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EP 233: Understanding a Journey Mate Relationship with Miranda Feb 26, 2020

Show notes

This episode is about how to get over a breakup but we go much deeper than that. Today's caller, Miranda, had a profound spiritual experience during her previous relationship. She thought the feeling came from an external source when it actually came from her internal divine source because her mind was quiet enough to feel unconditional love for herself.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode233]

We are all headed towards breaking old personality patterns and emotional addictions that have kept us in a certain frequency to elevate ourselves into a different energetic field. This is why journey mates come into our lives.

There is a specific reason a journey mate comes into our lives. A journey mate relationship is a contract but it's a short-term contract. We come together with a person to have an important experience or to help us get through a difficult time we can't get through on our own. The other person acts as a mirror to show us the aspect inside of us we need to transform. Usually, once the experience or realization happens the relationship has to end. Often, I find these relationships end abruptly or under random circumstances.

The reason the universe pulls two people apart is that a journey mate is only in our lives to show us something about ourselves or to help us discover inner qualities that we may not be able to access on our own.

How do you access a deeper connection with the divine?

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Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you struggling with getting over a breakup?
Have you been in a deeply connected relationship but it ended abruptly or under shocking circumstances?
Have you had a spiritual experience but are unable to have it again? Do you want to feel unconditional love, peace, and a deeper connection?
Do you tend to be hard on yourself or have a fierce inner critic?

Miranda's Question:

Miranda had a spiritual experience in a relationship but since the relationship ended she hasn't been able to recreate the feeling and would like guidance on how to regain the feeling.

Miranda's Key Insights and Ahas:

She had a positive spiritual experience in which she felt unconditional love.
She has a fierce inner critic.
Her previous relationship ended abruptly.
She realizes she sacrificed some of herself in the relationship.
She overanalyzed what the relationship meant.
She realizes she felt the love from an internal source, not an external one.
She feels encouraged by her progress.
She wants to capitalize on this chapter of her life.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to realize that what she experienced was a spiritual moment she allowed herself to have.
She should look at the relationship as a gift but not put her ex on a pedestal.
She shouldn't believe that she was rejected.
She needs to fall more in love with herself every day.
She needs to generate the elated feelings on her own.

Takeaways:

If you feel you have a Journey Mate relationship or had one, accept it. Write a letter you don't intend to send to thank the other person for the relationship and declaring it done.
Get serious about your meditation practice. You should be feeling elevated when you finish.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine's Personal Mastery Course

Christine's Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine's Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

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CC: How the Worst Thing that Happened, Becomes the Best Thing with Antonio Neves Feb 22, 2020

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Antonio Neves is an internationally recognized leadership speaker, author and award-winning journalist. He's the author of three books including, '50 Ways To Excel In Your First Job (and in Life) and he's currently working on his next book.

On his podcast The Best Thing, he talks with fascinating people about the "best thing" to happen to them that would never appear on a resume, bio or come up in conversation. For nearly 10 years, Antonio has helped organizations increase workplace engagement, create strong cultures of accountability, and tell stories that make people lean in Antonio's clients and audiences are some of the largest brands in the world including.

An award-winning journalist, Antonio worked as a correspondent, host and producer for over 10 years in New York City with top networks including NBC, PBS, BET Networks, Advertising Age and Nickelodeon.

EP 232: Make Choices with Clarity and Stop Sabotaging Patterns with Megan Feb 19, 2020

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This episode is about asking for what you need in relationships. Today's caller, Megan, feels overwhelmed when faced with too many choices and is afraid to be truly seen. She doesn't want her pattern of uncertainty to sabotage her new relationship. Like in many coaching sessions, her initial question isn't exactly what we focus on. This is for anyone who has trouble making decisions, doubts themselves, or is in sabotaging patterns.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode232]

For empaths, love can feel overwhelming because we love so deeply. When we are in a relationship it can feel smothering and overwhelming. Instead of communicating that we need boundaries and space with love we are often afraid of confrontation or don't want to make the other person upset. So, we unconsciously push them away by either judging them internally, nitpicking, or acting out in other ways. Empaths need to know what they need — especially at the beginning of the relationship. When you are first dating someone you need to be vocal and ask for what you need.

Boundaries in a relationship and asking for what you need is important. That way you don't have to build walls. You can have a door and that door can be open most of the time but sometimes you need to shut it and put on the do not disturb sign. The people in your life that love you will understand. It will allow them to spend time with themselves.

When our heart is broken either through a breakup or the death of someone, we want to love again but we are scared because it feels risky.

Fear of making the wrong decision will keep you from making the decision. Basically, fear complicates everything in your life. The more you can drop into love and your inner knowing and move out of the energy of fear the more clarity you will have in all aspects of your life.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Do you notice you have sabotaging behaviors? You can get close to what you want but then sabotaging thoughts or behaviors show up.
When it comes to making decisions do you struggle and wonder if you made the right choice? Or, that you should be "doing something different."
Have you lost someone you love either through the ending of a relationship or a death and you are scared to open your heart again?
Do you make time regularly to connect to your inner wisdom and get answers from there?

Megan's Question:

Megan has a recurring pattern of feeling as if she isn't doing the right thing or feels she should be doing something else and would like guidance on how to change it.

Megan's Key Insights and Ahas:

She is an empath.
She is in a new relationship.
She is aware of her patterns.
Her mother tried to control what she was eating.
She is overwhelmed with too many choices.
She is afraid of another heartbreak.
She feels safer when she is alone.
She has created a fortress around her heart.
She is afraid to be seen.
She is filled with doubt about her ability to write a book.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to establish healthy boundaries in her new relationship.
She needs to ask for what she needs.
She needs to recognize her gift of feeling deeply.
She needs to connect more deeply to the divine inside of her.

Takeaways:

Make sure you have boundaries, not barriers. Don't build a fortress around yourself. Just put up the 'do not disturb' sign for a while.
Risk big when it comes to loving! When fear comes up, remind yourself that with fear you are already in loss.
If you are afraid of letting someone in, journal about what you don't want someone else to see. Often, we don't know what we are hiding.
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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

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Christine's Personal Mastery Course

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CC: Everything is Figureoutable with Marie Forleo Feb 14, 2020

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This is a must listen, especially for aspiring or current entrepreneurs. Marie joins Christine for the 3rd time to inspire you with stories around her mantra, "Everything is figureoutable." We also talk about her signature program, B-School, for teaching modern, heart-centered entrepreneurs how to build a successful business. I also reveal my EPIC B-School bonuses for this year which you can access here: www.christinehassler.com/bschool

EP 231: Learn How to Self-soothe with Alexis Feb 13, 2020

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This episode is about self-soothing strategies for empaths. Today's caller, Alexis, wants guidance about how to find self-worth after getting out of an abusive relationship. But, we go deeper and discover that self-worth is just part of the issue. She realizes that moving toward self-soothing will be more beneficial to her at this time.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode231]

We can't amp up our self-worth if we keep judging and shaming ourselves. If you are trying to increase your self-worth, I want you to consistently think of things you are proud of. Not just accomplishments but choices and characteristics and all courageous actions you have taken. Increase your feelings of pride and it will increase your self-worth.

Narcissists are very attractive to empaths because empaths have huge hearts and can see what's behind narcissism. While narcissists are self-absorbed, empaths are often selfless and are more concerned with other people's happiness.

If you are an empath who is with a narcissist, my encouragement to you is to get out of the relationship. No matter how much you love them they are unable to feel empathy and they can't give you the love and attention you deserve. It's a tough relationship to be in.

And, trying to get out of triggers or uncomfortable feelings by thinking positive is a dead-end for a lot of people, especially empaths. One of your gifts is that you feel deeply so trying to escape your feelings through positive psychology or a pep talk may lead you astray because you are negating the very essence of who you are. If you are a feeling person, you have to honor your feelings.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you getting over a breakup?
Do you ever fear you may be codependent or have codependent patterns?
As a child, did you ever feel like you were walking on eggshells?
How are you at self-soothing? When you get triggered, do you try to distract yourself to avoid dealing with the feelings?

Alexis's Question:

Alexis recently got out of an abusive relationship and would like guidance on how to boost her self-worth.

Alexis's Key Insights and Ahas:

She was in an abusive relationship for two years.
She is working on being proud of herself.
She would shut down when she tried to stand up for herself.
Her ex would make her feel crazy.
She is an empath.
She feels blocked when trying to get to the core of her trauma.
She is stuck in the awareness phase of personal development.
There was a lot of tension in her childhood home.
She felt abandoned and alone in the past.
She doesn't follow through in many things in her life.
She struggles with letting her feelings out.
She is part of my Personal Mastery community.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She should listen to the Coaches Corner with Dr. Judith Orloff.
She needs to realize she is not alone because many empaths are attracted to narcissists.
She needs to learn self-soothing techniques and strategies.
She should journal in the form of release writing.

Takeaways:

Be proud of yourself.
Listen to the Coaches Corner with Dr. Judith Orloff.
Make a date to meet with your feelings when they come up if you are unable to process them in the moment.
Use my release writing technique from Expectation Hangover when journaling.
Place one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and say "I am loved and I am safe."

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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine's Personal Mastery Course

Christine's Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine's Books, including Expectation Hangover

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CC: How to Thrive as an Empath with Dr. Judith Orloff Feb 08, 2020

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Dr. Judith Orloff is a New York Times bestselling author, psychiatrist and is on the UCLA psychiatric clinical faculty. Dr. Orloff specializes in treating empaths and sensitive people in her Los Angeles based private practice.

Judith Orloff MD asserts that we are keepers of an innate intuitive intelligence so perceptive that it can tell us how to heal — and prevent — illness. Yet intuition and spirituality are the very aspects of our wisdom usually disenfranchised from traditional health care.

Dr. Orloff's latest book "The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People" (Sounds True, 2017) is an invaluable resource to help sensitive people of all kinds develop healthy coping mechanisms in our high-stimulus world without experiencing compassion fatigue or burnout. Empaths can then fully embody their gifts of intuition, creativity, and compassion.

Dr. Orloff's work has been featured all over the world in various media outlets. You can learn more about at www.drjudithorloff.com.

EP 230: Getting Out of Scarcity Thinking and Limiting Money Stories with Emily Feb 05, 2020

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This episode is about our money story. Today's caller, Emily, calls in asking about gaining clarity and her purpose but what we reveal is her relationship with money impacts many things for her. Her unconscious programming holds beliefs that are directly at odds with what she wants for herself.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode230]

If you grew up not having a lot of money or being told money was evil then there you may have some trauma around having money. And just like going back and healing emotional wounds, we have to go back and heal our financial wounds as well.

Our careers, being parents, or what we do in the world gets confused with what we think we are here on the earth to do. Your purpose in life isn't your career. We mistakenly think that it is our purpose. What I feel is true, is that our purpose is to evolve our soul as much as possible. Our purpose is to elevate our consciousness, move out of fear and judgment, and come back into knowing we are whole and we are love. Doing the work is the purpose. Our profession is just an expression of what we do.

But, just because your purpose is not your career it doesn't mean you need to be in a soul-sucking career. Your purpose in life is also not to suffer. So, if you want to move out of something where you feel like you are suffering and your soul is being sucked out of your body while you are sitting in your cubicle, know that part of your purpose is joy. You deserve to do something that brings you more joy.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

When you think about money, what comes up for you? Do you feel abundant, neutral, excited, or stressed?
Growing up, what were you told about money?
Do you live paycheck-to-paycheck?
Do you know what your purpose is and do you believe you can make money doing it?

Emily's Question:

Emily wants help in getting clear about her purpose and help with goal setting for the future.

Emily's Key Insights and Ahas:

She finds it difficult to plan for the future.
She wants the burden and fear about money to be lifted to attain financial freedom.
She wants to feel calm, free and living with purpose.
Her mother had a scarcity mindset.
As a child, she was told she was wise beyond her years and stubborn.
Her adopted identity is in direct conflict with having money.
Her unconscious programming tells her having money is bad.
She is passionate about helping people.
She is enrolled in my Personal Mastery Course.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundant mindset.
She should read Money: A Love Story, by Kate Northrup and listen to podcasts about money.
She needs to believe she is abundant.
She needs to drop into her intuition.

Takeaways:

Look at your money story and check out the resources I mentioned in the podcast. Get some new belief systems in place.
Work those belief systems. Tell yourself a different story and collect evidence for why the new story is true.
Look at how you are making money in your life and if you feel you are "on purpose."
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Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine's Personal Mastery Course

Christine's Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

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CC: Attachment Styles and How They Impact Our Adult Relationships with Ellen Boeder Feb 01, 2020

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This episode is incredibly educational when it comes to our attachment styles. I talk with licensed psychotherapist Ellen Boeder about how attachment styles are formed, how they impact our adult relationships, and what we can do to heal them so we can have more secure attachments.

A little more about Ellen . . . She has been a therapist since 2003. She has a strong background in yoga and meditation, and her graduate training in Transpersonal Psychology also deeply inform her work. Since getting married 12 years ago, and becoming a mother to two children, Ellen transitioned from working primarily with women to focusing on couples. Ellen is trained in PACT, a therapeutic modality for couples founded by Stan Tatkin, PsyD., that synthesizes attachment theory, neuroscience, and affect regulation models to support couples in creating an enduring and nourishing relationship through secure functioning.

In addition to maintaining a part time private practice, Ellen is on faculty for the Relationship School—a business founded by her husband Jayson Gaddis that provides in depth relationship education for anyone who wants to learn, as well as training for relationship coaches.

EP 229: Breaking the Cycle of Numbing with Charmaine Jan 29, 2020

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This episode is about finding the tools to help you better deal with trauma and breaking the cycle of numbing. Today's caller, Charmaine, has had multiple traumas in her life and uses marijuana as a coping strategy. But this isn't a call about stopping marijuana use. When discussing any type of addiction or numbing device, you have to uncover the deeper issue.

[For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode229]

From my point of view, we can't deal with addiction effectively unless we deal with the core issue that is creating the addiction or coping strategy. Most addictions are coping strategies for when we didn't have the tools to deal with the drama and trauma that's happened in our life. Addiction to anything is a symptom of a deeper issue.

When we speak of addiction, we often just think of drugs and alcohol but there are so many other things we use as coping and numbing strategies that become addictions. Sex, gaming, gambling, food, and even things like work, falling in love, and caretaking. Basically, anything we use to get us out of feeling our pain and feeling our big feelings is a coping strategy that can turn into an addiction.

Because the way coping strategies work, is you have to keep upping the ante. The feelings get bigger and bigger and then it takes more energy to suppress them. And, there is not much of a difference between emotional, mental, and physical addiction. Because mental and emotional pain is most likely the cause of physical addiction.

If you feel like you are addicted to something worse than marijuana, know that you can get to the other side of it and that judging yourself will not get you anywhere. It won't get you to stop being mean to yourself. The part of you that is reaching out for the coping strategy needs love and compassion. It needs to be healed. You probably developed your coping strategy because you had no better tools.

Remember, there is not one style of therapy or coaching that is better than others. It's about what feels right to you. When it comes to working with any therapist or coach it's either a 'hell yeah' or 'hell no'! Better tools are available but know that it requires facing your feelings and some of the demons you buried a long time ago.

To release self-protective behaviors, heal past pain, and reclaim your confidence, peace, power, and purpose, attend my Spring Retreat in San Diego, March 6th–8th. To accelerate your growth and invest in yourself visit ChristineHassler.com/spring-retreat or email Jill@ChristineHassler.com.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

When it comes to feeling your pain, do you actually feel it or do you numb or distract yourself?
Did you have parents who were super present and attentive?
Have you done things you are ashamed of?
Are you addicted to a substance or numbing technique like pot, alcohol, caretaking, overworking, or food?

Charmaine's Question:

Charmaine used marijuana to help her cope during a difficult time but would like to stop but doesn't know how.

Charmaine's Key Insights and Ahas:

She was in the military for 13 years and in an unhealthy marriage.
She was kicked out of the military for drug use.
She uses pot to numb herself from the trauma she experienced in her past.
She feels shame and judges herself.
Her parents neglected her.
She was sexually molested when she was a child.
She has seen a therapist who recommended Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
She has employed numbing mechanisms for her whole life.
She has remarried a wonderful human being.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

She needs to find a long-term, quality therapist that resonates with her.
She needs a safe space to feel her feelings.
She shouldn't quit pot until she has the techniques to deal with her emotions.

Takeaways:

Be honest and compassionate with yourself if you are using a coping strategy that may border on addiction or is a full-blown addiction.
If you feel as if you want a guide or therapist, pray about it. Set the intention to manifest the best healer for you.
You have a divine appointment with the people in your life who are supposed to guide you. Trust that they are there.
Join my Personal Mastery Course or my Spring Retreat.

Resources:

Christine Hassler — Join the Free Over It and On With It Community.

To watch episodes of coaching sessions, go to Youtube.com/christinehassler

Christine's Personal Mastery Course

Christine's Signature Retreat

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Christine's Books, including Expectation Hangover

@ChristinHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

Assist@ChristineHassler.com — To provide feedback

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CC: How to Live an Embodied Life with Kate Reardon Jan 25, 2020

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Don't miss this episode! One of my soul sisters, Kate Reardon, drops some serious wisdom and compassion bombs in this episode. Kate is a naturopath, intuitive metaphysical healer, author, host of the podcast "Lean In" and co-founder of Natural Instincts Healing's Transformational Retreats. She is one of the most powerful and magical people I know. Enjoy this episode! Learn more about Kate's healing centers here: https://naturalinstincthealing.com/

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