Raising Elite Competitors

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How Elite Competitor Academy Families Fit Mental Training Into a Packed Week Sep 26, 2026

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Parents worry that mental training just feels like "one more thing." Here's how these moms and daughters actually fit it in. Learn more here → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📌 Resources & Tools:
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🎓 Strengthen Your Athlete's Mental Game - Training for Parents → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips
💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide
🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors
FREE for Athletes:
🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
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⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
00:48 Fitting Mental Training Into a Busy Schedule
02:52 How Parents Engage with the Program
03:48 Ella's Experience as a Swimmer
05:16 Individual vs. Team Sports
07:50 Why the Elite Competitor Academy Works
👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.
🎤 Joined by two Elite Competitor Academy families, Michelle and her daughter Elise, and Danyell and her daughter Ella, sharing what changed for them inside the program.
Elise shares exactly how she fits her mental training into car rides before and after games, and why it never felt like another huge commitment on top of school and practice. You'll also hear Ella break down how the mental game applies differently for a solo sport like swimming versus a team sport like soccer.
What You'll Learn:
How Elise fits her mental training into 15-minute car rides, before or after games
Why the program never felt like "more school" once she actually started
How Michelle and Danyell stayed involved as parents without micromanaging it
What changes for an individual-sport athlete versus a team-sport athlete
Why every athlete, solo or team, needs these skills for a different reason
💬 Moms — comment below: What's the one thing that makes you worry a new program will be "one more thing" for your athlete?
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
Individual-sport athletes report anxiety or depression at nearly double the rate of team-sport athletes, 13% versus 7% (Pluhar et al., Journal of Sports Science and Medicine, 2019)
Self-talk and anxiety patterns differ meaningfully between individual and team versions of the same sport, tied to how responsibility is structured (Journal of Human Kinetics, 2025)
A meta-analysis of 86 studies and over 3,500 athletes found that about 10 minutes of imagery practice, three times a week, produced the strongest performance gains (Behavioral Sciences, 2025)
The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.
#sportsmom #mentalgame #girlathletes #sportsparenting #confidentathletes #visualizationforathletes #mentaltraining

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How to Help Your Athlete Bounce Back From a Bad Play in Minutes Sep 22, 2026

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Two moms share how they help their daughters bounce back from a bad play in minutes. Parents... Join me LIVE this week to learn more → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📌 Resources & Tools:
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🎓 Strengthen Your Athlete's Mental Game - Training for Parents → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips
💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide
🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors
FREE for Athletes:
🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS:
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Connect with us
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⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
00:39 Elise's Breakthrough on the Field
02:06 The Trust Yourself Trick
03:25 Ella's Pool Adaptation
05:10 Parents' New Playbook
07:45 Join the Elite Competitor Academy
👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.
🎤 Joined by two Elite Competitor Academy families, Michelle and her daughter Elise, and Danyell and her daughter Ella, sharing what changed for them inside the program.
Michelle shares the exact wristband trick she uses to remind Elise to trust herself mid-game, and Danyell describes how quickly Ella recovers between swims when she has a rough one.
Both moms also open up about how they changed the way they talk to their daughters after a game, swapping quick fixes for real support.
What You'll Learn:
✅ The exact wristband trick Michelle uses to remind Elise to trust her skills mid-game
✅ How Ella "knocks off" a bad swim and preps for the next one like it's brand new
✅ Why Elise's coach noticed a change before she said anything about it
✅ The shift from outcome praise to process praise, and why it reprograms self-talk
✅ What changed once both moms stopped focusing on what could've gone better
💬 Moms — comment below: What's one thing you say to your daughter right after a tough game or match?
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
👉Parents who give process-oriented feedback, focused on effort and strategy over outcome, support their young athlete's motivation more effectively (Motivation and Emotion, 2023)
👉A study of 46 NCAA Division I swimmers found that a structured pre-performance routine led to more helpful emotions and less intense negative emotions before racing (The Sport Psychologist, 2021)
👉A 2025 study of young elite athletes found that how quickly and constructively an athlete processes a mistake, not whether she dwells on it at all, was linked to better perceived performance (Frontiers in Sports and Active Living, 2025)
The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.
#sportsmom #mentalgame #girlathletes #confidentathletes #sportsparenting

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The Wrong Way and the Right Way to Bring Up Mental Training With Her Sep 15, 2026

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Your daughter doesn't need to love mental training to benefit from it. Here's why mental toughness for athletes starts before buy-in, and what actually happens on a Welcome Call. Learn more here, mom → elitecompetitor.com/emg
📌 Resources & Tools:
FREE for YOU:🎓 Strengthen Your Athlete's Mental Game - Training for Parents → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips
💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide
🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors
FREE for Athletes:
🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS:
👉 Join The Elite Mental Game for girl athletes → https://trainhergame.com/yt-emg
Connect with us!
IG: ➡︎ https://www.instagram.com/elitecompetitorcoach
Tik Tok: ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@raisingelitecompetitors
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⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
00:54 Community Shoutouts
02:03 She's Not Broken, Just Untrained
04:13 How to Get Her Bought In
05:59 Mental Training as a Skill
07:43 Proof It Works
09:12 How to Bring It Up
10:53 Closing Thoughts
👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre — a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.
You already believe mental training matters for your daughter. The hard part is actually bringing it up without making her feel like something's wrong with her.
What You'll Learn:
✅ Why your daughter isn't broken, she's simply untrained in one specific skill
✅ Why there's no perfect script, and what to focus on instead
✅ Why she doesn't have to be excited about this for it to be the right move
✅ The specific order kids move through before they actually buy in
✅ What happens on a Welcome Call, and why most skeptical athletes leave convinced
💬 Moms — comment below: What's the one thing that's made you hesitate to bring this up with her?
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
👉A 3-week psychological skills program produced significant gains in young athletes' domain-specific self-esteem, including athletic competence (Merlin et al., Pediatric Exercise Science, 2024)
👉An 8-week psychological skills training program significantly reduced competitive anxiety in adolescent athletes, with the effect still holding 3 months later (Bai et al., Social Behavior and Personality, 2026)
👉Autonomy-supportive parenting was linked to greater persistence and better self-regulation in adolescents completing tasks they weren't initially enthusiastic about (Papa et al., School Mental Health, 2026)
The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.
#mentaltraining #sportsmom #girlathletes #mentalperformance #confidencecoaching

Athlete Tip: 77% of Athletes Freeze Under Pressure. Here's the Fix. Sep 08, 2026

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The science behind why you freeze under pressure. Athletes: take this quiz to find out your competitor style → https://elitecompetitor.com/athlete
📌 Resources & Tools:
FREE for sports parents:
🎓 Strengthen Your Athlete's Mental Game - Training for Parents → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide
🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors
FREE for Athletes:
🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS:👉 Join The Elite Mental Game for girl athletes → https://trainhergame.com/yt-emg
Connect with us!
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⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:00 Intro: Freezing Under Pressure
00:55 Mackenzie's Story
02:35 What Happens in Your Brain
04:10 Tip 1: Name It to Tame It
05:11 Tip 2: Anchor and Go
06:29 Tip 3: Bridge Practice and Games
08:41 Recap and Outro
👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre — a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.
🎙 This episode is hosted by Coach Saylor, our mental performance coach for competitive girl athletes inside the Elite Competitor Academy.
In this episode, Coach Saylor breaks down why athletes who look sharp in practice can suddenly freeze the moment a real competition is on the line. She shares the science behind it, plus three tools you can start using with your daughter today.
Coach Saylor also shares a real message from one of our Elite Competitor Academy athletes who used these exact tools to compete like she practices and post some of her best results yet.
What You'll Learn:
Why skills that feel automatic in practice can break down the moment pressure shows up
The "name it to tame it" step that takes the power out of a pressure spiral
A simple pre-play anchor routine (breath, cue word, physical signal) to reset instantly
How to build practice on purpose so game pressure stops feeling foreign
Why her past training is the strongest fuel for her present confidence
💬 Moms — comment below: When does your daughter's practice-brilliance disappear the most? Big tournaments, playoffs, or when a college coach is watching?
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:-
77% of athletes experience choking under pressure at least once a year, averaging 18.25 times (Mesagno, Hammond & Goodyear, 2024)
A meta-analysis of 800 athletes across 15 sports found pre-performance routines produce moderate-to-large performance gains specifically under pressure (Rupprecht, Tran & Gröpel, 2021)
Competitive performance anxiety in young athletes is rising due to early specialization and year-round training, and it directly interferes with executing trained skills (McDuff, Garvin & Marsalis, 2025)
The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.
#sportsmom #mentalperformance #girlathletes #confidencecoach #athletemindset

2 Moms Share What Helped When Their Daughters Shut Down After Mistakes Sep 02, 2026

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Two moms share what helped their daughters bounce back after a mistake. 🧠 Learn more here, mom → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📌 Resources & Tools:
FREE for YOU:
🎓 Strengthen Your Athlete's Mental Game - Training for Parents → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips
💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide
🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors
FREE for Athletes:
🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS:
👉 Join The Elite Mental Game for girl athletes → https://trainhergame.com/yt-emg
Connect with us!
IG: ➡︎ https://www.instagram.com/elitecompetitorcoach
Tik Tok: ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@raisingelitecompetitors
YouTube: ➡︎ SUBSCRIBE 🙌🏼 and hang out in our community here with us!
⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
01:39 Meet the Moms and Daughters
02:59 Why They Joined the Academy
03:18 Elyse's Struggle on the Field
04:19 Ella's Individual vs. Team Pressure
04:58 Danielle's Perspective on Building a Foundation
06:21 Overcoming Early Skepticism
09:14 Program Overview and How to Join
👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre — a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.
🎤 Joined by two Elite Competitor Academy families, Michelle and her daughter Elise, and Danyell and her daughter Ella, sharing what changed for them inside the program.
Michelle describes exactly what she saw from the sideline when Elise made a mistake, and the moment that changed how her daughter handled it. Danyell shares why she wanted her daughter to hear these same tools from someone other than her, before the pressure of competitive swimming caught up to them.
What You'll Learn:
✅ What Michelle saw from the sideline when Elise made a mistake, and what changed once she got support
✅ The specific moment Elise decided to trust her skills again mid-game
✅ Why Danyell wanted the message to come from someone other than her, even with a psychology background of her own
✅ The exact question Michelle asked Elise that opened the door to try mental training
✅ Why doubting this will work at first is a normal reaction, not a red flag
💬 Moms, comment below: What's the exact moment you realized your daughter's mental game needed more support than her physical training?
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
👉Parents' influence on youth athlete motivation has been found to surpass coaches' in some respects (Frontiers in Psychology, 2023)
👉A qualitative study of coaches, parents, and athletes found a consistent gap in know-how around mental skill development, meaning families are often the ones initiating outside resources (Frontiers in Sports and Active Living, 2025)
👉A network meta-analysis of 46 randomized controlled trials found psychological interventions meaningfully reduced competitive anxiety in athletes (Sports Medicine – Open, 2026)
The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.
#sportsmom #mentalgame #girlathletes #sportsparenting #confidentathletes

She Wins On Bad Days: A 14-Year-Old's Advice for Athletes & Parents (Maeryn's Story) Aug 25, 2026

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14-year-old, Maeryn, a nationally ranked tennis athlete, shares her advice for showing up on bad days. 🎾 Learn more about the Elite Competitor Academy program she uses to keep centered → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📌 Resources & Tools:
FREE for YOU:
🎓 Strengthen Your Athlete's Mental Game - Training for Parents → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips
💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide
🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors
FREE for Athletes:
🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS:👉 Join The Elite Mental Game for girl athletes → https://trainhergame.com/yt-emg
Connect with us!
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⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:28 Intro
01:11 Meet Maeryn
02:41 Recent Tournament Wins & Mental Prep
05:09 Snapback Routine & Breathing Techniques
06:35 The Brain Dump Strategy
08:48 Positive Affirmations
10:25 Overcoming Past Struggles
12:00 Advice & Closing Thoughts
👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre — a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.
🎾 This week's guest is Maeryn, a 14-year-old nationally ranked tennis player and our July Athlete of the Month. She joins Coach Saylor to share her advice for athletes and parents on showing up and competing even on the hard days.
Maeryn walks through her Snapback Routine, box breathing, and the pre-match worry list she hands straight to her parents so she can't carry it onto the court. She also shares the four-line affirmation script she reads during changeovers.
This episode is for the athlete who's had a bad week and the parent trying to figure out what to say to her. Share it with your daughter, then come back and comment below.
What You'll Learn:
✅ How Maeryn shows up and competes even during a rough stretch
✅ The exact Snap Back Routine she uses to reset mid-match in under 20 seconds
✅ Why she writes down every worry before a tournament and hands it to her parents
✅ The four-line third-person affirmation script she reads during changeovers
✅ How she reframes a loss so it doesn't turn into a weeklong spiral
💬 Moms — comment below: What's the first thing you say to your daughter in the car after a tough loss?
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
👉Third-person self-talk improves emotion regulation and self-control under pressure by creating psychological distance from the stressor. (Moser et al., Scientific Reports, 2017)
👉A meta-analysis found pre-performance routines meaningfully improve concentration and lower pre-competition anxiety. (Gröpel & Mesagno, International Review of Sport and Exercise Psychology, 2021)
👉A brief writing exercise immediately before a high-stakes moment significantly boosted performance, especially for those who are habitually anxious. (Ramirez & Beilock, Science, 2011)
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The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.
#sportsmom #mentaltraining #girlsintennis #confidencebuilding #athletemindset

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It's Not Burnout: Why Your Athlete Suddenly Wants to Quit Aug 19, 2026

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She wants to quit and it's probably not burnout. Check our free training for sports parents to help her stay in the game → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📌 Resources & Tools:
FREE for YOU:
🎓 Strengthen Your Athlete's Mental Game - Training for Parents → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide
🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors
FREE for Athletes:
🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS:👉 Join The Elite Mental Game for girl athletes → https://trainhergame.com/yt-emg
Connect with us!
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Tik Tok: ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@raisingelitecompetitors
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⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:00 The Hook: Is It Burnout?
00:16 The Competitive Dancer's Story
01:26 The Gap Between Success and Feeling
03:57 Burnout vs. Mental Game Problem
06:26 Three Questions to Tell the Difference
07:39 My Own Experience With This
08:44 How to Build the Mental Game Toolkit
👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre — a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.
Your athlete says she wants to quit, and your first instinct might be to call it burnout.
In this episode, I walk through a true story about a 15 year old competitive dancer who placed top 10 at nationals and still wanted to quit two weeks later, and why that gap between outside success and inside confidence is almost never burnout.
I also share about my own story of walking away from volleyball my senior year and calling it burnout, when it was really unmanaged perfectionism no one taught me how to handle.
🧐 What You'll Learn:
The one gap that separates real burnout from a mental game problem hiding as burnout- Why "get out of your own head" doesn't work, even when it's true
The 3 questions to ask before deciding it's time for a break- What it means when she can't feel her own wins
How comparing herself to teammates, not outcomes, fuels the spiral
💬 Moms — comment below: Has your athlete ever said she wants to quit right after a strong season?
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
- About 10% of adolescent athletes ages 13-15 report sport burnout, with slightly higher rates among girls (Saarinen et al., 2024, cited in Journal of Adolescence, 2025)
- Estimates of youth athlete burnout prevalence range from just 1% to 12% depending on the study (Systematic review, 2025)
- Higher perfectionism in athletes is linked to increased burnout, anxiety, and lower self-esteem (Frontiers in Psychology, 2024)
The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.
#sportsmom #mentaltraining #youthsports #sportsparenting #confidentathlete

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Athlete Tip: Your Coach Doesn't Hate You (Here's What's Really Happening) Aug 11, 2026

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Think your coach hates you? Watch this before you believe it.
Athletes: take this quiz to find out your competitor style → https://elitecompetitor.com/athlete
📌 Resources & Tools:
FREE for YOU:
🎓 Strengthen Your Athlete's Mental Game - Training for Parents → https://trainhergame.com/mom
|📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips
💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide
🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors
FREE for Athletes:🔹 Take this quiz to find out your competitor style → https://elitecompetitor.com/athlete
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS:
👉 Join The Elite Mental Game for girl athletes → https://trainhergame.com/yt-emg
Connect with us!
IG: ➡︎ https://www.instagram.com/elitecompetitorcoach
Tik Tok: ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@raisingelitecompetitors
YouTube: ➡︎ SUBSCRIBE 🙌🏼 and hang out in our community here with us!
⏰ Key Timestamps:
👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.
If you've ever thought your coach was picking on you or didn't like you, this one's for you. I'm breaking down what's actually happening when a coach keeps correcting you versus when a coach goes quiet.I'm also giving you the exact script to use when you need your coach to give you more feedback or clarity on your role.
What You'll Learn:
✅ How to tell the difference between a coach who's investing in you and a coach who's checked out
✅ Why the thought "my coach doesn't like me" makes practice and games harder than they need to be
✅ The Thought Wheel, how one thought shapes your feelings, actions, and results without you noticing
✅ A real story about a player who thought she was being picked on and was actually being coached
✅ Exact words to use when you need to ask your coach for more feedback or clarity
Athletes — take this quiz to find out your competitor style → https://elitecompetitor.com/athlete
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
⚡️A poor coach relationship was a significant driver of youth athletes leaving their sport, per a 2024 qualitative study of 20 youth athletes (Cogent Social Sciences, 2024)
⚡️Roughly 35% of youth sport participants leave their programs annually, and by age 13, an estimated 70% have left sport altogether (Kinesiology Review, 2024)
⚡️A study of 258 competitive gymnasts found negative self-talk predicted higher competition anxiety and lower performance, while positive self-talk predicted better results (PLOS ONE, 2022)
The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.
#raisingelitecompetitors #sportsmom #mentaltraining #girlathletes #confidence

Join our FREE live training for sports parents: The Do's and Don'ts of Strengthening Your Athlete's Mental Game! -> REGISTER HERE

How Zoey Uses Comparison to Fuel Her Confidence, Not Crush It Aug 06, 2026

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How one teen turns comparison into fuel instead of letting it crush her confidence. Learn more about EMG here, mom → https://trainhergame.com/mom

📌 Resources & Tools:

FREE for YOU:

🎓 Strengthen Your Athlete's Mental Game - Training for Parents → https://trainhergame.com/mom

📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips

💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide

🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors

FREE for Athletes:

🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz

🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge

OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS

👉 Join The Elite Mental Game for girl athletes → https://trainhergame.com/yt-emg

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⏰ Key Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction

00:45 Meet Zoe Roberts

02:07 Learning to Manage Emotions

04:40 The Snapback Routine

06:34 Pre-Game Routine and Support System

07:14 Turning Comparison into Inspiration

08:32 Zoe's Win and Becoming a Role Model

09:42 Final Tips and Wrap-Up

🎤 This week Coach Saylor sits down with Zoey Roberts, our EMG June Athlete of the Month, a rising high school freshman who plays basketball, volleyball, and track.

Zoey used to cry after almost every mistake in a game. Now she resets in seconds and cheers louder for her teammates than she ever argued with a ref.

She walks us through the reframe that turned watching stronger athletes from intimidating into motivating, and the habit that changed her game.

What You'll Learn:

✅ Why comparing herself to a stronger athlete now fuels Zoey instead of scaring her

✅ The 2-second signal Zoey uses to snap back after a mistake, and why it works better than "shake it off"

✅ How the five-sense grounding countdown calms her down before a big moment

✅ What she does on the bench when she gets subbed out, and why it matters for the whole team

✅ Her honest advice for a mom whose daughter has no idea what mental training even is

💬 Moms — comment below: What does your daughter's first 10 minutes after a mistake usually look like?

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:

👉Psychological skills training produced a notably larger reduction in anxiety for adolescent athletes than for the broader athlete population studied (Frontiers in Psychology, 2025)

👉Self-compassion predicted a stronger performance rebound the day after a rough outing, in a study of college athletes (Psychology of Sport and Exercise, 2022)

👉Peer support from teammates directly reduces mental fatigue and increases engagement in adolescent athletes (Scientific Reports, 2025)

The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#sportsmom #mentaltraining #girlathletes #elitementalgame #confidencecoaching

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What Shows Up When Someone Searches Your Athlete's Name Aug 04, 2026

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Your daughter's recruiting profile makes her more searchable than she realizes.
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Guest Resources:
Name: Fareedah Shaheed
Title: Internet Safety Expert
Email: cyberfareedah@gmail.com
@social handle: @CyberFareedah
Free Protect Kids Online Resource Library: https://sekuva.mykajabi.com/get-your-internet-safety-resource-library
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00:00 Introduction: Why Digital Safety Matters
01:35 Meet Farida Shaheed
02:41 Farida's Childhood and Online Grooming Story
05:13 The Turning Point With Her Mom
08:34 What Grooming Really Looks Like
10:58 Guidelines for Young Athletes Online
13:33 Doom Scrolling vs. Dream Scrolling
17:13 The SAFE Method
21:01 New AI-Powered Threats
21:57 Where to Find Farida
👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre — a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.
🎙 Today's guest is Fareedah Shaheed, aka CyberFareedah, a Forbes 30 Under 30 internet safety expert who was groomed online as a teenager and built the SAFE Method to help other families avoid what she went through.
Fareedah walks through exactly what a stranger can find when they search your athlete's name, and why recruiting makes her more visible online than most kids her age. She also shares the exact conversation her mom had with her that changed everything, and why reacting with fear almost always backfires.
She breaks down her SAFE Method (Safe spaces, Accountability, Fun, Empathy) and gives three specific moves you can make tonight to protect what's public without hiding her talent or pulling her offline.
What You'll Learn:
✅ What actually shows up when someone searches your athlete's name
✅ Three specific ways to protect her online without going private or pulling her offline
✅ Why a fearful reaction pushes your daughter to hide more, not less
✅ The SAFE Method: Safe spaces, Accountability, Fun, Empathy
✅ The exact script for introducing phone check-ins without triggering secrecy
💬 Moms — comment below: Have you ever searched your own daughter's name to see what actually shows up?
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
More than 300 million children a year are victims of online sexual exploitation and abuse worldwide. (Childlight Global Child Safety Institute, University of Edinburgh, 2024)
Online enticement reports to NCMEC's CyberTipline rose to more than 546,000 in 2024, a 192% increase over 2023. (National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, 2025)
1 in 17 minors report having personally experienced sextortion. (Thorn & NCMEC, 2024)
The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.
#sportsmom #onlinesafety #digitalparenting #raisingelitecompetitors #parentingteens

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