Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

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CC: A Meditation to Calm You During COVID19 May 02, 2020

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In this special coaches corner, Christine guides you through a beautiful meditation that will bring you both calm and clarity during this time.

EP 242: Stop Being Needy with Carson Apr 29, 2020

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This is a call about overcoming codependent and anxious patterns. Today's caller, Carson, is looking outside of himself for his worth. He would like to know how he can begin to heal and learn to trust himself. This call is a classic case of looking for what we didn't get as a child in other people, as an adult.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode242]

Anything that made you feel unsafe, small, or unimportant as a child or adolescent can create codependent behaviors. The need to attach to someone else develops as a way to counteract the feelings of being small or unimportant. You try to grab on to someone to feel needed or to feel important in their eyes. Codependence can work in two ways. You could be the person that another person needs such as becoming a caretaker or rescuer. Or, you can be super needy.

The behavior of grasping onto others and being needy is not sustainable.

No one outside of us can make these wounds go away. We have to fill the voids ourselves. You have to learn to trust yourself so you can stop grabbing or clinging onto other people or allowing others to cling onto you to feel worthy. If you have any codependent patterns running, you must learn to get your needs met inside yourself.

If you resonate with having similar feelings know that you can heal. Nothing is insurmountable.

Stefanos and I will be hosting our second 'Be the Queen' virtual teaching and coaching on May 5th. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Did you have your needs met as a child? If not, has that made you needy as an adult?
Have you ever thought that you have codependent behaviors?
Do people consistently disappoint, misunderstand, or abandon you?
Have you ever felt truly seen or understood by someone?

Carson's Question:

Carson would like guidance on how to release his fear of abandonment and begin to trust again.

Carson's Key Insights and Ahas:

He has been struggling with his fear of abandonment.
He is in a long-distance relationship.
He doesn't feel supported or accepted by his family.
He is codependent and has an anxious attachment style.
He has felt misunderstood his entire life.
He doesn't trust himself.
He has a creative outlet.
He is outsourcing his relief and happiness.
He replays past situations in his head.
He is seeking the things he didn't get as a child.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

He should do the release writing practice.
He should do the temper tantrum technique.
He should become an observer of his needs.
He needs to say 'I am safe and I am loved' when he feels anxious.

Takeaways:

To break free of an anxious pattern, identify it, name it, acknowledge it, and accept it.
Don't slap labels on yourself. You may have a part of you that is codependent but that is not who you are.
Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code 'HEALTH' at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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CC: What We Can Learn from Astrology with Jade Luna Apr 25, 2020

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Today Asterian Astrologer Jade Luna joins me to discuss how the stars predicted this pandemic, what we can learn from it, and how we can move forward. Jade and I speak about the "new normal" emerging and this time as a beginning of a massive change of consciousness.

Jade S. Luna is the first Westerner ever to reconstruct Jyotish (Hindu Astrology) into a Greco-Roman format. Jade has traveled extensively around the planet, lecturing and conducting workshops on Astrology and Ancient Roman-Greco mysticism. He has traveled to India more than 30 times and spent a great deal of time with various teachers, Saints and Sadhu's in Asia.

Jade also consults with people privately. He usually presents a few seminars each year at various locations worldwide. He is the author of Asterian Astrology and has been one of the most successful Astrologers in the world and has maintained a high-level practice for over 18 years.

You can learn more or book a session with him here:

http://www.asterianastrology.com/

EP 241: Why Anger is a Gift with Keira Apr 22, 2020

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This is a call about how to heal anger and discover the passion and creativity that lie underneath. Today's caller, Keira, feels she got the short end of the stick in life. She has done a lot of personal growth work and introspection but she is still angry and sad and wants guidance on how to find her way through her feelings.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode241]

As children or adolescents, we make unconscious vows of 'I will never be like mom,' or 'I'll never be like dad,' or 'I will never be like that person who teased me,' but just making that vow or that promise is not enough. If you don't heal the wounds that perpetuated making that vow, either you become like them or you go so far in the opposite direction that it becomes a shadow side.

If we're angry all the time or angry at the world it breeds a deep sense of low self-worth. People who are angry generally have low self-worth because unprocessed anger creates an intense sense of separation. Which is another reason I'm so passionate about helping people process anger in a healthy way.

Anger misdirected is dangerous but anger directed in a healthy way can be deeply healing. Underneath that anger is where we often find our passion and our purpose.

If you feel shut down or you don't know what your purpose is or what you are supposed to do, do anger release work to see what is underneath your anger. You will become a clearer channel for ideas and innovation.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you ever feel like life just doesn't work out for you to matter how hard you try?
Do you feel angry and/or sad and no matter how much personal development work you do?
When it comes to emotions in your home growing up what did you observe?
Have you been told you're too emotional or too reactive or too irrational or *fill in the blank* and you're questioning whether or not it is true?

Keira's Question:

Keira would like guidance on how to let go of her anger so she can enjoy life.

Keira's Key Insights and Ahas:

She is emotionally addicted to being angry.
She judges herself for not being able to change.
She wants to enjoy life.
Her father let her down.
She judges her mother for not being strong for her.
She feels her older brother let her down.
She gets triggered easily.
She believes her soul is a passionate one.
She is yearning to uncover her creativity.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to be grateful for how her anger has served her.
She needs to learn how to channel and use her anger.
She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover.
She needs to dive deeper into her wounding to free herself of it.
She needs to share her feelings with her mother by writing letters she doesn't intend to send.

Takeaways:

Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.
Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall.
Find your voice during this time, whatever that means to you. Don't be too passive or too reactive. Find your middle ground.
Channel your feelings into writing, speaking, dancing, cooking, creating; something non-result-based that is just fun.
Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code 'HEALTH' at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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CC: Understanding and Healing Trauma with Elaine Miller Apr 18, 2020

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This is an incredibly informative and compassionate discussion about trauma. Trauma is something this is often misunderstood and mistreated which is why I'm so grateful to have had Elaine, who has been on the front lines of trauma, shed some light on this subject.

Elaine Miller-Karas is the Director of Innovation, Vision and Creativity and co-founder of the Trauma Resource Institute and author of the book, Building Resiliency to Trauma, the Trauma and Community Resiliency Models® (2015). She has worked internationally to bring healing to the world's community. Her models to date have been brought to 102 countries in Asia, Africa, North America, the Mid-East, South America and Europe. She is a recognized international speaker and author. Elaine's book was recently selected by the United Nations curated on-line library as one of the innovations that can help meet the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals. Elaine is a founding member of the International Transformational Resilience Coalition and a leading advocate with regard to the impact of climate change on the human condition.

EP 240: Finding Your Worth with Eliza Apr 15, 2020

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This is a call about releasing your anger to find your worth. Today's caller, Eliza, desires a relationship but doesn't feel worthy. As with many people who struggle with not-enoughness, unworthiness, or with people who are stuck, she has confused acceptance with resignation and her passion, fire, and worth lies beneath her anger.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode240]

Emotional release work is like a workout. You may not feel like doing it if you didn't sleep well the night before or you had one too many glasses of wine but after you do it you feel so much better. During this time, emotional release work is very important. This isn't just a time to chill or to just clean out your closet. It's time to bring your shadow out into the light of awareness and be willing to feel your emotions. That's when things will start to move and shift.

Please don't lie to yourself or brush things under the rug. Don't harbor resentment and call it acceptance. Acceptance is not avoiding confrontation; that's complacency, resignation, and emotional repression. You might say that you've accepted so-and-so for who they are but deep down you probably still have anger and pain.

I believe that acceptance and forgiveness are beautiful places for all of us to be in but good luck being a human being and trying to bypass your emotions and get right to acceptance and forgiveness. That is a spiritual bypass. I hope that in this global Expectation Hangover we're having more people will do emotional release writing, emotional release work, and the temper tantrum technique to look at the ways that they're no longer able to sustain their behavior.

Join Stef and me twice per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall.

Stefan and I will be hosting our second 'Be the Queen' virtual teaching and coaching in April. The program for women seeking to call in an amazing, conscious relationship includes nine calls, a Facebook group, Facebook Lives, and a bonus live event in September. Christinehassler.com/bethequeen.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you struggle with feeling not enough or unworthiness?
Did you have a parent you felt shut you down? Maybe you felt they were disappointed in you or they never looked at you with love or adoration?
Do you feel stuck? Do you have trouble motivating yourself?
Do you have a hard time speaking your truth to people? Do you prefer to stay in the status quo?

Eliza's Question:

Eliza wants to be in a relationship but feels unworthy of love.

Eliza's Key Insights and Ahas:

She believes she is unlikeable.
She doesn't feel good enough, especially at work.
She blames and judges herself.
She is fluent in the 'I am not enough' language.
She believes that blaming herself will help her heal.
She would like to forgive her parents freely.
She didn't feel seen by her father.
She believes if she accepts her father then she will feel worthy.
She doesn't feel loved by her family.
She swallows resentment to try and keep the peace.
She wants to feel loved and accepted.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should join our Be the Queen program.
She needs to change her self-talk and re-parent herself.
She needs to join my Personal Mastery course and read Expectation Hangover.

Takeaways:

Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code 'HEALTH' at checkout and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.
Get an excerpt of the temper tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover as a free gift at ChristineHassler.com/angerrelease.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

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Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

CC: Free Fourself From Anxiety with EFT Led by Jess Ortner Apr 11, 2020

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Jessica Ortner joins Christine to speak about how the Emotional Freedom Technique, which is also called "Tapping," can help bring relief from difficult emotions and thoughts. Jess is a producer of The Tapping Solution, the breakthrough documentary film on EFT/meridian tapping. She guides you through a tapping process to help release worry and tension in this episode. You can also more free EFT resources at www.christinehassler.com/tapping.

EP 239: Finding Faith When You Think You Don't Have It with Emma Apr 08, 2020

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This is a call about accessing faith when your logical mind has doubts. Today's caller, Emma, is feeling anxious about not being able to access her faith. She says the mental understanding of God has her optimistic about the future but she wasn't experientially getting it. And, an uncertain future is exacerbating her anxiety.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode239]

A relationship with a higher power can be complicated just like a relationship with people. We can go through ebbs and flows where we are totally into it and we feel it and then there are times when we are questioning everything.

Part of the reason many of us feel anger toward God is that we see a lot of suffering. We even see something like the pandemic and wonder if there really is a God. Remember that we are made from the image and likeness of God. The reason there is suffering in the world isn't necessarily because God or the universe did it, it is our free will that has created what we live with on a day-to-day basis.

The universe, I believe, is always helping us move more and more toward evolution. It points out the contrast of when we are out of alignment with harmony, balance, and love. And as a collective, we have been out of alignment for a long time which is just one of the reasons we are experiencing this difficult time.

If we project human behavior onto God or onto the universe it will never make sense to us. We have to see our higher power, without judgment. God/Universe is an all-knowing, all-loving thing. All it wants is for us to know ourselves as it, to know ourselves as unconditional love, untapped possibility, and oneness.

We forget that God exists inside of each of us and we live in a world where we are still evolving. You don't have to earn God. The more we shift into the energy of love, the energy of gratitude, and the energy of worthiness, there will be less suffering.

How can you experience the unconditional love of the universe if you don't feel worthy to receive it?

Join Stef and me three to five times per week, as we guide you through breathwork to release stress and fear, meditation to shift your state, and then answer your questions to support you. Visit ChristineHassler.com/freecall and download the call from 4/4/20 about anger.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

What does faith mean to you? Do you feel like you have it?
Do you want to have faith but you just don't feel it?
Do you think you are worthy of being loved and supported by God or a higher power?
Are you a bit angry at God and the universe and you are not sure what to do about it?

Emma's Question:

Emma doesn't understand why she can't access feelings of faith; she would like guidance about how to find meaning and connection.

Emma's Key Insights and Ahas:

She is feeling anxious about the future.
She believes she doesn't have faith.
She doesn't connect with any particular religion.
She has had bouts of extreme uncertainty.
She doesn't believe things are fair.
She has a pattern of being unable to express her feelings.
She believes she is not enough and unworthy.
She was bullied when she was a child.
She has been repressing anger for a long time.
Deep down she remembers what it is like to be connected.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should join me in my Personal Mastery course. Get $200 off by using the promo code 'HEALTH' and take advantage of the monthly payment plan.
She needs a good emotional release.
She needs to work through the anger by doing the empty chair practice putting God in the opposite chair.

Takeaways:

Download my free meditation to help you slip into your sense of faith and sense of spirituality. Download it at ChristineHassler.com/Faith.
Tap into your worthiness by using a picture of yourself as a child and feel into love and worthiness.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community