Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe Kort

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James Wadley on Black Culture and Sex & Sexuality Sep 15, 2019

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My guest this week believes black culture and sex and sexuality is a people issue, rather than a race issue. Dr. James Wadley, is an Associate Professor and Chair of the Counseling and Human Services Program at Lincoln University. He is also the founder and editor-In-chief of the Journal of Black Sexuality and Relationships. An expert on sexual diversity and race, James chats to Joe about his mission to bring openness and community to those from all walks of life. Especially those that might have otherwise shied away from getting sexual health help for themselves or their families. Listen to Joe ask, why minority groups tend not to seek out professional help for their sexual issues…

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Laura McGuire on Consent and the #MeToo Movement Sep 09, 2019

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“If you’re not comfortable to ask your partner during sex, “How are you doing? Is what I’m doing OK with you?,” then you’re not ready to have sex!” says this week’s guest, Dr. Laura McGuire. On this episode, Joe chats to Laura McGuire – a nationally recognized sexologist and consultant. Laura’s worked as an instructor, presenter, educator and trainer on topics including, Consent education and Sexual Harassment Prevention. Laura and Joe talk all things consent and the #metoo movement and Laura gives advice on what you should be asking before you hop between the sheets with someone. “You need to have conversations with each other ahead of sex, rather than in the moment when it can be manipulative or make you feel vulnerable,” says Laura.

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Nikki Prause on How Porn and Sex are Different in the Brain Aug 30, 2019

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There’s been a lot of noise in the media about porn use, with many doomsayers claiming that it triggers dangerous neurochemical changes in the brain. However, newer research says that just isn’t so. This week Joe talks with American neuroscientist, Nikki Prause, who thinks that porn and sex are totally different in the brain. Hear Nikki explain how her brain research debunks the myth that you can have an addiction to sex or porn. Brain science is hot these days, so listen to Nikki and Joe talk about how rigorous studies have not found sex addiction to be a real dependency, or reflective of any brain-related compulsion issues at all …

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Miles Striker on The Most Surprising Things About Being A Kink & Fetish Porn Star Aug 26, 2019

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Have you ever wondered what working in the fetish and kink adult movie scene is like? On this week’s episode, Joe meets Miles Striker – one of the most well-known actors in the adult fetish scene right now. Miles and Joe talk about the nitty gritty of the porn industry and Miles gives the lowdown on getting down for the camera. Joe asks, ‘What’s it like acting out scenes involving fetishes like, macrophilia (a fascination with or a sexual fantasy involving giants)?’ And, how exactly did Miles, an Iraq veteran, get into BDSM porn?

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Dr. Joe Kort on Male Sexual Fluidity Aug 19, 2019

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Why would straight identified men have sex with other men? Are they gay, bi or somewhere in between? Do you really understand what sexual fluidity is, or, even means? This week Joe talks about his book, ‘Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi?: A guide for women concerned about their men.’ Men are stigmatized for having one non-heterosexual thought, and women are fetishized for having one. Joe addresses the concerns of worried women who suspect their men are not straight. Listen to Joe help make sense of a confusing situation, plus make sense of ways couples can have sexual health conversations around the topic of sexual interests that don’t match one’s sexual orientation, and remain married, even with a ‘happy ever after’….

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Stephanie Sullivan on Polyamory Aug 15, 2019

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You’ve heard of polyamory, right? But, do you really understand what a polyamorous relationship looks like? This week Joe chats with Stephanie Sullivan, a polyamory-affirmative therapist to talk all things polyamory. Is it just cheating? Why do some people confuse it with affairs or infidelity? Even while our society has made incredible strides in the legalization of same-sex marriage, the idea that a relationship could include more than two people has remained a taboo—even when one in five Americans claim that they have been in a relationship with more than one person. Hear Joe and Stephanie dispel the polyamory myths. Does it work?” And “How do people make it work?”

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Laurie Mintz on Becoming Cliterate and Bridging the Orgasm Gap Aug 05, 2019

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Why is it women say they orgasm far less from penetrative sex with their partner, whereas men say they orgasm nearly every time? And, how unfair is this for women! This week on Smart Sex, Smart Love, Joe chats all things cliterate with Laurie Mintz – champion of bridging the orgasm gap and award winning college professor, who’s book, ‘Becoming Cliterate – Why Orgasm Equality Matters–And How to Get It’ is making the New York Times sit up and take climax notes. Laurie explains that we’ve been thinking about sex all wrong. Standard penetration is how men most reliably achieve orgasm. The problem is, women don’t orgasm this way. Laurie chats to Joe about the broader cultural problem that’s perpetuating this orgasm gap, and what we can do about it. The revolution is cuming—and Laurie offers a radical, simple solution to progress and pleasure for all. “Good communication is the bedrock of all relationships,” says Laurie. “And, good communication can literally, make The. Bed. Rock!”

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Ari Tuckman on Fidelity, Sex and Digital Toys Jul 28, 2019

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This week’s guest on Smart Sex, Smart Love, is psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Ari Tuckman. Ari and Joe delve deeper into what monogamy means for couples when it comes to sex and digital toys, and exactly what the notion of a ‘fidelity agreement’ means. Why should couples have conversations about what is and isn’t acceptable behavior in their relationship? How do fidelity needs evolve over time? And, how tight do fidelity agreements need to be for partners to feel secure? Ari also shares his knowledge of how couples can effectively tech up their sex life with digital sex toys, and how toys like the Fleshlight can cause controversy as well as pleasure. How do these digital sex toys impact relationships? Ari and Joe have all the sex tech cyber erotic answers you’ve been dying to download!

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Douglas Braun-Harvey on Out of Control Sexual Behaviors & Sex Addiction Jul 19, 2019

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Sexual health author, trainer and psychotherapist Douglas Braun-Harvey bridges sexual and mental health. A certified group Therapist, Certified Sex Therapy Supervisor and Certified Sex Therapist, Doug chats to Joe about Out of Control Sexual Behaviors, (OCSB) versus “Sex Addiction” on this week’s Smart Sex, Smart Love podcast. Doug is all about reconsidering the popular notions of addictive sex. His collaborative client/therapist treatment relationship is founded on the principle of men taking responsibility for defining and integrating their personal sexual health vision. So, Joe asks, ‘Do you think “sex addiction” really exists and if not what about his model of OCSB works more effectively?’

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Susan Kamen on Connecting Imago Relationship Therapy to Sex – Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr. Joe Kort Jul 19, 2019

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Have you heard of IMAGO Relationship Therapy, but have no idea what it is? This week on Smart Sex, Smart Love, Joe meets Susan Kamen, host of “Grow Your Guru,” a weekly show on NRM Streamcast. Susie is a certified Imago therapist and relationship specialist, teaching people the imago dialogue process to create safety, and to allow someone to be heard, especially on difficult topics like sex! Susie and Joe talk all things Imago relationship therapy, and how Imago therapy is different. Do you have conflict in your relationship? Are you looking for an opportunity for some healing and growth in your dialogue with your partner? Then, this is the podcast for you! Listen to Susie explain how collaborative a process Imago therapy is, and how it can significantly benefit you within your relationship and gain a better understanding of yourself and your partner.

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