Swinger Diaries

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SD 86 How can you break up with your best friends during a pandemic? May 01, 2020

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The worldwide lockdown is an uncomfortable and infuriating situation and we are not immune from its effects. With the loss of our business, our income, our long-awaited vacations, and our time together with friends, in this episode our frustration boils over a little bit.

Three great questions are discussed on this month. We talk about the best lube to use for swinging encounters. Then we have an interesting discussion about how to break up with long-time playmates after the relationship has runs its course. Finally, tensions get high as we share out feelings about the pandemic and the rifts it has created among our swinging friends. Most notably, we get off on a tangent and rant about the implied role of podcasters in setting the tone and agenda as leaders of the community. We will definitely offend some people in this show.

We consider ourselves traditional swingers. We like casual encounters with friends that sometimes include non-committal, sexual interactions. We are not polyamorous at all but, like all swingers, over the years we have made some really intimate deep connections. In this story, we remember how one such connection crossed the line for us and we recount the long ugly process of ending that powerfully special relationship.

SD 85 Is it ok to offer your blind date Molly over dinner? Apr 01, 2020

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Well, the world is upside down. That's for sure. In the midst of the COVID-19 quarantine orders, the swinging world, like most of the rest of society has come to a screeching halt. We recorded this episode with tears in our eyes for the loss of our long-awaited annual group trip to Desire. Now, we will just have have to wait until August to get naked and party with all of our friends. Let the new countdown begin.

As a distraction form the mess on the news, in this episode our listeners provided us with pages of fantastic answers to our questions about what is the best food to eat if you anticipate play might be “on the table”, whether or not its a good idea to meet couples without seeing their face pics first, and why some people in the lifestyle indulge in drug use as part of their swinging encounters.

Since we don’t use drugs and we, personally, would never meet a couple without seeing their pics first, we were challenged for a Dairy Story but then we remembered a pair of recent encounters on the outdoor rooftop hot tub beds at Desire and realized that the experiences we had on that trip taught us a lot about how conversely intimidating and yet sexy a “blind date” could be.

SD 84 Are small breasts a turn-off all over North America? Mar 01, 2020

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First, please excuse the terrible audio on this episode. We all know that podcasts are a free informational and entertainment medium but that doesn’t mean that podcast listeners aren’t entitled to decent, listenable sound. This episode is not up to our standards. We sincerely apologize, but upon learning of the recording problem, we just couldn’t scrap this show. It's too full of fantastic comments from listeners.

The questions on this show blew up our email. Listeners provided a deluge of information and opinions about the best areas of North America for swinging fun; the top turn-offs for swingers; and a fascinating debate about whether small breasted women get more or less attention in the lifestyle.

Not every lifestyle party, nor every Diary Story ends with a pile of panting, bleary-eyed, smiling, naked bodies. Not every encounter goes well. In this episode we remember an experience where we should have slowed down and listened to our own intuitions about the red flags and turn-offs that our play partners were giving us. In the end we paid a heavy price for our foolishness.

SD 83 When she’s in charge of packing the sex toys, does playtime happen earlier? Feb 01, 2020

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We're back from our unannounced getaway to Desire and it was amazing, as always. This time it was fun to go as ourselves and not worry about carrying the reputation and notoriety of "Penn and Paige" but we also took advantage of the opportunity to meet with the Desire staff and set up some of the logistics for our annual group trip which is only a few weeks away. Being with our sexy group at our favorite resort on the planet is going to make for an epic party!

We know that a lot of podcasts broadly appeal to their audiences because they cover a range of sex positive topics and we appreciate that, but our show has always been about one subject first and foremost. Our show is about swinging. Here, in the Best of the the Lifestyle question, we discuss vibrators from a swingers perspective. Then we talk about techniques that experienced swingers use to encourage play to happen earlier in the evening. Lastly we tackle a listener question about women being "the gas" in the lifestyle.

Ever heard of "Reverse Dating"? Neither had we, until we met a gorgeous couple that we just couldn't miss the opportunity to play with at Naughty in Nawlins. While we made a date for late afternoon play, the anticipation got the best of all of us and we found ourselves in bed with these special friends even before the scheduled time. Although the hot Louisiana sun was still shining brightly and the parade was going by on the street below, that afternoon the four of us made our own Bourbon Street memory.

SD 82 How often do you have anal sex with your regular single male playmates? Jan 01, 2020

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Our swinger mojo is coming back! After a few really sexy dates, a fun NYE club night at Trapeze in Ft. Lauderdale, and a last minute trip planned to Desire, we are past the fun family obligations of the holidays and ready to go back to the gym to get into tip top swinger shape for more adventures.

As always, in this episode we begin with the Best of the Lifestyle and talk about the best way to meet the "true unicorn"; a classy, sexy, respectful, charming, single guy. Then we discuss our monthly question. This one is about the frequency of anal sex in swinging play. Lastly we try to answer a lister question about how to keep the sex hot with regular play partners.

In all of our years of swinging, if Penn had to choose the single most exciting and intense five seconds of all of our playtimes, this would be it. On this show we remember an encounter with a hot, mysterious, single man which is forever burned into his memory. Its hard to understand why some moments rock your world and stay with you forever but this experience will forever be one of our favorite moments of our swinging journey.

SD 81.5 Bonus Episode: What does DDN think is so great about lifestyle clubs? Dec 23, 2019

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As we mentioned on our last episode, recently, at the invitation of Dave and Andi from Double Date Nation, we joined a group of podcasters for a meet and greet event called Podcaster Shinanigans at Menages in Nashville. It was a real treat to have so many varied-style podcasters together in one place so, to memorialize the occasion, we all sat around with our microphones just before the club opened and attempted to record a huge joint show, but sadly, it was an epic fail. The next day it was discovered that the whole audio file was distorted and completely unusable.

The conversation was fun and interesting with fantastic observations and opinions from Euphoria Chronicles, Our Naughty Escapades and Spiritual Swingers. It was disappointing to have lost it. We were so thankful for the hospitality of DDN and Menages, and so sad to have lost the insights that we had all recorded, that last week we made a return trip to Nashville and attempted to recreate just a little bit of the lost information and ideas.

In this casual, unscripted recording, we and the founders of DDN took up the same prompt that was ill-fatedly discussed by our podcaster's group, "What's so great about lifestyle clubs?" In a format very different than our typical show, the four of us got comfortable on Dave and Andi's couch, poured some drinks, pushed record, and enjoyed a great evening of relaxed conversation. We hope you enjoy this impromptu bonus episode. Merry Christmas!

SD 81 Should you ghost people who don’t get frequent STI testing? Dec 01, 2019

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Every lifestyle career has ups and downs. It's common to go from being, on the prowl and hungry for play, to being completely uninterested and wondering if there’s something wrong with you in only a short period of time. In this, our 5 year anniversary episode, we talk for a few minutes about our own journey and the way we’ve been riding the rollercoaster of swinging lately.

In this show, we discuss our Best of the Lifestyle question about where to go on a first swinging date with a couple and then we transition to a definition question about what it means to “ghost” somebody in the the swinging lifestyle. Lastly, we try to answer a listener question about the best resources to get regular STI testing.

Since we are self admitted “ghosters” we had no shortage of memories for our Diary Story on this topic. In this episode, our journal entry is the memory of a club night where we ghosted on one very fun couple that we do like to party with, we just don't want to play with, and instead deftly but obviously ghosted on them in order to play with another couple in the club that night. Luckily, although there was some occasional awkwardnesses, there were no hurt feelings.

*One note about this episode… We experienced some kind of weird electrical disturbance during the recording of this show and there is an annoying interference in the background that is heard during the second question. We did our very best to minimize it through editing but it’s still there. It goes away after about 10 minutes but we are still a little embarrassed that you’ll have to endure a recording that is not up to our usual sound standards. Thanks, in advance, for your forgiveness.

SD 80 How much do you want to know about why some couples just disappear? Nov 01, 2019

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We’re back from a fantastic, unannounced, quick, getaway in the gorgeous, warm, Mexican sunshine at Desire Pearl and now we are ready for the beginning of the Fall swinger season. With parties on our schedule in Toronto, Cincinnati and Nashville in the month of November, things are heating up for us even as the weather turns colder.

To us, it definitely seems like Fall is the beginning of the swinger season but in this episode, listeners chimed in with their own opinions about the best season for swinging fun. We also discuss our question for this month about how many details of your personal play preferences you should share with new play partners. Then, with help from our audience, we do our best to answer a listener question about inactive profiles on dating websites.

Some of our stories are more descriptive than others, but the experience we remember in our Diary Story in this episode was just so fun and exciting for us that we couldn’t resist sharing the juicy details. Listen as we giggle our way through the memory of a very hot experience with some newbies and the way they showed us a whole new technique for erotic play.

SD 79 Can you be too soft and gentle with that pretty pussy? Oct 01, 2019

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Fall is upon us and with the changing leaves and cooler temperatures the swinging scene really heats up. We are definitely excited about the upcoming lifestyle travel we have planned and about the fall party scene. It’s been a challenging summer for us as we have been juggling some health issues while still fitting in time for our active swinging schedule. We aren’t complaining. It’s been a great summer but, now back to full health, fall is going to be even better.

As with last month’s question about bisexual men in the lifestyle, one of this month's questions really struck a raw nerve with some listeners and we were flooded with answers on the subject of women’s insecurities about the size and shape of their labia. It’s a fascinating topic. In this episode we also discuss, being too soft and gentle in play and, as avid travelers, we talk about the best way to book your lifestyle vacations.

As we’ve intimated in the past, Paige has been dealing with a painful and stressful health issue regarding her breast. In our diary story for this show, we pull back the curtain and give you the details of how this injury actually occurred and in doing so, demonstrate how important it is to be respectful, gentle, careful, communicative and responsive during play.

SD 78 Bonus Episode The Ladies of the Lifestyle (LOL) Sep 09, 2019

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Want to know what happens at the world largest swingers convention when dozens of sexy women kick all their husbands out of the room and, while drinking mimosas, let go of all of their inhibitions? If you're thinking toenail painting which evolves into pillow fights and then a wild all-girl, kitten-pile style orgy… then you would be wrong. But, while not quite as titillating, when, at Naughty in New Orleans, these women pulled out the microphones and pushed record with no men to interrupt or talk over them, the result was some fantastic and insightful conversation. Consider it a girl-power, brain orgy.

In this bonus episode, we present Part 2 of the three part series of the recording that happened in that room in New Orleans. If you have not heard Part 1, stop right here. Go immediately to the Two or More to Tango Podcast (Episode 31) and listen to the beginning part of the discussion so you can pick up the conversation here on Swinger Diaries. When you’re finished listening, you will surly want to hear the conclusion which is posted on the Average Swingers Podcast (Episode 115).

It was a casual, raw, fun-filled morning of girl talk. I was flattered to be included in the conversation and even more honored to be able to call all of these amazing women, my friends.

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