Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Latest Episodes:

Episode 438: How We Heal Ourselves: Healing the Mother Wound with Bethany Webster Mar 23, 2022

Show notes

This week I am talking to Bethany Webster about the mother wound. Bethany says, “When we are children and our mothers harm us, they are to blame. They are adults and are responsible for us. But as we grow up and turn into adults, it then becomes our responsibility to do the healing within ourselves. If you can walk the path of healing the mother wound and inner mothering, the rewards are so rich.”

Bethany is a writer, international speaker, and transformational coach. She started blogging in 2013 about the Mother Wound and quickly experienced worldwide demand for her work. Through blending research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing.

If you have a great relationship with your mother, don’t turn this episode off! Even if you have or had a good relationship with her, we can still struggle with some mother-wounding. Tune into this episode to hear about what the mother wound is and how to begin to heal from it.

We talk about:

Bethany explains what the mother wound is and where it comes from. (5:06)
Healing the four layers of the mother wound. (7:25)
The cost of avoiding the mother wound and what prevents women from healing it. (13:47)
How to heal the mother wound without mother-blaming. (20:14)
What to do if/when your mother responds with “Oh, so it’s always my fault?” (36:53)
Bethany’s experience with estrangement from her mother. (39:24)

http://andreaowen.com/438

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode 437: Codependency Mar 18, 2022

Show notes

Today’s minisode revolves around codependency. Many years ago, when I was in my 20s and in a difficult relationship, my therapist told me I was codependent. I read Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More and saw so much of myself in it. I highlighted all the symptoms and to be honest, at the time, I wasn’t totally clear on what I had to do to solve the problem. In this minisode, I’ll talk about:

Some common symptoms of codependency, as well as how it looked in my life when I was deep in it.
A quote from my friend and therapist Britt Frank about why she’s not a fan of the current narrative that surrounds codependency
What I wish I would have learned early on that would have helped me get better help

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode 436: How We Heal Ourselves: A New Perspective on Mental Health with Britt Frank Mar 16, 2022

Show notes

Britt Frank is back on the show! Britt Frank, MSW, LSCSW, SEP is a trauma therapist, teacher, and speaker who specializes in the "Science of Stuck." She is one of my favorite therapists who offers another perspective on personal development. In this episode we discuss what Britt believes to be some of the inaccurate information the mental health and wellness world teaches us and how that information impacts our personal development journey. Britt’s goal is to educate, empower, and equip people to transform even their most persistent and long-standing patterns of thinking and doing. You’re going to love this conversation, I have no doubt.

You’ll hear:

The parts of us that people typically hate are the parts that are trying to protect us. (7:17)
Why Britt says, “Depression is debilitating but it is NOT a chemical imbalance.” (11:38)
Why addiction is NOT a disease. (15:35)
We need to understand behavior function in order to get to behavior change. (19:29)
If we could change our inner monologue to an inner dialogue we can calm the nervous system down. (23:19)
Anxiety is as necessary to your health as the check-engine light is to your car. (29:49)
If a medication or modality isn’t working for you, you’re not broken. Healing is complex. (39:27)
Therapy is not about blaming your parents, it’s about becoming a parent to yourself. (43:21)
Trauma is not always about the things that happened to you. It is also about the things that didn’t happen to you, but should have. (44:20)

http://andreaowen.com/436

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode 435: How We Heal Ourselves: Trauma therapy and Internal Family Systems with Simone Saunders Mar 09, 2022

Show notes

I love learning about different trauma therapies and giving you options to find specialists who can help you heal. TikTok is rife with mental health professionals giving sound advice. I first came to know this week’s guest, Simone Saunders, when I saw her Tiktok video about a symptom of trauma: a sense of a foreshortened future.

Simone is a mental health and wellness-based content creator and licensed therapist. She is known for creating content that breaks down psychoeducational topics into digestible pieces, normalizing mental health issues, and giving an inside look at the therapy process.

Together, Simone and I have a conversation about Accelerated Resolution Therapy, understanding internal family systems, and unpacking the various symptoms of trauma and failed attachment in childhood.

You’ll hear:

Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) and how it helps reprogram the way in which traumatic memories and images are stored in the brain so that they no longer trigger strong physical and emotional reactions. (6:04)
How Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help individuals to heal. Simone shares some of the common categories of parts firefighters, managers, and exiles, as well. (10:00)
A symptom of trauma that is not talked about enough is a sense of a foreshortened future. Simone explains what it is and how it shows up. (23:30)
Hyper-Independence and its relation to attachment. (25:30)
How to talk to your family about your mental health journey and experience with therapy. (31:15)
Simone answers, “Is therapy a life-long journey and should you take therapy breaks?” (40:38)

http://andreaowen.com/435

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode 434: When you lose a very good dog Mar 04, 2022

Show notes

Giselle Owen, mascot of the podcast, lover of her Dirty Baby and popcorn, my right-hand girl, my soul dog passed away peacefully in my arms on Wednesday, February 16th. Part of this episode is a tribute to her.

I open the podcast with a little follow up to episode 432– the episode on humiliation with Amy Smith. I had the biggest vulnerability hangover after airing that show, I couldn’t believe I released an episode that had me break down in tears for y’all to hear. However, that was my fear talking, saying I should pull the episode, and I could see that pretty quickly. In this minisode I give you my thoughts on that.

Lastly, I talk about dogs, a quick history on how we got Giselle, and the epiphany I had the day after she died about one of the reasons people love dogs so much.

Thank you for listening, and thank you to those of you who have watched Giselle over the years on my Instagram stories and who even knew her toys names! She was such a good dog, and I am in the throes of grief without her. If you would have met her, she would have LOVED you. She loved people, a lot more than she cared about other dogs.

And to anyone who’s lost a pet they loved dearly, I see you.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode 433: How We Heal Ourselves: Healing with Group Therapy with Christie Tate Mar 02, 2022

Show notes

I first met this week’s guest, Christie Tate, at a book festival last year. I quickly realized that since we are on the theme of therapy and healing ourselves, she would be an interesting addition to the series. Christie is a lawyer who wrote about her experience in group therapy and her debut memoir about her adventures in life transformation through group therapy is called Group--How One Therapist and a Circle of Strangers Saved My Life.

On paper, Christie explains that her life was great. But inward, she was depressed, lonely, and isolated. She eventually agreed to go to therapy. In this episode, she shares her experience with getting psychologically and emotionally naked in a room of six complete strangers—a psychotherapy group—and how in turn she found human connection, and ultimately, herself.

You’ll hear:

Christie shares what led her to therapy in the first place and shares her journey to group therapy. (6:23)
Group therapy: what it’s really like. (8:41)
The highs and lows of group therapy. Christie shares one of highs, sharing a food secret with the group and one of her lows which have to do with jealousy about who is getting attention. (17:40)
Shining a light on the issue is where the healing begins. (36:00)
Insight and advice for those reluctant to go to group therapy. (40:55)

http://andreaowen.com/433

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode 432: CASTMWUP: Andrea and Amy on profound humiliation and its impact Feb 23, 2022

Show notes

This week I have a conversation about shit that matters with unqualified people to share with you. My bestie, Amy Green Smith, helps me unpack the emotional damage humiliation has caused me for so many years and let it be seen for what it is.

I had been told by a well-meaning friend that humiliation wasn’t something I should feel. After all, the things that happened to me (my ex-husband cheating on me) weren't my fault. Together Amy and I unpack the weight of humiliation, shame, and self-worth. By the end of this episode, I finally settled into the notion that healing is truly a one-day at a time journey. We explore:

How earth-shattering it is to actually feel seen. If it is painful to you, it is valid. My inner teenager is pissed. We are all navigating trauma, personally and generationally. Unpacking trauma is labor! There is a tremendous weight of being the one in the family to carry the emotional load. And finally, from Amy, “We all have our shit and we are never done doing the work. There is an element in grief in this knowledge. The work won’t be void of hardship. We can just engage it in a more powerful way.”

http://andreaowen.com/432

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode 431: Breaking down the scar tissue Feb 18, 2022

Show notes

Around 2013, I had a shoulder injury that turned into something called “Frozen Shoulder”, and later had to have surgery. I wanted to use this story as a metaphor for our emotional wounds and healing. In this minisode, I tell the story and you’ll also hear:

What I had to do before surgery for months, that we all do in different ways when it comes to our emotional lives.
How we all build up scar tissue and what we can do about it.
What we do afterward; when it comes to both surgery for an injury and healing our internal emotional wounds.

If you’re wanting to learn some amazing coping mechanisms, consider joining me and other like-minded women for one of my upcoming retreats. We’re gathering in May for a non-recovery retreat, and again in September, for a recovery-focused retreat.

http://andreaowen.com/431

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode 430: How We Heal Ourselves: ADHD Diagnoses, Transmagnetic Stimulation, and Genetic Testing with Dr. Sasha Hamdani Feb 16, 2022

Show notes

If you’ve ever been interested in learning about Transmagnetic Stimulation (TMS), genetic screening, and being diagnosed with ADHD - then you are in the right place! This week, Dr. Sasha Hamdani joins me to talk about all of those topics and more.

Like several of the past guests in the series on healing, I found Dr. Hamdani on TikTok. Y’all, Mental Health is a big topic over there! Dr. Hamdani is a Board Certified psychiatrist and ADHD specialist. In addition to her private practice, she has a robust social media following across multiple platforms where she provides accessible and accurate information about ADHD. I am excited to introduce you to her and the work she does in the area of mental health and healing.

You’ll hear:

Dr. Hamdani and I both share our ADHD diagnosis stories and then discuss whether or not someone can someone have symptoms of ADHD but not have ADHD. (9:18)
Transmagnetic Stimulation (TMS): what it is, who it can help, and how it helps. (16:44)
How you can prepare for your first meeting with a mental health medical professional. (34:21)
The benefits of genetic screening, what kind of data you can get from the testing, and who should use it. (39:42)
How the stigma of having ADHD is different for women. (49:28)

http://andreaowen.com/430

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Episode 429: How We Heal Ourselves: How To Process Challenging Emotions With Sherianna Boyle Feb 09, 2022

Show notes

We are continuing down our path answering the question, how do we heal. My friend, Sherianna Boyle is back on the show, this time to talk about emotions. We can’t have a theme around healing without talking specifically about our emotions, because they are so important to the healing process.

Sherianna is the author of ten books including her latest Emotional Detox Now: 135 Self-Guided Practices to Renew Your Mind, Heart & Spirit. In this episode, we discuss the power of cleansing our emotions in order to get to a place of healing. Sherianna also offers her insight on the benefits of cleansing practices and how they can transform your attitude, focus, and energy.

You’ll hear:

What it means to cleanse challenging feelings and emotions. (5:48)
The difference between a feeling and a reaction to a feeling. (8:07)
The seven-step practice of emotional detox using the acronym CLEANSE. (18:51)
The benefits of a cleansing practice. (20:27)
How emotions can support a great life right now. (31:47)
Tell-tale signs you may be numbing out or avoiding your feelings. (33:51)

http://andreaowen.com/429

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Our TOPPODCAST Picks

Follow Us

Stay Connected

Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Related Podcasts

Links

Stay Connected