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Are you holding on to anger for your child? Your children? Are you angry at yourself?
In this episode, I'm talking about forgiveness. As parents, especially moms, we hold ourselves up to an impossible standard of the type of mom we think we should be. One that we will never achieve (because it's a ludicrously high standard). Then we beat ourselves up and put ourselves down, we feel shame, we think we are bad parents and we sometimes hate ourselves.
We also have anger towards our kids. We feel resentment, bitterness, frustration, helpless, trapped, unappreciated and depleted
I want to show you how you can forgive yourself and your kids because forgiveness puts you in the driver's seat of your life and it means you take your power back.
Holding on to disappointment and shame for yourself, for how you see yourself as a parent, robs you of your happiness and peace. Holding on to resentment and frustration with your child stops you from entering into empathy.
Forgiveness opens the door to self-acceptance, connection and empathy.
About Robbin McManne
Robbin is a Certified Parent Coach, author and speaker. She works with parents from all over the world to help them build more connection and find more joy and cooperation in their parenting.
Robbin is a former 'Angry Mom' and for over 12 years, Robbin juggled a full-time corporate career while being a mom and wife, prior to becoming a Parenting Coach. In her corporate career, Robbin has a background in marketing and public relations, training, and event planning. She understands firsthand how many moms struggle to balance work and family.
It's because of her struggles as a parent that she found the world of peaceful parenting and has dedicated her life to teaching parents how to build a strong family, so their kids thrive.
Robbin's work focuses on building and strengthening the parent-child relationship so that children grow up with resilience, confidence and strong emotional intelligence. She works with parents to help them understand their own emotions and frustrations in parenting, so they can help build their children's sense of self without losing themselves in the process!
In October of 2018, Robbin released her first book, "The Yelling Cure – How to stress less and get your kids to cooperate without threats & punishments." Her book is being read by parents all over the world 1000,000 copies sold to date. www.yellingcurebook.com
Robbin divides her time working with her clients, speaking at events and spending time with her two boys and husband. You can usually find her at a hockey rink or sports field cheering on her boys. Most importantly, Robbin has changed the way she parents and connects with her sons and is dedicated to helping parents find the same joy, connection and cooperation in their families.
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From the Podcast:
Your thoughts are not facts.
When you have a negative thought about yourself as a parent and your child, you can challenge them so you can let go of the negative emotions that are holding you back!
Byron Katie, in the book, Love What Is, uses a series of questions to help you challenge your thoughts.
When you can isolate one that doesn't serve you, ask yourself,
- Is it true? You may want to say yes right away but that's your brain on autopilot
- Is it really true? Is it 100% accurate or not? Can you see it another way?
- How does it make me feel? Notice any storylines you ae holding on to. Name the feelings.
- Who would life be like without this thought? How would you feel? How would you see yourself or your child?
Repeat this process for you and your kids and see what you can release, let go and forgive. Write it all out if you need to. It can be cathartic to purge all that you are holding on to on paper.
Empathy by Thich Nhat Hanh
"When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yes, if we have problems with our friends or family [kids], we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. This is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change."
Thanks for listening!
It means so much to me that you listened to my podcast! If you would like to purchase my book or other parenting resources, visit me at www.yellingcurebook.com
With this podcast, my intention is to build a community of parents that can have open and honest conversations about parenting without judgement or criticism. We have too much of that! I honor each parent and their path towards becoming the best parent they can be. My hope is to
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