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Episode 120: “Why Do Guys Do This?” - Xander Explains Male Behavior Sep 07, 2023

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Today we’re putting Xander in the hot seat and making him answer all your burning questions about male behavior. Why do they hook boobs? Why are they such big babies when they’re sick? And of course, the age-old question: what's the deal with their marathon bathroom visits? Get ready for lots of laughter and some eye-opening insights.

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Episode 119: Jealousy In Relationships: Why Do We Get Jealous, And What Do We Do About It? Aug 31, 2023

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Jealousy is one of the most difficult emotions to face, and it feels even trickier when it comes up in your romantic relationship. It’s such a common feeling to have, but it’s also so challenging to even acknowledge.

We asked our community to share what stirs up jealousy in their relationship. Four core themes emerged: work, friendships, sex, and attraction to others. We work through these real-life examples and give you a powerful toolkit for grappling with jealousy in your relationship.

Most importantly, you’ll learn to pay attention to what jealousy is really trying to tell you. After listening to this episode, you’ll feel empowered to face your feelings head on. And you might be surprised by what you learn when you do...

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Challenge: The Sex Challenge (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/30-day-sex-challenge-evergreen/)

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Episode 118: The Foreplay Episode: The 5 Things We’re All Getting Wrong Aug 24, 2023

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Foreplay? More like the BEST way! Today we’re talking about the part of sex that never gets the credit it deserves - foreplay!

Foreplay is the number one way to get your partner to orgasm, and one of the best ways to create more intimacy, connection, and excitement. With all those benefits, why aren’t we doing it more often? 88% of men and 59% of women say they want more! But 67% of women feel like they’re “too needy” for wanting foreplay, 56% say they struggle to receive it, and 62% say foreplay feels boring or awkward. With numbers like that, we know you can relate!

In today’s episode, we lay out the 5 things we’re all getting wrong about foreplay, how to have more, and how to make it better than ever.

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Episode 117: So You Think You Know Us? Answering Your Assumptions! Aug 17, 2023

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What do you assume or secretly suspect about us? Or what have you simply been curious about?

In this episode, we’re diving headfirst into the assumptions you sent our way after we posted those questions on Instagram. From light-hearted and sexy to profoundly personal, your submissions held nothing back, and we’re sharing our vulnerable and honest truths! Our goal? To make you chuckle, perhaps catch you off guard (like we were when reading some of these), and give you a peek behind the curtain.

Join us for a hilarious episode that will challenge your assumptions and have you shouting, "I did not see that coming!”

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Episode 116: What Do I Do When My Partner Is Always On Their Phone? Aug 10, 2023

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Do you ever find yourself mid-sentence with your partner and realize that they’re not even remotely paying attention to you?

No one wants to feel like they’re competing with a device for their partner's attention, but it’s not like you can just toss the damn thing out.

If you’re frustrated with your partner’s phone usage, tune in to learn practical ways to establish better phone routines and deepen your connection irl with your partner.

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Episode 115: Grief And Sex: Loving Each Other Through A Loss Aug 03, 2023

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How do you maintain intimacy while grieving?

We’ve had many requests to create this podcast episode, and to be honest, we resisted because the topic felt so heavy. But then we experienced our own loss - our beloved companion, Winston the pug. Suddenly, we were trying to figure out how to navigate sex and grief in our own relationship.

In this incredibly vulnerable episode, we share our experience of mourning. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but we hope our story can help others on the same path. With insights from our community, we explore various approaches to intimacy, recognizing the complexities and intensity of this experience. Tune in to discover how to honor individual grieving processes while finding solace and connection amidst the sorrow. We may be tearful and still in the healing process, but there is still joy to be had, and we’re here to help you find it.

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Episode 114: Can We Come Back From This? Part 2: Even More Relationship Make Or Break Moments Jul 27, 2023

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Has your partner ever done or said something painful, leaving you wondering, “Can we come back from this?” Sometimes you need an outside party to either guide you and your partner through moving past the hurt, or to validate that the relationship can’t survive the blow.

Prepare yourself to hear some pretty spicy takes as we examine each situation and get real about when to talk it out, when to just plain walk, and how to know the difference. Because while we fully support communication and forgiveness, we also advocate the enforcement of boundaries, intention, and respect.

Tune in to the episode, then meet us over on IG and let us know if you agree with our advice or have your own hot take!

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Episode 113: Bump And Grind: Sex During Pregnancy Jul 20, 2023

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Want to unlock the secrets to great pregnancy sex? We know, your body feels alien to you, your hormones are all over the place, and somehow all the things that used to work in the bedroom just don’t feel the same anymore. But don’t worry, it’s still possible to keep the fires burning while pregnant.

We’re here to guide you through the most common challenges couples face during this extraordinary journey. We’re talking about things like body image issues, fears of hurting the baby, and libido changes.

Grab your partner and tune in together, because this episode will leave you feeling ready to reconnect!

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Episode 112: Creating A Shortcut To Intimacy With Compliments Jul 13, 2023

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Compliments. They sound like such a small act but they can make such a huge difference in the intimacy of your relationship.

But for most couples, compliments are surprisingly hard to come by! Maybe you’ve never been good at receiving them, so now your partner doesn’t feel it’s worth the effort. Maybe your family never gave compliments when you were growing up, so you’re uncomfortable with them. Or maybe you’ve simply forgotten how sweet they can be!

We’re here to help you figure out what your partner wants to hear, and how to move past the blockages that leave you tongue tied. Our tips will create little moments of happiness and gratitude in your relationship, and remind you what you love about each other. This compliment roadmap is also the perfect soundtrack to play in the background, allowing your partner to "accidentally" overhear our tips.

Warning: this episode can cause butterflies, excessive kisses, and possible trips to the nearest bedroom.

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Episode 111: What To Do When Your Partner Doesn’t Want To Talk About Sex Jul 06, 2023

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Why is it so hard to talk to your partner about sex? You talk about everything else, but the minute it becomes about your sex life, they shut down. It’s not just you! In our recent Instagram poll, 52% of people reported having this issue with a partner.

In this episode, we dissect the four most common reasons why partners refuse to talk about sex, and help you understand the reasons your partner may behave this way. We give you specific examples of what to say (and not say) so you can get past the stonewalling and dismissal and have open and real conversations about your sex life.

So if you’re ready to break down some walls and create the intimacy you desire, then tune in!

Links & Resources:

Our Book: Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life (https://sextalksbook.com/)

Free Guide: The Survivor’s Guide (http://vmtherapy.com/survivor/)

Go to Zocdoc.com/pillow and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.

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