Relationship Advice

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213: Supporting A Partner Who Is Managing Depression Aug 28, 2019

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Depression affects people from all walks of life and can occur at anytime. It's a mental health issue that can have a profound impact on the person whom it's affecting, as well as on their loved ones and friends. Listen to today's show to learn how you can help and support a partner who is depressed. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn the difference between clinical depression, mood swings and personality disorders
How you can help your partner through a difficult day
The differences between men and woman with depression
Steps in getting your partner help if they have not yet been diagnosed
How to navigate the relationship if one partner is in denial or unaware of their depression
The importance for the non-depressed partner to have their own support system
And much more!

Kristen Scarlett is the co-founder of Octave, a mental health startup in NYC. She launched the mental health services at Overlook Cancer Center and One Medical before opening Octave's doors in October 2018. She's a CBT therapist and teaches CBT at NYU medical school.

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212: Avoiding Newlywed and Long Term Relationship Pitfalls Aug 21, 2019

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Relationships can be relatively easy when you're in the early stages and all the happy chemicals are flowing. However, things can get quite difficult as time rolls on. Listen to today's show to learn the conversations you need to have to set your new marriage or long term relationship up for success.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to communicate about finances, sex and work-life balance for long term relationship success
The importance of discussing your relationship expectations
Warning signs that early relationship issues can carry into the long term
Maintaining a couple identity and personal identity in your relationship
How to communicate around what you like in bed and frequency of sexual relations
And much more!

Jenn Belus has a PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of North Carolina. Both her research and clinical work has focused on understanding healthy intimate relationships and working with couples when one or both partners is struggling with mental or physical health problems. She is currently a postdoctoral fellow at the University of Maryland.

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211: How To Resolve Built Up Resentment In Your Relationship Aug 14, 2019

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Feeling resentful can be one of the loneliest and toxic feelings in a relationship. If left unchecked, it can easily lead to a miserable life with your partner and separation. Listen to today's show to learn how to prevent resentment and deal with it if it already exists.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn how to prevent resentment from arising in the first place
Once resentment is present, understand how to communicate with your partner to get over these feelings
How to show empathy for your partner to prevent resentment
Tools to tackle resentment in your relationship and end any toxic cycles
And much more!

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210: I Love You, But I Hate Your Politics Aug 08, 2019

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It can feel a bit overwhelming to discuss politics with a significant other, friends or family in today's politically charged world. Unfortunately, with the 2020 presidential election looming, the political divide in media and culture will likely be more apparent than ever. Listen to today's show to learn how to constructively talk politics and love someone with different political beliefs.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Hear the real life story of a successful long term marriage between two individuals on the opposite ends of the political spectrum
Communication tools for talking about politics with your partner, friends and family
Why it's OK to disagree with your partner politically
Deciding if political differences are too hard to overcome in a relationship
And much more!

Jeanne Safer, Ph.D., a psychotherapist in New York City, is the author of The Golden Condom, Beyond Motherhood, The Normal One, and several other books. Dr. Safer has appeared on The Daily Show and Good Morning America as well as numerous NPR broadcasts. Her work has been the subject of articles in the New York Times and the Wall Street Journal. She is the host of the I Love You, But I Hate Your Politics podcast.

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209: How To Listen To Your Emotions And Understand Your Needs Jul 31, 2019

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Getting in touch with our emotions to determine what it is that we want out of our relationship and life is not always easy. 'Finding oneself' is a journey, not a destination. Listen to today's show to learn how to tap into our emotions so we can learn our needs.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Finding the deeper meaning in our emotions
How to identify our emotional response to something in the relationship
How to navigate feeling responsible for your partners happiness
The 3 steps to process emotions — Recognize, organize and communicating emotions with your partner.
And much more!

Dr. Marni Feuerman is the author of Ghosted and Breadcrumbed. She is a licensed social worker and marriage and family therapist with a private practice counseling those with relationship issues. She also trains therapists to do couples therapy and writes about love relationships for a number of online media. She lives in Boca Raton, Florida.

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208: Emotional Manipulation In Your Relationship Jul 24, 2019

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Emotional manipulation by your partner is a powerful tool that can have negative impacts on your relationship and well being. Listen to today's show to learn how your partner might be emotionally manipulating you and how to deal with it.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to recognize emotional manipulation and its various forms that include stonewalling, shutting down and gas lighting
How to communicate with your partner regarding their emotional manipulation
Recognizing that your partner has an agenda with their use of emotional manipulation
How to deal with the 'silent treatment'
And much more!

Nancy F. Lee, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Beverly Hills, California. Dr. Lee is a leading practitioner of cognitive behavior therapy and specializes in a wide range of behavioral health issues ranging from depression and anxiety to male/female psychosexual desire and functioning. Her independent research has been published in the prestigious Journal of Affective Disorders and the International Journal of Eating Disorders, among others.

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207: Alcohol and Relationships Jul 17, 2019

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Sharing a glass of wine with your partner can be a fun ritual and a great way to relax with someone you love. However, alcohol abuse and dependence can have toxic effects on individuals and relationships. Listen to today's show to learn how alcohol might be negatively effecting your relationship and how to fix it.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Understanding the differences between alcohol use, abuse and dependence
Addressing alcohol dependence with your partner
Determining if even a few drinks can be negatively impacting your relationship
Holding each other responsible to avoid negative alcohol relationship impacts
How to avoid enabling drinking behavior in your partner
And much more!

April Eldemire is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Bringing Baby Home Educator, and marriage and couples expert in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. She is passionately devoted to helping couples achieve thriving relationships and is a regular contributor for Psychology Today and The Gottman Institute, the most research-based center for marital health and stability.

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Bonus: Introducing The Moment Jul 10, 2019

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Wondery’s The Moment, hosted by comedian Ingrid Haas, explores some epic real life romances to find the answers to our toughest relationship questions. From a Taylor Swift intervention, to getting betrothed by a horse, this podcast is your real life Rom-Com. Listen now at Wondery.fm/advice

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206: When Your Partner Won't Do The Work Jul 10, 2019

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Relationships take work. That's why you're here listening to this podcast. One thing you may be running into is an issue with your partner not wanting to work on the relationship with you. They may be resistant, indifferent or simply too busy. Listen to today's show to learn what to do when your partner is not putting in the relationship work with you.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

Learn the importance of not trying to change your partner and instead make the changes yourself
The value of scheduling 'protected time' to discuss issues with your partner
The three big emotions we deny ourselves from expressing and how to communicate them
How to communicate with your partner surrounding your desires to improve the relationship
And much more!

Laura Dabney, MD has made a career of taking on psychiatry's toughest challenges—from treating complex, combined medical and psychological conditions, to ensuring the absolute privacy of powerful, high-profile patients. Dr. Dabney's patients come to her for many reasons: depression and anxiety, recent break-ups or a lifetime of toxic relationships. Yet, despite the problems that brought them through her door, they describe her in the same terms again and again, calling her warm, knowledgeable, and committed to their success.

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205: More Empathy = More Love Jul 03, 2019

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Not feeling loved and connected with your partner? You may not be receiving or giving enough empathy in your relationship. Listen to today's show to learn how to give or receive more empathy and create more love in the relationship.

In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include:

How to be present to the feelings of your partner and empathically listen to them
Understand the importance of coming to your partner's trouble with curiosity instead of judgement
Why you don't need to try to 'fix' all of your partners problems
How to get in touch with our own feelings to better connect with our partner
The importance of setting an intention for what we want from our partner
And much more!

Anna Osborn, LMFT, owner of Life Unscripted Counseling, focuses her work on inspiring individuals and couples to be more intentional and connected in their love relationship. She works with folks on improving communication, deepening intimacy, healing from betrayal and changing negative patterns of disconnection in their relationships. She hosts an annual women’s retreat in Laguna Beach, CA.

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