Pure Desire Podcast

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303 - Helping My Spouse Heal w/ Carol Juergensen Sheets Apr 25, 2023

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In order for true restoration to take place in a marriage, both spouses must heal (especially the betrayed partner). While pursuing their recovery from addiction or unwanted sexual behavior, men often ask, "How can I help my spouse heal?" On today's episode, we are joined by the woman who literally wrote the book on this question. Carol Juergensen Sheets, AKA "Carol the Coach," is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and author who wrote Help Her Heal: An Empathy Workbook For Sex Addicts To Help Their Partners Heal and Help Them Heal: Teaching You Both How to Heal Your Relationship After Sexual Betrayal. We talk about how to help our betrayed spouse heal, the importance of empathy, and how to have effective communication throughout the healing journey.

RESOURCES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Help Her Heal (Carol's book)

Help Them Heal (Carol's book)

Unleashing Your Power (Carol's Book)

Sex Help With Carol The Coach (Carol's Website)

Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (IITAP Certification)

Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (IITAP Certification)

APSATS (Betrayal Organization)

The California Center for Healing (Bill & Ginger Bercaw's Organization)

The Intimacy Pyramid (Dan Drake's Organization)

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302 - Developing Personal Promises Apr 18, 2023

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One of the most meaningful tools we use on the recovery journey is called a personal promise (once called a prophetic promise). This tool helps us connect a truth we see from God's word and connect it with an experience in our life. Fusing the right and left brain together is powerful. On today's episode, we discuss how we use these promises on our recovery journey, what makes them effective, how to create your own, and more.

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FASTER Scale (Tool)

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301 - The 4 People You Need In Recovery Apr 11, 2023

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Recovery is not a journey we do alone. Though the work is specific to us, we need a safe, trusted community around us to ensure the work of recovery sticks! On today’s episode, we’re joined by our Clinical Director, Tyler Chinchen, to discuss the four different roles/people we need with us on the recovery journey. We identify these four people/roles and talk through why they are so necessary in our recovery journey.

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Group Leader Training (Video Course)

Two Roads (John Lynch's Trueface Message)

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300 - We Made It To 300! Apr 04, 2023

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The Pure Desire Podcast has officially entered the 300s! To celebrate, we've got some special stuff for you. A role reversal, a massive giveaway, the future of the show, our favorites from the last 100 episodes, and ministry updates.

Join us for this milestone! 300 down. At least another 300 to go!

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299 - How Recovery Changes After Year One w/ Ben Bennett Mar 28, 2023

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Oftentimes, the recovery journey begins with crisis. Pornography or unwanted sexual behavior negatively impacts our lives and relationships and we know change is needed. But as the recovery journey progresses, crisis can diminish. When that happens, motivation for the journey changes. Today, we’re joined by Ben Bennett (leader of Resolution Movement and author of Free To Thrive and Living Free) to talk through how recovery changes after the first year. We talk through the shift from a sobriety mindset to overall health, how motivation changes, the importance of self-care, and tools necessary for long-term sexual health.

RESOURCES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Resolution Movement (Ben's organization)

Free To Thrive (Ben's book)

Living Free (Recovery Resource for College-Aged Men)

Top Gun (Recovery Resource for Teenage Boys)

Genesis Process (Recovery Resource for Men/Women)

Good Pictures, Bad Pictures Jr. (Parenting book)

Unwanted (Jay Stringer's book)

FASTER Scale (Emotional Awareness & Relapse Prevention Tool)

Three Circles (Relapse Prevention Tool)

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298 - Image Management w/ Nate Larkin Mar 21, 2023

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A significant challenge men and women face in recovery is _image management_—the attempt to control how they are perceived by others. This can be even more challenging for those in the church. Today, we're joined by Nate Larkin (founder of Samson Society and author of Samson and the Pirate Monks) to discuss what motivates this desire for image management. We talk about how to identify when we slip into image management, the pitfalls of it, and ways we can avoid or step out of image management.

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297 - Moral Failings In The Church w/ Randy Alcorn Mar 14, 2023

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It seems inevitable that another high-profile Christian leader or pastor will have a public moral failing. Many of these moral failings are in the area of sexual brokenness. Today, we're joined by Randy Alcorn, the best-selling author of Heaven, Happiness, and The Purity Principle, to discuss why these failings continue to happen. Randy helps us understand what contributes to the fall of high-profile leaders, how churches can recover and heal, and how to prevent this in the future of the church.

RESOURCES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Eternal Perspective Ministries (Randy's organization)

Randy Alcorn's Books

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296 - Love Thy Body w/ Nancy Pearcey Mar 07, 2023

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A common assumption in the church is, "soul good, body bad." But on today's episode, our guest, Professor Nancy Pearcey, flips this idea on its head. Nancy shares perspectives from her book, Love Thy Body, where she addresses beliefs we commonly adopt in the church and identifies how damaging they can be—specifically, beliefs about our bodies and our sexuality. Nancy helps us understand how a high view of our body and sexuality can help us flourish inside God's plan for our life.

RESOURCES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Love Thy Body (Nancy's book)

The Toxic War On Masculinity (Nancy's book)

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295 - How Counseling Helps Marriages Feb 28, 2023

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Counseling is incredibly beneficial, especially when it comes to the recovery and healing journey in marriage. On today's episode, we talk to Bill & Eileen Fagan (two Pure Desire Clinicians) about how counseling helps marriages. We discuss why counseling can be so beneficial, the benefits of couples being counseled together, and how counseling has and continues to save marriages.

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Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Pure Desire Counseling

Sexual Integrity 101 (Video Course)

When To Refer To Counseling (Free Tool)

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294 - FAQ #15 - Marriage Feb 21, 2023

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On today's Frequently Asked Questions episode, we're tackling questions about marriage. We talk about reintegrating sex after disclosure, how to talk about and potentially change boundaries, attraction and loss of it, the 5-year relapse, helping our spouse through a trigger, and much more.