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The 4 Parenting Love Tips Apply to Teens Too Sep 19, 2019

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We look back on the 4 ways to express love that your child will experience as love and apply it to teens. Yes, they need your love too!

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7 Ways You Are NOT Listening Sep 17, 2019

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7 ways that you are not listening:

You say you understand.
You say you have an answer before you've heard the problem.
You cut someone off before they finish speaking.
You finish someone's sentences.
You're dying to tell me something while I am talking.
You share your experiences instead.
You refuse my thanks.

Your homework assignments -

Notice when you are not listening.
Accept gratitude.

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"Safe & Social" Song by Miles Irving & Forager, Ltd. Sep 05, 2019

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Watch the “Safe & Social” music video - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ql2TGMRDh7k&feature=youtu.be Miles Irving Website - https://www.milesirving.com/ Forager - https://www.forager.org.uk/wild-food-blog/19-ideas-philosophy/140-worldwild-podcast More Polyvagal Podcast content in the Members' Area - https://www.justinlmft.com/members Benjo Beats - https://soundcloud.com/benjobeats

Consequence Fundamentals for Parents Sep 03, 2019

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All about consequences in this episode:

Why they are important
When they mean nothing
Positive consequences vs gift/reward/bribe
Natural consequences

Your homework assignment - Plan out your consequence structure and discuss with everyone that needs to be a part of it.

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Deb Dana Interview: Story Follows State, Climbing the Ladder and Diagnosing Aug 27, 2019

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Deb Dana - one third of my Polyvagal Trinity. Deb Dana is called "the Pied Piper of the Polyvagal Theory," and honestly someone I want to be like when I grow up. She does the stuff I do, but better and first. I gotta be honest. We talk in depth about:

"Story follows State"
Climbing the Polyvagal Ladder
Diagnosing

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You Are Not Your Diagnosis Aug 22, 2019

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You're not you're diagnosis. It's a label - a shorthand system for professionals to use - to collect "symptoms" that typically occur together. It makes communication among therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists easier. And that's the point of diagnoses. And insurance building.

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4 Ways to Express Love That Your Kids will Experience as Love Aug 20, 2019

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We go in depth into each of these four ways to express love. It's not enough to just love your kiddos, you also need to express it. And express it in ways they will be able to get.

1. Say it out loud

2. Write it down

3. Physical affection

4. Play

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Parental Anxiety About Kids' Trauma and Kids' Anxiety About School Aug 15, 2019

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We answer two questions from our amazing Listeners. We originally answered these on our weekly Instagram Live segment, which you can be a part of every Sunday at 915pm PST.

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Applying Parental Co-Regulation Aug 13, 2019

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Lots of co-regulation ground covered in this episode: