Stay ConnectedDating advice, real stories, and honest conversations about modern relationships. Seeing Other People with Ilana Dunn covers everything from first dates and situationships to long-term love, with expert guests, anonymous confessions, and unfiltered takes three times a week.
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Erica Shea is back on Seeing Other People, and this time she’s married. After years of dating, heartbreak, situationships, and wondering if she was ever going to find her person, Erica is now on the other side of the story—and realizing that finding your person is only the beginning. We talk about what it feels like to finally have the life you spent so much time hoping for, why she wishes she could tell her younger self that she wasn’t as behind as she felt, and how all those moments that felt like setbacks eventually led somewhere she never could have planned.
We also get into getting fired and finding the happiest place she’s ever been in her career, moving to Denver, trusting the next chapter even when it’s scary, and what marriage actually looks like once the wedding is over. Erica opens up about navigating two families, holidays, the pressure around having kids, and the ways our brains—and social media—can convince us that everything is going wrong. Plus, we revisit the dating advice that helped her find her husband: sometimes you really should go on one more date.
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This week, we’re catching up on life lately. We talk baby registry overwhelm, the stroller we think we’re getting, football season, the best things we ate this week, and how different our lives will look this time next year. Plus, Ilana’s newest obsession, getting ahead before maternity leave, and what we’ve been watching and reading.
Chapters:
00:00 UPPAbaby vs. Bugaboo
02:40 Life lately
04:30 Gratitudes
07:00 Ilana learns the Jets
12:00 Our week of eating around NYC
17:00 Torrisi and Jake’s dress code scare
22:00 Ilana’s newest obsession
25:30 Baby registry overwhelm
28:30 Thinking about life with a baby
30:00 Pregnancy, work, and slowing down
35:00 Preparing for maternity leave
37:00 What we’re watching and reading
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Harry is back for his fourth appearance on Seeing Other People, and this time he's on camera for the first time. He just turned 35, his younger brother got engaged, and the feeling that everyone around you is hitting milestones while you're still out here going on first dates? We get into all of it. How do you make peace with being on a completely different timeline than your friends, your siblings, even your parents? How do you keep showing up when things keep falling apart, and why stopping is never really the answer? Harry also took a stand-up comedy class and based his entire set on his dating life, which taught him how to look at his experience through a different lens.
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Najwa Zebian, author of The One Who Broke You Can’t Heal You, joins the podcast for a conversation about heartbreak, healing, and what it really means to move on when someone has hurt you. We talk about why the person who broke you can’t be the one to heal you, why closure is a myth, and how waiting for an apology, an explanation, or someone’s regret can keep you stuck. Najwa shares what it looks like to take your healing back, stop making excuses for people who hurt you, and rebuild a version of yourself that knows what you deserve.
We also get into trauma bonds, why people stay in toxic relationships, how gaslighting can make you question your own judgment, and how to support someone who knows they should leave but isn’t ready yet. Plus, Najwa shares the dating advice that changed the way she looks at relationships: date someone who is kind by nature — not someone you have to convince to treat you well.
Get The One Who Broke You Can’t Heal You wherever you buy books, or listen to the audiobook narrated by Najwa herself.
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Website: https://najwazebian.com/
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Jake spent the weekend hosting a fantasy football draft while Barkley lived his best boys day and paid for it later, and Ilana went to her first pregnancy brand event and is currently dealing with back pain that she describes as someone stabbing her. Also: Ilana read two books in a week, including Hayden Panettiere's memoir and Michelle Obama's Becoming, and somehow still can't remember Garrett Wilson's name. Three listener questions this week: should you hear out an ex who went eight months no contact before reaching out, can you actually change your type if it keeps not working out for you, and four great dates followed by "I'm not ready for a relationship" followed by him being in one two weeks later. How do you not take that personally?
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What do you do when you and your partner have different ideal timelines 3 years into your relationship? How to be less anxious after a great date? I’m answering your questions about relationship timelines, rejection texts, dating anxiety vs. chemistry, and surviving the first trimester. Plus, I’m reacting to the most unhinged marriage advice you’ve ever received and sharing why I’m seriously missing marathon training right now.
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Serena Kerrigan, founder of Let’s Fucking Date and author of Let’s Fcking Date*, joins the podcast for a long-overdue reunion — five years after she was one of the first guests on Seeing Other People. We talk about why modern dating needs a new rulebook, how to stop dating from a place of scarcity, why rejection doesn’t mean something is wrong with you, and what it looks like to actually trust yourself and move on when someone isn’t giving you what you want.
Plus, Serena shares what she’s learned about repeating dating patterns, raising your standards without becoming too picky, being open-minded about who your person might be, and why the right person won’t be scared off by you saying you want something serious. We also get into healthy relationships, maintaining independence, handling conflict, social media comparison, feeling like you’re running out of time, and knowing when choosing yourself means walking away.
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We’re back with a LOT to catch up on after another Jonas Brothers concert. We’re sharing what went down at MSG, why our entire section was rooting for us, and how we felt when it didn’t happen. Then, I’m sharing a big update about the future of Seeing Other People, what “maternity leave” looks like when you work for yourself, and what changes you can expect to see in the SOP world. Plus, I’m officially showing, back pain has entered the chat, and I have some feelings about people touching my belly. Then we’re answering your questions about dealing with wedding planning decision fatigue and how to stop spiraling between dates when the next one isn’t on the calendar.
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Isabelle Surielow, PhD candidate, matchmaker, and relationship consultant, joins the podcast to unpack what it really means to find love — and why sometimes the search for a relationship is actually a search for ourselves. We talk about dating with intention, why knowing what you want matters, the difference between standards and preferences, and how focusing on how you want to feel in a relationship can completely change the way you approach dating.
We also get into the idea of “spark” vs. stability, what we can learn from relationships that don’t work out, why you shouldn’t sacrifice your peace for the wrong relationship, the pressure to meet marriage and relationship timelines, and whether there really is such a thing as a soulmate. Plus, Isabelle shares some seriously rom-com-worthy stories about meeting people through synchronicity, why you can’t force love, and how staying open to the unexpected might be the best dating strategy of all.
Find Isabelle: @izzysurielow
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Mika Ross, therapist and relationship coach, joins the podcast to talk about the parts of relationships nobody teaches you until you’re already in one. We talk about what it actually takes to build a healthy relationship beyond chemistry and compatibility, why communication is so much more complicated than “just talk about it,” and how to navigate conflict without letting resentment build.
Mika also shares practical advice for handling big feelings, setting boundaries, maintaining your individuality while being part of a partnership, and communicating when you and your partner seem to speak completely different emotional languages. Plus, we get into the realities of long-term relationships, how relationships evolve as life changes, why healthy relationships can still be messy and imperfect, and the skills we all have to learn while we’re in the relationship. Find Mika on Instagram: @mikaross.therapist and explore her relationship resources at mikaross.com
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