Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

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#3 Most Downloaded: Sex Tips and Tricks for Newlyweds (or Not-So-Newlyweds) Sep 12, 2022

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Q: My wife and I are newlyweds, and right now sex is a little bit of a struggle and seems forced. Any advice or suggestions? We're spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #3. Friends - we're talking about sex! Gary Thomas, my co-author, is joining me as co-host for this Love & Relationships Podcast Series: All About SEX! Today's question comes from a newlywed couple looking for advice and sex tips to overcome some of the struggles of being a new-to-sex. But the advice we give them today doesn't just apply to newlywed sex! If sex has been a little bit of a struggle lately, then this episode is for you. We talk about the #1 tip to making sex better for both parties, some obstacles that come up as newlyweds and beyond, as well as some other sex tips and tricks along the way!!! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#4 Most Downloaded: Just Not That Into You – 10 Signs Sep 05, 2022

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Q: How do you know if someone is as interested in you as you are in them? Or what if you're in a relationship and you're just not feeling it? We're spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #4: "You should never have to convince someone that you're worth loving." That's exactly what I told the caller, Scott, on today's episode of the show. After getting burned by a lady he's been getting to know, he finds himself wondering how on earth is a person supposed to read the opposite sex and find out whether or not someone is interested? Are there signs to be on the lookout for? Why, yes...yes there are. 10 different signs to be exact. But here's the key: you have to be willing to recognize them, and then accept them. And I'm going to talk through all this and more in today's interesting show!! If you've ever been in a relationship where you wondered whether or not they felt the same way about you as you felt about them (whether dating or even in marriage) - then this episode is for you. Give this short episode (25 minutes) a quick listen, and then leave your 5-star rating and review on iTunes! It helps to get the word out and challenge others to move toward God's best for relationships...because you should never have to convince someone that you're worth investing in (tweet it). Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#5 Most Downloaded: Compatibility – How To Know If You’re A Good Match Aug 29, 2022

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Q: How do you know if you're compatible with someone? We're spending the next few weeks reviewing our TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED episodes of the past year. And this one came in at #5. Compatibility is key to a healthy relationship. Just because you're a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian - doesn't mean you're going to be a good match when it comes to being in a relationship. Compatibility is a huge piece to the puzzle of relationships, and it's one that often get's ignored or overshadowed in the conversation of what makes a healthy relationships. When it comes to understanding compatibility in a relationship, there are certain things that have to "fit together" well, just like putting a puzzle together. This isn't about finding an exact replica of yourself, it's about finding someone who is going to be a good match for your life. In order to find a good match, you've got to know your shape, and your colors. Compatibility Looks Like... There are certain big picture topics where it's important to make sure you have compatibility when you're in a relationship. Today on the podcast, we're talking through those topics! You can also dig deeper into accountability in my book, Love In Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship! Tune in this episode of the Love & Relationships Podcast and follow the show by clicking on the button below! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is taking new clients!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Body Image: Learning to Love It Aug 22, 2022

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Q: With all the pressure our culture puts on body image, being "Instagram ready" and picture perfect at all times, how can we resist the urge to fixate too much on our physical appearance and stay body positive in a world that's constantly critiquing our appearance? This is a conversation WE NEED TO HAVE. Today on the podcast we're talking about body image! Our listener question said it best - how can we resist the urge to fixate and remain body positive in world that's dragging us the other way? Whether you're a male or female, this is a topic that impacts you because appearance is constantly made to be the forefront in our culture. Today I'm joined by Jess Connolly, who wants to help men and women find freedom and stay body positive with no filters!!! It's such an important and inspiring conversation - and most of all, it's a necessary one because body image is such a foundational topic. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! ***If you need help with body image issues, or struggling to have a healthy relationship with food - connect with a counselor from our Counselors Network and book a session with one of them to get started on your journey of healing!!** __________ FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! BOOK A SESSION. DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Physical Health: How to Keep Your Body Strong! Aug 15, 2022

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Q: How can we take better care of our physical health and in what ways does that impact our mental and emotional health? Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking about physical health!! It's a topic that's overemphasized in culture, but underemphasized in the church. But caring for your physical health overflows into other parts of your life including your mental and emotional world! My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Katie Anne Church! Katie is a Figure World Champion and a coach, and she's been on both sides of the physical health spectrum - from a season of obsessing over her body, to now being in a healthy place of honoring God with her body. Today we talk through the top ways to keep your body healthy and strong, and it's a conversation that inspired and challenged me personally. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work of getting healthy from the inside out? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Enneagram and Relationships Aug 08, 2022

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Q: What are the right ways, and wrong ways to use the Enneagram? And how can we use it to strengthen our relationships? - Rachel from PA Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking about the Enneagram! You may have heard about the Enneagram before, or this could be your first glimpse - but either way, this conversation is really enlightening! My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Pastor Matt Brown! Pastor Matt is a huge enneagram fan, and believes that this tool impacted his life and his church in meaningful ways, and helped him put into words a deeper understanding of his own personality and motivations! Today we talk through the pros and cons of the Enneagram, and how we can use it to better our relationships! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work for yourself? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Christians, Anxiety, and OCD Behaviors Aug 01, 2022

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Q: I've never struggled with anxiety before the past few years...when I googled it, I realized I might even have some traits of OCD. Any advice on how to nagivate this and take some next steps? Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking about anxiety and OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Jon Seidl! Anxiety and OCD don't discriminate...and Jon is a Christian who has been walking the journey of dealing with OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) for many years. We talk about his personal experience recognizing and dealing with OCD, where he is today, and how he finds peace and rest even within his diagnosis. If you have any experience with clinical anxiety or even OCD, I truly think this episode and Jon's story will resonate with you no matter where you're at. So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work for yourself? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our trained Christian counselors and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out TODAY! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, bestselling author, relationship expert, and founder of the Debra Fileta Counselors Network. She's written five books including Choosing Marriage, True Love Dates, Love In Every Season, Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast answering listener questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her or someone from her team today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dealing with Your Past Jul 25, 2022

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How do you deal with your past? Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about dealing with your past. Today's caller wants to know how to appropriately look back at her past and deal with some of the past baggage that she's carrying today. My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Mary Marantz! Mary has had to take some time to do some work, reflection, and understanding of her own past...and we talk through the importance of looking back in order to move forward. Because sometimes you have to go backwards in order to go forwards. If you have any baggage, family dysfunction, emotional wounds, or past trauma - I think this episode will challenge and encourage you to begin to do the work! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Ready to do the work? Start reading Are You Really OK? Today! FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Stop Freaking Out About Dating Jul 18, 2022

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Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about DATING. Jay from Maryland wants to know why he's got so many worries and doubts about dating. He doesn't want to marry the wrong person, so he freaks. My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Dave Marvin! Dave pastors a huge gathering of young adults in Dallas called The Porch, and he loves the topic of dating because it seems to be on everybody's mind!! Today Dave and I talk through some of the worry, anxiety, and fears around dating and encourage you to stop freaking out about it! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ Want deep dive into some of my BEST DATING ADVICE? Click below and grab my book True Love Dates. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Avoiding Burnout (w/co-host Christy Wright) Jul 11, 2022

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Welcome back to the Love & Relationship Podcast, a hotline style show where we tackle all your questions about love, relationships, and mental and emotional health - with short, bite-sized, practical answers. Today on the podcast we're talking all about BURNOUT. Our question comes from a woman who is wondering how to balance ministry, and life, and work, and family and everything else we have going on without burning out!! There are so many expectations on our shoulders. Is it even possible to "do it all"? And if so, what does that even look like? My co-host today tag-teaming this question is Christy Wright. Christy is a working mom (Ramsey Solutions), and she's also had to learn how to navigate busy seasons all while caring for others, and caring for herself. Together, we talk you through some tips, tricks, and anecdotes to avoiding burnout!! So tune in to today's episode and let me know on Instagram what you thought of the conversation! __________ It's time for YOU to get real about how you're doing. Grab a copy of Are You Really OK? for yourself, and let's do the work of getting healthy from the inside out. FOLLOW MY PODCAST AND LISTEN ON Apple PODCASTS BY CLICKING HERE Additional Ways To Listen: STITCHER - SPOTIFY - GOOGLE PLAY - iHEART RADIO The Debra Fileta Counselors Network is officially open!! Book a session with one of our counselors TODAY and get started on your healing journey from the inside-out! DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates, and Love In Every Season, and Are You Really OK? and Married Sex. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Connect with her on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter or book an online session with her today! Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast? Go to truelovedates.com/loveandrelationships/ to submit your question and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices