Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

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Eps 63: Dr. Joanne Foster and I Explore the Ups and Downs of Extra Curricular Activities Oct 11, 2016

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Today’s guest is Joanne Foster, an educational consultant and author of several parenting and educational books. Her work focuses on supporting and encouraging children’s well-being, intelligence, creativity, self-confidence, and productivity. As a mother of two and grandmother of three, she has over 30 years’ experience working with gifted children. She recently wrote an article about the lure of extracurricular activities. It’s a topic that every family has to face and deal with in their own way. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Why extracurricular activities should complement what they’re learning in school
Opportunities and demand
How much choice should you give your children?
The perceived pressure that parents feel regarding extracurricular activities
Too much vs. too little
Should you ever let a child QUIT an activity?
Helping a child pick and choose activities
Examples of extracurricular options that DON’T have to be stressful
Advice for parents about setting boundaries
Why kids need help in developing accountability for decisions

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

“For me, it means using my intelligence, drawing on past experiences, acquiring supports when needed, harnessing my creativity, and having faith in my ability to confront changes and challenges.”

Resources:

www.beyondintelligence.net. Being Smart about Gifted Education by Dona Matthews and Joanne Foster Beyond Intelligence by Dona Matthews and Joanne Foster Not Now, Maybe Later: Helping Kids Overcome Procrastination by Joanne Foster

And an article that Joanne was inspired to write after our interview: Too Invested in Your Child's Activities and Performance

Where to find Joanne:

Her website Facebook

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Ask Casey Episode 6: Thoughts on Potty Training Oct 07, 2016

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Eps 62: Conscious Parenting with Lori Petro Oct 04, 2016

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Welcome! My guest today is Lori Petro, an advocate for children and families. Lori is a conscious parent educator and a mom to a young daughter. Our discussion today is around raising caring and sensitive children. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Why a “conscious” parent educator?
13 Principles of Conscious Parenting (from Alfie Kohn)
Behavior and Motives: Look UNDER the surface
How we make kids be reactive
The connection with our child is THE most important thing
Children with unusual sensitivities
Three areas to understand sensitive children: relationships, stress, and skills
Explosive behavior and self-regulation
Peace and mindfulness
Noisy environments can be overwhelming
Skill building
Fixing stuff in my life
Looking for signals
What are they trying to tell me?
Be who you are right now

Resources:

www.teachthroughlove.com TEACH through Love Facebook Page The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary

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Eps 61: Amy McCready Helps us Teach our Kids Money Sense Sep 27, 2016

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Welcome to an amazing show with Amy McCready, back again for another conversation! Amy is the founder of Positive Parenting Solutions, which provides online training for parents of toddlers to teens. She was with us in Episode 10 when we discussed the Me, Me, Me Epidemic. Amy is the mother of two college-aged kids and is the author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time and The Me, Me, Me Epidemic. We’re talking about money, and how to encourage and empower kids in their sense of money. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

Most of us don’t have much training in money management!
Four systems of money management and the problems with each:
Money as needed
Money as reward
Money as payment
No strings attached allowance
The benefits to the “no strings attached” allowance
Suggestions for allowances and kids’ finances
Realistic budgeting for kids’ expenditures
Tools to use to get kids to contribute around the house
The difference in a chore and a contribution
“When-Then” statements
Family meetings: brainstorming solutions
Loans and credit scores---for kids!

Resources:

www.positiveparentingsolutions.com

Find Amy on Facebook, too!

If I Have to Tell You One More Time by Amy McCready

The Me, Me, Me Epidemic by Amy McCready

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SEPTEMBER WORLD CHANGER: Grant Gibbs Shares About Hippo Roller Water Project Sep 22, 2016

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What an honor to get to share the conversation I had with Grant Gibbs, the executive director of The Hippo Roller Water Project.

From the website:

"Designed in Africa for tough rural conditions, the durable Hippo Roller makes it extremely easy to collect up to 5x more water than a single bucket, by simply rolling it along the ground."

Listen to the conversation, click the links below and find out how YOU can be a supporter of this important work.

Where to find Hippo Roller:

www.hipporoller.org l Facebook l Twitter

Join the cause!

Joyful Courage is joining the Hippo Roller team in their effort towards bringing 200 Hippo Rollers to Haiti.

You can help too!! Head over to www.hipporoller.org/haiti

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Eps 60: Sandy Blackard Helps With the WHINING Sep 20, 2016

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Welcome! I’m excited to introduce you to my guest today! Sandy Blackard is an award-winning author and parenting coach. As the mother of two grown daughters, Sandy reached a frantic point in her own parenting challenges that led to the passion she has for helping parents acquire tools and tips that bring SUCCESS! She’s here to share her wisdom with us, so join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How “play therapy” set Sandy on her course
What does “Say what you see” really mean?
Listening, interacting, and retraining how you see the world
Name that strength
Acknowledgement vs. Praise
The transformation of a rule-breaker
Powerlessness vs. perceived helplessness
A child’s three basic needs: experience, connection, and power
How to negotiate power struggles
How to handle whining
Downstairs and Upstairs Brain
Modeling authenticity
Aligning the child in their greatness
What does “joyful courage” mean to you? “Courage comes when I’m facing a challenge. It’s a reminder of what’s waiting on the other side of the challenge.”

Resources:

www.languageoflistening.com

Say What You See by Sandy Blackard

Find Sandy on Facebook and Twitter

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Eps 59: Back to School With Nicole Schwarz from Imperfect Families Sep 13, 2016

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Welcome! My guest today is Nicole Schwarz, who joined me for Episode 39 about helping kids deal with negative self-talk. She is a parent coach, child and family therapist, and the founder of Imperfect Families. All of us parents are in some phase of that back-to-school transition time, so let’s hear Nicole’s thoughts on this subject!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

The nighttime routine: getting in the mindset of an earlier bedtime
Essential family routines for back-to-school
The power of shifting from “but” to “and”
Urgency is contagious
The importance of daily jobs for kids
Why kids NEED to make their own lunch
Homework: how parents can be supportive and available
How to support rather than shame
“The bad-kid cycle”
How to stick with your kids through emotional blow-ups
Why you can’t assume the problem OR the solution

Resources:

www.imperfectfamilies.com

Find Nicole on Facebook (Imperfect Families), on Pinterest (Nicole Schwarz), and on Twitter (NicoleForFamilies)

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Ask Casey Eps 5: Why Intentional Parenting? Sep 08, 2016

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This week I am going a bit rouge and spending time talking about this whole "Intentional Parenting" thing I am throwing around all over town...

I share thoughts and feedback from parents who dug deep in the #JoyfulCourage10 program and speak into the very human need for connection and meaning.

Intentional parenting is about us, friends. It is about us managing our own baggage to show up better for our kids. Listen in and let me know if you have any questions!

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Eps 58: Creating Special Time with Kelly Pfeiffer Sep 06, 2016

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Welcome! My guest for today’s show is a friend of mine and a fellow Positive Discipline parent educator. Kelly Pfeiffer lives in South Carolina and has raised four kids in a blended family situation. After a divorce, she remarried a man with two children, which blended their family with kids of ages 15, 15, 13, and 12. Those children are now young adults, and Kelly has been a parent educator for the last 16 years. Today’s topics include positive discipline parenting tools, focusing on our discussion of “special time,” a way to guarantee one-on-one time with each child to maintain the vital parent-child connection. Join us!

What you’ll hear in this episode:

How Kelly was introduced to Positive Discipline: “Why do parents not know this?”
Why having tools and a formula doesn’t guarantee an easy parenting road
Variables in blending families
The Special Time tool: how to present it to parents
A magical connection between parent and child
Kelly’s advice for Special Time:
Plan it and put it on the calendar
As much as possible, let it be child-led
Incorporate non-competitive games
Use bike rides, picnics, and other outdoor activities
Limit distractions (Put away your cell phone!)
Use bedtime routines
Take advantage of time with a younger child when an older one has an activity
Take advantage of time with an older child when a younger one needs to nap
Have an older child help with dinner preparation
How connection helps diffuse power struggles
Tools to repair and recover from hurts
Why parents need to say “I’m sorry”
Don’t give up when a teen is resistant
Ideas for saving Special Time money
What does Joyful Courage mean to you? “Being courageous, feeling the fear, and doing it anyway---with JOY!”

Resources:

www.thinkitthroughparenting.com

Find Kelly on Facebook and Twitter (@posdisparenting)

Become a Positive Discipline Parent Educator at Kelly’s 2-day workshop in Greenville, SC, in October

Email newsletter: Find out more and sign up for these parenting tools on Kelly’s website!

Positive Discipline by Jane Nelson, Ed.D.

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Eps 57: Sharon Ballantine Talks Teens and Their Need to Pull Away Aug 30, 2016

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Today’s guest is Sharon Ballantine! With 3 children to parent, she turned to books for help with parenting, but she never had the time to read and process the information in the books. So, with no other options available to her, she decided to rely on her own intuition and her own Internal Guidance System for parenting. She began using this technique and the law of attraction to manifest exactly what she wanted as a parent. In this episode, Sharon shares exactly how she made it all happen! Join us!

Sharon Ballantine is a Parenting and Life Coach and Founder of the Ballantine Parenting Institute. Her book, The Art of Blissful Parenting, guides parents with practical as well as spiritual advice in raising their children. It also guides parents on how to get into alignment, discover and use their own IGS before they can teach their children.

In this episode Sharon also discusses:

How to find answers within yourself
You have an internal guidance system that begins with your feelings
Why leaving the room can help you get “in alignment” to parent
Physical movement can be a tool to help bring you into a centered place of alignment
Changing the subject that is causing stress and bad energy can cause a shift in energy
The teenage years are the years of “personal discovery”
Parents spend the teen years in fear mode and resort to using control
Whoever a teenager is today is not their final destination. Be patient; they will change.
Why we want to avoid making our children feel bad at all costs
Staying centered will give you the coping skills to deal with any kind of crazy you have to deal with
“This too shall pass” - it is true especially for teens
Ways to deal with teen behavior that is harmful
Focusing on the future and consequences of actions can allow a teen to take responsibility and look at the big picture
How to support your child’s development of their Internal Guidance System
Ways her failures as a parent contributed to finding her Internal Guidance System
What joyful courage means to her and how it contributes to bliss