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Are you the one chasing closeness… or the one hiding in the bathroom for “just five more minutes”?
In today’s episode, I break down one of the most common, and most misunderstood relationship dynamics: the pursuer–distancer pattern. Whether it's about sex, money, conflict, or parenting, many couples find themselves stuck in this painful loop of one partner reaching while the other retreats.
I dive into where these patterns come from, how attachment plays a role, why both partners actually want the same things (connection, safety, significance), and how this cycle quietly kills eroticism and intimacy. You’ll learn exactly what each style needs, what helps, and what absolutely doesn’t, and how to shift the pattern without blame.
If you’ve ever felt “rejected,” “pressured,” “suffocated,” or “abandoned,” this episode will help you understand what's really happening underneath the surface… and how to move toward each other differently.
Listen in to turn conflict into clarity, distance into desire, and pursuit into genuine connection. Subscribe now so you are first to know about new episodes. This also helps Dr. Jenn get recommended to others.
✨ If you keep finding yourself chasing connection… or pulling away the moment things feel too close, you're not broken — you’re running a pattern. My course is designed to help you understand these pursuer–distancer dynamics, regulate your nervous system, and create connection without pressure or shutdown. You’ll learn how to communicate your needs clearly, stay grounded during conflict, and build the kind of intimacy that feels safe, spacious, and genuinely mutual.Ready to break the cycle and relate from your most secure, empowered self?
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