Pure Desire Podcast

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313 - From Co-Addict Model To A Partner-Sensitive Approach Jul 04, 2023

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As new research emerges and becomes mainstream, it’s important that our approach remains current. This is the heart behind the recent update to our resource for women, Betrayal & Beyond. In this episode, Heather Kolb and Ashley Jameson share the “why” behind the update, they highlight the major changes (and what stayed the same), and who should go through this updated resource.

RESOURCES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Betrayal & Beyond Kit—including NEW video companion (Women's Betrayal Resource)

Betrayal & Beyond Online Groups

APSATS A Partner Sensitive Approach To Healing From Betrayal w/ Dr. Barbara Steffens (Podcast)

Women's Takeover #1: Healing From Betrayal w/ Dr. Barbara Steffens

Unraveled (Women's Recovery Resource)

Sexual Integrity 101 (Video Course)

Connected (Marriage Resource)

Group Leader Training (Video Course)

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312 - Addressing Porn In The Church w/ Sam Black Jun 27, 2023

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Pornography undermines every ministry in a local church. Sam Black, author of The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong About Pornography And How To Fix It (GIVEAWAY IN SHOW NOTES), joins us to take an honest look at the harmful effects of ignoring unwanted sexual behavior in the church. This episode is packed with practical ways that churches can begin to meet the real need that exists within their congregations.

RESOURCES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

FREE COPY of The Healing Church (First 50 get book for free)

FREE Intro/Chapter 1 of The Healing Church

Covenant Eyes (Accountability Software)

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311 - Rewiring Our Brains Sexually Jun 20, 2023

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Unwanted sexual behavior and betrayal trauma have a profound impact on the brain. But the brain is amazing and can be rewired! Heather Kolb joins us for this episode with tips and tools for rewiring our brain sexually. We discuss why rewiring our brain after sexual addiction is uniquely challenging, how long we should expect this process to take, and who else should be involved.

RESOURCES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Sexual Integrity 101

Groups

Seven Pillars of Freedom (Resource For Struggling Men)

Unraveled (Resource For Struggling Women)

Betrayal & Beyond (Resource For Betrayed Women)

Great Sex Rescue (Sheila Wray Gregoire’s Book)

Plucky (Accountability Software)

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310 - Stories From The Church: Petra Church Jun 13, 2023

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Launching Pure Desire groups at your church can feel intimidating at first. In this episode, we start a new series: Stories From The Church. Our first episode in this new series, we spoke with the team responsible for successfully implementing groups at Petra Church in Pennsylvania. We learned how they overcame some of the most common hurdles churches face, how they train and recruit leaders, and reflect on some of the success they’ve enjoyed over the years.

RESOURCES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Pure Desire Summit Conquer Series

Sexual Integrity 101

Conquer Series

Group Leader Training

Pure Desire Clinical Program

Living Free

Unraveled (Resource For Struggling Women)

Groups

How to Talk With Your Kids About Sex

Betrayal & Beyond (Resource For Betrayed Women)

Church Membership

Fearless Series (James Reeves)

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309 - Confidentiality & Mandatory Reporting Jun 06, 2023

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Confidentiality is critically important in the group setting. So is protecting victims and vulnerable populations through mandatory reporting. On today’s episode, we talk with Rich Moore about how to strike a balance between confidentiality and mandated reporting, how to proactively protect the group, and the process of reporting if and when necessary. Finally, we explored the positive outcomes that mandated reporting can have on the people involved.

SHOW NOTES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Group Leader Training

Church Law & Tax

Child Welfare Information Gateway

Memo of understanding

Stories of Healing: Rich Moore (Podcast Episode)

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308 - From Porn Star To Pastor w/ Joshua Broome May 30, 2023

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The path from an award-winning porn star to a pastor just doesn’t make sense. But that’s the path God paved for our guest today, Joshua Broome (cofounder of Share the King). We talk to Joshua about how he got into performing porn, how God rescued him, and God is using him as a speaker, pastor, influencer, and podcast host to help people follow Jesus and live with sexual integrity.

RESOURCES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Share The King (Joshua’s Ministry)

Pure Desire Online Groups (for men and women struggling or betrayed)

Seven Pillars of Freedom (for struggling men)

Unraveled (for struggling women)

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307 - Betrayal As A Pastor's Wife w/ Michelle Stumbo May 23, 2023

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The devastation created through betrayal trauma can turn a partner’s world upside down and impact them in a way they never imagined. But what does healing from betrayal trauma look like if your spouse is in a public position—doctor, teacher, police officer, judge, or pastor? Today, we’re joined by Michelle Stumbo (married to Nick Stumbo, the Executive Director for Pure Desire). We talk through what healing from betrayal looks like when your husband is the pastor. What tools and boundaries are necessary, how it impacts kids and healing as a family, the obstacles you may face, and even how the group experience might look a little different.

RESOURCES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Betrayal & Beyond (Women's Betrayal Resource)

Pure Desire Counseling

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306 - Racism & Sexual Brokenness w/ Immanuel & Michelle Garraway May 16, 2023

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The more we seek to understand the factors that impact sexual brokenness, the more we recognize how racism can be a contributing factor. But how does racism impact sexual brokenness? On today’s episode, we’re joined by Immanuel and Michelle Garraway, who share their experiences with racism and the role it played in their recovery and healing journey. We talk through how family of origin and harmful intergenerational messages can become a catalyst for sexual brokenness, and how owning your story and the group experience can become a safe place for people of color.

RESOURCES

Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Pure Desire Online Groups

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305 - Let's Talk About Divorce w/ Andrea Rogers May 09, 2023

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When a couple experiences the fallout of sexual brokenness and betrayal trauma, we desire healing and restoration of their marriage. Yet, we know in some cases, separation is necessary. And sometimes, divorce happens. We’re joined by Andrea Rogers, a Certified Life Coach who is passionate about helping people reach their full potential. Andrea is also a Certified Partner Coach with APSATS (Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists), trained in using the Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model, which was instrumental in her healing from betrayal trauma. On today’s episode, we talk about divorce—when to consider it, what boundaries are needed, how to help kids through the effects of divorce, and more.

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304 - Teen Girls & Porn w/ Crystal Renaud Day (Women's Takeover) May 02, 2023

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We know not only men look at porn. In fact, it’s been suggested that the fastest-growing demographic of porn users is women. And teen girls are getting caught up in the allure of pornography. On today’s episode, we’re joined by Crystal Renaud Day, an author, speaker, and founding director of She Recovery. Crystal is a pastoral counselor and certified coach with more than 15 years experience helping women overcome porn and sexual addictions. We talk through how and why teen girls get hooked on porn and how parents can become an advocate to help their daughters navigate today’s sexual culture.