More than Roommates

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Episode 140 - The Fight For Us (Feat. Gabe & Rebekah Lyons) Aug 05, 2025

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In this episode of More Than Roommates, the MTR team interviews Gabe and Rebekah Lyons about their new book, The Fight For Us. The Lyons share vulnerably about their journey through conflict, emotional intimacy, and the realities of mental health in marriage. They unpack practical tools from their new book The Fight for Us, including how to support your spouse, move from isolation to connection, and keep fighting for each other when life gets hard.

Scriptures:

John 16:33

1 Peter 3:7

Questions to Discuss:

1. What is one way we can “fight for us” instead of fighting against each other this week?

2. Take Gabe & Rebekah’s Marriage Quiz. What’s your default response in the “dysfunctional dance”? (Silent, Intense, Avoidant, Anxious). How does that affect your marriage?

3. In what ways can I better support you during seasons of anxiety, stress, or discouragement?

4. What are some of your strengths I can celebrate more often?

Resources:

Book – The Fight For Us: Overcome What Divides to Build a Marriage That Thrives, Rebekah & Gabe Lyons

Learn more about Gabe Lyons & Rebekah Lyons

THINQMedia.com & THINQ Summit 2025

Free Marriage Quiz - What’s Your Dance?

Gabe & Rebekah’s Marriage & Parenting Retreat

The Fight For Us Podcast Series (14 episode series) Apple & Spotify

Episode 139 - What Are You Wearing (and Why)? A Marriage Conversation on Modesty and Motives Jul 29, 2025

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In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott dive into the often controversial and deeply personal topic of modesty—what we wear, why we wear it, and how it impacts our spouse, our marriage, and our walk with the Lord.

Scriptures:

1 Tim 2:9-10

1 Peter 3:3-4

Romans 12:2

PS 139:14

Questions to Discuss:

1. When you get dressed, what drives your clothing choices—comfort, attention, insecurity, or something else?

2. How do you feel about what your spouse wears in public or posts online? Have you talked about this before?

3. What would it look like to honor God, your spouse, and others through the way you dress and present yourself?

4. Are there any unspoken assumptions or double standards in your marriage regarding modesty?

Episode 138 - Just Co-Workers: Guarding Your Marriage at Work Jul 22, 2025

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Most affairs don’t begin in a hotel room—they start with unnoticed compromise and poor decisions in the workplace. In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss the sobering reality of workplace temptation and offer practical, biblical strategies to protect and strengthen your marriage.

Scriptures:

2 Corinthians 12:9

Matthew 5:27-30

1 Corinthians 10:12

Resources:

Jordan Raynor Newsletter - 85% of affairs start at work. Here are 3 ways to stay pure.

Questions to Discuss:

1. Are there any boundaries we need to revisit or establish when it comes to work relationships with the opposite sex?

2. How do we communicate when one of us has to travel or work closely with someone of the opposite sex?

3. In what ways can we invite community into this area of our lives for prayer and accountability?

4. What “commitment devices” or proactive safeguards could we put in place to protect our marriage?

Episode 137 - More Than a Mirror: How to Pursue Health and Wellness in Marriage Jul 15, 2025

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How should couples talk about health, body image, and physical changes over time without shaming or hurting one another? In this episode of More Thann Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott have an authentic, biblical, and practical conversation about pursuing health and wellness in marriage, and why honoring God with your body matters more than chasing perfection or appearances.

Scriptures:

1 Cor 10:31

1 Cor 6:19-20

Gen 2:24

PR 21:9

1 Pet 3:15

Gal 6:1

Questions to Discuss:

1. What was your family’s view of health growing up? How does that influence your habits today?

2. Why do you think it’s hard for most couples to discuss wellness, eating, exercise, etc…?

3. What is the goal of your desires to pursue health and wellness?

4. How can you and your spouse help other to be healthy? How could we make this a shared pursuit—meals, walks, fitness, prayer—for the sake of unity and companionship?

Resources:

Book – Every Body Matters, by Gary Thomas

Last week’s More Than Roommates – How to Stay Attracted & Attractive in Marriage

Episode 136 - How to Stay Attracted & Attractive in Marriage Jul 08, 2025

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What do you do when you're not as physically attracted to your spouse—or when your body or theirs begins to change? In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Scott discuss how to retrain your mind, feed your eyes on what is good, and build a marriage rooted in character, commitment, and mission—not just physical chemistry.

Scriptures:

MT 6:22-23

MT 5:27-28

PR 5:18-19

PR 31:30

1 Sam 16:7

Questions to Discuss:

1. What voices (shows, music, media, social media) are shaping your perception of attraction right now?

2. Have either of you experienced changes in attraction during your marriage? How did you work through it?

3. What practical steps could you each take to build gratitude and delight in your spouse?

Episode 135 - Roommates Drift—Mission-Driven Couples Thrive Jul 01, 2025

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In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott explore what it means to be on mission together as a couple. Whether you’re raising kids, leading a class, or serving behind the scenes, a shared purpose breathes life into your marriage and moves you from being just roommates to intentional partners in the gospel.

Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes!

Scriptures:

Ecc 4:9-12

Acts 20:24

Eph 2:10

Eph 5:15-17

Questions to Discuss:

1. How have you seen God use your unique gifts and passions together?

2. How do you make room for each other to use the gifts God has given to you and your spouse?

3. What does it look like for you and your spouse to be on mission together?

4. Are there areas where you’re drifting into apathy instead of pursuing purpose?

5. What small step could you take this week to be more intentionally on mission together?

Episode 134 - A Marriage Game Plan: Know, Be, Do, Experience Jun 24, 2025

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In this episode, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss what it means to build an intentional marriage using four categories: what you want to know, be, do, and experience together. In this mini episode we encourage couples to dream together and define their marriage vision through Scripture, spiritual disciplines, and fun experiences.

Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes!

Questions to Discuss:

1. What do we want to KNOW about marriage, and about each other?

2. What kind of people do we want to BE in our marriage (character, values)?

3. What do we want to DO together—skills we want to learn or improve?

4. What do we want to EXPERIENCE—trips, hobbies, or memory-making moments?

5. Which Scripture could serve as a guiding verse for our marriage?

Scriptures:

1 Peter 3:7

Gal 5:22-23

Eph 4:2-3

2 Tim 2:4

Acts 20:24

Phil 2:1-11

Resources:

MTR Episode 3 – The Biblical Vision and Picture of Marriage

Book – Making Marriage Easier, by Arlene Pellicane

Book – The Know/Be/Do/Experience framework comes from The Intentional Father, by Jon Tyson

Episode 133 - Trust is Built in Drops: How to Grow Together Jun 17, 2025

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In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott talk about the importance of trust in marriage. Trust is foundational in any relationship, but especially in marriage. They discuss how past wounds—whether from family, friends, or former relationships—can deeply impact your ability to trust your spouse and experience true intimacy.

Let us know if you have any feedback on these shorter/mini episodes!

Scriptures Referenced:

1 Peter 2:23-24

James 1:19

Resources:

Podcast Episode – More Than Roommates, Episode 61 – Trust: How to Build It and Restore It

Book – Trust: Knowing When to Give It, When to Withhold It, How to Earn It, and How to Fix It When It Gets Broken, Dr. Henry Cloud

Video from the 2025 More Than Roommates Marriage Conference – The Importance of Trust in Marriage

Questions to Discuss:

1. When you hear something, do you trust it immediately or do you need to do some research to verify the truth?

2. How do your past hurts (either from others or from your spouse) impact your relationship with your spouse?

3. Is there any unresolved hurt in your life that might be affecting your marriage today?

4. What are small ways your spouse has been trustworthy lately? Have you acknowledged or celebrated them?

5. If you’ve been hurt, what’s one step you can take this week to move toward healing and trust?

Episode 132 - Before You Text Your Spouse—Turn to God Jun 10, 2025

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In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott discuss the common habit of going to friends or a spouse before going to God for wisdom. While community is important, the best place to start is with the Lord.

Scriptures:

Matthew 6:33

James 1:5

Proverbs 3:5-6

PR 19:11

Questions to Discuss:

1. Who and what do you turn to when you’re looking for counsel and advice?

2. Are you more of an internal or external processor? How about your spouse?

3. What’s one decision you’re facing right now—and have you gone to God first?

Resources:

Sermon – Questions to Ask When Making Decisions, by Jonathan “JP” Pokluda

Podcast – More Than Roommates Episode 22 - Episode 22 - What Questions Can Help You Make Decisions in Marriage?

Episode 131 - Walking Through Hard Seasons in Marriage Jun 03, 2025

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In this episode of More Than Roommates, Gabrielle, Derek, and Scott talk about how to keep your marriage healthy while walking through hard and difficult seasons in life (i.e., loss, illness, infertility, emotional strain). Through biblical truth and personal stories, they discuss how couples can remain unified, cultivate gratitude, and grow spiritually even in life’s darkest valleys and seasons.

Scriptures:

1 Cor 7:28

John 16:33

Luke 6:47-49

PS 34:18

Phil 4:4-7

Lamentations

James 1:2-4

Rom 8:28

Gal 6:1-5

Questions to Discuss:

1. What is one hard season we've already walked through together? How did it impact our relationship?

2. Are we prepared for future trials? What could we be doing now to strengthen our marriage foundation?

3. How do each of us typically respond to hardship—and how can we better support one another in those seasons?

4. What role does gratitude or spiritual perspective play for us when life gets tough?

5. Who is a couple we look up to who has walked through suffering well? What have we learned from them?

Resources:

Marriage Ministry – reengage (find a location near you)

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