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Episode 170- Ditch the Single Mentality in Your Married Reality Mar 03, 2026

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Many of the tensions and conflicts in marriage don’t come from a lack of love—but from living with a single mindset in a married reality. In this episode, the More Than Roommates team unpacks how autonomy, independence, and unchecked habits quietly undermine oneness—and how Scripture calls us to something better.

Discussion Questions:

1- Where do you most see a single mindset show up in our marriage (time, money, body, tech, decisions)?

2- How can I renew my mind around gratitude for my marriage daily?

3- What’s one practical step we could take this week to move toward greater oneness?

Negative Communication Patterns in Marriage Feb 24, 2026

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In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and Andrew unpack four common negative communication patterns that can destroy marriages: withdrawing, escalating, negative interpretation, and invalidation. Through honest stories and biblical wisdom, they help couples identify their patterns, slow down conflict, and pursue Christ-honoring communication.

Discussion Questions:

1. Which W.E.N.I. pattern do you most often fall into—and why do you think that is?

2. What does validation look like practically when one of us is emotional?

3. What boundaries or “pause plans” can we agree on before our next conflict?

Resource:

- Blog from Scott Kedersha about WENI

Episode 168- Balancing Two Busy Jobs in Marriage Feb 17, 2026

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Busyness with work isn’t just a scheduling problem—it’s often a heart and priority problem that quietly harms marriages. In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and unpack how couples with two busy jobs can stay aligned, communicate expectations, and intentionally protect their marriage in demanding seasons.

Discussion Questions:

1- What currently makes our schedules feel most overwhelming, and why?

2- What unspoken expectations do we have about work, availability, or lifestyle?

3- Which priorities might need to be temporarily scaled back to protect our marriage?

4- What would it look like for us to implement daily, weekly, and annual rhythms of connection?

Episode 167- Make this the Best Valentine's Day Yet Feb 10, 2026

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Valentine’s Day can feel commercial, awkward, or unnecessary—but it’s actually a powerful opportunity to fight complacency and intentionally love your spouse. In this episode, the More Than Roommates crew unpacks why celebrating your marriage matters, how simple intentionality can transform connection, and practical ways to make this Valentine’s Day meaningful.

Discussion Questions:

1- What makes you feel most loved on days like Valentine’s Day?

2- When Valentine’s Day approaches, what expectations (spoken or unspoken) do you each carry?

3- What can we do this week to celebrate our marriage?

Resources:

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Episode 166- Navigating Mental Illness in Marriage Feb 03, 2026

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In this episode of More Than Roommates, Derek, Gabrielle, and John Elmore to discuss what it looks like to walk faithfully with your spouse through mental illness. With biblical clarity, compassion, and practical wisdom, John shares how he and his wife Laura have navigated OCD, stigma, treatment, and the call to love your spouse as yourself even when it is difficult.

Discussion Questions:

1- When one of us is struggling emotionally or mentally, do we tend to fix, minimize, or walk alongside? How can we grow in being more present?

2- Are there areas where mental or emotional health struggles feel stigmatized or unspoken in our marriage?

3- How do we discern when to show compassion versus when to gently coach one another forward?

4- What fears do we carry about seeking outside help (therapy, medication, counseling)?

Resources:

ReGeneration Recovery Ministry

Episode 165- More Than Parents: Marriage in Different Parenting Seasons Jan 27, 2026

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Parenting introduces new pressures at every stage, but it doesn’t have to pull your marriage apart. In this episode, the MTR Team walk through four major parenting seasons and share how couples can stay united, intentional, and More Than Roommates at every stage.

Discussion Questions:

1- Which parenting season are we currently in, and how is it impacting our marriage right now?

2- Do we feel like we’re truly on the same team—or unintentionally siding with our kids over one another?

3- How do our differences (personality, discipline style, love language) strengthen or strain our marriage?

4- What is one intentional habit we can reintroduce (or start) to protect our marriage in this season?

Episode 164 - How to DATE Your Spouse Jan 20, 2026

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What if the difference between feeling like roommates and feeling deeply connected was as simple as dating your spouse again? In this episode, the team unpacks the powerful framework of DATE—Dialogue, Affection, Time, and Ephesians 5 (love and respect)—and how practicing it can transform your marriage in any season.

Discussion Questions:

1- Which part of DATE do we currently do best? Which one do we tend to neglect?

2- How has busyness, kids, or phones affected our dialogue?

3- How can I love or respect you more clearly this week—in how I say things, not just what I say?

4- What would one simple, realistic date look like in our current season?

Episode 163- Should Married Couples Ever Separate? Jan 13, 2026

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Separation is often presented as a healthy solution when marriage feels hard—but is it really? In this episode, the More Than Roommates team explores what separation actually means, why it so often leads to divorce, when it may be necessary, and how couples can pursue healing and restoration with Biblical wisdom and community.

Discussion Questions:

1- Why do you think separation so often leads to divorce rather than healing?

2- How does selfishness subtly show up in your marriage during hard seasons?

3- What role does community currently play in helping you protect and strengthen your marriage?

4- How could you better “water your own grass” in this season?

Resources:

Episode 83 Divorce part 1

Episode 84 Divorce part 2

Episode 127 Healing from Sexual Abuse

Watermark statement on marriage and divorce

Episode 162- Joy in Marriage Jan 06, 2026

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Joy in marriage isn’t about perfect circumstances—it’s about a deep, Spirit-formed posture of the heart. In this episode, Derek, Gabrielle, and special guest Andrew Owen explore how biblical joy sustains marriages through hardship, disappointment, and everyday life, and how couples can actively choose joy together.

Discussion Questions:

1- When you think about your marriage right now, would you describe it as joyful? Why or why not?

2- How would you define the difference between joy and happiness in your relationship?

3- What currently tends to rob joy in your marriage (fear, anxiety, unmet expectations, bitterness)?

4- How can you better encourage one another daily so your hearts don’t become hardened?

Episode 161 - Looking back and Looking Ahead at New Years Dec 30, 2025

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As the year comes to a close, join the More Than Roommates team for a short conversation about what it looks like to look back and look ahead as we all seek to be more intentional in our marriages. The MTR team reflects on what God's Word says about rememberance and how that applies to our marriages.

Discussion Questions:

1- Start, Stop, Continue- as you apply that idea to your marriage, what do you want to focus on in this new year?

2- How have you seen God move in the last year? What are you grateful for?

3- What is a place in your life you are still waiting to see God move?

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