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    Learn With Less

    If you’re looking for information about baby development, or looking for ideas about how to play with your baby to support development, Learn With Less (formerly Strength In Words) is where we discuss all things early parenthood and early childhood. We help families (expecting parents, new parents, and seasoned parents) navigate those early years in an inclusive, educational, and supportive space. Join Ayelet Marinovich, M.A., CCC-SLP, author, singer, imperfect mother of two and pediatric speech-language pathologist, for a podcast for parents, caregivers, and educators of infants and toddlers of all developmental levels. Learn With Less is the place for families to access high quality, evidence-based resources about how their infants and toddlers learn and develop; for regular sessions of music, play and developmental information for both you and your baby, subscribe on Apple Podcasts and visit https://learnwithless.com!

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    Educating Parents To Be Their Child’s Best First Teacher, With Rachel Kammeyer Jul 08, 2021
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    She wanted to empower new parents with tools to understand how they can support their young children Today, I’d like to share the story of one of my clients, Rachel Kammeyer. We’ve heard from Rachel on the Learn With Less® podcast in a few past episodes, in which she shared her own experiences with Learn With Less® resources from her perspective as a parent. In this episode, however, she’s back to talk about her experience from the perspective of a professional. Rachel is a speech-language pathologist, and the owner of Improvised Therapy. Her career has been an illustration of the varied opportunities the field of speech-language pathology offers, including work in a pediatric private practice, elementary and middle schools, sub-acute brain injury rehabilitation, skilled nursing rehab, home health, advocacy for the rights of the disabled, and most recently, expanding into parent training to support infants and toddlers, and developing community-based support groups for adults caring for adults. For our purposes today, Rachel and I sat down to talk about her parent education work, as it’s near and dear to her heart as a parent of several young children (and one more on the way), and as a professional. Without further ado, let’s bring Rachel to the conversation! Related Resources in This Episode Learn With Less® Facilitator Training & Certification Program: Apply Now Learn With Less® “Caregiver & Me” Classes Learn With Less® podcast episode: How to Impact Your Community With Parent Education and Parent Coaching Skills, with Laurel Smith Learn With Less® podcast episode: How Lesley Took Her Existing Skills as an Educator, and Started Serving Infant/Toddler Families In a Holistic, Meaningful Way Learn With Less® podcast episode: How to Use Your Skills as an Educator or Therapist to Serve Families Holistically as a Parent Educator, with Allie Glazer Learn With Less® podcast episode: Activities For Your Baby and Toddler, with Rachel Kammeyer Learn With Less® podcast episode: Surviving and Thriving in the First Year of Motherhood, with Rachel Kammeyer Connect With Us: Rachel: Website / Facebook / Instagram Ayelet: Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest Text Transcript of This Episode Ayelet: Rachel, you’ve been on the Learn With Less podcast several times before in a parenting capacity. And now you’re back in a professional role. You’ve always been a speech language pathologist throughout our relationship, our knowledge of each other. And also, you’ve, you’ve been a mom through this entire process as well. You decided to move forward into the Learn With Less® Facilitator Training & Certification Program. And you have completed the training program, and you are a certified Learn With Less® facilitator. So I just wanted to take a few minutes and chat with you about you know, what that experience, number one, has been like for you. What brought you into this part of wanting to use Learn With Less® in this capacity in your life, and just hear a bit more about that? Rachel: I’m really thrilled, this has been a really awesome journey, and especially in this year. I think growth, and, you know, achieving a really, a growth mindset is sort of like what you need in this year. And also, the idea of, like, Learn With Less®, has become critical, because so much of us had access to so much less this year. And, in a lot of ways, that’s been something that’s kept me going when it took longer than the perfectionist would have necessarily wanted. But I really believe in this framework. And I really believe in everything that the Learn With Less® philosophy is about – not just as a parenting philosophy, but as an evidence based philosophy, or tried and true, I mean, if it’s evidence-based, we know that the science supports it. And as I’ve thought a lot about what I want my practice to be in the future, when I’m no longer mostly a stay-at-home mom, I really want to support people so that they know that they are enough and that they feel empowered and have tools that are simple and straightforward, and can give a child and a parent an opportunity to connect without the extraordinary amount of pressure that is put on parents and caregivers these days. And so that was sort of the personal motivation, plus the professional recognition that this is a fantastic program, and also that it’s for any child zero to three, it’s not necessarily for a child who is presenting with some sort of communication disorder, it’s for everybody, and that we all benefit from these types of activities. What Are The Challenges For New Parents? I think, I think there are two problems. I think there’s a crisis of confidence that a lot of new parents or even parents who have – one of my participants, were saying, I know I’ve been there and done that. But I, you know, you forget. And I think that comes from a culture of comparison and social media and a lot of things that make it really easy to judge ourselves. And I think the other problem that we’re solving is that — this is all my opinion, it does not necessarily reflect the opinions of Learn With Less®! But I think that there’s a lot of competition and pressure that we place on children to be academically successful that the measures of childhood have become a little skewed towards like the alphabet, counting. And those are important. And I think that a lot of the toy industry has prioritized that. And so, when it comes to social/emotional learning, or helping a child learn how to feel their body out to develop, and rhyming and how so important rhyming is as a phonological skill, these things are really basic and don’t have to be huge. And I think that memo was sort of, like, lost in the advertising culture. And so to me, the two problems are how do I help a parent feel confident that what they have is enough, and what they do is enough, and then if there’s something that they might learn to grow, that that’s great. And then also that the things that we have in our home, like my laundry basket cover that I’m holding in my hand, is a circle, okay, circle, there’s one thing, but it also has a lot of texture, and we can talk about the color, and I didn’t have to pay for a giant toy that represents a circle, I’ve got it right here in my bedroom. And there’s so much opportunity in that, that it’s almost like the problem is we’ve told people that they need more, when really less is more. But I really feel like, you know, I want parents to take a step back and say, you know, what I’m paying for is connection and support and confidence. And maybe seeing the world through the eyes of a child where everything is new and interesting, and that it doesn’t have to be something off the shelf, or that it could be off the grocery shelf, you know, it could be off any shelf. It doesn’t necessarily have to be the toy shop. Right? And that’s going to be okay, because it’s from the child’s perspective. And we’re feeding into what they need. Yeah. Ayelet: So what because you’ve now been explaining the program to people in your life and your community… What do you number one what we’d love to hear some feedback that you’ve received from people who have experienced to your class (and you don’t have to, you know, quote them), but just in a succinctly ish way, whatever the kinds of things that that people were saying about your class and what you did do for them? Educate New Parents By Educating Ourselves Rachel: I think a lot of the feedback we got was that it was valuable, that it was worth the time to take the time. To connect with other caregivers, and parents, and that parents have it in there, and they just needed to be reminded. And so I think I’m really excited to show parents all the different components of the framework through a variety of different opportunities. So they can really kind of get into ways to generalize this beyond the class. Ayelet: Yes. Which, of course, is the like, entire point, right? We’re literally we’re building family capacity in this way. Yeah. Yeah. So what how about for you, like, what’s been a perception change for you? Because we’ve talked a little bit about from the participants point of view, but how about you, as a facilitator, like, who came into this program, maybe thinking, you’re going to learn one thing, and then what has been a perception change for you, coming out? Rachel: I honestly didn’t think that I was going to be as insecure about some parts of it, I really came into it thinking like, I’ve got this, I don’t need to improve. I mean, like, there’s a horrible conceit, sometimes, you know, we as professionals have, and like I was talking about with growth, I think a lot of it that was so humbling was suddenly being like, it was 15 years ago, and I’m a grad student again, and there’s something I need to learn. And there’s something that I need to be judged, and not in a bad way. But in a like, I have to be accountable. And I really, like was surprised and humbled to have that experience of like, this is bigger than me. This is not just, you know, putting on my speech therapist hat, putting on my friend hat, it’s a different hat. And I need to learn how to wear that hat, and also give other people the space to be themselves. How do I learn to be like, you know, why am I talking? Right? You know, that’s an exercise I think I will probably have until I am riddled with dementia, and someone else is teaching me to give someone else a turn again, you know, and it’s gonna be like… But it’s I think, you know, this is part of the reason I signed up for this program is because I think somewhere inside of me, I knew I wanted to be the kind of friend and caregiver and professional who was better at letting other people have those opportunities to practice. Ayelet: So there’s a question… why now? We’ve been in the depths of a pandemic. You have two young children, what on earth made you decide to go as you said, back to grad school to learn something new to improve something, to learn some new skills? What was the impetus for you? And I would love to hear that? New Parents All Have The Same Questions Rachel: Oh, well, I think there are a couple things first, and foremost, being a speech therapist, and being a, like, helper is my identity like, is very much wrapped up in who I am. And I always knew I wanted to be a stay-at-home parent, mostly because I can only juggle a few things at a time while maintaining my sanity, I’m just like a two things that are big, and that’s it. Otherwise, I struggle too much. So not “working” quote, as a speech therapist. And also being a parent, though very fulfilling, and exactly what I want for my life right now, there was definitely this void of… it’s not that I’m not doing what I love. I’m using what I love every day, but I’m not using it in a professional capacity that could also help educate other people. So this program was sort of like this perfect bridge between the two “wants” of my life. And when I signed up for it, I knew that in a few months, maybe that stretched out quite a bit. Eventually my kids are going to be well, my kids will be back in preschool, you know, and both of them will be in preschool. And I’ve really grown… and the other impetus for this is that I’ve become very involved with our local parents club. And I just keep hearing and listening to the parents who are having their first kids, having their second, multiple children through zero to five. And they’re always asking the same questions, they always have the same things they want to know and feel reassured about. And I thought, well, with this program, in my community, I can become a resource to help the parents in that group start to have a place that they can go to find answers, or at least find support, if not answers. And so that was the other draw. And that’s not going to change if there’s a pandemic or not. Right. And so for me, definitely there was the bridging the gap between parent and SLP and then also just wanting to put this program in the hands of more and more people, because I really do believe in it. Ayelet: Well, and you’ve experienced it as a parent, too, which is really special! Rachel: Yeah, I it really like – I was so happy, like okay, so for anyone who hasn’t listened to the other podcasts, I stalked Ayelet on Facebook, because I wanted to find local SLP friend moms, and then it turned out that she had this amazing empire she was building! And so, you know, win-win! I learned a lot from that relationship. And so, you know, I think that that’s what we all want is connection and finding people that help us feel good about the way we’re raising our children. Ayelet: Oh, yeah, cheers to that. What do you feel like will be the impact on your life and community as you continue along this journey? The Impact on Parent Education On Your Community Rachel: Well, I like to dream big. So I’m hoping that the Learn With Less® brand, and then other speech therapists who are also associated with the brand, and not just speech therapists, as well, just anyone who is a professional in the sphere… Ayelet: Right, because we’ve got occupational therapists, special educators, early childhood educators… Rachel: That anyone in this will be valued for our opinions and for the science that backs the activities and resources that are offered. And that whenever a parent says, “Oh, you know, sometimes I’m not sure what I should do, how do I keep my two year old engaged? I’m really frustrated with this situation…” That someone will say, oh, have you? Have you talked to Rachel or Oh, there’s this book, Understanding Your Toddler, and that the answers will be readily accessible to people, and that it’s going to be local! And it’s going to be science, and that ‘s my goal. So, so I just wrapped my series, I’m going on maternity leave. And so I think, Well, you know, for sure I’m gonna do an infant class. I don’t know if I can swing a toddler class with a newborn, but from the toddler class was also very, like, what are some concerns you have, and I had one friend who kind of mentioned some things that fell onto my like therapist radar, right. But what we’re doing isn’t therapy. It’s really more about helping parents feel competent and successful. So I’m really working on that piece. Like that’s always going to be the piece that’s hardest for me is the “not director, but facilitator.” So I really challenged myself to just be like, I’m not going to bring it up. I’m not going to ask, I’m just going to provide opportunities. And we were doing the lesson for one – it was heavy work – because my son needed heavy work and that was the other thing… I was like, I know how much heavy work changed my life and so it’s one of my favorite ones to talk about. And in that lesson, we talk a lot, you know, Ayelet did an amazing job putting together the “Oh, I love how you’re like reaching or do you feel balanced when you’re leaning over,” and so what was happening is the other two participants… for some context, this is all happening in my front yard. So like, I had this plan for them to move the laundry baskets. And instead, they wanted to like run around and go up and down the steps to my front porch, what I observed was, the child couldn’t go up and out independently. And he’s about two and a half. And when he was always like, leaning out for his mom to grab him, and then the other little girl who was one could go up, but she couldn’t come down. And so these steps were suddenly presenting this really natural opportunity for us to kind of talk about how we can make that transition from being the person who brings the kid versus the person who coaches the kid. And so it was just so much fun to like, be on the steps, kind of walking backwards with one and then saying, oh, why don’t we show him how to use the side of the step to hold on to like, I love how you’re reaching for support, and Oh, do you feel stable, and then you could see the mom was like, Oh!, and I didn’t have to go into the body m…

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    How to Deal With Picky Eating in Babies and Toddlers, with Melanie Potock Jun 22, 2021
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    How do I know if my child is really a picky eater? On this episode of the Learn With Less® podcast, Ayelet sat down with speech-language pathologist Melanie Potock, who describes herself as “a mom who once had a picky eater.” She’s experienced first-hand the stress that parents feel when they are worried about their child’s nutritional health. Fast forward to today, and you’ll find Melanie blending her knowledge of feeding therapy with practical parenting strategies that help the entire family eat healthier. She’s an international speaker and author of three books, including co-authoring the award-winning Raising a Healthy Happy Eater. We discuss: Melanie’s personal and professional background, and how she came to do the work she’s doing todayTypical stages of eating development with oral eatersHow to tell whether you’re dealing with a “picky eater” or just a typical toddlerMelanie’s top 3 tips for true “picky eaters” and top 3 tips for more typical toddler food preferencesMelanie’s favorite resources to share with families who are dealing with eating challenges Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Melanie’s playlist on YouTube for Pediatrician Advice Raising a Healthy, Happy Eater, by Melanie Potock and Nimali Fernando Adventures in Veggieland, by Melanie Potock You are not an Otter: The Story of How to Become an Adventurous Eater, by Melanie Potock Kid Food Explorers Connect With Us: Melanie: Website / Instagram / Facebook Ayelet: Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest Text Transcript of the Episode Ayelet: Today I am speaking with Melanie Potock, an international speaker on the topic of feeding babies, toddlers, and school-aged kids. She is the co-author of the award winning Raising a Healthy, Happy Eater, a stage by stage guide to setting your child on the path to adventurous eating, and Baby Self Feeding: solutions for introducing purees and solids to create lifelong healthy eating habits. The tips in her cookbook for parents and kids, Adventures in Veggieland, help your kids learn to love vegetables with 100 easy activities and recipes, are based on the latest research and Melanie’s 20 years of success as a pediatric feeding therapist. Melanie’s children’s book, You Are Not An Otter, takes preschoolers on a food adventure exploring all the ways that various animals eat. Melanie’s advice has been shared in a variety of television and print media, including the New York Times The Wall Street Journal cnn.com, and parents magazine. Melanie, thank you so much for being here with us today. Welcome to Learn With Less. Melanie: Well, this is so fun to get to know you! And I’m just so glad we’re doing this today. Thank you for having me on. Ayelet: My pleasure. So Melanie, today I’ve asked you to come on speak to us about how to deal with picky eating in babies and toddlers. But first, just to get a little bit of information about you. Why don’t you tell us more about you and how you got into this work that you are doing today? Melanie: Well, thank you sure I, you know, it’s I’m going to try to give you the brief version. All right, having my own very picky eater, before I ever went back to school to become a speech pathologist, and even when I was in graduate school, I didn’t really focus on feeding, I was focusing on augmentative communication. But then as life, as we know, has these twists and turns, I worked in a rehab hospital and they had an opening in the NICU. And that is what got me really thinking about the fact that feeding is developmental. That we learn to swallow in the womb, and that we learn to bite and chew and enjoy a variety of foods, really over the next four years. And then, from there, a lifetime – because we’re all learning eaters. You know, I tried haggis for the first time last year, speaking of Scotland. So I’m learning eater, but it really got me realizing that with my own very picky eater, I knew I needed to keep it fun. I knew I needed to keep the joy in family meal times, but also that there was a learning curve here. And that’s when I started to combine my own experience as a mom with what I learned initially in the NICU, and then helping these kids as they grew and becoming a pediatric feeding specialist. Ayelet: Amazing. Yes. Well, we have that in common that actual technical background, and then “becoming the parent” background. When you marry those and connect those. It’s quite an experience and a very different experience. Melanie: It is it just kind of rounds it all out. And it raises so many more questions, right? Ayelet: Absolutely. Well, let’s dig right in. Tell us a little bit about those typical stages of eating development with oral eaters. And by oral eaters, I’m really referring specifically for our audience to those children receiving nutrition orally as opposed to say, a feeding tube. Melanie: Well, first of all, I think that is an excellent, excellent question. It is the whole reason why wrote Raising a Healthy, Happy Eater, a parent’s handbook… to really explain to parents – and professionals like that book too, but to really explain to parents that, as I said earlier, feeding is developmental. So there are various stages of development that children move through to help them learn to love food. Although I can’t explain every single one in this short time. Just to give you a couple brief examples. As I mentioned earlier, babies actually learn to swallow in the womb. And then once they come into the world, and they are going to breast or bottle feed, they rely on reflexes, the suckling reflex, the sucking reflex that sucks, swallow, breathe, coordination, all of these incredible ways that their body works naturally to teach them to eat. They actually learn from those reflexes. And then the reflexes integrate because we don’t need them anymore. Well, likewise, the toddlers, they also learn from the tongue lateralization reflex. So if you simply were to touch the side of like a 12 month old’s tongue, the tongue will actually move toward the stimulation. And that’s, that’s a reflexive move that starts in that first year life, but then it starts to go away because the babies have already figured out – because the reflex taught them – how to move their tongue left to right. And all of those natural phases of feeding development, that we see all the way up to about age three, are what help kids try new foods in combination with these awesome parents. Ayelet: Love that. Yes. All right, well, how can parents and caregivers tell whether they are dealing with a quote unquote “picky eater?” Or just a typical toddler? Melanie: Yeah, yeah. Well, first of all, we have to recognize the fact that there is this garden variety stage of picky eating that almost every child will go through in the toddler years, they’re supposed to, you know, kids learn the word “No.” They also have a huge drop in appetite, because their growth really slows down, especially as they approach age two, so between 18 months and three years of age is this window of time where kids will be picky on and off, and it can be really frustrating for parents. But the honest truth is, if we just parent proactively, and we follow a few tips, the kids will emerge out the other side at about age three, once again, on the journey to adventurous eating. The dilemma is, is that it’s really common to get advice from other medical professionals that say, all toddlers are picky, they’ll grow out of it. Well, that’s actually not the case: one in four typically developing children will develop a feeding disorder. In other words, they don’t grow out of it. And we don’t want to wait to see if that’s going to happen. So to answer your question, just a few red flags. And I list all of them in my book, Raising a Healthy, Happy Eater, as well as some of my other books. Just a few red flags in those toddler years is, is it incredibly stressful on a consistent basis? That’s my big one. Is there really no joy in meal times anymore? Do you find that you’re having to serve the same thing over and over and over? That signals that problem, and it definitely is something to call attention to when you talk to your pediatrician. And if you’re wondering how to do that, I have a whole playlist on my YouTube channel, which is titled, Pediatrician Advice, that will walk you through exactly what to say and what pictures to bring in, frankly, before and after a meal, or where to get a three day food diary to share with your pediatrician to really get to the why that this is stressful trying to find that why is so important. And just a couple other red flags that I’ll throw out to the audience. With toddlers, we of course, want to be very aware of choking. But once kids get into that, oh, you know, the early toddler years, 14-15 months, they really shouldn’t be gagging on a daily basis. And definitely, if you have even one choking episode, just one, you have to talk to your pediatrician about that and document what happened before the choking episode, what happened during, and what happened after, so we can make sure that doesn’t happen again. And that it doesn’t possibly signal difficulty swallowing in some way. Because sometimes, kids can just get really large tonsils and have a choking episode. You know, there’s a lot of different reasons for that. And then finally, I would say that one of the major red flags when it comes to toddlers developing a feeding disorder is that they limit what they’ll eat to a specific texture like oh, the kid only patches of applesauce, etc. all day long. He never really likes to chew. Those sorts of things. Ayelet: Right? So that distinction between Yes, he loves applesauce, but he won’t eat an apple. He won’t try a sliced apple. Interesting. So those are great, wonderful tips. And I think it’s really interesting, too about you know, we going back to what you said about the reflexes, we think about motor development and reflexes, like I think most parents have heard about suckling and palmar grasp and like those early reflexes, but I think it’s really helpful to think about feeding and eating as well. And it definitely surprised me when I first heard about the fact that toddlers have these reflexes remaining like we think about that is often something that goes away in those early infant months. But there are developmental pieces to eating and changing and food and feeding and eating development. And I think that’s so important. So thanks for really going into that with us a little bit. Let’s take just a brief break to hear a word from our sponsors. And then we’re going to hear a few tips from Melanie about what you can do to support young children with regard to eating preferences, and we’ll hear about her favorite resources to share with families. As a parent or caregiver of an infant or toddler, you want to make sure you’re doing it “right.” But everywhere you look, there’s another learning toy or fancy subscription box that you don’t have room for and that your child seems to lose interest in all too quickly. You want to support your infant or toddler’s development, but you struggle finding the “right” toys or enough time and energy to do it. You just want the map to get through these first few years and find more joy in the journey, as well. If any of this rings true for you, you’re in the right place. Right now I’m giving away my infant/toddler development blueprint, a straightforward guide that will help you discover the four major areas of development in the first three years of life and what’s involved in each of those areas, find out what you can do to support development using what you already have in your home. Learn how to follow my four pillar framework to maximize the time you’re already spending with your tiny human, and much, much more. If you are ready to boost your infant or toddler’s learning, stop feeling like you’re “winging it” all the time and simplify your life head to learnwithless.com/blueprint and download my free infant/toddler development blueprint today. Ayelet: All right, Melanie, we would love to hear… we’ve got two sets of sort of tips that I’d love to go into. The first is: we’d love to hear a few of your top tips for families who are actually dealing with true picky eaters, Melanie: You bet so is kind of that garden variety picky eater, you know, is doing fine on the growth curve, but just isn’t very adventurous, really hesitant to try new things. But there’s enough of a food repertoire that nutritionally they’re doing okay, we just need to expand on that. Well, for those what I call “garden variety picky eaters,” it’s interesting because no matter where a child is on the picky eating spectrum, whether they’re garden variety, or highly selective, or what we call extreme picky eaters, we still have the same foundational tips for both, and then we expand from there. So if I can just give you three basic ones that will fall into both categories. And I can tell you a little bit more about our more extreme picky eaters. The first one is make sure that your toddlers and older are on what we call a hunger schedule. And by that I mean the moment they sit down for breakfast, it’s another two to two and a half hours later before they sit down for a snack again. So the time at breakfast, gosh, it might be 10 minutes, it might be 20 minutes, you know, everybody’s a little bit different. But the moment they sit down, they have their breakfast and they take their plate to the counter to say they’re all done. They’re all done. The kitchen is closed, you know water, yes, of course. But that two to two and a half hours until a small snack is offered? That’s growing time. That’s playing time. And you can learn more about that eating time and growing time schedule. If you go to melaniepotock.com and just click on my free toolbox tab and you can download that schedule and put it right in your kitchen to help you remember how to get kids a little bit hungry for meal times, but not hangry. But definitely the hunger schedule is good. Ayelet: And just to clarify, again, this is for those kiddos who are really experiencing, like this is not for those just typical toddler food preference, like maybe a little bit here, maybe a little bit there. But this is for kiddos who really have been sort of diagnosed or identified as real picky eaters? Melanie: Actually, it’s for both no question would be for both. So let’s just take a look at that for one second. So one of the easiest missteps we can make as parents is to let kids graze throughout the day, and especially our picky eaters, as a mom myself of one I know it was really tempting that every time she opened her mouth, I offered her a goldfish cracker, you just want to get some food there. And the reality is that we know that kids will actually try new foods, are more likely to try new foods, and will eat even their preferred foods in more reasonable amounts because picky eating also involves volume a lot of times… if they truly come to the table hungry. So as tempting as it is to let them graze throughout the day, all of the best registered dietitians, and of course my favorite pediatrician Dr. Young, who wrote Raising a Healthy Eater with me, agree that kids really need to have two to two and a half hours between snacks and meals. But there is one more reason for that. And that is their teeth. The American Dental Association also recommends that so that the mouth can really be restored to the typical pH that it needs to be. If we graze all day, we actually have a much higher risk for dental cavities, etc. But to answer your your comment there for our more extreme picky eaters, it’s the number one thing I start with because even if we’re only going to have three foods that we eat, and we have months of therapy to learn how to eat even two more, we still have to create that hunger, not not “hanger,” you don’t want them hangry! – but hunger, so that at least we have a little bit of desire. Most kids who are extreme picky eaters, who have the diagnos…

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    Is My Baby or Toddler Delayed? Tips for Navigating Early Intervention Services, with Crystal Sanford Jun 08, 2021
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    What is early intervention… and why is it important? On this episode of the Learn With Less® podcast, Ayelet spoke with Crystal Sanford, M.Ed., M.A., CCC-SLP, a pediatric speech-language pathologist, parent educator, advocate, mother of a child with special needs, and owner of Sanford Autism Consulting. Her work focuses on providing a place where other Autism and special needs moms can find clarity, support, and hope for their IEP journey. We’ll discuss: Crystal’s personal and professional background, and how she came to do the work she’s doing todayThe three biggest myths Crystal sees from parents and caregivers about when or how to get early intervention services (assessment and/or intervention)What is the purpose of early intervention, what should parents expect, and what happens when a child “ages out” of these services?Crystal’s top 3 tips and resources for parents and caregivers who want to be the best advocates for their child Resources Mentioned in This Episode: parentcenterhub.org Autism Inclusivity group on Facebook Therapist Neurodiversity Collective group on Facebook https://autisminternetmodules.org/ Crystal Clear IEP: Ensure Your Child Has the Learning Resources They Need Crystal Clear IEP Conference (Monthly live webinar) Free IEP Rights handout Connect With Us: Crystal: Website / Instagram / Facebook Ayelet: Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest Before we get started today, I’d like to just acknowledge that although this episode is not exclusively about working with children who ultimately may receive an Autism diagnosis, we definitely touched upon it. And one resource for families who have young children who are Autistic that we failed to mention later on in the episode, is the voices of Autistic adults themselves. This is an integral part of understanding neurodiversity and the supports we can put into place to help all family members grow and thrive. I’m including some of my favorite resources in the show notes of this episode! Text Transcript of This Episode: Ayelet: All right, today I am speaking with Crystal Sanford. She’s a pediatric speech language pathologist, a parent educator, advocate, mother of a child with special needs and owner of Sanford Autism Consulting. Her work focuses on providing a place where other Autism and special needs moms can find clarity, support and hope for their IEP journey, which of course stands for individualized educational plan. For those of you not familiar who are listening, Crystal, you and I have been in conversation for the last few months about the wonderful advocacy and education work that you provide for families above and beyond all of your clinical work as a speech language pathologist, and I just want to officially welcome you to Learn With Less. Crystal: Thank you so much for having me. I’m very excited. I’m so glad that we met and I’m very happy to be here. Ayelet: Me too. Awesome. Well, I’ve asked you, of course, to come on to the show today to speak to us about navigating that path into early intervention for families who are concerned about their baby or toddler’s say developmental milestones. But first, why don’t you just tell us a little bit more about you and how you got into the work that you’re doing today? Crystal: Well, I will say that I have been interested, passionate about the special needs community since I was a young child because my older sister has special needs. So that’s been a part of my life forever. And then in college, I discovered the field of communication disorders and speech pathology. So I said, Wow, this sounds like exactly what I want to do. I knew I wanted to be in a helping profession. And so I did that. And then I began to practice as a speech pathologist. And I have done so now for over 20 years. But Autism began to be my area of interest and focus, I really loved those students as so many more about on my caseload, and I get more exposure and training. And then I had my first child in 2010. And at about 17 months, I began to suspect that something was going on that was different, unique. And so that’s when I began the journey of looking to have her assessed and get some questions answered, just, you know, because as an SLP are already looking at every little thing that they do, you know, but I just, I just couldn’t quite figure her out, I knew something was going on. And so that started at 17 months. By age three and a half, finally, after persisting, we were able to get her assessed, and she was identified with Autism. And, you know, the team said, Well, nobody would have noticed this, you know, if it hadn’t been you Crystal. These were professionals that I knew and… Finally, they listened to me and assessed her. And so luckily, they did. And we persisted, and she began to receive services at three and a half. Soon after that, I realized that I wanted to do more in helping the community and more with my life as a professional. And 2016 is when I opened my practice Sanford Autism Consulting so that I can help parents on the other side of the IP table and, and really invest in parents so much more, because really, parents are the best advocates for their children. So I wanted to empower families. Ayelet: Yes. Well, and like you said, If you hadn’t already known everything that you knew it would have taken a much longer time It sounds like for your daughter to be identified as being qualified for services. So that’s incredible. Yes. Well, let’s dig right in about… what would you say, are three of the sort of biggest myths that you tend to see from parents or caregivers about when or how to get early intervention services, whether that’s assessment or intervention, I think starting maybe with what you tend to see that’s incorrect. And then maybe demystifying those things would be helpful for people who may be thinking along those lines of improper information. Crystal: Yeah, another issue that comes up and it, it’s not necessarily wrong. But I talk to parents who say, Well, I talked to my pediatrician and they say that they’re fine or, you know, start with a pediatrician. And I, not that I’m saying, Don’t listen to your pediatrician – start with the pediatrician, yes. But if you get pushback that again, just doesn’t sit right with your gut. And I would encourage families to persist. If we had waited for our pediatrician, my daughter would have not had been diagnosed until she was five, it was at age five, that my pediatrician finally said, You know what, I think maybe there is something going on. Right. I think one of the biggest things that I see with families is they’re thinking and maybe almost hoping that the child’s going to grow out of it. You know, if they’re suspecting something, maybe they’re seeing some things, but maybe a family member has told them or they’re just hoping, oh, you know, they’ll grow out of it, or Oh, they’re just a boy or you know, all these other reasons. And so what I say to families always – and for various issues is ask questions and trust your gut. And I encourage parents and caregivers to trust your gut if you sense that something might be different, unique, something going on with your child that I always encourage them to investigate. Just in case because of… the window of time is so small, between zero and five, really zero and three, four, is a real critical time. And so if you miss that, the time that it takes to catch up is can be long depending on the child and their needs and their challenges. So if there is a suspicion I encourage families not to just wait and hoping for the best but to investigate. Ayelet: And by then you’re like, Wait a second, we’ve been there already. Crystal: Oh, my gosh, I’ve talked to her so many times. And by then I’d had her assessment, she’d been receiving services for a year and a half. So, you know, that’s just an example of sometimes, especially if it’s not overt. For our children who have maybe some strengths in certain areas, they might appear to be neurotypical and functioning well enough to a pediatrician who sees them for five minutes, but they are missing the things that you see at home with the child every day. So if again, if it doesn’t sit well with you, beyond what your pediatrician says, I would say, continue to persist and investigate where you can. And the last thing that I see a myth is labeling the child and parents who say, I don’t want to label my child, you know, they’re too young to put a label on them. And what I say to families is, again, trust your gut and investigate, because if you wait, the longer you’re waiting, the less service the child’s getting, the wider the gap is becoming. And so in order to support children best, it’s really important to start that work early, that intervention early. And so it could be that your child might be found to be at risk. Or they might say, come back in a year, maybe they are not going to say like, get a label, quote unquote, initially. So don’t let that label scare you. Really, for us. It was a relief. When they were they told us that our daughter was on the autism spectrum, because we know something was different. And now we just set a name for it. And so in our house, we just say, your brain works differently. And that’s called Autism, you know, mine works differently. And I have to wear glasses. I mean, and so we kind of demystified the label in our home and just made it as a matter of fact. And so I tell parents, don’t don’t be afraid of a label, and let that deter you from seeking out the services that that your child needs. Ayelet: Right. I love that, first of all, Crystal. And I think that it’s so important, because we tend to think of things in terms of the deficits, right? Like, I think when parents, especially parents, and caregivers who realize that something is different about their child, that maybe they’re not meeting milestones, or things just feel a little bit quirky, or a little bit different, that immediately, we as adults go to well, different, maybe bad or different, maybe other and we know that in our society, in our culture, we stigmatize “other” – we know that. I think when we can look at it and find those professionals, especially who respect that those things that are different, are not necessarily construed as deficits, but we are focusing more on what tools can we use? What strategies can we use to help build up our children regardless of whether they have a diagnosis, or whether they are behind or you know, advanced, or whatever it is all we want, as parents and caregivers, our tools, right? To help us help our children advocate for our children, whatever best way we can, so that we can help them live their best lives, right? Like, it’s so important. That’s the goal. Crystal: Exactly. That’s what we all want for our kids. Yeah, I tell parents all the time, we just all want for our kids to be happy to be successful in whatever way success is for them. And whatever tools they need along the way, then so be it, you know, I have another child who has different needs, not Autism. And it’s exactly what I told her therapist, I said, you know, hey, I’m a professional. But in this case, I’m a mom. And this is not my area of training, what tools can you give me to help support her because I want her to be empowered with tools that she can use along her way to help her, you know, be her best self? So, so yeah, just, you know, helping kids be their best, whatever that looks like every child has the potential to be great at something. My husband has really been a cheerleader for our daughter from early on. And I remember him saying, you know what, who cares if she can’t tie her shoes, she is going to be so successful, that she’ll be able to pay somebody to tie her shoes when she gets older. So who cares? Ayelet:I love that. Crystal: Oh, yeah! Ayelet: I would love and I think this sort of gets to that piece that we were just talking about, like what in your words would you say because if we’re thinking about… all right, well, get services, get those tools. Don’t wait, investigate. I love that that piece of it that you suggested is really just listen to your gut and investigate and look at it. Look at that feeling, sit with that feeling, wherever it takes you. Yes. What would you say really… like, why get early intervention services? What is the purpose of early intervention as you see it? Because I mean, I have my own opinions, but you work with families so much, and what should parents expect? And then I’d love to get into also like what happens when a child ages out of those early intervention services, which are birth to three, right? And for instance, your daughter in your story, didn’t even receive early intervention services? Sounds like, right, she she started getting identified after age three. So yes, So first, let’s talk about because I think in general, the audience here listening to this podcast is primarily families and professionals serving those families with infants and toddlers. So I’d love to hear a little bit more about in particular, early intervention first. So again, what, just to recap, giant diatribe there. What is the purpose of early intervention? What can parents expect? Crystal: You know, in my perspective, early intervention, it’s not to fix the child, that’s something I always tell parents were just because you get the intervention services, your child is not going to necessarily those, those things aren’t necessarily going to disappear, per se. And I knew that because for my kid personally, because I had worked with kids who were, you know, 2018 years old, up in high school, who have the same diagnosis as my daughter did, and still had some challenges. I knew early intervention was not going to fix anything, but it was going to empower her with tools and empower us with tools to help see the areas of need, maybe not grow. And that’s this to see the gap not widen so much. And so that was our thought is that we were going to access services and you’re accessing your early intervention services, so that you’re addressing the areas of need, you’re building up the areas of challenge, you’re also maybe learning some tools and maybe learning about your child what their strengths are, because I think for every child, there are areas of strengths that we maybe miss, because we’re looking so much at the deficit. So when you receive the early intervention services, I think you learn more about your child’s strengths, and those areas, how you can use those strengths to help, then, support the deficit. So I think that’s really important. I see it all the time with families who have those, you know, difficult experiences, for instance. So any, you know, professionals listening to this, remember how important that is, in your work with families, you know, it really can make all the difference. And yes, we have to understand what kinda like it can be a traumatic event, of course, for a family to, to receive the news of a diagnosis or to know to recognize fully like, Okay, what, what are those deficits? What can I do so, so what can parents expect around the process of all of this? Who are navigating this for the first time? Yes, they can expect to be completely overwhelmed. I’ll be honest. Ayelet: Thanks for that! Crystal: Yes, yeah. And be okay with that, like you said, and sit with that and be okay with that. Because it’s a very overwhelming process, especially if this is not your area of expertise. If this is not anything that you have any training, and it can be completely overwhelming. So I encourage parents to take each day one step at a time, take a notebook or phone or something that you can document your questions and document your feelings along the way, and process those feelings so that you have some way to list questions that come up so that when you get to the next therapy appointment, you have that they’re ready, and they’re not asking you Oh, do you have any questions? You’re like, Oh, you know? So keep something with yo…

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    What is Early Intervention Speech Therapy, With Grace Bernales May 20, 2021
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    What does an Early Intervention Speech-Language Pathologist Do, Anyway? On this episode of the Learn With Less® podcast, Ayelet sat down with Grace Bernales, a pediatric SLP based in Los Angeles, and owner of Graceful Expression, providing in-home speech/feeding therapy. Grace works with the early intervention population (birth to three) and elementary-aged children, and provides helpful information and play ideas on social media and in her store on the site, Teachers-Pay-Teachers. We’ll discuss: Grace’s personal and professional background, and how she came to do the work she’s doing todayWhat does a speech-language pathologist do with an infant or toddler during early intervention services?What is the “parent coaching model” and why is it so effective?Grace’s top 3 tips and resources for parents and caregivers who want to use everyday materials and routines to support their young child’s language Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Starfall and abcya.com Learn With Less® podcast episode on Parent Coaching and Routines Based Intervention, with Cari Ebert Connect With Us: Grace: Website / Instagram / Facebook / Teachers Pay Teachers Ayelet: Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest Text Transcript of This Episode: Ayelet: Okay, welcome. So today I’m speaking with Grace Bernales, a pediatric speech language pathologist based in Los Angeles and owner of Graceful Expression, providing in home speech and feeding therapy. Grace loves working with the early intervention population and elementary aged children and provides extremely helpful information and play ideas on social media. And in her store on the site, Teachers Pay Teachers. Grace’s primary passion is providing speech and language therapy for the three and under population as well as preschoolers, and she truly enjoys coaching families and believes in the importance of empowering parents to connect with their child. So Grace, I have just loved getting to know you a little bit on social media. And I want to welcome you today to Learn With Less®! Grace: Well, hi, Ayelet, thank you so much for having me. I’m so excited to be here and talk about the early intervention population. Ayelet: That’s it. Yes, a passion for us both. So I have asked you to come onto the show, of course, today to speak to us about early intervention, and really, what a speech therapist does with infants and toddlers. But first, why don’t you tell us a little bit more about you and how you got into the work that you’re doing today? Grace: Yeah, sure. So I knew growing up, I always wanted to work with children or help people somehow I just wasn’t sure yet. I initially actually wanted to be a school or clinical psychologist, so I had my degree in psychology. So while I was in school, I worked as a behavioral therapist, and a lot of the children were children on the spectrum, or with Down Syndrome, and they often had speech therapy and a communication device. So that’s kind of how I learned more about the field. And then I decided to do a few observation sessions, larger opportunities for that. And that’s kind of how I got into it. And then also, my dad had his own clinic as a physician, and I just, it kind of inspired me to do my own thing and also open up my own clinic, but that’s how I came up with Graceful Expression! Ayelet: That’s so great. I love that. Well, let’s dig right in. So what does a speech language pathologist do with an infant or toddler during these early intervention services, specifically, Speech and Language Pathology, off course, is we can speak to Grace: Right, that’s a great question. And I feel like, you know, coming into the family’s homes, or just, you know, for the initial session, not many families know exactly how the sessions work. So usually, I’ll, you know, tell them, you know, it’s very important for the families to be involved in this each session versus just, you know, sitting on the chair, or watching the therapist or being on their phone, I like to explain to them, you know, it’s very important for the families to be involved, it does involve a lot of play. And I always tell families to me with when we’re just playing, but we’re actually using a lot of different sheets and language goals and to target using different toys. And it also, you know, it’s very common for a speech therapist to interact with the parent, you know, we kind of talk about how the session goes, I explained to them different strategies that they can also do with their child during that session. But now, now that COVID is around, of course, my sessions are virtual, and it’s still very much the same. It’s just more parent coaching versus me, showing them ways their child can play. Ayelet: Right, well, this is a great sort of lead into the next real question that I have for you, which is you were speaking so much about, you know, that involvement of the parent or caregiver with the child within a therapy context. So tell us a little bit about, for those families who don’t really know what this is, what is the parent coaching model? And why is it considered so effective? Grace: Right! So parent coaching is a very interactive process between the therapist and the parent, it involves a lot of observation, reflection and action to help promote the parent’s ability to support their child’s participation during the session. So for example, oftentimes, you know, before a session, I’ll speak with the family, whether it’s on the phone or email, I’m asking, like, Hey, is there any specific toy you want to work with today? Are there any specific words or strategies you want to work on today, and then we’ll come kind of come up with something together prior to the session. And then oftentimes, the session or the toys that we use are, of course, what the parent has already, I don’t expect families to, you know, go out and buy their own toy, I like to use whatever is already within their home. That’s kind of part of the parent coaching model where I tell them, you know, we can use these toys, today if you like, we can use those toys, and then usually throughout that parent coaching I’ll, while I’m observing them, or I’ll kind of include them if you fix that, you know, they could adjust or I’ll kind of help them build up on strategies that they’re already doing themselves, as well as adding on new skills that they can share with their child throughout the session or throughout the week when I’m not speaking with them. But yeah, and I just feel like parent coaching is just so effective because a parent is with the child 24-7. The therapist is not there 24-7, you know, they’re the one that’s interacting with their child throughout the day, throughout the week, throughout the month. It’s really important for the family to be hands-on with the child, you know, versus a session where let’s say the family sits in the waiting room or the family is the sitting on the couch, it’s going to be very different, or difficult for the parent to try this strategy without seeing it themselves or doing it themselves. And I know most people are very hands on – I know, I’m very hands on. So I feel like for me to really understand a strategy or do a certain skill, I need to feel, I need to be able to also get in the action. That’s kind of why I feel like parent coaching is so effective, because we’re having them do that particular strategy with their child. And that way they can at least remember like, okay, Grace showed me how to do this, I did this during the session. So I can do this with my child more, so I feel like that’s why parent coaching is just so important. Ayelet: Right, because it’s an, it’s like an active learning process. So it’s so interesting, because I think so often we as the adults in the room, and as a parent, for instance, we oftentimes will assume like, okay, my child is receiving services. So my child will be the one who this therapy session is focused around. But really, in many cases, early intervention is so much about parent education, and about building up that parent’s or caregiver’s capacity to really be able to feel confident that they can do that, that they can serve their child that they can support their child, and that they have the tools to connect with their little one and support their little one within play, within everyday routines. I’m just curious to hear from you, you know, I think we do, in general, as a society, and as parents in this day and age, focus on the tools themselves instead of those interactions. And play can really – obviously, as you know, and I know that you share this all the time on say Instagram, for instance, play can happen and developmentally supportive and enriching play can happen with everyday materials. And in those everyday routines and interactions. And I’d love – we’ll get some specific tips from you in just a moment. I’d love if you could share just a few of those actual materials that you might recommend, whether they are the, like a toy, or the everyday material “version” of a toy, for instance, that you might sort of gravitate towards or help families gravitate towards within your sessions. Grace: Yeah, sure. So a few that come to mind at the top of my head, number one would be a paper towel roll or toilet paper roll, which I’m sure everybody has. So, I always tell families, when you run out of paper towels or toilet paper, you know, save those because you can do a lot of different things with them. One of the main things I like to use it as is like a microphone. Because I feel like children just love hearing like how their voice echoes or how your voice echoes, so I like to tell parents to use that. And then it’s also fun to play an “I Spy” game with if you have two of those, so that, you know, you can get a lot of language with those roles. Then I also like to use boxes. And a lot of I’m sure, especially people these days are using Amazon boxes or whatever they’re shipping to their home. And I’ve had kids where they pretend it’s like a car. I’ve had parents draw wheels on it, and they push them in the box, but it’s also turned into a fort or like a castle where you can draw windows on it. So you know, definitely toys don’t have to be actual toys. Like you said it could be everyday items. And then I would say the third everyday item that I like to use often, too, is a muffin tin. Right. I like using muffin tins because you know, the parent can put whatever item or toy they can put in there. And then I tell them to cover it up with some tape or painters tape. That way they can use that for a lot of requesting, labeling, and it’s fun for kids to also riff off the tape. It’s like they’re opening a present each time. So that one’s definitely a favorite of mine, too. Ayelet: I love that. Yeah. Do you, do you like to use the like solid metal ones? Or have you ever experimented with the the rubbery sort of foldy ones that can that can be heated up in the oven? Grace: Yeah, I’ve done both. I think most of the times they use a regular, the actual muffin since you put it in the oven. But I’ve had some families where they had the rubbery one. And that was just as fun too! Ayelet: That one’s fun too, for sure. Awesome. Well, we’re gonna just take a very brief break to hear a word from our sponsors. And then we’ll hear just a few tips from Grace about what you can do to support your young child’s communication development using what you already have. And we’ll hear about her favorite resources to share with families. As a parent or caregiver of an infant or toddler, you want to make sure you’re “doing it right.” But everywhere you look, there’s another learning toy or fancy subscription box that you don’t have room for and that your child seems to lose interest in all too quickly. You want to support your infant or toddler’s development, but you struggle finding the “right” toys or enough time and energy to do it. You just want the map to get through these first few years and find more joy in the journey as well. If any of this rings true for you, you’re in the right place. Right now I’m giving away my free infant/toddler development blueprint, a straightforward guide that will help you discover the four major areas of development in the first three years of life and what’s involved in each of those areas. Find out what you can do to support development using what you already have in your home. Learn how to follow my four pillar framework to maximize the time you’re already spending with your tiny human, and much much more. If you are ready to boost your infant or toddler’s learning, stop feeling like you’re “winging it” all the time and simplify your life had to learnwithless.com/blueprint and download my free infant/toddler development blueprint today. Ayelet: Okay, Grace. So what tips – other than everything you’ve already said – what tips do you have specifically for families who are curious about, say, using everyday materials, and using those routines to really support their child’s language development? Grace: Sure. So the number one tip and I get this is difficult to do on is to decrease questions. Ayelet: To decrease questions? Okay, great. Grace: So decrease questions and instead turning them into statements, because you know, it does take the pressure off the child. So for example, let’s say I’m sure a lot of us are watching our hands these days, you can have your child as they’re washing their hands, instead of asking, What are you doing? You say, oh, wash hands, wash hands, we’re washing our hands. So doing a lot of narrating and just remember, and instead of asking the question, turning that question into a statement. So another example could be, let’s say, you know, your child is eating a cookie. Oh, what are you eating? What flavor is it? What color is it? You can just say, oh, you’re eating a chocolate chip cookie, or you’re eating a cookie. And that way the child is hearing the words that we want them to say and it takes off the pressure because I feel like oftentimes, you know, when I see children get asked so many questions, they kind of shut down and they shy away more versus when it’s more indirect. So I would say… Ayelet: That’s such an interesting point. Grace: Yeah! That’s probably one of my favorite tips to give. And then I would say another tip I like to give is providing choices. That way, when you give a child choices, it makes them feel like they’re in control. And this can be helpful I feel like with meal times. Of course, you know, when you do give the choices, don’t give them something you definitely don’t want them to like two sugary meals! Ayelet: Right! It has to be – both both choices have to be something that you feel comfortable with. Grace: Exactly. Yeah, so you can even ask, oh should we eat an apple or a banana? That way they can choose, but in their mind, they’re like, Oh, I get to choose which one I get to eat. So providing choices. And that can be done during many routines, whether it’s meal time, dressing up, maybe you know, their little ones like to choose their own clothes, they can say, oh, should we wear our red shirts today or white shirts today? So that one’s another helpful one that can be done throughout the day. Ayelet: That’s a great one too. Because in that like “choice making” you’re also bathing them in all this language, right without, like, drilling the colors, for instance, which I think a lot of us as adults tend to get stuck in and like my child has to learn how to say red, white, blue, green, purple. But in reality if they can’t communicate, like the things that we want them to communicate, of course are within that everyday context and everyday routine. So if they can indicate which one they’re interested in, or say “shirt” or whatever, like or say “that!” That’s the word “that” is a way more useful word than the, than the word read. For instance, I love that. Grace: Yeah, no, especially with the colors, because like you said, I do often see a lot of parents focusing on like, Oh,…

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    How to Impact Your Community With Parent Education and Parent Coaching Skills, with Laurel Smith Apr 26, 2021
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    She Needed the Tools to Be Successful In Empowering Families to Support Their Young Children Today, I’d like to share the story of one of my clients, Laurel Smith, of More Than Words Therapy. Laurel is a pediatric speech-language pathologist with a masters in public health, and is based in the Bahamas. When we met, she told me she had an interest in gaining knowledge and skills in parent education and parent coaching, and she was very interested in providing more community-based support to families. When she entered the Learn With Less® Facilitator Training & Certification Program, she stated that she believed becoming a parent educator using the Learn With Less® curriculum will give her the tools she needs to be successful in this area, and the support she needs to ensure she’s providing evidence-based strategies that will indeed empower and support families. She loved that the Learn With Less® program focuses on using the things in the families’ environment, and helps them to understand that it doesn’t take a fancy toy to allow them to support their infant and toddler’s development. As a busy private practice owner, she’d always had an interest in leading parent education classes, but she didn’t have the time to create a program – so I wanted to share this episode with you, to check in with Laurel and see if, now that she’s completed the training program, she feels ready with the knowledge and skills to make her dream a reality. Before we get into it, though, I’d love to invite you to join me on a private training I’m holding for educators and therapists, on Thursday, May 6. If you’re interested in working with me to create a high quality, community based parent education program using the Learn With Less® curriculum, all you need to do to get your invitation is to fill out this quick application at learnwithless.com/certification. Ok, let’s hear from Laurel. Connect With Us Ayelet: Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest Laurel: Website / Facebook / Instagram Related Resources in This Episode Learn With Less podcast episode: How Lesley Took Her Existing Skills as an Educator, and Started Serving Infant/Toddler Families In a Holistic, Meaningful Way Learn With Less podcast episode: How to Use Your Skills as an Educator or Therapist to Serve Families Holistically as a Parent Educator, with Allie Glazer Apply for the upcoming private training: How to Create Lasting Impact Leading “Caregiver & Me” Classes With A High Quality, Evidence-Based, “Plug & Play” Program That’ll Have Families Coming Back Again & Again Text Transcript of the Episode: Ayelet: All right. Well, I am joined here by Laurel Smith. She is a speech language pathologist, as well as having a background in public health. Laurel, thank you. And welcome to Learn With Less®. Thank you for having me. I wanted to just give the good people a sense of who you are and what brought you into the Learn With Less® Facilitator Training and Certification Program. What were some of the things that drew you to this program? Laurel: Okay. So I found it, I believe on Instagram and I, well, I love the idea of Learn With Less®. So I did your training and I was able to get a better understanding of what Learn With Less® was about and how it works and being in a community where we don’t have anything like this… And working with families that I believe would benefit from having the opportunity because, well, within my age group, a lot of my friends are now having babies. So they’re always asking various questions about what things did they can do. And I’m usually having to just guide them and give them little tips and tricks here. So I can only imagine how many other parents, especially new parents feel that way. So it would be an opportunity for me to help them along their journey. And so I liked the Learn With Less® program, because it’s not something where I having to be the instructor, but rather the facilitator and allow them to see that they are likely doing a number of things that are helping their babies and toddlers and you know, other things that they can possibly add on to, to make it even more worthwhile with building their child’s communication. I love that this course would give me the roadmap to be able to put something like this in place, because with my busy schedule, the idea has been there, but it’s stayed at that phase. So now this training gave me the opportunity to move that into the phase of where it can come to life and I can shape it, how I’d like to see it in my community, as well as being able to add an additional service to my private practice. Ayelet: I’d love to know a little bit about when you were thinking about joining, what were some of the things that you were skeptical about as far as joining a program like this? Laurel: I think, in the beginning it was probably that it was only going to take me six weeks or well, or so, like it was only like six modules and I was like, boy, how are we going to learn all of this in this amount of time? But I realized that the modules are very specific, and well, they provide a lot of information, but they also provide you with opportunities to make it more practical and allow it to focus on where you’re at and the thing that you’re doing. So it’s structured, but also unstructured in a way that you can use it and personalize it to your community. So I enjoyed that it ended up being, not just a lot of information about how to do XYZ, but it was also, there was also a practical component and then having the community available as well has also been helpful, so I didn’t have to be skeptical about, even though it’s only six modules, there is a wealth of information and a lot of examples, like the demos, which have been very helpful to see that, you know, other facilitators have had demos where it could go left or right. And they still make it work, though. They still make it work and they work with what they have. So that completely kind of went away once I started and I saw how it is and how it’s structured and that we’re able to kind of use our community to help each other, ask questions and then the Q&A calls also add to it. So if there were any outstanding questions, I can always get them answered, but everything turned out to be pretty straightforward and to the point. So now that I’m at the end where I’m preparing to do my demo, I feel pretty prepared and that the modules gave me sufficient information to get to this point. And so, yeah, I’m excited to do my demo and become certified. Ayelet: Woo. We’re excited, too. I’d love to hear a little bit about whether there was a perception change in your work or this work or what this would be as far as the program itself, as far as what you expected to get out of it, or what leading a class might look like, you know, after having participated in the training program, were there any perception changes for you? Laurel: Well I think because it seems like a lot of the community members’ biggest thing was trying to get parents to understand that we’re not here to just teach you. And because a lot of them are speech-language pathologists, taking that cap off… And instead of being the SLP, you’re now a facilitator or… And parent coaching is a big part of it versus what we would do in our everyday life. I think that’s changed. And I guess being able to see others, having the same mindset and thought process about it and then hearing or seeing how they’ve been able to show, or you’ve given us strategies, I should say, and tips to be able to help parents and families understand that that’s not what we are here to do. We’re here to allow you to see where you’re at and build on that versus just giving you the information but aligned… And to do it in the course. I think that was the biggest thing. Like being able to see that the parents will be able to do the hands-on and how do we get that information and get that kind of into their thought process that, Hey, we’re not here to just show you what to do, but you know, it’s more than just that. Ayelet: It’s practical! Laurel: Especially because people don’t – right. People don’t understand that it doesn’t have to be a time where you just have to say, okay, this is sit down time for learning with my child, but you can use it in routines. And I mean, that’s something that I continued to struggle with as an SLP anyway, because trying to tell my parents that they don’t have to necessarily create this homework time, so to speak or this speech time, but you can use it and fit it in where you can, because I understand that you have a busy life and this is just kind of to help add at home, but not necessarily in a way where you have to just carve out this time, but use it in the routines and the times that you have available. So whether that’s in the car or whether that’s during bath time or whatever, have you, you kind of use those opportunities and build on whatever goals we’re working on at those opportune times. Ayelet: Right, right. And not only whether or not there are specific communication or motor or social, emotional or cognitive goals, right? Because again, this group of people is not just speech therapists. It’s also occupational therapists and early childhood educators and special educators. And so many more that I’m not even thinking about like clinical social workers, people like that, that this is outside of a therapeutic or educational context, right. This is like an enrichment context. This is helping them just to create those opportunities for play and helping them see that they get to do that all the time. So I love, I love what you said about that, because it also, it helps you as a facilitator, take off your therapist hat and put on more of a parent coaching hat, which I’m guessing will also impact – if it hasn’t already your therapy – with, with younger children. Laurel: Right. I definitely see it. Well, with my little ones, I do find myself singing more. And I think one of the things that I learned was about singing about anything. So in the beginning, I would think that I could, I just had to use like, or McDonald or itsy bitsy spider. But now if my little one is playing with a puzzle piece and it’s of a firetruck, and then I can use the tune of any one of those songs and just talk about the firetruck in other ways. And instead of just having to try to think, okay, what’s song do I know that has a fire truck in it… Now I just make it up as I go. And so from that perspective, I’ve seen where my little ones will join in and it’s like, okay, well, we just made up our own little song. And so I try to remember to write down the lyrics so I could know it for the next time. And we continue with that tune, but if not, then I just wing it and I do the same thing over and over again. But they have definitely been more responsive when I use the singing in particular, in it. And then I, well, obviously with COVID, I don’t really use as much of the toys that I would have, before. So I would try to use more of the things that they might have in their environment. So I’m not bringing stuff, but I’m like, okay, well you have an empty water bottle. Let’s just put some stuff in there and shake it. You know what I mean? And that way we are still able to use things in your environment. And I tell my parents a lot more about things and examples of things that they can use – instead of having to go out and buy things. Ayelet: Yeah. So this is really cool to hear, right? Because it’s sort of this, I’m making a motion that nobody can see, but it’s like this cross-pollinating effect of, within this, the Learn With Less® program, which is like a family enrichment training program, so that you can go out and provide these types of parent education, parent support classes. It’s also affecting how you do your everyday job as a therapist. And vice versa, right? So I just love, I love hearing that. And I’d love… That sort of brings me to my next question, which is, you know, what, what do you anticipate more of the impact or results of being involved in this program and offering these classes in your community? What does that look like in your biggest vision? Laurel: Well, I think for the program itself, I think that it would allow me to have an impact on a larger community because so much of the focus as we know, is on alphabet and numbers and… Ayelet: For parents, you mean? Laurel: Right. And so just really trying to help to change that thought process that, you know, it’s, it’s not the focus and you’re already doing the things that you’re doing. You don’t have to worry about you, you don’t have to worry about the battery operated things to be able to communicate and bond with your child. So I think I’m most excited about parents being able to see, Oh yes, I can definitely do this at home, or I’m doing this now. So now I can just add X, Y, and Z and getting them to see, which is why I like the program, because I liked that once they’re able to have that hands-on opportunity, it gives them an opportunity to see, to have that aha moment like, Oh yeah. So I really didn’t need toy X. I could just do this, instead. And I add a little song to it. And now I see my little one imitating me, imitating my actions, imitating the song. So I’m like, there it is. Now you see it for yourself, how you learning with less works and how you’re likely already doing the things that you can with, you know, maybe some additional tips, you can help to allow your child to blossom in their communication skills. So I think I’m most excited to see or hear parents, their feedback about having that aha moment and saying, I’m doing this and I can do this. And it’s nothing that I have to really change per se or even add. Ayelet: And you’ve been able to see some of those aha moments in the classes that like the demo classes that your fellow facilitators have led for families, right? Yes. You’ve been able to see that in parents’ faces and in their comments. So it is such a positive, social and human impact that you’re making on your community when you can provide these things. I love how you said it’s, it’s not – and also it’s not just for families with children who have delays, right. It’s for all, it’s for all families. But once you can sort of make that bigger dent in like the perception of what parents and caregivers think they’re coming to the class for, or think they’re even supposed to be doing with their child and really elucidating the fact that it’s like, well, no, it’s actually way easier. It’s, number one, it’s like the stuff that you already have and the time and energy that you’re already expending with your child, those everyday routines and rituals and interactions that you’re having with your child, instead of thinking that you have to add in more opportunities for, like you said, numbers and colors and shapes, oh my! Right? Like, it’s the everyday interactions. Instead. And that’s where the value is. Right. I love that. Laurel: Because that’s the biggest thing that everybody always says or worry about or even, well, actually is the biggest thing that they would even tell me if they come in for a consultation is, Oh, well my child can, they know their colors, they know their shapes, they know their alphabet. And then I find sometimes that the missing piece is that okay, well, and I asked them, well, how are they communicating with you? Then there’s the disconnect. And so it’s trying to retrain people to understand that this is the important parts that are needed. And I think that this Learn With Less® program will allow me to do that and expand, especially because obviously people come to me, if they have concerns with their child’s speech and language. So if they don’t, it still will allow people to understand what it really means to help to expand your child’s communication skills and what that really looks like. Ayelet: I think it’s so important, I mean, let’s not forget the value of that for your practice, right. I…

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    Parent Coaching and Routines for Early Language Development, with Cari Ebert Apr 15, 2021
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    What Can Parents Do to Encourage Infant and Toddler Language Development? On this episode of the Learn With Less® podcast, we sat down with Cari Ebert, of Cari Ebert Seminars. Cari is a speech-language pathologist, parent, consultant, author, product developer, and nationally recognized speaker in the areas of Apraxia, Autism, and early intervention (and routines-based intervention) who has dedicated her career to helping young children achieve their maximum potential with speech, language, and social and emotional development. We discussed: Cari’s personal and professional background, and how she came to do the work she’s doing todayDefinitions of the terms, speech, language, and communicationHow parents and caregivers can support early communication through everyday routines (and what “routines” even are)Why there is no such thing as a parenting expert (and what the purpose of parent coaching, parent education, and routines-based intervention actually are)Cari’s top tips and resources for parents and caregivers hoping to support early communication development Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Understanding Your Baby & Understanding Your Toddler: My bestselling books, development & Activity Guides for Playing With Your Baby From Birth to Three Years Learn With Less® Bundle: get our favorite infant and toddler development resources – including our bestselling books! (and save 70%)! Discover how to support & connect with your tiny human, without having to buy a single toy. Learn With Less® Facilitator Training & Certification Program: Use your existing skills as an educator or therapist to serve families holistically with a high quality program that will provide lasting impact! Apply now to become a licensed facilitator Learn With Less®. Learn With Less® “Caregiver & Me” Classes: the magic of Learn With Less® lies in the communal aspect of coming together with our resources, in community with other families. Join us for a virtual or in-person class led by a licensed facilitator near you! Games to Play With Babies by Jackie Silberg Games to Play With Toddlers by Jackie Silberg Free Download Handouts from Cari Facebook Live series from Cari Connect With Us: Cari Website / Facebook / Instagram / Ayelet: Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest Text Transcript of The Episode Ayelet: Today. I am speaking with Cari Ebert, a pediatric speech language pathologist in private practice in the Kansas City, Missouri area. Cari is a therapist, consultant, author, product developer, and nationally recognized speaker who gets paid to do what she loves most: talk! She specializes in early intervention, Apraxia, and Autism, and has dedicated her career to helping young children achieve their maximum potential with speech, language, and social and emotional development. Cari, I have followed you for years and been familiar with your work in the area of early intervention and routines-based intervention, and just working with families with infants and toddlers in general, of all developmental levels. But I have to say that I was tickled when I realized that you were following me on Instagram and I’m totally going to go into fan-girl mode right now. When I say that you commented on a post in my feed with the words, “you are an early intervention rock star.” And I just wanted to let you know that that may have been the single most validating and gratifying moment of my career. Cari: Well, I have to say I don’t comment a lot on social media, you know, I’m on there so much posting, so and I don’t tend to comment a lot. And so when I do, I mean it’s authentic and it is sincere. So, I appreciate everything you’re doing in our Ayelet: Thank you. Well, you know, to be recognized by another person in the field who I have such deep respect for just, you know, it feels good. So thank you for that. And welcome. Welcome to Learn With Less. Cari: Thank you for having me. I was honored that you asked me to be a part of this. It’s very exciting. Yeah. Ayelet: Yay. I’ve asked you to come onto the show today to speak to us about these sort of differences between… What are all the pieces of early communication, what does it mean when we’re talking about that with a child who’s meeting communication milestones versus a quote-unquote “late talker,” and then how to support all of that during and within daily routines. But first I would love to just hear a bit more about you and how you got into the work that you’re doing today. Cari: Very good. Yes. Well, I’ve been a speech language pathologist for 25 years, and 20 of those years have been as an early intervention provider. So working with the birth to three population is my passion. I always say those of us who get into early intervention, don’t do it for the paycheck. We certainly do it because there is so much that can be gained by working with families and caregivers and supporting early child development during those naturally-occurring routines and interactions that just happen every single day, whether the child’s at home, at daycare, at Grandma’s house, at the park, wherever. So I am extremely passionate about the birth to three population. I do a lot of research, and write professional development courses that pertain to the birth to five population. So like I have a course on the power of play that really looks at play development from birth to age five. So birth to five is like my area, but birth to three is where my love is. And partnering with parents is the thing that means the most to me. One thing that I’ve said for years is that I am the expert in communication development as a speech-language pathologist, but the parent is always the expert on their child, their family, their routines, their culture, and their concerns. And so it takes two to tango. And, I am here for the dance. Ayelet: I love that. Cari: I also just for listeners who maybe are interested in this, I have, my husband and I have three children, two are neurotypical and our son is Autistic. And so I get to be a speech language pathologist working in the field of early intervention. And I come at this, you know, from the professional side, but also from the parent side. So it allows me to kind of, I don’t know, I’ve been in the shoes, you know, of the families with whom I’m supporting. And so it gives me a different perspective. Ayelet: Oh my gosh. Absolutely. Well, I mean, so much of what you just said resonates, obviously, with me, because I, I do say so often to people like I abhor that term “parenting expert.” And like, if I, if I’m like asked to speak on a panel or in a summit or whatever, I’m very clear to, like, clarify immediately that no, I am a professional who knows some things… And I am not a “parenting expert.” There is no such thing as a parenting expert. The goal is for each parent or caregiver to become an expert on their own child. And that is an ever-evolving process. And you know, that like, you’ll be trying to do for the rest of your life, if you’re lucky, right? Like is that’s the point, right? That’s the goal. And I think it’s a very important clarification that we have to make for both families and other providers, really. Cari: Absolutely. I just have to add that two of my daughters are in their twenties now. And so now I’m having to learn how to parent adult children, because when you say it’s an ever, it’s a lifelong thing. It is because parenting toddlers is different from parenting teenagers and it is different from parenting adult children. So I feel like I’m having to relearn how to parent again, you know, so I love that you say nobody is a parenting expert, you know, we’re constantly evolving in that process. Ayelet: Oh my gosh, completely. Well, and I think, you know, you and I both have that both parent and professional piece, which can be very helpful. I think as far as relating to parents and not to say that, you know, SLPs or other providers who are not parents or caregivers themselves, “can’t” do those things. But for me on a personal level, like when I became a parent, I suddenly realized all of the areas in which I personally was like, Oh wow, I cannot believe I ever said that to a parent. Like, oh my gosh. And it totally reframes everything that you do. And, and all every statement that you have to feel like, okay, well, I’m going to qualify this with like, okay, this here is like the place that would be ideal that in a textbook, this is what we could do, but here’s what we’re going to start with. And here’s where we’re going. And here’s the path, right? Like start with what you can do. And, and again, like you said, too, individualized treatment, working with families of all types of all cultures, from all backgrounds, with all different kinds of priorities and working within family capacity, right. That is the entire point of what we do within early intervention. Cari: I just love that you used that word. I’m sorry. I’m like, I’m so excited now. I know they can’t see us, but I’m like doing like this little party over here because when you say, you know, it’s building capacity. That to me is, is why I am such an advocate for early intervention because it is an early intervention is a capacity building program. And when I first heard that term, Oh, what do they mean? We’re building the child’s capacity? No, no, no. We’re building the caregiver. The parent’s capacity to support their child’s learning and development during everyday routines and interactions that naturally occur, right? And so to me, that’s just really powerful because I don’t leave homework for families to work on. I don’t give them extra things to do. I’m a parent and I know I barely have enough time in the day to get through the things that absolutely have to be done. And if someone is going to give me a speech therapist or an occupational therapist or a physical therapist is going to give me homework, I’m going to be honest with you. It’s probably not going to happen. So that’s why, what I love to talk to families about is embedded intervention. We want to embed strategies into your already existing routines. And that’s what I’m hoping we can talk about a little bit is what do we mean by those daily routines? Because it’s a term we use, but I’m not sure that everybody has a great understanding of the power of routines-based intervention. Ayelet: Yeah. Right. Well, guess what, Cari, you’re in the right place, because this is Learn With Less®, which literally is all about using the materials you already have and the time and energy that you are already expending. So, first, first let’s dig a little bit into really that number one, like the term “late talker,” and then just really pausing for a moment and defining for families, those various aspects of early communication as the umbrella term, because I do find that it’s not uncommon for parents and caregivers to be unfamiliar (of course, why would they?), with the difference between speech, language, communication… Like, so let’s break it down for listeners so that we can really just sort of help families understand why when we are talking about each of those things, they are actually distinctly different from one another. And also like why, when we say “late talker,” quote unquote, it’s not just about identifying a child who is not using words consistently or who is not totally clear or intelligible in their speech. So let’s start, let’s start there. Cari: Okay. So communication, I love, again, you’d think that you and I have like had multiple conversations before, and this is really our first conversation, but the term that umbrella term, I always say, and I have in one of my, my seminars, an umbrella to show that communication is this umbrella term. And so on the umbrella, I have the word “communication,” and underneath communication dangling from the umbrella you have hearing, right. It’s very important that we make sure all children can hear. That’s why, in this country, we have, newborn hearing screenings, you know, so that we can make sure that they are able to hear. And if not that we can get them assistance, there. So hearing is one component of communication. And then we have language, and under language, we break that down even further, right? We have receptive language: what does your child understand? And we have expressive language: how does your child express themselves to other, you know, with other people? And then we have speech. And speech is one component of expressive language, but speech is the actual physical, motor act of talking, right? So you can have a child who has both an expressive language delay and a speech delay. Or the speech could be intact, but they could just have an expressive language delay. I think there are a lot of people who think that speech and language are the same thing. And that’s where you and I, as you know, when we were talking about speech-language development, it’s so important to recognize that they’re not the same thing. Speech is a motor act, right? Language is this global way of expressing and having interactions, communicative interactions, with other people. And so they’re not the same thing and language develops before speech, right? So it’s very… And the other thing that I think is so tough is separating out expressive and receptive language. It’s very hard to separate them, right? So when we talk about children who are struggling with language development, we always want to look at how much does your child understand are they following directions? You know, we really want to make sure that receptive language is strong because it’s pretty hard to talk about something that you don’t understand, right? So that receptive language is an important component, there. And so when we really look at that umbrella of communication, we want to consider early language development. We want to consider, you know, speech development, and we want to consider hearing. And then we kind of want to look at, you know, pragmatics – or just those social components of language, things like eye contact and turn-taking and some of those. So, you know, we could talk for hours about that, but I think… Ayelet: Right – that’s a whole other episode! Cari: It really is! But when we talk about the birth to three population, really just in general, talking about early language development is appropriate, because that encompasses speech, too. You know, speech is a component of expressive language. So I really like to just give parents strategies on ways to support early language development. And then if we find there are actual speech concerns, you know, then we can, make more, really dive deeper into specific strategies for speech development. But that term late talker, you know, it’s a tough term. There, there are different – Hanen has a specific definition of a late talker. When we talk about, you know, children who are late talkers, it’s usually that people say that because the child doesn’t have as many spoken words as we would think that they would have. And in some late talkers, you know, their receptive language is really strong. And it is just that they’re not saying the words, but it also can be that there is, you know, more of a global language delay that includes that receptive language as well. Ayelet: Mm-hmm, okay. So talking about how to actually support early speech and language, early communication development, we spoke a little bit before we actually started recording a little bit about how those strategies to support communication within the birth to three population within infants and toddlers, they are the same things that you would do with a child who is developing along that, you know, typical progression of development that we see within the milestone checklists that you get from your physician. And also they’re exactly the same strategies that we are going to be using with children who fall outside of the norm, right? And really it’s about, like you said, embedding these strategies…

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    What Conscious Parenting Is and Isn’t, with Brandi Jordan Mar 29, 2021
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    How Do We Define Conscious or Gentle Parenting? And Who is it For? On this episode of the Learn With Less® podcast, we sat down with Brandi Jordan, founder of the Cradle Company, a pregnancy and postpartum resource center. Brandi’s work as a consultant, a parenting group leader, and in-home practitioner has led her to develop a unique philosophy of gentle parenting techniques that are a pragmatic, practical, and healthy approach for the whole family. In 2018, Brandi also founded the National Association For Birth Workers of Color. Brandi is a board certified lactation consultant, pediatric sleep specialist, newborn care specialist, and postpartum doula. We discussed: Brandi’s personal and professional background, and how she came to do the work she’s doing todayWhat are “conscious parenting” and “gentle parenting” – and who are these parenting philosophies for?How can parents and caregivers become more conscious about their own parenting choices?Brandi’s top tips and resources for parenting in a more conscious way, self-care strategies, and asking for what you need Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Calmer, Easier, Happier Parenting: Five Strategies That End the Daily Battles and Get Kids to Listen the First Time, by Noel Janis-Norton The Big Leap, by Gay Hendricks Learn With Less® Caregiver & Me Classes (for families with infants and/or toddlers) Using the Language of Listening With Infants and Toddlers, with Tracy Cutchlow (Learn With Less® podcast episode) How to Stop Yelling At Your Kids, with Amanda Rueter (Learn With Less® podcast episode) Connect With Us: Brandi: Website / Facebook / Instagram / Facebook Group Ayelet: Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest Text Transcript of This Episode: Ayelet: All right! Today, I am speaking with Brandi Jordan. Brandi has been helping new families grow, adjust, and find balance for almost two decades. Brandi is a board certified lactation consultant, pediatric sleep specialist, newborn care specialist, and postpartum doula. She holds a BA in child development, a master’s of social work from USC, where she is also adjunct faculty lecturing in the area of infant mental health and culturally competent mental health care. In 2009, she opened The Cradle Company, a pregnancy and postpartum resource center. Brandi’s work as a consultant, a parenting group leader, and in-home practitioner has led her to develop a unique philosophy of gentle parenting techniques that are a pragmatic, practical, and healthy approach for the whole family. And in 2018, Brandi founded the National Association of Birth Workers of Color. Brandi, thank you so much for being here. Welcome to Learn With Less. Brandi: Hello! Thank you so much for having me! Ayelet: Well today, we are going to be talking a whole lot about tips for parents, what conscious and gentle parenting are, things like that, but I would love it if you could start, I gave the sort of “formal “introduction, but I’d love to tell our listeners a bit more about your background and really how you came to do the work that you are doing today. Brandi: So, I came to this very much differently than most people. So when I was 19, I was home from the summer from Texas originally, you know, you’ve kind of, I was trying to figure out what I really wanted to be doing. And I was in my car and NPR came on and it was talking to this old-timey career called midwifery. And so I was like, what is this? What is it like, I need to know everything. And so I don’t know if it was me going online or look looking at a yellow pages back then, whatever we had back then. But I cold called the interviewer, who for whatever reason, allowed a 19 year old to come and train with them. And I kind of just like found my space in life, but I was also 19, and I was like, who the heck is going to hire someone who’s 19 to be their doula or whatever. And so I kind of put out of my mind, but I knew I wanted to work with families. And so I went down the child development track. That next year I moved to LA to finish my studies, and I moved next door to the Hollywood Birthing Center, I would say, not by chance, but had them as my neighbor. And so I was like, okay, maybe I should do something with this. And so I took a formal doula training in 2001 and just found my calling with parents and with families. While I was doing the academic side of like getting, you know, a bachelor’s degree getting a master’s degree, it was also working inside the home, doing doula work and just seeing, you know, I didn’t have children of my own back then. And so I was kind of just seeing like what people were learning, what they were doing, and matching that up to how I was parented and kind of having this idea of like, what do I want to take with me on that journey that I learned in my own childhood? What do I want to, you know, take away and then had my first in 2007 and kind of went down this path of like, how do we connect more, be more gentle to ourselves and to our children, and kind of do it in a way that’s actually practical. That makes sense for all of the pressure that we do have on ourselves, as modern parents. Ayelet: Here, here. Love it. Well, let’s talk a little bit about these terms, you know, conscious parenting, gentle parenting. Let’s talk a little bit about what conscious parenting is and also what it isn’t, because I think these, this is like such a important conversation. I think parents, caregivers today, we hear these terms being thrown around. These are terms that certain people have like created and then run with. And then it’s, you know, this thing and in the parenting ether. And I think it would be nice to just hear your definition in your own words and from your own experiences as both a parent and a professional. Can you give us a little bit of a definition of about what you understand about this whole world? Brandi: Yeah. So I feel like conscious parenting is such a loaded word, but it’s kind of one of the things that… We use it because it gives people kind of an idea what we’re talking about. But I think when people think of that, they’re thinking of like any of these super woo-woo parents who do yoga and who are vegan and most likely White, you know? And so there’s a lot of connotations when we think about parenting. And I use that term because I know that people have this idea that it’s kind of this parenting from the inside out, but I’m hoping that we change when we think about that word, that it has more global, diversified connotation of just people who are trying to get closer to the parents they wanted to be before they had kids. I think we all have this idea of like the perfect parents we’re going to be before we had children. And then reality sets in… Ayelet: Oh my gosh. Especially those like professionals among us, right? Who have always worked with families, but… Brandi: Yeah. But I think it’s this idea that like you realize how imprinted your own journey of parenting is like on a cellular level. And it’s kind of being really conscious of that and figuring out, you know, what is, what parts of this is serving me and helping me to create the relationship I want my children and what part isn’t. And the idea that it’s conscious. It’s more that you have to be intentional about it. It’s not something that just saying like, I’m going to be conscious is going to work. It’s like the actual intentional of like, what is your story? Like, what things did you love about the way that you were parented? What things were missing in that equation and how do you make a turn if you want to, with your own children, and the idea that it has to be something that you actually think about, talk about, make a plan for, and falter many times. But that’s what I think about when I think about conscious parenting. And my goal is that people start to look at it differently, like being a conscious parent doesn’t mean that you’re it’s, you know, letting your kid do everything. It doesn’t mean permissiveness. It doesn’t mean that you have to be this, like, you know, a person who’s made it to this place of enlightenment, you know, like I use lots of F-bombs and I’m still a conscious parent! You know, I try with my children, but, you know, it’s this idea that you have to be like this Yogi who’s mindful and never, you know, loses their temper. It’s not perfection, is what I really would get across. It’s really flawed people that we are trying to be better for our children. And to me that’s conscious parenting. Yeah. Ayelet: So, so many important points to unpack there and to think about! I do want to hit on something that you did say, which I think is really important. And especially for our listeners who come from a very wide variety of backgrounds, whether they are based in the US, based in the quote unquote “rest of the world,” whether they are diverse in race and culture and ability level and all of those, you know, power holding spaces. I want to just touch upon that, what you said about how we think of White families when we think of conscious parenting. And I, I think that’s really interesting and I think it’s totally true that, in general, the White parenting world has become this ubiquitous… Like yes, that’s the like, place that everyone thinks that we aspire to or something. And I would like to just hear in your words, what about conscious parenting do you think is reflective of Whiteness and white society and white parenting? Brandi: I think there’s a couple of, like, I will just say in quotations “parenting philosophies” or groups that have kind of coined terms, you know, that create this kind of social status in parenthood, you know, whether it be that you have some kind of, you know, monopoly on attachment or monopoly on consciousness, whatever, and it becomes this kind of way to like, you know, “we’re doing this and they’re doing that.” And it also, it has a condescending flavor to it that like we’re more R.I.E. We’re more like “in the know,” because we’re doing these practices with our children. And I think a lot of those organizations, or those groups tend to have a large, you know, White parent following, of people who tend to be middle to upper middle class, following those. And so it, in some ways becomes a very reflective of, especially in the United States, it’s very reflective of what parenting circles look like. You know, we have to have and have nots like that are going to these circles. And so I think that creates a little bit of a condescending nature. Like, you know, I was at a park once and I remember her mom like going around and asking everyone if they, if their kid wanted a parsley snack and I was like, no kid wants a fucking parsley snack, but, you know, I could tell, to her, it seemed like a really like “arrived” and my kid doesn’t eat sugar. My kid doesn’t have this or that and she talked about it about the park and it’s like, you know, I think it’s great if that works for your family and it’s great for your DNA and your own biodiversity of food. And that makes you guys feel strong and healthy. But in some ways we use it as, as kind of like badge of honor. And I think we see that in a lot of different places when it comes to parents of, you know, differing backgrounds, that there is kind of a segregation that happens. And so I think that’s why a lot of people, when they hear that they kind of think like, Oh, that’s for rich White parents, it isn’t for us. And my goal is that I want both BIPOC parents and White parents to see that there is a place for them in conscious parenting, because it means that we are treating our children with respect, that we’re giving them their space to become who they should be and not something that like we left on the table and want to get it through our kids. And I think if, if we don’t make that distinction and we keep it divided, that there’s a lot of kids who are going to suffer in that, you know, and I don’t want it to be the social status. It should be that we’re all striving to create a space that is more just, and more gentle for our kids. But I think, you know, like so many conversations that we need to have in the United States, there has to be one around parenting and what that support looks like and what it looks like for, you know, all people. Ayelet: Yes, absolutely. Well, I think so much of what the conversation tends to be within circles of parents, of all kinds. It becomes divisive, right? It’s so easy to get, to get two parents, whether they look exactly the same or whether they look totally different or whether they came from totally similar backgrounds or not, together. And it’s really hard. I think for many parents to see the commonalities, especially in those early days, when you’re overwhelmed, you’re trying to make the quote unquote “best” decision for your child and for your family, it can feel very divisive. And I think you and I are, are both working towards this community approach of look when we get each other together, when we provide these supports, when we provide, you know, knowledge and education around intentional practices, whether that’s, you know, parenting, whether that has to do with, with breastfeeding or sleep or child development or how we engage our children in play all of those things. When we bring people together to sort of observe each other, observe their children, figure out what’s happening… We find that families tend to say, Oh, okay, this is happening for you, or that’s not happening for you. Or I never had to deal with that. My goodness, how great that I finally got to understand that that’s something that you think about every day, for instance. So I just, I thank you for that. And I think it’s… I, in my own personal opinion and thoughts like community is how we move through this. All of it, right. Is, is looking at those commonalities and those divisions and helping each other, understand what, what life looks like for somebody else, Brandi: Right. I’d just like to add, you know, parenting is probably one of the greatest cultural expressions that we have. And so, you know, when we have these rules that are set for people, like you have to do this when your kid is misbehaving and you should be doing this, you cut out, you know, the way that different cultures deal with those things. When you have this kind of like one size fits all to parenting, which so many of these, like, you know, parenting philosophies or things that people are following. And it definitely cuts out like the cultural part that is important, the values that are gonna be different from family to family. And it’s figuring out how do you get all that inside of it while still being gentle? And I think that’s kind of, what’s been missing. Ayelet: Oh gosh, gosh, yes. So let’s, let’s move. A little bit into some, some useful tips from you about how to do that practically on a day-to-day basis when you and I spoke previously in preparation for this discussion, you were talking about how, yeah. Like, how do we do this in this not, you know, this is not just breathing through it. Like how do I actually get my toddler to put their shoes on in the morning? So I would love to hear a few of your, you know, best favorite, useful tips for practical strategies using gentle parenting and conscious type parenting approach. Brandi: Yeah. I mean, the first thing that I would say is that we often, you know, look for these formulas, and we skip over like the easiest, most basic things, the simple things that we just feel like aren’t going to work. And it’s, it sounds so simple when you’re telling someone that, but it’s like, but did you do that? Like, no, you actually didn’t. And so, you know, I think about for young children, I think that’s probably a stressful stage for so many of us. I have a teenager and young kids, you know, so I’m in all the stages at three, five and 13. And so particularly when I’m working with clients with younger children, they’re dealing with a lot of like big emotions. Like they’…

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    What is a Play Schema and How Can it Help Me Support my Baby or Toddler, With Lina Richards Mar 08, 2021
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    What are the different types of play? On this episode of the Learn With Less podcast, we sat down with Lina Richards, an early childhood educator and family support worker. Lina mentors caregivers serving infants and toddlers as well as providing play experiences for children and their families who have been approved for supportive services via Early Steps. She is the proud mother of twin girls and a military spouse. We discussed: Lina’s personal and professional background, and how she came to do the work she’s doing todayWhy play looks “different” at different developmental stagesWhat is a play “schema” and why is it useful for parents and caregivers to understand these?Lina’s top 3 tips and resources for supporting a young child’s learning through play Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Mudbugs Early Learning Facebook Group, hosted by Lina Richards Learning Through Play: How to Recognize Play Schemas from handmadeplaces.co.uk Raising Human Beings, by Ross W. Greene, Ph.D. The Whole-Brain Child, by Dan Siegel, M.D., and Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D. Connect With Us: Lina: Facebook Ayelet: Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest Text Transcript of This Episode: Ayelet: Today, I am speaking with Lina Richards. Lina is an early childhood educator and family support worker. Lina mentors caregivers serving infants and toddlers, as well as providing play experiences for children and their families who have been approved for supportive services via early steps. She is the proud mother of two twin girls, and a military spouse. Lina, welcome to Learn With Less! We’re so happy to have you here. Lina: Thank you. Happy to be here. Ayelet: Excellent. Well, I’ve asked you today to come onto the show to speak to us about play (one of my favorite subjects), and specifically what is a play schema? But first we want to just hear a little bit about you. Why don’t you tell us a little bit about, you know, how you got into the work that you’re doing? Lina: Well, I’ve had a long, very different career. I don’t tend to stay places very long… So, I went into the military and from there, I always kinda knew I wanted to work with children and families. And so I went into nursing, but that wasn’t my thing. So obviously, I went back to teaching. Once I had my daughters, they were two. I stayed home with them from the time they were one years old to two years old. And then I was like, okay, time for you to go to school and me to go to school. I went back to college and pursued getting a bachelor’s degree that allowed me to work in early childhood education. Ayelet: Amazing, amazing. And I’m sure that journey has had lots of different definitions and has looked many different ways, as well. And it’s, it’s great to be able to support other families as well, especially once you’ve become a parent yourself, because you can feel like, you know, how important it is and how helpful it can be. Lina: Oh, yes, my mom was an educator, so education was always a foundation for me. She always encouraged that, we’d be in the libraries and we’re always learning. So it was natural for me to pursue education. Ayelet: Awesome. That’s so great. Well, let’s dig right in. Tell us a bit about why play really looks different at different developmental stages? That’s like a huge question, but I would just love your take on, you know, tell us, break it down a little bit for us about, you know, obviously I think many parents and caregivers come into parenthood thinking, okay, we’ll play is like, you play a game, you know, you run around the field and you play that or you read a book and you read it from front to back. And that’s how we as adults conceptualize play. But obviously that’s not what it looks like to play, especially with an infant or a toddler. So tell us a little bit about what those sort of early developmental stages and what play might look like in different ways. Lina: So when I was thinking about this question, I was thinking about as adults, we should still be playing! So I think over the years, when I look at how I’ve played, it’s changed. What I read, what I read has changed when I was going to nursing school, I read murder mystery books. And, you know, I focused on games that had something to do with nursing. So I, I feel like just like with adults, children are going, their interests are going to vary as they grow and they change. So I’ve had three, I had two different ideas and my, you know: children are different. They’re unique and they have different ways to explore just like we have different ways to explore, ourselves. So we need to honor that, like I just said, I went from one interest to another interest in all the years that I’ve been alive on this earth based on what interests me in that particular moment. So I think with children, we have to follow them with what interests them in that different moment. And then when you think about children with developmental delays, they’re going to need more time. They’re going to need more support in, in developing what they are enjoying. And I always feel like we need to meet children where they’re at, just like we meet adults where they’re at, we need to meet children where they’re at. So those, when we talk about the schemas of play, it’s very important to provide them an environment that’s going to be interesting and engaging to them. I frequently see questions on different sites that I’m on that say, well, you know, I need some ideas for play for children, six to 12 [months]. It’s not that easy, right. If it was that easy, I don’t know, there’d be a book out there and people would be buying it. But I just, it’s just that I feel like you have to tailor it to meet the needs of the kids, just like anything else. We want people to tailor to our needs as well, as adults, we needed to look for the children. Totally agree. Ayelet: And I think the, the real word that stuck out to me in how you answered that question was the word exploration, right? Because that, that is, it that’s – that is play, right? Especially for children and certainly for adults. And I think it’s such a good point that you bring up. Like, we lose sight of that. We, we define like, as adults, we think of procedural things that we have to get done. And we forget that exploration and just time with an object or in a place or with a person is so valuable! And it’s not about, you know, getting something done or specifically targeting a skill. Like if that happens, awesome. And it probably will, but like, if you give your child, I like to have something on hand. So I’m holding up a funnel. If you hand, just a small, everyday safe, obviously, household objects and you see how they explore – that is going to be a whole lot of learning, right there. And it may not be what you came into the activity, you know, expecting, but it’s certainly, there are ways to, to help your child integrate learning and to do the learning of the day based on how you’re talking to them, how you’re playing with them, how you’re exploring the object, or just talking about the object or giving the space and opportunity. So I just, I love, I love everything you said about that. So let’s hear a little bit about, as you mentioned, what is a play schema and really, why is it useful for parents and caregivers to understand what these are? Lina: Okay. So I recently not even a year ago, discovered the list and I think I have put it on your site and a response to a question someone asked from your group, and this – it comes from Britain. Everything comes good from overseas, for some reason. But anyways, there’s nine schemes of play. And I didn’t really know about the schemas as myself working in education, but I kind of, you know, I didn’t know there was a name I knew that kids need certain ways and they had certain interests. So this chart has been really helpful and beneficial and I enjoy stirring this chart and encourage you maybe to post it somewhere yourself so that your members can see it. Ayelet: We’ll definitely link to it in the, in the show notes of this episode. For sure. Yeah. Image Credit: www.handmadeplaces.co.uk Lina: Good. So there’s nine scheme as a play and I’ll just briefly go over them. I’m not going to go into detail if you put that up there. So the first one is orientation, then there’s positioning, connection, trajectory, which is the throwing of things, and transporting, moving from one basket to another basket, or as my friends like to say, “dumping it into the toilet or dumping it into my coffee cup!” And then there’s enveloping where they’re hiding underneath blankets or going in tents. I was at a visit yesterday and I had a friend that kept burrowing underneath the cushion of the couch. I was like, it seems like he’s trying to find somewhere to hide. You know, he wants to go burrow like a little animal would. Rotation, those children that like to spin and, and go on the swings and stuff like that. I think my group, I mentioned that I’m not a big spinner. I love roller coasters, but if you put me on a spinny ride, I don’t like that. So you have those kids that enjoy spinning. And then you have transformation, which is more like your mixing, cooking and baking – those kids that like to do those things, experiment yesterday I had some neighbors over, we made homemade play-dough. So you have those, and then you have enclosure, which is kind of similar to the enveloping, where they like to go into things and maybe in the boxes and make tools with boxes or those kinds of things. Ayelet: Yeah. Well, just hearing about these different, you know, the names, these different kinds of play it. I think it’s very helpful as an adult and even just as an educator and like you were saying, you know, it, it’s just nice to hear the words for things, because it gives a word to describe everything that you’ve seen before as an educator, or a therapist, and, and as a parent. And because that is, it’s so useful when you say like, these are things that happen. And again, we don’t necessarily see these things develop in order, but it’s definitely, it definitely develops over time and on some type of trajectory, can you speak a little bit to that, Lina? Lina: Sure, well we’re going to bounce around in our interests. You know, just like I said earlier, I haven’t had the same interests in the 40 some years that I’ve been alive on this planet, you know, and, and even as an adult, there’s things in these schemas that I enjoy. So I would say, you know, when you’re little, when you’re baby newborn, you’re going to be more in, you know, just basic you’re on the floor. And you’re maybe getting into that rolling stage. You might be pulling that blanket over your head, you know, playing that peek-a-boo those kinds of things. So that’s kind of like your enclosure, your enveloping. Your toddlers, they’re going to be into, you know, that trajectory, throwing everything. They’re going to be into the transporting, the connection piece, the mix, the transformation, those are going to be your older toddlers. So I, I feel like, but like I said, you’re going to vary maybe a month, you might be in one thing, maybe two months, you might be in another, it could be a year. You might be in something. So it just, you kind of what I like to tell the parents that I’ve talked to is you have to be a detective, just sit back, watch, ’em watch how they’re playing, just with anything in the home. Or you can set up something, put out some kitchen gadgets and see how they explore with them. And just sit back and watch ’em, take some notes. And, you know, just set up that play experience that it’s a guest play experience that you’re not going to have to tell them no, just sit and watch them and see what they do with the materials. You don’t always have to be in there. Oh, you got to do it this way. You got to do it that way. Just watch them, you know, see what interests them, take notes. If they like to throw things, you know, offer something that they can throw. Instead of always saying, no, no, no, no, you can’t throw this. You can’t throw that. You know, give them some socks to throw, give them some cotton balls or give them, you know, something that they can do so that you can encourage that type of play. Ayelet: Yes. Because it is play and it is learning and it’s all valuable. And, and I think it’s so helpful to hear that this is something that it’s not just your kid, who’s throwing things. It’s not just your kid, who’s dumping things into the toilet or dumping all of the books off of the shelf. Like number one, that’s early literacy. And number two, like it’s how they are learning about like, they are these tiny scientists and they are learning about how heavy something is and how much force it takes to move one thing to another place. And all of those things – that’s learning, right? It’s not holding up, holding up a flashcard and saying, what’s this, it’s figuring it out. It’s tactile education. It’s, it’s all of those things. And I want to hear a few of your great tips to help parents to figure out how they can get started or reframe their thinking into doing those kinds of things in just a second. But first we’re going to take a brief break and hear a word from our sponsors. And then we’ll hear some of those great tips and resources from Lina about what you can do to support your child’s learning through play. Okay. Lina, we would love to hear if you have three top tips or just any of your favorite tips for helping parents to do what it is you just explained and we just talked about, about, you know, sitting back and exploring and letting them play. What does that look like? What, what are some things that parents can do to sort of support that reframe for themselves and feel confident that they’re doing enough and doing it right. Lina: Right. I think the main thing for us, it’s like you said, our society is so rush rush, and in the developmental milestones, they, they become overwhelming to caregivers. You know, you want your child to be meeting these milestones, but I think the thing about milestones is they’re just guidelines. Don’t put so much pressure on the guidelines. I firmly believe that children bloom when they’re ready. I’ve worked with children with developmental and they were just so awesome. You know, they have gifts that other children might not necessarily have – all our kids have gifts. So we need to take the time and relax and study them and watch, watch, just watch them and see what their interests are and not worry so much about, Oh, they didn’t do X, Y, and Z in the physical domain or the motor domain or the whatever else. You know, your child has probably has strengths in other areas. Maybe they’re just really loving and kind, and they got those social, emotional skills down. So I just, I feel like we just need to read and watch them and let them develop in who they are. Just like, I would want someone that I work with to let me develop and, and not rush me along and realize that, you know, I have strengths and commend me for those strengths specifically, praise me for those strengths and meet me where I’m at when I don’t, you know, give me those baby steps. I know with our age range, that zero to three, it’s not always easy to come in and, and I guess give them the opportunity to use their voice. But even if they’re non-verbal, they have a way to communicate. They can point to this or point to that. So respecting their voice, even if they don’t have a voice, right. Ayelet: However, they’re using their, their own modes of communication, whether it’s looking at something or moving towards something, if they’re not even at that pointing phase yet. Right. Yeah. I love that. And I love Lina, how you bring it back to, like, what would I want? Lina: Yeah. Ayelet: It’s so obvious when you think about it that way. And I think as a society, we don’t often regard young children in that same way. So thank you for that. I think it’s so important. And I think it’s so im…

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    How to Use Your Skills as an Educator or Therapist to Serve Families Holistically as a Parent Educator, with Allie Glazer Jan 27, 2021
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    She wanted to expand her scope and create more parent coaching, parent training, and parent education opportunities in her community Over the last few weeks, I’ve been sharing a lot with you about the value and benefits of leading caregiver / baby “parent & me” style family enrichment classes or workshops. As educators or therapists who serve infant and toddler families or who have an educational or professional background in a field related to early child development, we know that our job is much more than simply helping babies and toddlers develop new skills. We know the exponential impact we can make when we serve families holistically in our own communities. If you haven’t yet downloaded my free Caregiver/Baby Classes roadmap, I invite you to do so today at learnwithless.com/roadmap. Today, I want to share the story of a licensed Learn With Less® facilitator who I’ve had the pleasure of working with in the last year. I’d like to introduce you to Allie, who is a pediatric speech-language pathologist. She’s been working with infant and toddler families in early intervention for several years, and fell in love with the population – she loves the home coaching, the flexibility, the parent empowerment, and, as she stated, “learning from my clients as much as they were learning from me.” When she first learned about the Learn With Less® Facilitator Training & Certification program [a parent educator training and certification program], Allie felt that it could be a great way to expand her scope, and to have a different kind of interaction with families than the 1:1 therapeutic sense. She’d been approached multiple times (and mind you, this was pre-pandemic) by families wanting overall support for early learning, community, and language development, even – or especially – if they didn’t have significant developmental delays. She knew there were plenty of kids slipping through the cracks for therapeutic services, and that families with children of all developmental levels were looking for support from a knowledgable professional. Before she signed up, Allie did have some reservations and skepticisms. She wondered whether this was a program that could actually help her pivot in her career, and refresh her professional perspective. Upon completion of the training program, Allie wrote, “the program went above and beyond in content, evidence based support and scope of support and content. I’m so excited to review, tie the pieces together, and try it out.” It’s one thing for me to read her words… but I’d rather you hear directly from Allie. Allie and I work together in the group each month, where certified facilitators get continued support and coaching. She was kind enough to sit down with me to chat about what she’s doing now, how it’s going for her, and share with you the kind of impact the Learn With Less® Facilitator Training & Certification Program is having on her life. I do want to say that when she refers to modules, she’s referring to the 6 modules within our training program, which provide training around foundational areas licensed facilitators need to utilize the program effectively. Connect With Us Ayelet: Facebook / Instagram / Pinterest Allie: Website / Facebook / Instagram Related Resources in This Episode Learn With Less® Stories: Podcast episodes and other interviews from educators who’ve provided the Learn With Less® infant/toddler family enrichment curriculum and families who’ve experienced our programming. Learn With Less® Facilitator Training & Certification Program: Use your existing skills as an educator or therapist to serve families holistically with a high quality program that will provide lasting impact! Apply now to become a licensed facilitator Learn With Less®. Caregiver/Baby Classes Roadmap (free download for educators and therapists curious about leading “parent & me” style classes and finding a parent educator training or certification program) Text Transcript of This Episode Ayelet: So you have been you’re out there. You’re doing it. It’s so great. I like love seeing it so fun. I’m proud of you. That’s really… Allie: You were a big inspiration for that! The whole, the whole, uh, modules [training program] like kickstarted my fire. And I think for me, COVID was like, I wouldn’t have done this if COVID weren’t happening, I would just be doing my normal day to day. Ayelet: That’s so fun, so, okay. That’s fascinating. Tell me more, what makes you say that? That’s so interesting. Allie: Uh, not driving all the time. Every 15 to like 30 minutes between sessions certainly frees up a lot of time. Ayelet: Doesn’t it? And mind space, too! Allie: Yeah. So I think having more, more time to like be, and even if I’m like, I’m not super productive about it, it’s not like, okay, I’ve got 15 minutes. I’m going to like, here’s my one thing on the to-do list, I’m just gonna crank out. I think it’s, it is the mind space and it is having the, um, being in one space more often allows me to explore, explore my goals in different ways. And I think the, the modules [of the training program] were extremely focused and since I could do them at my own pace, like it was a topic to think about until I did the next one and in addition to it, you know, for me, it was very focused and without the pressure of having to act on it right in that moment, because I think for, for me earlier on like this year has been crazy in a lot of different ways, but it also gave me a lot of space to think about my own professional development and what I wanted from it versus just maintaining a caseload and maybe taking CEU’s in an area that I like wanting to get better in. And that would have been my goal for the year, had I not pivoted to teletherapy, had I not developed this whole new coaching reign and also had kind of a push in my caseload changing so much in that format to be able to entertain the idea of taking on groups and trying something outside of the speech therapy thing. Cause I was always curious about it beforehand, but like didn’t have the capacity and didn’t have the, the resources to really develop that. Ayelet: Totally. That’s awesome. Allie: Yeah. So like a silver lining of COVID is that now I’m doing these classes and got to take the module and like all that good stuff. Or maybe I would have, it just would’ve been a lot harder or it would have been a lot slower. Ayelet: Right. Well, I mean you had, you had number one, you had already signed up for the training program before COVID so you already knew you were interested in doing this, but it sounds like, you know, it was kind of the, the idea of like, well, I’ll, I’ll start, I’ll start it. I’ll get my mind around it and then I’ll do it someday when I can do it versus like, Oh actually this is the perfect time to do it. How many classes have you led now? Allie: I have done one, one paid one a month. Since October. I believe October was my first paid one. Ayelet: That’s great. It’s so, it’s so good. I mean, I’ve been doing virtual classes since 2017, so it’s like, I know there’s a need, people all have always want, wanted to not have to get out of their homes to go when they have a new baby or whatever, a toddler, nap, schedules, all of that. So what, Oh, okay. Well just to gratify me, what’s been going well. And what have been the challenges for you so far? Allie: Yeah, I think for me developing the confidence to explore different, different types of advertising and different wording and different, like, calls to action. I, I really appreciate like the streamlined, “this is what you need.” Once I had my central hub of like, this has all the stuff I need to send out, like that’s been awesome. And I feel like I’m prepped for it. The families are prepped for it. I haven’t… There was only one time for my, one of my first demo classes where the family was like, Oh, were we supposed to do something? And I was like, Nope, don’t worry. We’ll do it now. But everything else has been pretty smooth. And in terms of getting the families who are interested and they sign up, they’re feeling the flow of the classes has been pretty good. Feedback has been pretty good. So I think the tools that you gave us about the pre the post-class surveys are awesome and things to think about through the reflective coaching and the group call that, where you gave me more feedback. So yeah, I think those, those have been the strengths. So just, like, people are getting so much out of it. And I, I was hoping that they would, but I also was like, okay, don’t like, don’t get too hopeful. It’s still a still pandemic. It’ll, it’ll be great. But maybe not that great, but like, it’s awesome. Ayelet: So yeah. Well, I would love you to share just from, you know, what you remember, like, what are some of the things that, that have really stood out to you? As far as the feedback that you’ve gotten? Allie: One of my, my toddler demo class, one of the moms was like, I, we just, we, we, we know the regular songs, but we don’t think to sing about other things. And, and this was just written feedback from her. And I’m like, and she, I think she said something was, that was like, we can just sing throughout the day. And my daughter loved it, or like somebody else was like, we haven’t ever built a fort with my two year old. And it’s just those, those things that I, you know, I, I was thinking of like, Oh, everybody’s already tried this already because you’re providing it… It gives them a safe space to practice instead of just thinking about it. And there was another one that was feedback from my first infant class with like, I just never think to use mailers. I never think to use junk mail and like that again, it was one of those things of, Oh, you must have already tried this. Why are we talking about it? It’s because we’re provided with space to do it. Yeah. So that’s my reinforcement for it too, is every time I’m like, Oh, this seems like a really, but I, again, I like have to, I talk myself out and into it. Of like, it, it seems like a really simple suggestion and I don’t want to insult anybody by suggesting something I think they’ve made already tried, but most of the time… They, they may have tried it and it’s either gone really well or they tried it and it went terribly. So they don’t want to try it again, or they haven’t even tried it at all. It’s like, those are usually the three options. It’s not usually like, you know, we, we try it once in a while and it goes really well. And then we never do it again. Ayelet: No. Right. I mean, or, or, and if they do, then they’re like, Oh right. I appreciate the reminder that I’ve… Because we did that a few months ago and like, Oh yeah, that’s right. That went really well. And I’m going to do it again. And now I know that it’s actually supporting this area of development. Like how, how important, how great. Yeah. Yeah. I feel like we hear that, we hear that all the time as facilitators that like, Oh, right! Like, it’s such a good reminder of, even if it’s something that you already do, like, feels like it’s a validation, right? I mean, I think you had written about the feedback that you got… I think from one parent was like, this was exactly what I needed: the confidence and reassurance. Like, that’s it. And like for parents and caregivers, especially like during a pandemic, when you already feel guilty that you’re not doing enough, not going places, not having the social time, all of that, like giving families that sense of like, Oh, I am very capable and I am, I feel empowered with the knowledge that I can do these things. Like, that’s a gift! That’s awesome. Allie: I don’t think we should discount… We shouldn’t discount that either, because that’s something I wasn’t, as… I wasn’t expecting to be as powerful as it is. Ayelet: Huge. It’s huge. Yeah. Oh, good. What about some challenge? What’s… what’s been more difficult? Allie: Yeah… I think my challenge is marketing to get enough people in a class. And I haven’t deep dived into trying a lot of different strategies all at once, because right now, my goal is to do one class a month through the end of the year. And I’ve already got one scheduled for December and I’m going to meet my goal and I’m really excited about that. But the, the two to three person group has felt pretty good. I also remember doing a five person group and that felt crazy, but awesome. Ayelet: Was that with toddlers? Allie: Yeah, that was with toddlers. Ayelet: Yeah! It’s a whole different energy. Allie: Yeah. So getting… accessing more people who are ready to sign up for a group. And I don’t know if that’s like, if they’re not connecting with my marketing posts, if I need to try, like snazzing them up in a certain way, if it’s just that, like, it’s, it’s a hard time right before the holidays to try anything new. So… Ayelet: It’s also a numbers game. And again, like you said, you’ve been trying new things that you’ve never done before… and you’ll continue to go down the route of things that like we’ve talked about in the marketing module and that we continue to talk about in the coaching strategies that we do every month, and stuff like that. And I’m just so happy that you have not let that hinder you. You haven’t stopped, you’re getting the experience, there’s not a whole lot of overhead costs for you, either, and that’s great! Because then you get this amazing feedback from the families that you are serving, and you get to go forward and get the experience. And that’s fantastic! Allie: I also, I set, my goal was to set, set my fees so that one person doing one class would pay for my zoom membership. And that’s like, that’s all I need for the month to not only get the practice, but also be like, okay, I can, I’m covering some expenses with this. Ayelet: And then a little more! Allie: And then a little more, yeah, right on. There was also… yeah. And I’m gearing up to do a little more outreach to like pediatricians and agencies. I’ve, I’ve got some ideas brewing. I’m not ready to, to make gung ho on them yet, but I think just kind of developing the confidence to entertain those ideas and then make motions on them based on the stuff that you’ve given us in the modules is.. but that’ll open up. Ayelet: All right, let’s be clear! You have been, you have been teaching classes with like a, quite a small audience and doing it and you haven’t even reached out to like your local resources. Like that’s huge. You’re… Number one, you’re fearless. And number two, like you you’ve just been doing it and that’s great. And you have so many more resources at your fingertips that you can move forward with. Allie: Yeah! Ayelet: Good. I would love to know also just like a perception change that you’ve had now that you’ve actually started doing the classes? Allie: It gets easier with practice. Yep. That’s for sure. I think that the nerves are so powerful the first few classes that you do. It’s, it’s like inhibitory of just having that feeling of like, am I going to, and I think I posted about this in the group of like, am I going to feel like this every single time? Oh my God, I hope not. And it gets better. I feel like I’ve also been, and this is really in terms of the feedback that you’ve given me about like not making it the “Allie Show,” it’s gotten a lot easier to facilitate, interaction with other members just by like pivoting the questions back to them. And I, and I think that even before I was starting the module two, I was trying to figure out how to not only be the therapist in these, in these moments. And so I think that took some work to, to take off that hat, but it, it has been really empowering to shift into more of the supportive, encouraging role in addition to informant and really remembering that like the goal is not for them to come on, only focus on me telling them things like this, isn’t a webinar, this isn’t, this isn’t a, you know, a class that they’re taking for credit. It is a chance for them to join and…

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    5 Reasons Why You Should Lead “Parent & Me” Classes For Infant & Toddler Families Jan 14, 2021
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    Supporting The Family As A Unit

    As an educator or a therapist of any kind, you know that parents and caregivers need to feel confident that they can support and connect with their new baby or toddler.

    As a professional working with families, the single most important thing that allows you to do your job effectively… is to support that CONNECTION between parent and child.

    You know that all parents and caregivers – regardless of where they come from, what language(s) they speak, or what socio-economic bracket under which they fall, ALL want the same thing for their child: to raise a great human and to have peace of mind they’re doing what they need to do to support their child.

    You also know that not all parents and caregivers come into parenthood knowing about how to support their children’s development, and many of them have a LOT of questions. They may rely on you as an educator or therapist to “fix their child” or “educate their child” for them, but many of them want to know more, want to “do it right” and “do it better.”

    You know that not all kids who need a bit of help are going to qualify for early intervention services.

    And finally, you know that ALL parents/caregivers – whether their children are developing within “normal” limits or whether they fall outside of the typical trajectory – could use the support and education involved in seeing how the magic in those mundane, everyday moments is the key to connection, the key to supporting their child’s development, and the key to raising a great human being – from day one.

    You Have the Knowledge and Ability

    Within the therapy room, you can support parents and caregivers alongside their children if you’re serving a child with delays, and if you can manage to get buy-in and engagement from the family. Within an early childcare setting, you can support the children by creating a language-rich, movement-rich, child-led environment to support open ended play…

    But still, you know you could be doing more to support the family unit as a whole.

    Still, there’s that niggling feeling that, with your knowledge about early child development and how to support the bond between caregiver and child… you could create truly enriching opportunities to help families from all backgrounds in your local area…

    And… you know could probably get paid to do it! You may have already started checking out the other offerings in your area. You may already be the person many of your friends and neighbors confide in or ask questions about development or behavior problems…

    The idea of leading “parent and me” groups or “sign language” classes or “early language development” workshops… may crossed your mind.

    And you may be tempted to put yourself out there and try something new…

    So I want to give you 5 reasons why leading “parent & me” style family enrichment classes is in your best interest as a professional working with families.

    Don’t forget to download my FREE Caregiver/Baby Classes Roadmap!

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    1. Promote parent education about play and development

    Whether you work with children who are developing along a typical progression, or who are experiencing developmental delays, you may be looking for additional tools to encourage parents and caregivers to understand their children and the stages they go through.

    As professionals working with families, I know many of us feel we’re often repeating suggestions and are often looking for more concrete suggestions for parents, as well as multiple ways or activities that they can do to address early learning.

    Leading caregiver/baby workshops allows you to establish a relationship quickly, gives all families access to fun and simple activity ideas they can learn to do to help their infants or toddlers thrive, and can provide them with suggestions they can take home and apply more generally – even if they’ve seen your examples in a therapy room or classroom setting as the only way to do things.

    You can help them see where their child’s development is, what their child is looking for, what their child is showing them, how they can respond to that to get their child to the next step – you can create a space that says, “this is a place where we can explore together.”

    2. Facilitate opportunities for early parent support

    Early parenthood can be incredibly isolating for families. Parents and caregivers don’t often have the opportunity to observe and reflect about their own challenges, or about their children in an organized, uplifting space.

    A group scenario that allows families to benefit from quality, developmentally enriching opportunities, adds a whole other layer of enrichment – as families can learn together and from one another.

    Often, bringing families together provides them with additional opportunities to build their own confidence and parental competence, and allows the facilitator to convey to parents that THEY are the agents of change in their household.

    It doesn’t matter where you come from or what economic level you’re at, everyone wants the best for their child – that’s universal! When you get groups of parents together that are of different backgrounds, it can be quite miraculous because everyone gets to learn together and from each other, and everyone gets their assumptions blown out of the water. Now, in order to be able to hold space for all kinds of people, you need to do the work on yourself to be able to do that responsibly.

    3. Establish yourself as a resource and leader in your local community

    As a therapist or educator, I’ll bet one of your biggest thrills or pleasures is giving families resources for other high quality supports that are community-based.

    What if you could create a natural transition for families to engage with you – and with other families – what if you could partner with other local organizations, and support families in new ways?

    As a therapist, you know that you can only do so much in your role as “expert” – or as an educator, you can create that learning environment for the child… but to be able to truly empower the whole family unit is a gift that keeps on giving.

    When we’re in a therapeutic or educational context, you’re often focusing on one specific skill that you’re trying to do. But in so doing, you’re also supporting all kinds of different things, we just don’t talk about that. The family enrichment class context provides the context for learning, exploring, observing, and scaffolding – for both the child and the adult! And you get to facilitate that!

    4. Earn an income

    You can earn or supplement an income, diversify your current offerings and practice, and supplement a maternity/paternity leave!

    You may have gone into the field you’re in because you’re passionate about working with children, dedicated to helping families, committed to the work of early childhood education, maternal mental health, or strengthening family relationships.

    You have a knowledge base that is valuable to others.

    And in this climate where we aren’t quite sure what’s coming around the corner, how we’re going to be serving our communities, or whether our industries or companies will survive a global pandemic…

    The ability to diversify one’s income streams and the ways in which we serve our families by sharing knowledge, imparting information, providing enriching experiences… the ability to introduce families to developmental concepts (supporting their babies with what they already have) not only in our primary functions as therapists or educators… that’s what creates freedom and true job satisfaction.

    5. Create a steady stream of clients for your other services

    When you help families bring more joy into their homes, when you create community by bringing families together, when you can foster early development and early parent support… you also build your own authority in your community. You can promote your other services through your classes – you can create and build a system that allows you to build your reputation in your community as a provider in the realm of early childhood and early parenthood, regardless of whether you’re wearing a “therapist” or “teacher” or “parent educator” or “facilitator” hat.

    My grandfather believed in the idea of “repotting” yourself – the idea of moving between industries or roles in life and in business, to remain inspired, and to keep oneself fresh. To never stagnate.

    When we repot ourselves by taking on new roles, we get to support families in different ways, towards the same end goal: connection. Because everyone wants the same thing: to connect and support their child and do the best that they can.

    Caregiver/Baby Classes Roadmap

    So whether you’re a new parent yourself, looking for extra income and a way to share your professional knowledge (as I was)…

    Whether you’re considering dipping your foot in the water and starting your own thing (private practice, your own small business)…

    Or whether you’re looking to expand your offerings within an existing practice…

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    I’ve created a new free resource that I’d love to share with you: a caregiver/baby classes roadmap, helping you discover how to promote parent education about play and development, facilitate opportunities for early parent support, establish yourself as a resource and leader, earn an income, and create a steady stream of clients for your other services.

    This roadmap will show you the six areas you’ll need to consider so the overwhelm of starting your own thing doesn’t stop you in your tracks before you even begin, and so you don’t have to reinvent the wheel when it comes to leading caregiver/baby classes in your local community.

    You can download that now by heading to learnwithless.com/roadmap

    Can’t wait to hear what you think!

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