Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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Attachment Styles: With Krispin Mayfield Jul 04, 2022

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Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about attachment styles - how they impact your relationship with others, as well as your relationship with God. I'm joined by Licensed Counselor and author Krispin Mayfield who just wrote a book all about Attachment. The way you handle your emotions, interact with others, and your ability to connect all comes down to something called your attachment style, that was shaped in early childhood. It's a really important concept to understand if you're hoping to pursue healthy relationships. I think this episode is going to open your eyes to how you view your relationships with others, as well as your relationship to God. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Afraid to Feel: On-Air Counseling with Mike Todd Jun 27, 2022

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Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is Pastor Mike Todd. Pastor Mike is the lead pastor of Transformation Church. Today he opens up about one of the darkest seasons in his life, battling depression and anger after his son was diagnosed with autism. Under the weight of the stress and pain, he felt like something inside of him broke. And when it did, out came a flood of feelings that had been buried under the surface for many, many years. He talks about how he had spent so many years of his life "capping" his feelings- seeing them as obstacles rather than assets. We trace this belief back to his childhood, and spend some time processing his past experiences that led him to years of numbing his emotions. And then we talk about his road to healing. This conversation is truly unique and eye opening. If you have ever struggled with feeling like you "don't know what you feel" or "don't have strong feelings" - you need to tune into this conversation with pastor Mike Todd today. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way July 1st!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Codependent Relationships: On-Air Counseling with Toni Collier Jun 20, 2022

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Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is Toni Collier. Toni and her husband Sam are pastors of a thriving church in Atlanta, Georgia. Today Toni opens up about her history of codependent relationships, finding herself in a toxic relationship at a very young age. She talks about getting to the root of her need to be a "caregiver" that started in the trauma of her childhood, being the primary caregiver for her ailing mother - although she wasn't really aware of all of these roots until until age 24 when it all began to manifest in her life. She carried the pain of her past for many years, which led her into alcohol abuse, and toxic behavior, and codependent relationships - until she stopped to face the pain and abuse from her past. This conversation with Toni is SO SO powerful and healing, for any of you who have the roots of a "caregiver" and are feeling burnout and stuck in a cycle of codependent relationships- this conversation is one you must listen to. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way July 1st!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Overcoming Childhood Trauma: On-Air Counseling with Lisa Bevere Jun 13, 2022

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Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Lisa Bevere. Lisa is an international speaker, author, and co-founder of Messenger International. She's a powerhouse of a woman, and I'm so grateful to call her my friend. In our session today, Lisa talks through a tumultuous and difficult relationship with her mother, where she endured abuse and navigating their dysfunctional relationship. But childhood trauma doesn't stay in childhood, and Lisa's trauma followed her into the actions and decisions she would make as a young woman - and even into marriage. Lisa's story is one that many of you can relate to, a story of brokenness and pain from childhood. But what many of you don't realize is that the past doesn't just stay in the past. And if you don't deal with the past, it will impact your present as well. I love her candor, her passion, and her heart to learn - and I know you'll love this conversation with Lisa Bevere. She's a very special woman and a dear friend of mine! Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Hole of Depression: On-Air Counseling with Louie Giglio Jun 07, 2022

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Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Louie Giglio. Louie is a well-known pastor of Passion City Church and founder of the popular Passion Conference - who found himself at a point of "complete wipe out". He found himself in the hole of depression - something that he was never aware of before. He woke up in the middle of the night thinking this would be the last night of his life. The overflow of the stressors in his life took him out of commission for 4 months, causing a physical and mental breakdown. Louie had to really come to terms with what was happening in his body and mind, and learn what it means to take care of himself from the inside-out. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Claustrophobia: On-Air Counseling with Rebekah Lyons May 30, 2022

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Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Rebekah Lyons. Rebekah talks about a season of life in which experienced debilitating panic attacks and claustrophobia. Entering into a season of massive change, she expected the transition to be difficult - but she didn't expect it to impact her the way it did. We talk through growing and healing through this hard season, how she navigated change, dealt with some of the past roots, and found healing from a season of acknowledging that she was NOT OKAY. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From National TV To a Psychiatric Hospital: On-Air Counseling with Sheila Walsh May 24, 2022

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Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Sheila Walsh. She opens up about the moment that broke her, while filming on national television - she realized she was not okay. All the pain and hurt and wounds from her past got to the point where she could ignore them no longer. She broke down on national television, and couldn't stop crying. She knew she was not okay, and it was finally time to face it. That day she was admitted to a psychiatric unit and the journey of healing began for the first time. "I'd known for some time that there was something wrong, but I didn't know what it was...an overwhelming weight of sadness." This no-filter conversation talks us through her journey of healing from national TV to her 30 day stent at the psychiatric unit. Her story is going to challenge you to come to terms with how you're really doing - right here and right now, and begin to face it. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Letting Myself Feel The Pain: On-Air Counseling Session with Bianca Olthoff May 16, 2022

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Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Bianca Olthoff. Bianca is a pastor, teacher, and church planter who has been in ministry for many years. She's come to a point where she realized that she's not okay - right here and right now in this season. There has been so much change in the past two years since the pandemic started, and she's realizing that the pain of the past few years is something she needs to face. "I think that the present has been a really hard season for me...and I need to make space for the sad." Today we talk through the hard things of the past few years, and how they've all compounded leaving her at a place where she has to acknowledge the hard things, feel the hard things, and grieve the hard things. Maybe you can relate. Maybe you find yourself running, distracting, ignoring the pain - rather than dealing with it. If so, this episode is for you. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Bianca on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is coming your way this July!! Sign up for our WAIT LIST HERE. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotional Sprains: On-Air Counseling with Anthony Evans May 09, 2022

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Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Anthony Evans. Anthony is a worship pastor and gospel music producer from Dallas, TX. He's the son of Tony Evans, and the brother of national speaker Priscilla Shirer- and comes from a ministry oriented family. Which directly ties into our conversation today. We talk through the pressure that comes from being a prominent person in ministry, and how that has impacted his life. We talk about the emotional "sprains" that he's faced over the past few years, and specifically, the emotional pains he's feeling right now in life - and how hard it's been to heal under a spotlight of ministry. "I'm currently not okay, and my job is to present that I'm okay," he says honestly.... This no-filter conversation is going to challenge you to come to terms with how you're really doing - right here and right now, and begin to face it. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Anthony on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & ZocDoc DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Rebuilding After Trauma: On-Air Counseling with Jonathan Pitts May 02, 2022

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Over the next few weeks I'll be having raw, open, and honest conversations with some of the top Christian leaders and teachers, asking them: Are YOU really ok? This series of on-air counseling sessions with some of the most influential teachers and leaders in the Church, is leading up to the one-year anniversary of my book, Are You Really OK?, challenging each and every one of us to get real about how we're really doing mentally and emotionally. It takes courageous people to openly and publicly talk about their journey with mental and emotional health, but these are the exact conversations that begin taking down the stigma, paving the way for us to truly get real about how we're doing as Christians. Today's session is with Jonathan Pitts. Jonathan is the executive pastor at Church of the City in Franklin, TN. Today Jonathan opens up about the trauma of losing his 38-year-old wife suddenly and unexpectedly. He talks about his journey today, and the things he's learned along the way. Be sure to listen to the end where I give a summary of our talk, as well as ways you can apply it to your own journey of getting healthy from the inside out and asking - Are YOU really OK? So sit back, and take in this vulnerable conversation with Jonathan Pitts on the Are You Really OK? Podcast Series a part of the Love + Relationships Podcast with Debra Fileta. Now it's your turn. It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO THANKS TO OUR SPONSORS: Athletic Greens & Faithful Counseling Get matched with a licensed counselor in 24 hours! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices