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Insecurities: What They Are, Why They Form, And What To Do Oct 26, 2023

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Talking points: anxiety, insecurity, mindset

Ever do research on a topic and realize most of the stuff on the internet is...pretty worthless? Yeah me too. This week, a look at what really causes insecurity, and some things you can do that will actually help.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:03:05) - Defining insecurity
(00:04:53) - What makes this reframe interesting, and 3 ways insecurities are formed
(00:09:09) - So what do we do? Because there’s no quick fix
(00:11:18) - You cannot affirm your way out of insecurity
(00:13:22) - Pursue your fears
(00:15:38) - Focus on the intersection of self-compassion and self-mastery

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Figs O'Sullivan - On Diagnosing Your Partner, Blame Games, And Emotional Pursuers Oct 23, 2023

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Talking points: couples therapy, emotions, modern culture, empathy

Delighted to have the wit and wisdom of Figs O'Sullivan to content with once again. It's been too long! We cover a lot of ground, specifically around couples therapy, so I encourage you to check the timestamps and listen in.

(00:00:00) - As people learn more “therapy-speak” and watch more TikTok “experts”, how is that filtering down into relationships?

(00:06:50) - Why do some people default to blaming their partner when things don’t go well?

(00:12:57) - Why talk about diagnosing partners yourself is so difficult, and how competency can actually, sometimes, make you IN-competent

(00:18:24) - What’s your opinion on modern therapy infiltrating culture the way it has?

(00:22:49) - Is modern therapy set up well enough to truly help men?

(00:30:25) - Why do couples fight over and over—and what do they fight about?

(00:30:25) - The emotional pursuer and emotional withdrawer dynamic

(00:41:25) - What are some ways out of that dynamic?

(00:46:17) - What gets in the way of empathy, and how can that be overcome?

(00:50:37) - What does good couples therapy entail, and how do you know it’s working?

(00:55:25) - It’s important to pay attention to the ease of things as well as hard stuff

Connect with Figs

-Website: https://empathi.com/

-Podcast: Come Here To Me: https://get.empathi.com/comehere

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empathinow/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnPbjlO6Q0KBXVHXeGyivlw

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The ONE Thing No One Talks About When Quitting Porn Oct 19, 2023

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Talking points: porn, attachment, relationships

Title says it all, friends. I genuinely don’t see very many people talking about porn from this angle. Which is kind of surprising, but here we are. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and some of my own story around porn
(00:03:49) - What nobody else seems to be talking about
(00:07:57) - And THAT is why porn can be hard to let go of
(00:10:32) - Reorienting yourself towards other relationships

Release porn as a crutch, reclaim your time, and recover intimacy. Introducing the Porn Detox Program: https://mantalks.com/porn/

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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Tom Nash - Redefining Problems, Post-Traumatic Growth, And Exploiting Adversity Oct 16, 2023

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Talking points: adversity, disability, resiliency vs anti-fragility, growth, mindset

Everything about this convo was enjoyable, but I think what I appreciate most is how pragmatic and straight-up grounded Tom's insights are. It makes for highly effective advice you can work on right away. Bonus: he's a great storyteller.

This is a great episode to dig into if you're looking for inspiration towards a different approach to things, especially hardship.

(00:00:00) - Intro, and the importance of living in a place you don’t always like
(00:07:00) - Tom’s defining moment
(00:09:43) - What Tom gained from intense physical hardship
(00:15:52) - Reorienting yourself instead of the problem, and post-traumatic growth
(00:20:05) - Is resiliency born or revealed by hardship, and have people treated you differently?
(00:23:25) - How do you approach problem-solving itself, and how Tom became a DJ
(00:34:10) - Tom’s definition of anti-fragile and resiliency
(00:50:06) - Did therapy help?

Quadruple amputee and DJ, Tom Nash exercises his unique knack for storytelling alongside his often dark and dry sense of humour, to lead audiences down a path of self-discovery, encouraging them to inspect their lives from a different angle. Tom’s grounded approach to working out what’s important and setting aside the noise of life, resonates with listeners.

Tom explains how harnessing the power of adversity helped him to build a more pragmatic, productive and self-reflective mindset. Applying the lateral thinking methods imbued upon him to circumnavigate physical issues into his vocational endeavours carved out a new line of thinking.

Connect with Tom

-Website: https://www.tomnash.com/

-TED Talk: http://bit.ly/TomNashTEDMain

-Book: Hook, Line & Sinner: https://www.tomnash.com/hls

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/djhookie/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/djhookie

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/tomnash82

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men's Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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How To De-Sexualize Your Brain (And How It Changed My Life) Oct 12, 2023

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Talking points: sex, social media, conditioning, culture

I know what it’s like to feel controlled by your own sexed-up brain. Like you’re losing hours of your day, mental bandwidth and more to clothes-less strangers on the internet.

So I wanted to lay down some real talk about what I've done—and how hard it can be—to de-sexualize my brain and stay disciplined. I also get into some of the benefits it’s hard for me, my business, and my relationship. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and why I’m talking about this
(00:04:31) - Not only is your brain probably overstimulated, it’s probably avoiding something
(00:06:16) - You’re going to have to get some excitement somewhere
(00:08:10) - Cut out thirsty triggers
(00:11:18) - Stop chasing empty dopamine “calories”
(00:12:22) - Use tech properly
(00:14:30) - Use BETTER tools

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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Men's Work Session - Confronting Unresolved Abandonment Oct 09, 2023

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Talking points: fatherhood, abandonment, depression, coping

Every so often, I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what the men's work at ManTalks is actually like. This week I wanted to feature a client who struggles with something I'm deeply familiar with: knowing what the work is AND doing that work, but nothing's really felt "resolved".

Together, we uncover some of what's been keeping his progress in what feels like stasis. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and what my guest wants to work on
(00:04:26) - What’s disruptive for you about being rejected?
(00:08:35) - The complexities of divorce
(00:13:52) - “I don’t really get angry”
(00:19:07) - Movement, at times, requires anger
(00:26:21) - Talking to your 8-year-old self
(00:30:35) - What 8-year-old-you might say back
(00:33:24) - The Homework

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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What Women Do To Emasculate Men Oct 05, 2023

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Talking points: relationships, power dynamics, masculinity, femininity

FYI, I'm diving into this because women have asked over the last few months, not men. And to keep things balanced, I'll be doing a companion video soon on what men do to de-feminate their partner. Listen in!

Would also love your thoughts on the topic. Hit me up on Instagram @mantalks.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:02:53) - Withholding sex (with caveats)
(00:05:43) - Withholding a fun, playful, or joyful nature
(00:08:55) - Being overly controlling when it isn’t necessary
(00:11:52) - Trying to forcibly change your partner
(00:16:00) - Mothering your partner
(00:17:54) - Demeaning men’s activities
(00:19:20) - Withholding appreciation and/or using a man’s vulnerabilities against him

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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What It Takes To Be A High Value Man Sep 28, 2023

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Talking points: integrity, mindset, values

The manosphere is chock full of high value this, high value that. Alright, fine. But what is that really? A lot of the conversation centers around wealth and social status. There's way more to it than that.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:02:45) - Do you have solid internal structures around self-leadership?
(00:04:58) - The biggest challenge every man will face
(00:07:10) - On impulse control and freedom, and just how difficult they are
(00:10:30) - What makes this kind of value attractive to women

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

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Dr. John Delony - Building A Non-Anxious Life, Presence, And Thriving Relationships Sep 25, 2023

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Talking points: masculinity, anxiety, presence, parenting, relationships, spirituality

I'll let the podcast do the talking; this was a wide-ranging, thoroughly enjoyable conversation with John! This is a brilliant episode to dig into if you want digestible, knowledgeable talk around managing anxiety, creating healthy dialogue in relationships with partners and kids, and much, much more. Check the timestamps!

(00:00:00) - Intro and John’s defining moment
(00:05:52) - Why do you think men have a pull towards intense physicality?
(00:11:50) - Do you feel there’s a correlation between anxiety and not developing a relationship with your body?
(00:15:40) - John’s take on anxiety and its biggest causes
(00:20:17) - Different causes of anxiety for modern men and women
(00:29:09) - What’s killing male friendships?
(00:34:29) - The power and importance of presence for your kids
(00:44:39) - There is no health without relationships
(00:46:58) - Neuroception and how overachievement might be overrated
(00:59:45) - Skills for dealing with anxiety in yourself and in your partner
(01:16:44) - The importance of a spiritual component to life

Dr. John Delony earned his Bachelor of Arts in humanities and psychology at Lubbock Christian University and his Masters of Education in higher education administration from Texas Tech University. He went on to earn two PhDs from Texas Tech University—one in counselor education and supervision, and the other in higher education administration.

After spending over twenty years in crisis response and leading students in higher education (and finding real solutions and freedom in his own wellness journey), John knew he wanted to help as many people as possible heal from their past trauma and live whole, connected lives. He now writes, speaks and teaches on relationships, mental health, anxiety and wellness. He also hosts The Dr. John Delony Show where he answers callers’ questions about all of the above, and serves as co-host of The Ramsey Show where he helps unpack the psychology behind finances.

Connect with John

-Book (out Oct 3): Building A Non-Anxious Life: https://store.ramseysolutions.com/personal-growth/books/building-a-non-anxious-life-by-dr-john-delony/

-Website: https://www.ramseysolutions.com/john-delony

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johndelony/

-YouTube: https://bit.ly/3PNP4pg

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/johndelony

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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How To Actually Get Your S**t Together Sep 21, 2023

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Talking points: gratitude, fitness, social media, mindset

If you knew me in my 20s, you would NOT have expected much of me. I was aimless, hated myself, and was not coping well at all. And I'll won't mince words, it was a long, bumpy road to where I am now.

But these 8 practices didn't just help, they radically changed my life. Seriously. This is the mini-episode for you if you're feeling stuck or frustrated with where you're at in life.

(00:00:00) - Intro and where I started
(00:08:24) - Create an internal environment of appreciation and gratitude
(00:12:40) - Use your body. Really. Use. Your. Body.
(00:17:18) - Meditate or journal every single day. One or the other
(00:22:33) - Consume better content
(00:27:14) - Replace coping mechanisms with generative habits
(00:28:41) - Work on your purpose, mission, or business every single day
(00:30:45) - Don’t know your purpose? Let your quest to find it BE the purpose
(00:33:24) - Start to socialize with more people outside your comfort zone

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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