Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

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Do Women Really Want a Good Guy? Jul 22, 2024

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Why does it seem like the nice guys finish last? Women say they want one, but they always seem to go for the bad boy in the end.

In this Language of Love Bite, I uncover the truth about why women often find themselves captivated by the so-called "jerks," leaving nice guys in the dust and overlooked in favor of these "bad boys." It's not about advocating for guys to mistreat women, but rather understanding the complexities of attraction.

I am exploring:

The complex interplay of psychological and emotional factors in relationships
Women's past trauma and its impact on relationship preferences
The discrepancy between women's stated desires and their actual attraction
Women's self-worth and self-esteem affecting their acceptance of love and kindness
Guidance for nice guys to assert their opinions, desires, and boundaries in relationships

If you're ready to elevate your love life, check out my website, the Seven Days To Better Sex Life and Quantum Sex for game-changing insights. Don't miss out on unlocking your full potential!

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Parenting a Struggling Child with Kristina Kuzmic Jul 17, 2024

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The saying goes, “A parent is only as happy as their least happy child.” While this may be a bit of a codependent edict, it’s true that when your child is struggling with anxiety, depression or in any other way it takes a deep toll on the family system. And as parents we try everything we can think of to help, but often those efforts don’t create any substantive change.

In this episode of the Language of Love, I welcome back my good friend Kristina Kuzmic, a writer, creator, and mother, to discuss her new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child. If you're a regular listener, you'll likely recall our in-depth chat in 2023 about her book 'Hold On, But Don't Hold Still,' where we explored personalized parenting and supporting our children through mental health challenges.

Today, Kristina shares her journey of parenting Luca, her son who battled depression, ADHD, and anxiety. At a certain point he became suicidal and a danger to himself and others. Kristina’s journey and the amazingly authentic way she shares it is inspiring and instructive.

We have a heart-to-heart chat about the importance of empathy and connection over trying to fix or control their struggles. She shares important and effective lessons she learned the hard way about how to best to support our kids through their toughest times.

Kristina and I deep dive into:

What it takes to parent children who are struggling
Kristina's backstory that led her to write her book
Why we should embrace empathy over control with struggling children
The ways our Children's struggles require that we address our unhealed parts
The importance of self-care for parents to better support struggling children
Redefining “good motherhood”

Check out Kristina's new book, I Can Fix This and Other Lies I Told Myself While Parenting My Struggling Child, as well as her previous bestseller, Hold On, But Don't Hold Still, for valuable insights. Follow her on LinkedIn, Website, Facebook, or Instagram for updates on her projects. And don’t forget, you can visit my website for helpful courses and resources designed for you.

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Unleashing Your Inner Strength: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse Jul 10, 2024

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Have you ever thought about what it's like to live under the same roof with someone who once promised to love and protect you, but now subjects you to a relentless storm of emotional jabs, verbal assaults, gaslighting and manipulation?

Welcome back to another Language of Love Session. Today, I'm chatting with Mia, who's on a journey of healing and self-discovery after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist. We're diving into her journey of self-discovery and navigating the challenges of sharing space with her ex while sorting out the drama of divorce.

Setting boundaries is a big part of our conversation today—so crucial for reclaiming your confidence after a rough patch. I'm reminding Mia (and you, too!) about the power of letting those pent-up emotions out. It's like clearing out your closet—you've got to make space for the new by letting go of the old!

Here is what we explore:

The emotional toll of narcissistic relationships
How to recover from codependency and reclaim your own truth (again and again)
The steps to leaving an abusive relationship
Expressing and releasing emotions in a safe and non-destructive manner
Encouragement to allow oneself to feel and release sadness without suppression
Creating a safe space for holding your own boundaries
Importance of ongoing support and guidance during the transition out of the relationship

Remember, if you're going through a tough time, swing by my website for resources and courses. Let's tackle this healing journey together and come out stronger!

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Seven Keys to Building Sexual Confidence Jul 08, 2024

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Are you ever uncertain about your sexual confidence? Whether it's feeling self-conscious with your partner or nerves about your first time, rest assured, you're not alone. No matter your level of experience, I'm here to help you feel more comfortable with your sexuality.

In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into a topic that many people shy away from discussing—sexual confidence. Strengthening your sexual confidence can greatly enhance both your mental well-being and your relationships. It might feel like opening Pandora's box, but fear not! I'll guide you through how to cultivate that crucial sexual confidence, unveiling the seven keys to mastering it. I'll reveal what it takes to bring your A-game to the bedroom, leaving your partner craving more. Get ready to feel empowered and equipped with everything you need to excel between the sheets!

Looking to spice up your sex life? Start by prioritizing open communication, experimenting with the fantasy box technique, joining my Seven Days to Better Sex program, and exploring Quantum Sex. Visit my website to learn more about how you can reignite the passion and create a deeply fulfilling sex life with your partner.

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Embracing Sacred Ceremony with Cynthia Ruiz Jul 03, 2024

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We can add so much to our existence in this modern world by tapping into the ancient traditions that have so much to teach us. When it comes to grief and loss, rituals can provide opportunities for profound healing, connection and community.

Cynthia Ruiz, a professor, bestselling author, executive coach, and leadership expert joins us in this Language of Love Conversation to explore the transformative power of sacred ceremonies and rituals in today's busy world. Her latest book, “Sacred Ceremony and Rituals for Today's World,” is a cornerstone for our discussion. Drawing from her Cherokee heritage, Cynthia illuminates the purpose and practice of sacred ceremonies, a cornerstone of human experience across cultures and time. These rituals, she explains, are not just relics of the past but vital tools for personal growth and healing in our contemporary lives.

Here is what we unravel:

Importance of self-protection rituals and protecting one's energy
Significance of rituals and ceremonies in Native American culture
The importance of incorporating sacred ceremony into everyday life
Elements involved in creating a sacred ceremony
Use of the four elements - fire, water, earth, and air - for release and cleansing
Letting go of toxic relationships and making room for positive energy

Cynthia's wisdom is readily accessible in her book “Sacred Ceremony and Rituals for Today's World,” You can also connect with her on LinkedIn, Facebook, or Website. Visit my website to explore courses designed to enhance your relationships.

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Menopause, Stress, and Sexual Desire Jun 26, 2024

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It’s time for another Language of Love Session where I get to sit down with one of my listeners and help them with their love life. I love these episodes because each time you ask your questions (and I give the answer), I know we are helping 100s of thousands of other people with the same query!

In this episode I’m helping Mary who, like way too many of us, has been living in a sexless marriage with her husband for some time. Much of her low desire is due to the daily grind and work-related stress, but was compounded by premature menopause in her thirties. If you are struggling in a sexless relationship or with low desire, listen in for important tips and tools for addressing the symptoms from a mind, body and relationship perspective.

In this episode I help Mary unravel:

Challenges in sexual relationships due to menopause and work-related stress
Effects of stress on men's sexual desire and decline of testosterone with age
Importance of understanding hormonal changes and their impact on sexual health
Practical suggestions for improving sexual communication and exploring alternative approaches to intimacy
Options for improving sexual response and desire, particularly for women
Insurance coverage for treatments such as testosterone replacement and locally delivered estrogen
Reassurance about the normalcy of reduced sexual activity in long-term relationships
The importance of maintaining a strong emotional connection in a relationship

Join us on this journey to better understanding and improving our intimate lives. Visit my website to explore courses designed to enhance your relationships.

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Losing Sammy: A Very Personal Update on My Grief Journey Jun 24, 2024

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What if the most impossible loss turns out to set you free in ways you couldn’t imagine?

What if instead of going through loss you could grow through it?

What if you become a more self-actualized, tapped-in and tuned-in empowered version of yourself, because of what you’ve been through (not in spite of it)?

What if love really lives forever and you can learn to continue a relationship with your loved ones on the other side?

What if you didn’t have to go through terrible loss alone or struggle to find the right kind of support or community who understands?

These are questions I couldn’t imagine having, much less answering over three years ago when my son Sammy was killed. Grief became my unwelcome companion, but strangely, it also became my greatest teacher. Healing from loss is messy, unpredictable, and deeply personal. Now, I'm on a mission fueled by passion—to help others like me find their own paths through grief and toward spiritual renewal. Join me as I share my story, the hard-won lessons, and how we can all navigate the stormy seas of grief with grace and resilience.

This is what we explore:

The transformative power of allowing oneself to fully experience and process pain
The interconnectedness of grief and spirituality
The importance of embodiment, nature exposure, spirit connection, tribe, creative expression, and cognitive thinking in the grief healing journey
The therapeutic value of creative expression and cognitive thinking in understanding the stages of grief
My personal journey of grief and the resources and programs I offer for individuals seeking support and guidance

For those in need of more support and guidance, check out the Good Grief course on my website along with other resources and programs aimed at assisting individuals through their grief journey. Remember, grief is not merely a destination but a transformative journey.

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Sovereign Love with Dene Logan Jun 19, 2024

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What does it take to achieve true harmony in our relationships? Regardless of your gender or sexual identity or role in your relationships, understanding the balance of masculine and feminine energies is crucial for intimacy, connection and personal power in love.

In this Language of Love conversation, I have a heart-to-heart with therapist and author, Dene Logan. Dene’s new book, “Sovereign Love,” delves into finding the perfect mix of masculine and feminine energies in our relationships. We discuss the challenges of navigating societal expectations, especially for moms juggling responsibilities and managing dynamics within their relationships.

We explore the question of how we can lean on each other in love without losing ourselves and how we can work as a team with our partners to heal what isn’t working in love. It's all about getting to know yourself, embracing what makes us different, being real with each other, and keeping that spark alive while staying true to yourself.

We unpack:

Reclaiming healthy masculine and feminine energies in love and partnership
Balancing masculine and feminine energies in work and home life
Societal norms and their impact on relationships
Challenges faced by couples, particularly in the context of motherhood
Embracing interdependence in relationships
The vulnerability and authenticity that lies within communication

Check out Dene's book, "Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within," for more insights, and tune into her podcast, “Cheaper Than Therapy” too! As always, visit my website to explore my available courses to improve your relationship.

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Hormone Therapy and the Path to Renewed Passion Jun 12, 2024

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In this episode of the Language of Love Session, I continue my conversation with Marla and Ken, a couple I've been helping to understand the hurdles they've faced and the strides they've made in enhancing their emotional and physical intimacy.

We delve into the details of their physical intimacy and sexual relationship. Ken opens up about his struggle with sexual energy and desire, which he feels is lacking, describing it as "flat." Although his testosterone levels have been normal in past tests, we get into how misleading the wide range of “normal” is, and how important it is to have results read by someone who’s really trained in anti-aging medicine and hormone therapy. I also cover the important role testosterone plays, not only for sexual desire but also for overall well-being, and we discuss various hormone replacement options.

Marla shares her perspective as well, and together we reflect on how Ken's recent retirement might be influencing his energy and motivation. I advise them to consult with a specialist in sexual medicine to address these concerns, with the hope of enhancing their relationship.

Here is what we explore:

Importance of initiating physical intimacy in the relationship
Emphasis on sensual and erotic touch to strengthen the connection
Retirement and its impact on confidence and sense of purpose
Testosterone therapy and its potential impact on sexual energy and general well-bein

Remember, the journey to rekindling intimacy is both personal and universal. Check out my website for books and courses like Quantum Sex to improve your sex life, along with many others.

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Size Matters... or Does It? Jun 10, 2024

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In this Language of Love Bite, I'm diving into a topic that seems to be on a lot of men's minds: penis size. I know it's a sensitive subject, but it's important to talk about the concerns and misconceptions that surround it.

Let's get one thing straight: the myths about what's considered "average" size are pervasive. I came across a study that really puts things into perspective—50% of men weren't happy with their size, yet a staggering 80% of women were actually content with their partner's size. This discrepancy shows that the pressure men feel is often internal and not based on the reality of their partners' satisfaction.

I want to caution you against making comparisons to what you see in pornography. Porn is not real life, and it's certainly not a benchmark for your own body. And when it comes to treatments that promise to increase size, please be wary. There are countless products and procedures out there, from penis extenders to surgery, but they come with limited benefits and significant risks.

I want to reassure you that in most cases, your size is more than adequate. What's truly important in a sexual relationship is technique and the emotional connection you share with your partner.

Remember, if you're seeking to elevate your sex life, visit my website and explore my course on quantum sex.

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