Make Your Damn Bed

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576 || controlling red flags Sep 14, 2022

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TW: there is mention of emotional abuse throughout this episode.

the main goal of manipulation is a sense of CONTROL. Make sure you're comfortable enough in your own skin (and head) to make your own decisions. Common tactics to make you doubt yourself include but is not limited to: projection, dismissing, minimizing, triangulation, gaslighting, general control, guilt tripping, generalizations, love bombing, name calling, infantalizing, threatening, passive aggressive behaviors, etc.

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575 || sneaky manipulations Sep 13, 2022

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TW: there is mention of emotional abuse throughout this episode.

“The first sign to look out for is if you feel confused. You will rarely–if ever–be confused by someone who has nothing but pure, good, loving intentions with you. The second is if you feel hesitant or fearful to either address your confusion or speak your feelings openly. If you can’t ask a question or express your needs without it becoming an argument, that’s a red flag. When someone is defensive (turns the tables, shifts blame, over-explains), it can be a sign that they are feeling ‘caught.'” – Alexandra Rickeman, LCMFT

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574 || relocation reboot Sep 12, 2022

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sometimes we just need to relocate for a few + regroup so we can really appreciate the reasons we left in the first place.

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573 || storage bog Sep 11, 2022

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The more stuff I have, the less access I feel I have to any of it - thus feeling like I actually have less stuff. So recently, I have prioritized starting fresh + getting rid of shit I don't have the full intention of using.

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571 || dealing with passive aggressive people Sep 09, 2022

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dealing with others who engage in passive aggressive behavior can be frustrating and cause more conflict in the long run, if we're not tactful with how we approach the situation. today, I discuss ways to increase tact + improve your approach towards those who are more passive aggressive in their interactions with you.

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570 || becoming less passive aggressive Sep 08, 2022

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When I was younger and a chronic people pleaser, I found myself doing anything to avoid confrontation. This meant, I spent a lot of my time feeling unheard + unseen, so in an effort to feel heard without "stirring the pot" I ended up becoming more and more passive aggressive which caused more + more conflict.

Here's how I started to rectify it.

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569 || manipulation tactics II Sep 07, 2022

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today I cover the concept of: Negging + emotional blackmail so we can know when we're falling victim (or party) to them.

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568 || manipulation tactics Sep 06, 2022

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a lot of commonly used manipulation tactics are discussed without clarification. today I wanna chat about the ones we hear about the most: gaslighting + guilt-tripping, etc.

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567 || just a lil message Sep 05, 2022

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felt wholesome and grateful and cheesy AF today, but whateeeeever I AM NOT CRYING, YOU ARE CRYING.

I lied, it's me. I am crying. You mean more to me than words can express. THANK YOU.

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566 || save yourself from compounding stress Sep 04, 2022

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by saving the MENTAL work until you get to the PHYSICAL work, you'll feel better, do better, and think better. don't add a compounding stress cycle by ignoring an urgent task AND fearing it. Simply address it, as is, and move forward with the lessons you've learned in the process.

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