Smart Sex, Smart Love with Dr Joe Kort

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Chris Wilson on Men and Body Image Nov 11, 2019

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Men are increasingly concerned about their body ideals, and yet, society generally minimizes these concerns or doesn’t acknowledge them.

We have a society of men who feel unable to speak up about these concerns and often sit with it, which causes them to have emotional distress which can result in depression, Body Dysmorphic Disorder, and health issues related to excessive exercise and rigid food consumption. Listen as Joe and Pennsylvanian therapist Chris Wilson, chat about the emotional distress men can experience with the pressures on them to have the ‘perfect’ body, and how social media and celebrities play their part in men’s body image dysmorphia. For men’s mental health, “we need to break this code of silence men have on talking about their bodies,” says Chris.

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Tina Schermer Sellers on Why Sex Is Better Without Shame Nov 04, 2019

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Our sex stories are one of the most important stories one needs to be clear about,” says this week’s guest, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers. Clinical Sexologist, Tina, believes that our sex history is not a cohesive narrative in most of us, but it needs to be to lead a sex life that is free of shame. Hear Joe and Tina discuss how religious sexual shame is the earliest and greatest form of shame, affecting a person’s core belief in their worthiness to be accepted by those who mean the most to them. And how sex and bias education is what equips us to stand up to sexual shame.

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Jess and Joe on ‘Side Sex’ and What Anal Sex Means to You Oct 28, 2019

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This week Joe meets Jess, a twenty-something woman, who has a lot to say on the subject of enjoying sex without penetration. This episode, all about sex on the side, pegging and anal sex, deals with the subject of what counts as sex with your partner. Does it have to be penetrative to be sex? Do you have to be a top, or a bottom? If you’re a ‘side,’ is it still sex? What if you just like pegging? As Jess says, “If you have an orgasm, it’s sex!”

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Jacob Rostovsky on Transgender Issues Oct 21, 2019

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“When you’re born in the wrong gender, your gender changes, not necessarily your sexuality,” says this week’s guest, transgender activist, Jacob Rostovsky. Jacob, who came out at 13 years old as trans, has been fighting for transgender rights, acceptance and access to affirmative care ever since. Jacob believes there is no one way to be trans, especially when it comes to exploring someone’s transgender and sexual identity. Hear Joe and Jacob talk about trans sex and sexuality – it’s less complicated than you think, and why gender expression is what you go to bed wearing, rather than who you are with.”

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Jo Langford on LGBTQ Youth Oct 14, 2019

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“The language kids use these days about sexuality can be exhausting,” says this week’s guest, Jo Langford. “We often have to coax out the meat of what kids are saying, because the landscape of sexuality language and what words mean to them, is changing very fast all the time.” On this episode Joe chats to Jo Langford – therapist, author and sex educator for tweens, teens and parents. His newest book, The Pride Guide, is a guide to sexual and social development, safety and health for queer youth and their families. Jo and Joe talk all things around gender diversity and the needs of trans and non-confirming youth. “We need kids to see they’re represented in the therapists office,” says Jo.

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Round-Table Chat on Coming Out in honor of National Coming Out Day Oct 11, 2019

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Jane, Jared and Nick join Joe for this special episode to chat all things ‘Coming Out.’ Three different guests, all with different experiences of coming out, talk about the highs of finally being able to live their lives authentically, and the lows of the effect coming out had on their families. Each guest has been on a winding journey of self-acceptance to get to where they are today – Jane happily engaged to her fiancée, Jare, who self-identifies as bisexual, firstly coming out as gay, then coming out a second time as demisexual, and Nick, who was born female-bodied, then medically diagnosed as Intersex, and now following a few gender confirmation surgeries, living life as a man. Joe explores their personal stories, and asks, “What was coming out like for you?”

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Jim Gerardi on Coming Out in honor of National Coming Out Day Oct 11, 2019

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“It was more or less common before the 1970s for gay men not to come out to their families,” says this episode’s guest, 81-year-old, author, Jim Gerardi. “If your family knew you were gay, back then, no one said anything and that could go on like that for years!” On this special episode in honor of national Coming Out Day, Joe chats to Jim about his coming out story. Jim tells Joe how he didn’t come out to his parents until he was 39-years-old. What has gay life been like for Jim? What changes has he seen in the community? Jim and Joe chat about all of that, plus what led Jim to write his book, ‘Jerome’, a searing story of two teenage boys and a girl seeking their sexual identities in the 1950s…

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Dominic Davies on Pink Therapy for LGBTQ & Other Sexual Health Issues Oct 07, 2019

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This week’s show addresses the importance of training therapists beyond cultural competency. Just learning the right pronouns is not enough! On this episode, Joe chats to Dominic Davies, a psychotherapist and clinical sexologist in the UK, who has become what some call, the Father of Queer Therapy in England. Dominic and Joe talk about the differences between diversity in the USA and the UK. Plus, why we all need well-trained therapists who truly understand the impact of minority stress towards groups such as LGBTQ and GRSD people. How can we, as therapists, build resilience for them?

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Rachel Needle on Surprising Reasons Sex is Good for Your Health Sep 30, 2019

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This week’s guest on Smart Sex, Smart Love is Licensed Psychologist and Certified Sex Therapist, Dr. Rachel Needle. Together, she and Joe Kort talk about why it is so important for therapists to talk about sex when working with individuals or couples, how our biggest sex organ is our brain, how sex is good for you, and, what couples can do to keep the passion alive in their relationship! Physical intimacy is extremely important in a relationship and it’s good for you! Joe and Rachel get down to the nitty gritty of exactly why sex is good for your health. Plus, they talk Modern Sex Therapy Institutes and the courses and certifications they offer:

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Trey Lyon on Male Sexual Fluidity and Porn Sep 23, 2019

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Sometimes there’s just so much to say on a topic, that’s it’s hard to cram it all into one episode. That’s certainly the case with this week’s guest, sex-positive advocate, Trey Lyon. Founder of Fuck Yeah! Friendly Fire – a leading-edge blog source for heteroflexible pornography, Trey’s amassed a quarter of a million followers on his journey towards the de-stigmatization of integrating pornography fully into one’s sexuality. Listen as Joe and Trey delve deeper into what fluid sexuality looks like, and how one can find a life of peaceful sexual self-acceptance, despite what society might balk at. They also chat about males who are heteroflexible and able to be sexual with other men. “Just because someone watches porn regularly, it doesn’t make them an ‘addict,’” says Trey.

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