Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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The One Sided Relationship: What It Tells Me About You Jul 29, 2018

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Have you ever found yourself in one sided relationship where you are doing ALL the work? Where you are giving, and giving, and giving - and getting little to nothing in return? Why do you find yourself one way relationships again, and again, and again? The simple answer is this: You attract the type of relationship you think you deserve. (Tweet it!) So how do you change that narrative? How do you start believing that you're worth more? How do you block out the lies that tell you you're not capable, able, deserving, or worthy? Why am I always in a one sided relationship? On today's episode, I talk to a woman who is struggling with one way relationships in every aspect of her life: from dating, to friendship. She finds that she is in a pattern of putting in all the effort, but getting nothing back in return. I also talk through the three types of relationships you need to have in your life, because learning to recognize which type of relationship you are in will let you know whether or not it's time to WALK AWAY from a one sided relationship. Friends - this episode is SO JAM PACKED WITH AMAZING INFORMATION!!! Give this episode a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because you always attract the type of relationship you believe you deserve! (Tweet it) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today's show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 004 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Learn to let go of the labels in Section 1 of, True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Read some more about How To Deal With One Way Relationships in this TLD Article! Let go of the labels and cling to God's truth about who you are in Christ. Ready to have a brave conversation about marriage? Check out my latest book, Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

90% of Couples Who Got a Divorce Had This One Issue Jul 26, 2018

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Did you know that conflict can break your relationship, but it can also make it? You can't avoid conflict, but the way you handle it is key. "Conflict is the price we pay for a deeper level of intimacy." (Tweet it!) That was the seriously-best-ever nugget of wisdom that Dr. Les Parrott (my good friend, and psychologist + New York Times Bestselling relationship author) had to say on this episode of the podcast. After answering my listener question about how she should deal with conflict in her brand-new-marriage, I knew there would be no one better to chat with than Dr. Parrot, leading expert in the area of conflict. Because how you handle conflict tells me a lot about your relationships. In fact, in this episode, I tell you about an out-of-this-world research study that was able to prove with 90% ACCURACY, which couples would stay together and which couples would get divorced based on how they fought. That's no joke. But the good news is that we also talk about what it takes to be successful in this important area of your life. Your fight style is key to the success of your relationships...so you better learn how to fight well. Because conflict can also lead to greater intimacy, if you know how to manage it in a healthy way. Give this episode (31 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because conflict is the price you pay for a deeper level of intimacy (Tweet it!) Single, dating, or married this show has something for you. Tune in to today's show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 003 of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: You heard us mention the importance of knowing yourself on today's show. There are so many aspects to your personality and your fight style is one of those things. Take the YADA assessment and learn more about your personality, your relationships style, your approach to conflict, and so much more: CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE YADA ASSESSMENT NOW! Learn more about your communication patterns, as well as strategies to navigate conflict in a healthy way, including the Speaker-Listener technique mentioned on the show in Chapters 2 & 3 of Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Learn how to attract and keep a healthy dating relationships in True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just Not That Into You: 10 Signs To Look For Jul 26, 2018

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How do you know if someone is just not that into you? "You should never have to convince someone that you're worth loving." (Tweet it!) That's exactly what I told the caller on today's episode of the show. After getting burned by a lady he's been getting to know, he finds himself wondering how on earth is a person supposed to read the opposite sex and find out whether or not someone is interested? Are there signs to be on the lookout for? Why, yes...yes there are. 10 different signs to be exact. But here's the key: you have to be willing to recognize them, and then accept them. And I'm going to talk through all this and more in today's interesting show!! If you've ever been in a relationship where you wondered whether or not they felt the same way about you as you felt about them (whether dating or even in marriage) - then this episode is for you. Give this short episode (25 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because you should never have to convince someone that you're worth investing in (tweet it). [Single, dating, or married, this episode has something for you! Tune in to today's show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in Episode 002 of the Love + Relationships Podcast.] SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: 10 Signs He/She Is Not That Into You Does He Like Me? 7 Clues He's Interested Does She Like Me? 7 Clues She's Interested Learn how to attract and keep a healthy dating relationships in True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life Find out choices you can make today, to build a better marriage for tomorrow in Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trust Issues: Is the problem in your relationship or is the problem in you? Jul 26, 2018

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We've all got demons that we carry into relationships; experiences from our past that can impact the way we do relationships in the present. Our past doesn't define us, but it can certainly have an impact on the kind of relationships we find ourselves drawn to. It can have an impact on who we choose to open up to, and trust. "But absolutely nothing in your life is beyond God's redemption" (TWEET IT!) If you find yourself struggling with trust issues in a relationship, you might find yourself asking: How do you determine if the problem is in your relationship, or if the problem is in you? How can you deal with trust issues when they seem to come up again and again? What can you do to bring healing into your past experiences, and hope into your present relationships? In today's show, I talk to Latoya, who finds herself struggling with trust issues with her soon-to-be-husband. Little by little, we find out how her past is influencing the feelings she's having, and I give her practical steps to help her overcome the grip that the past is having on her life. If you've ever struggled with issues from your past having an impact on your present relationships - then this episode is for you. Because like I said to today's caller: "Absolutely nothing in your life is beyond God's redemption" (TWEET IT!) Do you believe that healing can happen in your life? Will you receive that healing? Single, dating, or married, this episode has something for you! Tune in to today's show to hear licensed counselor, Debra Fileta, as she answers her caller through this unscripted conversation in the first Episode of the Love + Relationships Podcast. SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON iTUNES BY CLICKING HERE Resources Mentioned on the Love + Relationships Podcast and Additional Show Notes: Are you protecting your relationship? Learn more about setting boundaries in your relationship in Choosing Marriage: Why It Has To Start With We > Me (Chapter 8: Always use protection) How is your past impacting your relationships? Learn to recognize and deal with your past issues in True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life (Section 1: Dating Inward) Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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