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Getting Out of a Shame Spiral Oct 09, 2023

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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are covering the highly requested topic of shame. They start the episode off by distinguishing between the emotions of guilt and shame as they can feel quite similar but are very different. Then they share some of Brene Brown's research including the 3 things shame needs to survive and how to get out of a shame spiral with tangible steps. Emmalee and Jen discuss healing from shame, shame and judgment and how they can go hand in hand, the difference between secrecy and privacy, a therapist's perspective on client's shame, overcoming body shame, the shame and stigma surrounding mental health, and the shame that can come from holding onto shame for so long. How many times can we say shame in one episode description? Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6 minutes into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

Books Mentioned in Dear Em & Jen:

Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel

Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder by Shari Y. Manning, Ph.D.

Stop Walking On Eggshells by Paul T. Mason & Randi Kreger

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson

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What If I Make The Wrong Decision? Oct 02, 2023

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about decisions and why decision-making can be so challenging. They share what they each do when struggling to make a decision, a tangible exercise to help you with decision-making, and answer your questions about feeling stuck in a decision. They discuss their thoughts on "the one," making "the right" decisions, managing other people's/society's opinions and expectations, why you may have analysis paralysis, the fear of regret, decisions and confidence, and so much more! The episode ends with A Dear Em & Jen about being on the fence about having kids. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 7 minutes into their convo to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.

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Not Everything is About You Sep 25, 2023

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On today's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are revisiting the topic: how to stop taking sh*t personally! You can listen to this one on its own, and for more check out the episode: How to Stop Taking Sh*t Personally. Emmalee and Jen pick the topic back up by answering a question about rejection sensitivity and explaining what it looks like. They then discuss how taking things personally can connect to our deepest insecurities, the shame and guilt behind taking things personally, and the link between personalization and people-pleasing. Emmalee and Jen share their mantras to pull yourself out of taking things personally, explain how we internalize taking things personally from a young age, discuss taking an association with a family member personally, and so much more! The episode ends with a Dear Em & Jen about a listener feeling second best compared to their partner. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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How To Get Better with Confrontation Sep 18, 2023

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are covering a highly requested topic: confrontation and how to get more comfortable with it! They start by normalizing how challenging confrontation can be. They share questions to ask yourself like what does confrontation mean to you and what does it look like for you, historically? Then they answer your questions about why confrontation can be so scary, what to do if you freeze or blackout during a confrontation, different ways to approach confrontation, how to decipher between when to confront and when to let it go, and why assertive people can be harder to confront. Emmalee and Jen share strategies for confrontation, remind you that it's okay to cry, and give you direct tips on how to bring up something that you've been putting off for a long time. The episode concludes with a Dear Em & Jen about "therapizing" your partner. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Creating Your Chosen Family Sep 11, 2023

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about chosen family. They discuss popular sayings like "blood is thicker than water" and "you only get one (insert family member here)" and why these don't apply to everyone. They explain that it's not all or nothing; a chosen family doesn't require the absence of a biological family. Emmalee and Jen answer your questions about finding and creating a chosen family, how to not feel like you're betraying your biological family by having a chosen one, grieving the fact that your biological family can't be there for you or support you in certain ways, and so much more! The episode ends with a Dear Em & Jen about navigating the wedding planning process with divorced parents and how it brings back a flood of emotions from childhood. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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Rewind: Carrying The Mental Load Sep 04, 2023

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Today on ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen are practicing what they preach by resting and taking the week off from a new episode. They don't want to leave you all hanging of course, so they're re-releasing one of their most listened-to episodes: Carrying The Mental Load. Emmalee and Jen break down the term "mental load," which is also known as cognitive labor. They discuss gender roles and how the mental load has historically fallen on women, the over-functioning/under-functioning dynamic in relationships and what it might look like, why the mental load falls onto the person who cares more, being the default parent, what to do when you feel like you’re the only one who knows how to do it "right," and so much more. Dear Em & Jen answers a listener's question about constantly having to remind her partner to help around the house. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! Emmalee and Jen will be back with a new episode next week!

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How Your History Alters Your Brain Aug 28, 2023

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On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are honored to be joined by Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT, LPC, SEP. Jules is a therapist specializing in trauma recovery, interpersonal neurobiology, and couples work and she shares her incredible knowledge with us all today! The episode begins with Jules explaining how to use neurobiology as a basis to understand ourselves and our triggers. She shares how trauma - and our own histories - can alter the brain, how our brain systems are sometimes in conflict, the science behind why self-compassion is more successful than self-criticism, rage as a bid for connection, and so much more! Jules teaches us how to work toward creating a pause between what we feel and what we do as well as shares tangible tools to have more productive communication within our relationships. She even does a live example of an exercise she practices with Emmalee! You do not want to miss this insightful and important episode!

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Improving Communication in Your Relationship Aug 21, 2023

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Today on ShrinkChicks Emmalee and Jen are communicating about communicating! They discuss how to improve communication in your relationship(s), identifying your specific pain points when communicating, being the external processor or the internal processor, the difference between honesty and being harsh, asserting your needs vs. being controlling, what to do when you're having the same fight or disagreement over and over again, and effective communication strategies! The episode ends with a Dear Em & Jen about moving back in with your parents as an adult. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action!

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How to Break-Up with Your Therapist & More Aug 14, 2023

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This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are answering all of your questions about therapy! They discuss why they each chose this career, where to start when looking for a therapist, how to break up with your therapist & find a new one, how to know if you've found the right therapist, how to make the most of your sessions, and why it can be hard to be fully honest with your therapist. Emmalee and Jen also read some of your therapist horror stories that leave them shook. The episode wraps with a Dear Em & Jen about changing careers to become a therapist. Tune in for some Therapy 101 and tangible tips to get started on your therapeutic journey!

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