Sensual Self with Ev'Yan Whitney

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48. We're Living Apart—Together Apr 15, 2020

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*Note: This episode was done during the era when this podcast used to be called The Sexually Liberated Woman.

Ev’Yan gives a vulnerable update on the state of her marriage—and talks about why she decided to put intentional physical distance between her and her partner of 13+ years.

For show notes of this episode, click here.

Find more about Ev'Yan Whitney and her work as a sexuality doula at evyanwhitney.com and on Instagram: @evyan.whitney.

CREDITS

Music: Otis MacDonald

Cover photo: Celeste Noche

Design: Bianca Ng

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47. Pleasure-Centered and Unfuckwithable Apr 01, 2020

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*Note: This episode was done during the era when this podcast used to be called The Sexually Liberated Woman.

Well, look what the 'rona dragged in. Ev'Yan's back with explanations about where on earth she's been (hint: trying to recoup and heal from some challenging and tragic times) and to also share some of the pleasure and grounding practices she's been leaning on since her life exploded. If you're feeling stressed, anxious, or disembodied, these practices are for you. Because when we're pleasure-centered AND grounded in our bodies, we can't be fucked with.

For show notes of this episode, click here.

Find more about Ev'Yan and her work at evyanwhitney.com. Follow her on Instagram: @evyan.whitney.

CREDITS

Music: Otis MacDonald and The Custodian of Records

Cover photo: Celeste Noche

Design: Bianca Ng

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46. Let's Talk About Sexual Desire | sponsored by unblush Nov 20, 2019

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*Note: This episode was done during the era when this podcast used to be called The Sexually Liberated Woman.

How do you feel about talking about sexual desire? In this one, Ev'Yan talks about hers—the way it's fluctuated over the years, the shame and stigma attached to talking about that fluctuation, and what she's learned about sexual desire through her struggles to understand it.

Ev'Yan also talks about where she's at with her sexual desire these days (spoiler: a much better place!) and shares how you can get answers if you're experiencing frustrations with your libido, too.

Thank you to unblush for sponsoring today's episode!

For show notes of this episode, click here.

Find more about Ev'Yan and her work at evyanwhitney.com. Follow her on Instagram: @evyan.whitney.

CREDITS

Music: Otis MacDonald

Producer/editor: Meghan Tonjes

Cover photo: Celeste Noche

Design: Bianca Ng

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Back For Seconds: Oshun and Decolonizing Black Femme Sexuality Aug 21, 2019

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*Note: This episode was done during the era when this podcast used to be called The Sexually Liberated Woman.

Ev'Yan chats with Dr. Zelaika Clarke about Oshun, the Yoruba deity of sensuality and sexuality. They talk about who Oshun is, what she represents, and the ways we can use her as inspiration for sex positivity and stepping into our erotic power.

Also in this episode: Radical menstruation, self-romancing, decolonizing black femme sexuality, Beyoncé, self-love as a way of fighting internalized oppression, a slew of book recommendations, and a self-love ritual you can do to invoke Oshun.

For show notes of this episode, click here.

To revisit old episodes and to become a patron on Patreon, go to evyanwhitney.com/podcast.

Find more about Ev'Yan and her work at evyanwhitney.com. Follow her on Instagram: @evyan.whitney.

CREDITS

Music: Otis MacDonald and The Custodian of Records

Cover photo: Celeste Noche

Design: Bianca Ng

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Back For Seconds: Men Need Sexual Liberation Too Aug 07, 2019

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*Note: This episode was done during the era when this podcast used to be called The Sexually Liberated Woman.

Ev’Yan Whitney revisits a conversation she had with a sexually woke guy who goes by the name "Expressions Untold" where they talk about male sexuality and what men’s sexual liberation looks like. Expressions Untold gets vulnerable about his own sexual liberation journey, sharing with us how he went from praying away his sexuality to embracing who he is as a sexual being, and he speaks very candidly about the ways toxic masculinity and the patriarchy keeps men from being sexually free.

Also in this episode: Sexual repression in men, male desires, the negatives of pornography, body positivity for men, deconstructing gender roles, “too much” women, why masculinity is so fragile, and where you can find sexually “woke” men.

For show notes of this episode, click here.

To revisit old episodes and to become a patron on Patreon, go to evyanwhitney.com/podcast.

Find more about Ev'Yan and her work at evyanwhitney.com. Follow her on Instagram: @evyan.whitney.

CREDITS

Music: Otis MacDonald and Comfort Fit

Cover photo: Celeste Noche

Design: Bianca Ng

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

45. Sex and Cannabis Jul 24, 2019

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*Note: This episode was done during the era when this podcast used to be called The Sexually Liberated Woman.

Ev’Yan brings back her sister and actual cannabis expert, Jarani, to talk about how they both use weed to enhance their sex lives. Jarani talks about some of the science behind cannabis (like why is it that weed makes us feel so good?) and how to figure out how much to consume. They also both share their personal experiences of using cannabis-infused sexual products and give some shoutouts to some products they love.

Other things discussed: destigmatizing and decriminalizing cannabis use, especially in folks of color; stories of their first times being high; how to find your perfect strain; and how to consume cannabis with intention.

For show notes of this episode, click here.

To revisit old episodes and to become a patron on Patreon, go to evyanwhitney.com/podcast.

Find more about Ev'Yan and her work at evyanwhitney.com. Follow her on Instagram: @evyan.whitney.

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CREDITS

Music: Otis MacDonald and The Custodian of Records

Editing help: Samantha Ridell

Cover photo: Celeste Noche

Design: Bianca Ng

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44. Are You Cliterate? Jul 10, 2019

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*Note: This episode was done during the era when this podcast used to be called The Sexually Liberated Woman.

Ev'Yan chats with conceptual artist Sophia Wallace, who is best known for her viral art project Cliteracy, to have a fiery talk about the clitoris. They touch on all the misconceptions around the clitoris, debunk some of the most stubborn myths about clits and pleasure, and call out our own internalized patriarchal biases surrounding this for-pleasure-only sexual network.

Other things discussed: The actual true anatomy of the clitoris; the difference between vaginal and clitoral orgasms; the importance of clit-centered pleasure; and how we can all become more cliterate.

For show notes of this episode, click here.

To revisit old episodes and to become a patron on Patreon, go to evyanwhitney.com/podcast.

Find more about Ev'Yan and her work at evyanwhitney.com. Follow her on Instagram: @evyan.whitney.

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CREDITS

Music: Otis MacDonald and Comfort Fit

Editing help: Samantha Ridell

Cover photo: Celeste Noche

Design: Bianca Ng

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

43. Sex With Friends: Diamond Stylz Jun 26, 2019

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*Note: This episode was done during the era when this podcast used to be called The Sexually Liberated Woman.

Ev’Yan brings back her Sex with Friends series in this episode and chats with Diamond Stylz. Diamond Stylz walks down memory lane through her childhood and shares funny and life-changing moments that shaped how she came to explore her sexuality and know her gender.

Other things discussed: What Diamond coming into her womanhood in a traditional household was like; letting go of the idea of the “perfect woman”; how she’s reclaimed her pleasure; and her podcast, Marsha's Plate.

For show notes of this episode, click here.

To revisit old episodes and keep the TSLW thriving, go to evyanwhitney.com/podcast.

Find more about Ev'Yan and her work at evyanwhitney.com. Follow her on Instagram: @evyan.whitney.

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CREDITS

Music: Otis MacDonald and Comfort Fit

Editing help: Samantha Ridell

Cover photo: Celeste Noche

Design: Bianca Ng

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

42. Consent Is Actually Sexy Jun 12, 2019

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*Note: This episode was done during the era when this podcast used to be called The Sexually Liberated Woman.

Ev’Yan sits down with Jaclyn Friedman, author of Yes Means Yes, to talk all about consent. They explore affirmative consent as a moral philosophy, what it looks like to communicate honestly with sexual partners about what you want, and how to make consent talk sexy.

Other things discussed: The difference between enthusiastic consent and affirmative consent; how to bring sexiness and playfulness to boundary setting; and what affirmative consent looks like in practice.

For show notes of this episode, click here.

To revisit old episodes and keep the TSLW thriving, go to evyanwhitney.com/podcast.

Find more about Ev'Yan and her work at evyanwhitney.com. Follow her on Instagram: @evyan.whitney.

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CREDITS

Music: Otis MacDonald and Comfort Fit

Editing help: Samantha Ridell

Cover photo: Celeste Noche

Design: Bianca Ng

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

41. 21 Sex Questions, feat. Ev'Yan's Mom and Sister May 29, 2019

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*Note: This episode was done during the era when this podcast used to be called The Sexually Liberated Woman.

Ev'Yan's mom and sister return for a shameless, funny, and lighthearted game of 21 questions where they each share their sexual confessions and personal experiences with each other. They laugh over embarrassing moments, tell stories about the most creative places they’ve gotten it on at, and give some good sex advice.

Other things discussed: Food and butt play; the perils of being a germaphobe in sex; Game of Thrones crushes; "mommyisms"; and a couple Would you rather? questions with some hilarious answers.

For show notes of this episode, click here.

To revisit old episodes and keep the TSLW thriving, go to evyanwhitney.com/podcast.

You can find more about Ev'Yan and her work at evyanwhitney.com. Follow her on Instagram: @evyan.whitney.

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CREDITS

Music: Otis MacDonald

Editing help: Samantha Ridell

Cover photo: Celeste Noche

Design: Bianca Ng

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.