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219. Q+A: "What Should I Do If My Boyfriend Doesn't Compliment Me?" Jun 18, 2025

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In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.

The Question: I’ve been with my partner for almost three years and I love everything about our relationship… except for the fact that he never compliments me. In the years we have dated he has never once told me I look pretty, hot, beautiful, nothing. I tell him often that I like his outfit, hair, shoes, that he looks hot, etc. but he never reciprocates. He makes me feel very loved in other ways, but this in particular is slowly making me very insecure about myself. How do I balance my own self-esteem with wanting to feel approval and desire from my partner?

What We Cover:

Your needs are important and valid. We unpack why your emotional and physical needs in a relationship matter just as much as your partner’s (and how to stop minimizing them).
Real talk on having a brutally honest conversation with your partner. What it looks like to drop the “cool girl” act and actually say the hard things you’ve been holding in.
How to advocate for your needs in and out of the bedroom. Practical scripts and strategies to help you speak up, without feeling like you're asking for "too much".
Communication strategies that actually work. We break down simple, clear ways to communicate your needs without spiraling into conflict or shutdown.
How to build up your self-esteem and sexual confidence. From the stories you tell yourself to the way you show up in your body, we walk through the internal shifts that make a real difference.
Balancing self-worth with partner validation. We explore how to recognize when you're outsourcing your self-worth to your relationship and how to

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218. Mini Gameplans for Big Feelings: Exactly What to Do When You're Feeling Sad, Angry, Anxious—or Even Happy Jun 11, 2025

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Ever get hit with a wave of anxiety, sadness, or anger and think, “Cool, but what do I do with this?” This episode is your answer. We’re joined by somatic coach and nervous system expert Béa Victoria Albina, NP, MPH to talk about exactly what to do when big feelings show up (without spiraling, shutting down, or pretending you're fine). We’re talking mini, step-by-step action plans for managing anger, sadness, and anxiety in the moment and how to stay fully present when you’re actually feeling good (because joy can feel scary too). You’ll walk away with grounded, science-backed tools to help you regulate your nervous system and feel fully capable of feeling your damn feels.

What to do in the moment when you feel anxious, sad, or angry. Instead of spiraling or shutting down, try these quick, specific tools Béa shares to move through emotions with intention and grace.
How to regulate your nervous system when you're overwhelmed. Learn small, science-backed shifts to lean in and ground yourself when emotions hit hard.
The connection between the nervous system and your emotions. Béa explains why your body reacts the way it does and how understanding your nervous system can change your relationship with feelings.
Why big joy can feel just as overwhelming as big sadness. And what to do so you don’t shut down when things are actually good.
How to stop gaslighting yourself when you're having a hard day. We unpack the internalized beliefs that tell us to “suck it up” and offer alternatives that actually support healing.
The surprisingly powerful tool of naming what you feel. (Yes, it actually works and here’s how to do it.)
How to stop managing emotions with productivity. We explore why many of us cope by “doing more” and how to shift into actually feeling more without falling apart.
Scripts for saying what you need without the guilt. Whether you’re with a partner, a therapist, or just trying to validate yourself, here’s how to express what you need clearly and compassionately.

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217. Romanticizing Your Single Era: How to Make It Your Best One Yet Jun 04, 2025

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Who decided being single has to be a pit stop on the way to something better? In this episode, we’re showing you how to make your single era the main event. Think solo date nights, orgasms (duh), reframing everything you thought you knew about singlehood, and building a life so good it turns heads. Being single isn’t a gap, it’s the glow-up.

What We Cover in This Episode:

Why singlehood isn’t a “pause” in your life, it’s the glow-up. We reframe being single as an expansive, intentional chapter, not something you’re just surviving until your next relationship.
How to build a life that turns you on. From friends to creativity to pleasure, we dive into what it means to design a life that lights you up from the inside out.
The real reason timelines make you feel behind (and how to break free). We unpack the fear-based messaging around age, marriage, and milestones and how to stop letting them run your love life.
How to date yourself with the same energy you’d give a partner. We walk through what it actually looks like to show up for yourself emotionally, romantically, and sexually.
Tips for creating the perfect solo date night (that ends with pleasure, not loneliness). We share our go-to structure for solo dates—including a downloadable guide you can find HERE—to help you feel connected, sexy, and satisfied.
Why redefining intimacy is key to thriving in your single era. We explore how to create intimacy through friendships, rituals, and self-connection no partner required.
How to stop confusing being alone with being unworthy. We break down the loneliness lie and how to reclaim your worth, confidence, and joy while solo.

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216. How to Talk About Sex With Anyone: Hookups, Long-Term Relationships & Everything In Between May 28, 2025

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In this episode, we’re joined by Nicole Thompson, a sex and relationship psychotherapist and host of the Modern Anarchy Podcast. Nicole brings a trauma-informed, radically compassionate lens to the way we talk about sex, relationships, and desire. Together, we explore how shame holds us back from pleasure and how we can start speaking up, owning what we want, and creating the kinds of connections that feel liberating and real.

What we cover in this episode:

How to talk about sex, whether you're in a long-term relationship or a casual hookup. Practical tools for naming your needs without shame, fear, or performance.
Why community is key to sexual confidence. How surrounding yourself with sex-positive people helps normalize your desires.
The silent damage of purity culture. How early messages about sex create shame and how to unlearn them.
How to overcome shame after a hookup. Reframing “sluttiness” as something powerful, not something to regret.
Why self-pleasure is step one to communication. What Nicole recommends for anyone struggling to talk about what they want.
To feel big pleasure, you have to feel big feelings. Why crying and cumming might be more connected than you think.
How to find the words for what you want. Tips for discovering and articulating your desires, even if you’ve never done it before.

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Listen to the Modern Anarchy Podcast HERE!
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215. Q+A: "Why Does It Take Me So Long To Get Turned On?" May 21, 2025

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In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.

The Question: "I'm in a really loving and supportive relationship and I want to have sex. Like, I mentally want it—I’m attracted to my partner, I crave intimacy, I feel emotionally connected… but it still takes me a long time to feel fully turned on physically. I don’t just get wet easily, and sometimes it feels like I’m waiting for my body to catch up. It makes me feel kind of broken or like I’m doing something wrong. Is this normal? Why is it so hard to just “flip the switch,” even when I want to be there? And how can I navigate this with my partner in a way that doesn’t make things awkward or overly clinical?"

We're covering:

The difference between spontaneous vs responsive desire
How to stop "shoulding" on yourself when it comes to sex
Tips for talking to your partner about your needs (BONUS: how to talk to a casual hookup about your needs)
Specific strategies you can use to get in the mood (solo or with your partner)

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214. What No One Tells You About Sex After Kids: How To Rebuild Intimacy, Reclaim Your Sexual Confidence & Be The Same Slut You Were Before May 14, 2025

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We sat down with Susanna Brisk, Sexual Intuitive®️ and certified sex educator who's been helping individuals and couples for nearly a decade reignite their sexual spark. We're diving deep into what really happens to sex and intimacy after having kids, exploring how parenthood can reshape desire and sharing practical tools to reclaim your slutty self. We cover:

How to reignite sexual connection after having kids – tips for rebuilding desire and intimacy at any stage of parenting
Common myths about sex after kids – and why losing your libido doesn’t mean your sex life is over
Practical ways to communicate about sex with your partner post-baby – even when you're tired or touched out
Understanding mismatched sex drives in long-term relationships – and how to meet in the middle
Creating emotional and physical space for intimacy with kids at home – yes, it’s possible (and v necessary)
How to explore your erotic blueprint as a parent – and why rediscovering pleasure can be empowering
Real strategies for prioritizing intimacy without guilt – even with a toddler banging on the door
Why sexual identity shifts after parenthood—and how to embrace that change
Tools for reconnecting with your body and desire – especially after childbirth or parenting burnout
Why talking about sex openly can strengthen your relationship post-kids

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213. Sex, Intimacy & Relationships While Pregnant + Postpartum May 07, 2025

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This week we're diving into all things intimacy while pregnant and postpartum. Cass is answering listener questions about her experience navigating sex and relationships as a new mom. We cover:

WTF a mucus plug is
How Cass navigated body changes while pregnant and postpartum and a PSA on stretch marks
Normalizing postpartum vaginas
How Cass navigated sex and intimacy while pregnant and postpartum
A pep talk for when postpartum doesn't go the way you hoped it would
What advice Cass would give to partners of pregnant and postpartum people
What it's like dealing with mom shame

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212. Q +A: "Does Penis Size REALLY Matter?" Apr 30, 2025

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In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a bunch of research.

The Question: "I think my penis might be too big for comfortable penetrative sex with my girlfriend. We’ve had open conversations about it and she’s super reassuring, but I still end up feeling guilty, like my body is somehow making things harder (pun unintended, but also… not wrong). What is actually considered a “normal” penis size? Do women even care about size as much as we’re led to believe? And most importantly—how do we make penetrative sex work for both of us, or what are some other ways we can stay intimate without feeling like we’re missing out?"

We're covering:

What the research says about "normal" penis size and what partners are looking for
Alternatives to PIV sex that you can try
Tips for making PIV sex more comfortable (toy, tools, and positions)
Are some penises too big for condoms?
How to find YOUR condom size
BONUS: tips for if you feel like your penis is too "small" for penetrative sex

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211. When the Sex Fizzles: Rekindling Passion in Long-Term Relationships Apr 23, 2025

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You know when you're in a long term relationship and the sex just gets a little... meh? Maybe it's feeling routine, lacking spice, or just isn't hitting how it used to. That's why we're chatting up Dr. Diane Mueller, a board-certified sexologist with a game plan to get your sex life back on track. We cover:

The science behind why passion ebbs and flows over the course of a long term relationship
What a truly PASSIONATE relationship can look like
Tips for flirting with your partner
Action steps for rekindling the passion in your relationship
The importance of NOVELTY and how to build it into your sex life
Why you need to be having bougie sex
How create a passionate relationship with YOURSELF as a single person

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210. What Is a Normal Libido? Understanding Sex Drive Differences In Relationships Apr 16, 2025

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We're joined once again by the LOVELY Susan Morgan Taylor, MA a somatic sex therapist and relationship coach, but this time we're diving headfirst into LIBIDO. We cover:

What a normal libido looks like & how we define low vs. high libido
Common myths and misconceptions about having a low libido
How to navigate sex drive differences within a relationship
The importance of the 3 N's: Noticing, Naming & Negotiating
Sex acts for when you're low on energy
How to bring this conversation to your partner

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