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EP112 - Does Polyamory Work? Feb 26, 2019

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Welcome to episode 112 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Martha Kauppi, LMFT to the podcast. In this conversation, Martha speaks to me about polyamorous relationships, the common misconceptions people have around polyamory, how therapists can work with polyamory from a differentiation perspective?

Martha Kauppi, LMFT, is an educator, AASECT-certified sex therapist and supervisor, and AAMFT-approved supervisor. She specializes in relational sex therapy, including alternative family structures, and trains therapists to work effectively at the intersection of sex issues and relationship challenges.

Martha’s mission is to make sex a safe topic in therapy rooms everywhere by developing unique educational experiences and immediately-applicable learning materials for therapists.

In this episode, you will hear:

The alternative relationship structures Martha has worked with
How she became interested in polyamory
The challenges people face in polyamorous relationships
How Martha’s research showed polyamorous relationships can last for 26 years
The sense of community and support polyamory can provide
The common misconceptions people have around polyamory
How not every polyamorous relationship is sexual
The fear and intimidation people still face around this issue
The role that jealousy can play in polyamory
How therapists can work with polyamory from a differentiation perspective?

Resources

http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2018/06/12/ep75-polyamory-and-finding-loves/

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EP111 - Opening Up Your Relationship Feb 19, 2019

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Welcome to episode 111 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Lourdes Viado to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Viado speaks to me about open relationships, how they work, the essential tools you’ll need to navigate this path and why some people will go back to monogamy after an open relationship.

Dr. Lourdes Viado is a depth psychologist, providing psychotherapy for adults in her private practice in Las Vegas NV, as well as mentorship and consulting services to clients world-wide.

She is a Myers-Briggs Typology Indicator (MBTI) Certified Practioner and uses a Jungian approach in her work with clients, integrating mindfulness, dream work, shadow work, metaphor, literature, poetry and astrology in her work with clients

She is also the host of the top-rated Women In-Depth Podcast: Conversations about the Inner Lives of Women, which has been downloaded over 225,000x in 96 countries and 6 continents.

In this episode, you will hear:

The different types of open relationships
How open relationships are more common than most people realise
What does the fidelity agreement look like?

Questions you should ask yourself before considering opening up your relationship
Understand and process the reasons why you want to open up your relationship
How for some the idea of an open relationship is better than the reality of one
How there is no right or wrong to come to an agreement on an open relationship, each one is entirely unique
The essential tools you’ll need to navigate this path

The importance of open communication and not going down the path of not wanting to know what your partner may or may not be doing
Why some people will go back to monogamy after an open relationship

Resources

Women In-Depth Podcast

www.lourdesviado.com

http://sextherapyhawaii.com

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EP110 - Why Do Many People Fake Orgasms? Feb 12, 2019

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Welcome to episode 110 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Dr. Janet Brito to the podcast. In this conversation, Dr. Brito speaks to me about why people fake orgasms, the reasons for doing so and ways to break through this issue and have better sex.

Dr. Janet Brito is an AASECT-certified sex therapist who also has a license in clinical psychology and social work. She is a graduate of Pacifica Graduate Institute and completed her postdoctoral fellowship from the University of Minnesota Medical School, one of only a few university programs in the world dedicated to sexuality training. Currently, she’s based in Honolulu, Hawaii and is the founder of the Center for Sexual and Reproductive Health, where she specializes in the areas of relationship and sex therapy, out of control sexual behavior, and gender and sexually diverse populations.

Dr. Brito has been featured on many outlets, including The Huffington Post, Playboy, Healthline, Women’s Health Magazine, Thrive Global, and Midweek Publications. Her dissertation A phenomenological analysis on infertility in Mexican women living in the United States was recently published in the Revista Interamericana de Psicologia/Interamerican Journal of Psychology.

In this episode, you will hear:

How common is it for people to fake orgasms?
The reasons why someone might fake an orgasm?
The influence that pornography has had on our sexual expectations
Why pornography is not a good resource to shape your sexual template
The need for more stimulation and foreplay to achieve better sex

Why there is no right or wrong way of having sex
Learning to be attentive and focus on your partners needs and desires
Be open and honest with your partner so you can communicate effectively around this issue
Why orgasms can be inconsistent and unreliable
How men are more able to compartmentalize relationship issues from sex

Resources

https://www.instagram.com/drjanetbrito

https://oasis2care.com/trauma/codependency-and-trauma

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EP109 - Healing from Sexual Assault Feb 05, 2019

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Welcome to episode 109 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome Shannon McHenry, LMFT to the podcast. In this conversation, Shannon speaks to me about working with trauma and sexual assault victims, the challenges that sexual assault victims have with their sexuality and how partners can support their loved ones through this process.

Shannon McHenry, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a specialty focus in childhood trauma, rape and battering, and PTSD. She is a trauma therapist in Los Angeles and works with clients in her offices in Los Feliz and Torrance.

Combining clinical experience with a passion to support women in repairing their relationships with themselves and others, she has supported many to create a long-lasting recovery from destructive behaviors. Call Shannon today to book your first appointment.

If you are struggling with recovery and would like to know more about Shannon’s services, contact her today for a free consultation.

In this episode, you will hear:

How Shannon became interested in working with trauma
The challenges that sexual assault victims have with their sexuality
Physiological responses from trauma survivors

Why victims of sexual might blame themselves and not seek the help they need
How the idea of revealing clothing being the root cause of sexual assaults undermines men’s sophistication and levels of control
The way in which alcohol and other substances can be used as an excuse for sexual assault
Understanding that consenting to one form of sexual interaction doesn’t by default also mean consenting sexual intercourse
What does sex look like for victims in the long term?

How partners can support their loved ones through this process

Resources

https://oasis2care.com/trauma-therapist-torrance/

https://dppattibritton.com

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EP108 - Toxic Shame Reduction & Removal Using a Sexological Approach Jan 29, 2019

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Welcome to episode 108 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to welcome back Dr. Patti Britton who speaks to me this time about toxic shame; why are there so many people struggling with this issue? The methods she uses to help overcome toxic shame and working towards sexual self-realization.

Dr. Patti Britton is a Clinical Sexologist, Sexuality Educator and the Pioneer of Sex Coaching with top level credentials. As a well-respected world leader in sexology, she is an academic, author of 5 books, popular speaker, trainer and workshop leader, and host of over 40 DVDs for couples’ sexual enhancement.

She is a frequent guest on expert summits, national television shows, documentaries, live talk and news radio, and is quoted in magazines, such as Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Women’s Health. She has a private practice in Los Angeles area and via Skype globally.

Dr. Patti is the Co-Founder of SexCoachU - the world’s premier credentialing and training organization for sex coaching with students in 65 countries and live training events in Europe and USA. With her late partner, Robert Dunlap, she hosted ground-breaking weekly radio podcasts on happy aging, which are archived at https://theboomdoctors.com

In this episode, you will hear:

Why are so many people struggling with sexual shame?
How many people have leftover issues from childhood around this issue
Methods and ways Dr. Patti uses to help remove toxic shame

The importance of focusing on both the psychological and physiological aspects of sexual shame
How toxic shame is systemic and endemic
The benefits of SAR training - Sexual Attitude Reassessment and Restructuring
The stigma and shame that still surrounds alternative sexualities
Working towards sexual self-realization

Resources

https://sexcoachu.com

Episode 14 with Dr. Patti - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/04/11/sexual-empowerment-with-dr-patti-britton/

http://www.HealthySex.com

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Hooked on Porn? Jan 22, 2019

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Welcome to episode 107 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am very excited to have returning to the podcast Wendy Maltz, LCSW, DST. Wendy was my guest on episode 35 and joins me again to speak to me about porn addiction, the consequences of using porn compulsively, how mindfulness and yoga can help with recovery and sexually reconnecting with your partner after porn addiction.

Wendy Maltz, LCSW, DST, is an internationally recognized sex therapist, author, and speaker, with more than thirty-five years of experience treating sex and intimacy concerns. She is the coauthor, with her husband Larry Maltz of The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography. Wendy is also author of the recovery classic The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, coauthor of Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies, and the editor of two poetry anthologies that celebrate healthy sexual intimacy. Wendy’s popular educational website, www.HealthySex.com, provides free articles, podcast interviews, posters, videos, and more to help people overcome sexual problems and develop skills for love-based sexual intimacy. 

In this episode, you will hear:

Is porn usage problematic?
The consequences of using porn compulsively
How we weren’t ready as a society for the amount of porn the internet provided
How between 8-15% of people who use porn will go on to develop a problem with it

Steps that can be taken to deal with unhealthy porn use
Recovering from porn addiction
Hearing how a listener’s husband went through the process of recovery
Ongoing side effects; E.G - Not being able to have sex without images of porn
How mindfulness and yoga can help with recovery
Sexually reconnecting with your partner after porn addiction

Resources

https://www.amazon.com/Porn-Trap-Essential-Overcoming-Pornography/dp/0061231878

https://www.amazon.com/The-Sexual-Healing-Journey-Survivors/dp/0062130730

https://www.amazon.com/Private-Thoughts-Exploring-Womens-Fantasies-ebook/dp/B00A8SKN6K

Episode 35 - http://www.sexologypodcast.com/2017/09/05/healing-from-sexual-assault-with-wendy-maltz-lcsw/

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EP106 - Sexbots: Creepy or Healthy? Jan 15, 2019

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Welcome to episode 106 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be talking with Dr. Holly Richmond who speaks to me about she became interested in sex tech, developments happening with teledildonic and the pros and cons of using sexbots.

Dr. Holly Richmond is a Somatic Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist (CST), and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT). She is one of North America’s leading sex therapists serving Hollywood’s elite as well as prominent corporate clientele, nationally and internationally. With offices in New York, Los Angeles and Portland, Dr. Holly is a trusted authority on sexual health issues with a significant media following.

She is regularly quoted in publications and media outlets including The New York Times, CNN, Shape, NBC, Wired, Forbes, Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, and Women’s Health. She is a sought-after consultant in the sex tech industry and is seen as a pioneer in bridging the gap between sexual health and entertainment. Dr. Holly’s ‘Next-Sex’ platform and forthcoming book reflect her keen interest in the exploration of sex and technology, and how they work together as human sexuality evolves in the 21st century.

A little reflection….

Why is sextech so exciting right now? This is our first step into somatic (body-based) technology. We are moving from something we hold to something we wear—the technology, and thus our sexuality, is more a piece of us than ever. Immersive technologies like VR, AR, MR, teledildonics and intimate companions facilitate experiential knowledge and connection through kinesthetic learning and eye contact that engenders competency, agency and mastery. People can try things with immersive technologies they may not try IRL. I believe my job, maybe even my mission, is to communicate to any industry that is interested in relationships, sex and intimate connection that they can’t miss this opportunity for enormous change and positive influence. How we connect intimately and sexually with others as well as ourselves will be dramatically different in five years, and astonishing, almost certainly mind-blowing in 20.

In this episode, you will hear:

How Dr. Holly became interested in sex tech

Developments happening with teledildonic
Using sexbots as part of sexual health treatment
The pros and cons of using sexbots
Understanding that sexbots are an addition and not replacement to your sex life
How can we use healthy eroticism in our sex lives?

Ways in which defects can affect couples’ agreements and relationships
Best places to start when researching into using teledildonic

Resources

http://www.next-sex.com

https://venturebeat.com/2018/06/02/10-ambitious-predictions-for-how-vr-ar-will-shape-our-world/

Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: An Illustrated Manual

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EP105 -Transformative Power of Sensate Focus Jan 08, 2019

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Welcome to episode 105 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I am delighted to be talking with Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW who speaks to me about sensate focus in sex therapy, what sensate focus entails and how sensate focus touch can also help with pain.

Linda Weiner, MSW, LCSW, is co-director of the Institute for Sexual & Relationship Therapy & Training with Dr. Constance Avery Clark.Linda is a speaker, writer, adjunct professor at the Brown School, Washington University in St. Louis, and was formerly a research and clinical associate at Masters & Johnson Institute.

Linda Weiner is a diplomate in clinical social work, a certified diplomate in sexology (American Board of Sexology) and is certified by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists as a sex therapist, supervisor, and CE provider.

In this episode, you will hear:

How Linda became interested in the specific techniques of sensate focus in sex therapy
What sensate focus entails
How modern busy lives have made it unrealistic to achieve sexual satisfaction
The way in which mindfulness relates to this issue
How sensate focus touch can also help with pain

Modifications and ways, you can practice sensate focus on your own
Understanding that sensate focus is not a prelude to sex

Resources

sextherapiststlouis@gmail.com

www.sextherapiststlouis.com

www.ISRTT.org

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/jsm.12483

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Sex Resolutions for The New Year Jan 01, 2019

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In this episode of Sexology, Dr. Nazanin Moali talks about the importance of setting up sex resolutions, why people’s resolutions’ fail and what are some of the best ways to transform your sex life according to the latest research.

In this episode, you will hear:

The barriers on improving your sexual life
The importance of length and type of foreplay for experiencing a mind blowing sex
How mindfulness and yoga can aid your libido
Relationships between sexual function and sleep
Three tips on tracking and improving your sleep
The first step you need to take if you want to incorporate mindfulness in your daily routine

References:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/30097137

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0006899311014302

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0005796714000497

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15497058

Resources

https://mindwell.healthy.ucla.edu/resources/sleep-well/