Swinger Diaries

SD 96 Our Final Goodbye Mar 01, 2021

For every beginning there is and end, even in podcasting. Recording this show has been an awesome adventure that has totally enriched our lives. After all the time and energy we've invested over the years, we could not be more proud of the Swinger Diaries Podcast.

In this episode, we not only say our last goodbyes but shamelessly take a bow by reading some of the heartwarming messages that listeners wrote to us relaying their stories, thank you’s and compliments. We are floored by the outpouring of support and well-wishes and we’re honored to know that we've affected, and indirectly improved, so many lives. As proud as we are that the show has helped so many listeners, we are equally touched by the comments sent in by other content creators. Its absolutely humbling to hear the way our podcast seems to have had an impact on the genre.

Thank you all for listening. Its been a true privilege to be ambassadors of a lifestyle that has given so much to us. Its been an complete joy to remember our stories, and a deep honor to be able to “pay it forward to the all the curious, skeptical and nervous future swingers out there”. We hope we've done justice to this amazing lifestyle but in the end, this journey is, at its core, about us and our relationship so more than anything, the message we hope our diary leaves with you is that this lifestyle has immeasurably benefited our relationship. More than ever we are, desperately, hopelessly, passionately, and deeply in love with each other.

Thank you for listening. We hope to meet you all someday as we continue to explore and enjoy this fascinating, challenging, wonder-filled, exhilarating, swinging lifestyle.

-Penn and Paige

SD 95 Have you got a story for us? Feb 01, 2021

Just like swinging, podcasting has been an awesome adventure for us. The two hobbies are so intertwined and have a lot of similarities. Podcasting has allowed us to form our opinions about one of our favorite topics, the swinging lifestyle; reconnect as a couple in remembering our experiences; and make a network of fantastic friends.

As we near the end of our podcast journey, we thought it would be fun exercise to offer some of the insights we have gleaned from the adventure of podcasting and, in the spirit of our show, pay it forward to others who might aspire to share their stories and observations like we have done over the past 6 plus years.

Its mind blowing and humbling to realize the way our simple voices have so dramatically affected peoples lives and we invite all of you to share your stories with the world too.

SD 94 The Best and the Worst of the Swinger Diaries Podcast Jan 01, 2021

If you've just discovered Swinger Diaries, stop right here. Do not listen to this episode because this one is nothing like our previous shows. As we begin to wind up the podcast, on this episode we indulge ourselves in a trip down memory lane to explore the evolution of the show itself.

Using clips from previous episodes and our memories about our attitudes and inspirations, we discuss some of the important milestones in the podcast that shaped Swinger Diaries into what it has become. In this show we remember the high points and low points of our adventures in recording our stories over the past 6 years.

If you're a longtime listener, you might enjoy hearing some of the backstories as we pull the curtain and reveal our insecurities, embarrassments, triumphs and points of pride in our podcasting journey. In the spirit of full disclosure, we even read our one and only hate mail.

SD 93 Do wealthy swingers have rules about not using solid gold dildos during play? Dec 01, 2020

If you've been waiting to hear what our big announcement is then you’ve found the right episode, but before we tell you, you'll have you endure a brief recap of our recent trip to Desire during the pandemic and our usual musings around three swinger related topics.

In the Best of the Lifestyle segment we declare the best toy to bring to a playtime encounter, even if the answer seems pretty obvious. Our question for this show is about the things that we and our listeners once told ourselves we would never do but now engage in comfortably. The listener question this time is about wealth disparities in the lifestyle and whether or not they affect affluent swingers’ potential for making strong connections for play.

All three topics are part of this diary story as we remember a fantastic connection made with a sweet, genuine, fun, intriguing, thoughtful and sexy couple while at Desire. Throughout our time with them, our bond and trust grew allowing all of us to try out some new toys in the bedroom and even engage in something which, at first, they thought they wouldn't ever want to do with another couple.

SD 92 Do super hot swingers have to pack their swinger cards or just their condoms? Nov 01, 2020

In this episode, we were pretty loose and relaxed after Paige had a couple of drinks and there was some considerable editing needed. After a little bit of soap box grandstanding and quite a lot of giggling, we did something that we absolutely hate hearing other podcasts do… tease about what’s to come. Without being too dramatic, the next episode of the Swinger Diaries Podcasts will include the biggest announcement we’ve ever made on the show. If you are a long time listener or even if you’ve just found this podcast and you have any interest in the future of Swinger Diaries, you will want to tune in to Episode 93.

While we had some great listener advice about the best condom to use for swinging encounters, and we had an interesting conversation about swinger cards and whether they are thoughtful or just creepy, by far the most spirited input from our audience came to us in response to our listener’s question out being TOO hot and sexy in the lifestyle. Could being a “10” actually limit your play opportunities?

Super hot swingers can be very intimidating to approach. Nobody wants to waste their precious time nor others’ time either and absolutely nobody wants to be rejected. At Naughty in Nawlins a few years ago we met up with a couple that we thought was way out of our league. We would never have considered hitting on them. We were blown away and completely flattered when they asked us if we were interested in playing. Boy, are we lucky that they did because the experience with these fantastic lovers was erotic, sensual, rare and amazing.

SD 91 When do you tell your contacts on Facebook that you’ve become swingers? Oct 01, 2020

Having just gone through some pretty intense and time consuming life changes, our schedule has definitely been very full lately but we’re never too busy to miss making our monthly entry into our journal. Luckily, with the obligations of our growing family and our new home now settled, we can get back to enjoying our time together. We are eagerly looking forward to some fun dates and a few exciting trips to Mexico headed our way in the coming months.

This episode feels like it is heavily influenced by questions about the grey areas of merging your vanilla life and your swinging life. In the Best of the Lifestyle segment, we talk about the best way to put the names of your friends into your contacts list on your cell phone. Then we and our listeners discuss our question about the transitional moments when we each believe we became swingers. Lastly we muse over a listener question about when its ok to become Facebook friends with your lifestyle friends. Tricky questions for sure.

One of the original motivations of this podcast was that it would allow us to chronicle our journey and keep a diary of our adventures. The story told in this episode is recounted here so that forever we will have the recording of our memory of the weekend that we became swingers.

SD 90 Would you take you LGBTQ+ child to the nude beach? Sep 01, 2020

Thankfully, the world is ever-so-slowly seeing the very first hints of "normal" as the county's reasonable minds begin to put the true risks of the virus into perspective and realize that for most people, COVID may not be quite as statistically deadly as the sensationalized media has portrayed… but panic, fear and isolation sure can be. As a result, many children, including ours, are returning to school. While we love having them back to developing their minds and their friendships, in the dorms and in the classrooms, we don’t love all the furniture moving we’ve been doing lately. Fall is always a busy family season for us.

Three challenging questions highlight this episode. We begin by exploring the topic of the best nude beaches in America. Then we challenge listeners with a question about being a swinger and actually still being a good parent. Is that really possible? Finally, we poke around at a great philosophical inquiry from a listener asking if swingers consider themselves to be part of the LGBTQ+ community.

With most large events canceled or postponed, like many others we have been refining our swinging adventures and prefer to spend quality time with our most trusted and intimate lifestyle friends. This episode’s Diary Story is about a recent weekend with very special people and the way that the deep friendship between Paige and her “bi-situational” girlfriend, sparked a particularly hot girl/girl play experience.

SD 89 Do you need a blue pill to make that bare pussy scream? Aug 01, 2020

Like so many things in the summer of 2020, our recently planned excursion through the West was changed at the last minute because of pandemic closures and the social chaos. We still had a great trip, standing in 12 states in only 5 days, but it was an East Coast and Deep South path this time. We're proud to report that, in addition to making some great new friends and enjoying a lot of valuable reflection time together, we were able to check three more states off of our “Sex In All Fifty States Bucket List”.

We never imagined that out podcast would grow as big as it has. Surpassing 1,000,000 downloads on Podbean this month shows that people really do enjoy our questions so, as always, we asked three new ones on this episode. In this show we talk about the best way for swingers to maintain and manicure their body hair. Then we discuss the authenticity of the sounds heard in group playrooms. Finally we hear from listeners about the prevalence and efficacy of ED and performance enhancing drugs in the lifestyle.

Group playrooms are a wild scene. The sights, smells and sounds are many people’s fantasies come to life, but those environments also have their challenges. In this Diary Story we remember a chance meeting with a couple in a swinger’s, cruise ship playroom that was erotic and tantalizing… that is, until it surprisingly crossed a personal comfort boundary for us.

SD 88 Is it rude when bisexual women chew gum in online chat rooms? Jul 01, 2020

Since the Corona Virus continues to cause havoc, we are eagerly but cautiously planning our upcoming trip west to continue our bucket list quest to have sex in all 50 states. Luckily we have a lot of flexibility about where we should travel and we can adjust our destinations to take advantage of open economies, willing friends, and pretty weather.

Three interesting topics are the heart of this episode. We have some interesting discussions and hear advice from listeners about the best online virtual chat platforms for swinger meetings. Then we have a lighthearted but needed conversation about chewing gum in lifestyle situations. Finally, we hear from listeners about why girl/girl play is so common among newbies.

In this show’s Diary Story, we go way back to the very beginning, even before we were in the lifestyle to remember the events that began to awaken our curiosity about swinging. The memories we have are of weird, awkward, confusing situations but, like most newbies, they eventually became the building blocks of our swinging adventure.

SD 87 Do your neighbors know you had an epic swinger house party last night? Jun 01, 2020

As we finally see the distant light at the end of the Corona Virus tunnel, we lament the wasted months of productivity, personal growth, and life experiences. With all of this summer’s events cancelled or postponed, we refuse to wallow in limbo any longer, so in this episode we announce a grand new personal bucket list ambition that we will begin next month. We’re excited!

Usually our job of recording this podcast is made easier by the flood of creative and insightful responses written in by our listeners, but not this time. Weirdly, our audience must be too busy watching Netflix because we got uncharacteristically few answers to our questions this month. So in this show we have to meander around without firm conclusions on the topics of the best lifestyle travel agency, whether or not swingers live double lives and the best number of guests to invite to a swinger house party.

A few of years ago, we recorded a very long show (SD Episode 47) about the most grand and epic swinger vacation we have ever taken. In this recording, we remember that trip again but this time as a memory of our experiences with rare, dear friends who uniquely cross the bold firewall we’ve established between our lifestyle and vanilla lives. Listen as we offer a summary of the strengths and weakness of the travel agency and tour operators. One thing is for sure. It was the trip of a lifetime!

SD 86 How can you break up with your best friends during a pandemic? May 01, 2020

The worldwide lockdown is an uncomfortable and infuriating situation and we are not immune from its effects. With the loss of our business, our income, our long-awaited vacations, and our time together with friends, in this episode our frustration boils over a little bit.

Three great questions are discussed on this month. We talk about the best lube to use for swinging encounters. Then we have an interesting discussion about how to break up with long-time playmates after the relationship has runs its course. Finally, tensions get high as we share out feelings about the pandemic and the rifts it has created among our swinging friends. Most notably, we get off on a tangent and rant about the implied role of podcasters in setting the tone and agenda as leaders of the community. We will definitely offend some people in this show.

We consider ourselves traditional swingers. We like casual encounters with friends that sometimes include non-committal, sexual interactions. We are not polyamorous at all but, like all swingers, over the years we have made some really intimate deep connections. In this story, we remember how one such connection crossed the line for us and we recount the long ugly process of ending that powerfully special relationship.

SD 85 Is it ok to offer your blind date Molly over dinner? Apr 01, 2020

Well, the world is upside down. That's for sure. In the midst of the COVID-19 quarantine orders, the swinging world, like most of the rest of society has come to a screeching halt. We recorded this episode with tears in our eyes for the loss of our long-awaited annual group trip to Desire. Now, we will just have have to wait until August to get naked and party with all of our friends. Let the new countdown begin.

As a distraction form the mess on the news, in this episode our listeners provided us with pages of fantastic answers to our questions about what is the best food to eat if you anticipate play might be “on the table”, whether or not its a good idea to meet couples without seeing their face pics first, and why some people in the lifestyle indulge in drug use as part of their swinging encounters.

Since we don’t use drugs and we, personally, would never meet a couple without seeing their pics first, we were challenged for a Dairy Story but then we remembered a pair of recent encounters on the outdoor rooftop hot tub beds at Desire and realized that the experiences we had on that trip taught us a lot about how conversely intimidating and yet sexy a “blind date” could be.

SD 84 Are small breasts a turn-off all over North America? Mar 01, 2020

First, please excuse the terrible audio on this episode. We all know that podcasts are a free informational and entertainment medium but that doesn’t mean that podcast listeners aren’t entitled to decent, listenable sound. This episode is not up to our standards. We sincerely apologize, but upon learning of the recording problem, we just couldn’t scrap this show. It's too full of fantastic comments from listeners.

The questions on this show blew up our email. Listeners provided a deluge of information and opinions about the best areas of North America for swinging fun; the top turn-offs for swingers; and a fascinating debate about whether small breasted women get more or less attention in the lifestyle.

Not every lifestyle party, nor every Diary Story ends with a pile of panting, bleary-eyed, smiling, naked bodies. Not every encounter goes well. In this episode we remember an experience where we should have slowed down and listened to our own intuitions about the red flags and turn-offs that our play partners were giving us. In the end we paid a heavy price for our foolishness.

SD 83 When she’s in charge of packing the sex toys, does playtime happen earlier? Feb 01, 2020

We're back from our unannounced getaway to Desire and it was amazing, as always. This time it was fun to go as ourselves and not worry about carrying the reputation and notoriety of "Penn and Paige" but we also took advantage of the opportunity to meet with the Desire staff and set up some of the logistics for our annual group trip which is only a few weeks away. Being with our sexy group at our favorite resort on the planet is going to make for an epic party!

We know that a lot of podcasts broadly appeal to their audiences because they cover a range of sex positive topics and we appreciate that, but our show has always been about one subject first and foremost. Our show is about swinging. Here, in the Best of the the Lifestyle question, we discuss vibrators from a swingers perspective. Then we talk about techniques that experienced swingers use to encourage play to happen earlier in the evening. Lastly we tackle a listener question about women being "the gas" in the lifestyle.

Ever heard of "Reverse Dating"? Neither had we, until we met a gorgeous couple that we just couldn't miss the opportunity to play with at Naughty in Nawlins. While we made a date for late afternoon play, the anticipation got the best of all of us and we found ourselves in bed with these special friends even before the scheduled time. Although the hot Louisiana sun was still shining brightly and the parade was going by on the street below, that afternoon the four of us made our own Bourbon Street memory.

SD 82 How often do you have anal sex with your regular single male playmates? Jan 01, 2020

Our swinger mojo is coming back! After a few really sexy dates, a fun NYE club night at Trapeze in Ft. Lauderdale, and a last minute trip planned to Desire, we are past the fun family obligations of the holidays and ready to go back to the gym to get into tip top swinger shape for more adventures.

As always, in this episode we begin with the Best of the Lifestyle and talk about the best way to meet the "true unicorn"; a classy, sexy, respectful, charming, single guy. Then we discuss our monthly question. This one is about the frequency of anal sex in swinging play. Lastly we try to answer a lister question about how to keep the sex hot with regular play partners.

In all of our years of swinging, if Penn had to choose the single most exciting and intense five seconds of all of our playtimes, this would be it. On this show we remember an encounter with a hot, mysterious, single man which is forever burned into his memory. Its hard to understand why some moments rock your world and stay with you forever but this experience will forever be one of our favorite moments of our swinging journey.

SD 81.5 Bonus Episode: What does DDN think is so great about lifestyle clubs? Dec 23, 2019

As we mentioned on our last episode, recently, at the invitation of Dave and Andi from Double Date Nation, we joined a group of podcasters for a meet and greet event called Podcaster Shinanigans at Menages in Nashville. It was a real treat to have so many varied-style podcasters together in one place so, to memorialize the occasion, we all sat around with our microphones just before the club opened and attempted to record a huge joint show, but sadly, it was an epic fail. The next day it was discovered that the whole audio file was distorted and completely unusable.

The conversation was fun and interesting with fantastic observations and opinions from Euphoria Chronicles, Our Naughty Escapades and Spiritual Swingers. It was disappointing to have lost it. We were so thankful for the hospitality of DDN and Menages, and so sad to have lost the insights that we had all recorded, that last week we made a return trip to Nashville and attempted to recreate just a little bit of the lost information and ideas.

In this casual, unscripted recording, we and the founders of DDN took up the same prompt that was ill-fatedly discussed by our podcaster's group, "What's so great about lifestyle clubs?" In a format very different than our typical show, the four of us got comfortable on Dave and Andi's couch, poured some drinks, pushed record, and enjoyed a great evening of relaxed conversation. We hope you enjoy this impromptu bonus episode. Merry Christmas!

SD 81 Should you ghost people who don’t get frequent STI testing? Dec 01, 2019

Every lifestyle career has ups and downs. It's common to go from being, on the prowl and hungry for play, to being completely uninterested and wondering if there’s something wrong with you in only a short period of time. In this, our 5 year anniversary episode, we talk for a few minutes about our own journey and the way we’ve been riding the rollercoaster of swinging lately.

In this show, we discuss our Best of the Lifestyle question about where to go on a first swinging date with a couple and then we transition to a definition question about what it means to “ghost” somebody in the the swinging lifestyle. Lastly, we try to answer a listener question about the best resources to get regular STI testing.

Since we are self admitted “ghosters” we had no shortage of memories for our Diary Story on this topic. In this episode, our journal entry is the memory of a club night where we ghosted on one very fun couple that we do like to party with, we just don't want to play with, and instead deftly but obviously ghosted on them in order to play with another couple in the club that night. Luckily, although there was some occasional awkwardnesses, there were no hurt feelings.

*One note about this episode… We experienced some kind of weird electrical disturbance during the recording of this show and there is an annoying interference in the background that is heard during the second question. We did our very best to minimize it through editing but it’s still there. It goes away after about 10 minutes but we are still a little embarrassed that you’ll have to endure a recording that is not up to our usual sound standards. Thanks, in advance, for your forgiveness.

SD 80 How much do you want to know about why some couples just disappear? Nov 01, 2019

We’re back from a fantastic, unannounced, quick, getaway in the gorgeous, warm, Mexican sunshine at Desire Pearl and now we are ready for the beginning of the Fall swinger season. With parties on our schedule in Toronto, Cincinnati and Nashville in the month of November, things are heating up for us even as the weather turns colder.

To us, it definitely seems like Fall is the beginning of the swinger season but in this episode, listeners chimed in with their own opinions about the best season for swinging fun. We also discuss our question for this month about how many details of your personal play preferences you should share with new play partners. Then, with help from our audience, we do our best to answer a listener question about inactive profiles on dating websites.

Some of our stories are more descriptive than others, but the experience we remember in our Diary Story in this episode was just so fun and exciting for us that we couldn’t resist sharing the juicy details. Listen as we giggle our way through the memory of a very hot experience with some newbies and the way they showed us a whole new technique for erotic play.

SD 79 Can you be too soft and gentle with that pretty pussy? Oct 01, 2019

Fall is upon us and with the changing leaves and cooler temperatures the swinging scene really heats up. We are definitely excited about the upcoming lifestyle travel we have planned and about the fall party scene. It’s been a challenging summer for us as we have been juggling some health issues while still fitting in time for our active swinging schedule. We aren’t complaining. It’s been a great summer but, now back to full health, fall is going to be even better.

As with last month’s question about bisexual men in the lifestyle, one of this month's questions really struck a raw nerve with some listeners and we were flooded with answers on the subject of women’s insecurities about the size and shape of their labia. It’s a fascinating topic. In this episode we also discuss, being too soft and gentle in play and, as avid travelers, we talk about the best way to book your lifestyle vacations.

As we’ve intimated in the past, Paige has been dealing with a painful and stressful health issue regarding her breast. In our diary story for this show, we pull back the curtain and give you the details of how this injury actually occurred and in doing so, demonstrate how important it is to be respectful, gentle, careful, communicative and responsive during play.

SD 78 Bonus Episode The Ladies of the Lifestyle (LOL) Sep 09, 2019

Want to know what happens at the world largest swingers convention when dozens of sexy women kick all their husbands out of the room and, while drinking mimosas, let go of all of their inhibitions? If you're thinking toenail painting which evolves into pillow fights and then a wild all-girl, kitten-pile style orgy… then you would be wrong. But, while not quite as titillating, when, at Naughty in New Orleans, these women pulled out the microphones and pushed record with no men to interrupt or talk over them, the result was some fantastic and insightful conversation. Consider it a girl-power, brain orgy.

In this bonus episode, we present Part 2 of the three part series of the recording that happened in that room in New Orleans. If you have not heard Part 1, stop right here. Go immediately to the Two or More to Tango Podcast (Episode 31) and listen to the beginning part of the discussion so you can pick up the conversation here on Swinger Diaries. When you’re finished listening, you will surly want to hear the conclusion which is posted on the Average Swingers Podcast (Episode 115).

It was a casual, raw, fun-filled morning of girl talk. I was flattered to be included in the conversation and even more honored to be able to call all of these amazing women, my friends.

SD 77 How can a bisexual man approach his wife about bringing a guy into their bedroom? Sep 01, 2019

We're back from the biggest swingers convention in the world, Naughty in New Orleans, and every year it seems to grow more massive and more exciting. One of the highlights of this year’s trip was a special recording made by the “Ladies of the Lifestyle” (LOL), a group of podcasting women who all got together, with no men in the room, to talk about the topics that affect women in the swinging lifestyle. You’ll be able to hear all three parts of that recoding by tuning into the special bonus episodes soon to be released on the Two or More to Tango Podcast for part one, then right here on Swinger Diaries for the second segment, and then the wrap up of the conversation on the Average Swingers Podcast. We think you’ll enjoy the casual but insightful banter of these sexy ladies.

After a fantastic house party last month, for this episode’s The Best of the Lifestyle segment, we were inspired to discuss the characteristics and attributes of the best swinger house parties. We also answer a listener’s question about how to broach the topic of swinging with your spouse in a way that doesn’t cause indignance and insult. However, the most engaging question of this show, as evidenced by the deluge of emails we received, was the topic of bisexual men in the lifestyle and why they are still so closeted in the general swinging population. Our listeners had some pretty powerful replies.

We do love to travel and have been to most of the biggest lifestyle venues in North America. This episode’s diary story is about an encounter we had at Temptation Resort in Cancun. Unlike Desire, in this wild party atmosphere where the crowd isn’t always made up of the classic heteronormative male-female couples, Penn came face to face with an obvious and open invitation to explore some play with men and… well, lets just say that the night did end in a pile of same-sex bodies.

SD 76 When you play in separate rooms, do you give blowjobs without condoms? Aug 01, 2019

We are so lucky. We live an amazing life. Sometimes we have to pinch ourselves to believe it's real. Almost every weekend this past month we have traveled all over the country to visit amazing sexy venues, parties and friends. Even though this podcast is entertainment and information for our listeners, it's also our diary and so in this episode we indulge ourselves with a few minutes of memories as we recount our recent adventures.

Because we visit so many great events, in The Best or the Lifestyle we discuss the best themes that party planners can use to get the maximum participation by their guests. We then ask a question of our listeners for our own benefit because we don’t know the answer and we get a little lesson about the benefits of separate room play. Our listen’s question is a great one too. It's all about the inconsistency of condom use for oral and vaginal sex in the swinging lifestyle.

We don’t play separate, not really as rule but more as a preference, but this month’s diary story is the memory of an encounter where we pushed that boundary. The experience was interesting but it definitely cemented our feeling that, for us, we will always have and always will prefer to be together when it come to playtime.

SD 75 Should you tell your kids about your boyfriend and girlfriend? Jul 01, 2019

Podcasts are such a powerful medium. Not only because they share so much unfiltered, valuable information, but because the create a very real and intense one-sided friendship between hosts and listeners. We know. We are both hosts and listeners of so many shows. In the spirit of wanting to complete the open circle of friendship with our listeners, we have some fantastic events coming up this year and we would love to have you join us. From meet and greets, to NIN, to our annual Desire trip, to the epic Podcast-a-Palooza, we would love to meet you in person. Come travel and party with us!

Some topics really touch a raw nerve with listeners and solicit a deluge of responses. This is one of those shows. In the Best one the Lifestyle segment, we talk about the best websites to use to buy your sexy swinging outfits and accessories. Then we discus our question (which we shamelessly stole from themonogamishmarriage.com) about whether or not we SHOULD be telling our kids about the lifestyle. Finally, listeners write in amazingly insightful answers to a request for advice about how to handle a couple that wants an exclusive relationship.

Our diary story is a cautionary tale about our friendship with a couple that crossed the line from casual sexy play to deep and real emotional connection. Some people prefer the casual hook ups, some want a long and deep relationship and some are searching for polyamory. The awkward, painful, frustrating friction happens when not everybody is on the same page.

SD 74 How do you flirt with a threesome on your favorite online dating site? Jun 01, 2019

As we decompress and recover from our week in Desire’s lap of sexy luxury last month, we begin to look forward to new adventures. Our next exciting event is this summer’s NIN convention. It should be epic, as it is every year.

In this episode’s The Best of the Lifestyle segment, we discuss an often-asked question which is frequently posed by newbies about what, in our opinion, is the best swingers’ dating website and what makes some sites better than others. Once your are on a site, it probably won’t take you very long to get an unsolicited, generic greeting from a stranger. Some sites call it a poke, some a flirt, some call it blowing kisses, but what are you supposed to do with that compliment and vague invitation, answer back or ignore? What’s the proper etiquette? Lastly, as always, we attempt to reply to a request for advice from listeners. This question is about how to approach a couple without intimidating them by the fact that you are a threesome. Thankfully, our listeners, gave some sage advice.

Our diary story this month is about a much anticipated get-together with a couple we met online. Prior to the big date, we scoured their profile for every detail. They seemed perfect but, unfortunately they neglected to correctly report one very important detail on their profile and the revelation of some unexpected information changed the trajectory of the evening.

SD 73 How do you make the transition to playtime with a couple who are your kids' ages? May 01, 2019

We anticipated it for a whole year but it was worth the wait! This episode was recorded LIVE in the disco at Desire RM where a flatteringly huge audience of people took time away from the week-long naked party to join us and help answer questions. It was another epic week for us and this recording gives you just a taste of the kind of sexy, provocative and fascinating conversations that were had in the jacuzzi every afternoon.

In the Best of the Lifestyle segment our live audience discussed a breakdown of the differences and similarities between Desire RM and Desire Pearl. Then we shifted gears to discuss the best way to make an invitation to another couple for play. Finally, we all struggled with the question of age in the LS. How young is too young and can you ever get over the weirdness of playing with people who are your kids’ ages?

Our Diary Story in this show was a very fresh memory. It actually happened at Desire the very night before we recorded. Although we are Desire veterans and experienced swingers, even we struggle with “sealing the deal”. This situation reminded us of the importance of being clear and bold in making the invitation to play, even when it's with great friends, or you just might miss out on some fantastic experiences.

SD 72 Does it turn you on to flirt with a single guy in a vanilla bar? Apr 01, 2019

After an unusual week when we found ourselves in two different Midwest lifestyle clubs in two different states in only 48 hours, we got to thinking about clubs and what makes some better or worse to us for our particular party preferences. So, in this episode’s, The Best of the Lifestyle segment, we review Midwest clubs. Because we live in the Midwest, we’ve been to quite a few but not nearly all of them so we’d love to hear listeners’ opinions about their experiences too.

Our question for this episode is about whether swingers like the “shock factor” of being able to confuse and titilate observers and eavesdroppers when they are in vanilla settings. To us it seems like the answer comes down to a personal enjoyment or aversion to being an exhibitionist at heart. Our listener’s question comes from a single guy who plays separately with a hall pass and he asks if it's really necessary or even fair that so many couples seem to require verification from his wife before they play. After all, we are all consenting adults aren’t we? But on the other hand, nobody wants to be a home-wrecker either.

While most of our diary stories are of our memories of fun sexy play experiences with other people, what’s rarely said on our podcast is that at the end of a fun night of clubbing, we often end up just wanting to play together. Sometimes, like in this episode’s story, just the flirting and watching and sexy atmosphere is all the entertainment we need and the show that naturally exists at a great lifestyle club leads to a hot encounter for just the two of us.

SD 71 How often does she use the veto power when she's not attracted to the other man? Mar 01, 2019

As we begin Book 3 of Swinger Diaries, we recall the milestones we’ve passed on our podcasting journey and then introduce our new format which involves answering one question of our’s, one directly from a listener, and our new segment, The Best of the Lifestyle, where we review the largest swinger’s convention in Canada. It’s a huge hotel takeover that happens every year in the beginning of February and its called Valentines in Niagra.

As we will in all Book 3 episodes, we discuss one philosophical question of ours. This time it’s about the veto power and who uses it more often, him or her. Then we we have a conversation about a related question that was asked by a listener about how to handle an unequal attraction to another couple.

Our diary story is one of the hardest we've ever re-told. We have avoided recounting it many times in past episodes because, even years later, the memory is still so painful for Paige. It’s an emotional story for us but it reminds us that sometimes, in the sensitive world of the lifestyle, tact and sensitivity are as important as honesty. While growth may come from the discomfort of challenging yourself, for us, first and foremost, this lifestyle adventure is about our fun as a couple and so we consciously choose to pursue only the encounters that we both enjoy.

SD 70 In a group of people that aren't physically your preference, how do you play defense? Feb 01, 2019

In this, our final episode of Book 2, we take a few minutes to look back, look around, and look forward to the future of Swinger Diaries. We never imagined that this podcast would become so well-received as it has or that we would make so many contacts with amazing people through it, but as we contemplate the potential of Book 3, we can't help but ask ourselves if we are nearing the end of our show. We think not.

The final three questions for Book 2 are as challenging as usual. In this episode we ask our listeners for their opinions on the topic of whether or not its acceptable to prefer play with a person based solely on his or her ethnicity or race. Then we discuss the best tactics for playing “defense”. Lastly, we give our opinions and hear from listeners about whether it’s better to go on swinging vacations with a group or just the two of you.

As huge Desire fans, we knew where we wanted to go for our 25th wedding anniversary, but we didn’t know that we would be sharing the celebration with a couple from the other side of the world. While everybody believes they are selective, sometimes, in just the right mood, with the just right attitude, on just the right night, sexy encounters can find you when you aren’t expecting them. This night, the source of our pleasure came in the form of an exotic accent that was so charming that it was irresistible to Paige.

SD 69 Do you fear single men who's names you don't know? Jan 01, 2019

We’re back from another amazing swinger cruise and we’ve got some fantastic memories and stories to tell. On this sexy trip we spent a week floating around the Caribbean with stops in Key West, Nassau and Havana. It was an epic adventure for sure. The ports were fascinating and the action on the cruise ship was hot and steamy. We had so much to reminisce about that this show ran few minutes longer than usual.

One great thing about being on a boat with hundreds of experienced swingers is that it gave Penn the chance to ask this episode’s three questions to tons of people… and did he ever! From our newest friends on the ship, we heard answers to questions about their biggest fears when they first got involved in swinging; about whether or not, at clubs and events, it’s fair and wise to charge singles a different rate than couples; and about if they have ever had full swap sex with a person who’s name they didn’t know. The responses from our shipmates were as insightful and interesting as the ones written in by our listeners.

We do enjoy the occasional encounter with a charming, sexy, single man. The problem is that good ones are very tough to find. That’s not because men are pigs but because most guys around the swinging scene are just too inexperienced to know the rules, and etiquette required for making a good impression on real couples. In this episode’s diary story, we remember an experience with a single guy who was still learning the ropes and finding his way as he entered into the swinging lifestyle.

SD 68 If the newbie couple you met online doesn’t use condoms, does that add to your performance pressure? Dec 01, 2018

If you listen to shows like ours, its easy to think that all swingers live this constant, wild, sex-crazed life, but in reality thats not true. 99% of our life is made up of typical, common, routine, vanilla joys and responsibilities, just like yours. As swingers our interest in the lifestyle actually ebbs and flows and, to be quite honest, lately we’ve been in a rut. Luckily, we have an exciting swingers cruise coming up in just a few days that will surly break us out of our funk. As always, we should have some amazing stories to tell when we return.

This episode’s questions were again inspired by listeners. They wanted our audience’s collective opinions on questions like, who mages your online communications, him or her? They also wanted to know, is it ok to play with a couple if you know they don't always use condoms? Lastly, they asked, who has more pressure in a first play situation, newbies or vets? All are interesting and easily debatable questions. We tapped into our listeners’ advice and did our best to give our own opinions too.

For this show’s diary story we went back and listened to a very early recording from our past to refresh our memories about what is was like to be brand new. The encounter we heard and retell in this episode is one where we relied on the careful and kind direction of an extremely responsible, experienced couple. Don't misunderstand, enthusiastic consent is sexy, but there is also such a thing as too much coddling in a first play situation, even for scared timing inexperienced newbies.

SD 67 Do the stories of liars, flakes and catfishing experiences drive people out of the lifestyle? Nov 01, 2018

Passionate Hedo fanatics might want to look away from this one. We are back from our second visit to the world’s most infamous swingers resort and we can't help but offer our review. We had a great time, as we always do, but in our considerable lifestyle travel experience, the epic reputation of Hedonism II in Negril Jamaica is a little overhyped considering all of the other amazing opportunities that exist out there for sexy fun.

As usual, three interesting questions are discussed in this episode including topics like, the most common reasons people leave the lifestyle, with whom it's best to share your sexy secrets, and the most effective ways to ensure that a couple is real before meeting them.

Our favorite experiences occur when the conditions are just right and we are able to take the time to get to know a couple. The tempting environment that exists at classy, sensual resorts is our favorite because the slow erotic build up sometimes culminates in an explosive encounter. In this episode's diary story we recount just such an experience with listeners for whom, after hours of hearing our stories, when we met, they had full confidence that we really are who we say we are.

SD 66 As experienced swingers, is it a good idea to share a room with newbies? Oct 01, 2018

Our whirlwind travel schedule continues as we reminisce about our recent trip to the Napa Valley and the sexy encounter we had with experienced friends who showed us the finest places that the Northern California Wine Country has to offer. Luckily, we appreciate great sex more than we appreciate great wine.

This episode’s topics have a slant toward questions dealing with newbies. In it we discuss the query of whether our listeners prefer play with new or experienced couples. Then we dive into a conversation about the delicate situation of sharing a hotel room with another couple. Finally, we hear from listeners as to how we should reply to the most common email question we receive, what’s the best way to get started in swinging?

As long-time listeners know, Swinger Diaries started as our private recordings which we created to remember our adventures. To this day, after every encounter, in order to preserve the memory, we still pull out our phone and record the experience by making an entry in our intimate audio journal. We always swore that those recordings were far too personal to ever share… until today. For the first time, this episode’s diary story is the actual, groggy, morning-after recording of our observations after a wonderful evening in which special friends generously trusted us to explore a new sexual boundary with them. The audio is bad but the sentiment is unfiltered and real.

SD 65 Now that you're more experienced, do you prefer to play on one bed or two? Sep 01, 2018

While we know that our show is designed to stay focused on asking and exploring the unanswerable questions of the swinging lifestyle, this month we selfishly just can't resist reveling in a quick recap of our amazing trip to Naughty in N’awlins 2018 and then also our follow up excursion to Toronto for our anniversary just ten days later. It was a whirlwind couple of weeks full of new friends, wild parties and some of the most thrilling play experiences we’ve ever had. We're already booked for more fun next year.

Happily, we get so many answers from listeners to our episodes’ questions that these days, our show practically writes itself. All we have to do is read the intelligent, creative, insightful answers written in by listeners. There were so many this month that we couldn't even hope to pack them all in. In this episode, our listeners answer questions about why swingers use the word “play”; about whether it's preferred to play in a hotel room with one king bed or two queen beds; and whether swingers become more or less selective with experience.

This episode’s diary story is a recent memory from a hotel takeover. We were glad we had a room with two beds in order to handle the fantastic free-flowing orgy that happened when we mingled an exciting, new, eager couple with some of our favorite sexy, experienced, friends. The encounter was the perfect example of the playfulness that occurs when six, openminded, adventurous, naked friends get together for an evening of casual, sexy fun.

SD 64 If she takes one for the team and plays with a straight woman, can he take pics? Aug 01, 2018

We’ve just returned home from Naughty in Nawlins 2018 and yes, it was awesome! However, because we knew that we wouldn’t have time to record and edit this episode after returning, and because we also knew that our listeners tune into this podcast in order to hear thoughtful, challenging questions about lifestyle topics and not to listen to us brag about our mind-blowing vacations; we recorded this episode before NIN. Therefore, if you really want a recap of the fantastic times that were had, check out some of our friends and fellow podcasters; Average Swingers, Two or More to Tango and Sex Uninterrupted.

In this episode, all three questions of our are a little provocative and challenging. This time we discuss the most commonly heard rule in the lifestyle and ask if its ever ok to “take one for the team”. Then we talk about the etiquette and protocol for taking pics in playtime situations. Finally we explore the meaning of the word “straight” when a woman identifies herself that way in a couple’s online profile.

The experience recounted in our diary story describes the grey area that exists in the idea of taking one for the team and the unexpected affects and consequences we had when our communication about a planned playtime wasn’t as strong as we’d have liked it to have been.

SD 63 Have you ever spotted an openminded single friend and thought of flipping her to the lifestyle? Jul 01, 2018

As avid podcast listeners, we never understand why lifestyle podcasters think people would be interested in hearing their version of yet another “Here’s what we did on our vacation” recap which is a format we find to be desperately tired and overdone. After all, who wants to hear about the mundane details of someones travel experience? Does anybody really like looking at other peoples’ vacation photos? Of course not. As a result, we prefer to structure our show so that the events described have a purpose for listeners and produce a lesson or a moral that we’ve learned. We aspire to make our podcast’s content evergreen so it can be used as a resource for others and not just for our own selfish memories and musings. However, we just returned from two very interesting events and, at our listeners’ request, we are compelled to share some of our insights and observations about the Friction hotel takeovers and the New York City lifestyle club scene.

After reviewing our adventures over the past month, we dive into our questions. We discuss what, if anything, is so fun about flipping vanillas. Then Penn gets on his soapbox for a rant about whether or not singles in the lifestyle can be considered swingers. Finally, we take listeners’ advice about the best ways to spot other swingers in vanilla settings and make a call to all swingers to reclaim the use of the black ring to identify ourselves to each other.

From the beginning of our swinging career we have always insisted on a very clear boundary between our swinging activities and our vanilla life. To preserve our privacy and anonymity, we regularly travel for our sexy fun. We promised ourselves from the start that we would never allow those two parts of our lives to mingle… well, except this once. This episode’s diary story is the memory of what happened when we broke our own rule and allowed our two parallel worlds to mix for just a few hours.

SD 62 How often does play with a fantastic kisser end up in a huge mess? Jun 01, 2018

We love meeting up with listeners and our awesome upcoming travel schedule offers lots of opportunities. In addition to our usual tour of clubs and hotel takeovers, New York, New Orleans, Toronto, Negril, Havana and Cancun are all on this years agenda. Its going to be a fantastic year of sexy fun.

This episode has some philosophical questions to be discussed by us and our listeners. This month we talk about our “play percentage” in a variety of different scenarios. Then we struggle with the puzzle of whether good kissing is an objective or subjective skill. Finally, we explore the answers to a listener’s question about how to clean up after a playtime.

Although we travel often, the highlight of our upcoming year will be our visit to Desire RM with friends and listeners in March of 2019. In this entry into our diary, we remember some wild encounters that happened on last year’s Desire trip. While we aren’t usually orgy fans, the memory told in this story is seared into our minds as one of the most epically erotic and sensual group play experiences we’ve ever had.

SD 61 In the modern swinging lifestyle, does it make you jealous when playmates send flowers? May 01, 2018

Lifestyle travel is a huge part of our swinging experience and we are loving the fact that so many of our listeners want to make memories with us. Last month, on our 16th visit to Desire, we were joined by dozens of friends and listeners who made it one of the best trips we’ve ever had. We are excited to announce that we are doing it all again next year, March 24-30, 2019. In the mean time, we also have a full travel schedule planned for this year and we would love to have you join us on one of our many adventures.

Three great listener questions are discussed on this episode. We answer questions about how the lifestyle has changed and about how to handle contacting playmates on the morning after a play experience, and then we scratch the surface on one of the biggest challenges for newbies to the swinging lifestyle, jealousy.

As we listen back to the 60 diary stories we’ve told over the years, one thing seems obvious, we love variety. Every encounter is unique and each one teaches us a new lesson about ourselves, our playmates and the swinging lifestyle. This story reminds us that even after years of experience and even with our closest and most trusted friends, that weird unexplainable pang of jealousy is always a possibility.

SD 60 Are you on the hunt for the position that will insure your orgasm? Mar 31, 2018

For the first time ever, this episode was recorded live, in front of an audience, with the sea breeze on our skin, and the tropical birds chirping in the background while overlooking the ocean from the Passion Suite at Desire Resort and Spa in Riviera Maya, Mexico. Dozens of friends and listeners traveled with us to this amazing place and after days of tequila and naked flirting in the rooftop jacuzzi, some of our newest and best friends joined us for this episode to try to answer three new challenging listener questions.

In this show, we ask our live audience for their opinions on what they think is the sexiest position for a foursome. Then, we all reach a surprising consensus on the question of whether or not its ok to fake an orgasm in a swinging play situation. Finally, we crowd source the advantages and disadvantages of being the hunter or the prey at a lifestyle club or event.

After the crowd left us, we sat together and remembered an encounter that we had a few years ago on the group bed in the playrooms at the largest swingers convention in the world, Naughty in N’awlins. That night, the hunters became the prey in an anonymous experience that gave us some unexpected sexy fun and the memory of one of our favorite foursome positions.

SD 59 Sure he’s a 10, but if you have an MFM will you blow him without a condom? Mar 01, 2018

After one full year of recording Book 2 of Swinger Diaries, we are surprised to realize that, in this new format alone, we’ve covered over 70 topics! Podcasts are such a fantastic resource for learning about the swinging lifestyle and there are some great shows that have just begun releasing new episodes. Listeners are hungry for information as evidenced by the long list of questions we’ve compiled written in by our listeners for our show. It looks like we’ve got a few listener question episodes coming up.

Like none before, the questions in this show got us challenging our beliefs about ourselves and others self perception. In this episode, we talk at length about our “number” and how others gauge theirs too. Then we discuss the preference among experienced swingers and new swingers for FMF or MFM encounters. Finally, we call ourselves out as being somewhat foolish and irrational about STIs by agreeing with the common play standard which is that we never use condoms for oral sex.

We love getting away for intimate reconnection weekends and we always seem to work in a little sexy fun when we go. This diary story is about an afternoon delight that we had with a well-vetted single guy and the amazing souvenir Penn has from the encounter.

SD 58 If you find a couple with a hot guy, how do you approach them and suggest full swap? Feb 15, 2018

Podcasting is a labor of love for us. Its like a secret hobby within our secret hobby. Its so fun to make connections and spread the news about the joys of the swinging lifestyle, but its also a lot of work. In order to make sure that we protect the privacy of our friends and produce a content filled product that we are proud of, a lot on editing is required. To make sure we can continue to look forward to recording our stories and not allow this show to turn into a job, in this episode we are announcing a new release schedule for Swinger Diaries.

This episode’s questions are big ones. Full swap vs. Soft swap; the best conversation starters for meeting new couples; and the explanations for why its so common that “she’s hot… he’s not” are all discussed on this show and as always our listeners had some great comments, observations and explanations.

Our diary story is a memory from early in our swinging experiences when we were adamant about our self imposed boundary of being a “soft swap only” couple. While the invitation to play was awkward, the playtime itself was comfortable, respectful and fun. Its an example of how different styles and levels of play can be intimidating but if the rules are clear in advance, everyone can relax and just enjoy the pleasures of the moment.

SD 57 How often does your foursome discuss the potential of pregnancy? Jan 31, 2018

As our next eagerly-anticipated visit to Desire approaches, we are enjoying the use of a modern messaging service to get to know others who will be sharing jacuzzi water with us. Kik is the most common chatting app among swingers because it doesn’t require much personal information to establish an account. Unfortunately, when the group gets huge, it loses some of the personal touch and at the top of this show Paige goes on a little rant about one of her personal annoyances in large group chats.

As always we have three interesting questions to discuss. In this episode we talk about why swingers regularly discuss the prevention of STIs but almost never talk about the possibility of pregnancy. Then we tackle a question from a listener who wanted to know how often is too often for sexy fun and how to keep your swinging and vanilla life in balance. Finally we explore answers from listeners about the advantages and disadvantages of going to events as a couple and as a foursome.

Our diary story is the memory of our experiences with a very young couple for whom pregnancy was a real concern and a barrier to full swap sex. We remember the awkwardness and challenges of attending a club with them and also the sexy playtime that resulted. Having a scheduled encounter with a couple has its advantages but there were plenty of inconveniences and weird moments too.

SD 56 As a repressed risk-taker, do you always use condoms at Desire or Hedo? Jan 15, 2018

Even though Paige’s foot is in a protective boot which is temporarily cramping our style and limiting our playtime opportunities, we won’t let it mess up our recording schedule. Luckily for us, she will be fully healed in time for our upcoming weekend getaway to Trapeze in Atlanta and she will have her dancing heels ready for our fast approaching trip to paradise in March.

We got pages and pages of responses to this episode’s questions about the regional expectation of condoms during play; the debate over the best lifestyle resort in North America, Desire or Hedo; and the most common origin for swingers. Are they repressed rule-followers, or just life long adventurers?

We take some time in making our diary entry to remember our own origin and the resistance we had to joining into the naughty fun of this wild lifestyle. It was a slow process for us, but in this episode we remember a big step. We recount one of our first playtimes at Desire with experienced swingers. We talk all about the resulting shock and self-doubt that came from pressing our boundaries and the way, like all newbies, we just had to take our time to process the experience.

SD 55 What’s a unicorn’s secret for handling men’s performance issues? Dec 31, 2017

As we look forward to going out for the first time in years to a New Years Eve party, we take note of the fact that for us, swinging, like life, is all about attitude. We don't waste time looking backwards with regret or lamenting challenges we've met throughout the year. We never forget that we are living an amazing life and so we are, as always, looking forward to what next year will bring in our vanilla and swinging lifestyles.

This episode has three fairly commonly discussed topics, but with our listeners’ help we try to approach each with a slightly new perspective. We talk about what to do when you can’t get (or stay) hard during play, the best piece of advice for single females aspiring to be swinging unicorns, and the secret signals couples exchange to express interest in potential play partners.

While unicorns are not necessarily our favorite play choice, we have had some awesome encounters with quite a few. In our diary story, we remember a slightly awkward playtime with a beautiful, but very selective single girl who joined us in a playroom at a house party and the way she enhanced our sexual experience that night.

SD 54 What do overweight couples who couldn’t orgasm discuss on the ride home? Dec 15, 2017

Once again we have a listener question episode. Our listeners are always sending questions and topic suggestions and, since we certainly don't have all the answers, occasionally we select three great inquiries to crowd-source the best advice.

In this episode we discuss the debrief conversations that we have on the car ride home and how they have actually lead to the creation this podcast. Then we gingerly talk about the challenging topic of being overweight and how it potentially affects your lifestyle experiences. Finally, we present a listener question that has appeared on our Kasidie Community wall and hear the responses of other listeners about whether or not its bad swinger etiquette for a guy not to orgasm during play.

Our journal entry is the story of a playtime encounter that was memorable to us because it was so peculiar. Never before have we had a play session in which our experiences were so completely different. For Penn, it was fantastic, energetic, exciting, fun, wild and amazing. For Paige, well, we’ll let her describe it for you. It made for a very interesting and challenging debrief on the long car ride home.

SD 53 Before playing with him, don’t you want to know if that single guy has had too much to drink? Nov 30, 2017

We are still recovering from another fantastic Desire adventure. We had a great time meeting listeners and indulging ourselves in the opulent luxury that is the new Desire Villas. Just in time, the Thanksgiving holiday came right when we got home allowing us to rest and rebalance ourselves with family and friends. Although swinging is an amazingly fun hobby, our vanilla life is our true priority and we never want to forget it.

In this episode, our three topics discuss how much you really want to know about your play partners; the best advice for single men who want to get into the swinging lifestyle; and the tricky topic of adjusting your alcohol consumption if you think play is on the table for that night.

In our journal, we remember an encounter with a man who is that rare find; a charming, sexy, interesting, clean, reliable, respectful, classy, sexy, single guy. This memory is an example of how we view the valuable roll that single men can fill in our lifestyle and how they can truly enhance a mature, secure, committed couple's love making.

SD 52 Is it ok to sext vacation playtime pics to your friends back at work? Nov 15, 2017

Some day when we are 85, sitting in rocking chairs, sipping lemonade, and holding hands on our front porch, we want to be able to bring up these recordings, push play, and listen back to our stories as we knowingly smile and nod our heads to each other confirming to ourselves that… we lived! As a result we prefer to recollect the best of our experiences. Why remember the disappointments when the triumphs are so amazing? However, we realize that this show is more than just a diary of our memories for our own keeping. Its also a resource and many of our listeners need more than just the hot stories. They also need the real, balanced truth about swinging too. Hence, this episode’s story.

As always, we discuss crowd-sourced answers to three questions from our list. We talk about accidentally sexting vanilla friends, the uncomfortable topic of how to answer questions about work at swinger parties and whether or not its ok to lower your standards for play while on a lifestyle vacation, which brings back a tumultuous memory.

Swinging is an adventure for us and as such, we want to enjoy the ride no matter where it takes us. We never want to second-guess or dwell on experiences that don't quite turn out the way we expected or even would have preferred, but in this episode we remember an encounter that honestly, we hate admitting is part of our swinging memories, Paige’s one regret.

SD 51 Lets play a game, how many full bush partners have you had? Oct 31, 2017

It’s the swingers’ high holy day, Halloween. To be truthful, Halloween blowouts aren’t our favorite swinger parties but on a few awesome occasions those newbie-filled, overcrowded, makeup-laced events have produced some fantastic memories for us.

We have another three great questions for this episode, but in this show, the conversations about determining your swinger “number” and the best icebreaker games for swingers were almost lost in the deluge of answers we received about one of the most polarizing and opinion inducing questions we have explored. It seems that everybody has a opinion about… the bush!

In honor of Halloween and in preparation for this episode’s diary story, we listened back to one of our very first private swinger diary recordings. It made us both giggle and shake our heads at ourselves as we listened to our wide-eyed recollections. The memory we heard, and now re-tell here, was about our very first swinger Halloween party and how, in one unexpected night, our “number” doubled, from one to two.

SD 50 The best 50 things about the swinging lifestyle Oct 15, 2017

When we pushed "record" for the first time, almost three years ago, we honestly didn’t think we would repeat the posting process 50 times, but here we are. This podcast started as our diary which we created to remember the amazing adventures that this lifestyle has provided, but it has grown into more than that. Now, its a resource for our audience and a priceless way to make connections between us and our listeners.

If we had to direct new listeners to our podcast toward just one episode to understand what we and this show are about, this is it. You might say this is our manifesto. In this ridiculously long episode, we tackle an epic challenge, to list the top 50 things that we and our listeners say are the best things about the swinging lifestyle. It was a huge endeavor. We dare you to try to take it all in!

One of the best parts of this show is the influence it has on explaining the joys and benefits of swinging to those who are curious and nervous. In this episode, we tell the story of how our podcast has aided the journey of one such couple. We are proud to have helped expose them to the wonders and pleasures of swinging and humbled to call them friends.

SD 49 Could you return to your vanilla life and never experience the variety of others again? Sep 30, 2017

As we approach the Episode 50 milestone, we announce the introduction of our new logo and renew our invitation to listeners to send us their lists of their favorite things about the swinging lifestyle for our upcoming Top 50 countdown.

As the title of this show suggests, in this episode we discuss listeners’ preferences for variety vs. having a “type” when it comes to play partners; the question of whether or not we could walk away from swinging and be content with only one partner for the rest of our lives; and some conversation about the nature of the term “vanilla” in the lifestyle.

All of our stories are very real, after all, they are our memories, but in this episode we talk about the motivations behind one of our encounters with a couple who were very unlike our usual type and the way that for us the swinging lifestyle is a fantastic vehicle to allow us to bond, blow off steam and continually renew our love and commitment to each other.

SD 48 Has anyone ever anonymously complimented your playtime music? Sep 15, 2017

We are back from a last minute Labor Day weekend trip to Florida where we snuck in some recon at a place thats been on our bucket list for a while, Caliente. We had a great time laying naked in the sunshine all day and partying all night. We do travel to some amazing lifestyle destinations and we’d love to have you to join us.

In this episode, in addition to answering our listeners’ questions about accepting compliments, using fake names, and the best playtime music in the swinging lifestyle; we announce an upcoming event that we need your help with. For our fast-approaching 50th Episode, we are compiling the top 50 things that we, and you our listeners, love about the swinging lifestyle. Send us your answers.

Our diary story is the memory of a classic playtime encounter in which the casual, honest, genuine connection and the perfect playtime environment, resulted in a rare and exciting play experience… twice!

SD 47 How long can you keep the spark alive before you start thinking that you suck at swinging? Aug 31, 2017

We are back from our amazing lifestyle cruise through the Mediterranean and we have so much to talk about! After skipping our usual release date in the middle of this month, we are bursting with stories and reviews of our journey. Please excuse the length of this episode. Although its a long one, we barely scratched the surface of all of our adventures and observations. After that trip, we will surely have diary stories for many years to come. After all, it was truly the trip of a lifetime.

True to our format, after recapping our fantastic swinger cruise, in this episode we discuss the question of how long it should take to get into swinging. We talk about tips and advice for keeping the sexy spark alive with a couple in anticipation of a date that is still far away. Then we expose our own occasional crisis of confidence and talk about when and why we sometimes think that we suck at swinging.

Though almost all of our diary entries are memories of our sexiest encounters, not every evening ends with mind-blowing orgasms. This journal entry is the memory of a night when we left the club with unfulfilled fantasies. Sometimes you just lose your mojo and when that happens, you have to wisely assess the situation, pack up, make a graceful exit, and know that there will always be more sexy opportunities in the future.

SD 46 After your first playdate with a “no kissing” couple, how do you tell them that you don’t want to do it again? Jul 31, 2017

As we excitedly pack our bags for our much anticipated Mediterranean swingers cruise, we are smashing every sexy outfit we own into the suitcases for what will be the longest vacation of our lives. Unfortunately there won’t be any room for podcasting equipment so, for the first time, we will only be releasing one episode in the upcoming month of August but we promise to return with stories of what is sure to be an epic adventure.

As always, in this episode we crowd source the answers to our three questions. We talk about the wisdom or folly of sticking to the plan of not playing on the first date. We discuss playing with couples who have a “no kissing” rule. Then we explore advice on how to occasionally explain to people, with whom you've been intimate at least once, that you don’t want to do it again.

Our diary story is from our very first encounters in the swinging lifestyle and the newbie excitements and challenges of exploring boundaries for the first time. Those first experiences are always emotionally charged and can lead to some awkward decisions and impulsive rules.

SD 45 Even with condoms, is it too slutty to play during your period? Jul 15, 2017

Please excuse our raspy smokers’ voices as we are still recovering from another awesome Naughty in N’awlins convention! Although we were flattered and humbled by meeting so many fans of our show at NiN who were curious about our impressions of the largest swingers convention in the world, as our regular listeners know, our format isn't really about interviews or event reviews. Instead, we will leave it to all of other podcasting friends to offer their recount of the week. In our traditional style, rather than recapping all of the parties, friends, theme nights and playroom adventures we had, in this show we dive right into our three questions which were answered, as always, by you, our listeners.

This episode’s questions deal with how to handle that awkward transitional moment during play when the condoms come out, what to do if you get your period when you had a sexy encounter planned, and a sensitive, philosophical question about being “too slutty”.

Our diary story is part sexy memory, and part sobering lesson as we recall a quick connection and the powerful sexual momentum that resulted in an impulsive and hot playtime with a couple on a trip to Hedo Then we remember how we later second guessed ourselves about the experience after watching them interact with others. We cant deny it, for better or worse, like almost everybody in the swinging lifestyle, we are a little judgy.

SD 44 Does the vanilla world know the best way to finish a soft swap with an uncircumcised cock? Jun 30, 2017

Play preferences with circumcised men, soft swap finishes, and the vanilla world’s biggest misconception about the lifestyle; those are the topics discussed on this episode.

As always, we received so many great responses to our questions and, in particular, people had clear and passionate opinions on all the ways that the vanilla world misunderstands swinging. While we aren't ready to be the poster-children for the swinging lifestyle, we do hope that our little podcast helps the cause of explaining the joys and wonders that swinging can bring to a healthy, mature, loving marriage.

In our diary story, we recall yet another of our many fantastic experiences at our favorite place on earth, Desire Resort in Cancun, Mexico. Our journal entry is the memory of our first ever soft swap experience with a couple who's man had an uncircumcised cock. Bucket list… check!

SD 43 Is it bisexual men or women who are in charge of cheating on profile stats? Jun 15, 2017

An overwhelming number of responses made this episode easy to record. Sometimes our questions solicit more replies than others but these questions must have touched a nerve because we had pages and pages of replies.

In this episode we discuss answers to the question about playing with bisexual people and the challenges and intimidations of that delicate situation. Then we give commentary about profile stats and tap dance on the narrow line of using an online profile to put your best foot forward but also the importance of being honest and accurate. Lastly, we explore the commonly heard and almost universally agreed trope that, “women run the lifestyle”.

In our diary story we remember an encounter with a comfortable, charming single man which allowed Paige to call all the shots and be the center of attention. This gentleman is one of those rarest of swingers; a classy, openminded, sexy, respectful single guy. Because we were all so comfortable with each other and he was so willing to please, this experience challenged the boundaries of Penn’s straight sensitivity, all in the interest of Paige’s pleasure.

SD 42 Have you ever searched Google for a sex toy and thought, "No thank you"? May 31, 2017

One of the unexpected but wonderful advantages of this podcast has been the fantastic relationships we have developed with you, our listeners. Through your emails and social media messages, we have discovered that podcast listeners are indeed genuine, curious, engaged and often very sexy, a fact that we have recently verified.

For the first time in what is sure to be many more, in this episode we discuss three questions posed by you, our listeners. As always, we crowd-sourced the answers to your questions. Using other listeners advice as a guide, we discuss our own opinions and experiences about researching a couple on social media sites; the frequency and preference of using sex toys in swinging play; and one of the most common worries, the best language to use in order to tell a couple that you aren't interested in getting physical with them.

When we took a hiatus from podcasting last year, we were still very active in the swinging lifestyle. When we would come home from a party or date with new exciting memories, we were often disappointed and frustrated to know that we no longer had a podcast through which to re-live the night’s events. The stories would bubble up inside us and we felt like we just needed to tell somebody. Generously, our good friends the Joneses from the We Gotta Thing podcast allowed us to use them as our private audience during that time period and they became an occasional outlet for our stories. This episode’s diary story is one that we originally recorded for their ears only about a year and a half ago. It is a sexy story about an experience using a certain sex toy that was a first for us. It was such a hot memory that, rather than re-tell it, we just spliced the original, unfiltered version right here into this show. Hope you enjoy it.

SD 41 What’s the right mix of alcohol and dirty talk that makes you squirt? May 15, 2017

With summer upon us and therefore kids out of school, we are trying to figure out how to adjust our habits a little to continue to preserve our sexy secrets from an always inquisitive family. We learned recently how frighteningly important that is. Despite the wonderful benefits of swinging, the vanilla world is not ready for our lifestyle no matter how amazing it is.

In this slightly longer than usual episode, as always we cover three new topics. We tell the story of our introduction to squirting and reflect on how our attitudes about it have developed and changed. Then, we talk about the practical problem of selecting the best alcohol for an evening of sexy fun. Finally, we explore the spectrum of what counts as dirty talk and what’s appropriate and preferred with a new partner.

Our diary story is a memory of one of the very first things we ever did in this lifestyle. Back when we were brand new and nervous, we made a road trip to visit a couple. While it was a sexy encounter, as four eager but inexperienced swingers will do, we made some classic, newbie mistakes.

SD 40 How long should you spend watching strippers before going to the swingers club? Apr 30, 2017

This episode exposes the fact that some swinging questions are unanswerable. While we got lots of replies to our questions about the length of time for a play session, and a seemingly universal agreement about strip clubs, absolutely nobody seems to know why people enter the swingers clubs after 1:00 in the morning. Its still a mystery.

In this show, we give out our preferences and read some of your answers and then we announce that in the next episode we will be asking questions sent in by our listeners.

Our diary story is about a club night when we coyly flirted with a sexy couple and, taking advantage of the seductively erotic show in the playrooms and the right casual atmosphere for experimentation, we coaxed them into a wild, hot and very wet playtime.

SD 39 Why are there no pics of men getting blowjobs while listening to podcasts? Apr 15, 2017

Our quest to crowd source the answers to the unknown mysteries of the swinging lifestyle continues. We are excited by the dozens of responses we again received in order to help us answer our queries and we are thrilled by the surprising number of listeners who have written to pose new questions to ask our audience. We see a “listener question” episode coming soon.

In this episode we explore the puzzle of why so many swinging dating profiles have no pics of men. Then we spend some time talking about the personal preference to give or to receive oral sex with a new play partner. Finally, we explore the reasons our listeners say they enjoy lifestyle podcasts and what they get out of listening to them.

In our diary story, we remember an encounter that incorporates all three of this episode’s questions as we tell about a road trip to meet new friends and the unexpected situation that provided us a rare and exciting opportunity in which Penn was able to have a fantasy fulfilled that he didn't even realize he had.

SD 38 Do you tell your kids that you secretly kiss your motorcycle? Mar 31, 2017

Paige is not so crazy about these new episode titles but in this show, we answer our customary three questions and this time they deal with motorcycles, advice for curious adult children and the grey area of kissing and telling.

We rely heavily on listeners emails about their experiences with the motorcycle culture since we don't have (or want) a bike. Then, we imagine the hypothetical world in which we had to give one of our six children advice about swinging. Lastly, as a couple with a podcast that describes the very intimate details of our sexy encounters, we try not to be too hypocritical in exploring the etiquette of how much detail is acceptable when we inevitably kiss and tell about our play experiences with others.

Our diary story is the memory of a Las Vegas getaway with Harley-Davidson loving friends and the unusual and steamy opportunity that exchanging hotel room keys provided us.

SD 37 Which smoking hot theme leads to the best reconnection sex? Mar 16, 2017

Recorded from the Passion Suite at Desire RM in Mexico, in this episode you'll have to excuse our over-partied, raspy, smokers' voices. Lets just say it was an intense week with the Lifestyle Lounge takeover group.

In answering this episodes’s questions, in this show we read listeners’ feedback and give our own opinions as we talk about smokers, reconnection sex and the best themes in the lifestyle. Thank you to all who contributed your opinions. Keep your replies coming. We need your advice.

Our diary entry is about a surprisingly selfish experience with a young, intimidated, newbie, single guy who willingly acted as the perfect playtoy for us.

SD 36 Does playing in the same room help keep the secret of your penis size? Feb 28, 2017

Welcome to Book 2 of our diary. Recently, as we happened to come across one of our older episodes, we realized that in the past our show could rightfully be considered by some listeners as a bit… shall we say, dry? Because up until now, we were purposefully and gingerly addressing an audience who are new to this awesome lifestyle, our shows were carefully scripted to give as much information as possible, but now our intended audience (and our style) shifts as we begin to discuss the more nuanced topics which are of interest to more experienced swingers.

Thank you all of you amazing responses to our first three questions. In this episode we talk about our opinions and your input on penis size, the sexy secret of swinging and same room play preferences. Please be sure to keep your advice coming. We need more opinions as we announce our next episode’s questions at the end of the show.

Our diary story is about an experience that touches on two of this episode’s questions. With a couple with whom we has a very special and intimate connection, a few years ago we explored the boundary of separate room play. As we expected, the excitement was intense but the emotional and logistic challenges were also very real.

SD 35 Sure, money can’t buy love but how much does swinging cost? Feb 15, 2017

As we wrap up Book One of our podcast, we answer the last of our initial newbie questions about the swinging lifestyle. Swinging is our hobby and like any other recreation, we are willing to spend a little money for our entertainment. How much to spend is a personal choice, but for us swinging is so fun and rewarding that we prioritize it and make room for it's expenses in our budget.

In this episode we discuss the range of costs for the different swinging activities and as always, we give specific dollar amounts about what you can expect to pay for various events.

In an encounter that happened just a couple of days ago, our diary story is an example of one of the simplest experiences in the lifestyle and the fact that some of the hottest and most exciting memories cost absolutely nothing.

As we begin Book Two of our show, we need your help. We introduce the first three questions that will be discussed on our next episode in order to solicit advice from our audience. These are swinging queries that despite our years of experience, we still don't know the answers to.

Does penis size/shape really matter with a new play partner?
Isn't the fact that we all keep our adventures secret, part of the fun of swinging?
Why are so many couples in the lifestyle “same room play” only?

SD 34 Do you really have to go to a lifestyle friendly resort for a swinger vacation? Jan 31, 2017

Big changes are coming to Swinger Diaries. As we approach 35 episodes, we feel as though we've accomplished our initial goal of answering the most common newbie questions through our show topics. Its now time for Book Two on our diary in which we turn our attention to more complicated, advanced and challenging swinger topics. In this episode, we announce an upcoming change to our format and make a request of our listeners who have gained something form our podcast.

We were introduced to the swinging lifestyle in baby steps through many trips to our favorite vacation resort, Desire, but in this episode we discuss alternate swinger vacations that don't require such intense commitments of time and money as flying all the way to Mexico for sexy adult fun requires. We've visited clubs and parties all over North America and in this show we give tips and suggestions so you can craft your own awesome swinger vacation.

Sexy vacations are a rare and exciting opportunity to be adventurous and daring and our recent weekend in Toronto took us to a club on Cougar Night were Paige got the chance to fulfill a longtime bucket list fantasy.

SD 33 How do you stay in Swinger Shape? Jan 15, 2017

Because for us swinging is really like dating for couples, we always want to look our best and feel our best in order to have the confidence we need to make a great first impression on new friends. Unfortunately, like everyone else, we have our own body issues that we are constantly battling to overcome.

This is a very personal episode in which we openly discuss our own insecurities about our bodies. We talk about the efforts and commitments that we make in order to constantly improve our fitness, our self-image and our health and also about the way the lifestyle has encouraged us in that endeavor.

Our diary story is the memory of an encounter that we had on a swingers cruise with longtime friends that are so genuine and so dear to us that we could all completely and comfortably bare our bodies to each other without embarrassment or shame. That special level of connection that we have with each other made for an intimate, tender playtime and a uniquely personal swinging experience.

SD 32 What exactly is in your swinger bag? Dec 31, 2016

Opening up a couple’s swinger bag is like digging through a woman’s purse. Its very personal. It exposes a lot about the people who own it. Its full of intimate private details about them and the way they play. Most swingers develop a bag of necessities for their lifestyle adventures. We have too.

Inspired by questions from listeners that ask about the details of our playtimes, and with the understanding that not all listeners invest the time to hear every one of our past shows for the answers which are covered in some of the previous shows, in this episode, to better understand our style and motivations in the swinging lifestyle, we open that bag.

After emptying the contents of our swinger bag, in our journal we remember a hot experience from our favorite place on Earth, the rooftop hot tub beds at Desire, which was enjoyed with a foursome that knew what they wanted and weren't shy about asking for it. It was an intense evening for the senses and as always, we were happy we had our swinger bag handy. Easy accessibility to all of the critically important supplies it provides, made that playtime flow perfectly.

SD 31 Aren't you nervous about sharing your pictures? Dec 15, 2016

In today’s digital age when we all carry camera phones with us at all times, we've become very used to the idea that it is common and safe to share our images freely with friends and on social media but when you get into swinging, privacy becomes a huge concern. Almost everyone in the swinging lifestyle keeps this part of their life a secret and would not want their friends and family knowing what they did last Saturday night.

In this episode, we talk about the two reasons we take sexy pictures in the swinging lifestyle, for sharing and for remembering. We discuss tips for taking good pictures in both situations and talk about suggestions for how, when, and with whom its appropriate and wise to share those pictures.

Our diary story is a special one. One of the many benefits of recording a podcast has been developing relationships with listeners and with other podcasters too. In this episode, we remember a recent surprise birthday party thrown for a new podcasting friend. Although we were the surprise gift to her, the evening with these sexy people became an amazing gift to us… and we've go the the pictures to prove it!

SD 30 Will we find sexy people our age to play with? Nov 30, 2016

One of the touchiest topics in the swinging community is the subject of age and as a result we have avoided this topic for a long time now but if you’re new to swinging, you are understandably curious about this obvious question, “How old is too old and how young is too young to swing?”

While we hear plenty of politically correct answers to this question like, “You're only as old as you feel" or “Age is just a number”, it is disingenuous and foolish to ignore the obvious fact that we are all attracted to a youthful appearance. Age actually is an important factor in the probability of making connections with people, both physically and socially. Its normal and even understandable that people tend to gravitate to others of their age range. Age does matter, but its not the only factor in making connections.

In our usual way, in this episode we talk plainly and directly about the range of ages of people that we have played with and also about the average age of the people you can expect to see in the lifestyle. In our sexy journal entry, we recall a date and playtime with a couple who was much younger than we were and remember the challenges that naturally occur between people of different ages and experience levels in the lifestyle.

SD 29 Isn't it hard to flirt again? Nov 14, 2016

Flirting is a skill and just like any other, if you don't practice it regularly, you can get a little rusty. One of the first realizations for new swingers is that it’s probably been a long time since they've flirted with others and they often need to brush up on their moves.

In this episode, we remind listeners of the basics of flirting. We walk through what a typical evening in a club is like for us and talk about our personal flirting styles. As always, we give practical tips and techniques for moving from that awkward introduction phase to actually “sealing the deal”.

In our sexy journal entry, we recall a date with a charming, experienced, flirty couple which lit the fuse for a slow burn that eventually culminated in an inevitably explosive encounter.

SD 28 Don’t swingers wear gold chains and polyester? Oct 27, 2016

Now, come on. The stereotype of the 70’s swingers is obviously, just not a reality anymore. In truth, as you might expect, swingers are actually very fashion savvy. After all, the whole reason swingers go out to parties and events is to meet new friends and make connections and we all know how important first impressions are.

Inspired by many emails from listeners asking us about what to wear to a swinger’s party, in this episode we talk about all aspects of swingers’ fashion. From jeans to dresses to lingerie and accessories, dressing smart for swinger events shows off your body’s best attributes and demonstrates respect for others. At a lifestyle party, it's very important to dress to impress.

At a new hotel takeover, we were sadly disappointed by the crowd until we encountered some new friends who’s sexy style caught our attention right away. While the conditions in the playroom of the party were far from optimal for private, intimate, steamy, fun; this couple was so alluring to us that our wild encounter with them was irresistible.

SD 27 What's it like to be in an orgy? Oct 14, 2016

The idea of an orgy is one of the most common fantasies that lures newbies into the lifestyle and while it is true that the excitement of a pile of writhing naked skin really is as amazing as people imagine, like everything in the lifestyle, orgies have their advantages and disadvantages too.

In this episode we discuss the difference between group sex and orgies. We also talk about our experiences in orgies and what we like and don’t like about them. We explore tips to make your experience the best it can be and give some advice to avoid pitfalls when the fantasy becomes reality.

Our diary entry is a memory of an encounter with two other couples where distractions during play were a problem for us. We reflect on the tricky dance that inevitably happens in a playroom when not everybody in the orgy is equally attracted to each other. It’s a classic illustration of what to be prepared for when presented with the real-life opportunity to fulfill your orgy fantasy.

SD 26 Really? You don't seem like swingers Sep 30, 2016

We all have different faces that we use for various settings in our lives. We naturally change our styles and attitudes when we are at work, at church, at sporting events, in front of our kids, when we are relaxing with friends and even on lazy Sunday mornings. We all have many moods and many sides and for us, there is nothing more obvious than the difference between our “vanilla” personalities and our “swinger” personas.

In this episode we describe each other's personalities in both settings and talk about how the lifestyle has affected our relationships with vanilla friends. We have a conversation about how to spot swingers in a vanilla setting and give a few tips that we use to improve that all-important skill of remembering people’s names when we have our full swinger “A-game” going.

Our sexy story is about an intense connection we made with a charming couple on a Swinger’s Cruise. Although the environment was tricky, they were patient with us and they gave us the time we needed to transition out of being Mom and Dad and become the fun, happy, party-loving couple that we are when we transform into our swinger alter-egos.

SD 25 Do swingers really get to live out their fantasies? Sep 15, 2016

Fantasies are a huge part of everyone's sex life and so many swingers get into the lifestyle to fulfill the fantasies they've developed through open conversation and pillow talk with their partner.

In this episode we discuss how our fantasies developed and how we began to realize that in the lifestyle, because exciting fantasies are so frequently fulfilled, many swingers actually begin to develop a whole list of experiences they would like to have. Like many swingers we have really developed two lists.

Usually we create our episodes by identifying a topic, writing the notes and then selecting a story from our past that illustrates the topic, but this time we have a story that is so amazing that we designed the topic around it. Listen as we remember how we got the chance to fulfill the fantasies of a very special friend as we checked some new things off our own list too. Of all of our experiences, this is one of our very favorite memories.

SD 24 What do you wish you knew when you were newbies? Aug 31, 2016

As we say on just about all of our shows, one of the main reasons we started this podcast was to help curious, nervous newbies navigate their way into the wild, sexy, but daunting world of swinging, because we remember what it was like to be new, intimidated and very scared.

In this episode, we look back at our original fears and apprehensions about the lifestyle and we explore the question; if we could go back and talk to the frightened, timid, vanilla couple that we were when we stumbled into Desire several years ago, what advice would we give ourselves? With that prompt, we offer the top 5 things that we, and all newbies, should, but probably don't know about swingers and the lifestyle.

Our diary story is about an encounter with a newbie couple that actually pursued us in order to take their first steps into their own swinging adventure and the way, as ambassadors for the lifestyle, we both let them down and gave them an amazing experience to remember.

SD 23 Why do you tell your stories? Aug 21, 2016

After a long sabbatical Penn and Paige are back!

In all honesty, when we said goodbye and signed off almost a year ago, we believed that was the permanent conclusion of our show but over the past few months a few unexpected things happened to us.

First was the flood of kind sentiments of support sent to us by email and on social media sites, most of them thanking us for the difference we had made in peoples' lives and marriages. We had no idea how many people we had touched and we were very moved.

Then came a year of amazing experiences. Our swinging career has been very active even with the microphones off. So often, after an awesome evening of sexy fun, we would collapse into the car for the long ride home and say to ourselves, "Wow! What a night! If only we could tell somebody about that!", and the stories started to bubble up inside us again.

Finally, we began to realize how much we missed telling our stories. We see now that this shared hobby enriched our lives in a similar way that the swinging lifestyle has and, after many long nights of soul searching, we agreed that we needed to dig the microphones out of the box in the basement and resume our show.

In this episode we re-introduce our podcast and explain our motivations for this program.

Our diary entry is a recent memory of an encounter with sexy listeners who made us proud of our influence on their lives and then turned the tables on us as the teachers became the students during a steamy evening of sexy, slippery fun.

SD 22 Is swinging really a lifestyle? Aug 21, 2016

The term “lifestyle" is so loosely used that lots of alternative interest groups claim to be in "The Lifestyle” but what does that mean? If swinging is a lifestyle, does it change the way you live? Does it change your attitudes about life and as a result can't it become all-consuming and addictive?

In this episode we talk about the frequency of our swinging experiences and give some tips for avoiding burn out. We also reflect on how the swinging lifestyle has changed us for the better.

Our diary story is about a recent, unexpected, spur of the moment offer for play from a nameless couple we barely knew. Before we became comfortable with this lifestyle, we would never have been confident enough to accept their invitation, but we are so glad we did.

SD 21 Are all single guys in the lifestyle creepy? Aug 21, 2016

Single men are a very complicated topic among swingers. Some couples are creeped out by them and avoid any contact and others specifically seek them out. Just like any other group of people, there are awesome single men and there are creeps in the lifestyle.

Although there are tons of options available to couples for play with a single man, in our experience, single guys who are charming, sexy, respectful, honest, clean, and charismatic are the real "unicorns”. In this episode we discuss the advantages and disadvantages of play with single men and give some suggestions and tips for how we select our single male playmates to avoid the weirdos and flakes.

Our sexy diary story is a memory of an encounter with a carefully selected single man and the MFM threesome that we enjoyed together. While there were awkward and uncomfortable moments, the experience was a unique and sexy one for us.

SD 20 Isn’t there anything you don’t like about swinging? Aug 21, 2016

Twenty episodes is a bit of a milestone for us. When we first began recording, we had no grand ambitions for our show, but we had information to pass on and so many fun memories that we wanted to share.

Swinging has been an awesome adventure for us and we are proud to advocate for its joys and benefits but just like any activity, even our favorite hobby has annoyances and frustrations. We pride ourselves on offering listeners candid, honest, practical tips and advice about swinging so in the interest of balance and transparency, and in honor of our 20th show; in this episode we discuss the top 20 things we DON'T like about the swinging lifestyle. Although in our swinging experience the good far outweighs the bad, in this show we indulge in a cathartic bitch session about our personal pet peves.

Our diary story is about our trip to Hedonism II in Jamaica and the fantastic rewards of looking past the inconveniences and annoyances that are inevitadbally part of any swinging experience.

SD 19 We Gotta Swinger Diary Part 2 Aug 21, 2016

If we could subtitle this episode in our usual style of inquiry, the question of this show would be: "How could it be that sharing your spouse with someone could possibly enhance your marriage?" Its hard to put into words a clear explanation to that question so we hope this show's account illustrates the answer.

In the swinging lifestyle its rare for us to find a connection with another couple in which all four of us are attracted intellectually, physically and emotionally to each other but recently it happened to us.

In this episode Mr. and Mrs. Jones of the We Gotta Thing Podcast join us for the second half of our bonus joint-podcasting event. The conversation begins on episode 13 of the We Gotta Thing Podcast. Be sure to listen to it first so you can pick up the conversation and sexy stories here in Part 2.

SD 18 What’s a hotel takeover like? Aug 21, 2016

We are back from Naughty in N'awlins 2015 and we have got some sexy stories to tell. This event created the first and largest collection of swinging lifestyle podcasters ever assembled in one place and it was awesome fun.

In this episode we discuss hotel takeovers and give some specific examples of how the NiN convention was an epic one. One of the unique experiences that we had at the event was the connection made with fantastic new friends, Mr. and Mrs Jones from the We Gotta Thing Podcast. As charming and sexy as we imagined them to be, they were in person.

While our diary story is about an sexy sixsome experience that occurred in the playrooms of NiN, we are honored to have a bonus diary story told by our new friends and the announcement of more collaboration soon to follow.

SD 17 Aren’t you worried that one of you will fall in love? Aug 21, 2016

Lets be totally honest, if you are not in a rock solid committed relationship, then swinging is probably not right for you. Most swingers are so secure in their own relationships that they have no interest in more than just social friendships with anybody but their partner. In the swinging lifestyle, nobody is looking to take anybody else's spouse.

We all love many people in our lives and that love doesn’t diminish our commitment to our life partner. We love our family, our job and even our possessions, so loving our friends is natural and normal. In this episode we talk about friends with benefits, exclusive swinging relationships and swayers.

Our diary story is about an intimate and relaxing afternoon spent with a couple that have become very dear to us and how familiarity with great friends allows for exploration into play situations that we never knew we would even want to try.

SD 16 Have you ever been to a house party? Aug 21, 2016

Infamously, house parties are the most intense situation for play. They can be very intimidating but good house parties are often some of the most exciting experiences in the swinging lifestyle.

In this episode we talk about tips and suggestions that will help insure that you select the right party for you and give advice on how to get comfortable with the potentially high-pressure situations that are part of the house party scene.

In our sexy diary story we remember a great house party where we met a sexy couple and the challenges that we faced in playing with them in a typical house party situation where privacy isn’t always available.

SD 15 Aren’t all swingers in to kinky sex? Aug 21, 2016

Back when we started swinging and everything was new and wild, we were easily intimidated, awed and even freaked out by some of the things we were exposed to and by some of the variety of sexual preferences that people seemed to enjoy. A new friend of ours once gave us some good advice to help encourage us to explore our interests. He told us… "Remember, its only kinky the first time.”

As an alternative sexual lifestyle, most people would probably consider swinging to be kinky, and in a way it is. After all, having consensual sex with people other than your spouse is kinky to most people, but what we have found its that the swinging world is only one part of a spectrum of amazing kinky worlds that exist. There are many parallel universes of kink that weave in and out of the swinging lifestyle. If you spend any time with swingers, you are bound to learn a little about some of them and maybe even be enticed to explore and experiment. We have been.

Our Diary story is about a few of our brushes with some colorful people in the kink scene and how they taught us that sometimes sex is about pushing your boundaries in order to enhance your pleasure.

SD 14 Where should we go for our first lifestyle vacation? Aug 21, 2016

Like so many swingers, we started in this lifestyle by taking a chance and traveling to a distant, exotic location where we could just watch, learn and then eventually participate in the sexy fun. The experience was so amazing that we have returned many times and have had the pleasure of visiting most of the other lifestyle friendly resorts and events too. We travel often for sexy fun.

In this episode we answer the most frequently asked question from our email and discuss our recommendation for the best destination for your first swinging vacation.

Our journal entry this time is about the experience we had a couple of months ago as we hosted an impromptu birthday orgy in our Passion Suite at Desire. It was a sexy evening and the clean-up afterwards confirmed it!

SD 13 Do you really go on dates with other couples? Aug 21, 2016

Inspired by questions from listeners about how we seemingly find so many awesome sexy people in our travels who become entries into our Swinger Diaries, on this episode we expose some of the truths about a few of our dating failures.

After all, while we do go on dates with other couples, of all the ways to meet potential play partners, we have found that a two-on-two date is the least probable to end in a connection.

Unfortunately, that high pressure situation is fraught with tension, overly eager optimism, nervous anticipation, and all too often, disappointment.

We actually have had a few successful dates and in our sexy journal entry, we remember one of our most favorite play experiences which really did begin with a rare situation; a fun, flirty, successful, couples date.

SD 12 Are swingers amazing lovers? Aug 21, 2016

We all know that practice makes perfect and since swingers have lots of sex, it would be a reasonable assumption that they are amazing lovers. While this point is true for some swingers, just like any other skill, some are better than others.

In this episode we discuss the skills and attitudes that make for a good lover. We also talk about the trickiness of having sex with new partners and the challenges and awkward situations which nervous excitement and distraction sometimes creates in the swinging lifestyle.

In our sexy diary journal entry, we remember answering a "Hot Date" listing and meeting an incredibly hot and experienced couple with whom we had such great bedroom communication, that we were able to venture into some wild new territory for us.

SD 11 Rules? What are your rules? Aug 21, 2016

If you are curious about the swinging lifestyle and you do any research, the most common advice found in articles, blogs or podcasts is, “Before you do anything, make sure to discuss your rules.” So, what exactly are these rules? Is there a checklist somewhere? How do you go about discussing your rules if you don’t know where to start?

Everybody has rules. The term “rules" is just a synonym for boundaries, limits or even preferences. In an effort to begin to explore the endless numbers of potential rules a couple could adopt, in this episode we talk about what we see as the 15 most common rules that should be discussed among newbies. Then in the spirit of our format, we give a description of our own personal position on each. While in no way an exhaustive list, it should give a good starting point for conversations with your partner and in so doing, help reduce the potential drama that can arise from getting into a situation for which you were not prepared.

In our diary story, we remember a time in which we were swept up in the hot steamy excitement of a group play situation without talking clearly with our playmates

about our rules. While it was sexy fun, it also resulted in a few unnecessary awkward moments.

SD 10 Isn’t swinging really just cheating? Aug 21, 2016

Flattered by messages and questions that we have received from our listeners, in this episode we answer one of our most frequently asked email inquiries. Many people wanted to know about the countless conversations and baby steps that moved us from being a faithful, conservative, monogamous couple who had never even fantasized about inviting others into our sex life, to becoming ... that dreaded "S-word".

Like most swingers, there was no pivotal moment or monumental decision that marked our entrance into the lifestyle. It was a slow gradual process and long probing conversations had with charming new friends that slowly coaxed into this amazing new exciting world.

In our sexy diary entry, we remember one of many steps in our journey. We recall the encounters that transitioned us from soft swap to full swap; the reasoning, conversations, rationale, excitement, intimidation, apprehension, and eventually the affect on our attitudes about sharing our sex life with others.

SD 09 Aren’t you worried that God will punish you with and STD? Aug 21, 2016

Paige was not happy when the idea of these topics came up. Neither religion nor STIs are sexy conversation topics, but we know they are high on the list of curiosities and concerns when it comes to swinging. Originally, we had two separate topics, "Isn't swinging against your religion?" and "Aren't you worried about STDs?", but Paige protested having two separate episodes about such unsexy topics so we combined them into one show.

As classic swingers, our views on these topics are more mainstream than you might realize. So many swingers are like us, professional churchgoing people, who are active members of their community, have kids and vanilla social lives, and work out at the gym and take care of themselves in an attempt to stay physically and emotionally healthy. In this show we talk about how religion fits into our swinging life and also about our observations about the risks and rewards involving STIs and the standard practices of prevention and protection in the swinging community.

Paige chooses the story for our journal as we remember a very recent hotel takeover where we had a date to meet up with old friends and the excitment of how our foursome turned into a wild and hot six-way connection with the introduction of new friends too.

SD 08 So, you just have sex with anybody? Aug 21, 2016

Many people imagine that swingers are just indiscriminate sex-crazed maniacs who are only interested in random hookups and wild orgies and while sex is a big part of the swinging lifestyle, the truth is that all swingers are actually very selective about who they wish to share their bodies with.

In this episode, we talk about how swinging is like dating for couples and just like in the dating scene, there are things that turn you on and turn you off about other people. Swingers are really looking for that rare and special connection even if its only for one night and sometimes that means that they have to be prepared to decline the invitations of others when it just doesn't feel right.

In our sexy journal entry, we remember an adventurous night at one of our favorite swinger clubs in South Florida called Trapeze and the challenge of politely declining offers of play from aggressive people in the back play area that night.

SD 07 What’s a unicorn? Aug 21, 2016

The fantasy of inviting a third person into your bed for sexy fun is the most common introduction into the swinging lifestyle. Usually this new playmate is a bisexual single woman to whom no commitments are expected other than carnal pleasure. In the swinging lifestyle these rare, desirable, beautiful, women are affectionately called unicorns. We've had the pleasure of play with many unicorns over the past few years and while every experience has been fun and sexy, threesomes have a tricky dynamic that should be considered before jumping right into that fantasy.

On this show we discuss who unicorns are, what they are looking for and how to find them. We explore the prevalence and preference of bisexual women and the spectrum of bisexuality in the lifestyle. We also spend some time talking about the unicorn's male counterpart in the lifestyle, the single male, and the challenges that single men face among swingers.

Our diary entry is about an erotic afternoon spent with a gorgeous dear girlfriend who was a unicorn for the day. We took advantage of the opportunity to explore some of her kinky fantasies and to share her sexy body between us. While we prefer play with couples, in the right circumstances, riding a unicorn can be amazing!

SD 06 …but nobody knows that you’re swingers, right? Aug 21, 2016

Its so sad that we have to hide the fact that we are swingers, but we do. The vanilla world is not ready to see our sexy adventures for what they are, an extension of our fantastic, loving, consensual, adoring, marital sexlife. Instead, most people imagine that all swingers are sexually addicted cheaters, who are easy, kinky and perverted. With that untrue and unfair reputation, we have no choice but to do what the majority of other swingers do and hide our lifestyle from friends, family, and co-workers.

In this episode, we talk about the challenges of hiding our secret sexy life and the fear of being discovered. We also suggest ways we've used to protect our anonymity and the unspoken agreement among swingers to honor everyone's privacy.

In our journal entry we remember a passionate night of intense, sexy fun with a newly met couple in which the animal attraction was too powerful to resist.

SD 05 Whats it like in a swinger club Aug 20, 2016

Swingers clubs are a wild combination of bar, nightclub and sex party. They are one of our favorite venues for a lifestyle evening adventure. Throughout our travels we have partied through hundreds of nights of exciting swingers club action and explored dozens of different clubs around the country.

In this episode, we give tips and advice about what makes clubs so fun, how to find them, and what to expect when you visit. From what to bring, to what you'll find in the back rooms of an on-premises club, we describe what goes on at the home base of a real swingers party.

This time, in our sexy diary, we recount one of our early experiences in a lifestyle club and how a sexy foursome tuned into an unexpected six-some. It was a thrilling and exciting first for us.

SD 04 How can you get naked with other people? Aug 20, 2016

Getting naked in front of other people can be a terrifying idea. Everybody has body issues. Just the idea of letting others see us in our bathing suits is very intimidating. Getting naked around others is like the insecurity of slipping off your shirt on the very first day of summer at the beach... times a hundred.

At its core, swinging is about sex and when you have sex, you're going to be naked. That fact alone is a roadblock that sadly takes this amazing adventure off the table for some people.

In this episode, we talk about our first experiences being naked in front of others and give some suggestions to help people deal with the anxiety and self-doubt that comes with exposing yourself so completely. We also discuss the powerful benefits of getting naked and offer some tips that have given us a little more confidence during playtime.

In our journal entry we recount a great afternoon with naked friends in the hot tub at one of our favorite clothing-optional resorts and the hot experience we had with a couple whose amazing attitude made them the sexiest people in the place.

SD 03 Don’t you get jealous? Aug 20, 2016

This episode discusses the most problematic issue in the swinging lifestyle for new and experienced swingers alike... Jealousy. We discuss the most common progression of experiences among swingers and the importance of taking each step cautiously and slowly using "baby steps" to help control potential jealousy.

We don't have all the answers, but using our years of swinging experience, we also talk about other techniques and hints that we have found to be especially helpful in limiting and dealing with jealousy.

Our diary entry on this episode is about our encounter and steamy playtime with a newbie couple who were very excited to dive right into the full experience of swinging.

SD 02 Where do you meet other swingers? Aug 20, 2016

In this episode, we discuss the next of the most common questions that we imagine people would ask if they found out that we are swingers and talk about meeting couples at online dating sites, parties, clubs and lifestyle resorts.

Our diary entry this time is about how we met a particularly sexy couple and the fun play session that we all enjoyed on a rooftop bed at Desire.

SD 01 Why do you do it? Aug 20, 2016

In our first episode we, Penn and Paige, explain our motivation for this podcast and answer the first of our questions.

In this show, we explain how the Lifestyle has enriched our lives and enhanced our marriage.

As in all of our episodes, we make a story entry in to our diary. This one is about an unexpected anonymous experience in the Swinger’s Cruise playroom.

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