Seeing Other People

How To Date Intentionally This Cuffing Season Sep 25, 2025

Cuffing season is here, but why does everyone suddenly want to couple up when the weather turns cold? In this episode, we dive into the psychology, cultural pressures, and real dating app data behind the phenomenon, plus practical tips to prepare—whether you’re looking for a winter fling or a long-term partner.

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Why Some Couples Divorce and Others Find Their Way Back Sep 23, 2025

Divorce lawyer Jonathan Merel joins the podcast to share what he’s learned about love, marriage, and relationships from his years in family law. We talk about why couples file for divorce, how often people start the process but end up reconciling, what healthy couples have in common, and the truth about prenups. Jonathan also shares his personal perspective on love and commitment—and advice for couples looking to strengthen their relationship.

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Our New Home & Our Unpopular Take on Wedding Speeches Sep 22, 2025

Jake and I are officially in our new apartment (!!) and we’re unpacking all the highs and lows of moving week — including Ilana’s unexpected side gig babysitting our TaskRabbit’s kid. We also get into what it’s like being in the thick of marathon training, the gorgeous wedding we just went to, and our hot take on why wedding speeches matter way more than people think.

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From Finance Bro to Full-Time Musician: Owning Your Story in Dating Sep 18, 2025

I’m joined by musician Brett Altman, who recently left his finance career of 9 years to finally pursue music full-time and discovered that owning your story can completely change the way you date. We get into why you should never shrink yourself for someone who sees parts of you as a red flag, how to actually meet people IRL (yes, even at a bar), and what it takes to make a friends-with-benefits situation successful. Brett shares his journey from Hoboken “finance bro” to musician, and how his viral track Pretty Long Island Girls is sparking real conversations about love, dating, and connection outside the apps. @brettaltmanmusic

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What Happens When You Sit Down With All Your Exes Sep 16, 2025

Miriam Katz just launched one of the boldest projects in the dating world: a podcast where she interviews every single person she’s ever dated. They talk about what it’s really like to sit down with exes face-to-face, and the surprising insights Miriam has gained about love, closure, and self-discovery along the way. Ilana and Miriam also explore how past relationships shape us, the challenges of turning personal history into public content, and the moments that were unexpectedly healing—or hilariously awkward.

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Should You Reach Back Out or Let Them Go? Sep 15, 2025

It’s our final episode in this apartment before the big move, and Ilana’s type A side is showing in full force during the packing process. In between boxes, we answer your questions about dating and relationships. We talk about whether it’s a red flag if someone doesn’t text while they’re away, what to do when you can’t stop thinking about the guy who wasn’t ready, how to move forward when something casual is rekindled, and the timeless dilemma of craving sparks while knowing you deserve stability.

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Answering Your Biggest Dating & Friendship Dilemmas Sep 11, 2025

In this solo Q&A, I’m answering your biggest dating and friendship dilemmas — from why your ex still watches your Instagram stories, to how to say no to being a bridesmaid, to figuring out if “I’m not ready for a relationship” is the truth or just an excuse. We’ll talk jealousy, first dates, situationships, and how to trust again after heartbreak.

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Dating Burnout, Rock Bottom, and the Power of Being Alone Sep 09, 2025

After years of back-to-back heartbreaks, author Abby Rosmarin hit relationship rock bottom and made a radical decision: she stopped dating—completely—and committed to an entire year of choosing herself. Abby shares how she went from chasing love to enjoying her own company, and rebuilding from the inside out. We talk about loneliness, self-discovery, codependency, sexuality, and why, for her, being single with cats really does beat being lonely with the wrong person. Her new memoir The Year of Dating Myself is out now! Learn more at abbyrosmarin-author.com.

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Fall Date Ideas That Don't Suck Sep 08, 2025

This week we’re recording from Jake’s childhood bedroom, which of course led us to wonder what 13-year-old Jake would think of his life now. We share our life updates, what we’re grateful for, how we started packing way too early, and how football season is going to affect when we see each other. Then we dive into fall date activities—everything from apple picking to haunted houses—and decide which ones we’d actually do and which we’re passing on.

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“He Cheated, Got Someone Pregnant… and Then Called Off Our Wedding 2 Weeks Before” Sep 04, 2025

Trigger Warning: Abuse. This anonymous guest shares the story of being with her ex for over eight years, navigating betrayal, abuse, and heartbreak—including infidelity, a pregnancy, and the chaos of planning a wedding that never happened. She reveals how their relationship ended abroad just weeks before her wedding, the shocking ways her ex continued his betrayal, and the lessons she learned about boundaries, self-worth, and resilience.

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Falling In Love & Designing Her Dream Life 5000 Miles From Home Sep 02, 2025

I'm joined by my friend, fashion designer and founder of Maison Des Nus, Balim Tezel. We talk about what it’s like to build a life from scratch—moving to the U.S. for college, creating a chosen family in NYC, and launching the brand she dreamed of since childhood. Balim shares what dating for the first time in her twenties taught her about herself and what she was looking for, how she unexpectedly met her boyfriend Vinnie, and how his steady support helped her navigate the isolation of being far from home, especially during the four years she couldn’t leave the U.S. while waiting for her green card. Follow Maison Des Nus @maisondesnus on IG & @maisondesnus on TikTok Submit your questions or share why you and your partner are cohosts for life at⁠⁠ speakpipe.com/sop⁠

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Would We Have Found Love on Reality TV? Sep 01, 2025

This week, we talk about the chaos of prepping for our move and how we’re handling all the changes together. We also get into Taylor's engagement, which reality TV shows we’d join (and why we’d be like if we were on The Bachelor), plus some marathon training updates.

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My Running Journey: From Hating Running to Training for the NYC Marathon Aug 28, 2025

I went from hating running to completing my first half marathon and signing up for the NYC Marathon. On this episode I share my full running journey—injuries, mental battles, and everything in between. I cover how to start running without feeling overwhelmed, essential gear, pacing, nutrition, and staying motivated. Plus, I dive into why I actually love running, the sense of accomplishment it brings, and how it’s helped me unplug and find community along the way. Shop my running favorites here https://shopmy.us/shop/ilana?Section_id=136776&tab=collections

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Is Everyone a Narcissist Now? Aug 26, 2025

Just because someone ghosted you doesn’t mean they’re a narcissist. Ilana is joined by licensed therapist Carla Litto, LMFT, to unpack what actually makes someone a narcissist, what doesn’t, and why the term is being thrown around so loosely. They also talk about how to recognize real narcissistic behavior in relationships, what to do if you’re in one, and how to heal after emotional manipulation or gaslighting.

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The End of an Era Aug 25, 2025

We announce a major life update, talk about how absurd the logistics of living in NYC are, and debate whether or not Ilana should start another new business. We also get into our favorite types of nights out (with each other, with friends, and with family), recap the funniest movie we’ve ever seen (no spoilers!), and complain about books that we hate and why it takes families forever to pick a movie.

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“I Almost Let My Body Image Ruin Everything — Including My Wedding” Aug 21, 2025

On this Unfiltered, an anonymous guest opens up about how body image struggles, weight gain, and health issues in her mid-to-late 20s held her back from enjoying life — and almost stopped her from celebrating her own wedding. From dreading engagement photos and dress shopping to nearly eloping, she shares the turning point that changed everything and how she finally embraced the love and celebration she deserves.

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Recovering From Infidelity: Can Love Survive Betrayal? Aug 19, 2025

What really happens after someone cheats—and is there ever a way back? In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Monique Thompson, a licensed psychotherapist, bestselling author of the Infidelity Recovery Workbook for Couples. She reveals why “going back to the way it was” is never the goal, how to know if your discomfort is about your partner or your own unresolved past, and the science-backed number of minutes it actually takes to heal betrayal trauma (spoiler: it’s fewer than you think). Her no-nonsense, non-judgmental approach will completely change the way you think about cheating, trust, and what’s possible on the other side.

Follow Dr. Monique on Instagram at @drmoniquethompson, learn more at drmoniquethompson.com, and grab her book Infidelity Recovery Workbook for Couples.

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What Would 13 Year Old Us Think Of Us Now? Aug 18, 2025

It's Ilana's 31st birthday! We're recapping a fun filled week including the Jonas Brothers concert that broke the internet, way too much sushi, and Jake's first attempt at painting pottery. We share an exciting and nerve wracking life update, and Ilana gets emotional thinking about what her 13 year old self would think of her 31 year old self.

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Trust Your Gut, Not Your Group Chat Aug 14, 2025

On this episode of Unfiltered, Sagari takes us through her powerful transformation from a self-proclaimed serial monogamist stuck in toxic relationship patterns to someone confidently single and truly thriving. She opens up about her breakup horror stories (yes, including one during a Broadway intermission), what kept her in relationships she knew weren’t right, and how she finally healed and reconnected with herself. Sagari shares how learning to trust her gut—rather than following advice, checklists, or expectations—changed everything.

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What If You Don’t Want the Life Everyone Else Has? Aug 12, 2025

This week, I’m joined by my run coach Victoria Sekely, DPT, for a candid conversation about living life on your own terms. We talk about the shocking way she met her husband, why she never wanted a traditional wedding, and her decision not to have kids. She shares how she navigates changing friendships as her friends become moms, finds fulfillment in other ways, and deals with people questioning her choices. We also get into letting go of grudges, protecting your peace, and the mental load of social media.

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