Life Coaching with Christine Hassler

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Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: We Are in the Great Awakening. How to Navigate and Understanding Your Role Jun 06, 2020

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In this episode, Christine speaks about how to navigate this challenging time with love. She also shares her insight on how and why this is the "Great Awakening" we have all been preparing for. Christine shares how we can all heal racism and how being anti-racist is truly about being a loving and awakening human being along with action steps you can take. Learn how you can step into your unique role in this changing ecosystem. Receive a prayer you can use to help shift mass consciousness.

EP 247: I Feel Like a Failure with Alex Jun 03, 2020

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This call is about self-compassion and empowerment. Today's caller, Alex, judges herself for not being where she feels she 'should' be in life and for not breaking free from a toxic relationship. She wants guidance on how to move forward but must first work through her unresolved wounding. No one makes significant changes by beating themselves up. True transformation and true change come from love.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode247]

When we judge ourselves as a failure we continue to feel like a failure because adding judgment only creates more self-loathing and it lowers our self-worth. It's important to know that at any given moment we are doing the best we can at the time.

It's not an excuse not to do better. It is like Maya Angelou says 'the first time you didn't know any better, the second time you know better, so do better.' We always have the opportunity. There is always another time. The amazing thing about life is that as time keeps going on we are consistently presented with additional opportunities to do better. But, if you look back and only see yourself as a failure you're not going to have the confidence and self-love you need to actually do better the next time you will just keep repeating the same 'failure.'

It is important that we feel empowered so we don't give our power away to others or exert our power over others.

Take a deep dive into how to understand your attachment style and heal your inner child in our three-day virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can't join us live, it will be recorded. ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you feel like you're failing at life and not where you should be?
Do you have an alcoholic or addict parent and maybe did you have another parent that you were close to — maybe even a little too close?
Is it hard for you to break free of toxic relationships or situations even though you know that they are not healthy for you?

Alex's Question:

Alex is tired of feeling like a victim and would like clarity on how to move forward in her life.

Alex's Key Insights and Ahas:

She walked away from a toxic relationship but keeps in contact with him.
She is looking for a new job.
She feels like a failure and has hit rock bottom.
Her father is an alcoholic and a workaholic.
Her father didn't pay much attention to her.
She lost touch with herself at a young age.
She feels alone.
She didn't find value in therapy.
She is very close to her mother and doesn't want to disappoint her.
She carries around shame.
She wants to learn to love herself.
She is love-starved.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Research codependence and work to break free of her codependent patterns.
Focus on self-compassion and empowerment.
Remind herself daily that she is enough and she doesn't need anyone else's approval.
Believe that she can take care of herself and meet her own needs.
Consider getting a coach or therapist to guide her.
Reparent herself and speak to herself in a more loving way.
Investigate her spiritual life more.

Takeaways:

Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.
Look where you might have codependent patterns. Do some online research or check out Codependent No More, by Melody Beattie.
Make a list of all your perceived failures or mistakes and reframe them. For every single one, I want you to write down at least three things you learn from them to start to see your failures and mistakes from a different perspective.
Do something that fills your cup. Do something that makes you feel safe and nurtured, something that calms that inner child.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: The XX Brain with Dr. Lisa Mosconi May 30, 2020

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Enjoy this information rich episode where Christine speaks with one of the thought-leaders in women's brain health. Learn how you can protect your memory and avoid Alzheimer's disease. Dr. Lisa Mosconi, PhD, is the director of the Women's Brain Initiative and associate director of the Alzheimer's Prevention Clinic at Weill Cornell Medical College, where she serves as an associate professor of neuroscience in neurology and radiology. In addition, she is an adjunct faculty member at the NYU Department of Psychiatry and the author of Brain Food and The XX Brain.

EP 246: Break Through Intimacy Blocks with Jasmine May 27, 2020

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This call is about overcoming a desire for control to feel safe. Today's caller, Jasmine, is wondering why she has a strange relationship with her boyfriend and her sister and why she sabotages her work experience. What it comes down to is an issue with control and fear of intimacy created to protect herself due to her early experiences with an emotionally unavailable parent.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode246]

During a time when we feel out of control or too controlled we develop a compensatory strategy of 'I have to be in control of everything to protect myself to avoid intimacy.'

Attachment styles are developed based on our early experiences in relationships. In the avoidant attachment style, we avoid or fear emotional intimacy because usually had a parent who was aloof, emotionally removed, unaffectionate, rejecting, or not attuned to our childhood emotional needs.

Maybe the parent provided food and shelter but children need affection and nurturing as well. When a child doesn't have emotional availability or affection they can develop an avoidant attachment style. In adulthood, this can show up as being extremely independent and self-directed, controlling, and often uncomfortable with intimacy.

Those with an avoidant attachment style often get the rap of being commitment-phobes but it's more that they have difficulty with commitment. They either rationalize themselves out of deep intimacy or they have certain complaints when in a relationship.

Grounding ourselves in the present moment and breathwork are great for people who have an avoidant attachment style.

To learn more about compensatory strategies get a free download from my book, Expectation Hangover at ChristineHassler.com/CS.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you have a habit of pushing people away?
Do you give too much advice to certain people?
Do you remember, as a child, having a lot of affection being hugged and feeling safe and nurtured in your home or do you remember feeling kind of alone?
Do you often sabotage an opportunity or relationship professional or personal even if it's something you really want?

Jasmine's Question:

Jasmine has a difficult time connecting in her relationships and pulls away before she gets what she wants.

Jasmine's Key Insights and Ahas:

She is trying to change the role she plays in her sister's life.
She shrugs off affection when her boyfriend reaches out.
She wants things done a certain way.
She has adopted a protective pattern of control.
She has had very little intimacy in her life.
Her mother was emotionally unavailable.
As a child, she learned that loving other people meant telling them what to do.
Her father wasn't around.
She doesn't recognize the progress she has made.
She may have a deep fear of rejection.
She has a body memory of being rejected when giving love.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Research the avoidant attachment style.
Check-in with herself, with love, to see how she is doing.
Be more compassionate with herself.
Release self-judgment and add unconditional love.
Ground herself in the present because intimacy happens in the present moment.
Adopt the mantra of 'I am safe. That was then. This is now.' and 'It is safe to let love in.'

Takeaways:

Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.
To learn more about compensatory strategies get a free download from my book, Expectation Hangover at ChristineHassler.com/CS.
Be patient with yourself and your growth.
Practice by naming your feelings and saying to yourself 'I am safe. That was then. This is now.'
Listen to my Coaches Corner episode #217 on attachment styles.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: Inquire within with IN-Q May 23, 2020

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You are in for a treat a very talented and inspirational guest joins Christine on the podcast. IN-Q is a National Poetry Slam champion, award-winning poet, and multi-platinum songwriter. He is on Oprah's SuperSoul 100 list of the world's most influential thought leaders. He inspires audiences around the world through his live performances and storytelling workshops. IN-Q brings his words to paper in his heartfelt and entertaining debut book Inquire Within. His poetry contemplates themes of love, life, presence, forgiveness, and social issues including climate change, gun violence, racism and more. After hearing IN-Q and reading his poetry, you'll never look at poetry the same way again. Learn more and grab a copy here: https://in-q.com/

EP 245: Stop Trying to Prove Yourself with Britney May 20, 2020

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This is a call about knowing that you matter without constantly proving yourself. Today's caller, Britney, is putting a lot of pressure on herself. She wants guidance on building her career but until she heals her inner child she will keep running into roadblocks. If you are career-driven you may relate to this.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode245]

What we all need the most is for someone to really see us and understand us.

If we are addicted to anything, be it success or alcohol, it is an attempt to cure pain or heal a wound. Any addiction is an attempt to numb something. We can be addicted to success or making something out of ourselves but that is not the purpose of our life. The purpose of the human experience is to come to the awareness that we are whole, complete, and loved no matter what we do. And, we are someone no matter what we do. We are one with everyone. That is why we are here.

When we do inner child work and we do the work of the spirit we realize there is nothing external that solves our internal tasks. There is nothing external that completes us. Inner child work can lead us to more aligned and greater success because we're not hitting as many roadblocks.

I don't want you to think that accepting ourselves and loving ourselves makes us complacent. Accepting and loving ourselves provides us with inspiration and success because it comes from a more aligned place.

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Take a deep dive into how to heal your inner child in our 3-day virtual Inner Child workshop on June 5th-7th. Stefanos and I will hold space for both the healthy masculine and feminine. If you can't join us live it will be recorded. Take advantage of the early bird discount if you sign up by May 25th at ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you feel like you are not living into your purpose or potential or like you should be doing more?
Did you have parents that were very success-oriented and expected a lot from you?
As a child, did you have a passion for something artistic or outside of the conventional box or what your parents maybe wanted you to do but you were discouraged from pursuing it because you were told you could never make money at it?
Do you feel blocked in the area of your life and it seems like no matter what you do you just can't shift it?

Britney's Question:

Britney would like to know more about stepping into her purpose.

Britney's Key Insights and Ahas:

She disassociates and has self-worth issues.
She feels she is a strong hustler but is tired of it.
She is having trouble taking her career to the next level.
She feels she is not where she is supposed to be.
She pushes away love because she feels she doesn't deserve it.
She was told she wouldn't succeed in the arts.
She craved support and validation from her parents.
She feels like she doesn't matter and has to prove herself.
Her parents believe the way out of suffering is money and success.
She is breaking a generational pattern.
She wants to play more.
She consistently looks for something external to heal internally.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

Learn to release the expectations she puts on herself.
Perform the Empty Chair Process.
Look inside herself and not to external sources for healing.

Takeaways:

Join us for the virtual Inner Child Workshop on June 5th–7th. Go to ChristineHassler.com/Innerchild and get a $100 early bird discount if you register before May 25th.
Write a letter to that little boy or little girl inside of you about how worthy they are, what you love about them, and start validating yourself, not for what you do but for who you are.
If you are carrying anger or resentment write a couple a few letters that you never mail.
Stop hustling and do the internal work. Tap more into your intuition and inner child.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

CC: Staring Down the Wolf with Mark Divine May 16, 2020

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Influential thought-leader, lifelong martial-artist, dedicated Yoga and meditation practitioner, retired Navy SEAL commander, successful serial entrepreneur, best-selling author, selfless mentor and teacher—Mark Divine joins Christine on the podcast today. We discuss how to be courageous during this challenging time. Mark teaches us the 7 Commitments essential to building elite teams (and just being a great leader of yourself!) that are part of his new book, Staring down the Wolf. Learn more here: staringdownthewolf.com

EP 244: Finding the Right Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energy With Mark May 13, 2020

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This is a call about discovering your purpose by healing past wounds. Today's caller, Mark, is feeling confused about his purpose after his divorce. He is struggling with his identity as he obsesses about his ex. After discussing his childhood, his wounding may have come from a family member long before he got married. Moving forward is clearer when you clean up the past.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode244]

There are so many ways we can be disconnected from our purpose. One of the main ways we become disconnected is when we play the role of peacekeeper. Our unconscious mind starts to become more concerned with being a peacekeeper than fulfilling our soul's destiny. We believe that being a peacekeeper keeps us safe and gets us validation. But being a peacekeeper or being what other people want us to be, drains a lot of our energy.

And, it's important when finding our purpose that we deal with our anger, resentment, sadness, and shame because often our purpose is underneath those things. Once we see through the unconscious programming, we understand better who we really are.

When you clean up the past, the future becomes clear. And in the clarity, you know what your next steps are. You know what to do about your job or relationships because old wounding and unconscious programming are no longer blinding you from seeing your path.

All human beings have both feminine and masculine energies they need to nurture. Our masculine energy thrives on the muse-like energy that is feminine. Feminine energy is inspiring, evocative, innovative, encouraging, and temptress.

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you ever feel depressed, frustrated, or lack motivation?
Do you question what your purpose is and often feel like you're destined to do great things but you just don't know what they are?
Growing up, did you feel you had a good balance of masculine and feminine behavior modeled to you?
Do you have an ex or any person in your life that is not in your life anymore that you just keep obsessing about or can't quite seem to let them go?

Mark's Question:

Mark recently got divorced but is still obsessing about his ex and would like guidance on how to move forward and find purpose in his life.

Mark's Key Insights and Ahas:

He is critical of himself.
He says he is depressed.
He is searching for his purpose.
He married his 'mom.'
He has never felt accepted by the women in his life.
He considers his mother and ex strong women.
His mother emasculated him when he was younger.
He spent his life trying to please and appease the feminine.
His father is his best friend.
He feels he was destined to lead.
He had to be the peacekeeper in his family.
He is afraid of his anger.
He craves love and acceptance.
He wants permission to be himself.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

He needs to find a healthy release for his anger and resentment.
He needs to find a healthy model of feminine energy.
He needs to write letters to his ex and his mother he doesn't intend to send.
He needs to tap into his feminine energy and find the muse inside himself.
He has to stop making getting a woman's approval his purpose.
He should read Expectation Hangover and join my Personal Mastery course.

Takeaways:

Journal about what your parents modeled for you around masculine and feminine energy.
Are there any F-U letters you need to write to release some anger?
Go to ChristineHassler.com/AngerRelease to get the Temper Tantrum technique from my book, Expectation Hangover.
Join my Personal Mastery course and get $200 off; use the promo code 'HEALTH' at checkout and take advantage of the 12-month payment plan.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community

Assist@ChristineHassler.com

Jill@ChristineHassler.com — For information on any of my services.