Self Helpful with Kevin Miller

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Toxic Productivity: How To Detach Your Self-Worth From How Much You Produce w/ Israa Nasir Nov 18, 2024

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I think we’re all well aware that our culture has fallen into the idea of being busy is being important. But I’ll admit that even in trying to shed this, I still find myself busy. I just agree to things without counting the cost. But then I find myself struggling mentally with bitterness and burnout and I just want to escape. So when this book, Toxic Productivity: Reclaim Your Time and Emotional Energy in a World That Always Demands More, came across my desk, I was eager to have the author on. Israa Nasir is a New York City-based psychotherapist, writer, and the founder of WellGuide—a digital community for mental health awareness. She has a big following on Instagram at well.guide. In her focus on Toxic Productivity she tries to dismantle the myth that “doing more makes you more worthy,” and this is where I dig in with her in this show. My primary interest was how we associate our identity with what we do, and Israa and I really landed a lot on intention, asking ourselves why we do all we do? What is the outcome we are expecting and what need of our own are we trying to fulfill.

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Invest In You: Spend 3-5% Of Your Income On Your Personal Growth w/ Dan Miller Nov 15, 2024

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I pay attention to shows people refer to, and often in talking about spending money on our personal growth, people will ask me, “What was it your Dad used to say? What percent should you spend on your personal growth?” The answer is 3-5%. My Dad was Dan Miller, famed author of 48 Days To The Work & Life You Love. In 2017 he published a blog at 48days.com titled, ““Your Success is Guaranteed – If You Do This.” In it he cited Brian Tracy who turned him on to the idea, saying that successful people we all listen to and follow habitually invest at least 3-5% of their income directly toward their personal growth. Many spend far more. And as you’ll hear, what follows is your income generally increases as a result and you’re able to spend more and more each year. I greatly appreciate the tangible metric. If you make $7,000 per month, you can be looking for $350 to spend on your personal growth every month. So I’ve brought back this episode with my Dad, back from when I hosted The Ziglar Show, which you’ll hear us reference. You can still find all the gold my Dad has to offer at 48days.com

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Threat: When Are You Really At Risk Physically & Psychologically? Nov 14, 2024

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Anxiety is a feeling of fear, dread, or uneasiness that can be a normal reaction to stress. So, what is stress? Stress is a natural response to a perceived threat or challenge that can cause mental or physical tension. The only reason we would feel stress and anxiety is because we feel a threat. Threat is when we feel an intention to inflict pain, injury, damage, or other hostile action. I’ve been looking at myself for a while and asking why I feel threatened? I expect that very few people listening to this are often, if ever, in physical threat. When you are, anxiety is a wonderful and appropriate signal to act in self-protection. However. What about when the threat is not physical? When it’s psychological? What is being threatened? I was recently given some insight on this by a therapist, which I’ll share next.

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Symptomatic Society: How & Why To Address The Core Issues & Find Wellness Nov 13, 2024

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I believe this world and this life is at the core, truly beautiful and glorious. And, we have some very concerning trends to address. Health care is the number one GNP in America. We spend more money, not on our health, but our unhealth, than on anything else. Why? Lifestyle. Just do the research. It’s not happening to it, we are doing it to ourselves. A very unpopular perspective, but in truth, isn’t that the best news? You have power, otherwise you are claiming victimhood. Healthcare in America has become sick-management. And we address the symptoms. Even cancer, which my Dad just died of, is a symptom. We try to beat cancer and don’t ask…what is causing cancer. We create a new drug to treat every growing problem, without asking why the problem exists and keeps growing. Let’s ask.

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Anxious Food: Sugar & Caffeine Are Not The Only Culprits Nov 12, 2024

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Let’s take a quick look at foods in regards to anxiety. And I’ll admit up front, I don’t like the messages that put the food and drink I like in their cross hairs. Food is just about my favorite drug. I love loving it. And I don’t abstain from the foods I like. But I might moderate the amounts or the timing. Let’s take a quick look at some food and drink issues I’ve experienced causing issues with anxiety. My muse is from the conversation in the last episode with MD, holistic psychiatrist, acupuncturist, and yoga teacher Ellen Vora, and her new book, The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body's Fear Response. Find the book anywhere and find her on IG @ellenvoramd

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Anxiety: It's Not All In Your Head But Probably On Your Plate Or Your Screen w/ Ellen Vora Nov 11, 2024

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Anxiety is the new norm, and conventional medicine tends to view anxiety as a “neck-up” problem - that is, one of brain chemistry and psychology. So all the treatments are focused there. At the mind. At calming our minds. Getting calm. I agree with those, as part of the treatment. But what about our overall health? How does it factor in? My guest cites that the origins of anxiety are rooted in the body. Ellen Vora is an MD with her B.A. from Yale, a holistic psychiatrist, acupuncturist, and yoga teacher. She takes a functional medicine approach to mental health, considering the whole person and addressing imbalance at the root. Ellen offers a paradigm shift in our understanding of anxiety and mental health, suggesting that anxiety is not simply a brain disorder but a whole-body condition. It’s coming just as much from what we eat and how much we move and what we watch, as a neck up chemical imbalance. More actually. She has a book titled The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body's Fear Response, which is my initial muse for this conversation. Find the book anywhere and find Ellen at instagram.com/ellenvoramd/

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Personal Accountability: This May Be The Ultimate Goal For A Successful Life w/ John Miller Nov 08, 2024

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We begin life with built in accountability. We have our caregivers, maybe siblings, then we go to school and have teachers. Hopefully we have close friends. Eventually we have bosses. We may have a spouse or significant other. Even our children can be a source of accountability to how we behave and how we live our lives. But at the core, the greatest source of accountability is from ourselves. If the only thing holding us in line is those in our lives, it’s somewhat artificial. Twenty years ago John Miller wrote a book called QBQ! The Question Behind the Question: Practicing Personal Accountability at Work and in Life. It literally became a classic in the business world, but the message is for all of us as individuals. I sat down with John some years back, along with Tom Ziglar, and we dug into what had made the message so popular and equipping. John said QBQ gets to the core of success: ourselves. Our actions and behaviors and responsibility. You can connect with John at QBQ.com. This conversation will give you insight into a core accountability you haven’t fully grasped and leveraged. The accountability with yourself.

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Resonate vs Integrate: Considering What Actually Changes Us Nov 07, 2024

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When I wrote my book, What Drives You, I initially impressed myself with the width and depth of my knowledge, drawing on the messages and resources of the 250 leaders in human development I’d had on this show. This is my 1500th episode. I’d gotten exposed to more incredible information that most will in 5 lifetimes. Then it also dawned on me that with so many of the great messages and insights…I hadn’t done anything with them. It was wisdom I hadn’t implemented. I hadn’t changed. Working with a client the other day I was referencing a book I was rereading, seeing my notes from a couple years ago, and told her, “I see my notes, and the message obviously resonated with me, but I didn’t integrate it into my life. Let’s talk about this for a moment.

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Values: What Would A Week's Video Of You Show About Your Values? Nov 06, 2024

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Every Friday I meet with three guys at a coffee shop to talk about life. Our lives. Last week we were talking about our values. I asked, “If you were videotaped for a week, would it show you were supporting what you say you value?" A couple of the guys were really impacted by the concept. I've heard aspects of this idea before and you normally follow it with questioning if your values are really what you say they are. But, I think our values are generally solid, we just often fail to make supporting them a true priority. Let's walk through the Ziglar Wheel of Life and consider what values we are and are not supporting.

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Peace: Do You Even Want It Or Is It Boring? Nov 05, 2024

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In the last show I talked with licensed therapist and renowned relationship expert, Nedra Glover Tawwab. Her new book is called, Consider This: Reflections For Finding Peace. As I chew on the message, I’m wondering if “finding peace” is honestly attractive to people. Before my mid forties, if you’d tried to entice me with the hope of finding peace, I’m not sure I would have given you much attention. The prior 25 years I spent going full tilt. Anxiety was fine. I think I thought it was even fun. And yet it was in my mid 40s that I started experiencing the consequences of a lack of peace. The question is then, what is your relationship with peace? And it’s opposite, anxiety?

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