Support is Sexy

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788: Walk Your Talk: Why My (Bumbled) Book Signing Forced Me To Show Support is Sexy in Action Sep 06, 2021

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My very first book signing (turned book celebration) on Martha's Vineyard was perfectly....imperfect. :) Listen to hear what happened when my books didn't show up in time for the event and how I had to take the title of my own book very seriously: Get Over 'I Got It' -- How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone. The Universe wanted me to remember that. And in this episode I share why it's important for us all to walk our talk.

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787: Join Me on Martha's Vineyard for a Celebration! Aug 11, 2021

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If you're on Martha's Vineyard August 12, 2021, join me for my first in-person book signing for "Get Over 'I Got It'". Together with entrepreneur India Rose -- who owns the Sideline Store in Vineyard Haven -- I am celebrating the resilience of Black women entrepreneurs and, of course, encouraging us all to continue to support each other and get the support we need. Our success depends on our willingness to work together.

Join us from 3pm - 7pm on Thursday, August 12, for music, (safe) mingling, and a special book signing of Get Over '"I Got It" at the Sideline store, 49 Main Street, Vineyard Haven.

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786: Poet / Author Morgan Harper Nichols on Creating with Intention, Letting Go of the "How" and Being Open to the Possibilities Jul 27, 2021

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Episode Summary:

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Elayne sits down with poet, artist, and musician Morgan Harper Nichols to hear the remarkable story of how she got to where she is today. They talk about creating with intention, letting go of the how, listening to people's stories, and being open to the possibilities everywhere. The journey is told in such an open and beautiful way that some part is bound to resonate with you. Wherever you are in life right now, take a pause, listen to Morgan Harper Nichols' story, and think about How Far You Have Come.

About our guest:

Morgan Harper Nichols is an artist, poet, and musician who finds inspiration in the stories and conversations of everyday life. After starting her career as a college admission counselor she shifted into freelance music, and between performances, she designed art and turned songs into poetry. Before long one of those poems went viral on Pinterest, and just a few years later she became a Wall Street Journal bestseller with an Instagram following of nearly 2 million.

She focuses on art that tells a story, and she uses her gift as a way of connecting herself and other people to a shared emotion. She has authored six books, she has her own website, an online shop, and blog, her own podcast, her own Youtube channel, and an app called Storyteller, where she posts inspirational words and art every day.

Insights from the Episode:

The importance of taking time to find what you truly love.
Being intentional about things as you create them.
Releasing yourself from the burden of the word "how."
How simply being open to possibilities can guide you towards doing what you love

Resources Mentioned:

How Far You Have Come

All Along You Were Blooming

Storyteller

Storyteller app(ios)

Storyteller app(android)

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785: How to Create an Action Plan (Not a Business Plan) and Get Real Results in Your Business with Carissa Reiniger Jul 20, 2021

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Episode Summary

In this episode of Support is Sexy, Founder of Silver Lining Carissa Reiniger discusses the importance of being focused and deliberate about what your business does and who your ideal client is, as well as how small, clear actions are essential to delivering amazing results for your business. Given the state of the world, Carissa's personal story and insights have never been more important. Listen in for practical, logical steps you can implement to guide your business in the right direction.

About our Guest:

Carissa Reiniger is the founder of Silver Lining. Since 2005, Silver Lining has been supporting small business owners in creating more profitable and sustainable companies. Their process includes creating a Silver Lining Action Plan (also called SLAP) which is a technology-enabled, data-driven small business work program focused on helping small businesses set and then achieve their financial goals. Based on Behavior Change Science SLAP has helped over 10,000 small businesses in 25 countries to make more money doing what they love.

Insights from the Episode:

How clarity and specificity about what business owners should focus their time and money on leads to greater success
Understanding the difference between your favorite client and your ideal client, and how finding your ideal client will bring you more success in the long term
The importance of understanding your personal and business finances
What a 12-month Action Plan is and how to build one
The 3 habits that lead to a healthy and successful business: Taking action, Getting Results, and taking a moment to Pause and Reflect

Resources Mentioned:

https://smallbizsilverlining.com/

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Website: https://smallbizsilverlining.com/

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784: How Broglie Box CEO Julia Broglie Delivers Mental Health and Wellness to Customers Jul 13, 2021

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In this episode of Support is Sexy, Founder of BroglieBox Julia Broglie opens up about her struggles with mental health and losing a brother to suicide, and how her journey led to starting the BroglieBox company. Mental health has never been so important. Listen for support strategies for your mental health and practical tips for your business in this episode of Support is Sexy.

Elayne Fluker

Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book "Get Over 'I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone." As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening!

About our Guest:

Julia Broglie is the Founder of the social impact company BroglieBox. At BroglieBox, boxes - or "care packages" are curated with tools and resources for mental health in a way that feels warm, lighthearted, and fun.

Insight from this episode:

How Julia is fighting the stigma of mental health in an approachable way.
Strategies for grieving in healthy ways and helping others who are.
Details on the Six Pillar of Mental Wellness and how to best support them in your life.
Tips for being a responsive company and how BroglieBox was impacted by 2020.

Quotes from the show:

On her brother Justin: "He kept telling me, I just want to make a difference in this world. And he is making a difference now. I feel him guiding me, and I feel like he's touched so many people after his death because every single person that receives one of our boxes, it was inspired by him." –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784
"We need to be open about this [how Justin died] because we don't want any other family to go through what we're going through right now… and if us talking about it saves a life or brings awareness or fights the stigma, then we're going to shout it from the rooftops." –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784
"If you're going to a therapist once or twice a week, what are you doing in the in-between? What are you doing every single day to support your mental health or even just remind yourself, hey I should check in with myself, what is one thing I can do for myself?" –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784
"2020 was that year that a lot of us realized that even if you're not directly involved in a situation that you might think would cause grief, just even being on the outside or witnessing it on television or just knowing what's going on in the world or seeing people who are losing a family, for example, can cause grief." –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #784
"You are your company's greatest asset. And when you're not treating yourself as your company's greatest asset, then your company's going to suffer." –Julia Broglie Support is Sexy Ep. #784

Resources Mentioned

National Suicide Prevention Hotline

Text HOME to 741741 for Crisis Text Counsel

The Broglie Blog

Mental Wellness Care Package Giveaway

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Julia Broglie

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Instagram: @thebrogliebox

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783: How to Build Your Brand and Build a Passionate Community with The Great Girlfriends Founder Sybil Amuti Jul 06, 2021

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In this episode of Support is Sexy, the Creator of The Great Girlfriends Podcast and expert brand builder Sybil Amuti gives noteworthy strategies for building your brand and creating brand longevity. Become "pandemic proof" with content, culture, and community. Find out how to get to work in this episode of Support is Sexy.

Elayne Fluker

Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, "Get Over 'I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone." As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also the founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening!

About our Guest:

Sybil Amuti is the Founder and Creator of The Great Girlfriends Podcast and Community, a personal & professional development community created to connect women with daily tips and solutions to live a passionate life and build a thriving business.

Insight from this episode:

The benefits of sharing your vision in a way that allows others to opt into your energy.
Strategies for building a community around your brand and details on your responsibilities as a brand builder.
Questions to ask yourself as you communicate your message to the market.
Tips for monetizing or leveraging your own podcast.

Quotes from the show:

"In my mind, 'Let's make a podcast' meant 'Let's build a brand'... I did always have in my mind what the story could be. Whenever I have an idea… I sit down and I jot it out and I imagine what the tentacles can be and how far it can go." –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783
"Do this right now, start this right now, before the people get here… Build it so that when they show up, they can see how you operate on social media, they can see all the other things that you have." –Elayne Fluker Support is Sexy Ep. #783
"When you're building a brand, you have to know that your vision is good enough. You have to be fully satisfied with the idea that you may be the only customer for a long time. You have to have that internal esteem." –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783
"That's the gift of having a vision and stepping into it. We don't get to decide how far and wide it goes, and thank God we don't because we would restrict it." –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783
"Yes, you are a brand. And yes, you have a brand. It's your unique way of being. It's your unique way of doing. It's your unique way of feeling. It's the way that you make other people's senses come alive." –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783
"You'd be remiss if you did not understand: Customer is community." –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783
"I look at the podcast as more of a platform. I see all of the facets of real estate. These are all the things that are properties that another brand would see the value of if they were given the opportunity." –Sybil Amuti Support is Sexy Ep. #783

Resources Mentioned

CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)!

The Great Girlfriends Podcast

Force of Beauty by Mikki Taylor

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Sybil Amuti

Website: https://sybilamuti.com/about-sybil/

Twitter: @sybil_amuti

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LinkedIn: Sybil Clark-Amuti

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782: Why Kindness is a Core Value for Today's Most Successful Businesses with Cole Baker of Cool Audrey Jun 29, 2021

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In this episode of Support is Sexy, Founder and Chief Kindness Advisor of Cool Audrey, Cole Baker, shares why she believes kindness can change the way we do business and how we can make more soul moves instead of power moves. Cole moved out of the corporate world in order to make the corporate world a more kind place, and she shares exactly how she did it in this episode of Support is Sexy.

Elayne Fluker

Elayne Fluker is the author of the new book, "Get Over 'I Got It': How to Stop Playing Superwoman, Get Support and Remember that Having It All Doesn't Mean Doing It All Alone." As host of the SUPPORT IS SEXY podcast, she interviews more than 500 successful women entrepreneurs around the world, who share inspiring, true stories of the ups and the downs of their entrepreneurial journeys. Elayne is also founder of SiS.Academy, an online learning platform for women entrepreneurs. For more information about Elayne Fluker, please visit elaynefluker.com. Thank you for listening!

About our Guest:

Cole Baker-Bagwell is the Founder and Chief Kindness Advisor of Cool Audrey. She spent over two decades in sales and strategy roles with companies both good and toxic where she learned that business is about people and kindness makes business better. Now she shares a big human approach for business through Cool Audrey and two feel-good podcasts: Kindness Think Tank and Little Shots of Kindness.

Insight from this episode:

How to remember to pay attention to your "sizzle" and trust your instincts.
What kindness means to Cole and strategies for practicing kindness to self.
Tips for making more choices that "do no harm" and create more connections and possibilities.
Practical steps to take when looking to leave the comfort of "golden handcuffs."

Quotes from the show:

"The first time we're told [as children] 'well that's silly or you can't be that', we begin to develop this little shell, and when we do that we not only close ourselves from the possibilities around us, but we actually become quite disconnected from the instincts that we have. We stop trusting that inner voice, that instinct, that actually knows best all the time." –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782
"We are mirrors. However, we are treating, referring to self, we're going to reflect that out into the world. Being kind means accepting and loving the way we are right now, free of judgment." –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782
"There are these beautiful plaques that hang on the wall: We are transparent. We are kind. We are inclusive… my favorite question is, well, show me your evidence, how are you living into those things?" –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782
"Everybody's done research around kindness. They're saying this is the bridge to human connection, and by the way, companies are communities of human beings. And the people they work with are also human beings. If we don't get that human part right, we're kind of toasted aren't we?" –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782
"Am I more afraid to leave and try? Or am I more afraid to stay?" –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782
"I had very dear friends and family members say, 'You are insane. Are you going through like a midlife crisis?' No, I'm actually living into myself." –Cole Baker Support is Sexy Ep. #782

Resources Mentioned

CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)!

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Elayne Fluker

Website: elaynefluker.com

Twitter: @elaynefluker

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Cole Baker

Website: https://coolaudrey.com/about

Instagram: @kindnessthinktank

LinkedIn: Cole Baker-Bagwell

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781: Egg Freezing, IVF, Surrogacy -- Global Fertility Connections CEO Ama Gordon Discusses the Business of Having a Baby Jun 22, 2021

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In this episode of Support is Sexy, Ama Gordon, Co-Founder of Global Fertility Connections, shares about all things fertility, the support that's out there for you, and how you can advocate for yourself. If you've ever wished you had someone to ask your questions about freezing your eggs or surrogacy, then you won't want to miss this conversation on this episode of Support is Sexy.

Elayne Fluker

About our Guest:

Ama Gordon is Co-Founder of Global Fertility Connections, a fertility concierge service that helps Intended Parents navigate their fertility journey on the path to parenthood with egg freezing, in vitro fertilization, and third-party reproductive services including surrogacy and egg donation. Their mission is to empower Intended Parents as they build their families with trust, transparency, and personalize patient care.

Resources Mentioned

CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)!

Global Fertility Connections

Insight from this episode:

Details on what working with Global Fertility Connections looks like and current trends in fertility.
Elayne's and Ama's stories with fertility and getting support in this area.
What you need to ask yourself if you're thinking of freezing your eggs and tips for going about it the right way.
Ways to make sure you're getting the care that you deserve.

Quotes from the show:

On why she started her business: "There were some gaps in the information [from doctors], or it wasn't holistic enough, or it wasn't nuanced or personalized for them enough, or the doctor just might have not had enough time to give them the in-depth answer they were really looking for, so then they go down the Google hole." –Ama Gordon Support is Sexy Ep. #781
"Egg freezing shows that you're proactive. It shows that you're doing what it takes to empower yourself and to take control, and there's not necessarily a negative connotation to it." –Ama Gordon Support is Sexy Ep. #781
"You don't really know what you need until you need it, and you don't know what you don't know until you get there." –Ama Gordon Support is Sexy Ep. #781
"Fibroids are very common for women of color, and I wish it was talked about more often. But oftentimes, somewhere in the family-- whether it's a mother, grandmother, aunt, sister-- someone may be struggling or has struggled with something, and we're not talking about it amongst friends and family." –Ama Gordon Support is Sexy Ep. #781
"We're [Black people] are often ignored. Or just kind of treated blanketly, like okay, try this or try that. I think it's time that we get the care and attention that we need, which is what we're trying to do one client at a time." –Ama Gordon Support is Sexy Ep. #781

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Ama Gordon

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780: How to Trust Your Gut and Make Your Next Best Move Jun 15, 2021

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I'm at a crossroads, y'all. My book, Get Over "I Got It" is officially out in the world. (And a huge thank you to all of you who supported me by buying a copy -- whether print book or audiobook). This journey, three years in the making, has been an extraordinary learning experience for me. This dream, a lifetime in the making, was finally checked off the list.

But you know what no one tells you to prepare for? The "now what" part of the journey. I'm sure there are authors and entrepreneurs who planned that next chapter way in advance. I didn't. And now, as I said, I'm at a crossroads.

Which isn't a bad thing. And in this episode, I share how I'm navigating this part of the journey, living a few important questions and choosing to be open to being guided by spirit -- with support, of course. I'm committed to my calling, which I believe is to help women learn how to get the support they deserve for success and fulfillment. But answering that calling isn't always easy.

Whatever part of your journey you're going through right now, I hope you remember to get quiet, listen to that internal voice ("trust your gut") and then make your next, best move.

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779: Let People Show Up for You Jun 08, 2021

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In this episode of Support is Sexy, Katherine and Nick North, who are featured in Elayne's new book "Get Over 'I Got It," rejoin the podcast to talk about pride, support, creating safe spaces, and letting people show up for you. Hear more about asking courageously and answering with radical honesty in this episode of Support is Sexy.

Elayne Fluker

About our Guest:

Katherine North is a writer and executive coach, helping high achieving, secretly sensitive women declare dominion over their demanding lives. She is the author of Holy Heathen: A Spiritual Memoir. Nick North is a brand strategist, speaker, and influencer who helps solopreneurs and corporations create more money, more impact, and more meaning in their businesses. Together, they made an award-winning documentary, Just Another Beautiful Family, and recently appeared on Discovery Plus show Life Under Renovation.

Insight from this episode:

Why we don't need to be the martyr ever and how to create safe spaces for ourselves.
The benefits of focusing on the possible as opposed to what's probable.
Tips for getting comfortable with the "uncomfortable asking."
How to tell when you're happily giving, tolerating, or enduring, and why you must protect your own emotional wellness and negotiate when necessary.

Quotes from the show:

"I had a feeling of, like, I need to stick it out here because there needs to be a beacon of light. But then I got to the spot where I was like, actually no, that doesn't have to be my job, and I've done it enough and my kids need to be in a spot now where they don't feel different all the time." –Nick North Support is Sexy Ep. #779
On being straight passing: "There is a cost to it. There's a cost to every time someone says something terrible to you, even if they didn't mean it to be terrible. Even if their intention wasn't to hurt you. It still hurts." –Nick North Support is Sexy Ep. #779
On the uncomfortable asking: "That can feel really scary. That could be a huge fight. That could potentially open up big cracks in the foundation that you were just really hoping you wouldn't have to look at." –Katherine North Support is Sexy Ep. #779
"If my "why" has good intentions… then I can change it from it being about me to it being about giving back… If I can go back to the why I need that support, it usually has a really good intention behind it that will put good things into the world… If I have to trick myself to take care of myself that way, I'm for it." –Nick North Support is Sexy Ep. #779

Resources Mentioned

CLICK HERE to get 50% off the audiobook of Get Over "I Got It" by Elayne Fluker (HarperCollins Leadership)!

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Holy Heathen: A Spiritual Memoir

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