ResponseABLE Parenting

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37. Case Study: How Responsive Parenting raises incredible teens! Apr 15, 2024

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In this episode I interview a mother and son (almost 15 years old) about creating and growing up in a home that is focused on connection, understanding, curiosity and at the core unconditional love. From 6 months - 7 years old Sasha displayed "problematic behaviors" and was kicked out of almost every class, party and activity. He was labeled "weird" and "bad" by friends and some teachers. Today Sasha is one of the most emotionally intelligent kids I've met. He is kind, generous, a critical thinker, self aware and confident in his choices and personhood. Sasha has a beautiful outlook on life and relationships. Many parents future project from a place of fear that the challenging behavior of their small children IS who they are and they will become. Which leads us to reacting from a place of fear and trying to punish or shame away these behaviors so they don't become our children.

Sasha is a truly beautiful example of a grounded maturity that comes from being allowed to experience the entire range of human emotions and experiences. Sari (Sasha's mom) met him with curiosity, compassion, firm boundaries and a lot of empathy. She looked beneath the behavior and found out what was actually happening vs assuming she knew how to fix what was going on.

I am so thrilled for you all to listen to this. I know you will take a deep breath hearing her words. Enjoy :)

FREE GUIDE! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

COMMUNITY! And if you're ready for a little bit more than this podcast but not totally sure where to start, check out the ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group. You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month I will host LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you. Join today and get a 7 day free trial at sign up!

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you!

36. Does "Feeling your feelings" Raise Brats? Apr 08, 2024

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In this episode, I break down a comment from someone on social media who said to me "Oh, you're raising one of 'those'" in response to a reel I made on feelings. It made me think of how so many people are being triggered by the word "feelings" and so with all the triggering things, I wanted to dive in more!!

I talk about WHY feeling your feelings is essential to raising resilient adults who are emotionally stable in conflict or high pressure situations. And I go on to share further about two very critical steps that are often overlooked. When these are overlooked the pendulum swings way too far and we end up with permissive parenting and kids running the show. I share a wash, rinse, repeat cycle that you can implement today in order to start raising strong, resilient, emotionally stable children.

FREE GUIDE! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

Every month I will host LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment-free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you. Join today and get a 7 day free trial at sign up!

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you!

35. What is "ResponseABLE Parenting?" Apr 01, 2024

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In this episode, I share how I came to the name ResponseABLE and why it resonated with me so much that I decided to build my whole business around it. When I look at the word "responsible" it's about being accountable and reliable but also taking ownership and control of our actions. And when I took that a step further, it's being able to CHOOSE how we show up and participate in these moments. We are ABLE as parents to choose how we show up. We are able to choose our responses.

We might be actively breaking cycles and healing, but through the practices of being a RESPONSIVE parent, we are honoring where we want to go while taking accountability for our role, our choices and showing up in a way that feels more in line with the values that matter to us.

FREE GUIDE! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you!

34. The 4 Buckets to Fill Regularly! Mar 25, 2024

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In this episode I talk about the 4 central buckets we need to be filling as a parent to maximize our child's readiness and abilities to comply with our requests without having to use force or coercive tactics to get them to do it.

I break down in detail these four buckets and give you examples on how to use them.

Power/Control
Connection/Attention
Regulation
Play

This is truly a game changing episode and I can't wait to hear how you utilize the lessons!

FREE GUIDE! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping!

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you!

33. Our parenting is only as sturdy as our nervous system - Interview with Tanicia Baynes Mar 18, 2024

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I am BEYOND excited for this conversation! I had the pleasure of speaking with Tanicia Baynes. She is a nervous system regulation expert, mom to identical twin 8-year olds and the woman behind the curtain of The Rooted Experience. In this episode we talk about what the nervous system is, how it informs our parenting reactions and responses and practical strategies you can start using today to help you through moments of dysregulation.

This is one you do NOT want to miss!

AND A BONUS!!!! Wednesday 3/20 within The ResponseABLE Parenting community group, Tanicia is going even further and breaking down common triggering parenting moments and giving us actionable regulation practices to use IN the moment and AFTER to replenish your nervous system.

Tanicia has created a pdf for you with 10 nervous system practices to utalize in parenting. You can grab that here!

Access my community here!

FREE GUIDE! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Get your free guide here!

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you!

32. Is Respect Just a Performance? Mar 11, 2024

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We're talking about respect again! In this episode I give you a totally new way to look at the word. I believe that the demand for respect is just demanding our children limit the range of emotions and expressions in certain situations and around certain people. We are not teaching them a future beneficial skill when we simply demand "respect." We are simply teaching them that when a person is older, in a position of authority or power, you need to present yourself smaller, less than, etc in order to keep the balance of power in check. But if we flip this whole thing on its head, we can start to actually teach skills from our values and we serve our relationship in a much more efficient and connected way.

FREE GUIDE! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe0vzGusmyvlTJA3hO5qqZqBifUen2GEtIym6cZTgMZeURzSA/viewform?usp=sf_link

31. Why is NO So Triggering? Mar 04, 2024

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There is something about the word "no" that lights up our nervous system and sets us off! And when we are set off and operating from our reactive center, our emotional center, the part of ourselves that relies on learned coping behaviors, we are entering into a power struggle and we've lost the chance to teach a skill. I'm always looking for moments to be more efficient in my parenting. Places where I can heal a bit of myself and impart a skill. In this episode I break down ways to look at the word "no" differently. I offer you mindset shifts and ways to teach this very essential communication skill to your children.

FREE GUIDE! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

30. Owning Our Part Feb 26, 2024

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One of the most amazing ways to teach our children respect is to own our part of the conflict. Owning it and leaving it. Without expectation of a specific response in return or our children coming around and owning their part as well. In this episode I talk about how frustrating moments with our children can make us want to prove our side, justify our reaction, etc. And how easy it is to blame our children for our reaction. "If you hadn't done this, I wouldn't do that…"

But at the heart of this, we need to model healthy conflict AND healthy conflict resolution. Owning our part is such a critical step in the repair process and will do so much to teach respect and healthy boundaries.

FREE GUIDE! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

29. You Need To Teach Your Child Respect Feb 19, 2024

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I am SO excited about this episode. Today we are diving into the topic of RESPECT! I get told a lot on social media that I'm not teaching my children respect. But when I dig further with these comments, they always boil down to compliance, obedience, and blind respect to authority.

This episode flips respect on its head. What is respect? How do we teach it? And do we actually deserve it from our kids?

FREE GUIDE!Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns. 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown

COMMUNITY!And if you're ready for a little bit more than this podcast but not totally sure where to start, check out the ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group. You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

BE A GUEST!If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe0vzGusmyvlTJA3hO5qqZqBifUen2GEtIym6cZTgMZeURzSA/viewform?usp=sf_link

28. Why Is Empathy So Hard? Feb 12, 2024

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Empathy is SO hard and it's definitely not our go to parenting tool. But it is a critical step! When we lead with empathy our children begin to trust their sensations, the begin to understand their feelings and they begin to develop a secure sense of Self. Empathy is the pathway to self esteem. When we show our child that they are worthy enough to be listened to, seen, and that we want to understand them, there is no greater gift. We don't have to fix every problem. What will stick with them more, is that we were THERE for them in every problem. Leading with empathy is so uncomfortable and can seem exhausting sometimes. But it's deeply nourishing, soothing and creates a very connected sense of safety between the two of you.

And a big announcement! The ResponseABLE Parenting Community Group is now available! You will have daily access to even more parenting strategies.

Every month you'll have direct access to me in our LIVE Q&A sessions, exclusive monthly workshops, weekly skill building exercises and more! This is truly a space designed to meet you where you are at on your parenting journey. It's a judgment free zone with parents and caregivers who are learning and growing right alongside you. And if you aren't by your computer, don't worry! You can download my app and have all of my parenting advice on the go. Head to www.responseableparenting.com to join today.

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