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ManTalks Best Of 2023 Jan 08, 2024

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Talking points: porn, masculinity, culture, redpill, relationships, dating, anxiety, mental health, loneliness

Every January, we get a spike of newcomers to the podcast, and this year I decided to give them a warm welcome by compiling some of the hardest-hitting and most popular episodes of the year.

If you're new to the show, dig in and see what convos mattered most to the community. If you're a longtime listener, now may be the chance to catch something you missed!

(00:00:00) - Stirling Cooper on how porn impacts a man in the bedroom

(00:04:46) - Advice for talking to your son about porn

(00:10:43) - Scott Galloway on how the conversation around men is shifting, and why

(00:13:21) - The knock-on effects of what men are struggling with

(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?

(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data

(00:19:13) - A new definition of masculinity

(00:26:42) - Scott on why guys like Andrew Tate are so popular

(00:31:21) - Jillian Turecki on helping a partner through hardship, grief, and regret

(00:39:17) - What goes into choosing a partner—and why we sometimes choose the wrong one

(00:49:19) - The Disneyfication of modern relationships

(00:52:20) - John Delony on the correlation between body disconnection and anxiety

(00:56:16) - John’s definition of anxiety

(01:00:53) - Do men have different things generally making them anxious?

(01:05:09) - Loneliness CAUSES anxiety

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

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Women Are Out Earning Men—And The Media Isn't Talking About It Jan 04, 2024

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Talking points: relationships, culture

Let me start off by making one thing clear: this isn't problematic. But some other things are happening in tandem that I haven't heard any major outlet talk about. That itself is an issue. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and stats
(00:01:55) - What I find fascinating
(00:03:39) - This is something we ALL should be having dialogue about
(00:07:28) - Why authentic equality is really important
(00:10:26) - Again, NOT saying this is wrong, but what are we creating further down the line?
(00:11:40) - You can already see some consequences in the data

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

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Layne Kilpatrick - Why Testosterone And Fertility Rates Are Plummeting (And What To Do) Jan 01, 2024

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Talking points: hormones, testosterone, fertility, health, men's health

Note: we had some audio troubles with this one! Welcome to 2024, team. We're kicking it off a bit intense with the podcast. This week, a look at what the **** is going on with hormones. The science behind it all is complicated, but fertility markers across the board are dropping. Why? I sat down with Layne Kilpatrick to get some info.

This is a solid ep to check out if you're wondering what hormones (especially testosterone) are all about, and want some solid ways to clear away endocrine disruptors out of your home.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Layne’s defining moment
(00:02:24) - What the hell is happening with men’s testosterone rates?
(00:08:02) - The role testosterone plays in child development
(00:16:36) - How microplastics, phthalates, and other chemicals affect development
(00:21:00) - What can newly pregnant couples do besides stop drinking from plastic water bottles?
(00:24:32) - More on hormone disruptors and testosterone
(00:28:35) - On sperm and why you should store some while you’re younger
(00:33:37) - On glyphosate and atrazine
(00:39:58) - What some things men can do to support healthy testosterone and sperm production?
(00:46:12) - What should the T levels and sperm count actually be for a middle-aged man?
(00:52:45) - Layne’s take on drugs like Ozempic

Layne Kilpatrick began compounding hormone preparations as a pharmacy intern at the Apothecary Shoppe in downtown Salt Lake City in 1986 when the process of micronization was first developed, paving the way for more widespread hormone supplementation. He has developed several original formulations made exclusively at MOC. He has treated thousands of patients for hormone-related issues. He acts as a consultant to medical practitioners and other pharmacists both in and outside of Utah, advising on the interpretation of hormone labs, clinical signs, and symptoms, and effective prescribing practices for ‘native’ hormone therapy, as he prefers to call it. Layne is a native Utahn of pioneer heritage and has lived in Draper since 2003. He and his wife, Angie, have 5 children.

Connect with Layne:

-Website: https://hormonespecialist.net/
-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hormonespecialist

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hormonespecialist

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok

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Five Steps I Used To Unf**k My Life Dec 28, 2023

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At a men's weekend, one of the guests asked me to give a simple breakdown of what I did to climb out of the wreckage of my life. While life is always more complicated than some 5-step solution, these are the biggest, most impactful steps I took—just in time for the new year!

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:00:40) - Stop lying
(00:03:03) - Do what you need (but don’t want) to do
(00:04:30) - Replaced coping mechanisms with generative habits—one at a time
(00:06:06) - Do some more of what you love
(00:07:13) - Learn to regulate your nervous system, aka get better impulse control

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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Why Sexually Disciplined Men Are Attractive To Women Dec 21, 2023

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Talking points: discipline, mindset, attraction, relationships

Title says it all, team. A lot of men simply aren't that disciplined when it comes to their sexual energy, despite the fact that being disciplined has some pretty immense benefits. Here's a look at why that is.

(00:00:00) - Intro
(00:01:12) - A potential major cause of insecurity in a partner
(00:02:41) - Why women are attracted to sexual discipline
(00:04:33) - It creates security and safety
(00:06:12) - Do this for YOU because a) it’s hard, and b) most men aren’t disciplined—at all
(00:08:13) - Your sexual body can be THE training ground for discipline

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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Dr. Nicole LePera - Undoing Trauma Bonds And Getting Your Needs Met Dec 18, 2023

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Talking points: grief, trauma, needs, resentment, relationships

Dr. Nicole is one of the rare three-peats on my podcast, and she always delivers! Fresh off the tour for her new book, we dove straight into the heavy stuff. This is a great episode to listen to if you're wanting to take a closer look at relationship issues, modern dating troubles, and navigating all the emotions those bring.

(00:00:00) - Intro, the book tour, and navigating grief and joy at the same time
(00:08:10) - Why we isolate ourselves when we actually need community
(00:15:47) - What do you feel has shifted in modern-day relationships?
(00:23:12) - What does it mean to “be the love that you seek”?
(00:28:05) - So how do our early relationships inform our present-day ones?
(00:32:18) - Our earliest attachments did more than condition our behavior
(00:38:17) - How early unmet emotional needs impact our present relationships, and how we identify them
(00:44:32) - What do you say to men who claim they shouldn’t have emotional needs?
(00:50:28) - What do when resentment creeps into a relationship, and why it’s so important to listen to the wisdom of the body
(00:56:53) - Nicole’s take on how to regulate your nervous system
(01:03:46) - What is a trauma bond, and how do you know you’re in one?

Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and the New School for Social Research. She also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. As a clinical psychologist in private practice, Dr. Nicole LePera often found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her patients—and for herself—she began a journey to develop a united philosophy of mental, physical, and spiritual health that equips people with the tools necessary to heal themselves. Nothing short of a paradigm shift, Dr. Nicole LePera’s teachings empower the individual to break free from trauma cycles and create who they want to become.

Connect with Dr. Nicole:

-Website: https://yourholisticpsychologist.com/

-Instagram: @the.holistic.psychologist

-Youtube: https://bit.ly/3fmD5eH

-New book: How To Be The Love You Seek: https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com/

-TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theholisticpsychologist/

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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Why Most Men Have A Midlife Crisis—And What To Do Dec 14, 2023

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Talking points: middle age, mindset, death, nice guys

I've worked with legions of middle-aged men. As of 2023, I'm one of them. It got me wondering why so many of us radically change (or catastrophically implode) our lives in our 40s and 50s. Here's what I've seen, where I think it comes from, and where to begin ensuring it doesn't happen to you.

(00:00:00) - Intro and why I call it the “middle passage”
(00:02:52) - The biggest reason men go through a midlife “crisis”
(00:06:59) - Pleasing Syndrome, and how to fix it
(00:10:26) - Fear of our own depths
(00:13:29) - The collapse of the illusion that right action leads to right outcome
(00:17:34) - What do you actually do with this info?

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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Adam Lane Smith - What Every Man Should Know About Attachment—And What Redpill Gets Wrong Dec 11, 2023

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Talking points: redpill, dating, relationships, mindset, culture, attachment

Adam's been making waves recently with his no-nonsense yet deeply considerate approach to the insanity that is modern relationships. This convo was centered around Adam's expertise in attachment theory—aka the way you as a child learn to get safety and love. You can probably guess that it's kind of a big deal. Dig in, team.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Adam’s defining moment
(00:03:07) - What drew Adam to attachment theory
(00:06:16) - Adam’s definition of attachment, and why it’s important for individuals
(00:10:10) - The signs of secure attachment in men and women
(00:16:34) - More insight on anxious and avoidant attachment styles
(00:19:42) - Where do Nice Guys fit on the attachment spectrum, and how do they move towards secure attachment?
(00:29:47) - The sad and dysfunctional truth about how some men get out of anxious attachment
(00:36:33) - The mess that is modern dating, seen through the attachment lens
(00:44:19) - MGTOW and avoidant attachment, and “clear pill”
(00:52:11) - The loss of mature masculinity goes way, way back
(00:59:38) - The contributing factors to mature masculinity

Adam Lane Smith is a transformative force in the field of personal development and relationships. Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist, he has honed his craft as a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. From hardworking blue-collar families seeking to mend marital discord, to high-power executives striving for harmony in parenting, to millionaire CEOs navigating the intricate world of dating, Adam’s profound insights and advice have proven invaluable time and again.

Connect with Adam

-Website: https://adamlanesmith.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCBO093GsMmnA9tb8lZPhbgg

-Courses: https://adamlanesmith.com/courses/

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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How I Dealt With Procrastination Dec 07, 2023

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Talking points: mindset, life hacks, culture

The list of things I've tried to get over procrastination is so long you could wrap a town's worth of Christmas presents in it. But there is ONE thing that's actually helped. It's pretty counterintuitive, but it seriously has worked every time I've used it. Listen in.

(00:00:00) - Intro and how I’ve battled with procrastination for a long, long time
(00:04:20) - Procrastination: what it’s actually trying to do
(00:08:22) - The one counterintuitive thing that worked for me
(00:11:44) - A side effect you’ll need to look out for
(00:14:46) - We have a very anti-boredom culture

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance.

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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Sarah Wilson - Moving Through Discomfort, Tribalism, And Anxiety Dec 04, 2023

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Talking points: anxiety, bipolar disorder, culture, tribalism, climate, society

There aren't many out there with as wide-ranging knowledge and experience as Sarah Wilson, so I was thrilled to sit with her and dig into some of the heavier stuff. From practical tips for managing anxiety to collapsing neoliberal systems to the Dutch practice of "dropping", this interview has a bit of everything.

Strongly encourage you to check this one and share, especially if you're interested in mental health or where our culture's headed.

(00:00:00) - Intro and Sarah’s defining moment
(00:03:54) - What are “diseases of despair”?
(00:07:29) - What’s causing the rise of these kinds of deaths?
(00:11:32) - The loss of “discerning moral discussions” in the education system
(00:16:56) - Sarah’s take on collapse theory and its impact on mental health
(00:26:36) - How do we deal with the fracturing of dialogue and society?
(00:34:54) - It’s not an anxiety epidemic, it’s a lack of resilience epidemic
(00:44:44) - What are some practical ways to work with anxiety?
(00:54:08) - Resources for people with a bipolar partner, friend, or family member.

Sarah Wilson is a multi-New York Times and Amazon best-selling author, podcaster, social philosopher, international keynote speaker, philanthropist, and climate change advisor. She's known globally for the I Quit Sugar Movement, as well as her New York Times bestseller First, We Make the Beast Beautiful—described by Mark Manson as “the best book on living with anxiety that I’ve ever read”. Sarah’s most recent title, This One Wild & Precious Life, won the 2021 US Gold Nautilus Prize.

Connect with Sarah

-Website: https://sarahwilson.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_sarahwilson_

-Substack: https://sarahwilson.substack.com/

-Podcast, Wild with Sarah Wilson: https://pod.link/1548626341

Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today.

For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

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