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Being Influenced Oct 04, 2019

Show notes

QOTW: What are you highlights this week?

Engrid: Travel highlights from vacation to Portland, Maine & Nantucket

IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS:

Influence & how to stay true to your own compass

Being influenced to be something for reasons of not being true to ourselves

Influencer marketing tactics

Challenges and why they may not be for everyone (however tempting)

Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies

How you are motivated

Being triggered by influence: why do I feel compelled to jump on the bandwagon when it doesn't align with my internal values?

Not everything has to be for me [and it doesn't have to be bad or good]

When listening to an "expert" look for someone who acknowledges a grey area

When we want to emulate someone or something to feel a sense of connection & belonging - digging deeper, what kind of connection am I really craving?

Deep desires for most humans: being told you're smart & special

Gal Pal Corral Discussion:

What have you been influenced by?

We Mention

The Four Tendencies - Gretchen Rubin

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Unlearning To Play Small Sep 26, 2019

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QOTW: What's Your Pet Peeve?

Engrid: Unsolicited Advice

Georgie: Condescending People

IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS:

What it looks like when we play small in our lives

The process Engrid used to understand how she felt after getting into a car accident

How that hurt of "being a burden" taught her to play small

Understanding our "bruises" that made us play small

Putting a guard up to stay safe

Play small by trying to fit in

The messages we get that it's not safe to be yourself

Feeling abandoned when your friends don't have your back

Playing small by overcompensating in one area of life

Being the character of yourself

Getting lost in your created identity

Practices for unlearning these behavoirs

Awareness of self-talk

Community is self care

Gal Pal Corral Discussion:

When and how did you learn to play small when you were younger?

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Tara Brach

Brené Brown - Braving the Wilderness

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GEORGIE

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Navigating Triggers Sep 20, 2019

Show notes

QOTW:

Song of the moment

Engrid: "Don't Hurt Yourself" - Beyonce

Georgie: "Boyfriend" - Ariana Grande

IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS:

Learning how to navigate comments we disagree with or feel triggered by

All the nuances that come with consuming information [and reflecting on how YOU feel about it]

"Cancel Culture"

The importance of language

[When you're ready] getting triggered can help you grow

The importance of knowing when you need to create a bubble of safety for yourself

It's not so much WHAT someone is saying, it's the INTENTION behind it

What people say/share with me [isn't about me]

The info I share is like a pizza → take what you like, leave what you don't

Holding space for others' frame of reference

The power of sharing from your personal experience, when faced with someone who has conflicting ideas/opinions from your own

Using humor and/or offering alternative perspectives to express your frame of reference, to redirect a conversation

While we believe language matters → You're not responsible for how people receive what you say

Owning your apology when you know you are in the wrong [without getting defensive] -- (we know this one's real hard and still a work in progress for both of us too)

Getting better at apologizing + receiving apologies

The 5 Apology Languages

GAL PAL CORRAL DISCUSSION TOPICS:

A time that you apologized to someone for something that was offensive or hurtful

Or a time that you had the courage to confront someone that had triggered you

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Dealing With Fear & Performance Anxiety Sep 12, 2019

Show notes

QOTW: Fall favorites & traditions E: Fall foliage, apple picking, plaid G: Apple Fest & apple picking

IN THIS EPISODE WE DISCUSS:

Knowing what YOU need to do to make you feel prepared to show up

The power of practice & preparation

The value of [visualization] prior to an experience you feel nervous/anxious about

Nerves are usually an indication that we want to do well [and that we want to be loved]

Preparing for something you feel nervous about ➡️ communicating expectations and your intentions

Navigating situational anxiety

Tapping into personal mantra's to combat fear thoughts

Fear Setting

Exposure Therapy

Noticing the stories we've told ourselves that have perpetuated fear/anxiety

How WE deal with fear may be heavily influenced by how our parents (or primary care takers) dealt with fear

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Learning To Heal Our Body Image Sep 06, 2019

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E: Reclaiming "Witch": The Magic Of The Divine Feminine (Lisa Lister)

Having Mixed Feelings Aug 29, 2019

Show notes

QOTW:

What have you been listening to lately?

G: T-Swift's latest album

IN THIS EPISODE:

All feelings are worthy of being present, showing up, & being acknowledged

You're allowed to feel multiple (and even opposing) feelings at the same time

Articulating our feelings

Feeling simultaneously happy and sad

Wanting to be social but also wanting to take care of yourself

Knowing your needs and being able to express them effectively

The only way to move through a feeling (you don't want to be feeling) is to allow yourself to feel it

Challenging multi-faceted feelings (ex. When you feel happy for someone but also jealous)

Confronting people with how you feel

The power of sharing with someone who can actively listen & truly CARES about you

So much of our pain comes from when we perceive that others don't care

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Brene Brown's Seven Elements of Trust

Oversharing & When To Get Personal Aug 22, 2019

Show notes

In this episode Engrid is coming to you solo to answer a listener's question from the Gal Pal Corral.

IN THIS EPISODE:

We're unpacking when to get personal & how much

How to tell if you can really trust someone enough to open up

Asking what other's expectations are & communicating your own

Who is safe to get vulnerable with

Why it takes time to establish build trust

Gossip & "quick hit" forms of connection

Passive & Proactive steps you can take when someone is gossiping

Things to look for when trying to figure out if you can trust someone

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Self-Care Aug 15, 2019

Show notes

QOTW: What are you excited about lately?

Engrid: Sister is coming to visit for Labor Day

Georgie: Sister is getting married this weekend!

IN THIS EPISODE:

Self-Care & How to take care of yourself in different seasons

Being mindful & selective of what you expose yourself to

The superiority complex that can show up with "self-care"

How you can do the same activity & your intention can be so different

When "feeling better than others" is all you have

Red-flags to be aware of in your pursuit of self-care

Self-care isn't just an activity - it's the mindset you go into it with

How we define self care for ourselves

We discuss the guilt that can arise when you change from your default

"I'll be happy when..."

QUOTES:

"If I think I'm enough, then I'm behind"

"Contentment made me uncomfortable, happiness gave me anxiety...if I feel those things, then something's wrong"

"Boredom isn't the anti-christ"

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GEORGIE

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Adult Friendships & Getting Better At Small Talk Aug 10, 2019

Show notes

N THIS EPISODE:

We discuss having better conversations, while staying true to yourself.

The give and take of a good conversation.

& making and keeping friends as an adult

Life Updates

Having better Conversations

Working on your small talk skills

Asking an easy to answer question

Using observations to start a conversation

You don't want to make anyone uncomfortable

Why conversations are like tennis matches not interviews

Why it's awkward to have a one sided conversations

The power of remembering what people say

Everyone plays a different role in friendships

Friendships as an adult

The power of "light touch" in friendships

Practical ways to create meaningful friendships

Finding connector friends

Friendship breakups

Long distance friends

Phone calls

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