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Protect Young Minds Oct 19, 2020

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Many of you have read her books to your kids and found them to be an invaluable resource during this unprecedented electronically connected time. And if you haven't read these books to your kids, after listening to this show, you definitely will. This week Jimmy and Josh sit down with Kristen Jenson, from Protect Young Minds, about her best-selling books, Good Pictures Bad Pictures and her newest, Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.When should we talk to our children about pornography? To quote Kristen, "As soon as they have internet access." Think about that...

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The Big Boo Pairadocs Cast Oct 12, 2020

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You know 'em! You love 'em! And you can't live without 'em! I don't know the numbers on their jerseys, but I do know they're number 1 in your heart...drum roll, please...This week, the boys sit down with Melanie Shankle and Sophie Hudson, the co-hosts of the Big Boo Cast! They talk about the ladies' new books, life, love, and not to give too much away...pheasant hunting fashion tips.

The Big Boo Cast

Melanie Shankle

Sophie Hudson

Opal Nugget Ice Maker

Stand All the Way Up by Sophie Hudson

On the Bright Side by Melanie Shankle

Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Putting a Lid on Parental Anger Oct 05, 2020

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I know you've never said this before, but I'm sure you've known someone who has exclaimed, "That kid makes me so mad!!" Anger is an emotion that all parents have experienced, yet parental anger that is expressed in the wrong way can be the most destructive emotional element in any home. Ouch. This week, the guys chat about putting a lid on parental anger.

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Series 33 – Lifeway

Problem with parental anger:

Things that we say and do that we regret are mostly done in anger
Parental anger is the most destructive emotional element in the home
Most anger is brought about by faulty thinking that is adrenaline induced.
1. Albert Ellis ABC Model
2. This is now we KNOW that nothing MAKES you mad.
90% of parental anger is sin. We sin, but don't see God's wrath
We believe it's justified. But it is never justified.

Solution to parental anger:

Realize first response is your worst response
STOP
1. Stop and separate
2. Tone down tension
3. Open YOUR heart to God
4. Present Christ to your child

Excerpt from Toe to Toe with Your Teen (2nd Edition)

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

Intimacy: What Is It & Why Is It Important Sep 28, 2020

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What do apparently all of us want, but seemingly not many of us actually have? You may answer, million dollars! And you would be right!!...However, I was being less crass and materialistic and was referencing the often sought-after quality known as Intimacy.We want it in our friendships, our marriages, our families, and our walk with God, but for something that seems to be so crucial, most of us don't even know what Intimacyactually is, and why, in reality, it is extraordinarily important. Check out the boys this week as they take an intimate look at Intimacy. -----Intimacy: What Is It and Why Is It Important?PROBLEM:1.Intimacy is a vital, yet very few can tell you exactly what it is. 2.Definition: Close familiarity. Jimmywould say that Intimacy is the absence of fear in relationships. Where there is fear; a lack of trust, there can be no intimacy.Josh would say intimacy is connection. 3.Intimacy is more than sexual:a.Physical: non-sexualb.Emotional: Attempts at emotional connection; healthy over 80% c.Intellectual: Can speak thoughts and idea and not fear rejectiond.Spiritual: Share a common coreSOLUTION: 1.Make it a point to show your appreciation. ...2.Make an effort to learn about each otherand learn fromeach other. ...3.Set aside time for each other. ...4.Unplug and focus on each other. ...5.Show physical affection (even without sex) ...6.Tackle a project together. ...7.Initiate spiritual intimacy.-----
Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter:@docjimmymyers,Instagram:@jmyersfam, andFacebook:@docjimmymyersDr. Josh Myers on Twitter:@docjoshmyers,Instagram:@docjoshmyers, andFacebook:@docjoshmyersPairadocs Podcast on Twitter:@docspodcast, Instagram:@docspodcast, and Facebook:@docspodcastHow do give to the show:www.patreon.com/docspodcastThe Timothy Center:www.timothycenter.com

When Your Child Feels Rejected Sep 21, 2020

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Has you child ever come home, upset because the kids at school were being mean to them? Don't you hate that?! Not only does it break your heart, but peer rejection could also actually have a long-term negative impact on their lives. Join in this week as the guys discuss how to respond when your child is rejected by their peers. And it does not include sobbing uncontrollably.

Confirmation Bias Sep 14, 2020

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OMG! This pandemic has done more than just socially segregated us. It has psychologically, emotionally, relationally, and intellectually segregated us. Many of us are trapped in echo chambers that only reinforce what we believe about politics, race, COVID, and a host of other societal issues. Confirmation bias is when we only hear what we want to hear, or expect to hear, without any inclination to consider another point of view. This is toxic for an individual, a couple, or a family. This week the boys discuss a topic that has certainly been around for a while, but has exploded during this unprecedented time in our culture. -----Confirmation BiasPsychological phenomenon that filters out evidence that doesn't support our preconceived ideas and only allows evidence in that supports our already agreed upon ideas. We set up a "filter bubble"We have mental "schemas" records or tapes in our brain that play on loop. Schemas help us make quick decisions and do things on autopilot. And we begin tosegregate ourselves into tribes that think and feel the same way as we do, which creates more "group think" and confirmation bias. When we have strong opinions and don't allow for other views, we lose our audience.What do we do?1)Hold our opinions loosely2)Focus on things we have control over3)Get out of our filter bubbles, and talk to people that don't think like us4)Talk less, listen more-----Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter:@docjimmymyers,Instagram:@jmyersfam, andFacebook:@docjimmymyersDr. Josh Myers on Twitter:@docjoshmyers,Instagram:@docjoshmyers, andFacebook:@docjoshmyers
Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter:@docspodcast, Instagram:@docspodcast, and Facebook:@docspodcastHow do give to the show:www.patreon.com/docspodcastThe Timothy Center:www.timothycenter.com

Undeserved Praise Sep 07, 2020

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Is unconditionally loving your child and unconditionally praising your child the same thing? Maybe not. In fact, numerous studies indicate that lavishing praise on a child with little or no merit, actually can have a negative impact on the child's emotional development. But then again, no praise could indicate emotion emotional neglect. What's a parent to do?! It's like we're danged if we do, or danged if we don't.

Listen in this week as Josh and Jimmy delve into the sticky, and somewhat controversial, topic of undeserved praise.

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Welcome to Christian Parenting Podcast Network Aug 31, 2020

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Pairadocs podcast has joined the Christian Parenting Podcast Network!

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How Honest Is Too Honest Jul 29, 2020

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Since we're all doing school from home now, please answer the following questions:

Honey, do these new pants make my butt look big?
No, I left your gift at the office. Do you really think I'd forget our anniversary?
Mommy, are some of the kids on my team better than me?
Daddy, I'm so sad that Fluffy died. Is he in heaven with Jesus?
Hey, Babe, I can't see the back of my head. Am I balding at all?

So how did you do? Answer honestly. This week, the guys kick around the topic of how honest is too honest in the family.

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We can justify lying by trying to "not hurt our spouse". It's choosing the path of least resistance. "Why would I purposefully hurt my wife" is the thought.

However, lying can be a behavior that can form a habit - quickly.

If you can't tell your spouse the truth out of fear of their response, you're in trouble. Without truth there is no trust, without trust there is no love.

You earn the right to speak truth / be honest. Love people first, then provide your truth.

Our goal in word and deed is congruency. Be the same in front of your wife as you are away from her.

We struggle to be honest with others because we are not honest with ourselves.

Be sure that you yourself are cultivating a relationship where people can be honest with you.

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com

If You Loved Me Jul 20, 2020

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We've all done it. Looked at how our spouse is behaving and wondered, "Wow, if he really loved me, he wouldn't be doing that." Some of us have felt that so strongly that we actually say those word to our spouse. Making their momentary behavior a referendum on "if" they love us or not. Full disclosure, I have done this myself. Just the other night I told my wife, Beth, "If you really loved me, you wouldn't make me watch the Downtown Abby movie a second time." Wow, that felt good. Freedom comes through honesty and confession. Listen in this week as the guys expose this relationally destructive, yet common conflict mistake.

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Even if we don't say these exact words, it is common for us to think/feel that "If our spouse loved me, he/she would -- blank --".

Men ask the same question, "If you respected me, you would".

Don't assume your spouse doesn't love you. Unless your spouse has said "I don't love you" - assume he/she does.

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Dr. Jimmy Myers on Twitter: @docjimmymyers, Instagram: @jmyersfam, and Facebook: @docjimmymyers

Dr. Josh Myers on Twitter: @docjoshmyers, Instagram: @docjoshmyers, and Facebook: @docjoshmyers

Pairadocs Podcast on Twitter: @docspodcast, Instagram: @docspodcast, and Facebook: @docspodcast

How do give to the show: www.patreon.com/docspodcast

Billy Myers: www.therapywithbilly.com

The Timothy Center: www.timothycenter.com