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Keys To Enjoying Your Kid's Sports Journey Without The Stress w/ Mom Lara + Gymnast Coco Feb 28, 2023

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Are you watching your daughter enjoy her sport, but you always feel like a nervous wreck watching her play? Does it seem like everyone else is having a calm and laid back experience with her sports journey but you?

Today, we’re talking about how a stressful sports journey can become an enjoyable one for both you and your daughter. We had the pleasure of talking with two members of the Elite Competitor community, Lara and her daughter, Coco, about their experience.
Lara + Coco’s Backstory
Lara decided that starting the Elite Competitor Program would be a good idea when she realized her sports mom journey was filled with anxiety and nerves while watching Coco compete. She noticed this about herself by watching her husband’s reaction to Coco’s competitions. After seeing that he had a calm nature and feelings of enjoyment when watching Coco compete, Lara realized she wanted that, too.
When Lara brought the idea to Coco, she was on board quicker than Lara expected. Lara explained to Coco that the program would help her better understand her mental game. Coco said, “why not?” and they both jumped in.
Coco competes at a high level, and she’s been competing for a long time. Through the program, Coco realized she was struggling with perfectionism. Before the program, whenever she made a mistake, she would get really down on herself and start to believe she wasn’t good enough. Coco was in a spiral of always trying to be perfect, but this mindset wasn’t doing her any favors.
What Lara + Coco Have Learned
After starting the program, Coco noticed that she:

Wasn’t looking to be perfect anymore
Started to believe in herself
Found the courage to take risks more often
Isn't as scared to make mistakes and isn't thrown off by them
Is better equipped to learn from mistakes and move on

For Lara, she noticed that she:

Enjoyed learning how to "stay in her lane" as the mom
Finds freedom in being able to fulfill her role
Doesn’t have to try to play any other role, such as "coach" or "teammate."
Let's go of control, and instead can trust that Coco's got it.

Since starting the program together, Lara and Coco's relationship has grown. Lara is less inclined to nag or nitpick at Coco, and this has allowed her to enjoy the process and give Coco more space. Coco shared that as a result, she feels less pressure from her mom, and she knows that her mom loves her and wants her to have fun no matter what the outcome is.
At the end of the day, that’s the best thing our athletes can feel!
To Wrap Up…
Lara shared that she’s grateful for the Elite Competitor Program community and the judgment-free environment she now has. Sports can be intense and time consuming for the whole family, so taking the pressure off and having a community to relate to throughout the process has been helpful and supportive for her.
Lara + Coco, we're so grateful to have you both in the community. We're proud of you for all the hard work you’ve done and for the ways you continue to show up!
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Athlete Tip: One Quick Strategy to Overcome Perfectionism Feb 23, 2023

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Are you an athlete who doesn’t like mistakes, needs everything to be perfect, and is hyper-focused on outcomes like stats and scores? If this is you, you might struggle with perfectionism.

But don’t worry, you’re in good company. Almost every girl athlete struggles with perfectionism on some level! In today’s episode, we’re talking about how perfectionism holds you back from achieving your goals, and how to move past it.

How to Know If You’re Dealing With Perfectionism

If you make a mistake, it really throws off your game and your mood.
You’re super focused on wins and losses, your stats, scores, percentages, etc.
If you don’t play perfectly, you feel like a failure.
You’re constantly worried about what others think.

Most athletes struggle with perfectionism because the drive to be “perfect” actually exists to help us in a lot of ways. Striving to be perfect can motivate you, give you high standards for yourself, and drive you to be a better athlete.

But it’s the negative parts of perfectionism that we want to change. The bad side of perfectionism comes in the form of negative self-talk, feeling terrible about yourself, and being in a really bad mood after a mistake. In the long term, the negative side of perfectionism will hurt your performance and hold you back from your goals.

Don’t Be Scared to Make Mistakes

In the process of learning, it’s actually required that you make mistakes. Therefore, perfectionism is in conflict with you trying to achieve your goals.

The athletes that go the furthest and do the most aren’t perfect athletes. Instead, they’re the athletes that go outside their comfort zone, make mistakes, and see their mistakes as learning opportunities. It’s a requirement to make mistakes in the process of learning, because we learn so much from the mistakes we make.

How to Overcome Perfectionism
Perfectionism is not all of you, but instead, it’s only one part of you.

We experience the drive to be “perfect” in some situations more than others. Think of perfectionism as a little “voice” inside your head. Ask yourself, when is this voice the loudest?

Homework:

Think of all the moments you experience where the voice of perfectionism inside your head is the loudest. Is it when you’re training? Competing? After the game? Specifically identify when you hear the voice the most.
In those moments, think about this voice being a person inside of you, and practice telling them, “I see you, thank you for being here to help me, but you can quiet down now. I’ve got this.”

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How To Know When To Push And When To Back Off So Your Athlete Daughter Can Play To Her Potential Feb 21, 2023

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Do you have an athlete daughter who isn't moving towards her goals? In today’s episode, we’re talking about how to know when to push her and when to back off so that she can play to her full potential.

The dilemma of, “too much, or not enough?” is a feeling that’s all too common as a sports mom. If you don’t see her doing the things that are required of her goals, you want to step in and help. You want to encourage her to achieve her goals, but you don’t want to overstep. What do you do?

Step 1: What is your “why”?

Ask yourself, "why do I feel the need to push her?"
- What do I mean by “push”?
- Where is the desire to push my daughter coming from?
  - Is it coming from a self-seeking place? Or a place that has her best interest in mind?
You may need to dig a little deeper!
- Our own fears and desires could be creeping into our “why”.
- Don't make her sports journey about you.
- Ask yourself, "what would happen if I did nothing?"
  - She will quickly learn that when she doesn’t put the work in, she won’t get the results.
Are you aligned when it comes to her goals?
- Do you know what her goals are? Has she defined her own goals?
- If not, ask her what her goals are!
  - Help her understand what she hopes to achieve.

Step 2: Recognize the three things our daughters need to excel

To excel, they need three things:
- Enjoyment
- Ownership
- Intrinsic motivation
All three come from within your daughter. They don’t come from parental pushing.
When she feels ownership, she has choices and gets to decide things for herself.
- When she makes her own choices, she's more likely to enjoy it, achieve more, and stick with it long term.
The best thing we can do is help her feel supported in decisions instead of pushed into decisions.
Ask, “what can I do to support you?”

Step 3: Consider strategies to encourage (instead of push)

Encourage her towards her goals:
- Make sure she has a plan.
  - For example, if she’s supposed to be training outside of her sport, make sure she knows how she should be training
  - This is a great opportunity to give her choices such as, “which days of the week do you want to train?” or, “where do you want to train?”
- Some athletes respond well to being challenged.
  - Would she respond well to a challenge from you?
  - Ensure that challenging her would encourage her and not feel like added pressure.
- Collaborate with her.
  - Don’t underestimate your influence - model what it looks like to be disciplined and work towards a goal.
    - For example, if you work out, you can model for her that even on days where you don’t want to go to the gym, you go anyway.
  - Do things together.
    - Instead of saying things like, “why aren’t you doing this?” you could say, “let’s do this together."

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5 Ways To Get Your Athlete Daughter To Be More Aggressive In Her Sport So She Can Compete Confidently Without Holding Back Feb 14, 2023

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Do you have an athlete daughter who is holding back? In today’s episode, we’re talking about how you can help your daughter be more aggressive in her sport and compete with confidence.

5 ways to help:
1. Realize and understand why she’s holding back
If your daughter is holding back, there’s a reason behind it. Here are some potential reasons:

Perceived limitations
- She might believe that she has physical characteristics that are holding her back. Some examples could be:
  - “I’m too slow"
  - “I’m not tall enough”
  - “I don’t have enough experience”
- If she believes she doesn’t fit a “mold”, then she might not perform as well as she really can. What athletes believe about themselves determines how they show up to compete.
Personality
- Her personality might not be “aggressive”. She might be more introverted, shy, or quiet. It’s possible that she might want to play more of a support role and let someone else take the lead.
Fear
- She might be facing fears such as:
  - Making a mistake
  - Disappointing teammates
  - Letting down her coach or her parents
  - Fear of the spotlight
Confusion
- She might not be sure what’s expected of her. When athletes don’t know their role, they don’t feel confident.

2. Ask yourself, “is this actually a problem? Or is it only a problem for me?”
Is your daughter enjoying her sport? Is she achieving her own goals?

We can be guilty of attaching our own self-worth to the success of our athlete. Don’t be afraid to be honest with yourself!
3. Be aware of where you’re placing praise and recognition
Are you only acknowledging outcomes? When we only praise the outcomes and not the inputs, she starts to believe that the outcome is the only thing that gets recognized.

Focus on highlighting the things in her control:

The process, her training, and how hard she’s practicing
The ways she’s a great teammate

4. Give her the skills to navigate mistakes and handle pressures
Making mistakes and feeling pressure is inevitable. Instead, we can give her tools to help navigate this and feel more confident when these feelings arise.
Does she have a failure recovery method? What does her relationship with pressure look like? These are like physical skills - they can be taught, practiced, and learned.
5. Alter ego technique
It can be hard for athletes to reconcile who they are in their sport and who they are outside of it. Athletes can embraces an alter ego while they play to help.

To help athletes determine their alter ego:

Have them write down the qualities of the athlete they want to be.
Then, have your athlete assign an animal to these characteristics by having them read through their list, and then determining which animal they think of - whatever works for them is best!
Then, have her channel this animal whenever she competes - it really works!

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Helping The Anxious Athlete Stop Overthinking And Start Playing With Confidence W/ Sami Halvorsen Feb 07, 2023

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Have you ever tried to help your athlete daughter with overthinking and anxious thoughts? In today’s episode, we’re talking about how you can help her stop overthinking and start playing with confidence.
Today we’re joined by Sammy from the Teen Life Coach School podcast. Sammy works specifically with teens that experience anxiety. She helps them manage anxiety, stop overthinking, become more self-confident, and start loving who they are.

Anxiety is good, until it’s not.
- Anxiety can be debilitating and hold a teen back from doing normal things.
- When teens start to live their lives around their anxiety instead of confronting their anxiety, that's when it's a problem.

The threshold for anxiety and stress is different for every teen, and it can also be different at different times in our lives.

Anxiety is uncertainty about the future.
- Anxiety comes with physical symptoms, and everyone experiences the physical symptoms of anxiety differently.

How do we help athletes navigate anxiety, both physically and mentally?

First, help them label the emotion as anxiety.
- If they label the emotion as anxiety, then they can start to understand what’s going on. They no longer have to be anxious about not knowing.
Second, realize that overthinking can increase anxiety and think through those thoughts fully.
- Walk through the worst case scenario that your mind has come up with - what’s the worst thing that can happen?
Finally, teach your teen that they can handle the emotions.
- Help them realize what that worst case scenario emotion is, and then teach them that they can face the emotion and overcome it.
- This will lead to them building self-confidence.

Self-confidence comes from the ability to handle any emotion. Therefore, it’s important that your teen starts to face these emotions head on.

When we know our teen is overthinking, what can we do?
- Help your teen determine their core beliefs.
  - These can be ideas such as, “My worth is not dependent on this game."
- If your teen can focus on their core beliefs, they can start to overcome anxious thoughts.
What role can parents play in this?
- Remember the way your teen plays is not about you.
- Don't be tempted to just “fix it”.
  - We don't need to “rescue” our kids from their discomfort. Instead, we have an opportunity to teach them how to work through their discomfort.

As a parent, your role is so important! You have an opportunity to help your teen understand that feelings of anxiety are normal, and it's possible to work through the emotions and overcome them.
Most importantly, we get to remind our teen that we’re there for them, we’ll walk through this with them, and we love them.

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Helping Your Daughter Overcome Mental Blocks And Play With Confidence - How This Mom Is Doing It Inside The Elite Competitor Program! Jan 31, 2023

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Have you tried to help your daughter overcome mental blocks?
Today, we’re talking to Lauren, a mom walking alongside her daughter through the Elite Competitor Program. Currently, Lauren and Lyla are a few weeks into the program, but this episode was recorded right before starting their journey.
We start by talking about what Lyla experienced as an athlete. Then, we talk through the ways Lauren has tried working with Lyla through her mental blocks. And finally, we talk about how Lauren introduced the idea of going through the Elite Competitor Program together, and why Lyla decided herself that it would be a good idea.
Lyla’s background and experience:

Lyla is an 11-year-old multi-sport athlete.
She's a hard working high achiever who is very athletic by nature. She has a drive that can’t be taught!
Lauren desires for Lyla to have mental tools that can help guide her through the mental blocks she faces.

Ways they tried to work through mental blocks before:

“Shutting down” negative thoughts
Offering incentives
“Just have fun” approach
The “band aid” approach
Staying steady through highs and lows

Of course, as moms, all of the ways we try to help our daughters come from the best intentions! We’re all doing our best to support and help our girls along the way. Sometimes, it can feel like trial and error.
How Lauren presented the program, and how Lyla made the decision to start on her own:

Explained the program and how it could help both of them, together.
Lyla was reluctant at first, thinking someone was just trying to fix her.
Lauren explained that she would connect with other girl athletes her age that struggle with the same things.
Then, Lauren left it alone for Lyla to consider and made sure not to push it.
After Lyla continued to experience the mental blocks she had been facing, she realized she wanted to give it a try. She was excited about it, too!

How they'll make time for the program, and what Lauren's excited about:

They'll do the program work during their weekly family night.
Doing the work of the program together, so Lyla knows she’s supported.
Preserving the role as “mom” and learning to stay in her lane.
Lauren's excited to see Lyla take a step back and fall in love with her sport again.

Now that Lauren and Lyla are a few weeks into the program, we share an update from Lauren on their work! Tune into the full episode to hear about how Lauren has seen Lyla grow in her confidence.
Curious on how to get started?
The Elite Competitor Program (our signature mental training program for female athletes and the parents who support them) is OPEN for enrollment NOW!
Head to join.elitecompetitor.com before Friday, February 3rd to save $400 and snag some awesome bonuses!
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How To Know If Your Daughter Is Ready For Mental Training. 3 Signs You Can't Ignore Jan 24, 2023

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What is mental training, and how do you know if your daughter is ready for it?
Today, we start by breaking down what the term mental training means. Then, we’re giving you 3 key signs that can help you determine if mental training is something your athlete daughter might benefit from.
So, what does it mean to train an athlete's mind? In short, it means that athletes can use their mind to leverage their performance.
There are three buckets to your daughter’s overall mental game:

Physical Training: The training that goes into her games
Knowledge of the Sport: The tactics, her understanding of the sport, and visual feedback
Mental Training: This is where her confidence goes. How she responds to pressure, comes back from mistakes, manages nerves, etc.

All three of these buckets enhance the others. For example, when her physical training improves and she gets better at her sport, we also see her knowledge of the game improve, and her mental training improves as well because she is more confident in her understanding of the sport.
But if any of these buckets are empty, then the other buckets are empty, too. And at that point she can’t reach her full potential.
If your athlete daughter doesn't have confidence in herself, then at best she might be pretty good at her sport. But at worst, she might end up walking away from the sport that she loves.
This is why mental training is so important. It can be empowering to your daughter for her to realize that she’s in control of her reactions and thoughts.
Here are the 3 key signs that she’s ready to start training her mind like she’s training her body.

She’s entering into the prime age of 11-18 for mental training.
- At this age they start to compete at higher levels
She’s starting to experience the “normal” parts of athletics, such as nerves, pressure, comparison, and mistakes.
- These are the normal parts of being an athlete that often aren’t talked about. And when athletes don’t talk about these things, they can start to believe that they’re the only ones experiencing them.
She has goals for herself.
- If she has talked about goals such as making the next team, becoming a great player, or being able to enjoy the game more, then she also needs to be training her mind.
- When she gets to this next level, more will be required from her. The pressure will be higher, so we want to help prepare her for those situations now.

We want to help her feel confident going into any situation knowing that she has skills to be able to navigate those things. And you can help her do this!
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Register at: www.trainhergame.com

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How To Help Your Daughter When She's Being Negative. 3 Strategies To Build Her Confidence So She Stops Beating Herself Up Jan 17, 2023

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You know first hand the times when your daughter is down and out. Maybe she's feeling frustrated with her performance, she's being super negative, or maybe she's getting caught up in that downward spiral.

We're going to talk about that today. How do you help support your athlete when she is beating herself up?

Nod your head if you've ever heard any of these from your daughter:

Only wants to talk about the things she did wrong in a game
Every time you give her a compliment she turns it negative or says "you have to say that, you're my mom!"
Nothing is ever good enough

I frequently ask moms in our community what they struggle with most in supporting their athlete daughter and "Negative Mindset" is always a top response!

Here's what you need to know:

Average athletes:

Believe they have to be hard on themselves in order to play well, otherwise they're letting their guard down
Don't want others to believe they think they're "too good." It's safer to focus on their flaws & mistakes... and be liked
Don't know the difference between thought and fact; they believe everything they think

As her mom, you want:

Believe in herself
Notice the positives too
Recognize all the great things she did
Know that she is good enough, no matter what anyone else might say
Have positive self-talk
Be proud of herself

So you...try to help by giving her advice and encouragement

"Focus on the positives"
"You did so many great things out there today, too!"
"You're just as good as everyone else"
"You're not chubby, you're beautiful"
"You do belong on this team"
"They do like you"

Unfortunately, telling isn't teaching. Just telling her things isn't actually teaching her how to overcome her own limiting beliefs and shift her negative self-talk into something more productive.

Plus, your daughter doesn't need you telling her everything. Your daughter needs her mom... and then to learn the skill of shifting her own thoughts.

You can't do this for her. This is one space where she has to learn the skills to do it herself.

But there are a few things you must do to help...

#1 - Stay in your role:

Shape the environment
Provide opportunities

#2 - Understand where she's coming from:

Validate her experience
Know that this is part of her psychology as a person & athlete
Remember that the brain's #1 job is to keep us safe
Research shows that people tend to focus more on the negative as they try to make sense of their experiences (Negativity Bias)

#3 - Provide HER the tools she needs to help herself. The could look like:

Sharing our new Athlete Tip podcast episodes
Enrolling her in The Elite Competitor Program
Helping her strengthen her mental game

Your daughter's role is to start recognizing these negative thoughts, evaluate her performance, shift her thinking, not attach her self-worth to her performance.

But she needs the tools to do this. It isn't innate for our brains to process in this manner unless we're taught how to do so. If you're anything like me, you've experienced this and know exactly what I'm talking about.

It just starts with doing the work! You can get started by joining our free training for Sports Moms that is happening now! Learn exactly how to get started with mental training for your athlete daughter! We'll be going over our proven Unstoppable Athlete Method to teach you the first steps to strengthening her mental game so she believes in herself as much as you do!

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ATHLETE TIP: Do This To Handle Pre-Game Nerves Jan 10, 2023

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Today's episode is all about pre game nerves. Having pre-game nerves is normal, but what should you do to handle this?

Our highlight for today's episode is a comment from one of our athletes in the community. Her name is Lynden, and she said,

"My biggest transformation has been my ability to bounce back from mistakes. This has helped me. Be more confident in my game and feel belonging. It also has shown me how to be a good role model. Be encouraging to my teammates. This program has helped me more than anything with my mental game. And I want to thank you guys for helping me."

Although Lynden was one of the participants of The Elite Competitor Program, she was the one who put in the work to get where she is right now.

We only provide our athletes with the tools they need, and it's up to them to put them into the work. One of the tools we teach is learning to handle pre-game nerves, and that's what we're going to share with you today.

What does having “pre-game nerves” mean?

Having “pre-game nerves” is something that all athletes deal with. So if you are an athlete that gets nervous before games, you're feeling some things in your body, your heart's racing, maybe your stomach aches, you feel some digestion issues, your mouth is dry, or you're sweating, then that's normal, you’re having “pre-game nerves”.

And as uncomfortable it might feel like, it actually means the opposite.

This is your body preparing you to compete.

It actually helps if you learn how to handle it. But when it gets overwhelming for you, that's when it starts to interfere with you being able to show up.

Pressure is a privilege

This is something that I say all the time to my athletes. Pressure is a privilege.

Pressure is a sign that you're ready and everyone gets to experience that. So embrace it and go out there shifting your nervousness into excitement. Take it as a sign that your body is ready!

See pre-game nerves as something useful instead of something to be avoided.

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3 Ways To Help Your Athlete Deal With Mean Girls In Sports So She Can Play With Confidence Without The Drama Jan 10, 2023

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Ever wonder how to handle those mean girls so your daughter can play with confidence without all the drama?

One mom from our Elite Competitor Program private Sports Moms community recently shared that her and her daughter have been finding so much success in dealing with tough situations, such as this. She says:

"I have been able to communicate with my daughter better. And also my daughter says my girl has so much more self-awareness and is realizing how to handle situations with confidence."

Today we're going to talk about how to have confidence in handling challenging situations. We know that there are going to be really tough situations in our athlete daughter's life in her sport. Being able to equip your daughter with the skills to communicate and advocate for herself is key to navigating through these challenges.

We want our daughters to be able to navigate and interact with a multitude of people throughout their lives. She's not always going to be met with people who are supportive of her. So, we want her to have confidence in herself regardless of what other people think.

The less their mindset is going to be pulled down by some of these outward influences, the better.

Help her hone her skills in:

Knowing her boundaries
Knowing her goals
Knowing how to speak up
Knowing what it takes to shift negative thinking herself

All of those things are going to strengthen her confidence so that she can be resilient in the face of some of these things that come up in her life and her sport.

She needs to have these skills of confidence herself so that she can navigate these tricky situations on her own.

You can opt to train her mental game and with that being said, you can check out trainhergame.com, to get FREE training!

Have your athlete daughter be confident, but don't forget to let them know that you have their back as well. So, if a situation escalates to the point where your daughter is already feeling unsafe, maybe it needs to come to the coach's attention.

And then don't be afraid to step in and speak with the coach or speak with the parent directly.

If you come in with a calm mind then it's going to have a positive outcome.

But if the situation is still tolerable, there's no need to overreact.

Help your daughter to...

#1. Ignore the haters.

They're always going to be there. It's just what it is. We want her to know how to handle those conflicts and know how to handle these kinds of people.

#2. Know her boundaries.

What's acceptable? What's not acceptable? And when it's not okay, teach them to step up and say something.

#3. Show her how to treat other women and also advocate for her to know what to say in those situations.

Supporting other women also includes how to handle conflict and what that looks like to hold boundaries.

Finally, give her the skills to be confident in the face of people who are not supportive of her. Remember, she needs to develop these confidence skills herself and you have the power to help her with that.

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