passed through. We've got to be able to take the right steps in Winter, or we'll end up getting stuck in a relationship that has frozen over. Tune in to today's episode as we talk about the frost of apathy in a relationship, and why it's one of the most dangerous aspect of winter. We'll also talk about HOW to get over the frost of apathy in a relationships, and three steps we can take to begin melting that frost as we continue our discussion on the four seasons of every healthy relationship, from my brand new book, Love In Every Season! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Summer Is When Things Get Hot: On Intimacy Colors of Fall: Questions To Ask Your Partner NOT Assume FREE QUIZ: IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP HEALTHY? MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Colors of Fall: Questions To ASK Your Partner Not ASSUME Jan 20, 2020

Today we're talking questions to ask your partner, because we often assume instead of ask...and end up with some major conflict. When it comes to relationships, things aren't always as they appear. Every relationship goes through a season where they navigate through the realization that the person they're with has flaws, failures, and sometimes - major issues. True colors begin to shine through, and sometimes those colors are beautiful, but sometimes, they're not so beautiful. This, my friends, is the season of fall. Fall is when your true colors start to shine through: your sins, struggles, failures and flaws. You realize you're two different people with different expectations, needs, personalities, and most significantly - different backgrounds, family of origins, and ways of looking at the world. Questions To Ask Your Partner - Not Assume All the things you ASSUMED about this person, are revealed and replaced by the TRUTH of who this person actually is. In order to really understand a person in their entirety, we've got to learn to ask more than we assume. So today we're talking about specific areas you need to ASK and not ASSUME when it comes to learning about the person you're with. Today on the podcast we're talking about this aspect of the season of fall and addressing questions to ask your partner, as we continue our discussion on the four seasons of every healthy relationship, from my brand new book, Love In Every Season! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summer is When Things Get HOT: On Intimacy in Relationships Jan 14, 2020

Summer is the season of intimacy, and it's when things get hot in a relationship. I can't wait to share all about Summer in today's podcast episode, but I just want to share with you that my new book, Love In Every Season, officially launched TODAY!!! You can get a copy anywhere you get your books. There's so much I wanted to share with you on these episodes of the podcast, but of course the majority of the information on each of these seasons will be found in the pages of this new book! Check out the official Love In Every Season book page for more details and to read the reviews! Intentional Intimacy Summer is the season of intimacy because it's the stage in your relationship when you begin shedding your layers and exposing your true self. You get to know each other deeply and intimately. But you have to be intentional about intimacy! The main aspects you need to learn to navigate in summer are emotional connection, sexual attraction, and the bond of spiritual intimacy. Today we're focusing on the latter, and why how you navigate spiritual intimacy can make or break your relationship. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 54 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) MORE BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing? Jan 06, 2020

We are just ONE WEEK away from the release of my new book, Love In Every Season. So today's question couldn't have come at a better time. We're digging deep into the four seasons of a relationship starting with the season of Spring! Spring is the season of growth, it's the season when attraction is blossoming and emotions are blooming. It's the season of planting the right seeds and taking out the weeds. While there's so much I could cover in the season of Spring (becoming friends before lovers, the four laws of attraction, redefining our "type", planting the right seeds, etc - and I cover it ALL in Love In Every Season), today's podcast episode is going to focus on one specific dynamic of Spring: growth. Is your relationship growing? What does it mean to be in a give-and-take relationship, and why does it matter? Relationships have to grow in order to survive. If you're not seeing characteristics of growth in your relationship - something is wrong. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 53 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! Get a FREE DIGITAL COPY TODAY by JOINING THE Love In Every Season Launch Team! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to Make 2020 The Year of Better Relationships! Dec 31, 2019

Do you want better relationships in 2020? Because that is absolutely possible!! It's time to do things better this coming year, and expect better things! Especially when it comes to our relationships. Because the quality of your relationships impacts the quality of your life! Tune into this extra special New Years Eve Podcast episode for some hope, encouragement, and motivation to make better, healthier, stronger relationships this coming year - and why it's so important to know where you're going in order to find someone who can join you on that journey. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 52 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! Get a FREE DIGITAL COPY TODAY by JOINING THE Love In Every Season Launch Team! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dating Someone Who Is Divorced Dec 23, 2019

Q: What advice do you have on dating someone who is divorced? Dating someone who is divorced is a topic that has come up more and more over the years. With the age of divorce getting younger, and the number of divorces getting higher over the years - it makes sense that dating someone who is divorced is a topic that keeps coming back around during my question and answer time. I have clients, friends, and family members who are divorced, and with that in mind, I wanted to make sure to answer this question in a way that honored the person who was asking the question - as well as respected those who have been divorced. Stance vs. Status: Dating Someone Who Is Divorced If you've read my blog or books, or listened to my podcast, at some point you've heard me say that in any relationship where there is conflict - there are always two people involved which means two people who need to take ownership of their role in that conflict. Divorce is no exception to that rule. If we want to establish healthy relationships, we all have something to own in the process of building them. So my answer focuses a lot more on the stance of the person you're dating, rather than their relationship status. You'll understand more about what I mean by this when you tune in to today's episode about Dating Someone Who Is Divorced! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 51 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! Get a FREE DIGITAL COPY TODAY by JOINING THE Love In Every Season Launch Team! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Leadership, Submission and Headship in Marriage with Tim + Anne Dec 16, 2019

Today on the podcast, my friends Tim + Anne join me to talk about headship in marriage. If you've ever wrestled with the concept of leadership, submission, or headship in marriage than you don't want to miss this episode. I have LOVED Tim + Anne's biblical approach to marriage, and their views and ideas have put into words in a way that no one else has, the way that John and I do marriage. We're a team...and we do life together. Together: Co-Leadership In Marriage I invited Tim + Anne to join me today on the Love + Relationships podcast to talk about their views on marriage and their approach to "co-leadership" in their relationship. Not only are they a wise couple, but they're a couple who loves God and one another, and it's evidenced in how they live out their life. I hope you'll give this episode a listen and go in with an open mind about this concept of "co-leadership" in marriage. It's not the traditional approach, but there's certainly a lot to learn from their biblical view of marriage. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 50 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Notes: ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! Get a FREE DIGITAL COPY TODAY by JOINING THE Love In Every Season Launch Team! For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast & TLD articles check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband My Husband Does Not Have The Final Say In Our Marriage (article) BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 Get To Know You Questions Dec 09, 2019

Looking for some good get to know you questions? What are some questions to ask when you're trying to get to know someone of the opposite sex? Today's podcast episode is a fast and furious trip through 15 questions you can ask as you're starting the process of getting to know someone and wanting to learn how to break the ice. I hear from so many people how difficult it can be to break the ice when you're trying to interact with someone of the opposite sex, and I hope these questions will be helpful to get the conversation started!! ORDER DEBRA'S NEW BOOK: Love In Every Season! Get a FREE DIGITAL COPY TODAY by JOINING THE Love In Every Season Launch Team! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 49 of the Love + Relationships Podcast all about get to know you questions! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Ways To Show Her You’re Interested Dec 02, 2019

Last week we talked about some things a woman can do to show a man she's interested in him. Today we're hitting up the flip side for the man who asks: what are some ways I can show her interest? Is there anything I can do to let her know that I'm into her? I surveyed women of all ages, and the consensus was the same. And today, we're revealing what they said on this brand new episode of the podcast! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 48 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Ways You To Show Him You’re Interested Nov 25, 2019

I'm always getting asked by women what they can do to show interest in a man without being too obvious or seeming desperate. Today's episode I'm talking you through THREE things the men said a woman can do to show him she's interested in him! I interviewed and surveyed all kinds of men to get you these answers, and they're so much more simple than you would imagine. Showing interest is something that often looks a little different too each gender, so next week- we're covering the flip side! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 47 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Have a relationship question for me? Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is It Possible To Fall In Love With the Wrong Person? Nov 18, 2019

Is it possible to fall in love with the wrong person, or is falling in love the ultimate goal? What is that feeling that we call "falling in love" and is it possible to choose someone based on pure emotion rather than choosing someone who is a good match for our lives? And then what happens if you feel like you've fallen in love with the wrong person? Falling in Love With the Wrong Person Today I'm giving you my opinion about falling in love and whether or not it's possible to fall in love with the wrong person and how we can navigate our way around this topic of falling in love! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 46 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: How To Find a Good Match: Compatibility In a Relationship Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Walking Away From Toxic Relationships: With Gary Thomas Nov 11, 2019

Today we're talking toxic relationships both in dating and in marriage. Q: When it comes to general relationships, how do you know when a relationship is worth working on, and how do you know when it's time to walk away? A: When it is time to walk away from an unhealthy relationship? That's a question we're diving in to today. Christians tend to really struggle with the idea of walking away from relationships, even when they get to a place where they're harmful or even dangerous. I'm joined by my friend and bestselling author, Gary Thomas, to tag-team this question today because he just finished writing all about toxic relationships, and it's a conversation we need to bring to the surface. Toxic Relationships In today's episode we're covering: Why is it actually biblical for us to walk away from toxic relationships? What are some key motivators to remember when it comes to making the choice to walk away from a toxic relationship? How do we recognize a relationship that's hurting us? How to handle toxic relationships in dating as well as in marriage. And so much more! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 45 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Top 10 Relationship Killers. Small Things That Cause Big Problems. Is There Such A Thing As "The One"? And Why My Husband And I Disagree. OTHER BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Compatibility in Relationships: How To Know You’re A Good Match Nov 04, 2019

Compatibility is key. Just because you're a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian - doesn't mean you're going to be a good match when it comes to being in a relationship. Compatibility is a huge piece to the puzzle of relationships, and it's one that often get's ignored or overshadowed in the conversation of what makes a healthy relationships. When it comes to understanding compatibility in a relationship, there are certain things that have to "fit together" well, just like putting a puzzle together. This isn't about finding an exact replica of yourself, it's about finding someone who is going to be a good match for your life. In order to find a good match, you've got to know your shape, and your colors. Compatibility Looks Like... There are certain big picture topics where it's important to make sure you have compatibility when you're in a relationship. Today on the podcast, we're talking through those topics! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 44 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Boundaries with the Opposite Sex: A Conversation with My Husband BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Should Obesity Be a Deal Breaker in Dating? Oct 28, 2019

Today's question about obesity in dating comes from Will who asks: Q: Hi Debra. I'm feeling conflicted that a woman being overweight or obese has become a dealbreaker for a relationship. I do my best to eat well and exercise to keep a healthy weight for myself, especially since I'm at risk for Type II diabetes, and obesity is the number one risk factor. It seems that marrying someone who also has the discipline to maintain a healthy weight is the best way for us to live a long and healthy life together. But I feel guilty because I've been told since I was a child that "it's what's inside that counts", and yet I'm disqualifying women with one look at their body shape. Is it okay that a woman being overweight or obese has become a dealbreaker for me? Or am I being too superficial? Should Obesity Be A Deal Breaker? You guys, we're bringing it today on the podcast. I'll be honest, my first reaction was to avoid answering this question, because it's such a sensitive topic and one we don't bring up often. But if Will was bold enough to ask it with such thoughtfulness and sensitivity, then I thought it was important to be bold enough to answer it. Without further to say, let's dive into this candid question and discuss whether or not obesity should be a deal breaker when it comes to the things you're looking for in a dating relationship. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 43 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Healthy Dating Looks Like This: A Conversation With Ben Stuart Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks. 10 Girls You Shouldn't Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn't Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys OTHER BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Healthy Dating Looks Like This: With Ben Stuart Oct 21, 2019

Q: What does healthy dating look like and what are the key ingredients to a healthy dating relationship? A: Today's question comes from Kim in Ohio, who is wondering what healthy dating actually looks like...is it even a thing? If you know anything about me and this ministry, you know that my main message is that healthy people make healthy relationships. But how do you know that your relationship is healthy? What are some things to be on the lookout for when it comes to your interactions with the opposite sex? Healthy Dating Is A Thing On today's episode, we're talking through this question and the belief that healthy dating is a real thing!! It IS POSSIBLE to date in a way that leaves you with no regrets - even in today's chaotic culture of relationships. Joining me to answer this question today, is Pastor Ben Stuart from Passion City Church in DC and formerly served as the director of BreakAway Ministries. Ben's work with young adults and his heart for this topic made him a perfect candidate to tag-team this question with me today. In this episode, we talk through: Why is dating such a struggle for Christians? How to look at dating in a way that takes the pressure off. The THEME verse that should define the way we do dating. What are some of the key ingredients that make healthy dating a possibility. The three Cs of dating. Why mutual interest and initiation is SO important. Why charm is deceptive... And so much more!!! Don't miss this great conversation! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 42 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For other great episodes of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks. 10 Girls You Shouldn't Date: How To Avoid Heartbreak 10 Guys You Shouldn't Date: How To Avoid The Bad Boys Connect with Ben Stuart on Instagram or check out his book: Single, Dating, Engaged, Married. For more information check out Passion City Church, DC. Don't Miss our LAST Online Singles Event of 2019 this FRIDAY!!! Check it out by clicking the photo below: OTHER BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Time = Love: A Conversation with My Husband (Part 3) Oct 14, 2019

Time is everything. In fact, it's one of the most valuable things you have to give to the people around you...because it's the only thing you can never get back. The past two episodes, we've been talking about how we protect our marriage. We started with talking about our emotions in episode 39, our interactions in episode 40, and today we're talking about our time. Time is your most valuable commodity. But with the lures of social media, iPhones in every pocket, a dozen texts and emails to answer, and a stream of Netflix at your fingertips, it's easy for your time to get away from you. But if you're not careful, you can find that your time is going to the inanimate - instead of the intimate. TIME MATTERS One of the survey results I write about in Choosing Marriage, has to do with the amount of married people who report spending their time on separate hobbies and interests. There's a lot of time getting lost on things that don't really matter, and it's having serious impact on our marriages. In this episode, we talk through some of the things we do in our marriage and how we prioritize our time for one another, because if you're not intentional - it just won't happen. Tune into the last part of the Protecting Your Marriage Series of Conversations With My Husband. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 41 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage OTHER BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Boundaries With The Opposite Sex: A Conversation With My Husband (Part 2) Oct 07, 2019

Boundaries with the opposite sex may not be something we're comfortable talking about, but it's a necessary conversation. It's easy to say we should have boundaries in a marriage, but then actually talking through the specifics of what those boundaries look like is something most couples don't actually sit down to do. A few years ago in the media, a political leader who talked about his boundaries with the opposite sex sparked a fury of heated conversations around the country. In fact, an article about this very topic on my blog sparked some additional controversy as well. It's clear this is a topic people don't always agree on. So what's too much when it comes to boundaries, and what is not enough? Boundaries With the Opposite Sex What does it practically look like to protect your marriage by setting boundaries, specifically with your interactions with the opposite sex? Last week on the Love + Relationships Podcast we talked through the boundaries we set with our emotions, and today on the podcast we're talking through the boundaries we set up with our interactions on Part 2 of this three part series with my husband. The conversation you're about to hear is about the things WE have chosen to do for our marriage. You may agree with some of it, and you may not...but let's start by having the conversation, and getting comfortable talking through it. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 40 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Love In Every Season: The Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our Secret Sauce To Marriage: A Conversation With My Husband! Sep 30, 2019

How do you protect your marriage? What do you and your husband do to keep your marriage strong? What's your secret sauce to marriage? Are there things you do to keep connected in your marriage? These are some of the questions that came in over the past few months, and I am so glad say that I can finally answer them, because Season 3 of the Love + Relationships Podcast is officially here!!!! And you guys are going to be so excited about this highly anticipated guest on the podcast... I can't believe it's taken until Season 3 to get him on, but life...and kids...and schedules...have gotten in the way. But he's finally here!!! And I'm so excited to have him! Today we're talking about a subject that's so close to our heart: How to PROTECT your marriage. PROTECT YOUR MARRIAGE Specifically, we're talking about the three intruders that are known to get in the way of a healthy marriage. These intruders are quiet, and sly, and sneaky - but if you aren't careful, you'll find them starting to creep in and separate your hearts and your lives from one another. Join John and me, and get a front row look into our relationship and the things we do to be DELIBERATE and INTENTIONAL about protecting our love and drawing closer to one another. I love this episode so much, and I know you will to. Tune in to Part 1 of this 3 part series with my husband, John Fileta! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 39 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn about causal dating! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. (Debra's New Book: Love In Every Season Coming January 2020, Pre-Order Today!) And Check out Debra's Love + Relationships Podcast on iTunes or wherever you get your podcasts! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Casual Dating: How casual is too casual? May 13, 2019

There's a lot of casual dating going on these days...and it's starting to get confusing. Is it okay to date casually? And if so, is there a limit to how casual you should be when interacting with the opposite sex. Today's question comes from a young woman who is struggling with the latest trend of casual dating where a guy can hang out with as many girls as he wants (or vice versa) in the name of "casual dating". Casual Dating Can't Stay Casual The problem is that people tend to think in two extremes. Either they are way too casual and keep the relationship ambiguous and commitment free for FAR too long, or they're on the other end of the spectrum in which they see dating as a near marriage commitment. They're unwilling to consider anything casual and they expect a relationship to start seriously from the get-go. But BOTH of these mentalities can be harmful, and in this episode of the podcast we talk through the ins and outs of how to do "casual dating" in a healthy way, and the red flags you need to be aware of along the way. I'm going to bring up a few important questions you need to ask yourself if you want to know how to do causal dating well. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 37 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn about causal dating! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spiritual Warfare & Relationships: Is it a relationship problem or a spiritual attack? May 06, 2019

Spiritual warfare isn't something we discuss too often in the context of our day- to-day lives, much less in the context of our relationships. But by not having this conversation, what if we're missing something? Because what if there are forces unseen at work, waging war against our hearts and against our relationships? Spiritual Warfare in Relationships According to scripture, "our battle is not simply against flesh and blood...but against the powers of this dark world...and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realm" (Ephesians 6:12). According to God's word - the struggles we face in our lives and in our relationships are often more "unseen" than we realize. Today on the podcast, our question comes from a young man who is wondering exactly if and how spiritual warfare is something that impacts our ability to have healthy relationships. Spiritual Warfare vs. Relationship Problems How do you know if the problem is in the relationship, or if it's a spiritual attack? What are some things you can do to defend yourself from spiritual warfare? What's the proper balance of looking at something spiritually, but not seeing everything as a spiritual attack? What's the role of the armor of God against spiritual warfare? To tag-team this important topic, I invited my friend Dr. Tim Muehlhoff, Director of Resources Biola University's Center for Marriage and Relationships, and author of Defending Your Marriage: The Reality of Spiritual Battle. His latest book is an eye-opening look into the implications of spiritual warfare and how it plays out in marriage and relationships. This episode was such a challenging and convicting look into the health of our spiritual life and our spiritual lens. I hope it encourages you as much as it encouraged me. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 37 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to learn about spiritual warfare and relationships! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Love + Relationships Podcast Extras: We talked about the importance of praying as a weapon against spiritual attack. Take some time to PRAY OVER YOUR FUTURE LOVE LIFE by enrolling in the 21 Days to Pray For Your Love Life Program. Learn more about Biola University's Center for Marriage and Relationships! For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: 5 Differences That Cause Stress in Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book a session with her today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How To Guard Your Heart Without Being Too Guarded Apr 29, 2019

"Guard your heart". That's pretty much sums up the relationship advice you get when you ask someone within the Christian culture for dating advice. But what does it mean to guard your heart, and how do you guard your heart without appearing too guarded? How To Guard Your Heart Guarding your heart really comes down to protecting your heart...because your heart is the most important part of who you are, and so it's worth protecting. We've got to learn to protect our heart by setting spiritual, physical, and emotional boundaries. Today we're talking through some of those steps, and what it looks like to practically guard your heart from getting attached to someone prematurely. So click the buttons below to subscribe and check out Episode 36 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to find out how to guard your heart! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just Say NO: How Doing Less Is More w/ Jeff Bethke. Apr 15, 2019

Are you the type of person who has a hard time saying no? Because if so, the inability to say no is likely going to start impacting your health, as well as the health of your relationships. If you're anything like the average American, you're probably feeling burned-out and spread thin. We live in a society that has absolutely no margin. We're so caught up in the rat race of life that we've lost our ability to rest, to breathe, to think, to pray, and to have space in our life to do the only thing God has called us to do: love Him and love others well. Today's caller is feeling just that. He's having a hard time learning to say no, and his guilt has caused him to over-commit and over-schedule, and now he's feeling like he's got nothing left to give to those around him. Just Say No Learning the power of no is something we don't talk about enough as Christians. We wrongly believe that showing love automatically means saying yes all the time. But not only is that untrue, it's also unhealthy. Learning to say no has the power to change our lives and our relationships. To talk through today's question, I invited my good friend, author and spoken-word-artist Jefferson Bethke, to join me on the Love + Relationships Podcast. One thing I appreciate about Jeff and his wife Alyssa, is their laser-focus and their ability to set boundaries that protect their schedules, their calling, and their family. Today's conversation is SO SO good, and even if you THINK you are good at saying no and setting boundaries and limits, this podcast episode will likely give you another perspective. Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out episode 35 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Recommended Reading - Margin: Restoring Emotional, Physical, and Financial Time Reserves to Overloaded Lives. Connect with Jeff and Alyssa Bethke! For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Faith & Romance: Attracted to a Non Christian Apr 08, 2019

Have you ever found yourself attracted to a non Christian? Someone who is living out a different belief system, or isn't spiritually in tune with where you're at with your faith? What do you do when you find yourself drawn to someone with whom you are spiritually out of sync? How much does faith matter in the context of a healthy relationship? Attracted To a Non Christian Today's episode answers a question from Sarah from Boston who is wondering what to do when you're attracted to someone who is not a Christian. How do you proceed with the friendship, or the relationship, without compromising your own faith? As a professional counselor who also happens to be a Christian, I've seen the role that faith plays in my personal relationship with my husband. But more so, the research backs it up....so let's have this conversation about faith and romance! Click the buttons below to subscribe and check out episode 34 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5 Differences That Add STRESS To Marriage Mar 26, 2019

Personality differences, age differences, cultural differences. We often come to relationships with a set of differences; things that set us apart and give us a unique role in the relationship we're in. We come from different families, different experiences, and different lifestyles. And each of those differences can be an asset to our romantic lives. Differences add spice to a relationship. But let's be honest, they also add stress. From Age Differences to Faith Differences In today's episode, our caller wrote in specifically asking the question of age differences in a relationship. Is it okay for their to be an age difference? Does it have a negative impact on the relationship? What age range is okay and what is too far apart? There are so many "differences" that can add stress to a relationship, and age difference is certainly one of them. But differences aren't necessarily something we should avoid - instead, they are something we need to be aware of. So in answering her question today, I decided to tackle a list of a few of the differences that tend to make marriage harder as well as what you need to know about managing those differences. Check out this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast to hear the 5 differences that can add stress to a relationship. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks. Mar 18, 2019

What does it look like to pursue biblical dating? You might be surprised to know. Being a Christian who also happens to be a Licensed Professional Counselor, I'm often asked to speak about the topic of biblical dating. How does a person date in a biblical way? What does the bible actually say about dating? How can a Christian manage the world of dating with a God-honoring perspective? Which concepts of dating can you take from the "world" and which should you take from the bible? I wrote my book, True Love Dates, because I wanted to tackle some of these important questions and bring to light how we can apply the concepts from the bible to approach toward dating, in a way that's spiritually, emotionally, and psychologically healthy. But this week on the podcast, the question came up yet again: How do you pursue biblical dating? Interestingly enough, the answer might surprise you. BIBLICAL DATING ISN'T WHAT YOU THINK Interestingly enough, if we look through the pages of the bible, biblical dating is non-existent. People didn't "date" in the Middle East, and in fact, dating is still a brand new concept even today. In today's episode of the podcast, I talk through why biblical dating isn't actually what we think - and probably not what we want. Yet with the reminder that God's word is filled with concepts and principles that we can apply to dating right here and right now. Check out Episode 32 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to find out all about biblical dating. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another great episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ready to Wed: When you’re ready to marry but your parents say no. Mar 11, 2019

What happens when you think you're ready to wed - but your parents want you to wait? That's the dilemma faced on this week's episode of the podcast. "We're ready to get married, but our parents want us to wait." It can be really tricky learning how to manage the expectations of what you feel called to in your love live, versus what other trusted friends and family believe. But it's all important and it's all part of the equation. So when do you take into consideration when you feel ready to wed vs. what others think? How do you honor your parents in the process yet still move forward in your relationship? When do you trust what they're saying over what you're feeling? Ready to Wed On today's episode, our couple is torn between feeling ready to wed, but wanting to respect and honor their parents in the process as well. Catch up on Episode 31 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to hear me talk through the answer to this question! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Me, You, and Jesus: What A Christ Centered Relationship Really Means. Mar 04, 2019

"I just want to have a Christ centered relationship." In the Christian dating culture, the term "Christ centered relationship" is a familiar one....one that I've heard time and time again. Any Christian couple will tell you they want to keep Jesus at the center of their relationship, but what on earth does that actually mean? Does it mean you pray together and do devotions? Does it mean you go to church together on Sundays? Or could there be more than that? Are there ways you can cultivate your relationship with God as a couple? In this episode I talk about a young man that came up to me after a speaking engagement and told me he believed for sure he had a Christ centered relationship because...drum-roll please....he and his girlfriend read a devotion together every day. I just have to be honest - I think having a Christ centered relationship takes a lot more than that. I want to take some time to unpack that a little bit today. Here's why: Being Christ-centered is not just something you do - it's something you ARE. Me, You, and Jesus: A Christ Centered Relationship Today's question comes from a young man who is wondering just that. He comes to the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS podcast asking: What are some practical ways to grow in your relationship with God as a couple? Tune into Episode 29 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources and Additional Show Notes: Today's podcast was taped in front of a LIVE audience at Lancaster Bible College, be sure to check out this amazing college and be a part of the wonderful things they are doing in the lives of students and staff! Liked this episode? Check out: Single in my 30s: How To Hold On To Hope BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s Talk About SEX Drive In Marriage: Dealing With The Ups and Downs of Drive Feb 25, 2019

Let's talk about sex drive in marriage. Because there are a lot of false expectations out there about what sex in marriage is going to look like. I know this to be true, because I surveyed over 1,000 singles, and 1,000 married people to get their views on sex and sex drive in marriage. And the EXPECTATIONS of what sex people thought would be like, compared to the REALITY of what sex actually looked like in marriage, were drastically different. (Check out the full survey with the interesting results in my book, Choosing Marriage.) Our expectations of sex are often so far from reality. And truth be told, struggling with a low or no sex drive in marriage is not something people expect, yet something many are dealing with. As a single, you can barely control your raging sex drive (check out the Sex Drive and The Single Life: Controlling Your Sex Drive Before it Controls You Podcast Episode Here!), so it's hard to imagine a day when you might be struggling to "feel it". But low sex drive is something that too many people are struggling with in silence. And today, we're talking about it. Because today's question comes from a caller who is more than satisfied in her marriage, yet still struggling to desire sex. Her low sex drive is starting to cause stress in their marriage, and she's not sure what to do. In today's episode, I'm joined by my friend, and author of The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex, Sheila Gregoire. Together, we tackle this important question and talk you through what you can do when you find that you're dealing with a low sex drive in marriage. Let's Talk About Sex Drive in Marriage Whether you're single, or married, male or female, this episode is an important one to be aware of! Tune into Episode 29 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Connect with Sheila Gregoire and all her resources at her blog: To Love, Honor and Vacuum. BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Single in Your 30s: How To Hold On To Hope Feb 18, 2019

What do you do when you find yourself single in your 30s - your mid 30s, in fact - with no prospect of love in sight? "I never imagined I'd be single in my 30s". Today's caller is looking for some encouragement and trying to assess whether or not she should continue to hold on to hope when she finds herself single at an age she never imagined. I'm not gonna lie, there are so many times when our life turns out different than we expected. Whether it's with singleness, marriage, fertility issues, illness, jobs, or so many other ways that life can dissapoint. And in this world, there aren't always answers as to why that is, but there are certainly truths we can hold on to, promises we can cling to, and lies we can make sure we're demolishing as we move toward the desires God has placed in our heart. Single in my 30s If you find yourself single in your 30s, I hope and pray this episode offers you some practical encouragement and needed affirmation to keep moving forward. Tune into Episode 28 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Check out the Breaking Free From the Lies of Singleness Course, and receive 25% off at checkout using code: PODCAST. For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Practical Oneness in Marriage: The Reality of Two Becoming One Feb 11, 2019

Oneness in marriage. What does it look like for two people to practically become one? When we talk about oneness in marriage, we often focus on the deep spiritual and physical connection of two becoming one. But what about the practical stuff? The house? The decorations? The furniture? The bed? The closet? We often forget that there's actually sacrifice and selflessness involved in the practical, day-to-day aspects of becoming one that people overlook. Oneness in Marriage Today's caller is wondering how to make her future husband feel at home as he prepares to move into her house due to a long distance relationship. He's leaving his world and uprooting miles away to join hers - her home, her friends, her life, her things. Because of this, she's calling to as a really important question: what does oneness looks like in a practical sense? Tune into Episode 27 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heart Break Feb 04, 2019

Heart break doesn't have to be the norm...if you know what to avoid, that is. In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, we turn the tables on last weeks popular episode, 10 Guys You Shouldn't Date by introducing you to the 10 Women You Shouldn't Date. Avoiding Heart Break These 10 ladies will string you on...drag you down...and break your heart. But it doesn't have to be that way, because you can learn what to look for. Each of them possesses certain traits that we're going to throw in the red flag category, and teach you exactly what to be on the lookout for. Learn how to recognize these types of women and quickly move on. Tune into Episode 26 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST by subscribing and clicking the links below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out the entire episode listing: LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How Can I Avoid Dating The Bad Boys? Jan 28, 2019

Birth Order & Your Love Life: How Birth Order Impacts Your Relationships Jan 21, 2019

Q: "Hey Debra, I'd love to hear your thoughts about if and how birth order impacts a relationship". A: Are you the oldest child, middle child, or the baby of your family? Believe it or not, how you answer that question will actually have a significant impact on the type of person you turn out to be - as well as how you do relationships. Your birth order can have a significant impact on your love life, so it's important to understand the dynamics that are at play. In this episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, I'm joined by two of my friends and leading marriage voices in the country, Dave and Ashley Willis from Marriage Today. Together, Dave, Ashley and I talk through what we know about birth order - why it's an actual thing, and how we've seen it impact relationships. In this episode, we talk through: Birth Order Episode: We cover the characteristics of a first born child (or only child), including strengths and weaknesses. The three of us talk through characteristics of a middle child, including strengths and weaknesses. We discuss characteristics of a the baby of the family, including strengths and weaknesses. What it's like to be a first born married to a first born (Interesting to note, everyone on this episode is a first born!) A hilarious story of how the Willis' totally played into the middle child stereotype with their middle child. Some interesting look at an informal survey I took revealing the birth order we tend to be attracted to in relationships. How to deal with opposite characteristics of birth order in relationships, because this is an issue that often comes up. The caveats that need to be addressed when discussing birth order. It's a super fun and informative episode, so I hope you'll take the time to tune in to our conversation and find out the strengths and weaknesses of YOUR specific birth order - and how it might be impacting your closest relationships. So subscribe and click below to tune in to episode 23 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Dave and Ashley Willis have become some of America's most trusted teachers on marriage. Their books, blogs, videos and speaking events reach millions of couples worldwide. They are part of the team at XO Marriage and MarriageToday, which is the largest marriage-focused ministry in the USA. Dave and Ashley have four young sons and live near Dallas, Texas. Check out their latest book, The Naked Marriage, available for pre-order today! For another incredible resource check out Dr. Lehman's book: The Birth Order Book, and get an in-depth look at the intricacies of birth order. For another fun episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast check out: Oversharing in Relationships - 10 Things Not To Talk About Too Soon BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Break Up Advice: 10 Ways To Heal After A Break Up Jan 14, 2019

You just got out of a relationship that you thought was going somewhere - and you're looking for some break up advice. Trust me, I know...your heart feels like it's never going to heal. They say breaking up is hard to do. And they're right. Maybe you are the one that ended the relationship. Maybe things were going well and you got blind-sided. Or maybe, you were slowly starting to drift apart...and this was the inevitable next step. Whatever it is, breaking up is hard to do. Dealing with a break up isn't as cut and dry as it seems, and if you're not careful, you can find yourself getting sucked back in - sometimes time and time again - to a relationship that's neither good for you nor good for the other person. Break Up Advice: 10 Steps To Healing So how do you deal with a break up? How do you get to the point where your heart can begin to heal and move forward? In today's episode of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST, we're talking through that very thing. Because the choices you make today can either propel you toward healing and hope - or keep you back. There are 10 things that you need to be doing after a break up to make sure your heart is heading toward healing. Take a few minutes to listen to this quick episode by subscribing to the podcast and clicking below. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: If you'd prefer to read along, you can find a summary of this episode at this link: How To Get Over a Break Up If you're struggling to set physical boundaries in a dating relationship, here's the podcast I recommended: How Far Is Too Far? Physical Boundaries Before Marriage BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Communication In Marriage: How To Stop The Drift Jan 07, 2019

When you think about communication in marriage, what comes to mind? When I was gathering data for my book, Choosing Marriage, I asked singles to tell me how much time they thought married couples spend in quality communication each week. Then, I surveyed married couples asking them how much time they spend in quality communication each week...and the different answers that came in were almost laughable (I tell you all about the stats it in this episode and why married couples aren't actually talking!) There was such a drastic difference between what singles thought communication in marriage looked like, vs. what married people actually reported communication in marriage to be. But there are so many things that get in the way of communication in marriage. Life. Jobs. Kids. If we're not constantly trying to move together in marriage, we'll find ourselves moving apart. MARRIAGE COUNSELORS TALKING REAL COMMUNICATION IN MARRIAGE In today's episode, I'm joined by my dear friend and marriage counselor, Dr. Kim Kimberling. We cover some of these issues that can come up with communication and connection in marriage. We talk about our own respective marriages, some of the challenges and successes we face when it comes to communication in marriage. We talk about child-centric homes, why they're dangerous to marriage, and what to do about it. How to set some boundaries with your kids so you can enrich your marriage. We talk about some steps you can take to build your marriage or restore it when you're feeling off-track. Why most married couples aren't spending enough time together, and how to make it happen. We talk about the importance of the first 10-minutes of contact with your spouse. We talk about who should initiate communication and why it matters. We also share some ways we stay connected to our spouses and some practices that you can apply to your marriage to stay connected....and so much more! This episode is so full of amazing conversation and insight. You're going to love it! Whether you're single, or married, or somewhere in between - take the time to tune into Episode 22 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS PODCAST. Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Be sure to connect with today's guest, Dr. Kim Kimberling and all his encouraging marriage resources at AwesomeMarriage.com. And be sure to check out his new book, 14 Keys To Lasting Love: How To Have The Marriage You've Always Wanted Learn more about communication by checking out this article: You Have Walls, And They're Keeping People Out. The Truth About Communication in Marriage. BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5 Ways To Build Trust In A Relationship Jan 01, 2019

How do you build trust in a relationship? Do you give trust right away, or do you hesitate to trust? How does your past influence how you trust in the present? And what if you've been burned in your past? We are back with the first episode of season 2 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, answering this important question! To Trust, or Not To Trust: Three Types of Trust Personalities In today's episode, I'm answering an important question from Danny from St. Louis who finds himself feeling burned from trusting too quickly in relationship because of his tendency to trust too quickly. I talk him through the three different types of trust-personalities: the walls, the free, and the fences...and the trust-temperaments that each one of them brings to relationships. 5 Ways To Build Trust in a Relationship At the end of the episode, I explain 5 important ways to develop trust. Trust in a relationship is such an important thing, but it's not something that happens automatically, because trust has to be earned. These five things can be used to develop trust for the first time, or even rebuild trust after it's been broken. This episode is important for anyone who has ever struggled with the topic of trust in a relationship. Click below to tune in to Episode 21 of the LOVE + RELATIONSHIPS Podcast! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren't Convenient Or check out this episode and find out what I think about the concept of "Finding The One". BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Am I Going To Be Single Forever? Trusting God With The Unknowns Nov 19, 2018

Does God want me to be single forever? How do I know whether or not I have the "gift" of singleness? How do I hold on to hope when the future seems so unknown and so unclear? So many people are struggling with these questions as they look ahead at an unknown future and wonder whether or not God has marriage in their horizon. Am I Going To Be Single Forever? There are so many things in life where we just don't know what God has planned. But there are some truths and promises that can keep you grounded and hopeful while you wait. This final episode of Season 1 of the Love + Relationships Podcast is an important one, and one that is really close to my heart with all the waiting I have done in my life - and the waiting I continue to do in so many other ares of my life. I hope and pray that this episode will leave you encouraged as we collectively learn to trust God with the unknowns in life. We're going to be back with the Love + Relationships Podcast, with brand new guests, topics, and episodes starting January 1st! I look forward to reconnecting with you again in the new year....but in the meantime, catch up on all the episodes, and send in all your relationship questions as we're gearing up to record Season 2! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Ready to make some changes in your love life? Check out this 21 Day Course - 21 Days To Jump Start Your Love Life! Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out the episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren't Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of "Finding The One". BOOKS BY DEBRA Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Only Three Dating Rules You Need: Know Your Reds, Greens, and Yellows. Nov 12, 2018

Dating rules and advice can change with the passing of time. (Hence, I Kissed Dating Goodbye in 1990 vs True Love Dates in 2018- which is $1.99 on Kindle right now for all you bargain hunters out there ) But there are a few concepts about dating and relationships that won't change no matter what's going on in our culture. Today's caller is looking for some dating advice. She's wondering how to know if she's giving a relationship enough time to play out, or if she's ending the relationships too early. THE THREE DATING RULES YOU NEED In today's episode, I'm going to talk her through some basic dating rules using the red, green, and yellow flag concept. The greens are the things you need in a a relationship - things you're on the lookout for. The yellows are your preferences, or even the unknowns - things that will probably end up either in the red, or the green category with time. And the reds are the things you'll never, ever, settle for - things that signify it's time to STOP this relationship. You've got to understand and know your reds, greens, and yellows in order to have a chance at a successful dating relationship. You need to get good at recognizing what works, from what doesn't. Because you've have to know when to keep moving forward in a relationship, and when to walk away. Tune in to Episode 019 of the Love + Relationships Podcast today, and let's talk through your red, green, and yellow list! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out the episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren't Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of "Finding The One". Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can A Woman Make The First Move? On Women Initiating Nov 05, 2018

Can a woman make the first move in a relationship? This is a question that's always on my radar, because I know it's going to come in about every single Q&A session I have - and let's be honest, it's a rather controversial topic. Truth be told, the answer to this question has changed over the years with the changing of culture and opinions and norms. But it's a topic that's holding a lot of women back and it's about time we had this conversation on the podcast. Who Should Make The First Move? For many years, the majority of people would have answered no to this question, saying that a woman shouldn't make the first move in a relationship. Some people said it wasn't their preference for a woman to initiate a relationship. Others said it wasn't biblical. Still today, 35% of readers that I polled on the blog believe that it's not okay for a woman to initiate a relationship. But I respectfully disagree. There are four reasons why I think it's totally okay for a woman to make the first move in a relationship, and today on this episode of the podcast, I'm going to break it down with why I think it's perfectly okay for a woman to take initiative and make a move. With a few exceptions that I'm going to cover, as well as a few things to be on the lookout for that signify a healthy relationship. Whether you're a male or female, you don't want to miss Episode 018 of the Love + Relationships Podcast! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Click here to read an outline of the Top 10 Relationship Killers. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out the episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren't Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of "Finding The One". Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Top 10 Relationship Killers: Small Things That Cause Big Relationship Problems Oct 29, 2018

It's not usually the big things that cause relationship problems...it's the small things. It's the little things that go unaddressed and add up with time that end up causing more damage in a relationship than anyone ever expects. So how do you avoid them? You start by recognizing them. Top 10 Relationship Problems There's a few big picture things that can really mess with your relationship and with your marriage. The problem is, most people don't know about these things. They aren't on the lookout. And then they come into counseling years later when their marriage is practically on life support. This is why I believe the more we know, the better we will do. And that's exactly why I want to take the time to talk through these relationship problems on this episode of the podcast. So tune in to Episode 017 of the Love + Relationships Podcast to listen to this important conversation addressing 10 major relationship problems that you need to know about! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Click here to read an outline of the Top 10 Relationship Killers. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren't Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of "Finding The One". Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Oversharing in Relationships: 10 Things NOT To Talk About Too Soon Oct 22, 2018

Have you ever found yourself oversharing in a relationship? You know what I mean, right? I'm talking about those conversations where you find yourself saying WAY too much, WAY too soon? Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, why on earth did I say all that? Or maybe you know someone, someone who you're in a relationship with, who tends to overshare. What is it about oversharing, and why do we do it? How can we draw the line between being authentic, but also not saying way more than we need to? How do we apply this to the world of dating and relationships? Oversharing in Relationships Today's caller is a Melissa - a woman who is struggling with oversharing. She's wondering why she overshares, and how to know when she's shared too much. Specifically, she's dealing with oversharing about her sexual history - finding herself always leading the way with that conversation. On today's episode, she's calling in today to talk through some of the issues this has brought up in her relationships. "Because your sexual history may shape you, but it doesn't define you." 10 Things NOT TO SHARE early on There are a few reasons why people overshare, and specifically when it comes to our past, we need to understand why we overshare, what's important to share, and where we need to tone it down. I talk through some reasons we overshare in this episode, because just like I tell Melissa: "It's not healthy to dive into the deep end of a relationship, before you've walked through the shallow end." So after my conversation with Melissa, I'm talking you through some practicals: 10 things NOT to talk about too soon in a relationship - especially when you're first getting to know someone in a dating relationship (or even in the early stages of a friendship). Who Should I Share With? And lastly, on this episode I'm talking through the three groups of people in your life, how to categorize them, and understand how much to share with each group. Whether you're dating, single, or navigating friendships, tune in to Episode 016 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, to listen to this important conversation about oversharing! Episode Highlights: What does oversharing look like? Why do we overshare in relationships? What are some subjects we should stay away from? When do we share mental health issues? Sexual history? 10 things NOT to talk about early on in a relationship. How to recognize who to share with, and who not to. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships Aren't Convenient Or check out this mini episode and find out what I think about the concept of "Finding The One". Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does God Have One Person Out There For Me To Marry? 3 Things You Need To Know About The One Oct 15, 2018

Is there such a thing as "the one"? Do you believe that there's only one person out there for you to marry? And if so, how does that impact your relationship choices? Today I'm talking through this issue, and telling you all about how my husband and I had completely different experiences when we first met. At the end of the day, whether you take my side, or my husband's side on the issue - it doesn't really matter, because no matter what you believe about the one, you've still got to do the work of getting yourself in a healthy relationship. 3 Things You Need To Know About Finding The One No matter what your views about the one, you need to check out this mini-episode and find out three key things to remember when it comes to "finding the one". Tune in to Episode 015 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, to find out what they are! SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: If you liked this episode, check out this article: You Don't Find the One, You Choose The One Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about Sex Drive and The Single Life: Controlling Your Desires Before They Control You Dig Deeper with some scripture for healthy relationships: Proverbs 31:10-31, 18:22, 14:1, 12:4; 1 Timothy 5:14; 1 Peter 3:1-6). Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. And check out this awesome feature article about TrueLoveDates.com and Choosing Marriage at DatingNews.com DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How Far Is Too Far? Physical Touch Before Marriage Oct 08, 2018

How far is too far when it comes to physical touch before marriage? I'm sure you're not shocked to hear that it's one of the most frequently asked questions I receive at my relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com. How far is too far? On today's mini-episode (18 minutes!) I'm answering just that! In this quick episode, I'm offering some practical, bite-sized advice for anyone who has ever wondered where to draw the line with physical touch before marriage. I'm going to talk you through the 12 stages of physical touch and explain to you when I believe physical touch goes from the green zone, to the yellow zone, to the red zone. If you've ever wondered how far is too far to go physically in a dating relationship, you're going to want to tune in to Episode 014 of the Love + Relationships Podcast, where we talk candidly about all things love, sex, dating, singleness and marriage. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER or SPOTIFY Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about Sex Drive and The Single Life: Controlling Your Desires Before They Control You Dig Deeper: Check out the Sex and The Single Life Audio Lesson Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You Don’t Have To Like Being Single: 10 Ways To Survive Singleness Oct 01, 2018

You don't have to like being single. Yes, even you, Christian person. It's okay to struggle with being single! It really is. I'm giving you - reading this post - permission to go ahead and feel those feelings. And in this episode, I'm going to tell you exactly why. On this episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast, I'm talking to a young woman who is struggling with singleness. She's just not feeling content. How can you survive singleness in a world that seems to revolve around marriage? How can you keep from getting discouraged when you're not in a relationship but want to be? What do you do when you find yourself living in a season of waiting...and waiting...and waiting? What do you do when it seems like the people who AREN'T doing it God's way are being "blessed", and you feel like you're trying to follow God's leading and you're feeling like life just isn't working out for you? What can you do while you're waiting? Let's have this conversation, friends. Being Single Doesn't Have To Be Time To Kill After our chat, I'm going to talk you through some of the TOP 10 ways to use this time of singleness in your life as a time of preparation, rather than just a time you're wishing away. Being single doesn't have to ruin your life...in fact, it shouldn't. So we're going to discuss the things my married friends WISHED they would have done during their time of singleness, and I think it's important to talk through some of this stuff. Because it's so easy to look at what God is NOT doing, instead of what He IS doing (CLICK TO TWEET IT!). We've got to learn to adjust our perspective on being single. You don't have to like being single - but you do have to learn how to NOT LET SINGLENESS hold you back!! Singleness might be a struggle for you, but don't let it be a stronghold that paralyzes you from living! We're talking through this delicate topic today, and I hope you'll stick around and join us, because you're going to love this candid conversation so get ready to for Episode 013 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about Sex Drive and The Single Life: Controlling Your Desires Before They Control You Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Check out these articles: 7 LIES THAT ARE KEEPING YOU SINGLE or 3 THINGS MARRIED PEOPLE SHOULD STOP SAYING TO SINGLES Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Ultimate Date: Date Ideas From First Dates to Married Dates Sep 24, 2018

What are some fun date ideas and practical suggestions for a successful first date? On the other end of the spectrum, what are some practical suggestions for married couples who want to carve out some special time each week to date? Dating looks different today than it did 20 years ago. Scratch that, dating looks different today than it did LAST YEAR. In this episode, we are talking through ins and outs of a date in 2018. My caller today wants to know some practical suggestions to making the first date a success. So I turn the tables on her and ask her some important questions! Where is the best place to go on a first date? What do you talk about? Who pays the bill? Who should initiate? When should you follow up after the date? If you've ever wondered how to pull of a fantastic first date, I'm revealing some fascinating survey results about what people expect a first date to look like. FIRST DATE IDEAS TO MARRIED DATE IDEAS Then at the end of the episode, we talk to the married friends out there. Because God knows a "date night out" every single week is not the norm, I'm going to give you our top 10 date night IN ideas!! These date ideas are things John and I have done from the comfort of our own home to make some time to connect and enjoy each other's company. They're cheap, convenient, easy, and most of them don't require much planning ahead. So whether you're single, or married - get ready to talk about the ultimate date and get some really practical date ideas to get you motivated! You're going to love this fun conversation so get ready to for Episode 012 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? If so, check out this popular episode called HOW IMPORTANT IS PHYSICAL ATTRACTION. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Ready to Jump Start Your Love Life? CLICK HERE TO GET STARTED! Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sex Drive & The Single Life: Controlling Your Lust Before It Controls You Sep 17, 2018

What do I do with my raging sex drive while I'm single? I get that question a lot. But the problem is: not too many Christians are teaching about this subject. I can't recall when I heard a sermon about sexual struggles on a Sunday morning, can you? But dealing with your sex drive is a problem that singles have to face on a regular basis....one that will ultimately have an impact on their future marriages as well, because learning to "tame the drive" is something you're going to deal with after you're married as well. So I thought it was about time to do an episode about sex drive and singleness. LET'S TALK ABOUT...THE SEX DRIVE When we talk about sex on the podcast, everyone gets excited...no pun intended. So, without further to do, click the links below to listen this insightful (and at times, awkward) conversation, as I answer today's caller who is wondering how on earth can he deal with "the sex drive" - as he puts it - while he waits for marriage. In this episode I cover: Why your sex drive (annoying as it may be at times while you're single) is actually a good thing. Why the sex for marriage sentiment is actually backed up by psychology. The dangerous power of premarital sex. Why your sex drive is actually a symptom of something ELSE going on. The #1 way to stop having shame about your sex drive. How to fuel the spirit and starve the flesh, and what that means for your sex life. Some practical ways to control your sex drive while you're single. Identifying things you are doing that might be growing your sex drive instead of controlling your sex drive. Why learning to control your sex drive is something you'll need after you're married as well. And a whole...lot...more! You're going to love this candid conversation so get ready to for this necessary, honest, and insightful Episode 011 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Enjoyed this episode of the podcast? Check out this episode about JUNK FOOD RELATIONSHIPS Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Go deeper with this audio lesson: Sex and the Single Life: What To Do with Sexual Desires While You Wait Get busy learning what you need to know about healthy singleness, dating, and marriage. Check out Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me or True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No More Pretending: Depression, Suicide, & The Church w/Jarrid Wilson Sep 10, 2018

It's easy to pretend we've got it all together. Especially in the Church. It's easy to put our best face forward, to post our best photos on Instagram, and to tell our best stories for the world to hear. But none of that really matters if we're pretending to be something we're not. None of that matters if we're actually hurting on the inside....if we're not taking care of ourselves from the inside-out... if we're isolated and alone with our struggles. It's okay to not be okay. After the heart-breaking and tragic suicide of 30-year-old, Pastor Andrew Stoecklein a couple weeks ago, the conversation of what's happening on the inside-out is one that the church is starting to open up to. I intend to bring this important conversation regarding our mental health to the surface with all I've got. As a professional counselor, I've both seen and experienced the darkness of depression...and journeyed the road of coming to terms with how much power I give it my life. There's so much about this I'm talking about today with a very special guest. Because my guest today has also walked this journey. Jarrid Wilson is a pastor who has been so outspoken about his own journey with depression and suicidal thoughts. Not only that, but an incredible ministry was birthed out of his own personal journey of pain called Anthem of Hope, reminding people that... "It's okay to not be okay" (CLICK TO TWEET!) Our conversation today is one that you CAN'T miss in light of what's going on in the world today. Here you have it....a professional counselor and a pastor talking to you - not at you - from their own personal wounds and struggles. Saying, it's okay not to be okay. We've been there, too. If you're struggling with depression or anxiety in any way, take the time to listen. Maybe you've never struggled with mental health issues but know someone who has, take some time to listen. Maybe you're a leader or pastor or teacher in ministry, take the time to listen. No More Pretending In this episode we cover some personal and important issues including: Why Christians aren't exempt from depression, and the two main factors that cause depression to make it's entry into people's lives. Jarrid and I both share stories about our individual journeys with depression and what was helpful for each of us in finding relief. We talk about how depression has impacted our respective marriages. Why Jesus, prayer, medication and counseling all go hand-in-hand. We talk about our reaction to those people who ignorantly tell us to "just have faith" in light of mental and physical health issues. I share that depression is a 3-part illness, and how we can navigate each part to achieve relief and even healing. Some signs and symptoms that you might be struggling with depression and don't recognize it. You're going to love this candid conversation so get ready to for this raw, honest, and challenging Episode 010 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Click HERE to find a counselor near you TODAY. Additional Articles About Depression: 4 Myths Christians Need To Stop Believing About Depression The Darkness of Depression and The Christian Response Depression Can Look Like This: 3 Truths For Christians Battling Depression Connect with Jarrid Wilson and Anthem of Hope, an incredible ministry aimed at helping people understand that it's okay to not be okay. Check out their resources and get started on your journey of healing. If you're struggling in your marriage today, and looking for hope, I invite you to journey through the process of Choosing Marriage: Why...

How Important Is Sexual & Physical Attraction: A Candid Conversation with Christian Men Sep 03, 2018

How much does physical attraction matter in a relationship? What if you know someone is really good for you, but you don't find yourself attracted to them at all? What if there's strong attraction, but qualities and traits missing from what you're looking for? What if you're married, and start struggling with physical attraction in your marriage? Questions about physical attraction are some of the most frequently asked questions I get on my blog. Because physical attraction is, without a doubt, an important part of a relationship. But have we gotten to a point where our expectations of physical attraction in a relationship are unrealistic? My Mind Says Yes - My Body Says No? In today's episode, I'm having a candid chat about physical attraction with two different guys. First, I'm talking with a young man who is trying to understand how important physical attraction should be in his search for love. I find out that his relationship history has a big part to do with his expectations, and you'll find out why when you tune in. After our conversation, I bring on my good friend and prolific relationship author, Gary Thomas. Gary and I dive into some really hot topics about attraction in ways that not many people are talking about, and you're going to love this candid conversation. Physical Attraction 101 In this hot-topic episode, we cover: 2 IMPORTANT Questions you need to ask yourself to know whether or not you've got a healthy understanding of physical attraction. The actual definition of attraction and why it matters that you know it. We discuss the many different levels of attraction and how attraction is multi-faceted. How to prioritize the importance of physical attraction. Understanding your typical "type" and when to be open to other options. Exploring the things that are influencing your perspective of beauty and physical attraction, and how to control those things. Learning whether or not you're living in "the extremes" and whether or not you have healthy expectations. Making sure you have a realistic understanding of who YOU are and your own level of "physical attraction" in the equation of what you're looking for (yep, I said it). The percentage of people who are struggling with attraction in marriage and what to do about it! Three things you can do to increase your attraction to your spouse. I reveal the one thing I was MOST AFRAID to talk about regarding physical attraction in my book Choosing Marriage. The one prayer Gary Thomas prayed in order to continue growing in life long physical attraction toward his wife! Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. You're going to love these candid conversations, so grab your notebook, and get ready to write down the nuggets of truth from this fun, honest, and challenging Episode 009 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Connect with Gary Thomas, and find all the info about his latest books, at his blog. And be sure to check out my two favorite marriage books he's written: Sacred Marriage, and Cherish. Find out more about the understanding your attraction template and your sexual pallet, and learn ways to rekindle attraction in marriage in my book, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned: Grief, Loss & Remarriage w/ Daniel and Brittany Price Brooker Aug 27, 2018

Have you ever been through a hard time in your life where you thought to yourself, "This is not what I wanted my life to look like. This is NOT what I expected." What happens when life doesn't turn out how you planned? How do you navigate those hard times of hopelessness and discouragement, when you feel stuck in a life that you never expected. Maybe your hard time is that you just went through the heartbreaking loss of a failed or broken relationship. Maybe you're single, and your hard time is that you thought FOR SURE you'd be married by now, but find that instead, you're struggling with loneliness and discouragement. Maybe your hard time right now is walking through grief, or loss, or illness...and you find yourself asking why. Today's guests went through their own difficult journey of asking why. After the tragic untimely deaths of their respective spouses, Brittany Price and Daniel Brooker each found themselves as a young widow/widower - dealing with their own individual journey's of grief, and pain, and heartache, and loss...a loss that ultimately brought them together in remarriage. This is an incredible story of two broken hearts, who never let go of Hope. Their story encouraged me during one of my darkest times and I know it will encourage you. When Life Doesn't Turn Out How You Planned In this special episode we cover: The details of their journey of grief and loss and the heartbreaking experience of losing their first loves. (I about lost it, hearing their stories you guys!) Their honest and candid truths about the hardest part of remarriage and blending families. Their best advice for anyone who is considering remarriage. Some incredible encouragement for ANYONE who is dealing with a hard time in life. How the past can be paralyzing, and the importance of taking steps to move forward in healing. Learning to shift your perspective from WHY to WHAT as a way to deal with grief and loss. The importance of gratitude in the midst of suffering. Why mentorship is a critical part of the healthy life. Learning to trust God and cling to His Word in the midst of hard times. Remembering God's faithfulness and goodness through it all - and how he can redeem every story and every situation. Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Bring the tissues. Grab your notebook, and get ready to write down the nuggets of truth from this inspiring and challenging episode 008 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Connect with Brittany and Daniel on Instagram @BrittanyPriceBrooker and @DanielOBrooker. Brittany was so sweet to give a shout out to my book, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me. I'm so grateful to hear how it's encouraged her on this journey of marriage, and I pray it will encourage your heart as well as you learn to give out of your overflow. Pick up a copy for you or someone you know who needs some perspective and encouragement on what it looks like to choose marriage on a daily basis, and why it's worth it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Art of Conversation: Secrets to Good Communication Aug 19, 2018

Good communication isn't something you're born with. It's not even a gender thing. It's something you have to learn (CLICK TO Tweet it!) I was on a talkshow where I was talking about the importance of good communication in relationships. The host of the show stopped me to ask, "Debra, do you mean to tell me you expect men to be good communicators?" Why, yes. That is absolutely what I am saying. To be honest, I was really frustrated with that question. Because I rebel against the stereotype that men can't be good communicators. I think it's insulting, and unfair, and sets us up for less than God's best in our relationships. We need to expect more, and teach both our sons and our daughters the importance of healthy communication... It has to be practiced. And even when you're married and in love...you'll still have communication issues to work through. Take me for example: a wife of 11 years, licensed counselor and relationship expert. But just recently my husband and I had one of those "communication mishaps" that we had to work through....(don't worry, I'll tell you aaaaaallllll about it!) because communication is something you have to practice. On this episode, I talk to a young man who is struggling to communicate well, and wants some suggestions on how to get to the next level with expressing himself, especially with his emotions. Because in order to express our feelings, we have to first acknowledge them. Good Communication Skills Are Up For Grabs In this podcast, we talk through some practical steps to good communication, and cover these important topics: Why communicating and expressing emotions isn't a male/female thing. The four levels of communication and why they matter. How our family background and culture can influence our ability to communicate. Some suggestions in learning to acknowledge our emotions and feelings. Why it takes practice to get to a better place with our communication. How to learn good communication even long before you're in a romantic relationship. Learning to recognize the WALLS (barriers to good communication) that you have whether or not you realize it - because they're keeping you from healthy communication. This concept has really changed my life and I write all about it in Choosing Marriage, but today I'm sharing it with you on the show! And of course, a few candid conversations about my relationship with John and some of our most recent communication mishaps! If you want some practical advice to mastering the art of communication, then episode is SO SO SO SO important for you to listen to! Because good communication isn't something you're born with. It's something you have to learn. (TWEET IT!) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today's episode to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 007 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Today's caller shared that the 21 Days to Jump Start Your Love Life Program was a huge step in helping him learn the importance of communication and take steps in that direction. Check it our for yourself and sign up to start the program today! As a special offer just for listening, use code PODCAST50 at checkout to get 50% off the program. Get a deeper look into the WALLS of Communcation, the Speaker-Listener Technique, The Four Levels of communication, some incredible statistics about communication, and so much more in my book: Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships AREN’T Convenient Aug 12, 2018

There's a reason junk-food is so popular. It makes you feel good for a little while, it's quick, and most of all - it's convenient. But at the end of the day, it destroys your health and expands your waist-line. And we ultimately end up regretting it. The same thing kind of goes for "junk food relationships". We all say we want healthy relationships, but in reality, most of us tend to go for what's easy and convenient rather than what's good for us. Today I'm chatting with a woman who has a tendency to go for the convenience of dating the guy next door...whether or not he's good for her. And this pattern is starting to have a negative impact on her life. Maybe for you it's not the guy or girl next door, but it's important to ask yourself if you tend to do what's convenient, rather than what's best for your life and relationships. Part of the problem is that so many people today confuse their needs with their preferences. We end up making majors out of minors, and minors out of majors. If we're not careful, what's OKAY ends up taking the place of what's BEST in our lives (TWEET IT!) Healthy Relationships Look Like This: Today's conversation is so, so, so good. On this episode, we're talking through: Learning to choose healthy relationships vs. convenient relationships. Understanding the difference between your needs and your preferences. Exploring how loneliness can drive us to make bad relationship choices, and how to deal with that loneliness. Learning to deal with uncomfortable emotions rather than try to sedate them. Understanding how to set boundaries in relationships that aren't good for us. Finding the courage to say no to the people and situations that are going to bring us down. Practical steps to making a red, green, yellow list of the things you're looking for in a relationship even before you're in a relationship. Why marrying a believer is NOT optional. Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today's episode to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 006 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Learn the difference between what you WANT vs. what you NEED in a relationship. Check out my book, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Ready to have some brave conversations about marriage? Single, dating, or married, this book is for you. Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Online Dating Tips: Up Your Odds of Finding A Good Match Aug 05, 2018

If you're single, I know you're looking for online dating tips. Because, ugh, online dating? It's a love-hate relationship for sure...especially when it comes to being a Christian and trying to date online. From the Christian singles I've interacted with: they are online because there seems to be no other way to meet other Christian singles. So you give it a try, but like today's caller - you aren't loving it. On today's episode, I talk to a 36-year-old woman who comes from small town in the middle of nowhere, so online dating seems to be her only hope. But she's feeling fed up with it, and she's looking for online dating tips. Somehow, she seems to be attracting the wrong kind of guys. So the question is...is it her? Is it her profile? Is there anything she can do to maximize her chances of finding a good match online. Online Dating Tips You're going to want to tune in because I'm going to give you THREE TIPS to navigating online dating in a way that's productive and will up your chances of finding a good match - and weeding out all the rest. Because like I said on today's episode: It's just as important to learn to attract the right people, as it is to learn to repel the wrong people. (TWEET IT!!) After our conversation, I'm going to introduce you to a married couple who actually met online - and it's working for them! They're going to share their online dating tips and tricks and how they knew it was a right match. You're going to love their online dating advice so make sure you listen to the very end! I just adore this episode, and I know you will to. Get ready to take some notes! Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today's episode to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 005 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Learn to date in a healthy way. Check out my book, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Ready to have some brave conversations about marriage? Single, dating, or married, this book is for you. Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Check out this info graphic with online dating tips! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The One Sided Relationship: What It Tells Me About You Jul 29, 2018

Have you ever found yourself in one sided relationship where you are doing ALL the work? Where you are giving, and giving, and giving - and getting little to nothing in return? Why do you find yourself one way relationships again, and again, and again? The simple answer is this: You attract the type of relationship you think you deserve. (Tweet it!) So how do you change that narrative? How do you start believing that you're worth more? How do you block out the lies that tell you you're not capable, able, deserving, or worthy? Why am I always in a one sided relationship? On today's episode, I talk to a woman who is struggling with one way relationships in every aspect of her life: from dating, to friendship. She finds that she is in a pattern of putting in all the effort, but getting nothing back in return. I also talk through the three types of relationships you need to have in your life, because learning to recognize which type of relationship you are in will let you know whether or not it's time to WALK AWAY from a one sided relationship. Friends - this episode is SO JAM PACKED WITH AMAZING INFORMATION!!! Give this episode a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because you always attract the type of relationship you believe you deserve! (Tweet it) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today's show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 004 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Learn to let go of the labels in Section 1 of, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Read some more about How To Deal With One Way Relationships in this TLD Article! Let go of the labels and cling to God's truth about who you are in Christ. Ready to have a brave conversation about marriage? Check out my latest book, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

90% of Couples Who Got a Divorce Had This One Issue Jul 26, 2018

Did you know that conflict can break your relationship, but it can also make it? You can't avoid conflict, but the way you handle it is key. "Conflict is the price we pay for a deeper level of intimacy." (Tweet it!) That was the seriously-best-ever nugget of wisdom that Dr. Les Parrott (my good friend, and psychologist + New York Times Bestselling relationship author) had to say on this episode of the podcast. After answering my listener question about how she should deal with conflict in her brand-new-marriage, I knew there would be no one better to chat with than Dr. Parrot, leading expert in the area of conflict. Because how you handle conflict tells me a lot about your relationships. In fact, in this episode, I tell you about an out-of-this-world research study that was able to prove with 90% ACCURACY, which couples would stay together and which couples would get divorced based on how they fought. That's no joke. But the good news is that we also talk about what it takes to be successful in this important area of your life. Your fight style is key to the success of your relationships...so you better learn how to fight well. Because conflict can also lead to greater intimacy, if you know how to manage it in a healthy way. Give this episode (31 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because conflict is the price you pay for a deeper level of intimacy (Tweet it!) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today's show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 003 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: You heard us mention the importance of knowing yourself on today's show. There are so many aspects to your personality and your fight style is one of those things. Take the YADA assessment and learn more about your personality, your relationships style, your approach to conflict, and so much more: CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE YADA ASSESSMENT NOW! Learn more about your communication patterns, as well as strategies to navigate conflict in a healthy way, including the Speaker-Listener technique mentioned on the show in Chapters 2 & 3 of Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Learn how to attract and keep a healthy dating relationships in True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just Not That Into You: 10 Signs To Look For Jul 26, 2018

How do you know if someone is just not that into you? "You should never have to convince someone that you're worth loving." (Tweet it!) That's exactly what I told the caller on today's episode of the show. After getting burned by a lady he's been getting to know, he finds himself wondering how on earth is a person supposed to read the opposite sex and find out whether or not someone is interested? Are there signs to be on the lookout for? Why, yes...yes there are. 10 different signs to be exact. But here's the key: you have to be willing to recognize them, and then accept them. And I'm going to talk through all this and more in today's interesting show!! If you've ever been in a relationship where you wondered whether or not they felt the same way about you as you felt about them (whether dating or even in marriage) - then this episode is for you. Give this short episode (25 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because you should never have to convince someone that you're worth investing in (tweet it). [Single, dating, or married, this episode has something for you! Tune in to today's show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 002 of the Love + Relationships Podcast.] SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: 10 Signs He/She Is Not That Into You Does He Like Me? 7 Clues He's Interested Does She Like Me? 7 Clues She's Interested Learn how to attract and keep a healthy dating relationships in True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Find out choices you can make today, to build a better marriage for tomorrow in Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trust Issues: Is the problem in your relationship or is the problem in you? Jul 26, 2018

We've all got demons that we carry into relationships; experiences from our past that can impact the way we do relationships in the present. Our past doesn't define us, but it can certainly have an impact on the kind of relationships we find ourselves drawn to. It can have an impact on who we choose to open up to, and trust. "But absolutely nothing in your life is beyond God's redemption" (TWEET IT!) If you find yourself struggling with trust issues in a relationship, you might find yourself asking: How do you determine if the problem is in your relationship, or if the problem is in you? How can you deal with trust issues when they seem to come up again and again? What can you do to bring healing into your past experiences, and hope into your present relationships? In today's show, I talk to Latoya, who finds herself struggling with trust issues with her soon-to-be-husband. Little by little, we find out how her past is influencing the feelings she's having, and I give her practical steps to help her overcome the grip that the past is having on her life. If you've ever struggled with issues from your past having an impact on your present relationships - then this episode is for you. Because like I said to today's caller: "Absolutely nothing in your life is beyond God's redemption" (TWEET IT!) Do you believe that healing can happen in your life? Will you receive that healing? Single, dating, or married, this episode has something for you! Tune in to today's show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in the first Episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Are you protecting your relationship? Learn more about setting boundaries in your relationship in Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me (Chapter 8: Always use protection) How is your past impacting your relationships? Learn to recognize and deal with your past issues in True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life (Section 1: Dating Inward) Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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