Order of Man

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STEVEN PRESSFIELD | Put Your Ass Where Your Heart Wants to Be Feb 14, 2023

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All of us have dreams and ambitions but too few of us are willing to act towards those desires. And, even if we are, it's easy to get derailed, distracted, and side-tracked. My guest today is one of my favorite authors on the planet. His name is Steven Pressfield. He's the author of The War of Art, Gates of Fire, The Legend of Bagger Vance, and his newest book, a memoir about his life filled with ups and downs, Govt Cheese. Today, we talk about infusing soul into our work (including a rebuke of AI technology, ChatGPT), the drive to "make the kill," good versus bad shame, noble obstacles, why being stuck is often a good sign, and putting your ass where your heart wants to be.

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Other people resonate when we share our own stories
Is ChatGPT and Artificial Intelligence evil?
Pushing through challenges
Writing provides peace of mind and satisfaction
Reverence for the writing process
Receiving inspiration from another force
God vs. the Muse vs. the Universe
We need to develop the "skills of the instrument"
Developing the skill to finish what you start
Harnessing shame to achieve results
How to overcome "feeling stuck"
The answer is always action

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Vulnerability is Pointless Without This... | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES Feb 10, 2023

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In this week's FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler shares SIX steps to ensure that you are being "vulnerable" in an appropriate and effective way, through taking ACTION. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what's working in your life.

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Evaluate two things before you share a vulnerability: a) who are you telling and b) why are you telling them

Be objective in identifying your weaknesses
Get to the root of the issue
Have an emotionally charged reason for improvement
Talk with people who have gone through the same issues
Build in systems and support
Have a recovery strategy

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Seeking Support from Your Tribe, Dealing with Insecurities, and Getting Over a Breakup | ASK ME ANYTHING Feb 08, 2023

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In this week's ASK ME ANYTHING, Kipp Sorensen and Shawn Villalovos take on your questions from the Iron Council and the Order of Man Facebook Group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what's working in your life.

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(3:40) What are your thoughts on overcoming the shame cycle that you can experience when struggling with a habit you want to kick or a limiting belief you hold?

(15:30) Not a question but a best practice that has been impactful for bring my wife closer to me: If your spouse is a 'Words of Affirmation' partner (5 Love Languages), buy some small cards & write notes about why you love and appreciate them & hide them around the house for her to find at a later time. This has been a wonderful way for me to express my love to my wife and a nice surprise for her when she stumbles upon them.

(19:30) How do you get support and feedback from your tribe of men on deep private issues in your relationship while respecting the privacy of your girlfriend/wife and not exposing her personal stuff?

(28:00) I've read extreme ownership and the follow up book is on my book list, but what are some leadership courses or programs that you would recommend?

(33:30) How do you maintain your frame with your spouse, but at the same time, being humble and patient and kind.

(45:40) If you choose to put a man in your circle and he makes a mistake, is it your responsibility to hear him out?

(52:00) What would you say is your biggest insecurity or insecurities that you're working on?

(58:50) How do you get over a breakup where you sacrificed everything for that person?

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CONNOR BEATON | Acquainted with Our Anger Feb 07, 2023

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Anger issues are something a lot of us, as men, deal with – more than would like to admit. And, while most of us are pretty good at disguising our anger, frustration, and resentment, all too often, it's lying just under the surface ready to expose itself to some unexpecting victim – usually the ones we love most. I'm joined by my friend, Connor Beaton, author of his newest book Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom. Today, we discuss what he calls "dysregulated" or erratic behavior and how to reign it in, overcoming the shadow of our fathers, the danger of self-abusive relationships, and why and how we need to become acquainted with our anger.

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How to get the most out of yourself
We are often the ones standing in our own way
Understanding your anger
Its ok to take care of yourself
We don't need to try to solve people's problems
Building a healthy relationship with Anger
What is hidden in the father will be revealed in the son
You can't be a rock when you are searching for the approval of others
Men must develop the skill of self-validation
The role of God and faith
Four steps for working through anger

Get Conner's book, Men's Work, at the link below:

Mantalks.com/book

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Your Father's Secrets Speak in You | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES Feb 03, 2023

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In this week's FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler shares three simple steps to ensure that the legacy we pass on to our sons and daughters is a legacy that we desire and can be proud of. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what's working in your life.

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Work on the relationship you have with your father
Work on yourself
Work with your children

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Action Does Not Equal Prudence, Integrating The Heart and Mind, and Knowing Your Shadow | ASK ME ANYTHING Feb 01, 2023

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In this week's ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Order of Man Facebook group and Iron Council. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what's working in your life.

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(0:00) Episode Intro

(13:00) How do we save our young men and can you paint the picture of the world we live in if we don't?

(27:20) How do you sift through the huge pile of self help for men and dial in what works best for you?

(32:00) What are some ways to stay motivated and maintain discipline?

(37:50) what tactics do you use to maintain a healthy mindset?

(41:00) Name something from your youth that is not well known but still affects you today. How does it play into your daily life?

(42:40) what is the best way to be a leader when starting at a new company?

(50:00) How do you define good income in today's economy?

(55:40) How important is it to have men in your corner when you are going through hardship?

(59:20) How can I bring what I teach to my school health classes to more kids?

(1:03:40) How do you convince your family to create a plan for when things get bad?

(1:08:20) How do you get your heart to catch up to your head?

(1:12:00) How do you reconcile the dichotomy of having people you look up to and seeing them deal with their own struggles?

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MICHAEL HYATT | Success Starts with Your Thinking Jan 31, 2023

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Our mind is the most powerful thing we can control. And, yet, if you're anything like me, you don't spend nearly enough time training the mind to produce the results you desire. In fact, if things don't seem to be working well in my life, I tend to be a man who just goes even harder hoping I can drive right through the problems I'm dealing with. Instead, my guest today, Michael Hyatt, makes the case that the stories and narratives (often subconscious) in our minds actually dictate much of the results we experience. So, today, we dive deep into how to retrain the mind to draft stories that serve us rather than hurt us, the value of listening to the "narrator" of your life, why we should all really listen to the language we're using, how to interrogate the stories of your life, and create a new, fundamental sense of identity.

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The story we tell ourselves impacts the results we achieve
Separating facts from the meaning we assign
How to determine if your stories are serving you
Understanding the "narrator" in your head
Correlation doesn't equal causation
Mindset can change your physiological response
Lead ourselves well before we can lead others well
The impact of labeling ourselves
Strategies for changing your thinking

Pick up Michal Hyatt's book here:

mindyourmindsetbook.com

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Discipline is Overrated | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES Jan 27, 2023

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In this week's FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler shares a five-part framework for how you can implement systems and processes to supplement discipline and motivation to help you produce the results you desire. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what's working in your life.

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Get crystal clear about what you want (Spiritual, mental, emotional health; Relationships; Physical health; Financial)
Reverse engineer the process
Flow and friction
Reward your behavior, not the result
Critique your performance and track everything

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Check Your Hormones, Where 'Red Pill' Goes Wrong, and How to Attract Women | ASK ME ANYTHING Jan 25, 2023

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In this week's ASK ME ANYTHING, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen take on your questions from the Order of Man Facebook group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what's working in your life.

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(4:30) How can we have standards but no expectations?

(12:40) What kind of rights of passage can I do with my daughters?

(17:30) I work out 5-6 times a week, drink plenty of water throughout the day, and am very intentional about what I eat. Additionally I get about 7 hours of sleep a night on average. Caffeine intake isn't insanely high, but I do drink a cup of coffee in the morning and in the afternoon after lunch. That said, I still tend to get pretty tired throughout the day. Any tips on maintaining better energy levels? Maybe some things that work well for you?

(20:40) I have had mentors for most of my life, but occasionally I unplug and get off track a bit. How can I stay plugged in and on the right path?

(30:00) Between Jiu-Jitsu, weight training, and cardio, I am always sore. Will this pain every go away or is this just the cost of trying to get/stay in shape?

(36:00) What is the one thing, or several things, that have surprised you most about your sobriety?

(42:40) Have you seen or heard of some other sources around the internet that promote to help young men?

(52:00) As a single man 28 years old man with no kids and never married what would be your advice on how to prepare for a family and the right woman?

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BRETT BARTHOLOMEW | Leading Through Chess, Not Checkers Jan 24, 2023

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We all want to lead. But not all of us can do so. Not right now but that doesn't mean we aren't capable of becoming the leader we desire to be. My guest today is Brett Bartholomew, a word-class performance coach and he is going to share exactly how we can begin to lead in our families, businesses, and communities more effectively. Today, we talk about six driving factors of individuals, the four main communication styles and how to use the effectively, how power, influence, and manipulation can be wielded for good, the use of "referent power," and how leaders play chess, not checkers.

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