Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

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Eps 422: Making Sense of our Teens Behavior Sep 28, 2023

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Join me for this solo episode where I reflect on how our teens behavior is the response to how they are experiencing belonging and significance, as well as the ways OUR reaction to their brain development matters.

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Eps 421: Best practices in the college application process with Janae Young Sep 25, 2023

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My guest this week is Janae Young, and I’m so excited that she’s here to share her wisdom as a college admissions coach with us.

Janae shares why she’s so passionate about college admissions, and we talk about what the admissions process looks like now, including what the common application system is. Janae shares what’s challenging about college application essays for adolescents, tips to help, and her two archetype essay writers. I ask Janae what best practices are for parents who are helping their kids through the college application process, and she shares where we can support and when we need to back off. We hit on missed deadlines & natural consequences and how to best list awards & activities. I ask Janae what kids can be doing in 9th, 10th, and 11th grade to help prepare for college applications, and we briefly touch on ACTs and SATs.

Takeaways from the show

What’s the college application process look like now?
Common application system
College application essays
“Perfectionist Polly” and “Rushed Ryan”
How can parents best support their teen during this process?
Week-by-Week college application calendar
College applications are their job, not yours
Missed deadlines & learning through mistakes
What teens can do in 9th, 10th, and 11th grades to help the college admissions process
Best time to take SATs

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Eps 420: Encouragement, Motivation and our Teens Armor Sep 21, 2023

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Join me today as I explore what motivates our teens, parenting that gets in the way, and how to dismantle the armor they create over time. It's a brand new solos show!

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Eps 419: Turning Teens “Failures” into Character-Building Moments with Michelle Icard Sep 18, 2023

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I’m so excited that Michelle Icard is back today to chat about her newest book: 8 Setbacks That Can Make a Child a Success.

Michelle shares with me how parents can best support their adolescents through setbacks and why we can’t swoop in to fix everything for them. She explains her three steps to take when dealing with a problem: contain, resolve, & evolve, and we touch on where consequences show up. Kids are always going to make more mistakes, and it’s critical that we allow children to learn from those mistakes. Michelle and I tease apart how much credit we take for our kids’ behavior - good and bad, and we talk about how hard it can be to balance staying “fiercely committed & lovingly detached” to our teens. Michelle has an awesome analogy about how toughening up our teens & encouraging grit is like a greenhouse keeper hardening their plants. We agree that we don’t need to create a tough environment for our kids though - that already exists, and we end sharing a few successes & outcomes that can follow the hard times.

Takeaways from the show

Setbacks and failures make us smarter and better
How to best support your adolescent through setbacks
Mistakes are opportunities to learn
3 steps to take while dealing with failure
Kids & teens must learn through their own experiences
Kids are going to continue to make mistakes - that doesn’t mean they aren’t learning
Your kids aren’t part of your brand
“Fiercely committed, lovingly detached”
Children shouldn’t be burdened by our emotions
How can teens toughen up & build resiliency

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Eps 418: Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter Nine Sep 14, 2023

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Join me in chapter NINE of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out.

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Eps 417: Back-to-school conscious parenting with Sapna Rad Sep 11, 2023

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My guest today is Sapna Rad, and we’re getting into back-to-school season with teens.

First, Sapna shares about herself & what kicked off her path to conscious parenting. We talk about the shift from our small kiddos wanting to be attached to us 24/7 to the teen years when they start individuating and lean away. Sapna helps me define what conscious parenting is and we discuss how that complements Positive Discipline.

I ask Sapna what parents need to remember as kids head back to the classroom, then I bring up teens who don’t want to talk & share with their parents and ask what behaviors might manifest when teens are feeling anxious. Sapna shares what “getting hooked” looks like and how we can start noticing our triggers. We get into how routines look different with teens and how getting routines dialed in can help reduce stress all around. We wrap talking about how parents can practice mindfulness.

Takeaways from the show

Anxiety in children
Individuation happens in all teens
What is conscious parenting? How does that fit with Positive Discipline?
What to remember as kids head back to school
When your teen doesn’t want to talk to you
Behaviors that manifest when teens are feeling anxious
When to use silence as a tool with adolescents
Tools to notice your triggers
Redefining what routines look like for teens
Clues you might be missing a routine
Practicing mindfulness

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Eps 416: Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter Eight Sep 07, 2023

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Join me in chapter eight of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out.

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Eps 415: Navigating sibling dynamics with Erica Whitfield Sep 04, 2023

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My guest today is Erica Whitfield.

I don’t have many episodes about sibling dynamics, so I’m very excited to have Erica here to dig into scapegoated siblings. Erica explains what exactly a scapegoated sibling is and why some kiddos may feel disconnected from their parents. We get into other roles that siblings may fall into and how we, as parents, can make sure we’re there to hold & support all of our kids. Erica talks about how past trauma can affect our parentings and how we can recognize if we’re starting to scapegoat. I ask Erica what to do if we notice that we’re in that dynamic, and we touch on how neurodivergence, birth order, & your own relationships and history can affect these roles. Erica explains what to do to start repair - asking for feedback, negotiating, and finding balance, & justice, and we explore a few different ways to ask for that feedback.

Takeaways from the show

What is a scapegoated sibling?
Nurturing communication between siblings
Resentment between siblings
Other roles that kids can fall into
How to communicate to your child that you can handle their challenges & journey
Signs you may be scapegoating one child
How to correct when you see yourself in this dynamic
Neurodivergence, birth order, & your own relationships playing into these roles
“Dynamics play out until they get healed”
Inviting & preparing for feedback from your teens about their experience

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Eps 414: Joyful Courage Book Club - Chapter Seven Aug 31, 2023

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Join me in chapter seven of Joyful Courage: Calming the drama and taking control of your parenting journey, the book I published back in 2019. I will be discussing what holds up and things I’ve learned during the wild years since it came out.

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Eps 413: Nonviolent communication with Dr. Matthew Lederman Aug 28, 2023

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My guest today is Dr. Matthew Lederman, and he’s here today to talk about connection and nonviolent communication.

Dr. Lederman explains what nonviolent communication really means and what being resourced looks like. We talk about how so much plays into communication, including your intention & tone. He shares common unmet needs in children: autonomy, wanting to be heard, and knowing that their needs matter. Dr. Lederman shares his tip for staying connected with his kids when he’s triggered and how to involve kiddos in problem solving. We get into how to rebuild trust, how to find empathy, welcoming feedback, identifying underlying needs, and meeting our own needs for health & safety. We wrap up with some baby steps that you can bring into practice today.

Takeaways from the show

What is nonviolent communication?
Being resourced
Communicating with adolescents
Common unmet needs in children
Staying connected when you’re triggered
Rebuilding trust
Welcoming feedback from our kids
Why teens pull away from their parents
Meeting our own needs for health & safety

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