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Am I The Asshole? My Partner Doesn’t Like Oral Sex Nov 03, 2023

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Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more.

In today’s episode, you’ll learn:

The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies
How to work through ultimatums in relationships
Why your sex life should evolve over time

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Ages & Stages In Your Sex Life
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Flavored Lubes
Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
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Hack Your Dating Life w/ U Up? Oct 31, 2023

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Does dating ever feel like a second job? You’re not alone. Today, Jordana Abraham and Jared Freid of the popular U Up? podcast share tips to hack your dating life so you can make genuine connections while enjoying the process. Known for reading between the lines and giving their listeners the straight-up advice they need (but may not always want to hear), Jordana and Jared help me answer all your questions, from what makes a great dating profile to how people’s definitions of “casual sex” can vary. They also help me answer your questions about hooking up with a friend, long-distance relationships, the “ick” and so much more.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

What to know before meeting up with a date in person
How to create a profile that sparks genuine conversations
How to combat dating app fatigue

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Show Notes:

How to Handle Performance Anxiety
5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva
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Toxic Relationships & Drama Addicts w/ Dr. Scott Lyons Oct 27, 2023

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([TW // mentions su*c*de] If you would like to skip this portion of the episode, please skip through 47:00-48:00.) Do you (or your partner) start fights over nothing? Do stable relationships feel unsettling? Today, holistic psychologist, podcast host, and author Dr. Scott Lyons shows us how some of us may be more addicted to drama than we think. From attachment styles to toxic partners, Dr. Lyons explains how unresolved trauma can show up in ourselves and our relationships. We also talk about the desire to have rough sex, why makeup sex feels so good, how trauma lives in our bodies, and so much more.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

How to work through jealousy in relationships
How addiction to drama affects our sexual pleasure
How to identify and sit with uncomfortable emotions

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Show Notes:

How to Handle Performance Anxiety
5 Ways to Pleasure a Vulva
Magic Wand Micro
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Best Of: Why Do People Cheat? Oct 24, 2023

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Here’s something wild: nearly half of people in monogamous relationships report they’ve had affairs, according to recent research. Half! And that’s just the people who admitted it. We can all agree that getting cheated on feels awful – as in, the literal worst. So why is it so common? In this Best Of episode, we’re talking trust and infidelity as we break down the reasons why people cheat, what to do if an affair has happened, and deciding whether to rebuild or break up and move on. Plus, I take your questions: how to restore your confidence after an affair, what to do if you suspect or just caught your partner cheating, and how to come back from online infidelity.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

The history & evolution of relationship structures
Reasons people have affairs
How to rebuild trust after infidelity

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Show Notes:

Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help
VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides
Podcast: Why Do Couples Stop Having Sex? w/ Esther Perel
Podcast: Turn Yourself On w/ Esther Perel
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Best Of: I’m In a Relationship. Why Masturbate? Oct 20, 2023

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We’re talking solo sex in the context of a relationship. In this Best Of episode, I’m addressing some of the most common questions I get on the subject, such as: “if I already have a partner, why masturbate?” and “if I masturbate in private, is it cheating?” We also discuss whether or not you should tell your partner if you masturbate, and touch briefly on porn addiction: starting with, is it real? Plus, I take your questions! How to set up your own “masturbation zone” when you live with a partner, whether it’s possible to have fantasy-free masturbation sessions, what to do if you can orgasm on your own but not with a partner, and much more.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why masturbation is important for your overall sexual wellness
The truth about porn addiction
How to incorporate toys into solo and partnered sex

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Show Notes:

How to Use Anal Beads
Ask Emily: I Can’t Always Get Hard For Sex, Help
Je Joue Amour, Duet & Vita (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
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The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
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Hotline Calls: Fake Orgasms & Anal Sex Oct 17, 2023

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If you’ve ever faked an orgasm, this episode’s for you. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions, starting with: how do you tell your partner you’ve been faking orgasms without breaking their heart? Next: is it normal to be dating for MONTHS without penetrative sex? Let’s find out, as well as how to talk about sex with a new partner before you've had it. Looking to explore anal play the right way, after years of uncomfortable attempts? Let’s do it. And finally, we dive into the world of bisexuality. Do you have to tell your partner that you’re bi? How do you incorporate your sexuality into your relationship? From communication tips to sex hacks, I’ve got you!

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Show Notes:

How to Use Anal Beads
Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker
Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide)
Pjur Original Silicone Lubricant
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How to Make Missionary Kinky Oct 13, 2023

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Missionary is a tried-and-true classic. It’s the position many of us think about when we think about sex… which is also why it gets a bad rap. Haters say it’s boring and vanilla, I say it’s an underrated favorite. In today’s Best Of episode, I’m helping you upgrade your missionary game from “meh” to “mind-blowing.” We'll debunk myths about missionary and dive into ways to spice it up, from subtle tweaks to full-blown transformations that’ll keep you (and your partner) coming! Struggling to reach the big O? I've got position hacks to enhance clitoral pleasure, especially for vulva owners who might not feel the stimulation they crave in typical missionary. Speaking of “typical” missionary… Who says missionary can't be kinky? I reveal some of the hottest ways to incorporate bondage, dirty talk, and even some BDSM elements to transform missionary into your new go-to position.

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Show Notes:

How to Master Pretzel Position
Elevated Masturbation: Try a Stroker
VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 15% sitewide + Free Gummies Sample)
Magic Wand Mini Massager
We-Vibe Chorus
Article: Missionary Sex Position – New and Improved
Podcast: High Pleasure: Cannabis + Sex
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Hotline Calls: Chastity Play & Anal Rimming Oct 10, 2023

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We all experience sexual highs and lows, but what do you do if your “low” is a literal low libido? And your “high” might result in a penis injury? Let’s find out. On today’s Hotline Calls show, Producer Erica and I answer your sex questions. Starting with anal rimming: what if your partner has expressed interest in receiving… but feels conflicted about wanting it? Next up: chastity play - it is "Lock-Tober," after all! But could wearing a penis cage set you up for long-term injury? After that, sex that’s gone from vanilla to straight-up boring. When you’ve tried everything to fix it, what now? What does it mean if your body goes numb during oral sex? Finally, you’re fresh out of a long-term relationship, and your sex drive has completely evaporated. How do you get it back? I’ve got a few ideas.

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Show Notes:

How to Master Pretzel Position
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Queefing, Lost Erections & Other Awkward Sex Probs Oct 06, 2023

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Awkward sex: it happens! People lose their erections. Oral sex gets ouchy. Orgasms are MIA. Don’t panic -- you’re in the judgment-free zone! I’m here to help you turn these moments into erotic opportunities. First, I give general mindset tips for sex before sharing your funniest awkward sex stories. Orgasmed so hard you farted? I call that a win. Next, I take your awkward sex questions. How do you play off queefing? What do you do when you’re nervous and keep losing your erection? How about getting too wet? If it makes you self-conscious or interferes with pleasure, how do you deal? If you’ve got a small mouth, and your partner has a large penis, where do you go from there? All this and so much more in this awkward sex recovery episode.

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Hotline Calls: I Saw My Partner’s Porn History Oct 03, 2023

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You’re in my Hotlines today, and Producer Erica and I are taking your calls! Today’s theme: conversations you need to have with your sex partners. First, how long should you wait to tell casual sex partners you’re sleeping with other people? We’re all up-leveling our communication skills, so I make the case for telling them immediately. Next, she’s on ADD medication and likes a drink or two – is it negatively affecting her orgasm? Or should her partner have a deeper conversation with her about turn-ons? After that, we’ve got a young couple who just started having oral sex. She’s sore afterwards -- is it a medical condition or underlying shame? Finally, she just discovered her partner watches porn… and the subjects don’t look like her. How can she talk to him about it without judgment?

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