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Exploring Internal Family Systems with Dr. Richard Schwartz May 29, 2023

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen have the pleasure of sitting down with Dr. Richard Schwartz, fellow psychotherapist and the creator of the therapeutic modality Internal Family Systems (IFS). Dick has written some of Em & Jen's favorite books to recommend to you all like No Bad Parts and You are the One You’ve Been Waiting For, which was just re-released earlier this month! Dr. Schwartz shares the basic concepts of IFS, what it means to have different "parts" of ourselves and where they might have originated, how to start uncovering those parts, and the way IFS has become integrated with psychedelic-assisted therapy. Dick answers a listener's question about applying IFS principles to daily life by doing an enactment with Jen of an exercise. The episode wraps with Dick calling some BS in the field of therapy. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Getting Underneath Your Need to be Right May 22, 2023

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On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about the need to be right and why it can be so hard to let this go. They start off the episode by sharing how each of them feels about being right in their relationships and also with one another. They expand on the importance of feeling heard and seen, why it can be easier to let arguments go with some people and not others, where stubbornness can come from, and being right vs. being close. Emmalee and Jen tell us how to work toward getting underneath the need to be right and examining where it might come from. They answer your questions about making mistakes at work, how to navigate the need to be right with a partner, the fear of being wrong and so much more! The episode wraps up with a Dear Em & Jen question about a listener who may be compromising their own growth just to prove a point. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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When Fear Gets in the Way May 15, 2023

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about fear and resistance and what to do when they get in the way. They highlight the various responses we all can have to fear: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn and share which responses the two of them typically experience. Emmalee and Jen discuss the nuances that exist with fear and how fear can both help us and hurt us. They answer your questions about a fear of being less than, the shame spiral that can occur when fear wins, how to work on rewiring our brains from triggers we learned in our childhood, feeling paralyzed by fear, our appetites for risk, and so much more! The episode wraps up with a Dear Em & Jen about a listener's Mother in Law violating her and her partner's boundaries. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Finding Joy in the Routine May 08, 2023

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen dive into a topic that many were curious to hear about: finding joy in the day-to-day routine. They discuss how they each find joy in their day to day, tips for how to incorporate it, and the challenge of transitioning out of a chaotic period of life to a calmer one. Emmalee and Jen answer listener questions about minimizing the pressure to always do more, changing up the routine as a stay-at-home mom, comparing to those with “glamorous” lifestyles on social media, finding joy through depression, starting a routine with ADHD, and so much more! Lastly, they answer a Dear Em & Jen question about a sibling always one-upping/copying. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Is it a Reg Flag or Just Not a Good Fit? May 01, 2023

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by one of their amazing clinicians from The Therapy Group, Lauren Larkin, LMHC, and they are talking all things dating! Lauren shares some of the work she does with her clients around dating, a specific exercise she uses, her own personal red flag/deal breaker story, and how she worked through it. Em, Jen, and Lauren answer your questions about dating red flags, share why they disagree with some of the rigid dating advice that’s out there, and discuss the many nuances and gray areas around dating. Tune in to find out why Lauren thinks closure is BS and to gain some insight, awareness, and action when it comes to red flags, deal breakers, and if there's room for flexibility!

Lauren's TikTok: @leltherapy

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Things We Want to Hold Onto From our Families Apr 24, 2023

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Emmalee and Jen often talk about intergenerational trauma/patterns and how to work on breaking those patterns in your adult life. This week on ShrinkChicks, they are talking about the other side of the coin: the things we want to keep from our families of origin, the really great things that are passed down. Em and Jen shift the focus from what we don’t want to take with us to what we do. They share some listener responses to this question, the things from their own families that they hold onto, how challenging and triggering it was to take their parent’s advice as young adults, the nuances that exist in our relationships with our parents, love languages being passed down, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Why is it So Hard to Stop Comparing? Apr 17, 2023

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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are diving into the topic of comparison: why we compare, where it can come from, and the inevitability of it. They answer your questions about different kinds of comparison like body comparison, life stage comparison, career comparison, relationship comparison, and getting in touch with the feeling underneath it. They also cover competition between siblings, jealousy and envy, and the "keeping up with the Joneses" mentality. The episode ends with a Dear Em & Jen about a listener's partner still being in touch with their ex. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Why We Crave External Validation Apr 10, 2023

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen dig into the topic of external validation: why we want it, where the need/want comes from, and how to start internalizing it so we can give that validation to ourselves. They normalize the desire for it, help us to understand the function of it, discuss when seeking external validation can be risky, and how much is too much. Emmalee and Jen talk about how the times in which we are feeling insecure can create an increased need for external validation and how anxiety can tie into it. They answer a Dear Em & Jen about only having one child and the desire for external validation to support this listener's decision. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Your Postpartum Questions Answered Apr 03, 2023

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about all things postpartum! The episode begins with Jen interviewing Em about her postpartum experience through listener questions. Emmalee shares her firsthand and vulnerable perspective on the transition into motherhood, and gives her insight into listener experiences. They are then joined by the wonderful Erica Djossa, fellow therapist and host of the Momwell Podcast, to answer two listener questions in depth, one about postpartum rage and the second, about the difference between postpartum anxiety and baseline worrying. Emmalee, Jen, and Erica discuss postpartum in COVID, societal expectations of mothers, intrusive thoughts, the “perfect mother myth,” and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

Book mentioned in today’s episode: Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts

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Self-Awareness Hell with Kaitlyn Bristowe Mar 27, 2023

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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen sit down with the one and only Kaitlyn Bristowe! They hear all about Kaitlyn's inner child work retreat experience: her fears before going, what it was like while she was there, what surprised her, and coming back to reality after it was over. Emmalee, Jen, and Kaitlyn discuss what led her to pursue the retreat, why healing doesn't have an ultimate destination, and the people in our lives who aren't doing the work. Kaitlyn calls some BS on relationships through the lens of social media and tells us her #1 takeaway from the retreat. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

Kaitlyn's Podcast Off the Vine

Kaitlyn's wine Spade & Sparrows

Kaitlyn's Instagram

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