Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

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Breaking Down Barriers to Healthy Love with Stefanos Sifandos Feb 08, 2023

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What is healthy love, and what can stand in the way of achieving it?

Transformational relationship coach Stefanos Sifandos is joining me for this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss the characteristics of healthy love and the five barriers that can stand in the way. He also shares his own journey from childhood trauma to struggling in relationships and the turning points in his life that led to healing.

In this episode, we dive into:

The turning point in Stef’s life that led to healing
The 5 Blocks to Love
When to throw in the towel in love
Divine femininity vs divine masculinity
The qualities of a healthy relationship

Stefanos Sifandos and his wife run a Breathwork for the Feminine event every month, but he also has a variety of coaching options for those looking to take that first step toward opening their heart to love. You can also follow him on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube to stay up-to-date on his work!

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Healing from Assault & Abuse in a Relationship Feb 01, 2023

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode includes references to sexual assault and abuse.

This week’s Language of Love Session is with a listener facing a devastating situation in her marriage. After recently sustaining sexual abuse by her husband, this listener and I sit in this heartbreaking situation together as she considers her next move in this marriage. We also discuss trauma she has not yet healed from and how she carries it with her every day.

If you’ve experienced assault or abuse, please know that those experiences are not your fault. You are deserving of safety, respect, and solid boundaries.

In this Session, we break down:

What assault is at its core
The ways narcissistic partners hurt us
How trauma in childhood informs our romantic choices
How to begin moving forward with somatic therapy

If you’re interested in finding a somatic therapist in your area, visit Somatic Experiencing International or The Hakomi Institute. For information and resources regarding sexual assault, visit RAINN.

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Female Ejaculation: Real or a Myth? Jan 30, 2023

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This week’s Language of Love Bite is all about female ejaculation. Some people believe it’s a myth, so I’m breaking down that misconception in today’s episode! A common belief is that your body releases urine when you orgasm, but that is not the case. There is a specific compound found in male and female ejaculation, and today, I want to talk about what’s actually happening in our bodies when we experience this.

In this Bite, I break down:

The difference between male and female ejaculation
The process of retrograde ejaculation
A few tips to ejaculate when you orgasm

You can always reach me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com or leave me a voicemail if you have any questions!

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Parenting in the Darkest Seasons with Kristina Kuzmic Jan 25, 2023

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How do we manage negativity and misery while still finding things to be grateful for? How do we pass these skills on to our children?

Kristina Kuzmic, writer, creator, and mother, is joining me today during today’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss personalized parenting for our children, how we can support them through their mental health struggles, and how to combat insecurity and uncertainty with grace. She is a big believer, as am I, in the power of authenticity and vulnerability in developing close relationships and unity.

She also unpacks her journey through her current profession, her early projects, the impact of her Wednesday Night Dinners, how she fosters gratitude through her “Yeah, but…” game, and her son’s dark season of depression.

In today’s episode, we discuss:

Why there is no “one size fits all” model for parenting
The subtle ways we label our children
Reframing traits that are categorized as “negative”
The power of authenticity
The impact of focusing on the things you CAN do
The “Yeah, but…” Game
Why shame is the shittiest motivator
Encouraging our children to prioritize their mental health
Parenting children who are struggling

Visit Kristina Kuzmic’s website, check out her book, Hold On, But Don’t Hold Still, and watch her YouTube video with her son to learn more about how they moved through that challenging and scary season.

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Assessing Your Inner Child’s Wants & Needs Jan 18, 2023

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What does it mean to shift a relationship that’s just not working? How do we reestablish independence and access our gifts while carrying childhood trauma?

This listener and I are breaking down these questions and assessing the state of her marriage in today’s Language of Love Session. It’s not uncommon for some people in long-term relationships to feel like their independence is tied to the presence of a partner – we almost revert to a child-like sense of ourselves. But we must teach our inner child to speak up for their wants and needs, so tune in to discover the valuable tips I offer this listener!

In today’s Session, we explore:

The state of her marriage
The trauma we carry into our relationships
Reestablishing independence as adults
How to integrate the wants and needs of our inner child into our lives
Why a somatic therapist can help
Releasing generational trauma
How our souls choose our family of origin
Tips to cultivate connection and access our gifts

We have to work through our fear and resistance to move toward love and intimacy. Check out my website for more information on how you can begin this journey!

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Why Do Women Fake Their Orgasms? Jan 16, 2023

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OK, let’s be honest. How many of you have faked or known someone who regularly fakes orgasms?

If you’re in this boat, I get it. There are plenty of reasons women fake it, and I’m shedding some light on these motivators in today’s Language of Love Bite. Whether it’s a presumed act of mercy, you haven’t had an orgasm before, or you’re unsure how to replicate the orgasm you experience on your own, I want to help you reach a point where you can be honest with your partner.

In this Bite, I’m explaining:

The mercy fake
The stages of an orgasm
How to tackle shame as the secret orgasm killer
Why some women don’t advocate for their pleasure
Ideal ingredients for sexual pleasure
How best to tackle it with your partner if you’ve been faking it!

Remember that orgasms and arousal depend on several different factors. If you’re not reaching an orgasm every time you have sex, that’s completely normal! But pleasure is your birthright. Let go of those expectations and enjoy the process!

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How to Ground Yourself When The World Around You Seems Crazy with Christina Lopes Jan 11, 2023

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It can seem like the world is going a little crazy these days. Everything is in an upheaval around the world, and in our personal lives.

Christina Lopes, the author of Walking With the Masters and spiritual healer, is chatting with me during this week’s Language of Love Conversation to discuss her wild ride through a spiritual awakening. Christina shares much of the wisdom she gained in her journey including how to ground yourself during times of chaos.

During our Conversation, Christina and I dive into:

The divorce crisis and out of body experience that began her spiritual awakeningHow our tendency to keep busy negatively affects our sense of equilibrium
Christina’s Kundalini awakening (along with what the hell that means), and the rising of what she experiences as a Dynamic Feminine Force of Consciousness
The limitations of the Western medical system to explain so many of the physical experiences that come with spiritual awakening
The powerful thing that happens when you actually ask your spirit guides for help
The importance of protecting your energy and finding play

Visit Christina Lopes’ website to learn more about her journey, spiritual awakening, and healing. You can also watch her videos and read her wonderful new book Walking With the Masters!

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Raising Boys as Sensitive and Intuitive Humans with Justin Baldoni Jan 04, 2023

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If you are raising a man, identify as a man or love a man this episode will mean the world to you! I know it means the world to me as a mom of 3 boys and a wife of one man.

In today’s Language of Love Conversation, actor, director, author, and father Justin Baldoni unpacks how this question motivated him to write his recent book, Boys Will Be Human. Justin shares the insights and clarity he wishes he had been given as a young man. We connect over our experiences as parents as we struggle through trying to

help our own children become the people they’re destined to be.

In this conversation, we break down:

How social pressure and our own unconscious conditioning can act as a barrier to helping our boys grow into healthy men
Tips for teaching boys to move through feelings rather than ignore or hide them
How to tackle bullies and bystanders who squelch our boys’ creativity and self expression
The unexpected effects Porn has on developing brains and how the idea of sexual consent plays out in boys’ sex education.

Check out Justin’s podcast, Man Enough, and be sure to read his book, Boys Will Be Human, with your kiddos!

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Discovering Wholeness Through Healing with Dr. Gabor Maté Dec 28, 2022

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I’m beyond excited to welcome Dr. Gabor Maté to this Language of Love Conversation. As an author, physician, and renowned addiction expert, Gabor has spent years working to break down societal norms and traditional ideals about the connection between trauma and illness. His book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, & Healing in a Toxic Culture, explores the relationship between and influences of mind and body.

Together we get into the many ways our current physical and mental health is rooted in childhood.

In today’s Conversation, we talk about:

Ways in which our mind and body are interconnected
The unique ways stress impacts women’s physical health
Why ‘no’is crucial to physical health
How to understand the feeling of guilt and what it means
The gifts of sensitive children and why society doesn’t always recognize them
How healing is the natural movement toward wholeness
Two different kinds of pain

Check out Dr. Gabor Maté’s website for more information on his career, books, and courses available. They are chock-full of valuable information regarding addiction, ADHD, trauma, mind/body, and more.

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There's Hope in the Unknown Dec 21, 2022

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This week, I’m sitting down for a Language of Love Session with a listener that’s currently navigating a divorce and feeling like the world before her is pretty unclear. As she fights to trust her own instincts and desires, I offer her some helpful techniques to hold on to her clarity in the face of external pressure and doubt.

Her story is a good reminder that we have to honor our truth in the face of great pain, change, and divine timing. We also discuss the power of therapy and working through childhood trauma in uncovering the possibilities that are available to us after loss.

In this episode, we’re diving into:

The reasons why a marriage ends
Deal breakers in a relationship and unmet expectations
Families of origin and the shadows that follow us into adulthood
Understanding divine timing and living in the present
The importance of inner child work and assessing what our inner child wants
How to claim what you want for your life

Remember, you don’t need a reason to want what you want. You are the author of every chapter of your life, so find your peace, open your imagination, and forge your path!

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