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#99 - Let's Talk About Toxic Femininity Nov 15, 2018

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One of the subjects I come back to fairly often is the idea of toxic masculinity. It's something that I personally feel is important to talk about because of how much it directly affects men and makes our lives that much harder and that much worse. However, whenever we talk about masculinity in any form, there is such a regular response from people, in the comments and on twitter and elsewhere, that you can practically set your watch by it: "when are you going to talk about toxic femininity?"

And you know what? Fine. Buckle up folks, 'cuz we're doing this.

Show Highlights:

Why nobody can agree on a definition of "toxic femininity"
What we don't understand about toxic masculinity... and how that affects how we see femininity
Who gets to define what is or isn't toxic behavior
What are the differences between "toxic" forms of manhood vs. womenhood
What is the source of toxic femininity

...and so much more.

Related Links:

The Selling of Masculinity

What is Toxic Masculinity?

How Men Make Women Feel Unsafe

Why Is It So Hard To Be A Good Man

Nerd Role Models: Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity

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#98 - How To Build A Lifestyle That Attracts Amazing Women Nov 08, 2018

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When we talk about being more attractive to women, we tend to focus on the surface. We talk about how to dress, what to say, how to act. But that's the polish, the sizzle, not the substance. It may get people's attention, but without any substance to back it up, it won't keep it. Your lifestyle is what makes you more interesting and more desirable to women. When you have built the right lifestyle, it will bring women into your life without effort.

Show Highlights:

Why your looks, your job, your bank account or your style isn't what attracts women
What we get wrong about attractive lifestyles
Why most men live empty, boring lives
How authenticity attracts more attention than "cool"
How living an attractive lifestyle brings the right women into your life

...and so much more.

No More Magic Feathers: The Secret to Real Self Improvement

Developing Your Lifestyle

Five Simple Ways To Jumpstart Your Life

How To Meet Women, Effortlessly

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#97 - How To Develop a Mindset For Relationship Success Nov 01, 2018

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Success, whether in life or in relationships, doesn't come from having the perfect plan or never making a mistake. It comes a mindset that strips away the things that hold you back and keeps you focused on what matters. You learn to avoid all of the ways you sabotage yourself and develop the emotional strength it takes to get up and win.

Whether you're looking for love or chasing your dreams, if you change your mindset, you change your life.

Show Highlights:

Why success is born out of your attitude, not your actions
How a self-limiting beliefs trap us in a cycle of failure
Why we let the things we can't control ruin our chances for success
Why an abundance mindset makes it easier to succeed in relationships
How the way we choose to see the world can change our future

... and so much more.

Developing an Abundance Mentality

Redefining Failure

Overcome Your Fear of Rejection

How To Build A Mindset for Success

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#96 - This Is Why You Fail Oct 25, 2018

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How often has the frustration of being single gotten to you?

How many times have you asked yourself: why aren't you going to get any better? Why do other people find love and you don't? Why aren't you able to build the life that you want to live and be the man you dream about being?

It's time to talk about the reason why so many guys won't find a girlfriend or lover... and what you can do to avoid their mistake.

Show Highlights:

What is the Negativity Bias and why does it ruin your social success?
Why so many men choose pain over love
Why we believe that truth has to hurt
How men's anxieities cause them to self-destruct
How to build the strength you need to keep going

...and so much more.

Related Links:

What Is Toxic Masculinity? - http://www.doctornerdlove.com/what-is-toxic-masculinity/

Build Your Emotional Resilience - http://www.doctornerdlove.com/build-emotional-resilience/

Your Attitude Controls Your Dating Success - http://www.doctornerdlove.com/your-attitude-controls-your-dating-success/

The Only Thing In The Way of Social Success - http://www.doctornerdlove.com/only-thing-in-way-success/

Redefining Failure - http://www.doctornerdlove.com/redefining-failure/

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#95 - What Men Get Wrong About Women Oct 18, 2018

Show notes

If you're looking for advice on dating women, then you're going to find many, many self-proclaimed experts in the female mind. The problem is that most of them are almost entirely wrong. Worse, they set men up for failure by insisting on an outlook that puts men and women in conflict. It's time to talk about WHY men often have a hard time understanding and relating to women... and why it's so important, if you want to be socially successful.

Show Highlights:

Why so much "advice" about women causes conflict instead of helping to resolve it
How we convince ourselves that we know more than we actually do
How the "Men Are From Mars/ Women Are From Venus" dichotomy gets it wrong
The REAL reason men and women don't understand each other
What the most successful lovers have in common

...and so much more.

Related Links:

The Myth of What Women Want

5 Simple Ways to Jumpstart Your Life

Detoxifying Masculinity

Understanding The Dangers of Dating

How To Understand Women

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#94 - How To Be A Better Man Oct 11, 2018

Show notes

Over the last month, the nation has had one of many conversations about sexual assault and the affect it has on survivors. And as more women speak up, sharing their stories, sharing their pain and their rage, there are guys — guys who don't want to be part of the problem, who want to be good men — who want to know what they can do to make things better.

And the answer is simple: men need to step up. We need to learn to be the men we were always meant to be and the men the world needs right now. We need to learn how to be better.

Show Highlights:

Why men need to do the work to make the world better
How the system we live in keeps men from seeing the realities women live with
Why it's important to simply listen to women
What #believewomen actually means
Why we need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable

...and so much more

Related Links:

Nerds and Male Privilege

What Does It Take To Be A Better Man?

Reclaiming Manhood: Detoxifying Toxic Masculinity

Why It's So Hard To Be A Good Man

Captain America and Non-Toxic Masculinity

Straight White Male: The Lowest Difficulty Setting There Is

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#93 - Flirting Mistakes That Women Hate Sep 12, 2018

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There's a lot of bad advice out there when it comes to flirting. Advice that not only does it not work, but is actually a masterclass in how to creep women out and occasionally piss them off.

Meeting women can be hard enough without making flirting mistakes that're going to backfire, messily and all over the place. The last thing you want to do is ruin your chances with a woman by making the wrong move. Women want to like you and for you to like them too. So don't screw it up. Learn how to avoid these common flirting mistakes that men make and women HATE.

Show Highlights:

Why your attitude controls your dating success
How flirting the wrong way just wastes your time
The common mindset that drives women away
How many guys ruin the attraction they've built with women
Why status isn't the attraction switch guys think it is

and so much more...

The Mistakes Men Make WHen Approaching Women

Privilege, Entitlement and Dating

How To Not Being Creepy

The Mistakes Men Make That Cost Them Dates

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#92 - How To Upgrade Your Style, Instantly Sep 06, 2018

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Learning how to dress well is one of the quickest and easiest ways to be more attractive. When you start dressing up sharp, you look amazing... and most people don't. But it takes very little to stand out and be sharpest dressed, most stylish guy in the room… and without spending a small fortune in the process.

You just have to know the rules.

Show Highlights:

The one style rule that matters above all others
The celebrity secret to looking incredible all the time
How clothes are SUPPOSED to fit
The secret to upgrading your wardrobe for cheap
How to use Hollywood's secrets to improve your style

and so much more...

Related Links:

Discover Your Style

5 (Cheap) Ways To Look Better

How To Stand Out (The Right Way)

Find Your Archetype

The Subtle Things That Make Men More Attractive

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#91 - How To Plan The Perfect First Date Aug 30, 2018

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How many times have you had a first date that you thought was amazing... but never lead to a second date? First dates can be tricky and frustrating. A lot of guys are good at getting a first date, but can never turn it into a second or third date. No matter what they seem to do, they're left with a series of first dates to nowhere with nothing to show for it. And the problem is that most first dates are just bad. If you want to get that second date, then you need to understand just what makes one first date boring and another date incredible.

Show Highlights:

What guys get wrong about first dates
Why women don't want to see you again
What to talk about on a first date
Why traditional first date ideas are bad
How to plan a memorable and unique first date

... and so much more.

Related Links:

Make The Right First Impression

Solve Your Dating Emergencies

How To Survive a Bad Date

Get That Second Date (By Acing The First)

How To Be An Amazing Kisser

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#90 - How To Be More Attractive... Instantly! Aug 23, 2018

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When we talk about being attractive, we tend to think of it in terms of being physically good looking. But there's a difference between being good looking and being attractive. People can be stunningly beautiful but have all the sex appeal of a block of wood. Meanwhile there can be people who are ugly as sin and yet have an almost mystical level of sex-appeal.

Being attractive isn't about whether you have abs like whoah or cheekbones that you could cut cheese with. It's not about your skull or your jawline; it's about the way you present yourself and the effort you put in. Attractiveness is about the holistic person and the little changes that make you go from "nice" to "...niiiiiice".

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